You are the Universe! - E25: Gifting and Receiving the Doorway to Abundance

Episode Date: October 1, 2024

Gifting and Receiving the Doorway to Abundance Dare to step into a new way of being with your relationship with giving and receiving #AccessConsciousness resource the book - Prosperity Consciousness www.VictoriaHaffer.com

Welcome to the You or the Universe podcast. I'm your host, Victoria Hafer, intuitive healer and holistic life and body coach, with over 20 years of facilitating massive transformation for people and animals. And I'm so flippin glad you're here. Today's episode, we will talk about gifting and receiving. So in this episode, we will cover what is gifting, the difference between giving and taking versus gifting. and receiving, how to let go of the give-and-take mentality, as well as tools to use to shift you into a new way of being. Did you know that gifting is the secret to experiencing endless abundance throughout the universe? Most people have been programmed to believe that there has to be an exchange for everything that is given or taken. They give with the expectation of receiving something in return.

turn. I'll give you this and then you'll give me that. Is the give and take program the vast majority of people engage in in this programming daily? Heck, I sure did before I knew better. Here are a few questions to ask yourself to see if you are running the give and take program. Do you believe that if you give enough, then the other person will give back to you? Do you ever give people something in order to get what you want? Do you have a belief system that says, I give you this, so therefore you have to give me that? Do you believe if I give, then I will get? Do you often keep score in your relationships?

I know I have in the past. So just notice what shows up when you hear some of these questions, without judgment, of course. is there a charge showing up for you? So the give-intake mindset versus gifting and receiving. The give-and-take mindset is very different from gifting and receiving. The core ingredient of gifting is that no exchange occurs. When we are gifting, we don't have any expectations that the other person will give us anything in return. We gift and in the process we receive simultaneously.

When we do this, we open up to receiving from everything in the universe, not just the person we have gifted to. When we take part in the give and take, it creates obligation, expectation, projection, judgment, separation. All at the same time. some people can't receive. Maybe that someone is you. I know for myself that, you know, I had a hard time almost my whole entire life because, you know, I had some, you know, a childhood. And some of you may know this that, you know, I didn't, I wasn't always fully supported in my life. And so I didn't really trust people as I started to move into my, you know, teenage years and as into, to adult.

And so that I always kind of had that, I created that belief system that, you know, people always want something from me. I don't know. Maybe you resonate with that. So here are some things to consider around this paradigm. When people give to you or give to you, what is the catch here? What do they want from me? Are these some of the questions? Do you have a belief system that says, I give you this, therefore you have to give me that?

When you get a compliment, do you feel you have to give one in return? That's a good one, right? So I invite you to delete, destroy, and uncreate the mindset that there has to be an exchange. We have to be willing to experience the simultaneously of gifting and receiving. We also have to let go of the idea of the exchange of energies and realize that all energy is expansive. So here are a few things to practice in creating space of gifting and receiving with ease. You could practice receiving compliments with gratitude, right? So how do you respond when someone gives you a conscious compliment about your hair,

about something you've created, about your website, anything, while not returning a compliment at the same time? So again, practicing, receiving compliments and just say thank you. you and not have that feeling and you know initially it might seem a little weird or strange and that's why we call it a practice notice when you were not willing to receive something due to a fear of obligation note whether the other person is doing give and take with you without judgment do things for the pleasure of doing them not expecting anything in return, hold the door for someone, and be content, even if they don't say thank you.

So ultimately, we're looking to gift without expectation. Choosing to live from the point of view that the universe is endlessly abundant. So hopefully you have some food for thought for today. And really, you know, again, this might be new language for you. and being in the space of the difference between the gifting and the giving, right, and then the receiving aspect. So again, just, you know, taking some time to perhaps ponder how often you have engaged in this give and take mentality versus the gifting.

And how often maybe when you do give that even, and often, and often, and often, it's subconscious, right? Subconsciously, there is that expectation, right? Like holding the door open for someone. And then when you do that, and if they don't say thank you, do you get irritated? So that would be a big, you know, giveaway that, yeah, it's, you probably were holding the door because you were expecting something in return. So again, I want you to notice that. Because even love, we say, oh, we do these things because we love the person, you know, Maybe it's your child, your partner, your parents. But how often is there really that underlying, you know, I'll give you this if you give me that.

Consciously or unconsciously. So some things to ponder. And hopefully you found this podcast insightful. And if you haven't already, I invite you to follow me on. the podcast here and maybe share it with a friend. So remember to be and see the magic in everyday life.