Young and Profiting with Hala Taha - Rick Hanson: Rewiring Your Brain for Happiness and Resilience | Mental Health | YAPClassic

Episode Date: April 25, 2025

Dr. Rick Hanson’s transformative journey from a struggling adolescent to a leading expert in mental health is a powerful testament to how psychology and mindset can shape our lives. Battling unhappi...ness in his youth, Rick discovered the key to wellness wasn’t just in changing circumstances, but in transforming his brain health. As a result, he now shares his expertise in neuroplasticity and self-healing to help others achieve a balanced life. In this episode, Dr. Hanson reveals how positive neuroplasticity and practical biohacking techniques can rewire your brain to foster happiness, productivity, and emotional resilience. In this episode, Hala and Rick will discuss: (00:00) Introduction (01:00) Rick Hansen's Teenage Turning Point (03:29) Early College Experience and Its Impact (05:08) Exploring the Roots of Unhappiness (07:38) Discovering Buddhism and Its Teachings (10:29) The Concept of Neuro Dharma (14:16) The Importance of Steadiness of Mind (24:21) Understanding Monkey Mind (27:22) Biological Reactions and Brain Influence (32:11) Shifting Perspective for Stress Relief (33:12) Understanding Neuroplasticity (33:50) Brain Changes with Meditation (35:14) The Power of Small Practices (36:27) Four Key Brain Changes from Meditation (39:36) The Concept of Add-On Suffering (43:23) Three Keys to Reducing Suffering (47:09) The Seven Ways of Being (56:10) The Five Minute Challenge Dr. Rick Hanson is a New York Times bestselling author, psychologist, and founder of the Wellspring Institute for Neuroscience and Contemplative Wisdom. His work, which blends modern neuroscience with ancient Buddhist wisdom, has been featured on major media outlets like the BBC, NPR, and CBS. With books translated into 30 languages and a wealth of experience as a speaker at institutions like NASA, Google, and Harvard, Dr. Hanson’s teachings offer listeners actionable strategies to foster happiness and transform their minds for personal growth. Sponsored By: Shopify - Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at youngandprofiting.co/shopify Airbnb - Find yourself a co-host at airbnb.com/host Indeed - Get a $75 sponsored job credit at indeed.com/profiting    Microsoft Teams - Stop paying for tools. Get everything you need, for free at aka.ms/profiting LinkedIn Marketing Solutions - Get a $100 credit on your next campaign at linkedin.com/profiting Bilt - Start paying rent through Bilt and take advantage of your Neighborhood Benefits™ by going to joinbilt.com/PROFITING. Mercury - Streamline your banking and finances in one place. Learn more at mercury.com/profiting    Active Deals - youngandprofiting.com/deals       Key YAP Links Reviews - ratethispodcast.com/yap  Youtube - youtube.com/c/YoungandProfiting  LinkedIn - linkedin.com/in/htaha/  Instagram - instagram.com/yapwithhala/  Social + Podcast Services - yapmedia.com   Transcripts - youngandprofiting.com/episodes-new  Entrepreneurship, entrepreneurship podcast, Business, Business podcast, Self Improvement, Self-Improvement, Personal development, Starting a business, Strategy, Investing, Sales, Selling, Psychology, Productivity, Entrepreneurs, AI, Artificial Intelligence, Technology, Marketing, Negotiation, Money, Finance, Side hustle, Startup, mental health, Career, Leadership, Mindset, Health, Growth mindset, Mental Health, Health, Psychology, Wellness, Biohacking, Motivation, Mindset, Manifestation, Productivity, Brain Health, Life Balance, Self Healing, Positivity, Happiness, Sleep, Diet

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Starting point is 00:02:14 Rick is a renowned neuropsychologist and bestselling author of books like hardwiring Happiness. As a practicing Buddhist, he blends ancient wisdom with cutting edge neuroscience to help people cultivate greater joy and resilience. In this conversation, Rick broke down the science of neuroplasticity, shared quick hacks for handling stress, and introduced what he calls neurodharma, a powerful approach to deepening happiness and inner peace. So, get ready to learn simple yet profound ways to transform your mind. First, I want to start off by hearing a little bit about your childhood. So I learned that you had a big turning point when you were just 15 years old.
Starting point is 00:02:57 You were a little bit awkward, you were unhappy, and just pretty dissatisfied with life until you realized this big aha moment in your life. So talk to us about this turning point when you were a teenager. Oh, thanks for queuing me up there. So I grew up in a decent, fairly stable, lower middle class environment in Southern California, no abuse, no trauma, nothing horrible.
Starting point is 00:03:21 And still for a lot of complicated reasons, including being really young while going through school, I was really unhappy. I was a lot of awkward, a lot of miserable, a lot of neurotic, and it just seemed pretty hopeless. And right there, right about age 15, and I know it was about age 15 because I was reading Dune at the time and the main character, Paul Madib, is also 15 when the book starts right about. And I suddenly basically realized that as bad as my past had been
Starting point is 00:03:52 and as much the present might suck, the future was open to me in the sense that I could always learn a little, heal a little, and grow a little every day. I could learn how to be a little less completely tongue-t tied around girls. I could learn how to be not so scared of these big aggro, you know, alpha male types in the locker room.
Starting point is 00:04:15 I could learn how to manage my own mind bit by bit. And in effect, I learned that learning itself, knowing how to help yourself develop, not just memorize the multiplication table, but develop as a person was the strength of strengths. Learning is the superpower of superpowers because it's the one we tap into to grow the rest of them. It took me many years,
Starting point is 00:04:39 including becoming a neuropsychologist, et cetera, to really understand the how of that, how we can actually heighten neuroplastic change inside our own brains and gradually hardwire things like grit, gratitude, compassion, and happiness altogether into our own nervous system. And there are things we can do to do that. But the fundamental idea that I was in charge
Starting point is 00:05:02 of who I was becoming has shaped the rest of my life. That's an incredible story. And I can't wait for us to dive deep on neuroplasticity and all the ways that we can improve our brain and actually change our brain. But first, you've got some interesting things that I wanna talk about in terms of your journey. So it turns out you started college
Starting point is 00:05:20 when you were just 16 years old. So that's pretty incredible. How did you end up going to school so early and what was that like? Because at that age, two years difference in terms of college is a big deal. Oh, thanks for remarking that. So I skipped a grade. It was second grade, not a big deal. And I was a bright little kid and all the rest of that.
