Your Transformation Station - 134. Where Do We Begin: Creating Clarity When Everything Feels Stuck

Episode Date: February 26, 2024

When life destabilizes faster than clarity can form, most people don’t know where to begin. In this episode, Gregory Favazza and Jeanell Greene examine personal transformation under pressure. Gregory shares the lived reality behind his “2440” process, navigating relationship breakdown, fatherhood, unresolved trauma, and the loss of stability while fighting to rebuild clarity and accountability. https://www.ytsthepodcast.com/s4e134 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Yeah, so like I'm trying to, I'm going to March 11th to establish a change in myself. It's a rapid transformation. I don't know what to call it other than my 2440. And throughout this process, I'll be incorporating something new into myself while cleansing and purging out the old and dealing with the current. You're listening to a podcast that encourages you to embrace your vulnerabilities and all. authentic self. This is your transformation station, and this is your host, Greg Favaza. Hi, how are you? It's been a long day.

I hear you. Definitely. It has been a very long day. I appreciate your time for this little follow-up discussion. It will be mutually beneficial for both of us, so I really do appreciate your time. Okay. All right. How do you want to start this?

Yeah, so like I'm trying to, I'm going to March 11th to establish a change in myself. It's a rapid transformation. I don't know what to call it other than my 2440. And throughout this process, I'll be incorporating something new into myself while cleansing and purging out the old and dealing with the current. and some of the things I'm dealing with currently is previous relationships with the mother of my child and handling that is foreign because I've been told by everybody from law enforcement personnel

to lawyers to doctors to family members, friends, peers, lawyers, like this is not normal shit that you're going through. All right. Okay. And how can I help you? What would you like for me today? That's something that I would do with, if that's a long story, I'll tell you later. Just making sure I'm on the right path and kind of being like a little bit of a

accountability buddy, but also reflecting back the results that I don't even recognize that are happening. Got it. Okay. So can you give me like the two second or two second two minute recap of like what is what what what's so without story but like what's the what's so of everything. You got to be I got that and there's some stuff going on. Yes. So right.

I guess the the so between the relationship or the so in myself. Whoever is I think you think I need to know. Okay. The relationship is. she pretty much ruined my entire life, caused me to lose my house. I had to move back with my parents where I haven't even lived there for over 12 years when I listened to the military and I had to endure the psychological trauma of what happened as a child and I was sexually abused in the room I had to sleep in by a sibling that I had to

face and deal with. And I was surrounded by the boxes of my house. And her divorce case, God, there's so much. Like, there's so much. And she took off with my son, and it was just a horrible experience because she was the root cause of that she stole my identity. She hit me with her car. She made mentally destroyed something so structurally sound that was built by the military that it was like over time chipped away. and finally kind of just fell to pieces.

And I've been rebuilding myself, and I'm just at the cusp where people are starting to recognize the potential is starting to ooze out of me how it was before. And every time I encounter her, I feel like it just slowly melts away or I have to rebuild it again.

So why is she being this way? Like, is it that, did you break up with her? That's why she's being bitter in me. or like what why is how can you take me a couple steps back? Sure. To be honestly, I should be the one that is upset. I mean, for the moment we've met, I mean, she was married and she didn't tell me and we had a child. Then I found out when she was pregnant that I'm still married.

It kind of set us up for a downward spiral, but my parents are old fashioned. They're like, you got to work through it. I'm like, all right. I mean, I'm totally all about it. Like communication. which is resolution. No. She plays mind games, manipulation tactics. She is the very essence of you coming across a post and seeing narcissists. I'm sorry, that's not your specialty, but this is the only way I can give you the Claire's picture. Every post, every Facebook group

that gives you an essence of that individual, she is that very essence on the very... Got it. I just, I just, I don't need the story. I just need to do this. This is what happened. She did this. I did this. We did this. Now we're doing this.

I need that. I need the what. Gotcha. Gotcha. Okay. Don't emotional stuff. Yes. Let's see.

So you met her. Everything was great. And then she thought I was cheating. Yeah. So she thought I was cheating on her because I create. I do this podcast and I get a lot of hearts and likes on artwork that I create. And they happen to be close by. And she made the assumption that I'm cheating on them.

And I thought that was hilarious because it's like, no, I'm not. And it affected the outlook, affected her actions where she wanted to go through my phone and see what's going on. I'm like, sure, but this is really becoming monotonous that these insecurities are now starting to make me feel a certain way about you where I had to go through her phone. And that is not who I am. But it started to make me become what she was fearing of me as. Okay. So then you, then what did you do? So she thought you were cheating.

