Your Happy Hour - Episode 27: The Top Ten...

Episode Date: June 7, 2024

Happy Friday everyone! Tune in to episode 27 and let’s kickoff June with: The Top 10… In this episode, we spice things up and answer our Top 10 Personal (Surprise) Questions. We share our favorite movies, best career moves, biggest fears and more! Join us as we touch on facing the fear of trusting yourself, choosing your hard, and focusing on the basics.We’ll be here - every Friday - celebrating with you!Connect with us @ friday-feels.co▶ Podcast Chapters00:00 Kicking off June’s Topic: Friday Feels’ Top 10 01:55 Spicing Things Up: 10 Surprise questions with Nicole & Saj03:16 Best Career Moves04:44 What Do People Misunderstand About Us Most? 07:17 Love at First Sight - Yay or Nay?09:00 That One Meal We’d Eat Forever?11:37 Chatting on Favorite Purchases 14:43 Coping with Bad Days19:08 Overcoming Our Biggest Fears25:11 Choosing Your Hard and Focusing on the Basics28:53 Final Thoughts, Next week’s Top 10 and Farewell

Happy Friday beautiful people and welcome to your first sip of the weekend. you're tuned into your happy hour with friday feels we're celebrating all you working professionals out there doing your crazy craft embracing the beauty of being human and connecting authentically and we are host sarge and nicole we're living and working around the world we're holding space for you and we're keeping it raw and real as we share fresh content with you every week. Follow us on LinkedIn at Friday Feels and Instagram at these Friday Feels for updates throughout the week. In our last episode, we spoke to Bruce Hamilton, founder of Everybody Ventures and Everybody Ideas, about the intersection between pop culture, technology, and consumerism,

and what it's like to run two companies, building social currency, and making the choices that build legacy. It was an awesome episode, so definitely check out last week's number 26 if you missed it. And this week, well, firstly, a very big welcome to our summer interns, Lila and Ashley, who we're so excited to have on board. And then as it pertains to our topic for today's conversation, we decided to spice things up a little. What's life for if we can't add a little bit of peri-peri to the mix? Our podcast is getting a lot of interest and we've been having a lot of fun interviewing some brilliant minds and humans this week we're chatting on the top 10 personal questions our listeners have for us to get to know us a little better so let's hop in Nicole we've got

these really cool questions we haven't really thought about them too much or seen some of them before, but it's really just to kind of get our audience to get to know who's behind the podcast and the things that excite us. And this month we're going to be doing a lot of cool stuff that we haven't done before.

And so I'm super excited. Are you ready? Yeah, I guess so. Okay. It depends who came up with these questions um okay one what's your favorite movie oh that's such a tough question um I don't know why but a beautiful mind always comes to mind how about you oh that's a really great one. So I have like these three rom-coms that are my rotation. And so the two of them that come to mind are 27 Dresses and Definitely Maybe. Have you ever seen them? I've seen 27 Dresses, but a hell of a long time ago.

I feel like there are movies that I've watched over and over and I don't like to watch movies over and over. So I still cracked up. I hadn't watched it in years and it was on the plane a few months ago. And I was like, oh, my God, this is still so funny to me. What has been your best career move? Oh. I think at the time where I was going into financial crime investigation at KPMG was when I was 24 and yeah I think that was the best thing I could have done I learned so much in that industry and yeah it was just incredible I still miss the the corporate high heels and pencil

skirt days a little bit so yeah so that was really it was really a great setup for for the rest of my life how about you yeah I miss those pencil skirt and high heel days too I think I think all the moves are always the best ones right at the time but I would say I guess when I was starting out my career I decided to go into the startup space versus the financial space. And it was really different than a lot of my peers. And I didn't really know too much about it, but I know I liked it. And I think it was definitely the best thing that I ever did because it really opened my eyes to a whole new way of working and being in the world that I hadn't seen before. And so it also set me up for kind of success for things that I

