Young and Profiting with Hala Taha - Shelby Haas-Sapp: Top Sales Strategies to Convert and Scale Your Online Business | Sales | E345

Episode Date: April 7, 2025

Shelby Haas-Sapp didn’t become a sales expert overnight. At just 18 years old, she was selling door-to-door, mastering rejection, and prospecting with confidence. Now, at 23, she has built a thriving online business by combining her unapologetically feminine sales strategies with content marketing across social media. In this episode, Shelby reveals the mindset, psychology, and tactics behind closing deals. She shares how to handle objections, convert leads, scale with webinars, and stand out online. In this episode, Hala and Shelby will discuss:  (00:00) Introduction (01:32) How Motivation Drives Sales Success (03:37) Building a “Sales Psychopath” Mindset (06:53) Why Women Are More Successful at Selling (09:50) The Hot Girl Sales Mentality (16:31) How to Sell to Different Types of Buyers (26:37) Lessons from Door-to-Door Sales Strategy (29:44) Why Being a “Soft Girl” Won't Cut It in Sales (33:18) How to Handle Objections and Close Deals (45:02) Why Content is the New Sales Pitch (46:41) The Secrets to Successful Deal Closures (54:35) Social Media Sales Strategies (01:02:07) Webinars for Effective Online Selling Shelby Haas-Sapp is a sales trainer, content creator, and founder of She Sells Academy, where she empowers motivated women with the skills and mindset needed to succeed in sales. Starting in door-to-door sales, Shelby learned how to pitch, handle rejection, and build resilience. Now, she’s changing the game by teaching women how to crush it as remote sales reps, own their ambition, and achieve financial freedom. Sponsored By: RobinHood - Receive your 3% boost on annual IRA contributions, sign up at robinhood.com/gold Indeed - Get a $75 sponsored job credit at indeed.com/profiting Shopify - Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at youngandprofiting.co/shopify Microsoft Teams - Stop paying for tools. Get everything you need, for free at aka.ms/profiting Mercury - Streamline your banking and finances in one place. Learn more at mercur.com/profiting Open Phone -  Streamline and scale your customer communications with OpenPhone. Get 20% off your first 6 months at openphone.com/profiting LinkedIn Marketing Solutions - Get a $100 credit on your next campaign at linkedin.com/profiting Bilt Rewards - Start paying rent through Bilt and take advantage of your Neighborhood Benefits™ by going to joinbilt.com/PROFITING. Airbnb - Find yourself a co-host at airbnb.com/host Resources Mentioned: She Sells Academy: bit.ly/SheSellsRemote  Active Deals - youngandprofiting.com/deals   Key YAP Links Reviews - ratethispodcast.com/yap  Youtube - youtube.com/c/YoungandProfiting  LinkedIn - linkedin.com/in/htaha/  Instagram - instagram.com/yapwithhala/  Social + Podcast Services: yapmedia.com  Transcripts - youngandprofiting.com/episodes-new  Entrepreneurship, Entrepreneurship Podcast, Business, Business Podcast, Self Improvement, Self-Improvement, Personal Development, Starting a Business, Strategy, Investing, Sales, Selling, Psychology, Productivity, Entrepreneurs, AI, Artificial Intelligence, Technology, Marketing, Negotiation, Money, Finance, Side Hustle, Mental Health, Career, Leadership, Mindset, Health, Growth Mindset, Economics, E-commerce, Ecommerce, Negotiation, Persuasion, Inbound, Value Selling, Account Management, Business Growth, Scaling, Sales Podcast.

Sales isn't a chase, it's a dance. And when you chase somebody, they're going to run away. I like to say you have to be a complete literal psychopath in sales. You're going to go call, call, call, door, door of no, no, no, no. But you have to go into every single encounter thinking this is the person that's going to buy from me. And I got some stats. Female reps are 11% more likely to win deals than men. So talk to us about why women are so good at selling.

So this is what I've found is people believe 0% of the words that come out of a salesperson's mouth because, duh, you're a sales rep. But they believe 100% of the words that come out of their own mouth. So a lot of my job is asking the right questions and getting them to say the words

that they can't go back on later. So on Instagram, what do you feel like goes most viral? There's like two buckets. One bucket is... Yeah, fam, we get a lot of big names on the show from Gary Vaynerchuk to Mel Robbins to Adam. grant. And it turns out, even though this is young and profiting podcast, most of the people that I

interview aren't young at all. And if you guys listen to the show, you know that. But from time to time, I do like to keep my eyes open for rising young stars that we could learn from. This is all about actionable advice, real advice that we can use in entrepreneurship. And sometimes there's a young person out there that just really knows their stuff. And even if they're at the start of their entrepreneurial careers, they understand a certain topic and they understand how to teach that topic. And that's why I'm so happy to welcome Shelby Sapp to the show. She's 23 years old. She's taken the sales community by storm. She's a sales expert. She's completely dominated the female sales training space. And she's the founder and CEO of the She Sales Academy. Her approach to sales

training has garnered her hundreds of thousands of followers on Instagram and TikTok. In this episode, we're really going to focus on two things. For sales strategies, we're going to talk about objections, mindset, how to be a sales psychopath, how to hot girl and hot guy sell. We're also going to talk about how to build an online community and sell to them. If you guys want a masterclass and hot girl, hot guy sales training, you guys are in for a treat today. Without further delay, here's Shelby.

Shelby, welcome to Young and Profiting Podcast. Thank you for having me. I'm so excited to talk to you today because I, I love sales. I feel like I'm a natural salesperson. Everything I do at my company right now, the main focus is sales. I've been selling since I was 10 years old, I would say. But many people think that sales are scary. And Jeremy Miner came on my show. I know you talked to him recently. And he says that nobody is born a salesperson and you've got to work at it. So that's my first question to you. What kind of person do you think is cut out for sales? Do you think everybody is

cut out for sales? you would never guess who's going to be good at sales is what I've learned. And that's coming from my sales trainer background from different industries is I would put money on like this guy that would come out and do door to door, top of the football team, super extravagant, extroverted guy. I'm like, you're going to do so good. He doesn't at all. But then like the shy person that just studies, knows the script, works hard, doesn't sit down. That person completely outsells the other one. So you really just never know. But I think the main trait of like what makes somebody good is intrinsic motivation.

And I think at the end of the day, no matter your personality type, shy, extroverted, outgoing, if you know that you are so motivated that nothing else is going to stop you, that's what's going to make you good. Because at the end of the day, you can teach anybody sales, right? But it's like the work ethic. And when you're so down, going for that extra call, rolling that extra objection. You can't really teach somebody that. So I always look for that in the girls that are in my academy

and really try to instill the intrinsic motivation in them. And speaking of like mindset, motivation, what kind of limiting beliefs do you feel like people usually have that's holding them back from actually being good at selling? I would say that people are scary. People are not scary at all. Especially I teach a lot of women. The men, they're like so scared to sell these alphasia.

males. And it's like, those guys are more than often the teddy bears. And they kind of respect when you are a little bit pushy with them. Like, they're like, okay, like, I respect this girl. I respect the hustle. So just kind of knowing that other people aren't as scary as they seem. And they have no idea what you're saying. So you can just have fun with it. Bring back the human connection to sales rather than just like selling with a script. So you're like blowing up on social media. You're doing really well on Instagram and TikTok. And I saw one of your videos and you were talking about how you need to be a sales psychopath. Oh, yes. You do. Talk to me about that. I like to say you have to be a complete literal psychopath in sales because a lot of people think, you know, sales is super cool,

the shiny thing. You can make a lot of money. It's like, yes, but you don't get paid to show up. You get paid to go the extra mile. And sales is something to where, it's a direct reflection of your work ethic. So if you really want to make it worth it and to be that top 1% cream of the crop, you have to be a little bit of a psycho, not only in your work ethic, but also in your ability to just know how to regulate your emotions throughout the day. Like for example, you're going to go call, call, call, door, door of no, no, no, no. But you have to go into every single encounter thinking this is the sale, this is the person that's going to buy from me, when maybe the last 10 people told you to yourself. So to me, that's so psychotic because

that's not normal. That's not normal human behavior. You have to trick yourself into being this psychopathic mentality in order to really reap, in my opinion, the true benefits of sales because that really does come from the top of the top, the best of the best. It's so true because is like nobody really knows like what your track record is. Nobody knows how many sales you made before that day. The customer knows nothing about you. They don't know your ranking. They don't know anything about you.

