Your World Within Podcast by Eddie Pinero - This Mindset Will Change Your Life | Powerful Motivational Speeches To Start Your Day Right

Episode Date: February 20, 2023

“Don’t be afraid to give up the good to go for the great.” - John D. Rockefeller

I was thinking about something recently, something we've probably all heard before, and in some cases already know. But that's why it warrants a little bit of discussion. It's not about knowing, it's about executing, which are two very different things. And so, I'll start here with the idea that everything is relative. Someone who runs five miles a day and then starts hanging out with people who all run. and 10 miles a day is more than likely going to at least ask themselves the question,

could I be running more? Should I? Right, that's just human nature. One's perception of normality shifts when they're around people or circumstances that stretch it. And as far as I can tell, this can be applied to anything. I remember a friend of mine probably about five years ago now, asked me what my monthly revenue goal was. And I remember telling him and he paused and looked kind of puzzled and asks, you know, why only that? And I thought, only that, right? That's a big number. I was reaching there.

But that encounter, I still remember, it rocked my worldview. It's like, okay, wow, I need to, you know, move some things around. I need to aim higher. It's an important convo for me. And I think, you know, there's often a negative connotation we apply to this concept, right? comparison being the thief of joy, they're always being more to acquire. It's a tool. And but not utilized the right way or internalized the right way can be unhealthy. But there's also, when utilized correctly, something not only healthy, but incredibly powerful and advantageous about it. We need to be reminded that we're capable of more, otherwise our worldview can't stretch. We're able to extend far beyond the reality we find ourselves in, but that fact alone does us no good. We have to position ourselves to see, to feel, to believe the more. A good friend of

mine and I started reporting to each other daily the workouts we do now twice a day. And the funny thing is, it didn't start out twice a day, but just, you know, the nature of not wanting to be the guy who does less. You know, we've been friends for a while. We're all about helping each other be better in business and fitness and you name it. And you can bet when I've been running around working all day and I'm tired and the little voice in my head starts whispering,

well, you already got a workout in earlier. Just go really hard tomorrow instead. You'll be fine. But then my phone buzzes and it's a screenshot of his workout stats. It's like, nope, have to find time to do it. He's tired. He has a job and a family. He wants to crack a beer or grab a burger, but he didn't.

And the fact that he reached for more makes me realize, hey, so cannot. Makes me ask, what are my targets? Are they big enough? And that's been incredibly effective, prompting this conversation, making me realize, you know, there's something to this. How can I position myself so that I have line of sight to that precious abundance in the other areas of my life that I deem important. How can I nurture the relationships I have

that serve as a reminder that there is always another level? How can I keep at the forefront of my mind that there are online creators helping millions of people a day? There are business owners making millions of dollars a month. And it's not that I'm not proud and grateful. I'm both of those things. Instead, I love the journey. I love the challenge of seeing what I can become

and know that our default is to get so consumed by the current way of things, we start thinking, hey, maybe that's all there is. We forget to keep our eyes up. And so a few things I plan on doing. I'll share them, and maybe they'll prompt some ideas in your head for whatever your values are, whatever you're trying to improve. Recently I set up a mastermind quarterly with some buddies I have that are investors and business owners.

Simple to report growth, revenue, future plans. As someone who just loves to write and create, it's easy for me to put all that stuff second. So this is going to hold me accountable. Fitness, I already mentioned. This one is new. I have a few friends that I started meeting up with just to get out, to unwind,

do nothing business-related at all, which is just as critical as work, right? I have to make time to soak in the world around me. And there are others as well, but you get the idea, right? It's teaming up with those people in my life where our values overlap and we can help each other win. The saying goes, you're the average of the five people you spend the most time with.

But now imagine taking that a step further. Reaching out to those people and teaming up to help position each other to succeed. You get the accountability, the camaraderie. You become a team looking to get the most of your time on this planet. I've stated many times that my belief is the pieces exist around us to do so many things, incredible things, monumental things. But how we mix, match, and utilize those pieces, the world around us determines that. So let's ask the question.

