Your World Within Podcast by Eddie Pinero - Loss or Launchpad?

Episode Date: July 27, 2020

In this episode I tell a story about a hit to the ego I took a few years back and how our obstacles present for us an opportunity to transform for the better.

Welcome to Your World Within Daily. I'm Eddie Panero. And in this episode, I want to talk about the idea of adverse situations presenting a path for us. You know, when the uncomfortable occurs, do you shrink to its demand or do you use it instead to grow and become something bigger and better? I want to tell you a story about something that happened to me that ultimately put me in that position, change my life trajectory, and really emphasize that it's not so much what happened. to you as it is what you do about it. So there are always things in life that present us with options, right? That give us a different set of paths to choose from. You know, do you go right or do you go left? And I want to tell you the story about a situation that right now, the funny thing is, you know, I look back and on the surface, it's just, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, it's, incredibly insignificant. But, you know, maybe some of you guys can relate when these things happen, a lot of the times because emotion and, you know, frustration and all that stuff boils up, the small things don't feel small. They feel huge. And, you know, this is a perfect example of that.

So, long story short, about three years ago, something I started doing is jumping on podcasts, right? I've alluded to this before. An interesting thing about my sort of trajectory has been my YouTube channel has grown faster than I have, which is a blessing, but it's been, it's always been a challenge. It's been a great challenge, but it's been a challenge meeting, you know, putting out content, having a certain amount of views, you know, you get calls to speak and you get calls to do interviews and you get calls to do things that, like anything, You need reps and you need experience and you need practice. And particularly starting out, you know, I always say yes, right, jump in and do these things. But, you know, it wasn't great at first, you know, both in speaking and interviewing. That's something that over hundreds and hundreds and hundreds of repetitions, you know,

I've sort of acquired comfortability and I feel great about it. But like anything, wasn't the case, right? And so I knew this going in. This is about three years ago. I was asked to go on this guy's podcast, kind of a weightlifter guy. Like if we sat next to each other on a plane, we just have very little to talk about. You know, for better or worse, you know, probably wouldn't be pals. But that's okay.

That's all right. It's not really relevant to this. But, you know, the idea is I'm on this podcast and he's asking me questions. and, you know, I'm kind of making my way through. Anyone can answer questions. You know, what you learn over time is how to create dialogue that's entertaining, right? You have to entertain. You have to, you know, learn how to share your ideas, learn how to articulate things in a way that's fun and that's captivating that doesn't come overnight.

So is it decent conversation? Nothing fantastic. He's streaming it live. So we end the conversation. and I'm watching on YouTube. He says, thanks, Eddie. Appreciate it. You know, we'll catch you next time.

Say thank you. And he's still live, right? And so I'm watching this on my laptop. And basically he then starts saying, you know, that was a terrible interview. He didn't go into a lot of detail. You know, I'm sure he's great on stage. I'm sure he's great making videos, but the kid can't, you know, hold the conversation. I mean, just not bashing me per se, but he didn't go.

was hitting like all the pain points, all the soft spots, all the insecurities that I knew I needed to work on. So it just, that's what I'm talking about. It felt magnified. It felt larger than life. And I'm like, dude, this is live? You're really doing this right now? And I just got angry, right? And I'm thinking about, you know, I got my my fingers on the keyboard ready to just drag the guy and say, you know, what are you doing, have some class, whatever. Angry. Texting my friends. this text in my family being like, this is like, what in God's name? And ultimately, you know, cool heads prevailed, took a breath, went on a run. And I came back and I'm glad I did. I'm glad I didn't say a word. Because here's why. This is one of those things that, again, in the moment,

felt huge and could have sent me on one of two trajectories. I could have said, yeah, you're right. Like maybe this interview thing, like, it's just not my jam. Maybe I can't talk to people on the internet or whatever. Whatever. I'll do something else. There's a lot out there. But conversely, what I did was realize a few things. I realized, one, if you want to have a platform of any significance, you have to be able to take criticism, period.

And like I said, he wasn't, you know, ripping the heart. out of my chest. He was just saying some things that, I mean, essentially were true. It just wasn't tactful to say. Like, I don't understand why. But that's a small thing. Like, if I, if my message gets out there to the extent that I'd love it to, there's going to be people that say much worse than that and get used to it. Like, who cares? And that was a really important thing to hear. It's like, life goes on. You hear it? You hear it? put it away move forward

the other thing was it's when I realized that I was going to crush it when I realized that I was going to really elevate my YouTube game when I knew that I was going to have a podcast and I wanted to be incredibly successful

so when I started reaching out to do more interviews not less because I didn't want that to be a soft spot I wanted that to be something that I was proud of that you know I did and I did well, and I've had hundreds of interviews since then. And like I mentioned, I'm incredibly comfortable in that situation now, and it's not a miracle. It's just repetition. And it is, you know, feeling awkward and feeling uncomfortable for the first 20, 30, 40, 50 that I did. It's life.

It's life in the big city. But it's not a metaphor. It's literal. It's real life. When you face those situations, you know, it's real easy to kind of shrivel up to walk away to say, all right, well, I guess that's what I am. And we forget that, look, no one decides that. You know, you have to write in your own story, you know, using my example, I'm not a good interviewer. And if you do that, fine. Then that's the reality. But until you do, it's just not true. Every day there's an opportunity to change that to write the story that you want written to improve yourself, to improve your life. And again, this isn't even vengeful. Like, I'm not taking a shot at anyone. I'm grateful for it. But bigger picture here, it's indicative of the

opportunity that we miss because we think these external circumstances have anything to do with what's possible for us, what's real for us. And it's just not. it's not it's it's it's conjecture it's it's just nonsense um and that's the message that i just wanted to make sure that i put out there because you know for me it was an interview situation again trivial small most examples i give are but everyone has something like that and the thing is it doesn't feel small um and just know that you can make of that situation whatever you decide to. Maybe it takes a week or a month or some time,

but you write your story, and that'll always be true. So just remember that as you're coming up to these uncomfortable situations, the conflict that life presents. It's never the end. It's never definitive. Life will always be what you decided is. So I hope that helps.

And if it did, please subscribe, rate and review. Helps me get this thing out to the world. And guys, I appreciate that. Thank you for watching and I'll catch tomorrow.