Your World Within Podcast by Eddie Pinero - MINDSET OF A WINNER | Powerful Motivational Speeches Compilation

Episode Date: October 25, 2021

"It's not what you look at, it's what you see" - Henry David Thoreau

Welcome to The Your World Within Podcast. I'm Eddie Panero. And today's episode is all about mindset. Henry David Thoreau has a quote. He says, it's not what you look at. It's what you see. Well, all four speeches in today's episode highlight the idea that perspective is manufactured, that the world consists of objects waiting for our subjectivity to provide life, to provide meaning, and to tell the story that we so desperately want to tell. hell. But before we get into the episode, quick thanks to our sponsor, Audible. So many of the concepts

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Again, that's audibletrial.com slash your world within. And now let's get to the episode. There's a saying that some people feel the rain. Others just get wet. I've always found this interesting, this idea, how the same subject, same situation, or occurrence can be interpreted so differently, right? It can plant the seeds for such different outcomes.

Like Yeshimi and Koga mentioned in their book, The Courage to be disliked, well water is 60 degrees. And it's always 60 degrees. In the summer and the winter, but depending on what time of year, right, the makeup of the outside world, that 60 degrees feels different. The water didn't change its circumstances did, and our thoughts are no different. It's not the world that writes the story. We do. And every second moment day is merely an interpretation. Does time tick by? Or is it driven into a state of flow? Is it transformed into something more?

Was losing an indicator that, hey, maybe you're not good enough? Or is it your motivation to be better than you've ever been? Is your day an allegiance to the present or an invitation to chase down tomorrow? See, the world doesn't get to tell the tale. The world is paper, it's ink, its ideas. The world is everything you need to decide how your story's going to go. How does he see the world? How does she define reality?

That's the question. Because you don't need to change the world. You need to change the way you see it. And you don't need to change who you are. You need to change the imaginary shackles you've placed around your ankles that are limiting the heights you could reach. In fact, the world, as far as I'm concerned, is an accumulation of thoughts, ideas. It's 8 billion individualized movie screens attempting to interact, to coexist together.

And when you look at it like that, it's not that your mindset plays a role or it's kind of important. No, it's that it narrates the play. It's the glue that ties everything together. What you see is what you get. And this isn't a one and done thing. It's an everyday thing. Because there's always going to be occurrences in our lives that challenge us to threaten our understanding of who we are and what we're capable of.

There will always be the temptation to make the opportunity into the problem and the hero, into the villain. But why forfeit that control? I remember hearing that if you find time to be grateful, both in the morning and at night, it changes your life. Not because the world transforms, but because it reinforces the perspective you need.

We are lucky to be here. We're lucky to have challenges that push us forward. lucky to have ups and downs that bring us closer to the people in our lives. We're lucky that chaos and discomfort open a door for transformation on the other side. And look, I get life isn't perfect. And not everything can be great all the time. But I do believe that if we can bring ourselves to stop, to breathe, to even focus briefly, we can find value in any situation.

What's in front of you, it exists. It's the well water. You can't go back in time or remake the obstacle at your feet, but you can always decide how to make that work for you. And that's a superpower. And I use that. I use it when my short-term ideas or videos or projects underperform. I use it when people let me down.

I use it when in the moment I'm either under or overwhelmed. The question, where is the win? In this spot, this situation where most would hang their heads and let the outside world rewrite the story. How can I find a way to hold mine high and maintain my own accountability? Extreme differences in life outcomes are so often prompted by such subtle realization,

subtle decisions. Their reason to stop could be your reason to not only carry on, but thrive. And the best news is you don't need approval or authorization. You don't need the stars to align or doors to open. You just need to give yourself permission to see the sun amidst the clouds, the hope amidst the doubt. You have to remind yourself that there is always something to cling to, always a second chance. There is always a win.