Starting point is 00:05:40 And that had some advantages, but it also plus my own kind of shy, anxious temperament, led me to feeling like the runt of the litter, as my dad put it, because he grew up in a ranch in North Dakota. So I felt really shy and awkward. Going off to college though, on the other hand, breaking away from home and having a sense of being able to step into all kinds of new possibilities
Starting point is 00:06:04 was wonderful for me. And to locate it in our culture, I started UCLA in 1969. So just imagine the height of the political changes of the time, the counterculture, all kinds of developments in psychology, the surge of Eastern wisdom coming into the West at the tail end of the sixties and early seventies.
Starting point is 00:06:27 It was a wild time. It was a fertile time. It was a good time to be in school. Plus there was a lot of great music as well. That's so cool. I mean, it's so great. See, I thought there was gonna be something more to it. Not that you just skipped second grade,
Starting point is 00:06:42 but it's super interesting nonetheless. And the fact that, you know, probably some of those feelings that you had is what ultimately led you to becoming who you are and what you do and what you're passionate about today, which is just really interesting in itself. So a key part of your journey was wanting to understand why people feel unhappy and what sparks unhappiness. So how did this curiosity lead you to starting to study neuroscience and psychology? Maybe I'd like to kind of draw people to a level of, I don't know, a kind of tender intimacy with themselves
Starting point is 00:07:18 a little deeper and ask people, what are some of the things you knew when you were really young? Maybe you didn't have words for it, but you just had a knowing. You had a sense of what it was like for people around you, or you had a sense of who you were, your fundamental capabilities.
Starting point is 00:07:36 Maybe there was a dream for your life that really was starting to take form even when you were in kindergarten. And for me, in my earliest memories, and I have a lot of memory of my childhood going all the way back probably to late two years old. In all of them is this wistful poignant sense of the needless unhappiness, the needless strife,
Starting point is 00:07:58 the needless bickering, nothing horrible, but the needless hassles, the needless stresses, the needless worries, the needless worries, the needless feeling less than other people or being uncertain about where we stand with other people, just ick, needless. And so, yeah, absolutely. I had this sense of it and this kind of movement,
Starting point is 00:08:19 not just observing it, but a movement of compassion, a movement of compassionate action to do what one can. And I'm far from unique. I think so many people, I suspect for you as well, Hala, right, in your own background, moving you to do what you do. There also was that sense that there's so much unnecessary unhappiness
Starting point is 00:08:42 and there's so much more wellbeing andbeing and harmony even in a very real world including in a competitive marketplace that we can forge together and there's a movement in you, a movement in me and probably a movement in many other people as well to try to be helpful in that way. Yeah, totally. I think you bring a really solid point across the fact that so many of us, we live decently privileged lives, you know, and we all have food on the table. Most of us are able to go to school and just, you know, we have roofs over our heads and we take all this for granted and like the little things become such a big deal even though we have so much to be thankful for. And so I think that's a really great point. So I wanna talk about Buddhism,
Starting point is 00:09:25 because like we just mentioned, you grew up decently privileged, you know, you're from LA, like it's pretty unique that your religion is Buddhism. So talk to us about how you fell in love with that ancient Asian religion. Oh, sweet. So I grew up a casual Methodist, that was kind of the framework and tons of respect,
Starting point is 00:09:45 certainly for Jesus as a teacher and realized being, that said the forms of all that just didn't somehow connect with me. The way it was communicated just felt kind of small and dogmatic and kind of bossy. So then I land in college, the doors are kicked wide open, right? And we're talking at 1969, 70 and all the rest of that.
Starting point is 00:10:11 And toward the end of college, I just had an interest in seeing, oh, what's out there in the Eastern traditions, which I didn't know really anything about. And I encountered Buddhist teachings, which in the roots of them are arguably not even religious. They're psychological, essentially. Basically the fundamental observation of the Buddha
Starting point is 00:10:31 is that everything is connected to everything else and is continually changing. And if we flow with that river, if we ride that horse and the direction is going, we suffer less and we harm less. On the other hand, if we fight the fact that things are changing and we try to cling to our experiences
Starting point is 00:10:49 and try to make certain things happen inside our minds and we try to push away various things, we create suffering and harm for ourselves and other people, pure and simple. And so that's kind of where it really began for me. And I guess I should add as well that that's what's been the heart of the matter for me, these fundamental, very psychological teachings
Starting point is 00:11:10 about the deep nature of the mind and what are the causes of our happiness and wellbeing and welfare and harmony in the way we live with others. And then how can we embody those causes through personal practice, learning, right? Now we're coming back to that principle of learning, personal development,
Starting point is 00:11:28 cultivation of what's skillful and useful and good and enjoyable inside ourselves. How can we actually develop ourselves in that way? So that's my orientation to all this. And later on, I learned a lot about both clinical psychology and then certainly neuroscience. So if you think about the combination of hardcore brain science, clinical psychology,
Starting point is 00:11:52 and contemplative wisdom, that combination of those three things is just packed with power and full of skillful means for how we can help ourselves and other people. Yeah, 100%. And honestly, I've interviewed a lot of neuroscientists and neuropsychologists, and so far, nobody has brought in this element of this wisdom
Starting point is 00:12:12 that you're talking about, this Buddhism element. So it's really unique, and I'm excited for this conversation. So let's talk about neurodharma. Dharma is something that I didn't know what it meant. So just starting off, what does the name mean? Oh, great. It's a word from India originally. It means essentially the way it is, the truth of things.
Starting point is 00:12:33 And it also can mean accounts of the way it is. So like a body of wisdom, we could say, whether it's a body of wisdom in Western psychology or a body of wisdom in a particular tradition, such as the Buddhist tradition, which has many aspects to it, right? Tibetan Buddhism, Zen, Pure Land, other forms of it as well.
Starting point is 00:12:53 And I put those two terms together because if you kind of think about it, I'm gonna get a little geeky here, we can know ourselves in two ways. First, we can know ourselves subjectively from the inside out in terms of our experiences. And that was all that was available to the early teachers, such as the Buddha. And certainly until very recently, that's the only way we could know ourselves, right? But with modern biology and then neuroscience, and then especially in the last 10, 20 years or so,
Starting point is 00:13:25 neuropsychology really coming together, we can know ourselves from the outside in, objectively. The combination of the two, these two ways of knowing ourselves, is what I call neurodharma. And we can go back and forth, right? Here we are, we're upset about something. Somebody, our boss frowned at us, you know? Somebody else took credit for one of our good ideas. If you're, let's say a woman, as our daughter has reported to us many times, you're sitting in meetings and you say something,
Starting point is 00:13:56 everybody ignores you, then some dude down at the other end of the table says the same thing five minutes later and everybody starts clapping. Like what? Okay, this is happening. It's happening inside your mind. That's what you're experiencing. Meanwhile, if you want, you can also know,
Starting point is 00:14:13 oh, I've got this amygdala that is very sensitized to negative experiences. And so it will routinely turbocharge something that's kind of a one or a two on the object of yuckiness scale, but make me feel like an eight or a nine in terms of being pissed off or wounded or hurt. Oh, I can know that about myself.
