ZM's Bree & Clint - Bree & Clint's After Party - 9th May 2024

Episode Date: May 9, 2024

What's your fatal flaw? Seems Clint's one was too big to slide past today. Time to call him out. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

The ZM Podcast Network I'm having a party A party for two Bam bam! Hi everyone, welcome to the after party What? Why are you doing that stink face? Oh, you know why You got a face like a cat's ass You know why

You're an upside down friend Ella, you with me? Turn that smile upside down. Yeah. To you. To me? To you. What did I do?

Go on, you tell all of our loyal listeners what you said off air today that offended me and Ella. You'll have to refresh me because. You don't remember? You don't remember the shot you took. Oh, that's even worse. I bet Claudia remembers. Only now I remember.

But I felt almost flattered. No, Claudia! I mean, Clint, how could you say that? That's anti-feminist and... You still don't remember? No, I do. I'm just interested to see how you interpret it. Clint said that if he had to... he doesn't like to accept women's opinions

but if he had to out of us three claudia's would be the highest and that's the opinion he would accept the most out of us three but he doesn't like to but if he had to yeah yeah that's the thing he doesn't even like claudia so brie which part are you most offended by that i'm not before claudia ella i'm offended that you had to say you had to put us in a category in a in an order i'm offended on behalf of i didn't put you in an order i didn't put you in an order. I'm offended on behalf of all women. I didn't put you in an order. I didn't put you in an order. It's becoming that. There's someone at the top. There's first and last.

You put us in an order. Who's at the bottom? Wait, who's last? Bree and Ella are about equal. Huh? How far above them am I? Just out of interest. No. Just to see how bad this is.

Just to test it out. What the fuck? Abra! Abra! Can I just say, can I just say, it's been an interesting day. No, we don't actually want to hear from a man. Yeah, right? I don't get a right of reply.

Can I just say, it's been an interesting day. I know you guys know this, but I feel like I need to say it. That was a joke. And it was like, I thought it was quite a good joke because it was like double layered. What? You think you need to explain that to us? I also said on the show today that if you want to get through traffic faster, you should draft an ambulance that has its sirens on.

You've said this multiple times. I don't get that. What does that mean? I got an absolute bollocking on the text machine from someone who said it was the stupidest thing I've – stupidest – no, this is the bit they said it was the stupidest advice I've ever given. Wow. Like it was advice.

It was also a joke. But maybe I'm not funny and maybe I should stop. You also talked children through piercing their own ears. No, we talked children through piercing their own ears. Yeah, I was involved in that one. I wasn't. I was involved. But I mean, that's it.

No, Bree was joking, but I wasn't. You were getting terrible advice. You could tell I was joking, eh? Yeah. Yeah, of I wasn't. You could tell I was joking, eh? Yeah, of course. Is it because I'm too well respected that even when I'm joking, people take it seriously? You know, because you'll hear it on the main podcast where we talk about the fatal friend flaw theory

and it's where every friend has a fatal flaw and Claudia, you couldn't be more spot on with Claire. I get jealous sometimes of just how much confidence you have. Yeah, but it's also not a flaw. No, no, it's a good thing and a bad thing, I think. Like it's a balancing thing. Like I wish I had some of it, maybe not all of it, but some of the confidence you have

in yourself. What's good about it? Because it means you back yourself and you trust yourself. Yeah, you don't have anxiety, you don't worry, you just have the belief in yourself that you can do

anything. And what's bad about it? You sound like a bit of a dick sometimes. The two sides. Can I take a leaf out of your book? I wish you would. Wow. No, I mean that nicely. I mean, I wish you would because I believe in you.

Do you have like a mantra? I feel like I've come from a long way. I've got Clint's mantra book right here. What's the mantra? Hold on. Here we go. Here we go. Clint's mantra.

This is good. I've forgotten what it is. So I need to hear it too. Clint's mantra. Hold on. I'm just going to turn the page here. Oh, it's very short. Yep.

Fuck, I'm good. Just ask me. That's it. Okay, so I repeat that. You look at yourself in the mirror. Fuck, I'm good. Just ask me. Fuck, I'm good.

