Your Transformation Station - 24. Foundations of "Communication's Challenges and Opportunities" with "Non-verbal" and "Verbal Cues" w/ 'Favazza'

Episode Date: August 10, 2020

"How can you create a transformation in others if there's no transformation in yourself?" Join (Greg Favazza) podcast host and creator answer the questions: How do we tell when someone is lying? The focus this week is looking at the (psychology and patterns behind verbal and nonverbal discrepancies). To get a "comprehensive knowledge of deceit", we must first "develop awareness of the seven universal emotions". To follow up with this episode, we feature (Lily Walford) on Episode 51 with insights on Romantic relationships and body language.      Support the showPODCAST INFO:Podcast website: https://ytspod.comApple Podcasts: https://ytspod.com/appleSpotify: https://ytspod.com/spotifyRSS: https://ytspod.com/rssYouTube: https://ytspod.com/youtubeSUPPORT & CONNECT:- Check out the sponsors below, it's the best way to support this podcast- Outgrow: https://www.ytspod.com/outgrow- Quillbot Flow: https://ytspod.com/quilbot - LearnWorlds: https://ytspod.com/learnworlds- Facebook: https://ytspod.com/facebook- Instagram: https://ytspod.com/instagram- TikTok: https://ytspod.com/tiktok- Twitter: https://ytspod.com/x Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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You're called action. You are changing to a better self by surpassing our own expectations. This week's focus, we are looking at deception. Deception, yes. I wanted to go into something interesting. This is going to be an interesting week. I cannot wait to hear. Of course I can hear.

I cannot wait for you guys to hear what's happening this week. Tomorrow we have our first episode with our co-host, Larry Oliver. He will be tuning in with us tomorrow. And then Wednesday, we have an interesting interview with an interesting guy. Nicholas de Grange. God, I feel so bad. I butchered his name like a dozen times. Even after we had clarification on his name, I still kept butchering it.

I'm like, I was like, okay, I'm going to butcher this. But, Nick, how do I say this? De Grange. Degrange? De Gravel? De goose? What? Shit.

Nick, I am sorry. Okay. I don't know what it was, but I just could not say your name properly to save my life. It was brutal for the both of us. Me specifically, because I just feel extra special inside for trying to get the name out properly. But this week, we're looking at deception. Will we try to depict and understand those little nonverbal cues that are happening right around us? Understanding human behavior and interpreting that funny feeling you get when you're having a conversation with somebody and just something feels off to give you.

an understanding of that funny feeling. I am a huge fan of Paul Eichmann. He is the best of the best at what he does. And what he does is micro-expressions. Dr. Paul Eichmann. Paul Eichmann is a contemporary psychologist who studies the relationship between emotions and facial expressions. He is well known for his ability to determine.

tech lies. For the longest time, I've been studying his work ever since I was 19 years old. And it's interesting why I actually started studying. I wanted to be able to tell if girls like me. 19 year old kid, I was motivated. But then I start to learn a lot of interesting facts. A lot of things that made sense. I think with my own personality type, as far as being, an empath. I could feel emotions inside people. But feeling these emotions, I was able to articulate

something much more deeper within Paul Eichmann's work which we are about to go into. A facial expression, tone of voice, or just a slip of a tongue, a certain gesture, can share somebody's true feelings within a micro-expression.

There are two types of lies, withholding some information or falsifying, presenting false information as if it were true. Between the two methods, how we lie, it consists of half-concealment, misdirection, that's withholding or hiding some information versus telling the truth falsely, presenting false information as it were true. When somebody is falsifying this information, usually it comes with an unusual behavior, the presence of any type of behavior that deviates from the subject's experience on a regular basis.

With those basic fundamentals of a lie is instilled in your mindset, you want to focus on this. When you're having a conversation with somebody, something is off. You got to look at their body. when I said earlier, the rhythm does not match the cadence. And what I mean by that is if you're asking them a question, you've got to catch those micro expressions. Now, one simple thing that you catch does not relay that they're lying or not.

However, it's a cluster that you have to look. A good number to work with is three. For an example, you're investigating somebody. you're asking them a question at that exact moment that they respond maybe their eyes shift to the left when they normally have been shifting to right to recall i'm not saying that they're shifting to the left insinuating that he's thinking of something else rather than trying to recall something how are they facing are their hands are in their pocket tapping are they tap in their feet these are all credible signs when it meets the situation under stress and you are interrogating that individual. You are able to recognize their deceit, but you are unable to confirm the reasoning as to why. Let's take a step back.

Before we go into the nitty, gritty details, I love the nitty gritty details of this. This is my favorite, but God, we got to take a step back. The universal emotions. I think we need to focus on that. There are seven types of emotions. Anger, contempt, discuss enjoyment, fear, sadness. And of course, it's a fucking surprise to learn this information.