What is a life well lived to me? And how can I tangibly position myself to obtain it? How can I help those I care about obtain it? Those are some powerful questions and will ultimately lead to some incredible growth. What you look for in life tends to be what you find. What you believe is usually what you see,

which means your existence hinges on where you build your walls. And part of the reason stories, music, movies, they move us is because we're allowed, even if it's for a short period of time to change our parameters on these things, to let the mind navigate through a world without any limitation.

When you think about it, we never fast forward through a movie so that we can quickly check off the box and complete it. Right? We never rush through to move on to the sequel. No, we want to experience it. We want to be overwhelmed, by emotion, captivated by excitement lost in the mystery,

and then when it's over, we retract, we return to reality. The walls come back up and the rules are reinstated. And from a 10,000 foot view, you can't help but look at that and wonder if there's more there. Why do we have to retreat to this microcosm of our ideal world? ideal world where we're not rushed, we can enjoy the moment. Why does it take a dark room and objects depicted on a small screen for us to feel like it's acceptable to step outside of this everyday script? And the question isn't who's enforcing these rules.

The answer is always us, it's internal, but the question is why? Is it incomprehensible that the same excitement be inserted into your world? into your world. Is it out of the realm of possibility that the rush of adrenaline, the peak experiences, the laughter, love twists and turns be inserted into reality? It's like we choose to be chased through life by ticking clocks and measured by socially constructed checkpoints.

But we can move beyond that, much beyond in those checkpoints. They're just as imaginary, as the talking raccoon you set aside three hours to watch last night. So, by the way, you could escape from a manufactured reality. Right, there's a powerful authoritative line that separates our day to day from the imagination, and every second is about pushing that back.

Never fast-forwarding through life, but making it unlike anything else. Never applying the word mandatory to things that don't warrant the term. We need to think bigger. Working like a madman to build someone else's dream is not mandatory. Enjoying two-sevenths of your life is not mandatory. Being confined to one road when there are infinite paths to travel is not mandatory. They're components of a bad movie.

And my point is not to be ungrateful. It's not to be resentful. It's to remind you that things are the way they are because you've allowed them to be that way. Nothing in life is destined, predetermined, or meant to be. Everything is decided. Life is chosen. Paths are taken. And sometimes a simple reminder that you have the flexibility to redefine.

The rules can make all the difference. You are entitled to happiness. Every day is a continuation. of the extraordinary, not a break from it, and you have to see that. You have to believe that. You're not alive so that you can every so often escape. You're here to feel the imaginary, to challenge the make-belief. Our view of the world without a concentrated effort, it seems to contract.

And this is a reminder to disallow that, to stop living, for the 5% or the 10% and flip that ratio on its head. Now is the time to rewrite your script, recraft your storyline. And if what you look for is what you get, then it's time to see what you've never seen before. I had a window seat on the plane a few days ago. And during the descent, I watched as we lowered into a thin layer of clouds. which anyone who's flown before knows creates turbulence.

The plane starts to shake. For a brief moment, can't see anything outside the window, only white. No matter how many times I watched this happen, and at this point, probably in the hundreds, I can't help but feel a little uneasy. Heart rate increases a little bit. It's just an uncomfortable thing, and here's the deal. not only is a plane going through turbulence safe, a quick Google search will explain to you

that no plane was ever brought down by turbulence. They were built specifically for that to endure it. And I know that, I understand it, I believe it. I guess that faint nervousness, I feel, highlights the divide between my mental capacity to understand something, and, you know, my physiological reaction to it. It shows, to put it simply, that often what's necessary will be uncomfortable, right?

We'll get easier over time, but the point is there's a very real biological resistance associated with doing what's necessary. Even when we know the necessary thing is the right thing, even when we know we're capable of enduring the journey, right? Just like that plane was built specifically. to endure turbulence. Well, in your own world, so were you. And yeah, that world might shake.