Just ask me. Do you scream at the mirror? But you could say that to yourself jokingly, and I reckon it would still have a positive impact on you. It definitely does. Because here's the thing here's the thing the voice inside your head that you create that's what your brain hears that's what your body hears however you yourself talk is that's the impression of yourself that you that you're giving your mind that you're you know if you say i am shit people don't like

me your brain will go well that's that's true because I just said it. As RuPaul from RuPaul's Drag Race says, it's your inner saboteur. Yes. That's what it is. And to be honest, I'm my own worst enemy. I'm my biggest, like, biggest, biggest hurdle when it comes to anything because I just don't have that self-belief. Can I also say that i've not like

obviously i have humility and i know that i'm not capable of everything i actually know i think i could probably do anything but i was gonna say we haven't seen it i i i i look i'm be careful can i say some of it comes with age Because it's not so much that I am arrogant. I just don't care as much as I used to. So a lot of people's anxiety and apprehension is tied to what they think other people will think of them. And I just don't care anymore. That's fair. I've given up. Yeah.

And when you get to that point. Well, caring about what other people think, right? And of course I do. I care what my wife thinks. And I care what my family thinks. And I care what you guys think to an extent. Wow. But really, but really.

Yeah. Fuck, life's for living. Like, you know? Like, you will, and you will get to that point. I hope. I hope. I think, yeah, like I've definitely come so far. Yeah.

I remember high school. It's not easy, though. It does take time i agree i listened to this podcast the other day that some friends of mine are doing and they talked about about how freeing it can be to stop caring and someone said how do you get to that point i should give them a shout out it's nixon and nate um who from my fm and they had tegan from my fm on their podcast she's amazing she's so funny and talented and she said to she said to nate she said because he said to her you've got to stop caring what

other people think that's what you have to do yeah and she said how do you do that and he said that he realized early on that why the filter he puts it through is says, does this person pay my bills? No. Why do I give a what they think? Yeah. You know? Yeah. Why do I care? Why do I want to impress this person? Yeah, if they don't pay my bills, then pay them no mind.

Pay your bills or serve you in any way. RuPaul says something about that, actually. If they ain't paying my bills, then I ain't paying them no mind. I think that's what RuPaul says. I'm not trying to sound like Jay Shetty, the life guru monk guy, by the way. I definitely don't have all the answers. But I agree with you that I don't suffer from crippling self-doubt on the daily. No, you 100% don't.

If there's a morsel of advice that is in there somewhere and it's useful to someone, then that would be good. Yeah, totally. Don't look for me for advice on that because I am not the person to ask. I think you've come a long way. I think I've gotten better. I think you've come a very, very long way in the time that we've worked together.

That's nice to hear. Yeah. Because I feel like I have. I've worked really hard at it. You have more don't give a fuck attitude about you which is helpful yeah um and you just i think from seeing yourself achieve things over time you've kind of maybe started to believe that you are capable of doing things whereas before it was a lot of faking it until you make it but but the world got the faker and we got the fuck i don't think i can make it

i'm patting and we're all, no, you can absolutely do it. We've already seen you do it. But now maybe you've seen yourself do it a few times and you're like, oh, okay. Yeah, but don't get it twisted. I still on the daily, especially more times than other, I will have an internal battle with myself. But I think I win more of those internal battles these days,

if that makes sense. Yeah, totally. But it doesn't mean I don't have them. As a Kiwi, you've also got to go, honestly, I don't think I'm that good. It's so true. No matter how comfortable and confident you get, you've still got to go, oh, but I'm probably still shit just like you.

Because someone's like you. Otherwise, everyone will go, fuck you. You've got too big for your boob look how good they think they are to be honest i'm surprised that hasn't happened to you yet what with how confident you are sometimes and i think you know what it is is you take it in your stride you're like yeah no i do think that about myself so then it's and then it becomes i don't care what people think but it becomes then it becomes an endearing thing because you can acknowledge it and own it. It's being confident but kind, you know? I think it's about being confident but being self-aware.

Yeah, that's it. Totally. Yeah. I think I struggle with that. And I have not always been self-aware. I feel like that. I look at some of the haircuts and clothes that I've confidently worn in public and I've gone

eww yucky. You and me both. Like I feel like everyone, I mean look what Ella's wearing today. You complimented my outfit. That's why I felt like I could make a joke because I do love your outfit today. Don't worry about her opinion Ella, she's just a woman.

It's Claudia's opinion you should be taking. After that lovely chat. Oh, after that, yeah. I want to go home and have some noodles. Anyone got anything else sad? No, I don't want to talk to Clint anymore. I need a break. If anyone should be talking to me, it's you.

Fuck, Claudia is so funny sometimes. Like, with just how cutthroat and brutal she can be. So I've got a 45-minute drive home. I'm going to talk to myself. Literally. Ross, show me the ChatGPT app today where you can have conversations with yourself. Oh, no. No, thanks.

I've had enough of me. Get me out of here. Yeah. All right. Guys, should we start an inspirational podcast? Play ZM.