So she went through your phone and then what did you do? Then as time progressed, like, I mean, going in from just meeting to find out that, okay, you're still married. What else are you hiding? Then again, that's when they came up. I want to go through your phone. I think you're cheating. I know what? I think you got more shit to hide.

I mean, but she didn't, she wasn't hiding other than the fact that she was talking with her ex-husband. that was something going on behind my back that I had no fucking clue other than what I was under the impression. It's just the father of the son. But then the father that was supposed to be the father of the two children, but there's actually another dad that is not even around. And then on top of that, she's going to have topic. Yes, ma'am.

Sorry, I don't have a lot of time and I really want to make a big difference here. Okay, just need to know the start. Okay, so she cheated. You went through the phone and then you started fighting. Is that right? Yes. And then. No, not even close.

So she kept coming back and kept coming back. And I tried to end the shit. She wanted to get an abortion. I said, no, this is my first child. This is number three for you that I think. So she didn't want him. So I made her sign a document. She holds that over me.

And she created these fake dating sites and then said that I did that. And at that point, I said, no, I didn't. If you're going to make me tell you like this. this is what I did, then I don't ever want to see you again. So she wanted to stay. And I said, you know what? The only way you're going to stay is if you shave your head because I don't want to, I don't want, I don't believe you. And well, she, she did it.

And I was surprised that she did it, but she did it. And then I did too. And, uh, because I felt bad. And. Okay. All right. I'll say. Okay.

And then what happened? So where was the ultimate breakdown? The ultimate breakdown was right before my birthday. It was a planned out situation that she was talking with some guy that she wanted to stay with. And the next thing, you know, she just ups and leaves with just me and my six-month-year-old son and her daughter. She lost custody to her other son because the ex-husband used me as the individual that allowed this shit to happen. and she says, I'm a monster and all this shit when, I don't know. The breakdown?

I didn't hear it. The breakdown was, I don't know. When the shit hit the fan, like the first real big shit hit the fan? March 7th of 2021. And what happened? She disappeared and the police came to my house with guns drawn saying that I was neglecting a six-month-year-old child, and I showed them the situation. And the following day, I had a letter from CPS that they received a statement saying that

the mother of my child said that she witnessed me putting a gun to my baby's head and said that I wanted to blow his brains out. And I was in shock. I never did. So I communicated as quickly as I could. and went and saw them. And they asked me if I wanted a lawyer. I said, no, I had nothing.

I was there for a few hours. And they said, don't ever talk to that person again. You need therapy. What you just went through is not normal. Got it. Got it. So my big question is, why did you, why do you think you dated this woman if she was a little cuckoo bird?

Well, I chose not to see her as crazy because she wanted a child. and I was 37 at the time, maybe, yeah, 28 at the time. And I'm the youngest of seven. Everybody has kids in my family except me. And I just felt like it was something missing because I was ready. I'm ready to be a dad. I'm ready to settle down. Like that's what I wanted to do.

Because she wanted it too. And everybody that I came in contact with didn't want it. And I've been with a lot of women in different states. And it's like, finally, like somebody wants to do that. But it happened really quickly and I didn't realize, well, then what is the definition of quick in a relationship? I mean, if you love somebody, you know it, then you feel it like, God, the more I say that loud. Okay, you know, it's like, okay, so when you were saying, I can hear, I can see why you thought you and I have a very similar story. Because, yeah, I got married super quick.

I didn't realize I had trauma I was dealing with. I just said yes to the first guy who finally was showing interest and wanted the same thing I did, though I didn't do my due diligence to figure out that, oh, he doesn't actually want the same thing I want. Yes, ma'am. And now you're in this mess that you're trying to clean up and recover from the very traumatic experience that she's put you through and trying to like, how do you put your life back together after all of that is what I'm hearing. So can ask you quickly about the child? So where's the child now? He is with her right now and I was actually just at the police station, not even 30 minutes ago. Because I had him for the weekend and I was changing him. He had bruises all over his body and on his face.

And I don't know what's normal bruises for a child staying at daycare. He's two years old. And I had to go a year without seeing him. And because she took that upon herself. She ruined every single holiday. And that's why I decided for this 2040, she's not going to ruin another holiday for me since 2021. So you're working on custody right now for the baby? Yes, ma'am.