Yeah, you might look around and see an unknown providing no clarity or visibility, at least in the moment. But that feeling of discomfort should not be interpreted as negative. A sign to stop or turn back. Has a signal that the world is too much. No, it's where you're,

close your eyes and remind yourself how much you can handle, despite life trying to make you feel to the contrary. You were built to overcome, made to push into uncharted territory, to take your losses and uncover the hidden away value within them. Sometimes to grow, it's required that we learn not to resist that trembling, but to see it is the courage to say yes, when it would have been infinitely easier to say no. And that's what this is about.

Nothing groundbreaking, no secret formulas, just the reminder we often need but don't hear enough. That during the ascents and de-sense of life, and there are and will be many, know that you were built for the turbulence. You can harness the chaos, you can get through to the other side, which is really, Required is simply that you remember who you are and what you're capable of.

Because again, when this ability is limited and our world's shake, it's easy to forget. You will not lose because of the challenge. You will win despite it again and again and again. And sure, stepping up to face that adversary, you may never detach from that nerve. feeling in your stomach or the shaky hands, but that's okay. That's your indicator, that you're alive, that you weren't tricked into submitting to a very beatable opponent, that you didn't turn away from the things that meant the most. Around 2011, I hurt my left arm and had to get surgery. So for a while, I was pretty limited as far as what I could do with my upper body.

And that's really when I fell in love with running. I started doing it almost every day. Sometimes those long runs outside, clear my mind, sort of reset a little bit. And sometimes I mix it up. Hop on the treadmill and do my favorite workout, which was a pyramid, right, where you break 10 minutes into four segments, four, three, two, and one, increasing in intensity with each segment, and then you start over. and that's where this whole idea comes from.

It's this treadmill workout that I want to talk about because there's a little ritual I picked up that I still implement to this day, and it was simple. At the very end of my workout or my run, I would always add 22 seconds. My lucky number twice, two and two. So for example, if I told myself, you know,

the workout's going to be, you know, three pyramids 30 minutes, I would stop running at 30 minutes in 22 seconds. If I told myself it was going to be an hour, I'd stop at one hour in 22 seconds, always tacking on that 22. And I don't really remember the first time I started doing it, or even why. But like so many things, that 22 second period organically became a habit, sort of evolved to take on a life of its own and would come to symbolize for me a little challenge. The idea that the end is never really the end. And no matter how tired I was or how bad I wanted to stop,

especially when you can see that finish line in reach, I could always squeeze out a little more. But there's always something extra to give. And you could certainly go down that 22-second rabbit hole, right? Just 22 more seconds. And then you finish that. you realize you can do just 22 more and just 22 more. It's like this never-ending spotlight

into how incredible we are as humans. That our stopping points almost always are constructed. Rarely is there not an extra 22 seconds or 22-somethings we can endure. And not only that, I think there's a case to be made that our growth occurs in that, final push. There's a ton of value, you know, hidden away in there. The stretching of the mind and body. The last rep that breaks down the muscle. The last few seconds of that run that forced the lungs to work their hardest. Exhausting that last bit of energy and focus, you know, studying for an exam.

Maybe that's where you confirm your comprehension and understanding of the subject matter. It's like when we are pushing ourselves just outside the limits we drew up, we are simultaneously expanding those limits. And so over the years, I've adopted that mentality. And I look at myself in the mirror now and I can see it. I'm not the same person I was a decade ago. Those little decisions to add on 22 seconds, they stack up, and they stack up in a unique way.

Because it's not necessarily about the time. It's not the same benefit that, say, an hour every morning at the gym would bring. You know, obviously that would be incredibly valuable, but in a different way. I'm talking about mentally, an armor that we come to wear, an identity that gets materialized. It's how you see yourself and how you see the world. You understand how manufactured our parameters are. And I get it. We have to stop somewhere, sure.

