Your World Within Podcast by Eddie Pinero - FOCUS ON YOU NOT OTHERS | Powerful Motivational Speeches Compilation

Episode Date: May 13, 2022

"Focus on loving yourself, instead of loving the idea of other people loving you" - unknown

Sometime last winter I got an email from someone asking if I'd help them with a keynote speech they were delivering. I never met this person before, his name was Rod, seemed like an awesome dude, said absolutely. So we arranged a date, he flew into South Florida, and we met to chat about the project. Now a lot of time has passed since then, and the reason I'm bringing it up now is really twofold. The first, and probably the most important, is that I always have been, important is that I walked out of that meeting a different person than when I walked in. And I want to share my lesson learned because I know there are people out there that will help in a similar situation, maybe without even knowing it. The second is it's a perfect example of those emergent properties that

seem to evolve out of life after days, months, years of compounded hard work that I talked about. about in last week's video. So back to the story, we're sitting there and he's telling me a little bit about himself. He started multiple multi-million dollar companies, produced major motion pictures. Incredible dude done incredible stuff. He sort of makes his way to this speech, which is why he was there, talks a little bit about his vision, what he's written, where he could use my help, and eventually asked Eddie what's it going to cost me. And I didn't care, right? I just wanted to learn from the guy. I mean, he's done some amazing stuff

And just being around interesting motivated people You know, the more friends you have like that inspire you to push the bar the better And I remember I just sort of threw out a number, a low number and he looked at me and He'll never forget it. He goes, Eddie, come on man, be a fucking salesman and I pulled out a check, wrote it for like five times more than I usually charge for something like that and goes from now on you're never worth less than this number and I drove away a completely different person than when I pulled it. I mean Rod essentially shined a spotlight on the fact that I was

capping myself that I was creating walls around my potential but not just economically in a lot of different areas of life it reminded me that We set our own value. We decide our worth, and it's very easy to undersell ourselves. The value you depict, the value you portray, well, that becomes your reality. And I've been sort of in the weeds, in the micro level. You know, I've always felt like I could take on X, Y, Z. Like throw it at me.

I'll figure it out. I'll make it happen. But how easy do we forget looking in the mirror that we have to define? the person looking back. We have to believe ourselves to be better, more, bigger. That's not a subconscious thing. You have to make time for that. I'm not just a writer, producer, filmmaker, no, I'm one of the best writer, producers, filmmakers. That is how you have to look at the world. Things aren't bigger because we don't up the ante. We're not richer, bigger, faster, more accomplished because we still see ourselves a certain way. And guess what, that doesn't change.

until your perspective does. And I wanted to share that because it doesn't happen every day. People don't just come along, tap you on the shoulder and say, hey, you're worth more than you're acting like you are. You know, I'm incredibly fortunate to have that experience, and maybe you're at that point where you need that little reminder. How are you defining your worth? How do you see yourself?

Because once you begin to look at yourself as one of the best, the world conforms, And it's a pretty amazing thing. You start doing better work. You radiate confidence. You realize that there's a stupid amount of money out there. And the reason you don't have more of it is because of yourself and your perspective. You grow faster.

You surround yourself with more people like you. And all of that comes from believing it. So ask yourself that question. And what areas of your life are you capping yourself off? Now the second piece is around putting yourself in a situation where these little realizations emerge. In the book Ego is the enemy, Ryan Holliday says confidence is earned. Day in and day out, moving forward even when things suck, moving through the lows. And as time progresses, this plays hand in hand with that self-confidence that I was just talking about.

