Your World Within Podcast by Eddie Pinero - 30 Minutes To Start Your Day Right | MORNING MOTIVATION | Best Inspirational Speeches
Episode Date: June 17, 2022"You didn't come this far to only come this far." - Unknown ...
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It may be that our greatest gift in life is that we're always one decision away from transformation.
We're always one decision away from a new path with new experiences, new beliefs, new identity,
one decision away from a totally different life.
It's almost incomprehensible that all the days leading up to now,
everything we knew ourselves to be can be discarded and left,
with one swing of an axe gone.
What is more miraculous than that?
We live at the intersection of two imaginary worlds, right?
The past and the future.
Past is gone and essentially meaningless.
Yet as the provider of our identity, it still rules over us.
Our sense of who we are comes from our collection of past memories.
That imaginary world of yesterday,
like the elephant tied to the chair with a rope.
It hasn't realized it's strong enough to break free.
It doesn't know that what confines him is not the rope, but acceptance of a lie.
And that's what the past.
That's what identity is, a lie.
We are not yesterday.
We are right now.
And from the trivial things to the significant things we get wrapped up in that lie.
We overlook the gift of control we have over our future.
What does it mean to say, I'm not a mourning person?
That in your past you hadn't conditioned yourself to wake up early?
Okay.
What does it mean to say, oh, I let people walk all over me?
That in your past you didn't stand up for yourself?
What does it mean to say I'm awkward or shy or I struggle with writing or running or public speaking?
So maybe you did.
But what does that have to do with right now?
What does that have to do with realizing the control you have over your life?
Because simply realizing you can disconnect from these narratives that they are not you is the superpower.
Realizing that calling yourself a bad student because you fail the test,
it's like never taking off your raincoat because it rained yesterday.
It's like, no, the sun is out, adapt.
And once you realize right now is the beginning of the rest of your life,
you can start making little changes.
Identify not who you were, but who you'd live.
love to be and move towards it.
Read the power of habit and atomic habits so that you can understand change isn't crazy
or big or scary.
It's moving little things in your life around so that they work for you, not against
you.
Start waking up and thinking about not what has happened but what can happen, not what can
go wrong but what can go right.
You are always one decision away from a totally different life because you're always one
decision away from change.
walking away from the narratives that you have accepted.
And so remember that.
But remember it not just when things are fine.
Remember it when you're struggling, when you feel restless or uneasy, unsure, uninspired,
sad, angry, not content with the reflection in the mirror.
When you feel that negativity, you're not looking at what can be, you're looking at what
you have been.
And there's no room at the table for that.
distraction. Not when you can reach out and start building something new. Not when you can put on a
new pair of shoes and walk down a different path. You are always one decision away from a totally
different life. And that decision should be first and foremost to choose future over past.
Your next step over the last one, choose your ideal world.
and start building.
There was a point a handful of years back
where I had one of the most important breakthroughs of my lifetime.
And I've talked about this with people close to me,
family and friends, to clients, business associates,
and it seems like there's a commonality amongst all of us.
And maybe, depending on the person that happened in a different way,
certainly at different times.
But everyone at one point,
another comes face to face with the realization that they have a tremendous amount of control over
their lives and it's at that moment you know where one becomes empowered it's like you realize you
have the key to the cell you've been locked in this whole time and at that moment one is prompted
to ask well why not start living like it you know there will always be
responsibility and sacrifice in life.
But that awareness makes one ask, well, what am I sacrificing for?
Where am I going?
Am I spending time with people that lift me up?
Am I doing things that contribute to a greater vision?
And perhaps most importantly, am I even living a life that is true to myself?
Because I'll tell you something, our time here flies by.
Not only will next month, next year, next decade be here before you know it,
but it's not even guaranteed.
And if one doesn't take the time to look in the mirror and ask the tough questions,
life will keep on ticking.
Time will not stop.
No one's going to walk up to you.
And point out the fact that you're just going through the motions here.
No, that one's on.
You have to see that this world can become what you decide it will be.
That you are presented the tools, but tools require an architect and a creator.
Tools require someone in seeing what is not yet there to pick them up and...
And so maybe this is the time for you to ask, what am I building?
Where am I going?
When my day starts, both feet hit the ground and I walk out the door.
What am I moving?
Maybe today is the day you realize that there are parts of your life that don't need to be there, that you can cut away.
People that don't deserve your time, that don't elevate you or contribute to your well-being.
Maybe there are places you're going because that's where you've always gone.
Things you're doing because that's what you've always done.
But you don't need to live life on repeat.
If you're not happy about it, how about doing something to change it?
There is nothing in your life that can't be adjusted or altered.
Just like yesterday is now a story,
so is the idea that you are confined to a specific set of parameters.
Break down those walls.
See things not as they are, but as they can be if you have the courage to walk away from old stories and characters.
What if today you created a new ending, one that lights you up in the morning,
contributes to your sense of purpose when you close your eyes at night?
Again, remember, no one will come up and hand that to you.
