Your World Within Podcast by Eddie Pinero - IT'S NOT OVER UNTIL I WIN | Best Motivational Speeches Compilation

Episode Date: November 24, 2021

"Many of life's failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up" - Thomas A. Edison

Many of life's failures are people who didn't realize how close they were to success when they gave up. Thomas Edison. A quote I go to when I've lost my why, when my frustration over the lack of a particular result overshadows everything. I don't think we realize how transformative these moments are. when confronted by them were presented two options give up or emerge better

than we were it's not intuitive it's not normal to think I know this is hard but hey I'm one adjustment away from getting it right one move away from uncovering momentum that's why in such moments I rely on others to remind me, and it's why I remind you now

to reiterate how small a push is required to simply get things moving, to remind you that you do want this. It does mean something to you. And you know what? These are the moments you'll look back on. with the tear in your eye, a smile on your face, and you'll be grateful you push through these moments, the darkest of nights, the lowest of lows,

when we're lost, we're stuck, unsure, they are the ones that matter, so shake it off. See, the difference, the reason so many people turn around is because they don't know the secret I'm about to tell you. The very same secret those before have passed on to me. You don't need to do anything, but not stop. And if that seems too obvious or cliche, let me explain to you that it's in going that we're forced to find solutions.

We're forced to become more. It's incredibly hard to stop an object in motion. But the question is can you move forward when you don't have the answers, when you're tired, when what you've been looking for is nowhere to be found? Can you imagine at that moment what the other side will be like? Looking back on your journey, knowing that where others stopped, you hung on, where the cost was too much for so many, you laid it all on the line. These are the decisions you have to make now, so don't listen to that voice rationally. voice rationalizing, begging you to take a down and notch or return to the normalcy of yesterday.

Let this message resonate. Hear me. Embrace the fact that you are always one move away from recapturing momentum, from finding yourself again. It's there. Everything you need is there. Have the patience to find it. The patience to do what you do best.

find a way. Everyone wants to change the world, but no one wants to change himself. This was written by Leo Tolstoy in reference to people's proclivity to point out at the world and project blame rather than to point in at themselves and ask, why? What can I do?

How can I be better? Which, when you think about it is basically a shark, forfeiting its bite, right, or a bird giving up its wings. Our personal agency is, without a doubt, our superpower. Yet, from my vantage point, sometimes feels like we're walking away from that superpower, a tiny step at a time. Little by little, day by day, we're allowing greatness to fade while bringing about the death of the hero. And well, that's a pretty big, What could I possibly mean by this? It's funny when people ask me what I'm most proud of.

You know, my mind pretty quickly goes to my work, the brand that I've dedicated the last almost decade to building. But I don't think that's right. I think it's a product of my answer, but it's not my answer. What I'm most proud of is shipping away at the monster that is the victim mentality. You know, my default when things went wrong for so long was to feel bad for myself. It was easier to be the victim and sulk than it was to keep taking the hits. It's like a cheat code.

When you can just bask in your sorrow and hate the world, you don't have to do anything. It's like a giant ibuprofen for the discomfort that is life. But it relieves this symptom. not the cause. And to understand, to overcome this worldview is like being gifted with a new pair of eyes. And what I learned was that self-pity, it gets you nothing. It leaves you resentful, disappointed, envious, wandering down a path that is not your own. What I learned was that my story needed a hero. That's why, as I grew, I spoke about the power and the beauty of doing the difficult thing. Running in the rain, chasing the metaphorical fireflies, taking the last train home, see, until you immerse yourself into that vast unknown, you stay in a cell of your own making.

You build walls of limitation and you exist entirely within them. And as time has progressed, I look back, there are two things worth mentioning. One is that we find life's meaning in the world. the difficult thing. And two, there is a fundamental misunderstanding and even from time to time contempt for what the difficult thing means, for those who speak of the difficult thing, as though hard truths are in some way inconsiderate. Like diverging from the comfort of one's feelings implies a lack of empathy. But that's wrong. If you love someone, if you care of about someone, if you care about yourself, you say what is true. And what is true is that the shelter

and the temporary comfort of victimhood is a high, not worth the withdrawal, not worth the suffering. It got me nowhere, it will get you nowhere, and that is a reality that will never cease to be true. We live in a world that's been shaped entirely by those who found the courage to do the difficult thing. Everything around us is a product of the courageous decision to take the now and bend it. And that means taking hits. It means being criticized. It means by definition you are choosing to be uncommon. You're choosing to change things. Yourself. And by default, the world around you. There's nothing wrong with being common. Quitting is relatable. Failure is relatable. Falling short is relatable. We're all human and we've all been there. But these

stock features of humanity, they are not worth celebrating. We don't put on pedestals the familiar. No, we put on pedestals the times that we've reshaped the familiar. And a world of participation trophies is a world that has disincentivized that which makes life worth living. It cripples the very pursuit that ignites the soul, a push towards the extraordinary. It's time we resurrect the hero. See through the facade of short-term comfort that leads to long-term emptiness. In a world where attention is currency, it's time we acknowledge the payment we receive when we play victim buys only despair. Sure, we're flawed. That will always be true, but we are capable of manufacturing greatness.

