Your World Within Podcast by Eddie Pinero - 30 Minutes To Start Your Day Right | MORNING MOTIVATION | Wake Up Positive

Episode Date: October 31, 2022

"When you arise in the morning, think of what a precious privilege it is to be alive - to breathe, to think, to enjoy, to love" - Marcus Aurelius

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Let's get up a little bit earlier work. It's at the gym or study or give more work. But sometimes it's acknowledging that if in this chapter of your life, You find everything around you intimidating or too distant or out of reach. It's not because the world is too big, but rather you've let your own image get too small. It's the identity that needs the maintenance. We do things because we see ourselves as doers of those things. Soccer players play soccer.

Writers write. Painers paint. No one who's ever identified or introduced himself as a runner. has ever broken a world deadlift record. No, runners do runner things. Bodybuilders do bodybuilder things. People who view themselves as small do small things and people who see themselves as capable or strong, daring, adventurous,

larger than life, well, you get the point. We're out there over-analyzing all these details, trying to decipher code without realizing that we've already won or lost. You gave yourself permission to run 50 yards and then became Sherlock Holmes trying to figure out why the world wouldn't let you reach yard 51. We go as far as we allow ourselves to go. We do as much as we allow ourselves to do. We become who we allow ourselves to be.

They're not saying the other variables don't matter. Of course they do. I'm saying over time those variables become blocks for us to build ourselves up or build walls around ourselves that, keep us down in one place. If the world feels bland, give yourself permission to seek out the beauty. Be someone who finds joy in life. If the world feels lonely, give yourself permission to connect with others. Be someone who brings people together.

If the world feels chaotic and confusing, give yourself permission to break it down. Be someone who turns big things into small manageable thing. If the world feels sad and disheartening, give yourself permission to uncover what makes you smile. Be someone who, in the darkness of night, can find that light switch. Because for every reason to be sad, there's one to be happy. For every reason to be weak, there's one to be strong, so on and so forth. Of course, it's not the easiest to remember when we look out and don't like what we see. But knowing that the solution is internal, knowing that you decide who you are,

where you're going and where you stop, as much as humanly possible, it puts fate in your hands, which is right where it should be. There's power and simplification. Not because you can't handle the complex, but because too much noise drowns out the meaning. It gets in the way of the things that actually make the difference. Our blessing and curse is the finitude of our life. time. So by default, that makes the word, no, a gatekeeper to the contentment we feel in our lives.

What are you keeping out? What are you saving space for? Clarity is not a luxury, but a necessity. And when one has limited capacity, they must both cherish and protect it. So why does this matter? it matters because when you simplify things the path is never as intimidating the problem is never unsolvable the opportunity is never too far away it matters because we dress the solutions up in irrelevant detail and then call them the problem we don't see things as what they are we see them as stories we tell ourselves we see too much and it just so happens that the biggest leaps forward one can take in life or the result of not secret formulas or hidden answers, but in freeing ourselves of that excess, saying no to the wrong things so that we can say yes

to the right things. Underneath the stacks and accumulation of nothing is something. There's something to the notion that the road to recovery is always a single decision away, that it's already there. But you just haven't been able to acknowledge, to choose it. When life becomes convoluted, there's this tendency to think, I am the problem, I am broken, I am incapable of X or Y or Z. And it's like, no, you've just let so much in that what was once obvious is now buried.

You're looking at the giant ocean before you, forgetting that a very tiny boat can traverse it. Basics. Let's ask the question, where is it I most want to go? And what would one step in that direction look like? Sometimes we have to go knowing that mile 10 will have its monsters. And mile 50 will have its setback. But to not take step one in anticipation of those. future problems of something way down the road is letting that excess in simplicity is the goal simplicity

ask yourself can you start beginning grants you one of the greatest weapons to possess an ability to adjust the ability to adapt the ability to utilize the now and this is not to dismiss the pain and difficulty associated with our most challenging times, it's to remind you that during those times you feel lost or closed in, you don't need to reinvent the world to your left and right. It's not bigger than you. So much of the time, it's about composing yourself enough

to reach out for the light switch that will illuminate the path, just enough for you to look up and walk right out the front door. There's a saying, don't worry about losing other people, worry about losing yourself while trying to please other people. And see, holding on to our authentic selves not always easy. In fact, Emerson said to be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.

And that holds true. And especially in our fast-paced world, shiny objects constantly buzzing around us. Sometimes it seems like the only way to see with clarity is to keep our eyes closed. I was in the car the other day, had Spotify on Shuffle, and a Jason Aldeen song came on.

It's called Better at Being Who I Am. And it's essentially about a guy who loses himself in a relationship a little bit at a time. And the chorus is basically him sharing his epiphany, looking around and going, whoa, what the hell happened? And it was laid out in a way that wasn't sort of the obvious, blatant, you know, be yourself. I mean, sure, part of the theme was how important being yourself is, but the emphasis was on how fragile of a thing that can be. He put a spotlight on the idea that he got good at forgetting he was in a place that he knew he didn't belong, how we can become masters of forgetting that, champions of rationalization.