still do now, the consulting that we do now and the kind of companies that I'm super excited about. So I would say that was those kind of pivotal moments when you first start, sometimes they're lasting. So that would be my best career move. What's next? What do people misunderstand about you most? Oh wow these are hard questions. Yeah. So something I've recently discovered I've known it for a long time but I've really been able to articulate it is that my biggest strength is ideation. But it's also the thing that I think can overwhelm people a lot about me. And I've realized in interactions, it can be quite a

misunderstood thing. So a lot of my life, I always come up with ideas, I see the gaps, and I tend to want to dream with people. And then not everyone wants to like dream in the moment, you know, they don't appreciate that what I'm dreaming about doesn't have to come into fruition right away. So I think that has been the most misunderstood thing about me is that when I communicate an idea or a dream or something, it doesn't mean, it doesn't not mean that I won't do that and create it in the world, but it doesn't mean right now. And so I've had to really learn to go. So for some day, you know, or for another time, or maybe put my ideas aside and

then share them at the right time with people. So yeah, I think that's the most misunderstood thing. There are probably a few, but that one stands out. How about about you what do you feel misunderstood in yeah I feel like some people find me really intimidating but I'm not very intimidating I feel like I'm just straightforward and if you come at me with like some kind of crap then I will tell you about it and if you find that intimidating then you're probably coming at me with some kind of crap otherwise like I feel like I'm a nice person so I feel like I feel very misunderstood when people find me intimidating because I feel like I'm just one being myself and then two yeah a lot of people say that they're like yeah I'm super scared I'm like why I don't like if you don't piss me off, I'm fine.

If you do piss me off, well then yeah, I understand. But I feel like that should be for everybody, right? Like if you rub them the wrong way and you're not doing something that you're supposed to be doing, then they deserve to be mad. So yeah, I would say that was, that might be number one. We might have people that write in and add things. Yeah, yeah, yeah.

I'm sure a lot of people have felt things with us and interactions that we don't even know about so yeah feel free to comment and let us know okay next uh i do believe in an attraction i believe in energy i believe that you can look at someone and feel something very specific and you'll know straight away if you have a resonance with someone or not And you'll know straight away if you have a resonance with someone or not. And there might be a kind of soul bond behind the look in the eyes, you know, that you're feeling. But I don't really believe in just diving headfirst into something. I do believe in getting to know someone, you know, for the conservatives out there.

Just rather stay together before you jump into long term relationships then you'll get to know a person so yeah I do and I don't I'm a romantic at heart but at the same time I think life has made me more realistic in relationships due to experience so yeah how about you that's a very thorough answer I'd like to ditto that. I think I believe in lust at first sight, but I don't know that I believe in love at first sight. And you could be right. It could be something like more deeper than lust at first sight. Maybe it's just a connection or you just feel a familiarity with someone. But I think that love is something that you kind of build over time. So it would be very hard for me as the logical person to say, yes, that's love at first sight.

It might be something more than less, though. I will give you. That would be my take. Okay. Next question. If you had to eat one meal for the rest of your life what would it be uh this is so simplistic but so yummy in so many contexts uh eggs um so i really love eggs and i love making eggs in different ways and i've come to realize as i'm traveling that no matter where

you are you can eat eggs you can find eggs they're pretty affordable and if you know how you like your eggs then I think that says something a lot about how you've kind of gotten to trust yourself as a person I don't know if you remember that movie Runaway Bride but she basically takes on every boyfriend that she's had his favorite eggs or her favorite eggs I've always had this thing in my mind like what is my favorite egg recipe you know and so I've come up with this fried omelet so I kind of fry them and then I top them on top of each other so I love that and a lot of butter the French style and that's that I can eat every day three times a day so yeah you have to share that recipe with me um because I was eating eggs all the time and then I got fed up.

