You'll Hear It: Full Album Deep Dives with Jazz Musicians - 7 Reasons Your Spouse Hates Jazz - #31

Episode Date: October 8, 2018

Today Peter and Adam walk a tightrope in a list of 7 reasons your spouse hates jazz. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Hey Peter. What's your wife think about jazz? She loves jazz. Does she really? She loves jazz. She must be the only one. I'm Adamannis. And I'm Peter Martin. And you're listening to the You'll Hear at podcast. Daily Jazz advice. Coming at you. Coming at you with, this is a topic that might get some people in trouble, namely Mr. Peter Martin, Mr. Adamannis. Right. Well, before we even get to it, this will be a good stall tactic. So at least we're still going to get in trouble. We have a little bit of time. What did you say your name was?

Adam Manus? Okay, because I don't know if you noticed we had a little comment the other day. Did you see that? I'm sorry, Adam Manis. One of our listeners, well, can we call them a listener? A real listener? Well, I don't know. But what did they think you were saying? Adam Ennis.

Like, E-N-N-I-S. Now, hold now. In this listener's defense, the double M sound. Yeah. Ending M on Adam and the beginning M-on-M-on-M-N-S is weird. I've struggled with it my whole life, and it's my name. It is your name. I need to bring this up to my parents.

I know my parents, Leson Deb. What's up, Lesson Deb? What's up? They are frequent listeners to the podcast, and maybe I should ask them, like, did you sound out the whole name when you named me? But that's a cool thing. It's like, you know, in certain languages when you combine and there's like an apostrophe between it, it becomes one, you know. Adam Manus. Adam Manus.

But what I love about it is I think that this listener actually knows your name. It was more of a courtesy's like wanted to make sure that everybody. Yeah, please enunciates. Yeah, it's like, not for me. I know it. You know, it's funny. This was such a thing for me that when we named our children, like Heather's suggesting names that might have. an amethan animal. I'm like, no, no, never. Never. We don't want to confuse that poor kid.

I know your name, so it's never been a problem for me. Okay. So, all right, back to the, to the scary topic in hand for us. What are we talking about today? Today we are talking about seven reasons that your spouse hates jazz. And this is why I was saying we might be getting in a little trouble because it's hard for us to talk about spouses that hate jazz without referencing. It's a little bit personal, right? It's a little bit personal. Especially with seven reasons your spot and I'm pointing a finger at you now let's caveat here both of our spouses I think really appreciate jazz and like it and you didn't say love I didn't say love no they actually I know Heather does she's like proud of the fact that since we've been since we've been

together she wasn't a jazz family got together and she doesn't know a lot about music and I like that because I can talk about other things like cooking and stuff like that right but she is very proud that she's you know and really invested time into understanding about the music and Now she's like, you know, can pick out like, is that Oscar Peterson? I'm like, look at you. Like, no, that's Lewis Armstrong. Trump is. Come on, honey.

We're getting closer. Love you, babe. Yeah. Big shout to Heather. Shout on H-Back. What's up? H-back. All right, cool.

Let's jump into it since I've already got my foot in my mouth. I'll start out. How about that one? Let me take it. Yeah, yeah. Okay, so the number one reason. And look, we're saying this for anyone. We really are not personalized this on the for real.

Okay, number one reason you're pointing at the camera. Hives Jazz. You keep listening to the same track over and over again. She, he may have liked at one time, but now forget about it. You listen to it so many times. Now, this is actually our fault, right? The musicians. Now, so I'm starting out kind of negative, but this is actually kind of starting on a positive in that this is something that we can do about it. Why would we want to turn our spouse against jazz? We're supposed to be doing the opposite. We're supposed to be evangelists for the music. We're supposed to be bringing them on as fellow evangelists, you know, in this crusade. Am I overstating it? No, it's because we can't help it. We love it so much. No, but I mean, it can definitely get to be too much of a good thing. And I remember, like, when we were living in New Orleans, especially, for some reason, I had certain musician friends that would come over, and we wouldn't necessarily listen to the same tracks too much, but we listen to them too loud.

Yeah. That's another side of this. Listen to it over and over again at a very high volume. Definitely. Well, that takes us to number two, and that is you are too dogmatic. You act like the jazz police against her or him. And I think that is definitely something I've experienced. Like they'll be like, oh, I really like this track.

I'm like, Kenny cheese the bomb. Huh. You like this, huh? And she's like, what? I can't like this. And I'm like, well, you can like what you want. I mean, I say it with a bit of snobbery. As you start to reach for the siren of your jazz police vehicle.

Yeah, well, just think about if there's a, I don't even know if there's a Mrs. Winton Marsalis out there, but talk about someone that might have been on the other. Oh, can I say this? I mean, is this okay? She better have great taste. Yeah, yeah. I mean, I get a little dogmatic stuff thrown your way. So that's a good one.

I like it. Number three, they like the music, but they hate the word jazz. I feel you. I'm with you. Yeah. Yeah, that's actually us. And so maybe we affect our spouses and stuff too. Yeah, there's a blowback, a brushback against the word jazz that has come and gone over time.