Starting point is 00:14:33 And I can also know maybe objectively that my amygdala got sensitized when I grew up in a pretty critical family or in a culture that was pretty critical or shaming, maybe body shaming, or who knows what else it was doing, right? And by knowing that objectively about the hardware, you know, the three pounds of tofu like tissue
Starting point is 00:14:52 inside the coconut and how it's cooking away, knowing that objectively, right, about ourselves can be matched together with the subjective internal experience, which then, let's say, might move you to just going, hmm. Knowing, let's say, that the amygdala has oxytocin receptors on it. In other words, it has receptors for a neurochemical
Starting point is 00:15:13 that's released with experiences of healthy connection, and the action at those receptor sites on the amygdala is calming and inhibitory, like pumping the brakes in a car that's running away now down a mountain. Knowing that, aha, there I am, upset about, let's say this thing that happened at work, but I can now deliberately think about
Starting point is 00:15:35 or draw in the feeling of being with people, real people, including maybe my dog or my cat, who actually care about me. And when I bring them to mind, I start feeling more connected, more warmhearted, maybe my caring for them as well. And that is gonna increase oxytocin activity in my brain and calm down my poor little amygdala that's bird flashing red right now.
Starting point is 00:16:00 That's an example of neurodharma. It's super fascinating. Why is it important to be in this calm, steady state? Like, why is that the best state to be in? I would say it like this. So, you know, I'm a real person. I've done a lot of rock climbing, for example, and, you know, I can kind of get excited
Starting point is 00:16:18 and intense and so forth. I think what's really helpful is to be able to sustain a kind of steadiness of self-awareness. And I think that's what you're really talking about. Around that steadiness of self-awareness, sustained mindfulness of what's happening inside and outside, around that can be all the emotions in the world. There can be passions sometime,
Starting point is 00:16:43 there can be great peacefulness and tranquility at other times, it's all okay. But meanwhile, there is this steadiness of mind. And that's why, as you know, unlike many people who've interviewed me, you actually read my book, thank you, to your credit. As you know, the steadiness of mind is the first of these seven qualities
Starting point is 00:17:03 of ultimately awakening that we can certainly use to great benefit meanwhile, and we can train. And it's especially important to train in our hyper-distractable, multitasking, flooded with stimuli, endlessly distracted time and culture. It's really important to be able to stabilize your own attention so you can plop it onto what's useful and keep it there or pull it away from what's not helpful,
Starting point is 00:17:30 including ruminating about something that's bugging you. Totally, and it's so funny, like you're taking everything from like a very scientific level, but I talk to experts and very successful billionaires and CEOs and they also just have gut feeling when I ask them questions like, what is your secret to profiting in life?
Starting point is 00:17:47 It's one of the last questions I ask on the show. And a lot of answers are being even keeled. Don't be too high, don't be too low. If something really bad happens, don't get into a rut. If something really good happens, don't get too cocky. Everybody says that, you're taking it from a different perspective, but I totally agree there. Can I build on what you just said there? Yes.
Starting point is 00:18:07 Sorry, so this is great. So I'm talking first, and I misunderstood you, I think a little bit about steadiness of mind. Additionally, you're talking about what could be called equanimity, being even keeled, right? Cause you can have steadiness of mind while being roaring upset about something and super rattled by it.
Starting point is 00:18:29 But at least you're steadily aware, which is better than being swept away. Additionally, I totally agree. And I think a lot about what it feels like in which we can be authentic. I'm a long time therapist too. People are upset, things happen. Other people are jerks.
Starting point is 00:18:47 You're living in a time of COVID right now. We're tired, we're two plus years in, come on, right? We feel these things. We can authentically feel what we feel. Nothing in what you and I are talking about is about lying about how we really feel or suppressing it or joining with others who are trying to suppress how we really feel or talk us out of it or blame us for how we feel
Starting point is 00:19:11 based on how they treated us. We're not saying anything like this. What we are saying, as you well know, is that a person can maintain and grow a core, what feels like a core of being inside themselves that has resilient wellbeing in it, is calm and steady and even keeled as you said, even when the world around us is flashing red, even when there's physical pain or sorrow or fear
Starting point is 00:19:40 or anger flying around inside your mind, there can be that felt sense of a core of being. And what's really interesting is to build it out increasingly through positive neuroplasticity. We can gradually build up this kind of resting state, this sort of underlying touchstone. It feels like home. You know, you can get in touch with it,
Starting point is 00:20:03 you can come home to it, and you can stay in touch with it. you can come home to it and you can stay in touch with it. And over time it can become more and more your resting place. And as you look out at the world going, whoa, there's a lot of wild stuff flying around out there. Yeah, and I know it takes a lot of practice and it takes a lot of building to make it more of a habit and to actually change your brain,
Starting point is 00:20:24 like the makeup of your brain, which we'll get into. So I do want to dig in on some more definitions because I think the concept of awakening is one that a lot of us have heard about, but we don't really know exactly what it means. And I know the foundation of your book is about cultivating seven ways that are the essence of awakening.
Starting point is 00:20:41 So what is awakening exactly? Okay, great. So I've, like I said, done a lot of rock climbing and I've gone out with a friend of mine, several friends. And one of my friends, when we get out into wilderness, he just wants to plop in a camp chair with a cup of coffee, a cigar, and a good novel. Okay, I get it.
Starting point is 00:20:59 I can relate. My other buddy is a little bit more like me. Like after we kind of settle out and have breakfast, we look around and then we will see some kind of mountain or hill or peak and we'll think, wow, it would just be super cool to get up there, right? What's up there at the upper reaches. So there is something in us that is curious.
