Your World Within Podcast by Eddie Pinero - 5 Life Changing Speeches You Need to Hear TODAY (2021) | Motivational Speeches Compilation

Episode Date: October 22, 2021

Sometimes walking away has nothing to do with weakness, and everything to do with strength...

I was thinking this morning about a conversation I had with my grandfather. This particular example, I was living in L.A. at the time, my grandmother, my grandfather. They flew in from Boston. And, you know, I think we're doing some family stuff, but I wanted to hang out with my friends down the street. Right? I wanted to go to Kyle's house, play Star Wars, whatever it was we were doing, and that felt like the world to me. Like, I didn't want to miss out on that because I felt like I'd lose it. If I wasn't there, I'd lose something.

And I remember him taking me from the kitchen to the living room. being like, Eddie, you have to relax. He's like, that stuff, I promise you, will always be there. The fun, the escape, the metaphorical going to Kyle's house will always be there. You have to do what's right for you. And then when you need that, it's there. It's almost like all the nuance and the detail is reacquirable. And why I'm bringing this up, and it's a little bit of a pivot.

But, you know, I've seen throughout my life, right, personally, this sort of loss aversion, like I mentioned a few days ago, where you don't want to leave a bad situation because you fear that the very basic boxes that you've checked, you can't get them back, right? It's like you can have a job that you're not satisfied, you're unfulfilled, there's nothing great about it, you've lost your sense of self, your purpose, but you're getting a paycheck, right or you know at least you have some direction in the day or in your life you can say who you are there's some identity there's some very basic boxes you're not happy but the basic boxes are checked and what you fear is if you leave in pursuit of something different maybe you can't check those boxes

again right or you're in a relationship and it's like it's not right and you know in your core it's not right but there's very basic boxes that are checked right you're you're you're You're not alone. You're with someone. There's some predictability in your life. Like, it'd be tough to lose those things. And so that's really the essence of what I want to say, right? Having the self-belief and the self-trust, because that's really what it comes down to,

to understanding that if you move into the unknown, you can recreate those things. You can check those basic boxes off. But if you don't have the courage to move out of that situation, you'll be shackled to a world that's not really meant for you. Right? So like, the job thing. And by the way, I always worry about saying this because there are people that love their jobs. I'm never, ever knocking a nine to five. Like, it's just my thing, right?

That was for me, I felt so constrained and I'm just such a, like, I love to be creating and sort of out on the first. That's just like what motivates me. That's not how everyone works. So I don't want this to be interpreted as me bashing a nine to five. It's just my story. But like I realize that I could have walked away, come back in a year after living in, like Thailand, and things would have been exactly the same when I got back.

Right? I could have got a similar job. I could have found ways to check off those same boxes, right? Those foundational things, they're reacquirable. just like the relationship thing, right? It's like if it's not right for you, there's eight billion people in the world. Eight billion.

You think one of those doesn't share your value system, one of those you can't have fun with, hang out with, relax, enjoy yourself, improve your life. Like, of course you can. But you're worried about losing the very basics, the very basic boxes that you've checked. And it's like you have to have the courage and self-believe. to walk away from those things.

You have to believe in yourself enough to know that you can recreate a reality, right? With a similar foundation, but with the things on top of that that make you happy, make you feel alive. You know, like I'm prone to do, I found a random internet quote today. It says, I am learning to love the sound of my feet

walking away from things that are not meant for me. And it's that simple. You can never get where you're going if you're shackled to the things that don't move you. If you're staying in a place of discontent. And the message is simple, right? Believe in yourself. Trust yourself. There's nothing in your life that you can't reacquire or rebuild.

But what you'll miss if you stay in that place is the opportunity, the upside, the people that will change your life. the places that you've never seen, the experiences, the journeys that make life worth living. The upside is just too high. Commit. The only limit to your impact is your imagination and your commitment. The fence is for losers.

That's a harsh way to put it, but that's the reality is things get better when you look at life from a binary standpoint. You either want it or you don't. And if you want it, why wouldn't you go all in? And if you don't, why would you touch it? I can't tell you how many times I've been one toe in the water and it's like, why?

Do you want this or not? First time I heard this freshman year in college. And it was one of those things where I always thought I worked hard. You know, I always kind of jumped into what I was doing and I wanted to get good grades and I invested in what I did. But I realized that I didn't quite grasp what it meant. And I walk up to the student center and I'm looking around and there's a flyer and it says, Holy Cross D1 men's rowing.

I'm like, yes, this is perfect. You know, I can make friends with like-minded people, you know, stay in shape. This is amazing. And I go up and there are 73 people there, walk-ons. And when I didn't realize at the time was that they don't make cuts, you either quit or you don't. Or you don't. Senior year when we graduated, four walk-ons were left. And we always joke about it because it's not like we were far more talented.

Or we had this superior skill set. We just committed to the process. We committed to the ups and the downs and the trials and the tribulations and the difficulty. One of my first practices, you guys know what a rowing machine is, the thing in the gym, you sit down and you pull. Pretty straightforward. You pull. It tells you exactly how hard you pull. That's it. And so I'm sitting there, we're doing five sprints, 2,000 meters sprints.