I'm taking the actions. I have a portfolio about this thick to. And so it just keeps coming. Not it. Evidence keeps coming. Ah, okay. Okay. So I just needed to wrap my head around this whole thing just like I know exactly where to come from.

So what I'm hearing and where I can probably help you. is all the stuff that happened before she came. Because there's a reason that you were attracted to her. There's a reason that I don't know. I don't know how much you believe about this, but I believe that we attract certain people into our life in our energy field, right? Yes, ma'am.

There's something about her that had you gravitate to that and create all of this stuff. And my guess it has a lot to do with the childhood stuff. Yeah, it does. I did a lot of reflection. She shares similarities that illustrate my dad and the sibling that did the things to me. So you see the connection between her and your dad and your sibling? And the sibling that abused me.

And what did you see? What did you notice about that? The automatic switch from happy to angry instantly brought back the flinch thing. thing, yes. So let me ask you a question. I'm going to kind of jump around if that's okay. Of course, that's how I like things. Okay, cool.

With everything that's going on right now, like if you were just, I know there's a lot, right? There's a whole these pieces. I have two questions. Number one, what is the worst thing right now about all of this? Like if I go,

if I were to take the layers and if we were to dig down, down, down to the very, very, very bottom, what is the worst thing about this thing right now? for you, for yourself, not even like your daughter, your son and her, but like for you. That is, uh, watching my son grow. I mean, every time I see him, he looks older and it scares this shit out of me because when I used to be active duty, I would come see my parents every couple of years and they would look older and older. And now I can recall looking back is, I can only see when they're really young. And now when they're really young and now when they're

really old. I can't see that transition. And that's what I'm afraid of seeing for my son. And I don't want, I don't want to forget the most prime years that every parent should enjoy. Yeah, you don't want to miss out. I am missing now. He's did so many milestones and I don't, I was never there. Yeah. And so it sounds like then your biggest fear is what? Not being remembered. for him not to remember you or for you not to remember him for him not to remember me because what would it mean if he didn't remember you that that she created that she leave it on you don't bring her into it what does it mean to you if he doesn't remember you because he hasn't been around that you're what that he would be he would he wouldn't know who i am and he would only take what people say

and what would that be negative like what that i abandoned him when i never abandoned that you abandoned him that he would he would have a story being told that you abandoned him yes and what would that mean if he if he was if he believed that you abandoned him what would that mean to you or to him? It would be a self-fulfilling prophecy. And why is that important to not have that? Because we don't want to repeat generational trauma. And why is that important not to repeat generational trauma?

Because then we can't adapt to society to stop this shit from repeating itself. And it's my job as a father to give him the best responsible treatment that a child deserves for growth and development. I take full responsibility of that. Yeah. Got it. So consider, you know, you just said it. It's my job as his dad to give him,

to give him the life that he deserves. And I want to consider, and I want you to consider that you are doing everything you can to give that child the life that he deserves. You're fighting tooth and nail, aren't you? And it might not be going the way you want it to because she's, you know, resisting. but I need you to get that you are doing everything you can.

And when you can get to that place where you honor that about yourself and not live in the fear of what could be or that he might, because you're right, there might be a chance that he might feel this way. But damn, you are not going to let that happen. Oh, man. You are going to fight tooth and nail and do whatever it takes to not have that happen. Is that right? Yes, ma'am.

Yeah. Because here's the thing. In order to get to this place called love and peace and like the forgiveness, we can't get stuck in all the fear. And right now you're so stuck in here's what she did. And like, how could she do that? And she run me over to the car and she's a narcissist. All the story and victimhood and pain and not to just invalidate that.

But what I can hear is the pain, the real pain that you're really like when you go to bed at night and you lie there and you stare at the ceiling you feel your heart just like want to die it's the fear that you hold that you're missing out with your son and that you're not doing your job as his father and i want you to get that you are actually doing everything there is in your power right now i want you to acknowledge that about yourself and listen only only god knows how this is all going to turn out but try Trust that. Trust that he's got your back. That all of this is for a reason. And right now, it doesn't make any fucking sense. Why? At all. And it feels like, why me? What did I do?

Right? There's like this like victim about it. But consider that there's something on the other side of this for you to learn. And in the meantime, know that you are doing everything you can. and tell yourself that. Because right now you're like, I feel like you're beating yourself up about it, aren't you? Yes. Like somehow this is your fault. I should have saw it coming.