And that was his message, being that he has somehow, somewhere, lost himself along the way. that concession after concession can ultimately put you in a place where you don't know who you are where you can know something isn't quite right and still slowly and subtly it creeps in it can consume your reality and that's what cut through me not simply because it occurred It wasn't so much the epiphany itself, but more so that he showed how easily the erosion of the self can occur in our lives, how easily we lose ourselves, how sneaky the whole thing can be. And this particular example is pointing to a relationship with his girlfriend, and it certainly can be this. But it doesn't have to be, and often it's not. It can be a job you don't want to do,

but hanging in there just one more day turns into more days than you can count. It can be time with the wrong people, doing the wrong thing, going against your best judgment. It can be the business decision for a short-term gain that ultimately points you in a direction

you don't want to go, right? Before giving life to that convenient phrase, well, I've come too far to turn back now. Life is like a small child, always gently tugging on his mom's sleeve to get her to stop doing what she's doing and go get ice cream, right? It's the temptation to move away from the task at hand to abandon the principles just slightly, the objectives, just enough, that they'll be pulled off track, right? That's always there. And to reiterate, because this nuance is why I think the idea is so important.

The message is not simply about being authentic. I think we all understand the value and necessity of authenticity, or at least I hope. Your value is in who you are. The things that make you unique are the gateway to a life of fulfillment. What makes you you, you, and how can you delve into that? Share it with the world. That's the good stuff.

So let's presume we know this. My fascination and goal is to point out the fact that so much around us is looking to take that authenticity and subtly, over time, transform it, that if we are not aware of what we are, we will lose who we are. And that's where you end up in those wrong relationships, wrong places, doing the wrong things. A lot of times it wasn't deliberate or conscious. It wasn't one swing of the axe. it was letting yourself slip away one day at a time. It's the pressure of an infinite number of things, right?

The billion choices you have pulling you in all different directions. It's the people in your life that may have different incentives than you. It's that deep biological tendency to want to appear like you're winning now. It's your brain telling you to do what the crowd does because the alternative creates pain. It's not wanting to let others down because you want to be their source of happiness, completely forgetting that an empty cup has nothing to offer. It's the deception online.

The highlight reels, filtered pictures, humble brags, and exaggerated success stories, all prompting us to say, well then I must have miscalculated. My path must be the wrong path. And maybe we don't come to this realization and immediately jump ship, but we take in a little water every day. Every time we open the app and feel lesser because of an impossible standard. Every time we put the thing that meant something to us on hold for someone else. Every time we chase that shiny object in exchange for what we expect will be short-term validation.

But here's the crazy part. It's like when I shut everything off, when it's just me and my thoughts, no distraction, I have a very good sense of who I am and what I want, just in my gut. I know what feels right to me. And it's only when the chaos comes in that the target can get blurry and the goal seems to live a little further away. And maybe that's why that song had an impact, why the light bulb when I'm. off. The idea that something so obvious, so powerful, so important can allude us and deceive us. There's something to that. I'm better at being who I am. Of course I am and so are you. So why don't we?

Why isn't there an emphasis there? Why is that something that doesn't get our thought and attention? We can't afford to forfeit that instinct. And so this is the part where I remind myself and everyone listening that you get nothing in life without some semblance of self-trust. You have to take the time to understand who you are and trust yourself to build that from the ground up. Without that, you'll get swept up by the currents of everyday life. But to know what matters in your world and to hold onto it with conviction, that's what it's all about. And then, yes, you'll have success letting people into your life. when they contribute to who you are as a person,

when they align with your values, when they feel like wind on your sails. And yeah, of course, take the proven paths and utilize the beneficial tactics, but only when they align with what you are building. If not, walking away is the best option, wandering around until you find alignment.

Now that brings more value than a toolbox of the wrong tools. And sure, sometimes you have to do things you don't want to do. I get that. That's called being responsible. But those things, as annoying as they are, should be contributing to something that does matter to you. The building's foundation is not fun or sexy, but it's necessary. Just make sure you believe in what will ultimately be built on top of it. otherwise you are most certainly wasting your time.

Your gift is you. You have something to share, something to explore, nurture, and grow. Stand in front of that, never hide behind it. Protect it. It's the benchmark against which all other things should be measured. We're all better at being ourselves than some impersonation. of what we think the world wants us to be. I think the question comes down to,

will you allow that greatness for yourself? Will you be courageous enough to keep the spotlight on what matters most? Will you maintain the awareness that when you're walking down a path that doesn't align with who you want to be, you can self-correct. Turn around.

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and save up to $3. You won't want to miss out on these deals. Offer ends February 25th. Offers may vary. Restrictions apply. Visit safeway.com for more detail. There's something to the idea or act of stepping out of the limelight to work on yourself. To quote unquote disappear for a particular period of time so that with a laser-like focus,

you're able to build and develop the skills that will make you great at what it's, it is you want to do. In a sense, we're not created out in the world as much as we're created by what we do behind the scenes, the thousands of hours spent dedicating ourselves to a craft. We enhance our value and capability by doing the often monotonous, unglomerous things day in and day out. And those results out in the world are merely a reflection of that work. And that's what makes excelling in any given area so challenging. There's something counterintuitive about performing to an audience of one. Dancing to no applause, exhausting time, and energy, resources, so that you can cling to a promise.

