Your World Within Podcast by Eddie Pinero - Loved Or Hated, But Never Ignored

Episode Date: June 3, 2020

"There is only one way to avoid criticism; do nothing, say nothing, and be nothing." - Aristotle To share your voice is to open yourself up for criticism. To make anything worthwhile of your life is to put yourself in the crosshairs of doubters and cynics. Success is and always will be polarizing. This episode is about changing the way we think about that growth in our lives, as I advocate for embracing love or hate, but refusing to take the route of indifference.

Welcome to Your World Within Daily. I'm Eddie Panero. In this episode, we're going to talk about indifference and our inclination to want to slide under the radar, not ruffle feathered. But maybe the goal should be loved or hated. Just never ignore. So what does that mean? Love, hated, but never ignored. It means when you are vocal, right? When you put yourself out there, you are 100% vulnerable. That means there will be people that like you and people that don't. It doesn't matter what your message is. It doesn't matter what you stand for. If you stand for something, there will be people that disagree with you.

There will be people that agree with you and love you and there will be people that don't. And so that's a lot to take in. Our defense mechanism there is to kind of hang out in the weeds. It's to not ruffle feathers. It's to not say things that provoke or not amplify our voice to high. for fear of, you know, that criticism or what comes with that. But what I'm going to argue is that we should look at life like that is par for the course. Like that is what living is about, understanding that you are your unique self and

that definitionally is polarizing. The idea is not to slide by. The idea is to either be loved or be hated. Either of those extremes are okay because you're standing for something but never ignored. Indifference, appeasing everybody is a losing formula.

Aristotle has a quote and I'm probably going to butcher this because I didn't look it up. But the only way to avoid criticism I think is to do nothing, say nothing, be nothing, something like that. I mean, you get the point, right?

If you don't want to be criticized, great. Hide in your room for the rest of, of your life. So I'm going to play a video called loved, hated, or never ignored, and it's driving in that concept. Or I should say loved or hated but never ignored. You know, it's being bold enough to be yourself and knowing that authenticity is enough. It will piss some people off. So be it. But there will be people that love you for it and need what you have to say. Jordan Peterson has a quote,

if you have something to say and you don't say it, you are in fact lying. I love that. I love that quote. Really pushing us to speak our minds and stand for something. Because at the end of the day, the ones that hide in the weeds, they don't make a difference,

and there's a lot unsaid, and there's a lot of life unlived. That's not why we, We're here. That's not why I get up every day. That's not why you get up every day. This is called loved, hated, but never ignored. Be loved or be hated, but never simply tolerated. In life, you can live to chase opportunity, or you can live to avoid failure. And there are two very different things.

Rather than pursue, we often avoid, we avoid failure, we avoid criticism, we don't want to ruffle feathers or disrupt, no, we choose to simply exist. Never condemned, but never extraordinary, just tolerate it. And it's an interesting dilemma because the best things exist on the extremes, life's fringes. That's where you find your accolades, your accomplishments. That's what we celebrate. It's where you need to be. And you get there not by worrying about what everyone around you thinks, but by taking your strength, your unique self, holding on,

and pressing the pedal to the floor going all in. And yeah, that means suddenly, my friend, you are exposed. You are vulnerable. Well, you are now out there. It means those who don't have the courage to chase their dreams, they will find you threatening and they will let you know. But it also means that the shackles are off.

The door is open. The light is green and you can build from the ground up. You can build the life you want. The finish line has now become more visible than the prospect of falling along the way and you've granted yourself permission. to run through it. Sure, some will love you

for these accomplishments, some will hate you for these accomplishments, but let me reiterate the word accomplishment. Because when you live to be invisible, it's a term that rarely presents itself, I promise.

Life, it rewards the bold. Those who are bold in their beliefs, bold in their actions, their dreams and their pursuits. They are not for anyone but you. And years later, when you look in the mirror, you'll know that you gave every single thing you had to a life

that meant something to you. Loved, yes. Hated, sure, but merely tolerated, no.