No one will let you know you're selling your sense.
short, that transformation must be internally prompted.
And so I hope you'll ask.
I hope you'll ask the questions that you've been neglecting for far too long.
I hope today can be the first page in an entirely new chapter.
A chapter in a story that is truly an entirely yours.
In John Maxwell's book, The 21 Irrefutable Laws of Leadership, he talks about momentum.
And how the saying, if you can't take the heat, then get out of the kitchen, doesn't quite get it right.
Advocating that it should instead be, if you can't create the heat, then get out of the kitchen.
And being that we are all leaders in our own lives, I think.
think he hits on something that none of us should overlook.
The power of momentum, of not waiting but creating,
reminding ourselves that we are not spectators,
sitting in the stands and simply reacting to,
or complaining about the events taking place below.
No, we have the ability to change the things we do not like
and create the ones that don't yet exist when we know
They should. Too much of the time we react to that metaphorical heat in the kitchen, as John alludes to.
Forgetting that we can dial it up or down. We're not only characters that have been created. We are
ourselves creators. I talk a lot about mental shifts that have changed my life and there are plenty.
But perhaps the most important was the realization that I can do something about the things I don't like.
And I know that sounds simple, probably even obvious.
But I look back at various stages of my life and I'm blown away by the amount of things I tolerated for years and years simply because I gave it no thought.
There were so many questions that I never asked, so many opportunities I never explored.
Until I realized, hey, you can stop accepting those things you don't want.
It's amazing the power of a simple list that was created.
Two columns.
Left side, all the things that bothered me.
That I wasn't happy with or that I knew should be there that had been lacking.
And then on the right column, what I'm going to do about it, every single item.
Each one, what's the step I'm going to take?
And I just poured my heart onto that paper, and it's like you look down,
and feel like you have finally moved into the driver's seat.
There's something incredible about knowing that you have taken control,
something satisfying, knowing that you're not just accepting
what falls out of the sky and lands in your hands,
especially since we seem to have this proclivity to box ourselves in.
Human beings are amazing in their ability to adapt,
but the danger is when we adapt to and normalize a reality.
reality that falls short of what matters to us. The danger is in forgetting that nothing happens
without momentum and momentum is self-made. One of my favorite stories is about a man walking through
the circus and he sees these enormous elephants each with one end of a rope tied around one of their
legs and the other end of that rope connected to a chair. The man, as he's walking by, he's curious,
asked one of the trainers,
hey, isn't that dangerous?
Couldn't the elephant easily break free
and get away if you wanted?
And the trainer says, no.
See, we started doing this when they were baby elephants.
And when they were babies,
they couldn't physically break free.
They weren't strong enough.
And so over the years, as they grew and became bigger, stronger,
it never dawned on them that by simply pulling on that rope
or walking away, they could break free.
These chains might as well be invisible.
And that's what they were.
Mental.
The rope wasn't keeping the elephants to the chair.
The elephants were keeping the elephants to the chair.
And there's something there in that message for all of us.
For some of us in this particular moment,
maybe it's big picture.
For others, maybe we're at a season of life
where it's simply creating momentum in some type of smaller capacity.
And I travel through these ups and downs personally all the time.
I think that's a healthy thing.
It's a sign that you're looking for that growth.
You're checking the world around you for those imaginary ropes.
Recently I went through a period where I just felt too long had gone by
without something significant happening.
I needed to create momentum.
And so I asked, well, who was I reaching?
out to. How was I pushing myself? What was I doing that scared me? What was I doing that was growing? How could I
take things up a level? All these little levers of opportunity are all around us, but we have to know to look for
them, to see them and pull. And it's truly an incredible thing. You do that and you start to feel the
movement underneath you, the momentum, the excitement, because you're trying new things, you're taking new
risks, talking to new people.
And that's how that snowball grows.
We have to realize that we are mighty big elephants, perpetually tied to these comically small
chairs.
We have to create that heat in the kitchen because we're not only capable, we are ready.
We are equipped to move forward.
See, the moment is never going to be perfect.
The momentum will never come to be on its own.
Those things wait.
They wait for you to stop watching life go by
and click start on the stopwatch.
Yeah, time has always ticked away,
but it will never mean as much as it's about to now.
Tick, talk.
whispers the opportunity
signifying that in order to evolve
we must decide we are bold enough
to go where we have not yet gone
and strong enough to leave some things behind
to choose to accept some discomfort
in its impermanence
instead of a regret that is forever
and that's a trade that demands
we look into the future and find value in the unseen
It's a move that says the seconds ticking by mean too much to dishonor them by not making the most of what's around you.
And those answers are always there.
At the end of the day, that's what it's all about, right?
We make decisions without even realizing we're making them.
To accept the current moment as fate is to choose what you're given over what is possible, over everything.
that's out there available for you. It's never too late to pull on that rope around your foot.
To be who you, as the saying goes, might have been. Know that in your world, nothing consistently
shows up or exists without your stamp of approval. That will always be true. Nothing carries on
without you allowing it to do so. And that understanding will be the difference between the ground level
and the exponential heights you are capable of reach.