But that's also why excellence will always be reserved for a few. Open to everyone, but ultimately a few end up there, right? The same way a finish line is open to everyone. But ultimately reserved only for those willing to put in the hundreds, if not thousands of practice miles, to start the race, run the race, and complete the race. There's a substantial amount of sacrifice involved. The outside world is its own chess game. It requires courage and innovation and a willingness to step into its great unknown.

But ideally, in doing so, one would be armed with the competency they've acquired when no one is looking. It's a result of their own dedication and commitment. And I actually started thinking about this during a Q&A I did recently, where someone asked if I had any thoughts on how they could start a speaking career. Right? I'm like sure happy to give my thoughts. First and foremost, understand it's a long play. So be willing to endure that bumpy road, that journey. There's no magic formula that makes you an MLK-esque order overnight, right? You work forever to capture a fragment of that excellence. And someone kind of chimed in, given me a hard time. You know, we know, we know, Eddie, you hate marketing. And I'm like, marketing. It took me a second.

going to connect the dots. How is this related? And the light bulb went off and I kind of laughed because I do bash marketing quite a bit and I think what they were getting to is I'm always talking about the long game, right? I'm always talking about working on yourself, the back end, the deep work, chiseling yourself into something that's unique, authentically you, extraordinary in its own right. or being so good as the saying goes, they can't ignore you. But at the same time, it would be pretty ridiculous and stupid for me to say marketing is not important. Marketing's pivotal. Engrained in some capacity in everything we touch, you have to be able to effectively communicate why something is valuable, obviously.

But I think there is a misconception and genuine misunderstanding in today. day and age with regard to adding value, with regard to rising to the top of a niche or making an impact. You know, we see flashy posts and ads and videos and think, ah, that's the target. But that's just the mechanism for communication. That's the bullhorn. That's not the value ad. In Cal Newport's deep work, he mentions how difficult it's becoming for us to break away from

the social media and the push notifications and the emails and in solitude do the kind of work that really moves the needle that propels our greatness and makes us better at what it is we're looking to be great at. We officially exist in a world of distraction where perhaps the greatest challenge now is how do we disconnect? How do we turn off? How do we slip into a state of deep work so that we can grow as people? And then sure, you market that competency once it's acquired. But the goal is not to be a society screaming into a void trying to sell boxes of air.

We simply can't afford to leave substance behind. Value is ultimately what makes the world go round. and it's created, again, outside of the limelight. And look, there's going to be some bias to my approach based on the path that I chose to take. This has worked for me, so I stand by it. I advocate for it. And surely there are some very talented people

that disagree with me, and that's great. But I've always had the arrow pointed at what I want to do, what I want all this to mean at 45 years old. 55 years old. And right now, looking back, it's all the hours I spent writing in solitude, or giving speeches to a wall in a studio apartment, recording and re-recording, adjusting my approach. It's reps, reps, reps, that to me is what matters now.

That's what I'm most thankful for. And some time has passed, and as I transition into a new phase now, sure, I can get help and start blasting posts all over social media, that's easy. But the important thing is that I have a foundation to stand on. The posts are not the product, the craft is the product. And I want everyone to at least, whether they agree with me or not, understand that distinction. The million dollar question, the differentiator is,

what is your value add? If you can ask yourself that, right, What is the one thing I want to be the best in the world at? Where is my North Star? And then spend every day, at least some time every day, chipping away at that, you'll be unstoppable, but truly chipping away. Not feeling the need to share every detail with an audience

or capture every second of what you're building behind the scenes. No, turn the cameras off, breathe, focus, Be private for at least a portion of your day. I think you'll find in that space this beautiful opportunity to reflect and build and step into an evolved version of yourself. Don't be scared to disappear and come back better equipped. Don't be hesitant to go work on yourself.

If you're talking substantive impact, true value add, It's always the people willing to put in the hours To do the things that most people are not willing to do Target, identify the areas that make the difference And then hammer those repeatedly And look, I get it You have to, in a lot of cases, give up some of the now In order to reach an ambitious goal in the future.

It's a trade-off. It's hard. But life is about trade-offs. And maybe this message isn't for everyone, but if you're listening to this and you want to achieve some semblance of excellence in a given area, it's inescapable. It means falling in love with the pursuit that's time-intensive. It means showing up and putting in the hours often for little short-term validation.

It means solitude, because getting better is more important than attention. One of my favorite quotes is confidence is earned. Will you earn that confidence by showing up and committing to the things that truly matter that make you stronger? Sometimes we must step back to leap forward. Disappear as we are in order to reappear as we wish to be. Real work happens when no one is around you. Can you trust yourself enough to bet on you?

to bet on that process. Believe in that road, in that journey. If yes, you'll position yourself for opportunities and experiences that exceed your wildest imagination.