We're capable of capturing hearts and captivating minds. If you could only see within yourself that story unwritten. If you could feel the greatness that awaits, the roads to be traveled, and mountains to be climbed, there would be no debate. There'd be no hesitation about that march to the belly of the beast. only to show that our demons exist solely where we allow them to. Resurrection the hero. Fight those battles that light you up.

Blaze your trail through the valley of darkness. Take that path unknown to the common man, unseen to those who live within the confines of what is. Resurrect that hero because you need you. because the world needs you. There's no time to be down or sad or dwell on the mistakes of yesterday. There's too much on the line to pretend that settling was the plan all along, or to point at the obstacles with disdain and hatred while life rotates around you.

No, resurrect the hero. Resurrection your answer. Resurrection the person you were meant to be. It may not be simple or intuitive. It may cause you to give more than you knew you had. It may not be easy. But my friend, easy never changed the world. What can you be the best in the world at?

Life is a complex place. Complexity sometimes means confusion. It means we forget the big picture. What's our purpose? What are we chasing? What are we bringing to the world? What can you be the best in the world that? It's a little question I try and ask myself every day because I know if I stay close to it, my decision will have far greater impact. There will be more meaning in life. See, it pushes away the things that are appealing in the short term, but really don't take us anywhere in the long term. Because one of the coolest aspects of human nature is our ability to illuminate what matters and will mitigate what doesn't.

Helps us focus on what's important. We need to go to the grocery store while we step out the front door paying attention to nothing but the task at hand, not the objects to our left or right. We don't know what colors the cars are where that passes by or the plants we walked by. We don't think about the blood pumping through our bodies, making it all possible as we walk to the car. We don't even see the car as its metallic component. as it really is. We see it as our portal to a place that has the food.

See, we are blind, but at the same time have this beautiful gift of vision. We see the path right to what's most important. So let's leverage that. And what I think we need to remember is to identify in our own lives what that means with regard to our purpose and the context of what we are becoming.

See, every day I hear people talk about followers on social, on social media, right? How do I get attention? How do we get noticed? How do I market myself from my brand to the world? How do I stand out? And every time I hear that I always have this little internal reaction like a voice saying that's just so wrong. It's so backwards. You stand out by adding value to the world, by being good at what you do. It's that simple. And so look at it like this. We'll take a specific example. To worry about the marketing and the attention and the followers first. It's like worrying about the transfer. transportation of something you don't have yet, or that's incomplete.

It's like spending all your time worrying about the logistics of a cargo van and having no idea what that van is going to transport. Isn't the product the most important thing? And that's the question I ask myself when I'm caught up in something flashy or maybe out of line with my big picture. To make sure I'm on track in this crazy world, if social media disappeared tomorrow, are you good enough at what you do that you could take that product or service or skills? set to another platform and start again. And if you're not, fine. But are you working towards it?

Those are the parameters that we should all live between. Everything else tends to work itself out. Steve Martin's quoted as saying, be so good they can't ignore you. And that's what I find so exciting, the opportunity, the chance to build something sustainable. That's why this is a long-term play. And in a world where so much emphasis is put on perception,

what's the reality? What's the story? The pictures are great on the surface, but what's the value that resides below that underneath? What are you working tirelessly day and night to be exceptional at? What are you leading to build yourself up as a force to be reckoned with? As a powerful, valuable individual. See, my world, a lot of what I do is immersed in social media,

which is why it's so important that I remember the perspective that I step out. Social media is not the product. I'm thinking much bigger than that, and I hope you are too, whether it's academics or sports or art. What is your thing? What's going to be your arena? Where are you unstoppable? Where you add so much value that the world has to stop. We're sure you can capture it on social media, but you can talk about it face to face with clients and family and friends and strangers on the sidewalk.

You can write about it, teach about it. Where it's so much a part of you that the phrase competent is. doesn't even do it justice. That's where greatness lives. Not in screaming for attention or creating a facade. Those things don't stand the test of time. I'm talking about being truly remarkable. And we all have that ability. We're all capable of mastery in some area, moving towards something that matters. We just have to make the choice to own it to see the world and all its opportunity for what it is to begin and what better a time than now. There is no finer a line than the one that separates failure and success.

When you think about how a fraction of a second, an unforeseen variable, a slight miscalculation can ultimately mean the wrong result, the one you didn't want, that dreaded word, failure. And when we see failure, we think, well, back to the drawing board. That wasn't it. We simply missed the mark. But what I'd love to point out is how so much of the time this isn't the case. We erroneously judge our approach based on one outcome. One swing of the axe.

The tree doesn't fall, so we blame ourselves and doubt the process. And it's like, I get it. wants to continuously jam a square peg into a round hole. It's the definition of insanity, doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results, but I'm not talking about that. I'm talking about giving yourself a chance, not walking by the thing you need. And far too often, we tear it down to start over because we assume the approach is wrong when sometimes it's not the approach.