So you can come there with good energy and just have the confidence and know your stuff. And they have no idea how well you've done in the past. Exactly. And it sounds so simple, but it's really not because having that conviction in your voice and that sure tone and that confidence and that energy and the aura, when you just got demolished by every single person before is so hard. But like you said, they really have no clue.

So you almost have to like brainwash yourself into being like, this is the client that's going to buy. And that one client that buys, that commission is going to make up for all of the nose that you had that day. So all it takes is the one. You can't let the other people get to your one. I feel like before I get on any big sales calls, I literally am telling myself like,

you're the number one person at this. You've crushed so. Like I always give myself like a little pep talk. Like listen, you've got this. You're the best expert at this. And when I don't come with that kind of energy, like if I'm having a bad day or just like tired or sick, I feel like totally go the other way.

I always say your energy is your currency. And being sad will literally make you poor. No matter what you do, especially in sales though. And that's not saying you can't be safe. We're all sad sometimes, but you do have to almost just fake it sometimes. And that's the psycho is I like it doesn't matter. Sales does not matter what's going on in your life. What emotions you're going through. If you're having a bad day, if you're down, if your boyfriend broke up with you, like the client has no idea they don't care. So it's like, do you want to make money or not? You can either

turn it on or all. So I know that you spent a lot of your time focused on selling to women. And there's been a lot of recent reporting saying that women are betting better at selling than men, and you've really built your whole brand around female sales reps. And I got some stats. Female reps are 11% more likely to win deals than men. So talk to us about why women are so good at selling. So this is what I've found is one, women get a little bit underestimated when they hop onto a sales call. And this can be either a really good or a really bad thing. Because if you don't know how to run the call if you don't know how to establish your authority, your credibility, your respect, then you're just going to get walked all over. And then that's why some women think, oh, well, I'm just, I'm just not good

because they don't respect me. It's like you didn't demand the respect. So that's kind of like the way it could go negatively if you don't know how to use your advantages to your advantage. But the best way is you get a little bit underestimated in the beginning, but then you kind of like take charge and put your foot down almost in the sale. That way they're like, oh, this girl knows her stuff. Like, I respect that. So then it kind of almost becomes a positive. And that's what I train my girls on is how to use, like, yes, we're going to have a little

bit of a stereotype no matter who you're talking to. Older women might look down on you. Younger women might look up to you. Older men might be like, oh, she has no idea what she's talking about. So using those different stereotypes as a way to actually be a plus side in sales. Also, men, I've trained a lot of men specifically more in. door to door, they have that credibility. Like, as soon as they hop on a call, they have that authority. They have a little bit more respect. And so for them, it's more about building the softer

side throughout the sales process versus girls. I teach them to do a little bit of the opposite, because people already want to open up to you. That makes sense. So it's like women already have natural empathy and the men, you actually teach them how to have better empathy so that they can be more like women in the sales process. So it's kind of like a blest. of the soft side, but also like maintaining that respect and credibility. Because that's what sales is, is it's perfectly teetering the line between let's get the deal done. This is what makes sense. Like the business side, the logical side of your brain, but then the other side of your brain is emotions. And I always tell my students that I teach, you can't sell with logic because then a buyer is

going to make a logical decision. They're going to take your logical pitch and they're going to make a logical decision, which is, this sounds great, send it over, and we'll talk about it later. That's the logical thing to do, right, is not to spend thousands of dollars on a 30-minute call. But what creates that buying atmosphere is using the logical side, but also pulling that emotion in order to create the buying atmosphere. So both sides. I love that. I'm going to get into the emotion part of it later with you.

But first, I want to stick on this like hot girl concept, right? So like, you call your sales girls, hot girls. yourself very beautiful, blonde, skinny, young. So do you think that looks has anything to do with your success in sales? I think it would be stupid to say that like looks have nothing to do with it. But I think that it can go, like I said, a good way or a negative way. I think you can be taken not as seriously if you're a pretty girl and you don't know your stuff. People just assume like, oh, she's just another pretty face. Like I'm not going to trust her with my business. Because what I've found especially with a lot of the girls that I would train,

oh my gosh, back in my door to door days, I would recruit all of my best friends from my sororities, all pretty girls. They would, some of them did terrible. And it's because like pretty girls haven't had a lot of rejection before.

So it's like people would waste their time. And if you don't know how to do it right, it's kind of a negative. So the looks things, I think everybody has advantages and disadvantages. You just have to know what to use. But the hot girl, mentality that I always talk about in my content has nothing to do with looks. It also has nothing

to do with being a girl. There's so many guys that I'm like, you are a hot girl. What it is is this. I tell people that I want them to imagine like the hottest girl they know walks into a room. How does she walk in? Is she hunched over looking at her phone? Kind of like, oh my gosh, who should I talk to? Should I go stand in the corner? Or is she the girl that walks in? Her energy is just so infectious and other people are like, oh, I want to figure out what she's about. I want to go ask her questions. So it's more about the aura and the energy that you have that you carry into every single conversation. So do you ever get people telling you like, you know, what do you know you're 23 years old? Why are you teaching sales? All the time. And it's so funny because

I like to say I've lived 30 years in the last probably four years. So I feel like, I'm like 60 years old, but I do get that. And what I like to say is, I don't have kids. I don't have like, this is my thing. This is every single piece of my energy goes into this. And I also bring a different layer of I know what works to sales training and sales changes every single day, especially with online, how people perceive things. A lot of the sales techniques that a lot of the older sales trainers use when I was like a sales rep, I would listen to that, try it, and get the door slammed in my face. So it's like there's a lot of little things that you just have to know, like,

realistically would that work or not. And I think that's kind of where a lot of my content, people see it. And they're like, oh, that would actually work. Yeah. And you have a track record. You've done great in sales. And here's the thing, you're a good teacher. So when I hear feedback about or if I've seen stuff when people are like kind of hating

on you, I'm like, she's saying I'm a sales version. She's talking the right stuff. And she's doing good job. teaching and like she's she's able to teach it and I think that's really the difference right so kudos to you i'm really proud of everything that you've done and i think you're awesome thank you i remember i was talking to somebody and i couldn't for the life of me remember who the person was so if you guys are tuning in and you remember this conversation on the podcast let me know but i remember i was telling a story on this podcast and i was talking to somebody super credible and i was telling them how when i

worked at disney and corporate everybody's i looked much younger than i am and so Everybody used to think I was like 10 years younger than I was. And I was treated like an intern, even though I had all this experience. And I ended up leaving corporate to be an entrepreneur. One of the reasons why is because I looked too young to be taken seriously. And the guy told me that in business, the age you want to look like is 35. I agree, whether you're older or younger. And to me, like, I always like remember that.

I was like, okay, I just need to look like 30, 35 forever. That is so funny because I always tell my friends, I'm like, I feel like girls want to look younger. I make myself try to look older. You know, like I put my hair up, glasses on, red nails. Like I'm trying to make myself look a little bit more older because you're so right. I feel like that's like the perfect age for respect, but also still being like somebody that people really are like, oh my gosh, like I really want to talk to her. Exactly. You've got experience, but you're still young enough to be like hungry and tech.

savvy. And so like 35 is the age that you want to emulate. And I like never forgot that. So when it comes to sales, I personally feel like my femininity wearing makeup, dressing nice, grooming helps me close deals. When I was saying before, like, if I'm ever like sick, tired or like don't have time to do my makeup or hair and I get on a sales call, I'm like 50% chances is not going to close because like, I don't feel my best. I don't look my best. Maybe the lighting is bad. I'm like in a hotel or something. And so I wanted to get your thoughts on that, like grooming men and women. What do you think matters? 100%.