And I'm suffering, you know, just going, the world of hurt. And after the second one, I get up and I go to the bathroom, I'm throwing up, I have a headache, I'm dizzy, and just feeling so sorry for myself. I'd never experienced anything like that before. This is all new to me. And eventually I get it together and I go down, I sit on the urg, you know, feeling like a hero. It's like, all right, I'm back. And I sit down, grab the thing.

And the coach walks up next to me. It's Eddie, right? Yeah, it's Eddie. He goes, yeah, that score won't cut it. And walks away. And that was not a nice thing to hear. Because I always associated suffering with paying the price, right? How could I be going through that type of punishment

and have someone respond that way? Right? So we start the piece and now I'm like, I have something to prove, and I'm just ripping the thing as hard as I can and just not in a good place and he comes up again. I'm like, all right, good. Right. Now he understands. He goes, look, Eddie, I don't know what you have to do mentally. I don't know what you have to do physically, but you've got to figure it out. And that's where it occurred to me. Showing up isn't enough. Being in pain isn't enough

because the guy from Georgetown, you're racing on Saturday, guy from Northeastern, you're racing on Saturday, they hurt too, but they're pulling faster. Like, when, you're going to be able to Truly winning is committing in every single way. It's immersing yourself in something because if you want to be great That's what it takes So in this parable, there's a man and he's walking through a circus And what he's noticing is he looks around he sees these massive elephants right I'm sure everyone knows how big and strong an elephant is They have a rope around one of their legs connected to something and that's what's holding them in place and he's looking at them thinking how How are these enormous creatures being held in place by these little ropes?

They could easily, you know, have enough strength to just break free and run around. Yet they're not. They're all staying right where they are. And so as he keeps walking, he finds someone and he asks them, you know, how is it? These elephants are constrained like that. And the person explains, well, when they're little, we do the same thing. We take a rope. We tie it to one of their legs, connect it to them.

to something and at that point they are too small. They can't go anywhere. And every day, you know, we do the same thing. And as they get older, they don't realize that they're big enough or strong enough to break free. Like, they maintain the idea that they're shackled by that rope or tied by that rope, that they're bound to the same place. It's mental. And in fact, most limitations are mental.

These elephants don't even realize their constraints are self-imposed. And if you take a step back if you look at your own world, I think what you'd find is there are more of these ropes than we'd like to admit. And changing that is one awareness and two, a willingness. Like what types of parameters have you made for yourself? Are you living in just because that's, That's what you've always done. What is your metaphorical rope?

Is it a job? Is it a relationship? Is it a routine? Is it the courage to start something? Like what is holding you back? What stories have you told yourself? Are you living by that dictate your actions and your days and ultimately your happiness that can change with a tug on a metaphorical rope?

So reality, your life. is nothing more than what you've conceded to, what you've allowed it to be, it's a line in the sand. And the message today is so incredibly simple. It's to look around you and pinpoint where those lines can be redrawn, where that rope needs to be pulled.

What invisible walls have you created for yourself? Because in life there's one truth, right? Things only stop when you do. Life stops when you decide to stop. And sometimes you realize it and sometimes you don't. Sometimes you need the reminder to look around you and realize how courageous you are, how much you're capable of if you see beyond the immediate.

Because reality was not destined to be. It's what you've allowed. It's what you've created. It's what you've accepted. So let's tear down those walls. and build something incredible. Have an amazing Saturday. Catch you guys tomorrow.

I want to talk about a myth. And it's a myth. It's an idea that's commonplace in our lives and it's rooted in a lot of the decisions we make as well as the actions that we do not. It's this idea of certainty, of a formula, something that's already out there

that will get you from point A to point B. See, breaking it down, further there are two things you need to know about certainty one is that it's an idea derived from fiction there's no way of knowing exactly what the top of the mountain will look like in waiting for that to materialize to have that crystal clear step-by-step formula it creates stagnation we don't have perfection so we don't move it's one of those things where you wait and days turn to days and more days and weeks and months and years and eventually regret. Why? Because we were not certain.

And what do we do? See, this leads to the second piece. We study everything. We live in a time where we have access to unlimited resources. And it's this incredible thing, right? We can study the LeBron James, the Jeff Bezos, the Gary Vaynerchucks of the world. We can see exactly exactly what they did. We can see how they think, how they approach problems, how they get to solutions. And on one hand, it's an unbelievable benefit. Knowledge is power. But on the other hand, there's a cost. And this cost can be extremely detrimental because it mitigates the most important thing in your life, and that is your unique self. What makes you valuable? What do you? you bring to the world? What makes you tick? And I'll tell you right now, you do not find that

by studying how Jeff Bezos started Amazon and attempting to duplicate it. You don't find that by simply copying LeBron James' workout routine. Your value, your source of happiness. You know, that's discovered moving forward through ups and downs, falling and getting back up, not once, not twice, but repeatedly. And it's through those trials and tribulations that you carve out who you are. But if you wait for the perfect moment, you'll never find it,

which means you will never go through this process. I often think back to my days in the corporate world in the insurance industry, being in a situation that I was not thriving in. And if someone sat me down and said, Eddie, what do you want to do? What is the top of the mountain? What a success look like to you?

