You are the Universe! - E41: How the Frequency of Shame Hijacks Money, Love, the Body & Sovereign Divinity

Episode Date: January 7, 2026

Shame Is Not YoursHow the Frequency of Shame Hijacks Money, Love, the Body & Sovereign DivinityShame is one of the most invisible yet powerful frequencies shaping our lives—quietly influencing our money, relationships, body image, self-worth, and connection to Source.In this deeply embodied episode, Victoria explores shame not as a personal flaw, but as a learned survival frequency—especially common for Cosmic Empaths and Starseeds who grew up sensitive, intuitive, and emotionally attuned in dysfunctional environments. You’ll hear how shame disguises itself as humility, self-sabotage, addiction, over-giving, and the constant search for validation outside the self.Victoria also shares her own lived experience with eating disorders, compulsive spending, and love addiction, revealing how shame disconnects us from our bodies, collapses our receiving channels, and keeps us believing the greatest lie of all—that we are separate from Source, Sophia, and Christ Consciousness.This episode includes:What shame really is (and why it’s not yours)How shame controls money, love, visibility, and self-expressionWhy empathic and Starseed souls are especially affectedThe connection between shame, addiction, and self-abandonmentWhich chakras are impacted by shameHow shame blocks sovereign embodiment and divine receivingA powerful guided shame-release embodiment activation to shift into Acceptance and Self-CelebrationThis is not about fixing yourself.It’s about remembering who you are beneath the frequency you were taught to carry.If you’ve ever felt unlovable, unseen, or like you don’t belong in your body or in this world—this episode is a homecoming.You were never broken.Shame was never yours.Check out my Sacred Offerings www.VictoriaHaffer.com

Satnam, Cosmic Empath, and welcome to you or the Universe podcast. I'm Victoria Hafer, a galactic soul guide, light code activator, and holistic alchemist for both humans and animals. My mission is to awaken the harmonic remembrance within you, the part of yourself that knows you are more than your body, more than your mind, and deeply connected to the web of life, the cosmos, and all sentient beings. Here we explore the unseen energies, the wisdom of the stars, and the sacred connection between humans, animals, and the universe itself. Together, we unlock frequencies that help you remember your divine light, your unique gifts, and your soul's divine purpose. So if you're ready to remember who you truly are, open your

heart and your body and your field, let's journey into the universe together. Today's topic is healing the shame that bind you, how the frequency of shame hijacks money, love, the body, and sovereign divinity. There is a frequency that controls more lives than fear. It doesn't shout. It doesn't announce itself. It doesn't even feel dramatic. It lives quietly beneath anxiety, beneath your overthinking, beneath perfectionism, and self-doubt. That frequency is Drum roll, please. Shame. Not guilt. Not accountability, but shame. Shame is the belief that something is wrong with who you are, not what you did. And if you are indeed a cosmic empath, if you are a star seed soul, if you've always felt different, sensitive, perceptive, or too much, then shame

wasn't just something you experienced. It became something you learned in order to survive. Today we're going to talk about what shame actually is, energetically, where it comes from, especially for Starseeds, how it controls money, relationships in the body, how it disguises itself as addiction and self-sabotage, and so much more. Because shame is not your truth. It is a frequency you are taught to carry often, you know, from our parents, from our, you can sit in the soul, in the genes, in your DNA inherited for many lifetimes. Shame is a low coherence identity frequency that actually collapses the nervous system. Fear says something bad might happen. Shame says, I am bad.

energetically shame communicates it's not safe to be seen to take up space to need anything or anyone it's not safe to feel it pulls energy out of the body pulls energy out of pleasure out of presence out of receiving and this is so important shame is not an emotion it is a state of self abandonment let me say that again shame is not an emotion it is a state of self abandonment once shame is installed into the hard drive of your being it quietly begins running your choices without your conscious consent shame hides in behaviors we normalize shame sounds like this i don't want to bother anyone i don't want to make waves I don't want to ruffle any feathers.

I'll just handle it myself. Will other people need it more than I do? Who am I to take up that much space? Shame looks like over explaining yourself, apologizing for everything. Staying silent when something doesn't feel right, delaying your work, your voice, your visibility, minimizing your pain because others had it worse,

not charging enough for your soul. services. Shame can feel like tightness in the chest when you're being seen, dropping energy in the belly when you receive, wanting to disappear after being visible, guilt or resting or even enjoying yourself. And one of shame's favorite disguises, it masquerades as humility, spiritual bypassing. and self-awareness. But the truth is, true humility doesn't make you smaller.

True spirituality does not disconnect you from your body and being joyful. True awareness doesn't punish you for being human. Shame almost never starts with you. For many cosmic empaths and starseeds, it began early because you were emotionally parentified. You were more intuitive than your caregivers.

More intelligent often. You absorbed others' emotions and were blamed for them. Love was conditional for you. Your sensitivity was labeled as too much. Anybody resonating with any of this? Yeah.

You learn to adapt instead of rebel. To shrink instead of disrupt. To disappear. in order to stay connected. And Starseed souls often carry an added layer. You came in open, unarmored, and highly attuned. That openness made you more vulnerable to internalizing dysfunction. Ah, big breath in, big breath out.

