Your Transformation Station - 89. Taking Control vs Losing Control

Episode Date: January 16, 2022

The beginning tip from Jim McCarthy is to be authentic by refusing to be perfect, followed by Amy Yip, who addresses common fears we all have, especially around money and approval from family. Midway in, we get a glimpse of the positive mindset by committing to ourselves and others and using our critical thinking skills and capabilities to see the impact we have on others, directly from (Greg Favazza). The end is a comprised of Vanessa Estrada who encourages us that the brain is what controls healing, and of course those we surround ourselves with are changing us positively and negatively,  what we give out we will definitely receive back. John Beede, concludes this episode.PODCAST INFO: Podcast website: ⁠⁠https://www.ytsthepodcast.com⁠⁠ Apple Podcasts: ⁠⁠https://www.ytsthepodcast.com/apple⁠⁠ Spotify: ⁠⁠https://www.ytsthepodcast.com/spotify⁠⁠ RSS: ⁠⁠https://www.ytsthepodcast.com/rss⁠⁠ YouTube: ⁠⁠https://www.ytsthepodcast.com/youtube⁠⁠ SUPPORT & CONNECT: - Facebook: ⁠⁠https://www.ytsthepodcast.com/facebook⁠⁠ - Instagram: ⁠⁠https://www.ytsthepodcast.com/instagram⁠⁠ - TikTok: ⁠⁠https://www.ytsthepodcast.com/tiktok⁠⁠ - Twitter: ⁠⁠https://www.ytsthepodcast.com/x⁠⁠ - Pinterest: ⁠⁠https://www.ytsthepodcast.com/pinterest⁠⁠ - Linkedin: ⁠⁠https://www.ytsthepodcast.com/linkedin⁠ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When something is put together too perfectly, I call BS. All right. Yeah. I'd rather see your, your warts and all. I'd rather see your battle wounds, your scars, because then I can relate to you. You worked with a lot of different people, a vast culture of people. Was there a common theme of obstacles that people encountered? It was always fear-based.

afraid of something, right? Like, and everyone has different fears. So, um, some people, it's fear of fear or some, some sort of a relationship with money. And there's this constant like, but I need more money. And I need more money to do all this stuff. So I can't like quit my job to do this other thing, right? So it could be money. It could be fear of failure.

Because if I give up my current secure. blanket and do this other thing that's unknown, then what if I fail? Right. There's also, for some people, it's just relationships with their parents and being accepted by their parents and fear of if I do this thing, my parents will disapprove. So it's always some sort of fear, but it just depends on the person. I just had a thought and I just wanted to share it. Like for people that hit the certain age and they start to experience this midlife crisis, it's just a fascinating subject on why this occurs. And like they do, but they, for those that do, they just do it. And that's what I did with myself.

I mean, I hit 30 and I realized that I'm going to be a dad. And I'm also fathering two children that aren't mine. I have a blended family. So I had to make a decision, well, Greg, what are you going to do? Well, we can't stay in this apartment, so I went out and bought myself a house. And now do I continue the podcast? Do I go back to school? How am I going to support them?

I don't know, but I'm just going to do it. That's the decision. It's, are you going to do it or are you not? And then when you don't, you're going to have to do it later. And it's just like after the emotional breakdown or before. A hundred percent agree. And I always use the- I want to stop you because usually when thoughts are flowing,

we got to hit it. Otherwise, I lose it. I just want to understand if we're going through that, what's missing, and I've noticed that I can connect this with the midlife crisis topic, that a lot of people aren't embracing their vulnerabilities as their authentic selves.

Yes. And that's why they kind of feel like something's missing. Like, I have the job. I have this. but why do I feel like I'm missing something? And it's because you were afraid of allowing your guards to be down. You choose to wear a social mask. You wear your occupational mask when you're at work.

And then you barely show your loved one your real self. I could not agree more with you. And it's, yeah, I had masks on and I was protecting myself. And I had like different personas. And I mean, part of it is also, I just didn't know who I was myself. You have to let your brain. Your brain is powerful. You know, you have to be, you have to get in that mindset.

You know, it is changing the way you think. It is changing the way you feel about things to better yourself. And like I said, you know, what you believe about yourself, the universal matches. You know, if you, if you surround yourself with positive people all the time who uplift you, you're going to naturally be that way. If you surround yourself with people who, you know, are bringing you down who have all these problems, they drain you, you know, you start having problems. It's like whatever you put out, that's what you get.

And so you really do have to train your mind to think differently. You do. Now, we are focusing on happiness today. We need a little happiness. And it sounds a little, this sounds pretty lame sauce. I'm not going to lie. However, we have been stuck in our houses for months. A lot of people have lost their jobs.

A lot of people are struggling right now. now and some people need this little bit of certainty in their lives this little certainty is a guarantee to change your mindset to put you in a new way of thinking but it comes with the cost and that cost is commitment commitment to do this application every single day and simply all you have to do is take this moment and commit to yourself in a relaxed state. That is the very key factor in making a habit into a heuristic. Is being in a mental relaxed state. Stop and say to yourself, I'm beginning a new day by choosing to live this day in a better way than commit it to memory.

By saying, I will be as bubbly as possible. Bubly. I will make a conscious effort to feel and act a little more considerate towards other people. I will be a little less critical and a little more enduring of other people, their errors, shortcomings, and their mistakes. I will place high regard on their actions. With that in mind, I am convinced personal success. will always gravitates towards me. And I am already the person, the desired person I want to be.

I will be deliberate in all my actions and allow this new identity to become true to its conviction. I will not let my emotionally driven opinions become self-defeating and hinder my success. I will practice looking in the mirror telling myself, I love myself, at least three times, during the day. No matter how my day plays out, I will react calmly and intelligently as possible. Lastly, I will block out and overlook all those cynical and negative facts that I can do nothing to change. I mean, like anything in life, if you want to do something, you just need to set aside the time and make the commitment. And that comes at a cost always.

There's a cost of the things that you're saying no to and, of course, the financial expense of making it happen. But everything's got its price. And those who are willing to pay the price for things like climbing get the rewards in turn. Lifelock, how can I help? The IRS said I filed my return. But I haven't. One in four taxpaying Americans has paid the price of identity fraud. What do I do?

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