You should have saw coming. So let's get that. So let's, can we do a quick download of all of that, all the shoulda kutta what us? Can we just, can we just get it all out? Yeah.

Okay. I want, I want this energy out of your body. And we're going to put it on paper. so that we can start to clear it up. You cool with that? Okay, so what is it? I should have, what was it?

Shoulda, coulda, woulda, did it? Yeah, what was it? I should have known, what did you say earlier? Oh, I should have known, I should have saw what's coming. Saw what's coming. Okay, what else? The red flags that stood out. Yeah, I should have seen the red flags.

What were the red flags? That she wanted to move in very quickly. And she was in. a crappy situation but no explanation why what else was the could have should of what is and keep it on yourself don't don't go to her yes ma'am um i should have trusted my instincts rather than than than looking at it as a fear of uncertainty mm-hmm what else uh not be not making a quick action like life-changing decision like overnight kind of thing that haunts me like jumping into it too fast or what do you mean something else jumping into it like because i don't know i felt like the pace

was set at a tempo that kept going faster and faster and faster and i felt like it was just going a crash. But then I still looked at it as a challenge because that's how I see things. So you didn't listen to your inner voice who said, you should probably slow this down a little bit. Well, yeah, I was sleep deprived. Yeah. What else is in your heart that you need to let go? That I couldn't do a better job being there for her children who was getting sexually abused. by another sibling. And what does a better job mean?

I allowed it to happen even when I did everything in my power to stop it. Like from spanking to talking to making them do push-ups, from making them sleep separately, to putting cameras, to telling her that she needs therapy, that I did everything that I knew how to do while still maintaining a business and trying to build myself. and she just sat there and let it happen. And I should have went to the police,

but then I didn't want anything bad to happen to her because it's like I should have, there was a line there that I believed in. Like that was the very thing that I would let nobody go through and I let her cross my line. And to this day, I feel like my very core essence is tainted. Mm-hmm.

because I made it an exception. So what are the stories that you've told yourself about you now? Because of everything that's happened, when you look at yourself, what is the story you say about yourself, that you're what? Then I'm just as guilty. You're guilty. Yeah, and that's why it makes it hard for me to be authentic now. Right. What else?

And I want you to get to actually that when you go to bed and you hear that inner voice, you know, the one that just sounds nasty and condescending and critical and judgmental. What is that voice saying to you? That you're what? The one that hurts you. And it could be also associated with what was what you told yourself when you were a kid from the abuse. I am. I don't matter.

And if we were to go another layer under, I don't matter. What's there? I think it's. I think I don't matter is the nice version, is the PG version or even the G version. Yeah. What's underneath that? Contemplating suicide that I shouldn't live. Okay.

But what's the what's the I am statement? I am what? I'm nothing. I am nothing. And if I go under, I am nothing, what's under I am nothing? I feel like you're helping me and I'm not tapping into it. And I feel guilty for going along with it. Okay. Just stick with me here.

Yes, ma'am. because your ego will just try to be like, don't say it. Don't say, don't call yourself out. But there's a part of you that's like, I'm a piece of shit. I'm a loser. I'm a something. Like, I want to get to that level because when you can hear it, now you can actually choose to do something about it.

But when we stay on this superficial level. So I've been down there. She's told me that every day for years. And I've finally have gotten over it that it was just projection. And I'm not that piece of shit. it. Yeah. I'm actually angry that I still have love for her. That's what really upsets me is everything she did to me. I still have feelings for her and I want them to go away, but they won't. So what does it mean that you're angry that you still have her? What does it mean about you that

you still love her, that you're what? Yeah. Who loves someone who does all these crazy things and still loves them? They're what? Trauma bonded. Uh, give me the authentic version. Uh, that I, I don't, I don't know. I'm not sure. Well, think about it. If I told you that this happened to me and I, and I'm like, and I still love him, what would you say about me?

I'm what? No, I'm stupid. Yeah. What else? That I'm, I'm not seeing what's happening right in front of me. You're clueless? That would be right word? Yes.

Yes. Yeah. I'm very smart but not as smart with the situation. Yeah. Anything else is there? Just flush it out. Jesus, I want to. I really want to flood everything out.