Starting point is 00:21:20 After we work through a certain amount of just feeling bad about ourselves and bad in the world, and we're upset a lot with other people, and that kind of starts to stabilize some, we're doing okay, we're doing okay. For many people, there's a movement toward the upper reaches of human potential. How much stability of deep contentment,
Starting point is 00:21:45 peacefulness and love is actually possible? And what in the world are people talking about who in all the traditions of the world, including those of the first people, the indigenous people, there are people who are like the Olympic athletes had said of personal development. And they seem radiant, some of them seem saintly,
Starting point is 00:22:09 some of them function within a very specific religious tradition, others seem to be outside of any particular religious tradition. And yet they have qualities about them that seem very admirable and desirable. And we think to ourselves, well, I'd like a little more of that myself, right? So one of the powerful principles,
Starting point is 00:22:31 whether it's in business or athletics or just everyday life, we look to people who are a step farther along or maybe 10 steps farther along. And we look at them and we do a kind of reverse engineering. What are the qualities that they have that we could internalize and live from increasingly in ourselves?
Starting point is 00:22:50 Which I think is one of the great services that you perform in your podcast, because in part yourself and also those you talk with, you're giving the rest of us access to some of what it's like to be those people that we can actually, that's within reach for us to bring into ourselves. And so in that sense, I think of awakening very broadly as the gradual process of waking up and moving increasingly up the mountain of human potential.
Starting point is 00:23:22 Whatever route we take could be an entirely secular route, it could be a more religious route, it could be a more spiritual route. As we move up the mountain, those different routes start to converge. And we find as well that on each of those routes, the same seven steps again and again and again, which I'm sure we'll get into in a second,
Starting point is 00:23:42 what are those seven steps? But that's the fundamental process of awakening. I think of it as the birthright of all of us. A person doesn't have to go all the way to the top to be inspired. I will never climb Mount Everest, but I'm inspired by what it is like at the top there and the fact that people actually get up to the very top.
Starting point is 00:24:02 And I can use that in my more, you know, humdrum, you know, local rock climbing kind of adventures. So that's the thing I would just say. And the things that we're gonna talk about are not just for so-called spiritual practice. Man, oh man, oh man, they are so useful. I have a good background in business and they are so useful in the trenches of everyday life.
Starting point is 00:24:26 Oh, 100%. I couldn't agree more there. I mean, it's really just kind of like emotional intelligence, to be honest. When I was reading your stuff, I was like, oh, this is really just how to like control yourself and make sure that, you know, you don't, you know, go out either like mentally, you know, get into a rut or do something wrong with other people. So, yeah. What kind of, I mean, almost all of us
Starting point is 00:24:51 have had an experience or more where everything just clicks. You know, you're at the beach or the barbecue or your child is born or you just hanging out or you walk outside, you see the stars, something, and kaboosh, all your cares and concerns fall away. You're still functioning. You're still aware of that email you need to write, the thing you need to do in the morning,
Starting point is 00:25:15 but it just falls away and you feel just dropped in to a deep sense of wellbeing and all rightness, often with a sense of some kind of maybe mysterious connection to everything, extending beyond time and space even. And we've all had a sense of that. Most of us certainly have had a sense of that. Well, why not spend more time there, right?
Starting point is 00:25:42 Why not have that be more and more of your daily living? And when people spend more time there, they don't become selfish, narcissistic, naval gazers. They actually are moved increasingly to be helpful to other people, to cause less trouble, and to bring others along into their own stream of happiness. Yeah, why not go for it?
Starting point is 00:26:07 Why not develop ourselves in that way? And as you're talking about this, I can't help but think of the opposite of that, which is really monkey mind, right? So I'd love for you to explain what monkey mind is and how a lot of us really operate every single moment of our lives. Well, it's a great term for this notion that the monkey, the internal subject, the eye
Starting point is 00:26:32 as it were, is looking out through multiple sense windows, sights, sounds, smells, and then also looking out through the window of thoughts or images, memories, emotions, and all the rest of that. Okay, and the monkey's bouncing around. Brr, brr, brr, brr, brr, brr, brr. And, you know, we all have that sense that we're living inside a kind of popcorn machine. We're thinking about this, then we dart to that, that our mind goes here.
Starting point is 00:26:58 It's the definition of no steadiness of mind, right? There's no control. And I think of attention as a combination spotlight and vacuum cleaner. What we're paying attention to is illuminated by attention and through neuroplasticity, we are drawing what we're paying attention to into ourselves with a negative bias,
Starting point is 00:27:22 because the brain is like Velcro for bad experiences, but Teflon for positive ones. So getting control of that spotlight and vacuum cleaner is critically important. And monkey mind is the definition of not having control. A certain key point here, people can sometimes dismiss this as new agey, or a fairy, or yoga camp, or something or other,
Starting point is 00:27:44 but actually it's as hardcore as it gets. Cause if you don't have this kind of quality of both steadiness of mind and that internal even keeledness, you're not in charge of yourself. You're therefore not in charge of your life. You're not autonomous. You're a puppet, frankly, being pulled by the strings of your environment
Starting point is 00:28:03 and the reactions inside your body mind, to your environment. And so if you want autonomy, if you really wanna be in charge of yourself, the cultivation of steadiness of mind and that emotional balance, even killedness you talk about is deeply important. And also there's the opportunity to be competent,
Starting point is 00:28:25 to become more skillful at this kind of stuff. I know so many people who've invested deeply in getting good at stuff that they know doesn't matter very much at their job or their golf game or something like that. And yet they'll hardly put five minutes a day into getting more competent at managing their own thoughts and feelings in their own thoughts and feelings
Starting point is 00:28:45 and their own inner world. Yeah, it is super important to do that because most of our thoughts are unconscious or subconscious. I think it's only 4% of our thoughts are actually things that we can control and the rest is just good habits and really just redesigning our brain like you talk about. Let's hold that thought and take a quick break with our sponsors. Hello young and profitors! Let's talk about what drives a business's success. Sure, having a great product, a strong brand, and savvy marketing can set companies like
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Starting point is 00:33:51 So this is a major topic in science. Neuroscience is a baby science, especially if you compare it, say, to astronomy, you know, starting a couple thousand years ago. The basic idea is that we are having thoughts and feelings, we're having reactions, sites are occurring, sounds, sensations, memories, images, plans, all the rest of that. All of that stuff correlates in some ways
Starting point is 00:34:16 that are still not entirely clear with underlying neurobiological activity. So we have mind and matter, two aspects of reality that are correlating together. Okay. The growing understanding is that our mental processes, our experiences which are enlisting underlying physical activities, processes in our nervous system to proceed, our mental activities that are enlisting these neural activities can force a kind of lasting trace to be left behind for our own growing skillfulness, happiness, resilience, and wellbeing.
