Your World Within Podcast by Eddie Pinero - CRACKING THE MINDSET CODE | Powerful Motivational Speeches | Wake Up Positive

Episode Date: July 31, 2023

“Failure is a detour, not a dead-end street.” - Zig Ziglar

Swiss explorer Bertrand Pickard said, very often human beings are living on autopilot, reacting automatically with what happens. What interests me about the life of an explorer is you are in the unknown, you are out of your habits. That's exactly what interests me, that contrast between the unknown in our habits, being on so-called autopilot.

Because the life without examination and reflection is going to be a life void of some pretty incredible things. Obviously, yeah, life requires balance. There's a time for routine and a time for exploration, a time for consistency, and a time for adventure. But overall, I think we very often forget how big the world and how small the piece of it

in which we've given ourselves permission to exist. admittedly in the past, you know, I've fallen victim to the doing without the thinking, but some of my greatest breakthroughs were realizing that, you know, understanding that I had the ability to change. And here's a story that in a unique way emphasizes this. The other day I was on the plane, and it was watching some variation of animal planet, right? Specifically talking about animal migration, and a species of penguin came up. And these penguins hatch somewhere near New Zealand.

When they're strong enough, the first thing they do is swim offshore thousands and thousands of kilometers to Antarctica for food. Here's what's interesting, though. The narrator states, funny enough, they have everything they need right where they are. Before they even start the journey, they have all the food they need. But still, mysteriously, they embark upon this trip.

The longest single journey made by any penguin. And I'm paraphrasing here, but the narrator says it's quite possibly entirely pointless. And it's thought that maybe their ancestors started making that trip two million years ago when the only food that existed was in Antarctica. So they had to go there. He jokes, it's a tough routine to break. And the reason I found this interesting, the reason there's a correlation in my mind

between that journey and human beings is because of the tendency to go into default mode and do things that aren't conducive to what's best. But Panktony, The penguins, they don't have the ability to assess and change. Humans, on the other hand, we get to reflect. We get to examine the paths we take or don't take. For us, in the current year,

autopilot most often doesn't mean we're taking 1,000 kilometers trips away. It usually means we're staying contained and stagnant. Our autopilot, our instinct is to play safety above everything else, to live in fear of the same lions that pursued us thousands of years ago, thinking they're still around every corner, right? When purpose is what we actually need, what we actually crave. But when we do not think we are driven by fear, whether we realize it or not,

we completely push away the unknown and accept the thing. status quo. That's our default. That's our metaphorical trip to Antarctica. It's part of who we are. It's how our species survived. So it's nothing to be ashamed of, but to see that, acknowledge that, and then seek to change that in ourselves so that we can live in a way that's conducive to what's meaningful. That is a superpower. That's how you go from existing in the world to living in the world. what am I doing for the sake of doing and how can I lock into the things that truly matter? Because that default setting, it won't take us to the promised land, right?

So it's up to us. Do we adjust the path so that we get the most out of this short-lived time on Earth? Do we look beyond the routine of our day-to-day and make the changes, build the models, push the boundaries that create a new set of standards? It's amazing how, just by examining how we spend our time, We unveil so much about ourselves and what we want. We give ourselves a chance to step off the merry ground and carve out something of value.

So I ask, how are you spending your time? What does your day-to-day consist of? Do these things align with what matters? Or is this routine designed, perhaps subconsciously, to keep the world out and the now secure? Are the people in your life and the places you go, the things you do intentional. So they bring value,

or are they that dreaded autopilot? Again, the enemy isn't necessarily what routine brings. We need it to some extent. The enemy is what too much routine keeps out. It's not letting yourself grow into the person you could become. That version of yourself that requires breaking the chains of predictability and safety. To Picard's point, if we don't think we will act automatically. But the path to something greater does not automatically reveal itself.