Because suddenly you have the experience, you have the talent, you have the track record to back it up. And as time compounds your left with incredible confidence, Incredible results. In last week's video, I talked about human consciousness. It's an emergent property. There's no part of the brain that specifically controls human consciousness, or at least it's undiscovered at this point. All we know is that when all those pieces up there come together,

consciousness somehow emerges. It's an incredible thing, provides opportunity, changes the way we see the world, sets us apart from every other living organism. Can't break it down, but it exists. believe that life is very similar. Working hard every day, taking those tiny steps, not giving up, driving towards some invisible destination. All those little things come together and put you in position. They open the door for opportunities that will emerge down the road. They set up the people that will come into your life, the things, the opportunities that await. A lot of ways you can't

plan for them, but you're building a platform that enables success. Those little pieces come together and create something bigger than the sum of their parts, something that wasn't their original You can't succeed with only the vision you can't succeed by blindly taking action these two things work together and open doors So believe that you're great that you're worthy of nothing but the best have the framework have the plan and then go out every day and build it Rainer shine little by little build it and you'll be amazed at the amount of power and control you have a over your own destiny. Vision and execution are a beautiful combination and will take you to some amazing places.

If there's time, then there's time to turn things around. If there is a tomorrow, then there is hope today. The only have to-bees in life are the ones we prop up and adhere to. And how interesting that oftentimes is we don't even realize we're the ones holding them up. There's a simple question that I like to ask as the sun comes up in the coffee bruise. Am I living today like it's an obligation or something more? Is it an automatic continuation of the past or a methodical move towards a future that lights me up? And these aren't small distinctions.

right I've lived both ways I've felt what it's like to feel both I remember going to work and joking around that a flat tire would be a real treat that's not accountability that's not control that's essentially living life as a jellyfish floating along with the tide and while the lack of required output innovation and and planning may have felt like a win in the moment or a burden lifted off my shoulders at the time deprived me of that which resides in the soul of every human being alive.

Purpose. Personal agency. See, you can only go so far, so long being the spectator of your own journey. You can only go so long looking out the window looking out the window before you wonder just what it'd be like to be behind the wheel. When we put our actions up against the question why, it astounds me how many things are done because it's what we've always done.

We act like we're expected to act, think like we're expected to think, see who we're expected to see, but expected by whom? Some of my greatest breakthroughs in life emerged after being asked why by people I look up to or respect. Why have you accepted that? That's your income? Okay, great, but why? That's how you spend your day? I see how calm.

And when one is tasked with looking at their own life through a magnifying glass, some hidden truths always emerge. It shines a spotlight in the corner of the room, illuminating those shadows where one can, if they look hard enough, make out the wolf in sheep's clothing that is the phrase, because that's how I've always done it.

We get in life what we accept. We are what we allow ourselves to be, and if we don't ask ourselves which mountain is worth climbing, which ocean is worth crossing. We simply float with the tides. We're at the mercy of the winds. We forfeit the mastery over our own lives that awaits if we're willing to take that wheel and navigate. So here are a few things to take with you. First is you are bound by nothing. The parameters you exist between are of your making. You can get in that car and drive. You can walk away and begin something new. You can entertain that vision that's been conveniently

tucked away in the back of your mind. Understand that to not go is fine, but it's a decision. And perhaps a decision you'll wish you made differently. And second, difficult today liberate you tomorrow. It's easier to observe. It's easier to say how you wish things were. After all, stepping out into the fast-paced chaotic world is tough. It's scary, it's unpredictable, but it's where you find yourself and the path that's calling your name.

It's beyond the pins and needles emerging as one job. jumps into the cold water, that they're able to find that evolution. If there's time, then there's time to turn things around. If there is a tomorrow, then there is hope. Every next level of your life will demand a different version of you. Why? Because life is about reaching outside of your comfort zone, acclimating until you are comfortable and then repeating the process.

Every time you leave the familiar, you are granted a new set of armor. As Jim Rohn said, if you want to have more, you have to become more. For things to change, you have to change. For things to get better, you have to become better. If you improve, everything will improve for you. And every time we expand ourselves, we are forced to change in some way, evolve. So many of us fall into the trap of waiting for the perfect moment to jump. There is no perfect moment.