Starting point is 00:35:00 We can actually use our minds to change our brains, to change our minds for the better through positive neuroplasticity. That's kind of the big picture. And there are so many examples of that. There's tons of research that shows, for example, that people who've had a lot of stressful or traumatic experiences have sensitized,
Starting point is 00:35:20 as I was saying earlier, their amygdala. So they react more readily and more loudly and chronic stress also through cortisol release weakens a nearby part of the brain, the hippocampus which is supposed to put the brakes on the amygdala and also put things in context. And third, the hippocampus signals the hypothalamus another underlying part of your brain
Starting point is 00:35:43 to stop calling for stress hormones. This might seem a little technical or mechanistic, but it has actually huge implications that being irritated, frustrated, driven, pressured, contracted, et cetera, et cetera, today, let alone being traumatized today, gradually makes us more vulnerable and reactive to stressors and pressures tomorrow.
Starting point is 00:36:10 So it's really important first to engage in mindfulness, which research also shows, does various things inside your brain that acts like a circuit breaker so that we can be having negative emotions like fear or anger flowing through awareness. But if we're mindful of them, there's a spaciousness, there's a distance from that, that stops the reinforcement of the negativity and the sensitization inside our own brain. And as just a very cool quick hack, I'll tell people two things they can do
Starting point is 00:36:43 that are grounded in really recent research that are super neat. One is, if you're upset about something or you're in a stressful situation or the oatmeal is really hitting the fan around you, right? Tune into the internal sensations of breathing. You could even do it right now. Get a sense of the air flowing in and air flowing out.
Starting point is 00:37:04 It's not airy-fairy, it's as grounded as it gets. The internal sense of your chest or lungs or belly expanding as you inhale and kind of coming back in as you exhale. Just taking privately, no one needs to know you're doing that in the board meeting, right? Just doing it internally activates a part of your brain that's called the insula.
Starting point is 00:37:26 The insula is a region or two of them on the inside of the temporal lobes on either side. And the insula is very involved with interoception, technical term for tuning into yourself, including your gut feelings. So as you tune into yourself, the insula gets more active, which immediately quiets, like a circuit breaker,
Starting point is 00:37:46 the so-called default mode network of your brain. I call it the ruminator, which is where we go when we're starting to spin out with our monkey mind resentments, regrets, self-criticism, would it, could it, should it, fantasies of vengeance, and all the rest of that. Just tuning in to your internal sensations and you can just kind of play with it.
Starting point is 00:38:07 Immediately quiets the internal monkey mind and relaxes the sense of being a beleaguered self. Just that, that's a quick hack. You know, half, five seconds, a few seconds, one breath, boom, you're starting to feel the benefit. Second quick hack, lift your gaze to the horizon. Look out the window, look across the room, get a sense of the bigger picture or just even imagine it.
Starting point is 00:38:34 Neurologically, what that does is it moves you out of this kind of egocentric self-referential, oh, what are they doing to me? Or I'm gonna get them or my precious. Moves us out of that kind of tense contracted place into a more objective view, a big picture view, which feels much less stressful, much more in the present moment and much more effective.
Starting point is 00:39:01 So just right there, two little hacks, tuning into the internal sensations of breathing or lifting your gaze to the horizon somehow, can immediately, neurologically, this is evidence-based, change the way your brain is functioning, which then in turn changes the way your mind is functioning and therefore in turn changes the way your life functions as well.
Starting point is 00:39:21 I love that. We love actionable advice on the podcast. So let's talk about this neuroplasticity in terms of the fact that it doesn't happen overnight. You need to practice with mindfulness, meditation, hours, days, months, years, so that you can actually change the biological format of your brain.
Starting point is 00:39:42 And I'd love to kind of drive this point home by talking about how your brain. And I'd love to kind of drive this point home by talking about how your brain changes depending on how experienced you are with meditation. So let's take a person who did like a three day meditation workshop versus somebody who spent months meditating versus a Tibetan monk who spent their whole lifetime meditating.
Starting point is 00:40:01 How does their brain kind of change? This is great. So first off, neuroplasticity just basically means that the nervous system changes or is changeable based on the information flowing through it. And the information flowing through it is the basis for what we experience in terms of our own consciousness. All right, those changes can happen within half a second actually,
Starting point is 00:40:26 as different neurons fire together, different neurochemicals flow. It's kind of extraordinary just to imagine how small things are. I mean, you could put the cell body of roughly five neurons, typical neurons, side by side in the width of one of your hairs. The little connections between neurons, the synapses, you could put several thousand of them side by side in the width of one of your hairs, the little connections between neurons, the synapses,
Starting point is 00:40:46 you could put several thousand of them side by side in the width of a single hair. Okay, so it's really, things happen really fast. More structural, not just functional changes, typically take seconds or minutes or days. It's a longer process whereby new connections form between neurons, existing connections become sensitized or desensitized, neurochemical ebbs and flows kind of shift over time, different
Starting point is 00:41:14 larger regions of the brain can start coordinating more effectively with each other. Those kinds of changes can take longer to stabilize, but the beginning of it is typically a breath at a time. And when we talk about how much it takes to actually change things for the better over time, honestly, my kind of bedrock threshold is five minutes a day. Just five minutes a day. Most people will not put five minutes a day
Starting point is 00:41:47 into some kind of personal practice. But even if you give it that much, let alone more, like 20 minutes a day or 45 minutes a day, any kind of practice, gratitude practice, compassion practices, meditation, affirmations, focusing on your self-worth, building up kind of a lovingness in your own heart, whatever, or maybe even a religious practice, whatever it actually might be for you. It's the law of little things.