So the majority of the sales that I teach are like face to face. So like you can see the other person. And I straight up tell, well, I told my girls or my guys when I was doing door to door and I tell my girls now, you need to look good. Like looks do matter in a sales process. They make people want to talk to you, hear you out a little bit more. But also like yourself. When you look and feel your best self, you're going to be more open with people.

You're going to have just a better energy. And that kind of comes back to the hot girl mentality of I am that girl. And when I show up, I'm going to look my best. I'm going to feel my best. And I'm going to act my best. Cody Sanchez has been on the show a couple times. And she told me that women who wear makeup make 30% more on average. Men who have better grooming make 15% more.

So it's worth it. And it's not about your looks. It's not about like how actually like symmetrical your faces. It's really about the grooming, a good haircut, nice clothes, white teeth, like all that kind of stuff really matters. Okay. So let's get into some more tactical stuff. I want to stick on the gender topic a bit. Talk to me about how a woman should sell to a man versus a man sell to a woman and I'll give you some other scenarios. The biggest difference is a woman really needs to establish frame super early on or else she'll lose it. And so what that basically means is you need to establish your credibility as somebody that knows her stuff, knows exactly why they're on the call, isn't getting on the call and saying, oh, where are you based out of? Oh, my gosh,

I love your outfit. Oh, where is it from? It's like, no, just get to the actual point of the call first or else the rapport can actually have a negative effect on you. I like to teach my girls to really establish that credibility early on into the pitch. And then you open up the rapport for the question-based selling. And for women, this is the biggest part to let the other person talk a little bit more. So asking really good questions in order to get somebody to open up. And then also being super simple when it comes to closing. A lot of women try to talk a lot when it comes to the close.

animals like justify why the prices are there when somebody didn't even ask. You know, they could have been able to 100% afford it and they're like, yeah, so this is the price. You know, it's because there's a lot that goes into it and blah, blah, blah. It's like, no, this is the price. Shut up. I always say kiss them. Keep it simple, stupid.

Just shut up. So that's more for the women is really leading with that respect, getting them to open up to you and then ending with the respect. It's like a little sandwich. For the men, I like to have men be a little. bit more warm in the beginning and then leading with the credibility and then a little bit more warm at the end. So it's almost a flip flop just because I think, especially if they're selling to another woman, if there's a man on the other side of the screen, they're almost like, oh,

sales rep. So they have the stigma of like, oh, there's just another sales bro, sales guy. So when they kind of drop that boundary and they're a little bit more human in the beginning, it's a plus side for the men. And how about a woman selling to a woman? Okay. So women selling to a woman, a lot of the girls that I train in the beginning, they're like, oh, girl, like they try to go the bestie route too soon. And it comes off a little fake. And women, buyers have such good intuition. So it's really good to connect, but making sure that it's not a fake connection. So I always like to lead with like the business first. And then if I genuinely like love her shirt or I genuinely love the way she carries herself or talks, I'm going to say that.

but I'm not just going to try to be all besty besty with her when it comes off fake because they can sniff that. And as soon as that happens, it's completely, completely done. Okay. How about selling to an alpha male versus a beta male? I love this one. So selling to an alpha male, you have to make him think that it's his decision. You can never tell him like, okay, yeah, this is your problem. This is the solution. Like, this is how much it's going to be, let's go.

He's going to be like, no, I think that it should be done this way. Or in the back of his head, he's going to be like, well, we've, tried that before or I need to look at this competitor first. It's his decision. So I always like to say things kind of like, okay, well, I mean, you're the one that's been dealing with this for so long. Like, why do you think this is happening? Or, I mean, I'm sure you guys have tried so many things. I mean, you've been in business for quite some time. Like, what else have you guys tried? And like, why didn't that work out? And they, this is the point where they yap, yap, yap. And they're like, oh my gosh, well, Stacey tried to do this and that didn't work. And then we tried this and blah, blah, blah.

and then it's perfect. You're giving me so much ammo that I'm going to use later on when I'm more of just the helper and the problem solver rather than a sales rep at the end. So the alpha males, yeah, you have to like put them up on a pedestal and make them feel all good about themselves in order to really let them be super comfortable buying from you. Beta males also some of my favorite sales ever.

I have a lot of vivid memories selling beta mails. Very funny. I remember this one time when this was maybe my first year doing Dordogor sales. I remember sitting down on a curb at a grown man's house for him with 45 minutes going over everything, every question. He just can't make a decision. And I just told him, I'm like, okay, Ben, like, it's 8.30. What's your last name?

And he was like, let's just say Blanco. He's like, Blanco, but why? And I'm like, we're signing you up. That's it. We've been talking for way too long. I'm going home. Like, we're just signing you up. You need it.

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especially with a woman selling to them, will interrupt you a little bit or they'll kind of like dominate the conversation. So it's not like one specific cue or another. It's just like, okay, this guy needs to have his input in pretty much everything. Or they almost try to steer the call or just super loud. I hate when people call me like little lady. I feel like that's like a big queue that I get sometimes. And then beta males, they are a little bit more timid, a little bit, like, they let you completely steer the call. And with that person, I'm going to maintain that control, outline that control, and then they're going to follow that control the whole way through. Is it the same thing with selling to women? Can there be alpha women and beta women? Is it just

basically the same? For sure. Yeah, it's just the women on women dynamic. You have to make sure that you're being like genuine and relatable to this girl and not super like unrelatable or try to be fake besties with her. Do you feel like as a woman you should tone down your hair and makeup if you're going to sell to a woman? Yes. So I have had a couple girls to experiment with this and we had a little thread on it in my community. Yes. And I think that this makes you a little bit more relatable, but also like you want the client to feel like the superstar the whole time. You never want to be the one that's like shiny wearing all these fancy jewelry. Like, no, nobody wants to buy from somebody that looks like that.

So people want to buy from somebody that like makes them feel good. It's the same thing with dating. I always relay a lot of sale stuff back to dating is like, you could go on a date with a guy and you're like, oh my God, this guy is so cool. He's amazing. He's done all these things that's so cool. Or you could go on a date with a guy and you walk away and you're like, he made me feel so cool. Like he made me feel like the shining star.

And what you're going to do is you're probably going to go on a date with the guy that made you feel amazing more than the other guy. So that's how I always like to treat that dynamic with my clients is I want you to feel like that girl. And I feel like especially after you close them, like let's say you have some sort of an agency, I have to keep continuing to see that person. You really don't always want to be like so dolled up. So they're like, oh, here you are coming on the call again, like so dolled up. and we're just having a business meeting, you know? So I try to be very casual in those situations. Okay, last one.

Young versus old. Okay, so young people. So you can either sell with pain or pleasure. And everybody knows selling with pain is way better just because people buy with pain more than they buy with pleasure. People sell painkillers a lot easier than they sell vitamins, basically. So you always want to look for the pain and pleasure with every single person. So every single person is going to be different.

You might be on a call with a young person who has a lot of pain. You're going to sell with that. But for the most part, generalization, young people are buying the dream. And older people are buying a pain point. So you're selling a little bit more with dream state questions with young people of like, okay, you have so much potential. Like, where do you want to get to? I could see that for you versus older people.

It's a lot of past stuff that you're bringing up, which is going to be more provoking questions, emotional pain. And then I always like to say with old people, you need to let them talk about their life, maybe their deceased wife or their grandkids or like whatever is going on in their life. But make sure that they're not wasting your time and like bring them back into the sale periodically. That way you're not stuck there talking about little Jimmy's football game last Sunday. And you're like, okay, like, I'm here for a sales call. So like, let's go.

I feel like older people, and I'm talking about like 60 and up, you know, like they tend to ask a lot of questions. And I feel like the sales process just takes longer. They ask a lot of questions. They're scared of salespeople and they don't, they're not as trustworthy. And they seem to have a million questions. That's my experience. A million questions. They like to know every single scenario.

And old people, yes, that's also a lot of the beta people too. And a lot of women too. Women love to know. they buy comfort. So they like to know every single detail, exactly what happens when you purchase, all the next steps and everything. So if somebody needs a little bit more comfort,

I always say, you sit there with them and you give them the comfort. And those people will be your best customers because they ask every single question in the book. They won't come to you later being like, oh, well, I didn't know this. I didn't know this. I didn't know this. You're going to be like, you ask me every single question.