And it's definitely strong now. And I'm kind of bought into that. I'm just sort of in bad habit and lazy to change. But I think that a lot of spouses are like jazz and when they really kind of learn about it and like, I'm a jazz. I'm a cool cat and all that stuff. Yeah, yeah. Yeah. Corny.

Very. Number four, you don't make any money playing it. So they turn their anguish at the music. This one is great because I have personal experiences of being like, oh, this gig plays pretty well. And I'll tell her what it pays. She's like, oh, yeah, it pays well for a jazz gig. You know what I mean? Right, right.

That's why I hate jazz so much. The word, the money, the music, everything about it. They're not wrong about that. Right, right. Yeah, so it's like, yeah, they let the finances, much as we do sometimes. Yeah. If we hate jazz, it's not because of the music. It's because of the word or the money or the police or something.

Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Cool. So that's number four. So what are we on? Man, we're just chugging away at this week. It's like a hot potato. You can pass it around and get out. It's almost like we don't want to stop and talk about it too.

Just get in and get out. Okay, number five, something is wrong with them. They're classical snobs or their country non-snops. So, like, they're out either end of the, spectrum. Yeah. And they don't realize, as we know, jazz is like straight down the middle. It's like for the common people, but it's complicated.

So if you're like a classical snob, if your spouse is, you're like jazz is beneath me. You're an elitist, right? Yeah. Which is funny because we are usually being accused of being the elitist. But then if you're a country snob, am I being, am I painting these styles with too broad of a brush? No, not at all. So I'll, I'll step my foot in here.

Here we go. So when I first started dating my now wife, Heather, love the lovely Heather McCorkle, in her car was a Matchbox 20 CD. Now there's nothing wrong with Matchbox 20 per se. No. But that is an awful thing for a jazz musician to see. Right. Because you're just like, you don't, you're not going to like what I do.

If you like that, you're not going to like what I do. But what a cool thing that you are able to, you know, woo your beautiful wife. And now you have this beautiful family with, from somebody that was listening to Match, Like it's easy if someone's like, I love Thelotius mug. Of course you're going to love us. Oh, not necessarily. Not necessarily. But at least we got something to talk about, right?

That's all charm on my part. That's all charm on my part. That's good. You're like, you're hitting next little. Are we safe here? We're about to get taken off the air? I'm fine. Okay.

So that's number five. Yep. Number six. Number six. This is your turn, I think. You keep practicing in the living room when they're trying to relax. That's a personal one that I hear all the time. Right.

Because why I have a piano in a separate building. Right. in my house. That's right. It's been a great thing for your marriage, hasn't it? It's been great because I, you know what I used to do? I used to keep practicing in the living room when they were trying to relax. We've got to practice. I mean, I, you know, for the kids, I think it works good. Like, my kids grew up hearing a lot. I used to practice late at night. It's funny because I can't even do that anymore. Like, my mind doesn't, I'm too tired. I'm too tired. But I used to practice a lot late, especially when they were little, so they could sleep through anything. And they also got used to

kind of like hearing the music. Of course, a spouse doesn't really get, you know, they're already set in their ways or whatever. Right. So a lot of people to my wife, my lovely wife, Kelly, they'll say like, oh my God, you know, the Uber fans, isn't that amazing you get to hear Peter playing in the house all that time? And she's like, no, actually, he got his own studio about seven years ago and I never heard it. It's awesome. It's great.

I come to the gigs when I want to. For free. I can watch Netflix in peace. Exactly. Yeah, so that's a good one. You know, don't bring your work home too much, you know, unless it's a song written for them. They somehow always love to hear those. They love those. That's weird, right? You can practice that one all night.

Number seven? Number seven, this is you. Well, it is. I did a lot of stuff. Number seven is, you know, maybe it's time for a new spouse. You'll hear it. Maybe it's time for a new spouse. Wow.

Really? That's for them. Really? Yeah, yeah, exactly. I'm not saying that for us. I'm saying that for the people, yeah, yeah. Okay, so you're beat red, which is more of a purple. Well, I feel like we really nailed those.

She doesn't listen to this anyway. She doesn't like jazz. That's right. Yeah, we'll have to worry about our spouses. They don't like podcasts. They definitely don't like jazz podcasts. The last thing she wants to hear in her car or on her headphones is me talking about anything, but especially about jazz.

Now, your kids, they're not old enough yet to have the same kind of funny hatreds your spouse does about you. Like, they probably still adore you and stuff, right? And everything you do. At the moment, everything is peachy with that. That's cool. I remember those times. And that's a fun dynamic because then the spouse gets really mad about that.

Because they're like, oh. But they see in my house for years, because my kids are older. They're just like, oh, no, we're with mom on this. So it's like me against the world already. That's coming. It's coming. It's coming. I know.

Yeah, geez. Well, I feel like we really nailed this one. I think we pissed off not only our actual spouses, other spouses, both men and women. Possibly Jazz musicians and perhaps Witton Marcellus. Yeah. Big shout out, Skane. What's up? Oh, man.

Well, there you go. You'll hear it.