Starting point is 00:42:11 It's usually lots of little bad things that moved us to a bad place, and it's gonna be lots of little good things that move us to a better one, which for me is extraordinarily hopeful. It's profoundly hopeful, because that's what's under our control. It's the little things in the most important minute of our life, which is the next one,
Starting point is 00:42:29 minute after minute, continuously. That's where we actually have influence. And so it's up to us to use that influence and no one can defeat us. No one can stop us from doing that, which I just love fantastically. So all that said, I can tell you how your brain changes because you seem like a meditator. And I could tell you how your brain has probably changed over time and maybe others as well. And four key areas, I'll do this really fast
Starting point is 00:42:53 because it illustrates some larger points if that's okay. So first off, parts of your brain, typically behind the forehead that are involved in regulating attention and also the called top-down or executive regulation of our emotions and our actions in general, those neural circuits literally build structure. New connections are forming,
Starting point is 00:43:15 more blood is coming to those particular regions that are in effect kind of like the chair of the internal mental committee. You know, the physical basis for that is located in prefrontal regions, mainly right behind the forehead. Well, that's one major change that happens. Second major change that is found in, people have a kind of a semi-decent mindfulness practice
Starting point is 00:43:36 with meditation as well, is that there's more regulation of emotions. The subcortical areas of the amygdala, the hippocampus and so forth, those get better regulated. They're happier, they're less freaked out, they're less angry, they don't fly off the handle so much. That's the second major change that's found structurally
Starting point is 00:43:56 in people who are long-time meditators. Third major change is greater body awareness. People become more in touch with themselves. And being in touch with your body is the foundation of being in touch with your emotions and your deep, deep longings and important values and most heartfelt desires. So that's a great third change as well,
Starting point is 00:44:16 including through structural changes, particularly in the insula, which like I said, is involved in body awareness. And then last, the sense of self. This is very interesting. People spend less and less time in the default mode network, the ruminator, which is very saturated with a sense of me, myself, and I,
Starting point is 00:44:35 especially an unhappy sense of me, myself, and I. You know, I've been cheated and mistreated. Why don't I get loved, right? You know, country and Western song list. And instead that activity decreases and there's more activity in other parts of the brain, particularly on the sides of the brain that are more associated with a broader,
Starting point is 00:44:56 more open sense of who you are. You still know who you are, you still stop at red lights, you still speak up for yourself, you don't tolerate mistreatment of yourself or those others you care about, but it's in a much less self-centered or beleaguered kind of way, which is, wow, an incredible relief.
Starting point is 00:45:16 So those are four major changes, well-documented in people's brains who have a regular practice of mindfulness and especially meditation. That's so incredible. As you're talking, all I can keep thinking is that people who meditate and who practice mindfulness, they're just happier, right?
Starting point is 00:45:34 Their default state is naturally happier. And no matter what happens in their external, they know how to process those experiences to actually just be happy and content and grateful and not let it totally off balance how they feel about themselves and how they feel about the world. So it brings me to this other really fascinating point and I think one of the most interesting things I found in your book was this concept of add on suffering.
Starting point is 00:45:59 Because you basically brought in this concept from Buddhism and tied it together with everything and it really just helped it all come together. So explain what add-on suffering is to us. Inherently in life, there's just a certain amount of unavoidable discomfort, physical and emotional. You know, you care about other people and if you see injustice landing on them or you just know, wow, it's really tough
Starting point is 00:46:24 for them to be dealing with what they're dealing with. You're gonna feel it. That's in the Buddhist metaphor, the first arrow or first dart in life. It's inherent, it's unavoidable. If we fight it, if we beat ourselves up about it, if we rage at others about it, it just makes it worse.
Starting point is 00:46:41 That's the add on part. Much of our suffering, including subtle forms of uneasiness or a gnawing sense of inadequacy, I always have to keep proving myself. I have to always keep impressing other people. That is what we add to the basic conditions of life, which in and of themselves are often just conditions in life.
Starting point is 00:47:05 They're basically neutral. They're not inherently negative. They're not inherently a first start, but then we get agitated about them. And when you realize that, it's incredibly helpful because if we are the makers of the majority of our own suffering, not diminishing, or not minimizing the actual first starts of life.
Starting point is 00:47:26 But when we start to realize how much we add to them with our complaints about the world and ourselves, our criticism of ourselves, our nastiness toward other people, our obsessing repetitively in ways that have no added value. There's no learning. We're not gaining anything from doing laps
Starting point is 00:47:46 around the misery track. We're just digging that track deeper actually through sensitizing ourselves, in part driven by the negativity bias of the brain. When you start to realize, wow, I'm the source of that myself. A, you might be depressed for a day or two or three. I have been.
Starting point is 00:48:03 When I realized, darn, I was a key factor in all those things I was blaming others for. But then you start to realize, wow, that is so hopeful. That is so fantastic. Because if I can stop adding, you know, add on suffering through my reactivity, my resentments, my self-criticisms, my meanness, my obsessiveness. If I stop doing that, I am gonna be so much happier
Starting point is 00:48:30 and lighter and more able to be good for other people as well. And more successful, I have to say that as I was reading this, I was thinking about all the, cause I think everybody has a spectrum of their add-on suffering. There's some people who really do it a lot, and they hinder themselves from any type of growth.
Starting point is 00:48:49 And then there's some people who do it a little bit, and they're more successful because they don't navigate the world blaming everything but themselves in terms of where they're at in life. So given everything we've learned about neuroplasticity, how can we counteract this? Oh, that's great. I think of people like you've described, including in business, particularly the top performers
Starting point is 00:49:10 are kind of more this way. They don't have so much friction between themselves and the world. I mean, it is what it is. They work hard, they have goals, you know, they have aims, there's a work ethic there, but you don't feel like they're having friction. It's like life, I'm doing this gesture, is a rope that moves through our hands. And as we kind of clench it, that's what creates friction and adds on all that heat, that extra suffering.
Starting point is 00:49:35 So how do we actually do that? I think of three keys, fundamentally, that are just kind of summarized as deal with the bad, turn to the good, take in the good. And that right there is really a roadmap again and again and again for dealing with life. So first off, deal with the bad. If you have real challenges, take action.
Starting point is 00:49:56 You know, as a long time therapist, I've really learned, man, there's no replacement for doing what you can. Okay, you're knocked down by life, have some compassion for yourself. Okay, got it, got it, totally sucks. And, huh, what can you do about it? Inside your mind and out there in the world, right? Including how can you give yourself a little jumpstart,
Starting point is 00:50:20 that little spark that then can move you forward. So deal with the bad. And part of dealing with the bad is accepting it mindfully. It's there. You're upset in the moment. It's how you feel. It's how you feel maybe because of your own history. If you fight how you feel, you just make it worse.
Starting point is 00:50:41 It sticks around, right? Well, we resist, persist. No. So deal with the bad in this skillful way, including through mindful spaciousness. Second, when you can, and you may not be able to do it during the first shock or the first intensity or the overwhelming pain, but as soon as you can, also turn to the good.
Starting point is 00:51:02 What is also true? Out in the world and inside yourself. Who are the people you can turn to the good. What is also true out in the world and inside yourself? Who are the people you can turn to? What are the strengths you can draw upon inside yourself? What is still working alongside what has just fallen apart? What are the flowers that are still blooming? What is the goodness in the heart of other people and inside yourself?
Starting point is 00:51:23 What are the possibilities that still remain? Turn to the good, not as a bypass, not as a spiritual or other kind of bypass of what is the bad, the problematic and the painful, but in part as a way to resource yourself to deal even more effectively with what has gone so horribly wrong. Turn to the good and then especially learn from the good.