Have to do is to see it. Why is it that when we look back on our lives, it's never the easy days or the simplicity? It's not the calm that changes our reality or makes us who we are. Don't get me wrong, calm and simplicity, they're wonderful, but they're not transformative. And why would they be? Why would we change or seek to obtain more without a reason or incentive? It's times of struggle, of turbulence. It's when life was hard that we had to rethink who we are.

reshape the way we look at the world. Because without chaos, you don't get calm. Without the storm, you don't get those crazy neon colors and golden rays it leaves as it passes by. In order to triumph in any capacity or any area of life, there's always a sacrifice that must be made. The adversity is the fire that forges the iron. There's a saying hard times create strong men. strong men. Strong men create good times. Good times create weak men and weak men create hard times. It's a cycle. And this is generally used in a sociopolitical sense and I think in a lot

of ways it applies today, but where I've really found it useful, where I've found value in it is at the personal level. Because what I've noticed is that growth also appears to have a cyclical nature. And when we're in a rough situation or overcoming an obstacle, we have to push, we fight, we grow. Sometimes without even realizing it, we achieve a result. And by default, this transformation that in one way or another makes us something new. But then it becomes easy to level out, right? And that's the challenge. It creates this period of stagnation. It's like we made the jump and it becomes real easy to stay there. And that's why I have found value

in when life is not providing resistance to manufacture some. Because that's the only way to grow. Progress is happiness. Victor Frankel and Man Search for Meaning, you know, he says purpose is to find from struggle. If things are too calm or simple or quiet, life begins to lack meaning.

And that's never a spot we want to be. Life is about the pursuit of something. You just have to figure out what that blank will be. be. You get to decide which mountain to climb. There's a story about a butterfly making its way out of a cocoon. It makes a little hole. It starts attempting to push its way out. Someone walks by. They see it struggling and open the cocoon up to help the butterfly out, right, thinking that they did this great deed. But in doing so, that butterfly has now lost its ability

to use its wings to fly. Why? Because it's the strength that was necessary to fly would have been forged when he fought his way out. The butterfly was deprived of the very thing it needed to become something more, and that's the point. It's easy to get lost in the now and seek to eliminate everything that doesn't make the moment more comfortable. To remove that, which doesn't make things easier. But whether we're talking about collectively or the complacency in our individual lives, We have to remember that avoiding discomfort isn't the answer. When your biggest problem is Amazon taking five days to deliver

or that your feelings are hurt by someone's comments or opinions on social media, you've lost track of yourself. You may be living in a world lacking the resistance necessary for growth. Maybe it's time to ask what matters. And I remember when I lived in Boston, I'd walk around listening to podcast downtown, and I'll never forget here in Ryan Holiday differentiating between passion and purpose.

He called passion temporary, a dopamine hit. It's the excitement before the project begins, the beginning of a journey, the honeymoon fate. But passion alone falls short. And it falls short because anything worthwhile is hard. It tests us. It repeatedly presents us with those metaphorical cocoon. We have to fight them.

We have to earn our stripes, grow our wings, and if we stop at passion, there's no reason to battle on. To take the punches, knowing that they will create for us a tomorrow full of infinite possibility, and that's where we need purpose. That's why it matters. We need something bigger to march towards. a destination that's meaningful. To remind us that those challenging times, they're not a burden. There is no poor me here. They're the fire that sharpens us. That whispers to us,

not only the importance of carrying on, but the power contained within ourselves to do so. This world, it is not stacked against us. stacked against you. It's never the problem or the obstacle. No, it's the opportunity laid out at your feet. And it's in those very times when we're uncomfortable, when we're unsure, when we don't know where to draw our strength. That we need to remember it comes within. It's an idea that it's brought to life Through courage, through understanding, through the trials and tribulations of life that didn't intimidate or hold you back, knowing that life has given you everything you need to blaze your trail.

So don't be afraid to let it take you somewhere new. Greatest distress, that we must find it within ourselves to see that which is difficult to see. It's when things seem hopeless, tragic. It's when we feel lost that we forget a universal truth. Behind every struggle, no matter how big there is a win, an answer, an opportunity for recreation. See, it's very easy in the midst of a storm to forget that it will pass. The dark skies block out the light, so we're very easy.

we forget the warmth of the sun. And the wind and the rain, it forces us inside. So we forget the perfection that is simply breathing in the cool air. We forget that all storms have one thing in common. They come and they go. They are temporary. And what they leave is hope. answers, the clearest, brightest of skies.

See, I'm not asking you to see something that's not there. I'm not asking you to imagine or live a life of make-believe. I'm reminding you of what you already know exists behind those clouds, better days, your solution, your victory. I'm asking you to look to precedent. Because every day leading up to now has had its adversity. The road to the current moment was paved with trials and tribulations and what you've done. Every day until now is figure it out.