But it's an acknowledgement that those somewheres are fiction. They are arbitrary. You weren't made to exist within them, but to stretch them, to recreate them. And that's an endeavor that is always uncomfortable. But as far as I can tell, always worth it. The strength to go a little bit further than initially intended or designed is what will place you in a league of your own. And that's where I wanted to start by bringing attention to the idea that there's always an extra 22 seconds and you are always capable of

obtaining it. That is yours. Whether you choose to see it or not, it's an option. it's always an option, which sort of connects us to my next thought. If I know that's who I am, someone that fights for that 22 seconds, if I know that's what I'm capable of, and that's what lights me up, what about those times in my life when I had no desire to reach for the extra 22? Because sitting here, I can think of plenty. I can think of times when there was dissonance between my identity and my actions. Here's a quick story.

This was a shift in my life and my understanding of reaching for that little bit more. When people ask me about my process, what I'm building or where I see myself in X number of years, I tell them I'm playing the long game. right, like I'll sacrifice some short-term wins now to continue forward with a plan that I believe wholeheartedly will transform from linear to exponential, right? It's like Gary V's motto, you know, you're young, you have time. And impact is not about succeeding at 34, it's about flourishing at 45 and 55 and 65 and 75. Like, that's fun to me. That's the exciting game to play.

And it's methodical. The challenge is, you know, as you're locked into this big picture plan, you have to pass a lot of shiny objects along the way. A lot of, hey, look at them over there. Maybe I should be doing that too. That worked for her. Will it work for me? Right?

Sometimes you forget to trust yourself and stay the course. And so a few years ago, I felt this pressure to pivot. to adjust focus. I'd been, you know, talking with some mentors of mine who were, you know, very successful in their individual fields and passions. And I thought, hey, you know what, it's time for me to start focusing less on the craft

and more on monetizing the craft, right? The De Niro side of things, which is great and it's healthy, but here's the catch. As long as you're doing it in a way that aligns with who you are. And so a few months go by, and I found myself living in this overly sized and priced condo on the beach that I was going to use to impress clients. You know, making products that didn't excite me, talking to people I didn't really want to be talking to, living a life that was not my own, I'd lost myself. Right? My love is storytelling. It's capturing life's seemingly overlooked secrets.

That's what I get excited about in the morning. That's the value. you I want to share with the world. And look, money is important. It's necessary. It's freedom. But for me, it can't be about the money or I lose the drive. Right? And here's the point I'm making where it all comes together.

What I found is that when you're a stranger in your own body, there's almost no incentive to push for that little extra. It's like who cares about fighting for 22 seconds? I'm so misaligned, I don't even want to be here. That is the red flag. That's the indicator that it's time to adjust. Because if I'm someone who wants more, who pursues and acquires more,

and I don't feel the urge to do so, you know, it's time to change. And I broke the lease, put everything I had in a car, went on a little three-month excursion, re-aligned. And if I'm not willing to suffer through that little extra to go above and beyond, it's not for me. And so that's a big example, but it obviously manifests in smaller ways as well. Yes, you are someone who can and will chase down the beauty in life, who will transform that little extra into something meaningful, but you also have to

position yourself and the world around you to make it possible. And when you don't feel that hunger inside. And this is the point you need to understand. It's not you. It's not broken hardware. It's not that you innately lack drive or confidence. It's that you need to rearrange this scenario. You need to find alignment. Because I promise you if you want something enough, you'll be willing to fight for it, to hurt for it, to break boundaries for it. But you must first make sure that you're pointed at something you want, something that moves you. And here's the part where I remind you of all those things you've already overcome in your life. Of all the times you thought your tank was empty, but you found away.

All the times you were hurting but kept moving. All the times you were broken, but put yourself back together. We are not told in school or at work how resilient we are. We're not told that we often stop thousands of 22-second period short. We aren't told that we're living at a 30% capacity, operating at a fraction of our potential. We don't even realize the little miracles we've created along the way. A strong purpose and a willingness to stretch yourself as you pursue it will change your life.

And that's not hyperbole, that is fact. If you want what you've never had, then push yourself further than you've ever gone. And we're talking little stressors, expanding one step at a time. Until you eventually look over your shoulder and see the miles you've traveled. Until you look at your reflection

and see the evolution that has occurred. It was never just 22 seconds. It was a consistent and sustained shot at the walls you placed around yourself for the opportunity to see them crumble.