It materializes over time with intentionality, with thought. It emerges from the comparison of where you are and where you'd ultimately like to be. This world is comprised of unlimited possibility, just as you're comprised of infinite potential. But for these two truths to intersect, you have to be. to look around, you have to create and walk down your own path. There's a quote that states, life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it. Which means that your reaction is drastically more important than the circumstance. And that's critical to know. It's critical to understand that nothing, no one in life,

has more power over your own situation than you. And there's an old story that hits on this point, exactly. There's a father and a daughter. And basically the daughter's complaining. She's complaining about life, how difficult things are. She's just not how she's going to make it in whatever it is she's doing. I mean, the bottom line is she's tired of the day to day. Right.

And her father gets this idea. He says, come with me into the kitchen. and he gets three pots of water, puts them on the stove and turns the burner zone. As soon as they start boiling, he drops a potato in the first one, an egg in the second one, and some coffee beans in the third one.

And after some time goes by, and they boil a little bit, he pulls them out, right? He puts the potato in a bowl, he puts the egg in a bowl, and he takes a ladle, and he puts some of the coffee in a cup. He says,

what do you see? She says, well, I see a potato, I see eggs, and I see coffee. He says, yeah, but look closer. There's more there. And she goes and she touches the potato and it's now soft. And he hands her the bowl with the boiled egg. And she takes the shell off and breaks it open. She sees that it's hard inside.

Then finally, he asks her to take a sip of the coffee and, you know, she smells it. She takes a sip and a smile comes to her face. She says, so what does all this mean? trying to say. He says, well, the potato, when I dropped it in the water, it was rigid, it was tough, it was uncompromising. But in the boiling water, it became soft, weak. Then you had the egg that was basically the opposite.

This delicate layer protecting a liquid center and the boiling water made it hard. And then there was the coffee. That wasn't just changed by the situation. It created something new. It took the same adversity and used it as a lever to bring something beautiful into existence.

He then looks at his daughter and says, look, when things become challenging, when things become difficult, which one are you? What's your approach? See, maybe the question is not about how challenging this situation is, right? Maybe we've been asking the wrong question.

Maybe it's, how do you? Do you transform yourself and by default the world around you? How do you take your strengths, your values, your loves, your joys, your happiness, and let that lead you into something bigger? When life gets hard and it does, what do you become? I always remind myself, you know, we are not defined by life at peak state. As much as I wish that were the case, right? We're not shaped by the easy days or the times that we floated by.

Because those times are great, they're enjoyable, but they're not what make or break us. It's the times that challenge us and ask us to be what we have not yet become. That's the good stuff. This is another one of those simple but not easy type things because on paper it makes sense. It's understood. But it's an outlook that manifests over time. It's slowly stacked piece by piece and brick by brick, realizing that every situation provides you with tools to make something out of an apparent nothing. And then it waits because fate is in your hands.

And I can certainly think of times in my life. That's one of the reasons I love these stories. I can reflect where each one of those pots of boiling water was relevant. I can think of times I was too headstrong, like the metaphorical potato. I thought success would be easy. I thought projects would be simple to execute. I spent months doing things that just weren't good because I didn't ask, what is the world need? I asked myself, what do I want to give the world?

And there has to be a marriage there, right? And it was a quick reminder that the world owes me nothing. I was humbled or softened as the story goes. I've been the egg, I've been timid, I've been uncertain, thin-skinned, worrying about what people would say or the content I was creating, worried about perception, how would things look if I failed? And very quickly, I learned that when life is a game of comparison or one-upmanship.

When you do things for reasons and people other than yourself, can't win. You overcompensate. You do things for the wrong reasons, and you lose yourself. You become hardened. And then there's the good stuff, right? Getting to the coffee, not bowing down to the circumstances, but shaping them.

Not letting life dictate how the story goes or the fate of your character. And what's interesting is I'm pretty sure that being that metaphorical egg and the potato, they lay the foundation to become the coffee, the life lessons, the falling down,

the picking my ego up off the floor, learning to trust myself, not be led by the opinions and expectations of others. You essentially learn that you can take the world around you and change it, that it is malleable, it is flexible. You have that power. You have that ability.