You know, like we went over everything. So in my experience, they're actually some of my favorite customers. because they know what they're buying. Yeah, I totally agree. So Shelby, you started your sales career with door-to-door selling. And I honestly couldn't think of a better sales training to get thicker skin, get comfortable with rejection. So first off, tell us about your door-to-door selling experience and what kind of sales skills did you learn? Everything under the sun. Oh, my gosh. So I started doing door-to-door sales when I was 18 years old. I was working like all these different jobs in college.

And I just remember thinking I'm going to be successful. I just don't know how. I was so scared of sales because that was the one like business internship that I haven't dabbled in. And so I remember talking to one of my mentors and he's like, yeah, I did door to door sales. Great skill set. Made a lot of money. And I'm like, okay, cool. So I'll go out and try it.

I went out there. First of all, I almost quit before I went out there. Thank God I didn't quit because I wouldn't be here. But my first summer, it was amazing. I was the only girl. And I really kind of like what you were saying when you, what you felt at your corporate job. That's kind of what I felt is like, no matter how much I sold, no matter how top of the leaderboards I was every single week, there's just a level of like

respect that's hard to get when you work with either older people in a corporate setting or all guys, all sales bros. But I loved it. I just love being able to walk up to a door and somebody opened the door and they're like, oh my gosh, how do I get this girl off of my door? I'm cooking dinner right now. like I just put my kid to bed and then you say the right words and kind of like disarm them. And then they're giving you their Amex like 10 minutes later. It's the most confident building activity you could possibly do. And that skill set carries over so well. I always like to say door to door sales is like the number one sales skill set that you could possibly get. It's the hardest because you have to go out to a market, obviously be in person a lot more rejection.

there's a lot better opportunities than door to door. But like starting out, that skill set you'll learn is insane. Yeah, because it's like kind of like cold calling, but in real life. And nobody invited you to their house. No. So it's not like in a store. Like I got my sales skills. Like I worked in so many clothing stores.

And that gave me a lot of experience. But people were coming into my house. You're like going to like, we're like busy right now. Go away. Oh my gosh. Yeah. Busy right now. Sometimes, like, you even have to get them out of the house.

So, like, everybody has the ring cameras now. So a lot of people see a door-to-door sales rep and they're like, oh, they don't even answer the door. So a lot of it is, like, the art of trying to get somebody out of the house and peeking their curiosity within the first, like, five seconds. That way they just at least listen. Like, a big thing with that industry is just getting people to listen to your sales pitch versus, like, what you're saying warm leads.

This is why, like, my academy is for high ticket sales because it's, all warm leads. And I try to tell the girls, I'm like, you have no idea how good you have it. Like somebody's actively coming to you. I would have killed for that. I know. So it's great skill set. Well, now you know how to handle rejection. And I know that you say we need to love rejection, not just like we need to love it. We need to make sure we're not being soft girls. So what do you mean by that? Okay, there's a couple things with that. Number one, the rejection thing. I always train people, especially with mindset, because sales is a big with mindset, is it's pretty much a math equation.

So if your closing ratios, let's say 40%, that means every 10 people you talk to, you're going to close four of them. If the first six that you talk to are just no, no, no, no, no, no, you should be so excited because literally mathematically, the next four are going to buy from you. They have to. And so you know that not every single person is going to say no to you forever. So the more knows you get, I look at it like you're just, sifting through the non-qualified buyers and getting to the qualified buyers that are actually

going to buy from you. So it's more like every time I get a know, I'm like, okay, for sure, like, thank you. Like I'll never call you again. Well, that's false because I will be blowing up your phone. But it's like, okay, done, done, done. And then I wait for the person that's like actually sitting down serious ready to go. So yeah, old saying of every knows closer to yes is so true. But it's more of like the mathematical reasoning behind it is true. So that and then, The soft girl. I have a problem with the soft girl. I can't do it. It's a big trend right now. And it's like the soft girl, demure life, sitting back, relaxing, letting a man pay for your whole life, not really working too hard, letting everything come to you, attracting, which I'm all here

for. A lot of the things that I do with my girls is mindset, spirituality, law of attraction, being delusional manifestation. So I get that. But you can't just do that. You have to do that. And then you have to put your actions behind that. You have to put your money where your mouth is and actually show up. Like you can't show up to a sales call and be like,

I'm going to manifest this person to buy. And then you get hit with one objection and you're like, yeah, for sure, I'll follow up with you tomorrow. It's like, no, you're going to sit there and it's going to be uncomfortable. And it's going to be, require a lot of effort, but you're going to sit there. You're going to roll objection after objection after objection. until they either buy from you or literally want to kill you.

No, I'm kidding. But I always tell my girls like, yes, you can be soft girl. But when it comes to sales and when it comes to like work, you're hard girl. So you can like turn it on and off. But if you want to make money, there's literally no way around it when it comes to sales. Yeah. You got to just go after it. You got to make sure that they know that you know your stuff.

And that's not a passive thing. That's like an alpha attitude that you have to have. It is. Yeah. So I see that trend. And I'm like, I don't know about that. Yeah. And not to mention those girls that just get their lives paid for,

they have no control over their lives at the end of the day. And that's the thing is like money's energy. And so I totally get like you're marrying somebody and they want to take care of you. I love that because that's like a protective energy of like, you're good. I got you. But it shouldn't be the be all end all. Because what if said person leaves,

which is a true reality. nobody ever thinks they're going to leave in the beginning. So it's always knowing that you either have a skill set that you could turn into money at any point in time, which, in my opinion, I could sell anything. You could sell anything. So it's like learning skill sets that can never be taken away from you or having a business that can never be taken away from you is always just the most confident building thing with a woman to know that she could if she wanted to, but also just the smartest.

So you were bringing up objections before. And I know there's like a limited number of things that people can really do. say, like you can actually think through all the objections that somebody's going to have for your product or service. So I'm going to rattle off an objection and then I want you to tell me how to respond. Okay. Okay. For sure. I love that. Okay. I need more time. How much time do you need? I don't know, maybe a couple months? A couple months. Okay. Let's double it. I'll give you, you said you want one month. I'll give you two months. Just because if we were to move forward, I would want to make sure that you are super sure 100% confident because in this program,

these people are confident. These people are ready to go. And a big part of my job is making sure that everybody's good to go when they get in. That way we have proper testimonials. So if you're not there yet, let's just not make a decision. And in the meantime, while you're doing your job and kind of thinking about it, I'll do my job and send you over all of the information in order to make sure that when you do think about it, you'll have a really good educated decision.

So what are two things you would want me to include in those email flows? That way you can make an educated decision. I love that. You're taking it away and people want what they can't have. So suddenly they're like, oh, no, no, I really only need, maybe I only need a week. You're taking it away now they can't have it. That's what I say as like the hot girl is when it comes to a point. And normally this, I need to think about it.

Objection is just a smokescreen. So I handled it as it was a real objection. But most of the time it's a smoke screen. So it's just kind of like, no for sure. and kind of like brush over it because people are just scared at the end of the day. But when it's a true, like you've done it a couple times and they're like, no, I need to think about it. It's like, okay, give them the time then. But you give them fake time, the illusion of that. And then you can just get back into the sales pitch by giving them what they want, disarming them and then getting back into the pitch.