Starting point is 00:51:46 Most people skip this step. They don't take in the good. They're experiencing something useful. A moment of feeling gritty, a moment of determination, a moment of commitment to work to their exercise program or being more patient with their aging relatives or being more rested in their own sobriety, or just simple happiness or wellbeing.
Starting point is 00:52:08 They're having that feeling, but they don't marinate in it for a beat or two or three, or a breath or two or three. They don't marinate in it. And so in the famous saying, the neurons that are firing together don't yet have time to wire together as well. Take in the good, slow it down.
Starting point is 00:52:27 I talk a lot about the how of this, it usually takes a breath or two at a time. You can take longer if you really want, but slow it down to receive into yourself, you know, the hard-won fruits of whatever you're practicing in the time. So to me, those are the big headlines, those three. And there's a lot of research that underlies,
Starting point is 00:52:46 that describes and documents the neuropsychology of this process. Yeah, and I think in your book, you said it in a really catchy way. You said, let it be, let it go, let it in. And I thought that was super catchy and something that we could just do anytime throughout the day when we just hit any sort of obstacle.
Starting point is 00:53:07 It's something that we can tell ourselves to kind of reset and focus on the good. Yeah, super. Thank you for calling that out. Of course. We'll be right back after a quick break from our sponsors. Yeah, fam. Spring is just around the corner and I'm already planning my next getaway. And that's to Portugal for my best friend's wedding. Now I'm paying for this one out of pocket because it's not for work, it's a vacation. And so I love for my vacation trips to feel free.
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Starting point is 00:59:06 So here what I'm talking about, like I said, let's look at those Olympic athletes of human happiness and wellbeing, and then reverse engineer back to ourselves. What are qualities we see in them that we can develop in ourselves and even begin to see already inside ourselves? So the first three qualities are steadiness of mind,
Starting point is 00:59:27 a lovingness of heart, and a fullness of being that makes us, helps us be even keeled, a quantum as you describe in your core. Around the edges, you could be howling at the moon with good friends on a Saturday night, but in your core, the core of your being, there's a fundamental calm, steady clarity there. So those three definitely hang together
Starting point is 00:59:50 and they're kind of psychological. They're probably very familiar to us. Interestingly, we can develop them even to the point of perfection. I mean, people who are really at the top of the mountain, and I know people, I know some people who are very close to the summit and I've accessed teachers who are hanging out there, basically, they have tremendous steadiness of mind.
Starting point is 01:00:14 Their heart is warm, even if they're being assertive and dealing with stuff. And underneath it all, you can tell, they're just rested in an underlying mood of peacefulness, contentment and love. You could see that in them and we can develop this in ourselves. Then there's that second cluster,
Starting point is 01:00:34 which is a little more, maybe seemingly airy-fairy. And yet when you kind of hear me talk about it, or when you look at it inside yourself, you go, oh yeah, I have a sense of that. I have a sense of that. So the next three are wholeness, nowness and allness. So I'm making up some words here. What do I mean by that?
Starting point is 01:00:55 The first wholeness is a sense of letting yourself be as a whole and accepting yourself as a whole without being divided internally and at war with yourself. Just that, doesn't that feel like a relief? Like, oh, there's utter self-acceptance. You're still a work in progress, you know? You're still learning a few things. You're still healing a few things.
Starting point is 01:01:18 You're still letting go of a few things inside a context in which you really accept yourself. And you have a sense of abiding as who you are as a whole. Okay, that's wholeness. Second, nowness, that means basically you're in the present, you know, the power of now, be here now, you're in the present rather than obsessing about the past or worrying about the future, you're in the present rather than obsessing about the past or worrying about the future, you're in the present.
Starting point is 01:01:47 And one thing, for example, that you start to notice when you're truly in the present, kind of right at the front edge of now receiving what's arising as it occurs, is that most of the time you're already basically okay. It may not be perfect in the present, but no shark has chewed on your leg. You're not devastated by terrible news.
Starting point is 01:02:09 You're basically all right right now in the present, whatever the future may hold. And that recognition that you actually are basically all right right now, and now, and now is extremely grounding and strengthening, especially if like me, you have any inclinations or toward anxiety, or you've acquired anxiety because of your nightmare boss,
Starting point is 01:02:35 or the guy down the hall over the years, you're basically all right right now. So coming into the present, and for each one of these in the book, I talk about very current cutting edge plausible neuroscience that underlies each one of these qualities. What's happening in the brain
Starting point is 01:02:52 when you have the sense of present moment awareness, you're really in the present and therefore how can we cultivate that so that more and more you can be stably there. And then the third is illness, fancy way of talking about relaxing the contracted sense of self put upon by others, maybe frankly kind of narcissistic relaxing that relaxing self preoccupations, relaxing that urgency to keep impressing other people as if you haven't already
Starting point is 01:03:22 done enough relaxing that while opening into everything, feeling connected. You know, you're connected, right? You realize that you're a you, like Hala is different from Rick, right? We're like two separate waves in the ocean. Different causes and conditions are manifesting as you and I right now.
Starting point is 01:03:43 And still we're part of the larger sea and our deep nature is water, which you can really go a long way with. So here we have that third cluster of wholeness, nowness and allness. And this is a cultivation for a lot of people. You know, this is more of a personal development if you have a particular interest in it.
Starting point is 01:04:06 And still, wow, in everyday life, the more that the chips are down and things are happening, the more useful it is to be able to bring your whole self to bear without fighting with parts of yourself while staying in the present, not obsessing about the past or freaking out about the future, while being very aware of how many factors are in play.
Starting point is 01:04:31 And we're connected to many factors. And therefore there are many things out there that might be useful or certainly are important to take into account. That's extremely helpful even in the middle of the worst day at your business or your marriage or your life. Then last, timelessness is really the ultimate.
Starting point is 01:04:49 For some people, that sense of timelessness is merely an extraordinary experience and that's how they understand it. That's cool, I'm fine with that. That's where they want us to stop. For many, many, many people, they have had, maybe they have in an ongoing way, a sense that there's more to everything than what we see. There's mysteriously more.