Then I got back curious. But that's a really interesting take. That's probably really true with traveling. That is something that you can get everywhere in a lot of cultures, you know, have it for breakfast or some people have it like in between. I would say for me, I had to eat one meal for the rest of my life. It would be some version of the marry me pasta. Do you know what the marry me pasta is? It's like this tomato based pasta with cream. And like some version, it's almost like a panela vodka without the vodka. But that's like one of my favorite things

to eat. And I started making it with like more veggies in it so I feel like it's a little bit healthier I think that would be like it's just so tasty and it just makes you feel like you're at a restaurant when you're not and I feel like good eating it because I made it myself with good stuff in it so I feel like it's very comforting it's called the marry me pasta yeah so like if you look it up on like different social media you'll see like make marry me pasta with it because the idea is that when you make it for somebody they that's what makes them want to marry you I mean if you taste it you're just like yeah this is really good um so now you know if you want a recipe all the lovers out there

looking for a first recipe to make them your bride to be yeah okay so what has been your favorite purchase so far this year i I think it's funny. I was thinking about this the other day, like what do I actually really enjoy spending money on? And what's come to mind is I love spending money on getting my songs out there. I really don't mind spending money on distributing them. And that's like probably the most joy I get

when I click submit. And I know like in seven days time, the song is going to be ready for distribution so I would say my favorite purchase has been my singles that I've released this year and yeah too many more many fold to come as well yeah that's a good one I guess I would say something that I've really been enjoying which I actually didn't purchase for myself was my boyfriend's cousin gave me these two like furby fuzzy sock things it's like a it's like a inside slipper a bedroom slipper but they're very furry and like soft and I wear them all around the house and I don't know they just make me feel really comfortable I wear them like wherever I go if I go to a different house

or I go to somebody else's that like we're staying at like I kind of they just kind of move around with me and they're super fun and colorful like one of them's like rainbow and it just it just like makes me remind myself not to take myself too seriously. I might be like wearing corporate stuff on the top or something that's business work friendly, but like my feet are in like little Furby, little Furby shoes. And I just find them really fun. So I think they definitely brighten my day and probably annoy the other people in the house. Like why a grown woman is wearing this.

I love that. I feel like we should have friday feels furby shoes yeah that would be so cool that would be super cool it's not sorry i'm saying it's furby it's lilo from lilo and stitch or sorry it's stitch the little um blue one uh i think he's stitch yeah he's stitchy valley love so um yeah but he looks like a furby so yeah it sounds like a good description for what you're wearing okay what's your go-to emoji i know this one for you oh yes yes oh good day too um the sparkle there's like a little sparkle yellow sparkle that i love using and then i also really love the red dancing i feel like if someone had to look back at my life in emojis it would be like she was wearing red dresses dancing all the time yeah I love those I love it and yours I like the little eyes that just move that they

they're just two big eyes and they just kind of look like this um and I also use the smirky smiley face a lot those are my two favorite ones and then okay so what what's your clutch on bad days like what is your go-to thing that you do on bad days it could be you know something that you eat drink it could be like a exercise or something that you do it could be somebody you call just like what do you do on your bad days that helped you I guess get through them? So it depends if it's a healthy reaction to the bad day or not so healthy reaction to the bad day. Let's go with the healthy reaction first.

I will go for a long walk and I'll put music on and I'll do like a bit of a, it's not Zumba, it's my own style of dance aerobics that I make up in the moment. I play with the dogs um you know I'll if I can like now I'll lie in the sun and I find a spot where like no one can see me and then I just lie naked in the sun so I can absorb all the sunlight other day someone came up the driveway and yeah I had to run for cover, but anyway. And then on a really bad day, all I want to eat is Nutella and I want to watch movies and, you know, I will probably – well, I always call my mom on a good day too, but, yeah,

it makes me really happy if I can just hear her voice. And, like, sometimes she's the only person who's like, you know, I can hear you going through a tough time, you know know and you don't have to say anything so her moms are amazing things um but yeah those are really the the main things but Gracie's in all of them and whether it's good or bad she's she always makes me smile too so oh that's nice yeah there's actually some similarities there so I'd say on bad days my clutch is something that is really soothing to me. It's just drinking tea, like English breakfast tea or Assam tea or orange pico tea. It's soothing for me.