The creation, the email, the phone call, the ride, the book, the period of time, the step out, the door,
any and all of life's seemingly unremarkable characteristics.
Within them is your ticket to greatness.
Just know that you have to be the one that winds the clock.
You are the sun around which everything else revolves, the architect that makes something of value from them.
There will always be momentum where you decide there should be momentum.
So pick your head up, open the door, and step out into the world of potential that await.
On that long drive, in the middle of the night,
with headlights and endless road in front of me.
Everything I knew in the rear view mirror,
I learned the value of making the difficult decision.
During the times of disappointment,
being let down by the ones I counted on I believed in,
I learned the importance of loyalty, the power of being there
for those who mean the most to you.
Through the failures, the story
the uncertainty, I learn that life goes on.
That when you allow yourself to fall,
you build an immunity to the fear associated with hitting the ground.
You get back up stronger.
Through the heartbreak, the loss, the pain.
I learn to appreciate every moment.
To look around and not take any of this for granted.
To both recognize and approach and approach.
appreciate the fragility of the present because with the snap of a finger, life can change.
In the wake of past anger and conflict, I learned to pick my battles.
That rarely is it worth my time.
That our vantage points are merely a reflection of our backgrounds and understandings,
and even the slightest effort to understand the person staring back at you can be the
difference between building up and tearing down. From being overlooked, disregarded, the smallest
person in the room, I learned the value of true leadership, the benefit of empowering those
around you and making them feel appreciated. That walking alone may sometimes be necessary,
but that building a vision that those around you believe in is unparalleled.
Life is a teacher.
And only through its toughest tests can its curriculum be understood.
Can its ideas and lessons take shape?
What you need exists so long as you open your eyes.
You'll find an inevitable truth that this universe, it wants you to win.
It's holding its hand out, providing you everything.
you need, just understand.
Understand that the lows prepare you for the highs.
The losses set up the gains, the mistakes build a foundation for the greatest things
you will ever do.
Life is a teacher.
And should you listen, you'll see that it has no bounds, no restrictions, just the
next chapter. Allow yourself to be vulnerable. You forfeit your greatness. If you don't risk failure,
you have no shot at being the one who makes a statement. You don't risk them laughing at you.
You have no shot at them clapping for you. If you don't risk trading today for a future outcome
that's uncertain, you'll never know the fortune that that future help.
Yeah, being vulnerable, it's difficult.
It's hard, it hurts, but it has to.
It's the ocean that separates what you have from what you want.
The mountain that stands between who you are and who you want to be.
Being vulnerable, it means you stop looking at what can go wrong,
and you start thinking about what can go right.
because every question's a double-edged sword.
Do you release that song?
Because it could flop,
but it will also kickstart your dream.
Do you make that first trip to the gym?
Because you'll probably look like you have no clue what you're doing,
but it could also lead you to feeling better about yourself
than you ever have before.
Do you apply for that promotion?
Because you could be let down.
But it could also lead you.
to a career transformation.
Do you see the dynamic here?
Every major decision comes with risk
and that's why people avoid making them.
Standing out, taking the road less traveled,
they shake our deeply rooted desire to fit in.
Right at the foundation.
They conflict like fire and water.
See so much of our stress comes from a need to belong,
to preserve a reputation.
to be cool.
You want a fun experiment?
Watch how fast being cool turns into mediocrity.
It's doing the things that are not cool
over and over again that constitute greatness.
The ones who are different, bold, out there, they change things.
The ones who are okay being called irrational, okay being laughed at,
okay with failing and not getting it the first time around.
If you do not let yourself be vulnerable, you never experience failure on a significant level.
You don't fail, you don't learn, you don't learn, you don't grow.
And if that's the case, forget about the top of the mountain.
Safety, comfort of flawless reputation, gets you a nice seat at the bottom looking up at greatness,
at those who saw the opportunity and were willing to take a chance.
So while you climb, keep your eyes on that big picture, remember that we outgrow our worries.
Through each stage of our lives, we look back and we realize that our previous priorities were misaligned.
We worried about things that didn't matter.
Allowed our decisions to be guided by variables that were irrelevant.
And that's the beauty of risk.
It escalates this realization.
Pushes us further and further past the little things that mean less and less within.
step taken. Your mistakes will not matter. Criticism from strangers will not matter.
What will matter is whether you took control and did something meaningful with your life.
Whether you followed your heart and your instant. And I know it's hard, I know it's
uncomfortable. I can't sit here and guarantee the path will be paved out in gold.
Everything will go how you want, but I can promise this. You will learn. You will a
adapt and move forward.
I can promise that the critics and the naysayers get smaller and smaller until they fade out
of the picture altogether.
And most importantly, I can promise that if you don't do anything, you will not go anywhere.
And that is the only way to fail.
So trust yourself.
Trust the process.
Believe that you are extraordinary.
And go make your magic.