So you're saying by asking them, like, what do you need to see in their proposal? You feel like that's going to shorten up the time that they actually wanted or just like they didn't really want the time. They wanted the information. Yes, that was my point with that is you would then say, oh, well, can you send me over some reviews? Can you send me over some testimonials? Can you send me over everything that's included, all the package options? And then as you're like typing up the email, you're like, oh my God, for sure. Like, I actually have all of the testimonials pulled up here. Let me just show you. And then you're just right back into the sales pitch. And you're showing them. If that doesn't work, another angle I like

to use is convenience. And this is something that you tie back in from earlier is, you know, if you're a busy mom or you're a business owner, whatever you're doing, I always like to say, you can always think about it. But to be honest, like, do you want to think about it? Like, you're a busy mom, you're a business owner. You're never going to have intentional time like we do right now to make a decision. And when it comes with a decision, maybe you need time, but what you need is more information in order to make a great decision. So we have the time and we have the information, which is me. So what are two things? Yeah. And depending on the solution, if they say they need more time, we could be like,

well, how much time have you wasted not making a decision or how much time and money you're going to lose if you wait two months to implement X, Y, Z, right? One of my favorite things, too, is when people are like, let me sleep on it. I always like to say, well, don't you get the best sleep when you already made a decision? It's already good to go. Like, you're going to get the best sleep ever once we make that decision. So do you want to wait a while and be thinking about this every night? Oh, should I do this?

Or do you want to just do it? We've been talking for like an hour. Let's just do it. You'll get the best sleep tonight. Let's go. Okay, how about it's too expensive? I mean, you get what you pay for. Depends on what you're selling, but I always position myself as the most expensive person.

So I'm telling this person, like, for sure, there's 40 other people lined down the street that'll take your business in a heartbeat. But when it comes to a service-based business or when it comes to a fitness program, a health program, whatever you're selling, if you're going to do it, you might as well do it right. And so if you want cheap, that's definitely not us. There's other people. But if what you want is a great product or great service and a good reputation behind it. that that's actually going to get you the results, then that's what we do. I love that. So I know with me, like, I have two businesses.

I have my podcast network. I have my social media agency. And if somebody tells me my social media services are too expensive, we're like the number one LinkedIn marketing agency, we charge $10,000 a month for LinkedIn. So a lot of people are like, whoa, that's expensive. And I'll be like, well, are you selling right now? Yes. If I made you an influencer on LinkedIn and you got 10x to 100x more leads every month,

you would make that $10,000 back right away, right? Exactly. Give them the track record of who stayed with you. I'm like, you know, I've had these clients that have been with me for six years and they're happily paying the 10K. I also like to do the inverse. So you can do the positive of like, obviously like it costs this much a month, but I mean, let's say we get you two clients to make that back in this, whatever. So that's the positive, but also the negative, which is the opportunity cost of like, okay, so you're right here. What's the cost of you not doing this? Let's say we can get you here and you're here, you're actually losing all of this over the next two months. So you can take that

positive, which I love, and then you can also do the negative if you want to get more mathematical and more granular about it in like a make money offer. So I love that. And it's really important to actually ask questions so that like, for example, I know how much they're charging for their offer, how they get leads, what are their typical way of getting leads? Do they close deals on their own? So it's important to know like whatever your business is, what questions do you need to ask the person so that if they do give you the objection, you're like, well, no, if you get two clients that pays for the service, I'm going to get you 100 clients a month, you know? Well, that's the biggest thing with these objections that I try to teach my girls is in door to door, it was like objection

central. But in high ticket and anything that's more warm leads than anything, you can do so much front-end work to where these objections shouldn't even really be that big of a deal towards the end. I call this shutting doors. So I basically say there's about six, different doors that are open, you know, time, price, anything that they've done before, fear, priority, money. And you need to shut every single door that way, they can't open it back up later into the sales pitch. So like, for example, the objection that, you know, you just gave me the first one of, I need to think about it or it's not the right time. I would ask a question in the beginning of the sale saying something like, okay, well, I mean, you've been in this

business for quite some time. Like, why haven't you done this before? Or on a scale from one to 10, how ready are you in order to get real results with this? And they'll say maybe seven, okay, seven's really high, but why not a 10? What would make you a 10? And so those kind of like shutting the doors in the beginning will prevent them from saying, I need to think about it. And even if they do, you can use the ammo that you got to the objection to like tailor to that person.

So smart. Yeah. So it's a little bit of a different way to train every industry. But I prefer the warm lead one all the way because these. cold hard objections. It's like, if you do it right, you'll have so much ammo to where you're actually excited to hear an objection. So you're like, girl, you just told me you were a nine. Like, come on. Let's be fucking for real. You know? Yeah. Basically, like the front end work of the sale, everybody's like, when they see me, they're like, oh, well, how do I roll this objection? What do I say

when they say this? How do I close somebody? It's like, okay, the end should be the easiest part. The beginning is the part that everybody overlooks. Everybody just hops on is like, oh, nice to meet you, well, let me show you a little bit about what we do. Price. Oh, I need to think about it. It's expensive. I've already done something like this before. And it's like because you didn't do the front part, right.

Exactly. Like if you get them to tell you what their objections are or to like dismantle these objections in the beginning with those doors that you mentioned, they're not going to want to go back on their word. They're not going to want to contradict themselves because people always want to be right. Well, that's what I always say is people believe zero percent of the words that come out of a salesperson's mouth because, duh, your sales rep. but they believe 100% of the words that come out of their own mouth.

So a lot of my job is asking the right questions and getting them to say the words that they can't go back on later because it would feel so unnatural and it would make them, like you said, not right and to go back on their word. Also, I know a lot of the people watching are males. So I have a little analogy that I like to relate to a lot of the guys. But a lot of people underestimate the front end of the sale. But if you think about it, I always like to relate it back to dating.

It's like when you take a girl out on a date, you know, you're going to do, you're going to set the date up right. You're going to butter her up, open up her chair, pay for the meal, tell her what to wear, all this stuff. Like send her a car. That way, the clothes at the end of the day is so much easier, right? If you don't do the whole date right, then you're just going to be digging yourself out of a hole when you go to kiss her at the end of the night. Yeah, good analogy. Okay, a couple more. I tried something similar and it didn't work out.

Are you married? No. Do you want to be married? Yeah. Have you had an ex-boyfriend before? Yes, many. Do we hate him? No, I don't hate anyone. I know that was funny, but my point is, you know, if your goal is still the same, it doesn't matter what else you've tried before. That shouldn't stop you from still reaching that goal. So same. Like, I hate my ex-boyfriends as well, but I still want to get married, have that family and everything. So that doesn't stop me from going on dates. So what should stop you from trying out a different avenue in order to get to X, Y, Z, whatever you're selling? That's one of my favorite ones

just because as soon as I asked that, they're like, I mean, yes or I mean no. Like, it doesn't matter what they say. And then I like to use analogies to sell a lot just because it makes things come in people's brains. So pretty much no matter what objection, you can use an analogy. Like one with prices, like organic groceries.

You can do costs seg with different Starbucks drinks or gas tanks. But I always like to bring it back to something that they know to where they're like, oh my God, yeah, I get it. And so the marriage one is easy because it's like, okay, well, do you still want to, get leads for your business. Do you still want to blah, blah, blah? Yeah, the problem hasn't gone away. Right. You can also ask them like, and this is something that I would ask in the beginning of the pitch is what else have you tried before? Why didn't you like that? What are you looking for? That way,

when they're like, at the end of the pitch, they're not going to tell me, oh, I've done something else. It's like, we already talked about that girl. We're already good on that. And I love what you say, you say like an objection is like an infection. If you don't resolve it, it just gets worse and worse down the down the pipeline. And like the infection starts in the beginning. So that would start, for example, like if you're on a call with a girl and she has like fat rock, she's obviously married. And if you don't ask the proper questions and shut the door of the spouse objection in the beginning, you're going to get it at the end, like nine times out of 10. And so you can either one save an hour of your time asking Stacey about, oh, like, has your husband, have you guys

ever talked about this before. What does he think about this? Does he even know that you're on this call? Do you guys have a budget set aside for this? Not if she's like, oh, yeah, no, he handles everything. He doesn't even know I'm on this call. I would just be like, okay, no problem. You go grab your husband and we'll schedule a follow-up call with your husband because I want everybody to be in on the same position because you can just waste so much time if you don't resolve the spouse objection in the beginning. But you want to be careful not to assume that the guy is bringing in all the money. You would be surprised how many times the guys would give the spouse objections. It's pretty 50-50.

