Your Transformation Station - 81. Post THOUGHTS Wiliam Allen w/ Favazza

Episode Date: January 7, 2022

The "interview" was a focus on sensitive men and their place in the world but the "conversation" still left Greg with some questions on the guest's "philosophy".https://www.ytsthepodcast.com/s3e81 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Testing, testing. Oh, finally, you guys can hear me. I know you missed a interesting conversation that will never be heard. It was a wonderful conversation. I was trying to record earlier, and I was just integrating one app over onto my Mac computer. because I'm trying to record this Wisdom app on my Mac along with another app during Facebook Live so then I can kind of bring you guys all together

as I do interviews. But the purpose of this recording is kind of go over my interview I just had on Facebook. Facebook Live. If you're interested in that, you have free time later. You can check it out. YTS the podcast. I did an interview with William Allen. He wrote a book and a very intelligent man. I spent a long time looking into not just emotional intelligence, but actually in a more deeper understanding on why men

are coming out today feeling more emotional about their life and things of that nature and it resonated with me because I understand where he's bringing that up

from a different level that could probably relate to almost anything or anyone yes anything man or thing and also I have a baby in the background my firstborn son so if you hear him making noises he's just telling me to hurry the fuck up but he'll be all right I love him he's cool but uh my significant other is here as well I'm trying to do recordings for my Patreon, so we'll be making videos as I have this conversation with you guys. So that will be happening here in real time. But with that interview, me and William, what he was bringing

up, I liked it. I really did. But I don't know if you can hear it. It was like, it was like one. Yeah, it's another audio issue because I want to play it like loud. Like what he was bringing up. Like he didn't really give the deep reasoning to why he spent all his years studying this. Why he spent all this years learning about the... Give me an update with William. What was the main topic? Oh, sensitivity and men.

Thank you. We're good. Sensitivity and men. Yes, I got like five people at once. I got to stand on top of them preparing for and have a recently already recorded. So with sensitivity of men with William, he wouldn't even share his own thoughts

about why he was doing this. He kept it very professional. I'm like, yeah, I get it. It's a generation thing. That's the separation between millennials and baby boomers. And I hate beating a dead horse. I hate going into that. But now I feel like I got a rant.

Now it's time to audit the situation. All right. Maybe Booners. The Booners. Happy life. Happy life mentality. Nonsense. Bullshit.

Just surface level kind of lifestyle. If you're one of those kind of people, shame on you. Because you have thrown away your life and you haven't even realized that. If you are one of those people, it's time. time to look in the mirror, but I feel like you're not because you're here listening. You obviously are aware, so we won't even need to go in that. But he wouldn't illustrate that. It's like, dude, you went into this because you had that social upbringing where your fucking family did something to you. You never experienced what you were supposed to experience as a younger

adolescent. And now here you are trying to solve something from someone, but you're you're doing it in the most... Ugh. It's like... It's like you just somehow discovered it and it occurred. Like, boom, here it is. This magical idea in a book. I'm like, that's great.

Like, I love the idea. Like, I'm preaching this. But this is my reflection on the conversation that we had and how it could have been better. Yeah, I'll tell you what I could have done. I could have improved my fucking understanding about the topic. I could improve my understanding about the psychology and the aggression aspects of what family matters have on young adults into fucking adults from all on our social upbringing,

all those experiences. I could have done my research, but no, I didn't want to because of this very reason I want to reflect on experiences. and relate it and be in the moment to illustrate your expertise, my experience, to the listener. However, he couldn't connect on that level. And it was a shame because he is going into something that will be looked in common with every individual on the planet by, fucking next. year is understanding that there's much more with how we are facing ourselves in this digital world because now we are facing something completely new it's our own perceptions

we're facing our own internal dialogue but in isolation guess what introverts it has finally paid off I'm an introvert If you're an introvert, fuck you. If you're not, guess what? You're in a rude awakening because we all introverts, including myself, we have spent our years reflecting and reflecting in silence about life and why we can't get it fucking right. What is wrong with us? Well, now everybody else in the fucking world is going to join us as we live in this digital error working at home in fucking our tiny space of a closet like me. I'm in my son's closet right now.

I turn my studio, or his closet into my studio. And I fucking love it. It's badass. You can see it on my Facebook page. Go to YTS the podcast. My recent interview about this rant I'm having with myself, of course. But where was I? Oh, with William.

Sensitive man, thank you. Phantom voice into the background. A sensitive man, no, no, no, no. Virtual. So the virtual experience that we're going into right now. We are facing our own personal perceptions on how we view ourselves. So it's going to literally be like this. When we're working 9 to 5 on the Zoom,

when we're communicating with our bosses, it's almost going to be like you are looking at a mirror all day long every day because you're going to see yourself getting reflected back to you. I mean, when I'm recording every day, I'm seeing myself as I'm interviewing the other guy. Now, for somebody that hasn't dealt with their trauma, that hasn't dealt with their issues,

you're putting yourself into a new kind of stress where not only you haven't dealt with the shit that's hurting you, but you're now looking at it from an alternative angle. So I'm really curious on how that's going to impact us, how, what are the repercussions that's going to, to play on people that, one, have dealt with their shit, what is that going to do for them? Is that going to strengthen them?

Is that going to finally make them, make introverts, the leaders that they are? And then the people that haven't dealt with their shit, is that going to break them down? I don't know. But I find it interesting to see that happening in real time. That's one of my kids. gifts. I don't like to brag about any, about, I never used to brag about myself, but then I felt like that's why I never gotten heard is because would you want to hear somebody that doesn't

believe in themselves, that doesn't think he knows anything, but he really does on the microphone? No, he would sound like this. Well, hey guys, I just want to, I want to share something with you, and yeah, you know, I really don't know much, but I know about this. Versus somebody else, else who is honest, direct, feels passionate about what he's going towards, knows every avenue because he's researched it. Who would you choose? Well, guess what? I'm both of those people.