I grew up around it with milk and sugar. And then I try to go outside to get some sunlight on my face. You're supposed to have like 10 minutes of direct sunlight on your face which is why I'm so brown this summer already um and then there was one other thing I was gonna say yeah just oh I would call uh one of my cousins who I know I can kind of like tell anything to who's in Trinidad my cousin Lily because she just lets me vent and say whatever and I just feel better when I talk to her I think when you don't have I mean you know this when you don't you are only child but like when you don't have older siblings um sometimes it's it's difficult to you know feel like comforted by someone so she's a little bit older than me and even though we

have different lives it's super helpful to just have someone that listens so yeah that's what I do on bad days okay uh two more to go if you could teleport to anywhere in the world right now where would you go um maybe I would go to South Africa for a day just to kind of see everyone give everyone hugs um you know although it's really cold there right now so maybe that's not a good answer for the moment um I think otherwise I would yeah actually okay I would go to South Africa but just to hold my little niece my cousin had a baby and I'm kind of missing seeing her grow up and she's such a little madam so um yeah I think I would just go and give her a bit of love for a day that would be awesome yeah that's a good answer yeah how about you I would go to a beach

somewhere and just relax and take in the water which is really crazy because I can actually do that here where I am but there is some seaweed out there but yeah I just find water really calms me um and or it's just fun for me and so I would say maybe like a beach in Bali or somewhere exotic that's new that has like fresh fruit and food and just relax and unwind and appreciate it. That would be my, if I had to teleport, that would be so fulfilling to me right now. Oh, yeah. Okay, well, I'm coming with you. That one sounds good. We can wade in the water.

Yeah. We can wade in the water. Yeah. And then the last one is, what is the biggest fear you've overcome in the past six months? I think it's been the fear of trusting myself. I've also really come to realize that in the last few weeks that a big blocker in my life and in many ways and the universe has really been pushing me to kind of dig deeper in there to the grains that were stuck yeah I realized that a big life lesson for me is trusting myself I gave a lot of that trust away from a young age and I'm kind of I think over this journey taking a lot of that back you know as you travel

you have to make decisions all the time so you keep learning to trust yourself in the moments and learning to trust your intuition which is for all of us really strong we just need to tap in there and yeah so the more I've become in tune the more I've realized how long ago I kind of gave this away and there's been some fears around it still around financial security and really letting abundance in you know believing the idea of abundance but not necessarily trusting that I can make the right decisions for that abundance to come in so that's been a big one for me and it was a fear around that but uh yeah if I can't trust myself who can I you know and so I've really had to let that go and release that and

surrender and yeah it's been really good how about you I think you have a competitive advantage because you're answering first I just want to be like yes that yes yes me too no I think it's it's been a realization that I can do hard things like I spent a lot of time these days just like reflecting like okay how did I get here is this is this what I thought it would be is this what I wanted am I happy like because I feel like sometimes you just don't you just don't stop and think like okay am I I feel like I've made a lot of adjustments to be able to do what I'm doing now and so it's always good to kind of check in and see if it's really what you thought it would be or I made these adjustments thinking okay be happier you'd be doing it for this for

xyz and sometimes it's hard to see through that fog. And so one is, you know, you can do hard things. And two, it's along the lines of trusting yourself of like, if not me, then who? And so sometimes it's, it's very different mindset shift that we've talked a lot about on the podcast, when you kind of have your own projects and initiatives, and also having partners to do it with and hearing their thoughts and being respectful of that. I think it's just been a whole new growth phase that is super scary. And I didn't expect the scary part. I just kind of was building on the, oh, these are the pros. I wasn't like looking and seeing okay well this is the realistic way of the how the day-to-day is going to be and just being mindful of that and also understanding that you

know there was there was something that I read by an entrepreneur and and she was writing that you know you have to understand that it is going to be hard it is difficult and you have to understand that it is going to be hard. It is difficult. And you have to expect that. And when you change it from like, oh my God, I can't believe all these five, 10 things broke and this happened. Your mindset is different because you're like, oh, five broke. I expected five to break. I expected a lot of to break. Only five broke, not 10, not 50. And so I think it really makes a difference because then when you come into roadblocks, you're like, okay, well, this is either one, it's growing pains too, how do I assess it?