And the worst thing that all the guys that I would train a door to doors, they would always assume that the husbands would do it. And I'm like, no, you don't understand. Like, a lot of the guys need their wife's approval. So you really do never know. So that's why it's important to ask those questions in the beginning. Happy New Year, Yav Gang. I just love the unique energy of the new year.

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So everything's a sale. It's not just a sales call. It's not just a sales pitch. It's if you're selling a program for a coach in there or putting content out, that's part of the sale. And so a lot of the times when, you know, we work with offers, I like to look at the offers content. It's like, okay, are you using the marketing agencies that are just doing like,

the big neon text and you sound like you're scripted. It's like, okay, there's a lead from that is probably not going to be as good of a lead as somebody that's just raw, genuine, real with their audience that's super upfront with what they sell. And they know exactly what they're getting into before they get onto a sales call. And so a lot of the training that we do with my girls is like, okay, once you finish my training, we also coach you on like how to find the high ticket offers to sell for. And so the girls, it's like, okay, how do you, evaluate how good the online coach is doing with the sales. It's like, okay, you look at the content, you look at the lead flow, you look at how interactive they are. And so I think the sales starts

with that. And then that's why it's like the closing call is closing. Makes our job 10 times easier. Yeah. I really want to get into online selling with you in social media, but let's actually talk about clothes. Like what's your best guidance for closing a deal? So I think that, that soft closing a deal multiple times throughout a sales pitch is the best way to go before you get to a hard close. So I always like to layer in. I do a couple different soft closes, a temperature gauge, and then a hard close. And this is for warmly. It's a lot different than if I were doing like cold calling door to door. But soft closing is essentially any sort of close that makes it a little bit soft, a little bit contingent. So I would say something like

if we were to even set something up, would you want to do this package or this package? would you want to do the calls on this day or this day? What would be a priority for you if you were to be in the program? What would be your commitment level if you were to join the program? So you can kind of tell where somebody's at before you hard-closed them rather than just going in for the close. And you tell that based off of their responses. So they can respond one of two ways.

Number one is I would definitely want to do like the whole thing. Or they could say like if we were going to do it, then I would want to do this. And that's the contingent part. And so with that person, you would sit there build a lot more value before you go in for the clothes. Because the worst thing you can do, my job is all preventing the objections. The worst thing you can do is not know where the customer stands, go in for the hard clothes. And then they just tell you some BS of like, yeah, for sure, but I would need to think about it. And then you're just digging yourself out of a hole.

So it's layering the soft closes in, kind of getting that temperature gauge of where they're at. And then the clothes once you know that this person's like pretty good to go. How do you feel about giving the price on the discovery call? Do you like to wait to give the price or what's your strategy there? So I teach my girls. So like, for example, like DM setting or the discovery calls, some setters, no price at all. But it's hard because you also want to make sure that this person's a qualified buyer

that they have some sort of money or else there's no point in getting on a sales call. So the rule of thumb that I always give my girls with their offers is whatever your lowest packages, half of that has to be the minimum. So because there's payment plans a lot of the time, so let's say your lowest package is $3,000. I would have the setters qualify them with $1,500. Do you have at least $1,500 to get on the sales call? Because if they have $1,500, then they can sell them the lowest package at a split. But you never give the full price because there's zero value bill. And also, this is very, very important with setting up follow-up calls with spouses, is, I always tell them like, okay, for our sake, just because we built so much value, I don't want

your husband to be like, oh, can I join this program for this amount? Obviously, he's going to say no. So let's just do this. We'll go over everything with your husband tomorrow at 5 p.m. Do me a favor. Let them come the same way that you came blank state just kind of to learn and then we can go over the packages. So I don't want them to talk about, even though they probably will. But I don't want them to say, oh, marketing agency for $5,000. They're just like, wait what? No. There's not. no value bill. Yeah, that makes a lot of sense. So basically the initial calls with call setters, not the expert, but once you actually go over everything in detail what they're getting, ask them questions, whatever, you can then give them the price at the end. Yeah, so the price is

going to be in the close at the end. And the clothes for high ticket is so simple. It's just in the investment in order to get you to X, Y, Z is going to be blank. Shut up. It's just a statement close, it's easy. Or you could do an option close with packages, depends. Yep. And I love the language that you used. You didn't say cost. You said the investment, which is way more positive. Investment. And then you add in the goal KPI. So the investment in order to get you to those 10,000 leads a month, the investment in order to get the 10 to 15 pounds loss that you were telling me about. You remind them of what they're buying before you give the cost. Okay, last question on sales. and we're going to get into social media. Talk to me about reverse selling. So I always say

sales isn't a chase. It's a dance. And so 90% of salespeople are just product pushing, product pushing, objection, super aggressive. And when you chase somebody, they're going to run away. So a dance is knowing when to push a little bit, but then when to pull back. So when you ask me, you know, like, listen, she'll be like, I really need to think about it. It's like, okay, no problem. at this point, they would have told me that a couple of times. So it's like, okay, no problem. How long do you need? They never really say a month.

They normally say like two days. But then that's when you pull back a little bit because you can't give your energy too much. You need that at some point reverse the energy and reverse sell. Another way, I love to reverse sell is what I call the hot potato technique. So most sales reps, they'll go, oh, well, why should I go with you guys? And they'll go, oh, because we have this, we have this, we have this. we're the best here, here, here and here. It's like, no, your energy is going like this. You're just selling them. You're chasing them. You're selling yourself. The hot potato sales technique is

exactly what it sounds. It's like playing hot potato. You get the potato. It's hot. You throw it right back. Same thing in sales. So I teach my girls to say, okay, well, why should we go with you guys? Well, what's important to you? Oh, well, this, this and this. Okay, well, why are those things important to you? Oh, because in the past we've had this, this, this and this. Now they're selling themselves on why they should be a part of your program or whatever you're selling. And it comes back to what you were saying of people believe zero percent of the words that come out of your mouth, but they'll believe everywhere that they say. So it's about asking the right questions and making them sell themselves. Something that I like to do on my sales calls is I try to like disqualify

somebody from even being able to work with me. Like I'm so exclusive that actually I need to qualify you to be my client. Talk to us about why that works. Yeah. So, I actually call it the gatekeeper. And so I tell my girls, this is something that could really only work for warm leads, right? Like I can't, I could never go up to somebody's door and act like I'm interviewing them, the gatekeeper, right? So it's different. But in warm leads, 100%.

And I tell them, like, you have to have the mindset. Because in high ticket, this person's probably been following the creator for quite some time, finally wants a book a call, et cetera. So you need to have the mindset of this person just took an hour out of their day to sit on a sales call. There's a reason for that. I don't know about you, but I have to have a pretty big pain point in order to take an hour out of my very busy day in order to talk about a sales pitch and getting sold a program. So having that mindset of this person has a problem, our program is the best possible solution for this person with this problem. And we only let people in who are going

to be good testimonials. And so when I was rolling that one objection, I said, and part of my job is to make sure that we're screening the people that we let in the program because we don't want you not succeed. So if you're not that committed, take that time for sure. And that kind of makes them pull back a little bit, the reverse selling of, oh, no, I am committed, though, like, I would want to do this. Yeah. But yeah, so gatekeeper of between this person who has a problem and this program that has their solution and you're interviewing them, asking them all the questions to see if they're going to be a great testimonial. And when you tell them at the end, you know, more of a sincere close of, I really do see you being.

one of our next testimonials or when you're on the testimonial side telling them, this will be you. Can you see that for yourself? Can you see yourself being on the side in three months when you X, Y, Z, get all the rental properties, kill it in this, whatever. It comes off a lot more genuine when you treat it like that. Yeah. And it's also good to have different programs for people who are at different levels. Like, listen, you're not ready for totally all the services that I can do for you with the whole team. And like, you're not ready for that yet because I don't want you to spend money and not get your ROI. But why don't you take my course and get started and, you know what I mean?

So it's like having different packages is really important. For sure. Okay. So let's talk about social media. You've done an incredible job building Instagram and TikTok. What is like your thought process behind building a community, building a brand? Like how are you able to just like kind of come out of nowhere in the last year and just dominate the female sales persona?