You were at one point, too. But I try to give everybody a shot. Anyways, I'll get sidetracked. We need like a little comment thing as well. bubbling up in the corner say hey oh baby yes really keep that into the count we're going to be facing that so uh what else we got oh no fuck you're right yes with the interview i i always get carried away so with the interview with him overall we are changing we're adapting okay we're embracing our But can you tell when somebody's not being authentic?

Can you tell when people give a fuck? You tell people don't give a fuck. And I apologize because I cuss a lot. Don't flag me. I have no negative intentions. Just pure honesty. And I want to illustrate that in how I speak. And when him and I were communicating, he was illustrating his vision.

And I felt like it could have been better if he just, would have dropped the guard and opened up about his past because we are all driven to make an impact based off our own experiences we either I mean that that's interesting to me because we will find ourselves falling back into the same experience that might have happened 10 years ago if you haven't resolved it. Ask yourself that. Why do I keep dating the wrong type of individual? Why do I keep buying the same type of fatty food?

Well, shit. I'll let you decide that. I'll let you come to that understanding. That is going under people's radar. That's happening in the interview. That's happening in people's conversations. Authenticity is a word that's getting thrown around and nobody understands the reality of that and what that means for you to be happy. To be healthy.

Fuck. If you're going to tell me something that you're passionate about, share those wounds that are hiding inside. Illustrate to me why I should care. That's what I want from. the people that I bring on to the show, and that's the experience that I want, it's called the experience design for my listeners. I want your experience design to be that. That's a transformation.

God, that's the most overused fucking term that's misunderstood. Transformation. It's aggravating. All right, we're auditing it. Let's do this. Why are people using it? It's because of a highly SEO word that's sought out for that they want to use. Now it's overpopulated and it's completely useless.

Everybody does that with words like that. Oh, I'm sorry. Sorry. Okay, if you're in a shitty relationship and you've experienced the word sorry over 100 times, well, what did you come to the result of? That individual is going to fuck up again. And then now you don't care. That's the point I'm trying to make with an overused word.

It's a process. You don't need to keep using it over and over. It's a one-time thing. Let it occur and keep it going. If you need a congratulations on the growth that you've made this far, then you haven't made anything yet. It should be expected. Why?

Because your children expect it. Their fucking grandparents expect that. Or your parents. But if they don't give a shit, then fuck them. Yeah. You don't have to be associated with your family if they don't support you. You can love them with a long handled spoon or tell them the fuck off. Again, I'm sorry for the language, please.

Very honest, caring guy. I love my son. He's in the background. Just lingering, looking up at his toys. But keep that into account with who you surround yourself with and who you put yourself, and what you put yourself through. Yes. Feel it.

Embrace that. Look back on it. Transformation. God. Anyways, my name is Greg Favaza. I'm the podcast host for Your Transformation Station. I interview people of all types. three seasons. One, first season was all about me trying to learn my voice and articulate my

skill sets as I got out of the military. Two, season two, of course, I looked into organizational leadership and culture and my own outside perspective. Now, season three, which we just started, we are in mental health and becoming the leader of your own. own life. And that is assessing regressions. It's assessing trauma, family matters, bullshit dialogue. I'm sorry, I did it again, internal dialogue, nonsense, unhealthy behaviors, healthy behaviors. But what makes my content worth listening to and why you need it in your life is you get the 100% honesty. And when people say that, I mean, my honesty is 10 times. better than that because I'll fucking tell you what it is like to go that route and why it's a

bad idea. I won't be a shitty blog page that comes up when you're looking for something, for a response on Google that you're trying to get and then you click on it and it gives you everything around the answer but the fucking answer. I won't dance around the answer. I'm going to tell you this is what it's like. It's fucking horrible. Don't go that route. Please research, but don't research that word. You'll just get nonsense. I'll tell you it's a waste of time or it's not and here's why. And if you disagree, then that's great.

But as long as you heard what I had to say and you apply it, then I feel like I'm doing my job that you're getting the information that you need. Like a lot of people, I hate saying a lot of people because I don't know everybody. But when I'm looking back, I'm looking back on my encounters. Yes, I was at it.

active duty. I've experienced numerous active, or numerous active, numerous encounters of different types of individuals. I experienced diversity. I've experienced different realms of different types of people. And there's mental, oh, I know, baby, it's okay. We've all have these experiences, but I was so in tuned that I latched on to it and I can apply it to here and now because of my trauma

again if you want to hear about that you can check out episode 66 with Seth Erickson is it Seth Erickson I think it's less yes uh... concrete yes it's I know baby conclusion um so with the conclusion you can oh my god tell me about it i know it's okay yeah i'm in a soundproof

room and the door's open so usually that works but not this case so yes episode 66 you can hear just a taste of my trauma but again sexually abused as a kid i've had my shoulder broken at age six months. I was thrown by an alcoholic father. If you want to take them out for me, please, that's not okay. I would like to do it myself if life put me in that place where I lost everything. I played that out in my life. That's what would happen. But ultimately, I got a lot more. As you can tell, I got my baby in the background. I know. It's okay. So learn more about me. that's episode 66. With the interview,

if you like my voice, I know. Mother! If you like my voice, which we all know you do, check the podcast out. You can catch the live stream about what I was reflecting on

with William Allen. Great interview otherwise. We just weren't we weren't really connecting like I wanted to. I try to really just insert myself into the conversation to feel like, just so I can

feel the emotion on what you're telling me. But, uh, yeah, definitely. So, I think that's it. I think that's it.

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