So shame became a survival strategy, the shame game. Not because you were weak, but because you were wired for connection. connection. I want to be brutally honest here because this isn't theory for me. Shame has been one of the most influential frequencies in my life. It's played a massive role in my history with addiction, including an eating disorder, compulsive spending, love and sex, and most importantly and consistently consistently constantly looking outside of myself for validation and acceptance the eating disorder was never about food it was about control about numbing about trying to disappear from me myself my own body shame told me that i was wrong that my body was a problem

if only I could fix myself then I would be lovable so I tried to manage my worth through my body spending spending work the same way you know that that next ding the shopping spending all the time in the malls this is when I was a lot younger overspending wasn't about money it was about chasing relief trying to feel something

proving I was worthy of beautiful things while simultaneously punishing myself for wanting them. And the love and sex addiction? That was shame wearing a romantic mask. I outsource my worth to relationships to men. I search for safety and belonging in another person because shame had convinced me it didn't live inside of me. I wasn't asking, do I love myself here?

I was asking, do I have the right to take up space? that is what shame does it keeps you seeking permission to exist shame always seeks the anesthesia the the numbing addiction isn't about pleasure it's about relief from disconnection shame fuels emotional eating overspending substances scrolling workaholism spiritual bypassing chronic self-improvement yeah let's pause there that just that one more course that one more book that I'm going to read that one more training you know to fix myself because shame cannot be present with itself and here's the paradox shame hides behind the self-sabotage every time you get close to the success, the winning, the intimacy, the visibility, your sole mission, shame

pulls the emergency break. Not because you don't want it, not because you're nervous, but because your nervous system learned that being seen was unsafe. And this can, you know, relate to the witch wound, the persecution wound, which I've done a podcast on that as well, if you want to check that out. The core lie beneath shame is this. Are you listening? It's you are separate from source. You are separate from Sophia Christ's consciousness, from the divine intelligence, from love itself. This lie keeps humanity feeling unlovable, unsupported, undeserving, super small and ultimately disconnected from self from the divine consciousness

from the you know all that is when you believe you are separate from source you believe you must earn your right to be here shame the frequency of shame feeds on this illusion but sophia christ consciousness was never meant bypass the body it was never meant to float above the human you know us being spiritual beings in a human body right the the meat sack as they say you are the divine shame disconnects you from source by disconnecting you from embodiment

shame primarily distorts you know the majority of the chakras but let's just say for root the root chakra safety money belonging your sacral chakra pleasure creativity sexuality receiving channels your solar plexes self-trust boundaries your authority your sovereignty throat chakra truth, your voice, your creative expression. Shame collapses energy inward and downward. So also, if you might have a history of feeling suppressed or depression, right, just that heavy energy or that feeling, this is connected to this as well. Healing, true healing is about restoring flow, not fixing yourself.

So here are a few things. I mean, of course, this is, you know, the work that I do with my clients, with my students. But here are some things to ponder an invitation for you to play with if you're feeling like you're resonating with this information. Number one, name shame without judgment. this is shame not truth naming it interrupts the frequency of it so again be awareness become the compassionate witness

without judgment number two shift the question from what is wrong with me to what happened to me right so being in the awareness remember awareness is the first step but awareness doesn't equal transfer information. So what are you going to do with that? What happened to me? And then sit with it.

Sit with your inner child, your inner teen, you know, whatever aspects of you need, need your support, love and love, love, love, unconditional love. Number three, bring shame into the body gently. Hand on heart and belly or belly. Slow breath. death, no story, presence, dissolves shame. Be with it. Have tea with it. It's not this terrible thing to kill. Remember what you resist, persist.

What if you were to just take some time with this part of you, shed some light on it and be with it number four practice receiving that's a whole other podcast opening up your receiving channels but this is a huge part of it how do you accept compliments if someone says something to you nice can you just say thank you can you receive it allow pour it ask for help receive pleasure without feeling like you have to earn it right someone gives you something do you feel like you have to give something back to them receiving retrains your sovereignty number five speak what was never safe to say this is a game changer I have my all my clients do this out loud in private with honesty your voice breaks shame whether you need to speak it

into a recorder or write a letter that never gets sent gets burned in ritual i invite you to do it number six reclaim your right to take up space say daily i am allowed to exist i am allowed to take up space. My body is not an obstacle to divinity. I do not need permission to be here. Let resistance arise. That is shame loosening. Shame told us we were separate, that love lived somewhere outside of us, that we had to earn our place in the world. But that, my darling, was never true. You are not disconnected from source. You are not unworthy of space.

You are not broken for needing love. You are love, remembering itself through the body. And the moment you stop outsourcing your worth, the moment you return home to yourself, shame begins to design. not because you fixed yourself, but because you finally stopped abandoning yourself. You belong here in your body, in your life, in your work, in your truth. Let that land.

And remember, every step you take in awareness, every moment you move with intention, and every time you honor your connection with yourself, your animal companions and our beloved Gaia, you are activating your harmonic remembrance, remembering that you are a radiant being of the universe. If this episode resonated with you, I invite you to subscribe if you haven't already, leave a review and share this podcast with someone

who you know needs to hear this. this message today. And if you'd like to dive deeper, explore my sacred offerings on victoriahafford.com. Until next time, cosmic star seed, remember you are the universe.