Starting point is 01:05:15 In the Buddhist tradition that more is talked about in a pretty stripped down way as what is eternal, unconditioned, not subject to arising and passing away, period. Other traditions bring more of a sense of consciousness, even lovingness, even a personality to that ultimate capital G ground. I'm not preaching here. I'm just naming things that people talk about and feel
Starting point is 01:05:43 and maybe your possibilities myself, I'm in the, I think there's more to it, you know, than what we see school and both in my experience and my kind of rational informed view of things. And that's what timelessness is about. And again, here too, we don't have to relate to that in a religious way. We can relate to it as simply an openness to mystery,
Starting point is 01:06:08 an openness to possibility, a sense of possibly a kind of underlying love even, that's woven into the ongoing wellspring of emergence of reality continuously and with a kind of attitude of don't know so much, not so sure, could be. Just that alone is an invitation into timelessness. Super, super interesting stuff. If anybody wants to pick up your book, NeuroDharma, where can they find it?
Starting point is 01:06:47 Well, thank you. It's everywhere, you know, the usual places, you know, and all the rest of it. And it's been extremely well-reviewed. It's a really, I have to say, you know, it was my sixth book. And as a parent, you know, in a sense, I'm the parent of all my books.
Starting point is 01:07:04 I love all my children, but I like NeuroDharma the best. It's a culminating book. I'm very personal in it. It's intimate. It's super practical. It's very heartfelt and it's very well referenced. So if you want the evidence, you want the goods, our son who played poker, partly through college
Starting point is 01:07:23 to put himself through college, talked about having the nuts, you know, in his through college, talked about having the nuts in his hand, having the goodies in his hand. I got the nuts in that book that support as evidence what I'm saying in it. I really encourage people to check it out. I agree. It was a really easy read,
Starting point is 01:07:37 even though I'm not a neuroscientist. And it was filled with actionable ways to actually get started and to learn how to meditate. And you gave practices. So I really enjoyed it. I highly recommend. How to use this in everyday life, not just in your meditation.
Starting point is 01:07:50 And if you want, I'll even leave you with the five minute challenge. Sure. You want it? Okay. So like I said, most people won't give five minutes a day to their practice, but you could do this if you want to. And this supports what I wrote about in the book,
Starting point is 01:08:03 not just in formalities of meditation, but in everyday life, which is where mostly we're going to heal and grow in everyday life. First, as you flow through your day, a handful of times every day, slow down for a breath to take in the good. Like right now, I'm having a nice interaction with you. You're a solid person. We don't know each other well.
Starting point is 01:08:25 It's not more than what it is, but it's not less than what it is. We can take in the good of this feeling that we have with each other and how much enjoyment I've gotten out of this, certainly for myself. So slow it down, take in the good. That'll take you maybe a minute a day. Second, know one thing in particular you are developing inside yourself these days Second, know one thing in particular
Starting point is 01:08:45 you are developing inside yourself these days. What's one thing in particular you're trying to grow? What's the superpower you're working on these days? It could be something very specific, like training yourself to be a little more patient when things happen around you, so you don't just say the first thing that pops into your head.
Starting point is 01:09:03 Or maybe you're working on being less scared of public speaking or asserting yourself in a meeting or being less vulnerable to just brooding about a word someone used or a little bit of a dismissiveness you encountered and feeling really bad for days afterward. You're working on that. So whatever it is you're trying to develop
Starting point is 01:09:24 more inside yourself as a strength, focus on opportunities, A, to experience that or some factor of it each day, and B, taking the good, slow it down. Once you get that good song playing in the inner iPod, turn on the inner recorder, so increasingly it becomes a part of you. That might take another minute or so a day. And then third, make sure that every day,
Starting point is 01:09:48 often just before you go to bed, that's a good time to do it. Do what I call marinating in deep green. In other words, instead of the red zone or the pink zone of feeling stressed and pressured and irritated and resentful and hurt over the course of a day, we deliberately rest. We find an authentic sense in the present
Starting point is 01:10:09 of peacefulness, contentment and love. Whatever way you can, and I offer a lot of ways into this in the book itself, whatever way you can, slow it down for a minute or two or three. If it's the last thing you do before your head hits the pillow, to just kind of reset and come home to this resting place inside yourself of a basic calm, a sense of enoughness and contentment, and a basic warmheartedness.
Starting point is 01:10:34 As you rest there, you will be changing your brain. You will be changing your nervous system in your body and gradually hardwiring that sense of peacefulness, contentment and love into the core of your being so that you can take it with you increasingly wherever you go. That's the five minute challenge. I love that.
Starting point is 01:10:55 So I was just gonna ask you and you answered it for me. What is one actionable thing we can do every day to become more young and profiting tomorrow? So thank you for that. And the last question we ask all of our guests is, what is your secret to profiting in life? It's a fantastic question because the way I'm gonna slightly translate it, including from my own business
Starting point is 01:11:15 experience, is durable gain, lasting gain, the good that lasts, right? So much of what we experience is nice in the moment, but it runs right through our fingers, right? There's no return on investment. There's no ROI. So what is it that leads to lasting gain, which might be translated, I have a business myself.
Starting point is 01:11:35 I'm interested in financial profit, in addition to personal profit, if you will. In terms of personal profit, lasting gain inside yourself, I think the thing that has really helped me is a kind of humility that makes me value learning. A kind of sense that, wow, we're vulnerable, we're frail, we don't know everything, life is challenging, we depend on things. And that's not shame, it's humility that says, I need to value growing, I need to look for ways every day to become a little unburdened from my childhood and my life, to become a little clearer,
Starting point is 01:12:29 a little more skillful with other people, a little kinder, you know, a little wiser, a little happier. And I have the power to do that every day. And it really does come from me, this kind of intimacy of humility in a sense that says, ah, I don't know everything already. I really need to help myself grow and heal and learn every day.
Starting point is 01:12:53 It's so true. And it's like, it never stops. There's always room to improve and to continually better yourself and your mind and the way that you operate in the world. So I totally agree there. Where can our listeners go find more about you and everything that you do?
Starting point is 01:13:06 Oh, very kind, Hala. I think my website's the best place, rickhanson.net. And it's chock full of freely offered resources, tons of quick little video snippets, audios, practices, things people can do, access to all kinds of other tools that are grounded in brain science and contemplative wisdom and practical psychology. So Rick Hanson dot net.
Starting point is 01:13:32 That's where I would encourage people to go. You might also like the podcast I do. Like you do a podcast. I do a podcast with our son, Forrest, the Being Well podcast, which is really rising in the charts, thanks to him especially. And we also have lots of great guests there too. So people might wanna check that out as well, Being Well. That's so cute that you do it with your son, I love that.
Starting point is 01:13:54 You don't hear that every day. Thank you so much, Rick. This was such an excellent conversation. Thank you, Hal. you

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