How could there be? There's no perfect time to step out into a world you're not prepared for. But that's life. We jump and we grow wings on the way down. We step into the chaos and acclimate. By walking into the dark, we are forced to become the light. This makes staying where you are the most dangerous thing you can do. Choose our imagination for a second.

Let's say you reach for the next thing. You stretch yourself. Move towards something you really want and you fall short. Okay? Time to breathe. Reassess, step back for a second and re-approach. A little better this time, a little wiser this time. As long as one remains engaged in this cycle, growth is inevitable.

But now, let's say you never step in. Let's pretend the idea of moving into the unknown is too much. You'd rather stay with the familiar pain-free, you think to yourself. But you would, in fact, be wrong. See, that discomfort, one step up, it would force you to evolve, to see yourself as someone who steps into hostile territory and survives. And maybe it's not pretty. Maybe it's not perfect, but you attack and you survive.

And sure, the difference between where you are now and only one step up isn't much. But what about that second step or evolution? Because you'd miss out on that too. And the third and the fourth and the compounding that would completely redefine who you are. From yourself identity to your skill set, from the mental to the physical, you put the whole chain reaction on hold because why? You didn't want to take one step. You didn't want to be uncomfortable in the short term.

But discomfort is not a punishment. It is a ticket to everything you could ever imagine. So when the crowd runs out, I challenge you to run in. And when the world goes left, I dare you to go right. Not because the masses are evil, but because human beings are wired to take the path of least resistance. But you know, no. Not you. You're here to rise above the mental constraints that hold so many down.

Because there is always another level. When you feel good, there is another level. And when you don't, there is another level. And see, our world has been defined, not by the best or the brightest, but the ones willing to throw themselves into foreign arenas and compete. To see adversity as the answer, not the problem. You want to change your world, then change yourself. You want to change yourself, then go where you are scared to go.

Where your heart beats and your hand sweats, turn and face the direction you know you should have been facing. This is about you. This is about what you can become by simply saying yes when most would say no. Today is yours. Not because it was given to you, but because you looked through the haze and you decided it's so. Why is it that the average person seeks out the advice of what feels like a million people before consulting himself?

Knocking, looking, hoping, is he looking for answer or looking for permission to be who he already knows he is? Is he looking for insight or just validation that his reflection is in fact okay? See, I think we all deep down know who we are, know what drives us. And even if we don't know exactly what the destination looks like our hearts know the direction best suited to begin the person. So how is it so easy to forget? Why do we get our antennas crossed? See, when life becomes about meeting requirements and fulfilling obligations, checking off boxes, and checking in on time, we forget the basics.

We forget to live for ourselves, as if our job is to play a part, not direct the movie. And playing apart is living up to expectations, directing the movie. Well, that's creating your own expectation. This world, your world, it belongs to you. It's a world with both unimaginable happiness, bliss moments of ecstasy, and the occasional suffering. Chaos that we have to navigate through, but I think all of it comes down to whether you trust yourself to live it for yourself. To remove the shackles, take the training wheels off, stop asking permission and do what you've always known was the right thing. That part never changed.

It just had to wait amidst all you're looking for external direction, for you to pause and find the internal courage. Freedom is not a life without chaos. It's trusting yourself to determine which dragons you will slay. It's not a life without battles. But fighting those battles that result in your liberation, dismissing the oppressors that build fences in your, mind and chains around your soul. I've thought a lot about the idea of a life well lived,

what it means, how it feels, and it seems to me it's about intentionality. Where are you going? It's not that you can escape suffering or eliminate fear. It's not that you'll avoid getting lost along the way, but it's the why. Why we endure these things makes all the difference. Is it for a better tomorrow or simply to get through today? And it's amazing. Accidentally stumbling upon that which scares you and intentionally facing that which scares you are so different that their occurrence has triggered

completely different neural networks in the brain. See, overcoming fear is ingrained in us. We want to grow. We want to evolve. We need more. The question is whether you will step out of the line that someone else made for you and live a life

that is your own. And if it's crazy, great. Let it be crazy. If it's unique, perfect. Stand out. And if it scares you, my God, if it scares you, don't turn back. Don't you dare turn back.