Find a way. How many times do you have to prove to yourself that you have what it takes? That you'll be okay. That within the depths of your soul are answers to everyone. any and every problem that you face. I know things aren't easy. Maybe they even seem bigger, scarier, more overwhelming than they ever have.

But as adversity grows, so does your resilience. And I'm not sitting here giving you something new or an answer you didn't already possess. All I'm doing is reminding you how, incredible you are, how much you've already overcome and how capable you are of conquering whatever is next. Sometimes in life, the difference between okay and great or stagnation and growth, it is only a change in perspective. It is how you look at the world and your place within it, that little voice in your head reminding you that you are capable of

of things beyond your current comprehension, that your perceived best is a fraction of what you're capable of. Reality is manageable. It's always manageable. It's the fear that if we let it will be our demise. And life's too short to bow down to a monster that doesn't even really exist, that we created ourselves. So let's commit to being the ones who find calm when others panic and see opportunity where others see hardship and see what can be gained when others remain fixated on what has been lost.

I love to simplify to find clarity in that which appears overwhelming and complex. So here's the formula. You minus negative thoughts equals infinite possibility. You are capable of handling anything life throws at you. In terms of potential and resources and ability, you are. You can overcome. The only thing that can make a situation debilitating or permanent is you deciding it so.

Therefore, the obstacle will never be life. It will be your thoughts about life. Your thoughts determine how you react. That is reality. Is it a lost job or an opportunity to begin again, to grow, to fall in love with something you've always wanted to do? Is it lost time, loneliness, tragic seclusion, or a chance to write chapter one of your book, Scene one of your movie, lay the first brick of what will become your empire? I've been sad and I've been happy and I've been broke and I've been broke.

and I've had money. And I've felt alone and I've felt loved. But through it all, every step, every trial, every tribulation I've come out stronger, battle-hearted, cognizant of the fact that happiness was a choice, money is reacquirable, that some people go, but the ones that matter stay a part of you forever.

Life is a gift. It's a gift when things are hard. It is a gift when they are easy. It is always a gift. So don't let your losses define you. If you get back up, it is nothing short of a victory. Armor that you now wear as you make your way into the world. A world that can push you down, but it certainly can't keep you there.

Not if you don't let it. For your mind, your body, your soul, made of the same elements that surround you, the same stars comprising the universe, they have equipped you to weather any storm, outlast any earthly dilemma, do anything, and be anyone. Never forget that. Never forget. There's a story about some frogs. And, you know, these frogs as they're sort of making their way through the woods, the ground breaks underneath them, and two of them fall into this little pit. Way, way, way down. They tumble, and eventually they hit the bottom.

They're looking up, and they're realizing how far they've fallen, right? Moving around, panicking, essentially coming to grips with the situation that they're now in. They start frantically jumping, trying to climb the walls. And as they're jumping, the frogs on top are looking down. And they're basically yelling, look, we're sorry this happened to you. But this is a lost cause. There's no way out for you guys. There's no need to jump around.

This is a futile situation. But they continue to jump and they're jumping, not willing to come to terms with that possibility. Not yet. And again, the frogs up top, they yell down. And there's no way. It's over. You're going to die down there, guys. You need to ultimately face that.

And one of the two frogs in the pit does concede to the situation. He hears the voices and, you know, he stops jumping and makes his way further down the pit and he dies. But the second one, the second one keeps jumping and jumping and adjusting his approach. Trying different things. Ultimately, he does get out. He climbs over the ledge, and when he gets to the top, he's confronted by the others. And they come up to him, they ask him,

hey, didn't you hear us yelling down that this situation was impossible? Didn't you hear us say there was no way out? And as it turns out, he didn't hear, because this frog was deaf, right? So we couldn't hear a single word, and this ultimately saved his life. not because it helped them do the miraculous or the impossible, but because it blocked out the outside voices,

attempting to tell him what possible is. Look, there will always be doubters, skeptics, and cynics. As Aristotle said, there is one way to avoid criticism. Do nothing, say nothing, and be nothing. But the beauty is that these voices have one thing, in common and that's their irrelevance. Because there's one voice that matters in the writing of your story and that voice belongs to you.

Never forget how much control you have. Never forget who holds the pen. Things are real when you make them real. Things stop when you stop. Things change when you change them. So here's the following, not orders or expectations, but that spark that guide you. you to what feels right to what means the most years to an everlasting self-belief that will lift you out of any hole carry you over any mountain and most

importantly turn blank pages into a story that is truly your