Sometimes things don't work at first. Some things take a while. Sometimes it's just reps. And I started thinking about this a while ago. Last year, I saw this random statistic. Kind of halfway through the NFL season that said, fourth down, on fourth in one, fourth and short. Coaches decided to go for it 53% of the time.

I think it was. That number might be slightly off, but right around there. The idea is that there's risk involved. which is what makes it a tough decision. And what I find interesting is that the decision to go for it on fourth and one ends up being one of two things. It's either creative, bold, and daring, or it's stupid.

It's unnecessary and reckless. All depending on if they get that one yard. And, hey, maybe they do. In which case, how great it was that they had confidence in their team. But maybe they don't. And then it's, hey, don't you understand. your offense's limits, your team's limits, what are you doing? In both cases, the outcome determined whether the approach was the right one,

regardless of how little differentiated the two. And I'm sitting here thinking, well, how does this apply to my life? How many times have I metaphorically gone for it on fourth and one, didn't succeed, whatever it was? Let's say, you know, my first YouTube video, since we're here. And, you know, well, I walked away at that point. Like, imagine saying I put this video out, I didn't get the right outcome, so this isn't for me.

As far as I can see, it's the same thing as a coach failing on fourth down and saying, you know what, I'm never going forward on fourth again. I mean, it's that irrational. Because as counterintuitive as it seems, you can't judge the value of a pursuit on one outcome. Sometimes you don't even need to change much, you just need to have the courage to show up again. And going back to YouTube, which I've talked about before, the same thing has applied. It's like there are videos that I thought were great that are kind of buried on this channel, underperformed, and some I wasn't that excited about it did extremely well.

I don't know why, but I do know that the approach was the exact same for both. You know, no difference. They did, however, get different outcomes, different results. And I just think, like, imagine if I assumed my approach. was flawed because of the ones that didn't meet or exceed expectations, right? That's why there's so much power in repetition. And yeah, like the coach on the side of the field, we're examining, we're adjusting, we're improving, but the point is, why be so quick to doubt ourselves and our ideas and our plans?

Because I do think to walk away from something you believe in after one bad experience is like that coach saying, no, fourth downs are not for me. There's a saying attributed to Thomas Edison. He says many of life's failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up. How maybe it was a slight tweak, maybe it was a minimal change in perspective, or maybe it was just showing up one more time, picking up the axe and taking one more hack at the tree. And that's really it. The most important lessons we learn in life are simple.

Simple to understand, but they elude us. And so let's remember them, making our way into the world, how fine that line is between success and failure. How sometimes they look like one another, how the very thing needed to win, overcome, succeed. Likes to disguise itself as failure and suggest that you try something else. when in reality you could be right there knocking at the door. It's always fascinated me that we spend so much of our lives searching for the things that

we realize in time we had all along. That our journeys bring us full circle. Our stories end how they began, and in the end, we fade away holding tightly to that from which we emerged. Not because we fell short, no, but because eventually we realize how simple things really are from the outside looking in. We realize what we have. Speaker Dennis Waitley once said happiness cannot be traveled to, owned, earned, worn, or consumed. Happiness is the spiritual experience of living every minute with love, grace, and gratitude. It's why times like these, when we get to look around and recapture our perspective means so much,

almost as though it's reassurance that, yeah, life can be hard, frustrating, abstract, but that the core of everything is contentment, is enough. It's why we need not search for love we are, in fact, surrounded by it. We need not search for hope when it's ingrained in everything. breath or reassurance when it's a phone call away. I once heard an interesting idea that we only see what we focus on. And not only metaphorically, but literally so much of life exists outside our periphery. If you can walk down the same street every day and see something new each time,

imagine the power of readjusting how you see life as the sun comes up in the morning. Imagine pulling more. Imagine pulling more of what matters into focus, becoming living proof, that we don't need to wait until things are gone or changed to appreciate what we have and who we are. I think that's why Cicero said gratitude is not only the greatest of virtues but the parent of all others. Because when one can look around and see all that they have, scarcity has to give way to abundance. becomes hope, the mundane becomes beautiful,

gratitude is power because it's not acquisition, it's awareness. A reset button. A tap on the shoulder reminding us that life is about the people who make it worth living, the times we spend together. It's a reminder that the minutes aren't ticking

towards some life-altering grand finale, but that each second is in and of itself a miracle. And of course, I'm a believer. that we are here to evolve, to grow, to test the waters, to push our limits. But I'm also a believer in asking why. And it seems to me the answer is not to obtain something new, but to share who we are with the world.

Not to get what we don't have, but to make the most of what we do. Not to impress or fit in, but to take that passion that increases our heart rate, that curiosity, that, calls us towards new horizons, the incredible friends and family by our side, and simply realize that we are, this very moment, embarked upon the adventure of a lifetime. And for that, I am forever grateful.