No, you're doing great. I'm just so, like, I just want to, like, a holiday named after me just for everything I've gone through. Like, that's what really I would be, I would love to have. Why would that be important? to see so i people know that i went through hell and back even law enforcement yeah and why is it important for people to know that you went through hell and back it is because that i had the decision to take my life and i made that attempt and failed miserably and i decided not to do it

again and decided to fight because there was a reason why yeah so you It sounds like you just want to be seen and acknowledged for what you've been through. And so that people know that even when you've gone through what you've gone through, that even the best of us still have these shitty moments in life. And I can really hear you're really committed to something else, aren't you? Yes, ma'am. What are you actually committed to then, Gregory? to being the best father that I can be

my father wasn't there as much as he could have been and I don't blame him for what he didn't know at the time Yeah So what makes you think you're not being the best father you can be right now Because I mean I feel like I could be pushing the legal system Or I should be selling everything in my house

To getting him But then I'm looking at it then what if I'm not my best self? What if I had to sell all my computers? Then now I have nothing, but then I get him. But now I'm not the best version of me because I can't provide. This is going to be my source of income. So the fact is I'm a victim to short-termism,

and it's hard to see the long-term when I'm filled with emotions. Yeah. Well, what I can really hear is you're filled with fear. And that's even more of D. dangerous than emotion. Well, I mean, fear is a type of emotion, but I think it's the fear, the what-ifs, the worst-case scenarios, the, right? The despair of, like, feeling hopeless and helpless, I think, is what you're really

struggling with, not even the what-sell. I do feel hopeless. I felt hopeless for a long time. I felt like everything crashed and burned, and I had to let it happen. Like I felt like we have rights that this shit shouldn't be going on. I already have PTSD from the military and my childhood. And this woman played with it like a fucking figurine to make the angle that she wanted to make. And it was nothing but pure joy to see me struggle.

Yeah. Well, here's the thing. People will do what they do. And I think one thing I would offer you to consider is maybe she did it to get back. at you and maybe she's just, I don't want to use a word crazy person and not, and I don't mean it as in a bad way, but she's just who she is. And whether it's you or the guy next to you or the, you know, the person behind you, she would have done the same thing. I think sometimes we take it so personally like it was done to me, but get made, consider that she would have done that

to whoever. You just happened to be the schmuck that, that happened to be the flavor of the day or the week or the year. And I'm sorry to hear that you're going through that. Yes, ma'am. And the torment, all the emotional stuff is all in here. It's not happening out here. It's all in here. So you need to take control of this.

Because, again, things are going to go the way they're going to go, right? You're going to fight the system. You're going to do everything you can logistically and legally. and that does not have to affect the way that you feel about yourself or shift your commitment to being the best father you can possibly be and to protect this child as much as you possibly can. But I want you to consider everything that you want. You already are.

You're already the best dad that you can possibly be or know how to be at this point in your life with the circumstances that you've been given. Right? There's a saying that I say all the time and it goes like this, pain and suffering only exists when you resist what is so. Pain and suffering only exist when you resist what is so. When you have it like it shouldn't be this way.

The world shouldn't be this way. She shouldn't be this way. I shouldn't be this way. My dad shouldn't be this way. That is what cause us suffering. It is not the problem. It is the reaction or the behavior to the problem. That is the, that causes us, this angst.

The world just spins. People do what they do. She does what she does. Police do what they do. The legal system does what they do. How you react to all of that. And I can hear there's a lot of regret, a lot of guilt. There's some shame.

There's some anger. There's resentment. I definitely take responsibility for what I contributed. I know. It doesn't just, it's not a one situation. I'm not the angel. I mean, I was in the army, so I come off as an asshole. Right.

But at the same time, it is what it is. And so it can, you know, we spend, I find we spent so much time in the past thinking about the coulda, should, or what us. But there's nothing we can do about that. All you can focus on is what is right in front of you right now. Not even a year from now, 10 years from now, when you're there with your son and your son saying, Dad, where we're, don't even think about that right now. All you can think about is what's there to do. What can I do right now? Then why do I start leaking back to this version that I don't

ever want to be when she gets me pissed off? Like, when she pushes the right button to say, ha ha I fucked your veterans holiday because you couldn't have him. Memorial Day weekend, your birthday, every holiday you couldn't have them. Because I don't have any pictures. She ruined every, if she brings that up, it just. Yeah. And she brings it up because she knows exactly that she's going to get that reaction from you. She's like, ooh, salt, wound.

Yes. Rub it in. And then plays that the fucking very, that I did this and this is why she wants me to be this version that she paints me to be. And that's what's so upsetting is the fact that I'm not this person. You keep doing it. It's like if you say you're crazy, you keep telling somebody they're crazy. Eventually they're going to just knock your ass out.