It's up to you to believe it. And that's critical because no one comes along and cosigns that understanding for you. It's an internal process. You start to learn that things aren't there to provide instruction. They're there to propel you. But can you see the unknown as the opportunity,

the obstacle is the way and the loss is the armor that you pick up during the journey. And so, you know, all of these words essentially come to one point. And that point is you have so much more control over your life than you think you do. As I've said before, you are stronger than you think you are. You are more resilient than you can even imagine.

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like much. Sure, my future starts now. I know that. Everyone knows that. Well, if that's true, if everyone does in fact know that, why do we spend so much time stuck, reliving our past, unable to break free? Why do we remain terrified to change? Why do we feel? feel such a connection to who we were, how others saw us. Why must we remain loyal to the character we've been playing in our mental autobiographies? See, here's the thing about the past and the future. One is fixed, can't be changed, and the other, well, it's waiting for you to tell it what it is. One is expired time.

One is plans to be determined. And it's interesting how we continue to come. conflate the two. Epic Titus has said that the more things we value outside of our control, the less control we have. Well, I'm going to be the messenger here relaying the precious truth that yesterday is in fact out of our control. What can be controlled is where we go from here, the next step. Meaning today is not your failures. It's where you take those lessons. It's not your mistakes. but it's what the stronger you can now endure because of them. It's not the dreams you let slip away,

but where your pursuit might take you now. And yeah, yesterday certainly contributes to your outlook, as all information does. It's value considered, its impact assessed. It guides you, but it's not you. And that difference is astronomical. There's a question about the role the past plays in our lives. That has to mean something, right?

Your past is in many ways your story. It's why you think the way you do. It's contributed to your understanding of the world. It will always be a part of you, and I believe that. But I also believe the past is a story. And just like reading one chapter in a book simply sets the stage for the next one without controlling its direction,

so does every day that it is a story So does every day that has led you up to now. Life gives us the tools to experience, to grow, learn, and then shed that which does not coincide with what's important. Your failures are not you. But they are precious and that they push you towards what you'd like to be. See, you can experience something and not be that thing. Kirkagard says if you label me, you negate me.

If you proclaim me to be X, you're essentially stealing from me the infinite possibility that is the future. Yesterday has nothing to do with what I can become. And so taking it a step further, never mind being labeled by someone else. How could you label yourself and see it as anything but self-sabotage? You're never defined by your past, but always learning from it. It's not who you are. It's the cheat codes for what you can be.

Without that winding road of misfortune and mistakes, the incredible expansion we long for doesn't materialize. Imagine if everyone who ever felt down in life felt like a loser who temporarily lost hope. Imagine if they looked in the mirror and said, okay, this is who I am now. there would be no triumph in the world because anything meaningful requires the resiliency to map our way from the hell that was our darkest moments

to what will become our proudest moments. Destiny, destiny, destiny means that you separate the finite from the infinite. What you used to call yourself has prepared you to move towards the horizon. But what you used to call yourself is also as irrelevant now as those seconds that you watch tick away. Seconds that maybe you're not proud of. Seconds that perhaps taught you about the world.

Seconds that gave you a glimpse of what's possible. Unveiled the happiest of times. All of it. In its own unique way, it brought value, but none of it is your future. Why? Because back to that beautiful, all-powerful sentence, your future begins now. Your destiny is awaiting its marching orders and all you have to decide as you stand today is where that ship will sail.

What's the difference between simple and easy? Well, simple is straightforward. Uncomplicated. Easy, on the other hand, means achieved without great effort. The difference between those two words is subtle, but essential to understand. One deals with the complexity of an outcome. The other, your will and determination to achieve that outcome. Becoming who you most want to be is simple. But becoming who you most want to be is not easy. Just like walking is simple, yet hiking up a mountain is not easy. The procedure didn't change the context did. So let's talk about context. Let's talk about this cyclical nature of growth

because it's not that most people can't. It's that most people won't. It's not that most people don't get how. It's that they don't have a strong enough why. The path is laid out. out before you, you just have to be willing to walk down it. Will you? Step one, realize there's more out there. It's not that what you're doing now isn't amazing. It's just that yesterday's act of courage is now today's status quo. What was the spectacular is now the mundane.