I always get asked this question. And my answer is very simple. A lot of people try to do social media instead of just actually being the expert in something that people want to watch. Like everybody's always worried about what hashtags, what times should I post, what mark? And it's like, okay, people see through that nowadays.

Like you said, because social media is sales at the end of the day. People see through that. So I genuinely think the reason why this time last year I had less than 10,000 followers and now I'm almost at 600,000 on Instagram is because I can pull out my camera and just talk about some random closing tip or throughout my day. It's all I think about. I'm consumed by it. So when I hear a sales pitch of somebody on the street trying to sell me something, I'm like, oh, that was actually like pretty interesting. I'm going to make a video about that. So it's actually being the thing

before you like put that on social media. That way when people see it, they're like, this girl actually knows what she's talking about and she loves it. Yeah. You're like the go-to person for sales. Everybody knows what to expect when they go to your page. They know the energy you're going to bring. The vibe they know you're talking to women primarily. But anybody can learn from your page, which I'm sure you've got a lot of male followers too.

So many males. Yeah, they always comment. They're like, I'm not a girl. Also, I'm not even in sales, but you help me with my confidence. Thank you. But yeah, it's funny. And then, like, the second part about building a brand is super interesting.

So I had a video that I posted maybe like nine months ago went mega viral. It was all the girls want to live the rich Porsche Pilates mom lifestyle. They want to go on walks. Pilates drive a nice car and just kind of like have that be their day. You don't have to marry an ugly bald dude. You can give it to yourself and the way that I give it to myself as sales. And so that video kind of popped and created this brand of like Porsche Pilates, macha, sales, hot girl sales. And so it was awesome. It was super fun. And now that's like all of my

girls, they all like wear their hair and ponytails, the gold hoops. They post their matcha. So it's, it really is like a huge community and a real brand. And it's fun because that's the life I live every single day. So it's fun posting my little matcha in the morning. And the girls are like, love it. Yeah, you have built this like everybody knows what to expect when they go to your page. And you're also showing different elements of you. You're talking about sales. Everybody knows you're going to teach them about sales, but then you're into working out. You're into eating healthy. And so you've got you can be dynamic. I always get this question like, can I be a dynamic person on social media? And it's like, yeah, people want to know the real you. One of the things people wish I was

more dynamic about is my dating life. People are always like, oh, can you do like day in the life, get ready with me, like debriefs about your dates? I'm like, no. I'm like, no. I'm, I'm, I already, like, guys probably already look at my social media. They're like, oh my gosh, like intimidated this girl's loud. She's going to try to sell me on a date. So I'm like, I can't talk too much about my dating life on social media because then nobody's going to want to date me, you know? Well, let's take a little tangent here.

Two very successful women. How is dating for you? Do are men just really intimidated, especially with your age? Everybody thinks that. Everybody, the comments I get are like, oh, it's probably going to be so hard for her to find a man, blah, blah, blah. Like, I have never had more options. And a lot, like, in the, like, the least weird way to say that.

But options aren't great because I feel the same way, but it's like, it's almost like I can't make a choice. I agree. And I also don't have the time to go on all these dates. So I always like to say, being a successful woman that makes her own money, it disqualifies all the people that wouldn't make sense anyways. because like the broke guy is never going to be like, oh, like, that's my wife. You know, so it's like, but I also don't want somebody that doesn't have goals.

So it kind of like disqualifies the people that wouldn't work out anyways. And then the options that you do have are like, okay, these are actually like great, great guys. And I want to be with somebody that wants their wife to be a badass and have her own thing and that I can have intellectual conversations with. So I think it's, it's been going great. But I also just don't have a lot of time. So. Yeah, I hear you. All right. Well, Shelby is single if you guys want to take her out on a date.

Yes, you have to live in Miami. So on Instagram, what do you feel like goes most viral? So B-roll videos do really well, which is just like the five to second videos with text on it. Those ones do really well with me. I like to say in another life, I was the best copywriter on the planet because I do all my social media myself. I don't hire a single soul for it. I was going to ask you, do you do it looks like it's all you. Yes.

I hire, actually that's false. I have two like interned copywriters that help me out, but I only have them do bullet points for stories. And then they only touch stories, by the way. Nobody touches my like actual videos, contents, broadcast channel. And it's because I've tried it before because it is a lot running the whole social media thing with how much content I put out. But when it's not you, people can tell.

And it's also not fun to post for me. I don't know. And when it's me, like it just does so much better. So I'm like, I'd rather put out less stuff and it actually be me. But yeah, I do literally everything myself. The best stuff that does well on Instagram, for me, there's like two buckets. One bucket is the B roll with the funny copy on it. But the other bucket is a really funny sales tip.

So I'll start a video by saying something out of pocket. Like you have to be a brat in sales. And people are like, wait, what? But then I follow it up with a really good sales tactic. that's like, okay, well, when somebody asks you a question, you ask them a question back. That's bratty, but like, that's how you get the deal done. And people are like, okay, that makes sense. And those videos get the most amount of followers.

The B-roll ones are like, no, they're just like for fun. But the sales tip ones are what really grow a page. Yeah. So it's like kind of shock them with something that they're like, what is she talking about? And then give them a really smart response. And then they're like, okay, that makes sense. I'm so excited because I've been like heads down building my company for four years, basically like creating other influencers, monetizing other influencers.

And for my brand, I just like kind of on autopilot. I have a team. I've got reels. It's not me like you were saying. And this year I'm just like trying to get everything off my plate. And I'm like going to just go super hard and just teach and just go back to my roots. Because that's how I started is like I blew up on LinkedIn just teaching people. I can't wait to get back to it.

And you've been an inspiration because I'm like, damn, she's so good at her videos. Like I was like, I need to just do that. Oh, my. No, you do. Make that your 2025 because you are such a badass. I'm like, you just flip the camera up and start talking. I guarantee you that's awesome. Yeah, I can't wait.

Okay, so a couple last questions here. I know you've got a course. I'm sure there's so many people tuning in. I know that you do webinars for your course. You probably got a bunch of different sales funnel. So just walk us through how you actually sell online. What's a good salesy type post? Do you use many chat, webinars?

Like, what are you doing to sell? What are your main ways to sell online? So it's funny because I guess this is like a sales tactic, but it's actually true, is we, I don't let people just join. Like you can't book a call from my content. Go to the link in bio, get on a call with a team and get onboarded. So I only open my program, which is called she sells at the end of masterclasses, at the end of webinars.

And I only open it for like 20 minutes. And it's a time where, like, I have girls that DM me all the time. Hey, can you send me the link? I want to join she sells. And we're like, nope, got to come to the masterclass. Two reasons. Number one, women are going to be successful when they know exactly what's in it, when they're super hot, when they're all going together.

And so I make them sit on a master class for an hour, learn the ins and out of it for free. And then it's like, okay, now that you know it, join. And you only have 20 minutes to join. So you got to join now. So you're like condensing their decision time. They can't talk themselves out of it. If you only give them 20 minutes, they only have whatever's fresh in their head. They can't go talk.

They can't have their spouse talk them out of it. They got to decide right. And they have to pay within that 20 minutes. That's genius. Yes. Like the reason is too, it is a sales tactic, but it also is more of a fulfillment reason too because they all get in at the same time. The way that I do it is not cohort style, but kind of is.

And women love to do things with their girls. Like we don't even go to the bathroom alone. So it's like knowing that you're alone. a call, but you're also joining with all of the girls at the same time from across the world is that's how I built my community. Like my community on social media is cool, whatever. My community in my program is insane. I will go to war with any other community in the world because my girls are so like they bleed she cells. It's awesome. That makes so much sense. So it's like people want to share identity. They want to talk the same language. They want to feel

like they're part of a group. And so having them make that decision on the call together, it's like they all like kind of got like not hazed in a sorority together at the same time, but kind of it's like that bond. Yeah, I love that. When I tell them too, like, I mean, when you're purchasing anything and especially like getting into sales, that's something that's scary. And so that's my time to kind of talk to them.