Give yourself the most important permission one can give, the permission to follow your intuition and your curiosity into tomorrow. Let the stakes be high. but the rewards be meaningful. Let the chaos be your own to tame and to master. Every twist, every turn becomes not only a part of you, but a chapter in the story of your becoming. And as the seed you've held in your hand for so long finally meets the earth and grows so high that it connects you to the heavens, remember that this is your life. It's your obligation to live it fully.

What can you be the best in the world at? Life is a complex place. Complexity sometimes means confusion. It means we forget the big picture. What's our purpose? What are we chasing? What are we bringing to the world? What can you be the best in the world at?

It's a little question I try and ask myself every day because I know if I stay close to it, my decision will have far greater impact. there will be more meaning in life. See, it pushes away the things that are appealing in the short term, but really don't take us anywhere in the long term. Because one of the coolest aspects of human nature is our ability to illuminate what matters

and will mitigate what doesn't. Helps us focus on what's important. We need to go to the grocery store while we step out the front door, paying attention to nothing but the task at hand, not the objects to our left or right. We don't know what colors the cars were that passed us by, or the plants we walked by.

We don't think about the blood pumping through our bodies, making it all possible as we walk to the car. We don't even see the car as its metallic components, as it really is. We see it as our portal to a place that has the food. See, we are blind. But at the same time, have this beautiful gift of vision. We see the path right to what's most important. So let's leverage that.

And what I think we need to remember is to identify, in our own lives what that means with regard to our purpose and the context of what we are becoming. See, every day I hear people talk about followers on social media, right? How do I get attention? How do we get noticed? How do I market myself from my brand to the world? How do I stand out? And every time I hear that I always have this little internal reaction like a voice saying that's just so wrong.

It's so backwards. You stand out by adding value to the world, by being good at what you do. It's that simple, really. And so look at it like this. We'll take a specific example. To worry about the marketing and the attention and the followers first. It's like worrying about the transportation of something you don't have yet, or that's incomplete.

It's like spending all your time worrying about the logistics of a cargo van and having no idea what that van is going to transport. Isn't the product the most important thing? And that's the question I ask myself when I'm caught up in something flashy or maybe out of line with my big picture. To make sure I'm on track in this crazy world, if social media disappeared tomorrow, are you good enough at what you do, that you could take that product or service or skill set to another platform and start again?

And if you're not, fine. But are you working towards it? Those are the parameters that we should all live between. Everything else tends to work itself out. Steve Martin's quoted as saying, Be so good they can't ignore you. And that's what I find so exciting, the opportunity, the change, to build something sustainable.

That's why this is a long-term play. And in a world where so much emphasis is put on perception, what's the reality? What's the story? The pictures are great on the surface, but what's the value that resides below that underneath? What are you working tirelessly day and night to be exceptional at?

What are you reading to build yourself up as a force to be reckoned with? As a powerful, valuable individual? See, my world, a lot of what I do is immersed in social media, which is why it's so important that I remember the perspective that I step out. Social media is not the product. I'm thinking much bigger than that, and I hope you are too, whether it's academics or sports or art. What is your thing? What's going to be your arena? Where are you unstoppable? Where you add so much value that the world has to stop? We're sure you can capture it on social media, but you can talk about

it face to face with clients and family and friends and strangers on the sidewalk. You can write about it, teach about it, where it's so much a part of you that the phrase competent doesn't even do it justice. That's where greatness lives. Not in screaming for attention or creating a facade. Those things don't stand the test of time. I'm talking about being truly remarkable. And we all have that ability. We're all capable of mastery in some area. moving towards something that matters. We just have to make the choice to own it, to see the world and all its opportunity for what it is,

to begin. And what better a time than now.