I love it. I really do. And as you will all once you understand it fully. The primary message of anger is get the fuck out of my way. There's no other way to put it. It communicates anything from dissatisfactory. to threats. From annoyance, frustration,

this emotion, we need to be able to recognize the triggers of somebody who is angry within that individual who is staring at you. Their eyebrows are pulled down and pushed together. Eyes are wide open, staring, dead into your soul. lips pressed so tightly They're turning purple

They look like they want to fuck you up Because they know They are being caught Their vocal expression Of someone who's angry It consists of Either someone who is shouting at you Directly or indirectly

Or may have a Sharp tongue In their tonality When their tonality when they're extremely pissed off. You can just see flexing of their own nostrils, just like a batwing. The next one is contempt

when they stare at you with those judgmental eyes wishing you would burn in hell because they can't compete with you at your level. Contempt. Wishing you an undesirable fate that scorn you get when you meet your competition.

Recognizing somebody with contempt. Tighten and raised lip corner, usually on the side or pursed lips, kind of just sucking in air from one side or the other. The next emotion is enjoyment. Now, with enjoyment, there is a lot of levels of emotions from least intense to most intense. from pleasure to compassion to amusement

that you are getting from the sound of my voice to relief peace what makes us happy is the enjoyment through our five senses touch taste, taste, smell, sight and sound within the face of happiness eyes are narrowed and there is some wrinkling around the eyes.

Cheeks are raised, lips are pulled back and teeth is exposed and a genuine smile. To distinguish a genuine smile from an authentic smile, an authentic smile is utilized by half the face, meaning the lower part of the face is only being utilized why the upper part is resting. A genuine smile you can distinguish through the crinkling in the eyes. The next one is fear.

We all experience this emotion. Fear arises with a threat of harm, either physical, emotional, or psychological, real or imagined. This is traditionally a negative emotion. Some of you might say, I don't fear anything. I can tell you what fear is. Try walking up.

to Connor McGregor and socking him right in the face that is the definition of fear itself if we were to look at the levels of fear nervousness anxiety dread desperation panic horror

and of course terror common fear triggers usually consist of darkness or loss of visibility of surroundings. I myself, heights and flying, along with social interaction and rejection. But I believe we all suffer this.

Is death or dying? Is the enormous fear? With this facial expression of fear, it's caused the eyes to widen around the top and bottom of the irises. The lips stretch horizontally. The lips stretch horizontally backwards. And the eyebrows rise outwardly. Next is sadness.

Sadness can be described in numerous ways. From disappointment, discouragement, resignation, helplessness, misery, grief, sorrow, anguish. This universal trigger is something we all experience. And common sadness triggers. Faced off, rejection, endings, or goodbyes, sickness, death, recognizing sadness. The inner corners of the eyebrows are pulled up together, upper eyelids, drooped over, and eyes looking downward. Lip corners pulled downward to match the eyes.

You could feel the vocal expression in somebody's voice. Their pitch is much softer in volume. between sadness and anger these two facial expressions are the easiest ones to spot spotting anger is our way to allow us to say safe as well as to recognize sadness

is a single for help this can be to single others when we need comforting and lastly surprise common triggers loud sounds unexpected movements. Somebody sneaking up on you without any warning.

One thing to note is the difference between startle and surprise. Surprise is the emotion. Startle is the physical reflex. Along with another two, take into account, fear and surprise are the two that are most commonly confused. The face of surprise, eyebrows, raised but not drawn together. Upper eyelids raised, lower eyelids neutral, along with your jaw dropped.

These are the basic emotions. Anger, contempt, disgust, enjoyment, fear, sadness, and surprise. They seem almost obvious. However, you'd be surprised. Practice these. Focus on one facial expression at a time. Memorize the pattern. You've been able to spot it out.

Carry it over to contempt. Then to discuss and so on. As you focus on these, you become automatic to recognizing them. Then to take it a step deeper. Analyze the context of the situation, whether it would be a physical, An event that is the acting stimulus or a social interaction.

As we continue to progress, we will develop emotional awareness. And then the cool thing happens is once you, for example, you're at a mall, you run into a beautiful woman. You can recognize automatically happiness. She's personally fidgeting. with her jewelry and her torso is facing 45 degrees off rather than being direct in front of you pointing slightly away from you from this description playing or fiddling with jewelry in some ways subjects pacify themselves during social stress or anxiety 20-20 eyesight, you can see her pupil dilation.

Pupilation during the context of this situation as she first encountered your presence, you being the visual stimuli. She starts to illustrate arousal. I think we can all say that she finds you, very attractive. As time progresses, these will become second nature.

These will be additional tools in your toolbox that will allow you to go deeper in a social interaction. My resources that I've gotten for this information is from the Paul Eichmann group. Dr. Paul Eichmann is the very pioneer of the study of emotions and their relation to facial expressions. To learn more about this information,

I provided links in the show notes to give you visual description over what you have talked about in this weekly uplift. Utilize this. It may seem repetitive or completely irrelevant at time, but being aware of who you're speaking with can be a deterrent. It could keep you safe one day. You can distinguish somebody who's genuine and authentic versus somebody who isn't. I'm somebody who wants to harm you personally.

In order to recognize deception, you need to recognize what authenticity is first. listening to your transformation station. Rediscovering your true identity and purpose on this planet. We hope you enjoyed the show, and we hope you've gotten some useful and practical information. Join us weekly on Monday for the YTS Challenge and bi-weekly on Wednesday for the exclusive interviews at 8 p.m. Central Time. In the meantime, connect with us on Facebook and Instagram at YTS The Podcast. We'll be back soon.

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