And a lot of it is like mental of like, okay, when a decision is scary, that's how you know it's right because that's how you know you're growing. And so it's scary for everybody on the call, right? now, but like if it's calling you, like, I do invite you to join. And it's also just more fun for me because we get to onboard all the girls at the same time. There's not people just trickling in. We can kind of know like, okay, this group is going at this pace and this pace and this pace. So it is nice. That's really cool. And are you collecting their emails and then retargeting them if they don't sign up to join the next webinar and like how cohesive is your strategy in that way?

Yeah. So I have a whole team. So I have a team of 22 and they handle a lot of like, the backend emails, a lot of the sequences and the stuff that I am not an expert on, but a lot of it is retargeting. And what we found is that somebody doesn't just join a class and then join at the end. A lot of people join a couple classes. And it's funny because it's the same class. You would never think that. But the way I run my webinars is super energetic. I have caffeine. I have mustaches. I do role plays. I handle objections live. Like it's fun. And so I think people join for the energy, but when they come, like a couple times, they're like, okay, okay, I finally feel like I'm going to do it now. Okay, let's do it. Yep. It's so true. Some people need to go two,

three times, and then they'll buy on the webinar. And webinars are so smart people. I've got lots of content on webinars, guys. I interviewed Jason Flatline, Russell Brunson, just on webinars. So look those up if you're interested because webinars to me are like the hottest way to sell something. Low to high ticket. It doesn't even matter. It's just like the best way to sell in my opinion. agree. And people are like, oh, why don't you have sales? You have so many sales girls. Why don't you have them take calls for you? I'm the best sales girl to sell my product. And I just, I love, I genuinely feel like I was born for webinars. I was born for it. Like, I'm sitting here. Selling one to many is so fun because the way I like to sell during a webinar is I'll take every sort of customer

segment, every sort of target market of our girls and overcome their objections. So like you have the moms, but then you have the girls that are working part-time. You have the students. And so you're like, well, if you're a mom, I'm talking to you, handle that. If you're a student, I'm talking to you, handle that. If you're international, I'm talking to you handle that. So you kind of get the different angles. You know what I think it is that I realize? I think we're just, we love sales so much. And, like, webinar is like the ultimate sales challenge. It is. And so it's just like so fun and it's really fun. I love to do what. I look forward to them. Same. They're my favorite part of the week. Okay. So,

So last question. You are living in Miami and you just move there and you talk about the Miami effect. So what is the Miami effect? So the Miami effect is a pretty known thing. But it's basically when you move to Miami, you get hotter and richer. No argument at all. You just get hotter and richer. And the reason is because everybody that lives in Miami and when I say Miami,

I'm really talking about Brickle, which is where I live? People are like, no, they're not. And I'm like, where are you from? They're like, little Havana. I'm like, okay, well, that's not where I live. So we're talking about like Brickle, the city. So where I live in Brickle, I mean, the rent is insane. You buy a coffee.

It's $15. So like you have to make money in order to live there. So everybody in the elevators, everybody at the coffee shops on your walks makes money and is cool. And in order to make money, you have to have good skill sets. You have to have some sort of business. You have to be a cool person. So it's like you move to Miami. You start meeting all these cool people.

side note. Miami is the land of the fakers though, so you kind of have to like, there are a lot of people that are like real awesome, but that was one of the things where I first moved here. I thought everybody was like so real. They're really not. But for the most part, like people are making a lot of money. People are walking outdoors because the weather is awesome. Everybody here is so attractive. So you need to become attractive too. So it's like you just rise to the level of the standard of Miami, which is your Miami effect. Environment is so important. people don't realize it. If something's not working out for you,

could just be that you just need to move, meet new people, get inspired. Well, in atomic habits, that's the biggest thing is you can change your habits like this if you change your surroundings. That's why when somebody goes to rehab, they don't send them right back to the same apartment, same house because you start associating

your physical surroundings with your every single daily habits. So the best way to break your habits and literally change your life is to get into a different house, a different apartment, or even better, a bigger city. And I always like to explain it as like a fishbowl. Like you're a little fish and a normal fishbow. But then when you get a big fishbow,

you grow to fit the size of the bigger fishbowl. And that's why like a lot of people that have experienced something like this, if you can relate, you go back to your hometown and you feel like a big fish. And you're like, oh my gosh. Like, I don't fit here anymore. I don't fit. So, and that's the best thing to feel. So Shelby, this has been such a great conversation.

Honestly, I feel like you spit so much game on sales. I think everybody learns so much. I end my show with two questions. I ask all of my guests. You can answer from the heart. What is one actionable thing our young improfitors can do today to become more profitable tomorrow? Spirituality.

100% every single day spirituality. When you have a why behind what you do, you'll become more profitable and no matter what you do. And that was the biggest game changer for me. As soon as I moved to Miami, weirdly enough, I got really into my faith as soon as I moved here. And what happened a year ago, my whole life completely like, and it's not just because, you know, if you want to do that, then get in touch with God.

But I do genuinely think you just take more risks. You know who you are when you truly believe in something that's bigger than yourself. So no matter what that is, like find out what kind of spirituality you like to go into it. And make sure that that's the first thing you do in the morning and last thing you do at night. And don't before that, don't go. on your phone, scroll on TikTok after you pray at night. That's like my biggest thing because your brain is so in like manifestation mode, dreaming all this, you're praying, and then you go to bed.

And that's your subconscious mind. So on a granular thing, spirituality will for sure. Love that. And what is your secret to profiting in life? Energy. I like to explain to people, your energy will make your life better. No matter if you're a server, an accountant, if you're in sales, business owner. People don't want to be around you if you're just sad and mopey all the time.

So the best thing that I do in order to be profitable in no matter what I do, whether that's relationships, business, even friendships, calling my mom, like, people have these little interactions with you. And that makes up their story with you and their story with you determines what that relationship is going to be like and how much you love your life because your life is all of your relationships. So carrying that positive energy and genuine energy too with everything you do in life. You are so positive and it kept the whole conversation so engaging. I'd ask you a question.

You'd be like, oh my God, I can't wait to answer this question. I know. This is so fun. You have such good questions, too. I seriously enjoyed this. Yeah. Thank you so much, Shelby. Where can everybody learn more about you and everything that you do?

Yeah. So my Instagram is Shelby. Dot sap. My TikTok is Diary of a DoorDor saleswoman, which I will be changing. So don't go there. But go to my Instagram and then you can see my website, link in my bio.

Amazing. Thank you so much for joining. us on the podcast. Of course. Bye, girl. Well, guys, Shelby offered up such a wealth of great sales tips and strategies today. So many things she said resonated with my own experience. When you are in sales, like Shelby said, energy is your currency. And some days you will have to fake it. The customer doesn't care if you are having a bad day or just broke up with your boyfriend. Or if you've just received 20 nos in a row before this meeting. You have to rise above. You have to rise above. it. And sometimes that means not behaving like a normal, emotional, human. And maybe even acting a bit

like a psychopath. And today's buyers are not going to make it easy for you. They have seen and heard it all and they hate being sold to. So you have to be pretty savvy. And I think Shelby had some ideas for how to do that. Here are some of my favorite tips and tactics she shared. When selling to an alpha male, make him think it's his decision. So true. Women on the other hand like to buy comfort, answer their questions. Take them through the details and help them get comfortable. Older people also respond to comfort, but younger buyers respond more to pain or pleasure, especially pain. Like Shelby said, it's a lot easier to sell them pain killers than vitamins. One more great sales tip, handle potential objections in advance. Shelby calls this shutting doors. And whether your buyer's

doors are time, price, fear, or something else, try to learn what they are and shut them down early so they can't open them back up later. Ask the right questions and get them to make their own declarations. Remember, people may believe nothing that comes out of a salesperson's mouth, but they do believe what they say themselves. Thanks for listening to this episode of Young and profiting. If you listen, learned, and profited from this conversation, then why not reach out and share it with someone? After all, nothing sells a product more effectively than a recommendation from someone you like and trust. And if you did enjoy this show and you learned something, then why not drop us a five-star review on Apple Podcasts? Nothing helps us reach more people better than

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