What was once the ceiling you had to jump? Jump to touch is now the floor you walk on, so at the very least, it prompts you to ask, well, what's next? Simple. Not easy. Step two, the acquisition of courage. Yesterday's courage was a fight. It took a lot out of you, and it's ultimately what got you here.

But it dropped you at the curb, it waved goodbye and went on its merry way, and here you are. You can stay here, a lot of people do. You can reminisce of the glory days, the old path, yesterday's triumphs. Or you can do that perpetually uncomfortable exercise of vulnerability. Stepping into tomorrow's unknown, reminding yourself that life's greatest rewards have a hefty price tag and that price is discomfort. But I've already played this game, one might think. What you did was learn the rules.

Now it's time to apply them to a new setting, and around goes the merry-go-round. It might seem like a replication from the horizontal, but here's the secret. You can't see the vertical. You have yet to look down and see your ascent, see what you're becoming. Just by staying on, holding tight, just by believing in yourself enough to begin again, you are fanning those tiny flames of courage. in your soul that wait to be spread like a wildfire. Simple, but not easy.

Step three, mistakes. Now, of course, it's not the mistakes themselves you fear. It's what you think those mistakes will mean. Ridicule, embarrassment, lack of direction, or identity losing what you have, but here's the catch. When you realize the upside is greater than the downside, you liberate yourself. When you realize there's more to gain than to lose, your potential for greatness is born.

How does one act on this? Mistakes. By making mistakes, by injecting yourself into the turbulence of progress. Our biology has not yet learned that the uncomfortable thing is the right thing. And that's why you get resistance. That's why it hurts. And it's why few people will accomplish what you will. When it comes to your climb, every day is opposite day.

When they run out, you're running in. When they play safe, you play for the victory. To become who you might be, you must learn how to get there. Mistakes are your curriculum. Simple, but not easy. Step four, trust yourself. Okay, sure, no problem. Well, yeah, it's easy when you're getting what you want.

But evolution takes time, and there's nothing quite like giving and giving and giving and not getting. There's nothing quite like stepping up to the plate again and again and again and bringing no runners home. So how does one find the strength to continue walking up to the batters box? Well, growth is exponential, and those swings and misses matter. The infield singles matter. Everything matters. matters because it's all chiseling your future self out of stone. Nothing is dependent on the next at bat as much as all at bat in the aggregate. That's why success is so often considered to be

sheer will, dependent not on the home run but on the discipline, the self-belief to keep walking up to the plate. Repetition and adjustment. Repetition and adjustment. Repeat and refine, repeat, those are the materials from which all things are made. Simple, but not easy. And then we have the finale. The ending, step five. Celebrate and adjust. At some point, you'll be able to look over your shoulder

and notice something that perhaps you hadn't before. Space. Space between where you are and where you started. It's not sudden, but gradual. and undoubtedly with enough persistence it will emerge. These moments they are precious. They are times to acknowledge what you've accomplished, the sacrifices you have made.

They are life's way of reminding you what you are building and who you are becoming. It's a time of celebration. Every little win means something. Every small victory matters so relish in it. And then transform it. normalize it, recognize that that mountaintop is your foundation now. Your starting point has changed and so have you, which means so have your expectations.

With an increase in ability comes an upgrade to what's possible, what's expected. And look at that. We have arrived at a new step one. Realize there is more. This is the process for capturing. that which life has to offer. If you can fall in love with that, appreciate it, respect it, while simultaneously understanding it's not scary, it's dependent entirely on your ability to push forward. If you can understand that, there is nothing you can't do. Nowhere you can't go. Simple, yes,

easy, no. But you're not in this for easy. You're in it for the journey, the growth, adventure you're in it because it's not easy. You'll see in time as will the world that this decision to endure was simply the best one you ever made.