Your World Within Podcast by Eddie Pinero - MASTER YOUR EMOTIONS | Powerful Motivational Speeches | WAKE UP POSITIVE

Episode Date: May 22, 2023

"I don't want to be at the mercy of my emotions. I want to use them, to enjoy them, and to dominate them." - Oscar Wilde

I remember running one day. This was years ago now. I lived a little bit further south. I was jogging down the Hollywood Beach boardwalk. And that particular day happened to be a struggle. I think I just underestimated the heat and felt beat up on my way back. But as I was passing all these people

who were walking on the boardwalk, some going to the beach, some were going to get food. everyone was kind of doing their thing. I just remember thinking how funny it was that in that, you know, that one second glance that happens between two people as they pass one another, that no one I was passing knew how awful I felt. And they'd never know. It felt odd to me that so much hurt could be hidden in plain sight.

Not that in a million years I'd want them to know or they needed to know, but it's the idea that this bridge between their world and mine would never be crossed, that my little hell was the secret the Hollywood boardwalk would keep forever. In a way, it's kind of crazy to think about, how someone can be going through their own struggle, and it's never apparent to passers by. Think about that, the vast majority of chaos on planet Earth, it goes unseen. Everyone's just kind of carrying around their own invisible burdens.

That Hollywood boardwalk probably keeps more secrets than I can comprehend. And you know, I've talked about this before, how over time one of my biggest mental shifts was detaching from this notion that everyone has it all figured out and I'm the one stumbling through. Everyone else jumps out of bed, you know, excited, screaming, let's go world, let's do this, right? Well, I dealt with my unease and my concerns. And that's just wrong, right?

Yeah, there's certainly variability in everyone's problems. We're not all the same. But everyone, everyone is climbing their own mountain. Everyone has their own cross to bear. I remember a quote from Victor Frankel, he said, To draw an analogy, a man's suffering is similar to the behavior of a gas. If a certain quantity of gas is pumped into an empty chamber, it will fill the chamber completely and evenly, no matter how big the chamber. Thus, suffering completely fills the human soul and conscious mind, no matter whether the suffering is great or little.

Therefore, the size of human suffering is absolutely relative. eye-opening message. Relative and felt by all. See, there's two things I take from this. First, and probably the most obvious, I think it calls for us to be more compassionate to others, at least as much as we can. I've fallen short here plenty of times we all do, but it reminds us that it should be a North Star. And two, there's a pragmatic element here. signifying that very rarely is what goes on around us about us. Very rarely is it personal. You know, because often our first instinct is to assign intentionality

to things that happen around us. How could this happen to me? How could they do this to me? And in truth, it's just not about you. Again, the deepest, most complex aspects of human beings are invisible to everyone but the person they're happening to. Everyone is, to some extent, running down their own boardwalk on a hot summer day. So going back to that example, let's make up a scenario. Let's say I clumsily bumped into someone, ran too close to them.

They could think, jerk. They could think, get in your lane. You could think, pay attention, have some respect, I'm walking here. But would that situation be the product of my disrespect? Or would it be the fact that I'm exhausted? That I'm hot, that I'm dehydrated, and only counting steps in my head. Buildings could have been collapsing around me and I would have had no idea. I'm focused on making it through.

See, there's value in understanding this. So much value. The world is not working against you. It's comprised of 8 billion souls with different movies playing in their heads. And you can get more from it when you understand that. You can be more valuable when you understand that. You can give yourself more grace when you understand that. People cannot see your pain and you can't see theirs.

But it is a shackle being removed to take life's life. events less personally, less seriously even. As you create something beautiful in your own world, understand that there are no true adversaries. I remember reading in the Four Agreements a while back, and this is kind of a sloppy paraphrasing, but people don't do things because of you. They do things because of themselves. And so as you run your race, as you make your way into the world,

Understand that everything around you is assigned value by you. And those passers by aren't for or against you. They are in the midst of various personal journeys, trying to run their own races, as are you. Look, the sun is hot. That humidity can be suffocating. The path laid out before you is long. These are tough obstacles that you are you.

obstacles that you have to overcome, that we all have to overcome, and in time you will. But don't create additional adversaries that do not exist. Don't imprison yourself with stories that don't hold up. It's not all about you, and understanding that, as it turns out, can be what makes all the difference.