Your World Within Podcast by Eddie Pinero - How to Defeat Negative Self Talk

Episode Date: August 11, 2020

In this episode I dive into how we can delegitimize and negate negative self talk, and show a segment of my latest video on the topic, called "You vs You." 

Welcome to Your World Within Daily. I'm Eddie Panaro. And in this episode, I want to talk about a video I released yesterday called You versus you that centers around something we all deal with, right, negative self-talk. So I want to talk a little bit about how we can assess that, how we can better understand it, and how we can move beyond it. So I'm going to play a video for you in a second called You versus You. But before I do, I want to give a little bit of background because it is an idea.

idea that has changed my life. It really resonates with me. I felt that as I was writing it, just how much and how important that concept's been in my life. I know a lot of people deal with it in different capacities. And there's some value here, right? So the idea is, and the video starts out a little bit out there. The idea is someone following you around every day telling you you're not good enough. Someone showing up at the gym right next to you. saying, hey, why are you doing this? It's not going to go anywhere. You're wasting your time. You know, someone falling around at work saying you're never going to get a promotion, your average, what are you trying to do? Right. And the obvious response to someone doing that to you

would be to look at them and be like, get out of my face, right? In what world can you talk to me like that? That's how we would react. But here's the shift. Why do we allow ourselves to talk to ourselves that way. We talk to ourselves worse than we'd allow a complete stranger to. And the idea when you think about it like that is just crazy. You know, you should be your biggest ally, not the obstacle standing between you and where you want to go. And so that's the message of the video. And, you know, what do you do about that? How do you internalize that, well, you realize nothing in your head is real. The bad, nor the good. It's all conjecture. It's all theory. It's all ideas. It's fairy tales. It's thoughts. And your actions make

thoughts real. That means everything going on in your head is powerless until you take it and bring it to life, which means you always have the option to choose the negative or choose the positive. And that thought right there completely transformed my life. Because any negative thought in my head is powerless. It means nothing until you take it. You inject it into your world and it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. Without that, it is nothing. It has no power. So I hope that comes through in the video and it'll help you guys think about the times in your life where you know, you talked yourself out of something good, something important. The times when, you know, you maybe didn't go as far or as long or believe in yourself like you could have

because that doubt crept in there. Doubt that had it been ignored would have meant very little or nothing. Right. So the video is called You versus You. I hope you enjoy it and I will catch you guys tomorrow. So imagine you're sitting down, having something to eat, thinking, relaxing, reading, whatever you're doing. Someone walks up to the table across from you, pulls out the chair, sits down, kind of leans back, puts one leg over the other, casually tells you, you know, you probably don't have what it takes to do anything significant in your life.

What would you say? It would be outrageous, right? That's a ridiculous scenario. Well, let's say that the next day you get up and go to walk, run, work out, and he shows up again. Starts running next to you, casually reminding you that the odds of you changing, doing anything for the better or slim to none, that this is kind of a waste of time for you. You brush it off, you go to work and guess who? He passes by your desk, leaves a little note saying that your bosses, your higher-ups, they're cut from a different cloth. They just see things in a way you can't.

you'd probably tell that person to take a long walk off a short pier, right? Or at the very least, you'd understand how absolutely insane the situation is. People can't just walk up and talk to you like that. But now imagine that same person is you, living rent-free in your head. And here's the catch. You invited him in. You allowed the negativity and the doubt to live there. See, every time I think about that self-talk,

I can't help but wonder in a world of obstacles to navigate and challenges to tackle. Why is it acceptable for your biggest obstacle to be you? Why should you allow or be okay with that? And I'm not saying everything's perfect all the time. Every thought's pure bliss. But I am posing this question. If you don't believe in yourself, how do you expect anyone else to? If you're not your biggest ally, if you don't respect the person staring back at you in the mirror,

how do you expect the world to? Why is our inclination to tense up and refute the negativity from others, but sit back and accept the same nonsense in our own heads? If those words don't support what you're trying to build, I don't care who they're from, where they come from, why they're there, they don't deserve your time. And it's a simple awareness that they are not truth. but merely your fears and your insecurities trying to stop you from becoming who you might be.

My biggest leaps in life, they didn't come from physical milestones or benchmarks. They came from mental shifts, convincing myself, believing myself, trusting in myself. When the road is untravelled, when the story is untold, the positive and the negative are both make-believe. They are both fairy tales, their options, their theories, and guess what? You get to choose which option, which one will be yours. My favorite quote is, you are always stronger than you think you are. Not so much because it reiterates how high the bar is, but because it reminds me how...