I couldn't answer that. But what I did know is that I loved to create. I loved to speak, to write, compose music, produce videos, just put out content. That's what I was destined to do and I knew it. But if I waited to move until I knew exactly what my life would look like until there was, you know, this path perfectly paved to the finish line,

I'd still be there. I'd be in a, a cuba, a, a couple, crunching numbers and excel in a weirdly painted beige room. But sometimes you have to move forward. Trust your gut, your instincts, what you love to do. Embrace the idea, the fact that you'll fall down, and you'll fall down and you'll get back up. But that it will shape you,

and that as you go on, living your passion, your purpose, thriving in life, the pieces come together. You have to trust that even when it's not certain, because I'll tell you what is certain. If you do not move, you will not achieve. That world will spin right around you. I read a book a few months ago called Hatching Twitter. Simple read, it's about the founders of Twitter, Jack Ebb, all these guys with their different ideas and different notions of what this company is going to be.

You know, it started out as, I believe, a radio, online radio company. And it evolved, and it evolved. And there were pivots and adjustments and alterations. And they kept moving forward and they kept growing. And there's one point where they have a valuation of millions and millions of dollars. And they're having a conversation like, what do we have? What is our company? Is real-time news the focus?

Are we promoting social interact? Like, what is it? How do we brand this? How do we market it? What do we have on our hands? This is a company worth millions of dollars. Talk about just moving forward, taking one step at a time. Things will change, they'll evolve, but you have to give yourself an opportunity for that to happen.

Imagine if they never left the garage or whatever room they started the company and because they didn't know what it would be in 2017. We wouldn't have Twitter. And that applies to everything around us, right? we have this idea that, you know, things were meant to be, they were destined. No. Things exist around us because of risks that were taken. Because people pushed forward until they got a result,

until they knew what they were meant to do, and it materialized. And that is life. So don't be scared to take that step. Don't be nervous to fall down. Need that. The world needs that. Because without it, we'll have could-bees. and some days, but not the existence that we want, that you deserve, that you're capable

of acquiring. No longer is certainty the standard. Progress is the standard, and your life will change. Let's talk about fear. One of the most interesting aspects of being human, our fear of touching this stove prevents us from burning our hand. hand. In many ways, it's our greatest protector. But it's also outdated. It can obstruct us from the things that we want most. For thousands and thousands of years, it has kept our species alive. Those who weren't afraid or skeptical of the dark cave or the rustling in the bushes, they probably

didn't make it too long back in the day, right? They would have been weeded out. But the thing is, life today is very different than it was back then. We don't have to fear for our life going to get food anymore. The tricky part is that in many ways our cognitive processes are still the same. We are wired to be afraid. And this can be a problem because if these fears limit our ability to grow or live the life that we want to live, then that fear, that primal instinct can be a barrier. because the human body will always take the path of least resistance. And for us, that means avoiding the problem. It's just easier.

If I'm scared of public speaking, it is exponentially easier for me to avoid the problem and not deal with it. I can eliminate the pain and discomfort by simply staying home. But here's the issue with that mentality. Life is too short and too precious to waste. Think about all the opportunities we'd miss If we ran the other way and hid every time we were afraid If we never pushed ourselves

If we never broke through the barrier of the unknown and sought out more It would be a tragedy We'd live a fraction of the life that we're capable of living So the big question is how How do we overcome fear? Well, it turns out the answer is simple It's just not easy If you've ever jumped into a freezing cold

pool, you'll be able to relate to this. As soon as your body hits the water, you go through extreme discomfort, right? Pins, needles, that quick shock you feel. The only thing on your mind is being out of the pool, being warm. But as time goes by, this changes. Your body acclimates. You adjust. And after five minutes, you can get out, you can jump back in. There's no discomfort. You're completely fine. Well, facing our fears follows a very similar pattern. the more we expose ourselves to a certain stimulus, the more comfortable we become. Tim Ferriss references this in the context of going to a crowded place,

a sprawling out on the floor lying on your back as people walk by. It's an incredibly difficult and anxiety-inducing thing to do. It goes against every instinct we have, but something happens when you get back up. You've taught your brain that there are no negative, precautions, that it's okay. And this pushes the bar a little higher, makes you a little braver, stretches your boundaries a little further. Emphasizing the point that to get what we want out of life, to overcome fear, to be better than we were yesterday, we cannot avoid what makes

us uncomfortable. Quite the opposite, we need more exposure to it. To destroy your fears, you need to muster up the courage to stare them in the face. And that's tough, right? Our mind tricks us into thinking about worst-case scenario. But if you can change your mentality to see not the downside, but the upside, life changes along with it. Now the scariest outcome isn't failure or having to backtrack or being wrong.

The scariest outcome is doing nothing. What we eventually learn is that dark, mysterious unknown isn't half as scary as standing still and watching life go by.