And a lot of people in my life who've been mentors officially or unofficially, they're always like, just keep going, just keep going. And it does help because you're just like, sometimes it helps when you talk to other people who are going through something similar it doesn't have to be the same business it could be the same experience or phase in their life and you realize how many things they had to overcome or how difficult it was for them you think oh shit maybe my journey

actually isn't that bad or it isn't that hard or it's very different in that way. And it kind of gives you hope. So I think it definitely just having more perspective has helped with that fear of kind of being comfortable with being uncomfortable. Yeah, that's a great one. Yeah, I think it's been an incredible six months, right? I mean, it's been like six months since we released episode one and that's crazy to me I just cannot believe we're in June and yeah I want to actually

ask one bonus question quickly when you're mentioning mentors and we're always asking other people this question maybe it's time we ask ourselves, but what has been the best professional advice you've received on your journey? The best professional advice that I've gotten is that something that I read, which was you choose your heart. So it's either you stay in the same place, which is actually very difficult for you. And given all the parameters, it could be, let's just take financial wealth. For example, you choose your heart by not choosing to be disciplined and figuring out how to attain financial wealth. But it's also hard to actually do those steps and get yourself where you want to be. So I think with any goal, it's very much choose your heart. Do you want to stay in the same place? Or do you want to stay in the same circumstances that also give you a

difficult, maybe mindset or maybe difficult on you financially or emotionally, whatever it is, or do you want to choose to be in the thick of it, which is also hard. And I think that's very important because you're always making that choice. You're always making that choice of whether, do I want to get better? Do I want to feel better? Do I want to do this? And I remind myself of that a lot because it doesn't mean I always follow it, but at least I feel like I'm doing something by being mindful of it, that you're choosing the circumstances that you're in to a certain degree. You can choose to stay in it or you could choose to do something to change it. And maybe something to change it isn't the best thing right but sometimes it is and I think that's probably some of the best professional advice that I've ever read or gotten that's been applicable

through all phases of my life that's amazing yeah it's true really really is choose choose your heart but you'll probably never work a day in your life if you're choosing the things that you want to do, even if it's hard. Yeah, yeah. What about you? The best professional advice I've received, I think quite recently, I'm coming to learn something interesting. And someone said this to me, just do the basics. You know, sometimes, like I was saying, I'm such an ideation.

And, you know, I kind of get lost in my own world. But I realized that when I pay attention to the admin in my life, when I don't procrastinate setting up the bank account, paying the taxes, you know, whatever it might be, things move a lot quicker. Things flow, the energy flows. And so for me, I think it's just been really helpful to kind of, you know, focus on doing the basics. I can totally understand why Jordan Peterson starts his book with make your bed.

Because when you get up and you make your bed and then you brush your teeth and then you do your exercise and you go for a walk and you feed the dogs and, you know, whatever it is, you are shifting the energy all around you all the time. And so even if you're having a bit of a shitty day things change you know and yeah so I think momentum and just getting things done and sticking to the basics has probably been the best thing someone had said to me recently so so yeah so that's probably been my best professional advice in the last few weeks and come to realize in the last six months I think that's really great advice sometimes you get super into the weeds and you don't really stop I'm very much like that I will go all the way in and then neglect a lot of things that are just normal basic things to do

but that's good advice well Well, this has been super fun, kind of sharing with everyone and then understanding, of course, more of each other and answering these fun questions. I guess a question to our audience is, you know, what are the other questions that you'd like us to answer that are related to your daily life? And, you know, what were your answers to these top 10 questions engage with us on socials out there and let us know your thoughts your feels your stories and especially the stories we love to hear them we do read them we share them we talk about them and we're super excited to kind of get more involved in terms of connecting with you guys so stay tuned and yeah like such said we would love to hear from you so remember to tag us

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