Now, does that make them crazy? No, it makes them fucking annoyed that I've allowed this to go on this long and took it. Right. But you got annoyed. You got triggered. And it's your trigger. So it's your responsibility to not have the trigger. Because there's something in what she says that you resist.

Like, no, that's not true about me, right? That's not who I am. Son of a bitch, you're right, yes. Right? And so she goes, ooh, he's getting upset. Oh, I like this. What else can I do and say to piss him off if that's what her goal is? Yes.

How can I get back at him? How can I hurt him? And you're just a big open wound. And she's just rubbing all that shit on you. And you're like, ow! And she's like, oh, I like this. What I'm saying to you is you need to close up that wound. So because as soon as you go, whatever crazy person or whatever lady, like,

and she's like, oh, I'm not getting a reaction. Well, this is no fun anymore. But right now, you just go. Well, so I have a hold on it. I mean, it's just always something new is the problem. Like when you don't think there's any more tricks. It's the same process. It's the same thing on how she does it.

But it's always some sort of new higher. New low blow. Yes. Yeah, you react every single time. And that's exactly what she counts on, right? Well, I don't react in front of her. I just hold it in, but then it really makes it hard to do the work. And then I fall behind.

even though I don't give her the satisfaction that I'm angry, but then I beat myself up more. And it's like, fuck. I should not be fixating on this shit. Yeah. That is the work you need to do, my friend. And my guess is that is stuff all from your childhood. That's if I was coaching with you, that's where I would actually spend the time. That's what I do with my clients.

It's always tied back to something in their childhood. Because of that experience that she gives. you, whatever she says, whatever that look she gives you, there's something that gives you an experience, an emotional experience that is very similar to something you felt as a child. And so there you are again, feeling that as a child, even though the trigger is happening here, that emotion is actually tied to back there. So you actually have to heal that. Because you're just dealing with the symptom. She is the symptom, not the root issue. The root issue is whatever happened to you as a kid.

And it's usually a layer of a whole bunch of things. It's not just one situation. Yeah, I said in one of my episodes, it's like wearing layers of coats. I mean, eventually when you take it off, you can finally show your natural body or essence. I don't know. Something like that.

But I guess there's a lot more traumas that I've avoided and only fixated it around the biggest one that I didn't see there was other ones. Yeah. You know, I only discovered one of mine recently. One of the things I saw is, you know, I've always been an overachiever. And I noticed that my mom, who is my hero, which I love her to death.

She's my, like almost like my doggler. Growing up, I was taught to believe that you have to be strong. You can't ask for help. You can't complain. You always have to have a smile on your face. and you can't cry. And growing up, I was like, oh, that's really great. As an adult and doing what I do, I realized like, oh, this is actually working against me.

And so even though on the outside, it looks like it's not a trauma per se, but it is a way of being that has prevented me from actually, first of all, having compassion for myself, second of all, asking for help. And third of all, being vulnerable with people. And so again, there are bazillion layers in there. But, you know, you want to start with the biggest wound, which is, you know, your dad and your and your sibling. And then there are going to be other ones that show up. But if you can deal with that big one first, that will lessen the triggers.

Because when you, here's the end of the day. Here's what I want to say to you, Gregory. When you know your self-worth and you don't tie it to anybody else but you just know that for yourself. You don't need your dad to validate that, her to validate that. It's just between you and God, right? When you can validate that for yourself,

anything anyone says to you, it doesn't matter. I've been called lots of names. And yeah, I might get triggered for maybe a minute or two, but I know who I am. And I don't let it bother me. Because I know I love myself. And I've done a lot of work.

to love myself and forgive myself. So I think that's the work for you. You've got to figure out, why is it that I do not love myself? Where is it that I feel unworthy? Where is it that I've given my power over to other people to validate my self-worth? And so you want to go on a scavenger hunt and find all those people, all those conversations, all those scenarios where that was triggered. And when you can heal that, now you can start to heal that.

And so people can say whatever they want to say to you. And you're like, that's our opinion. I think I'm pretty awesome. I'm ready for that next time. I have a notebook that I've already collected and written down on all my experiences. All right. That's all I have time for you today. Yes, ma'am.

I will send you this information. I'll send you the video and everything through email. And I'll see you next Monday. That was good. All right. Thank you. Bye. Thanks for joining us on this adventure of growth and discovery.

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