ZM's Fletch, Vaughan & Hayley - Fletch, Vaughan & Hayley's Lil Bitta Pod - 10th January 2024

Episode Date: January 9, 2024

This episode contains explicit content & themes, and is definitely not one for younger listeners!On Today's Lil Bitta Pod; Morgan Penn swings by the studio to discuss Sexual Self Care, and Sex trends for 2024!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Fleshborn and Hayley's Little Bit of Pod Enjoy a refreshing McCafe iced coffee available only from Macca's Great things are brewing Welcome to A Little Bit of Pod And today may not be for younger ears Definitely not for younger ears I'm 42 and I felt like I was just a little bit too young for some of it Welcome to A Little Bit of Pod

In the Big Pod the live show is back on the 15th of Jan. And as always, lovely to have in, Morgan Penn, somatic sexologist. Hello, lovely friends. Hello, lovely friend. You've been joining us to answer listener questions. And we've answered a lot of those, but we've also got a trend. Bit of a TikTok trend, isn't it? About self-care,

like sexual self-care, and it's a go, go, go world, and setting time aside for things like this and how important it is. So I want to talk about that maybe in general, like how we can incorporate more sexual self-care in our lives. Because I guess that if you are scheduling it,

it takes away a little bit of the sexiness. Sexy spontaneity of it. The spontaneity of it. But if you're not scheduling it, you run the risk of skipping it or missing it. And then there's nothing. And then that's sort of compounding into a bigger issue. So both have got pros and cons, I guess.

Exactly. And I think to that point, because I actually do recommend couples schedule sex together a lot and this is just like it just shows you're prioritizing it right and and a lot of times with sex it's about keeping it top of mind if it's just not there for you you're just not going to be thinking about it you're not going to be getting aroused it's just not alive for you and it's like going to the gym you know if you're spontaneous about the gym you're never going to go like you need to actually plan in your day when it's going to happen so that you can see results so i am a big advocate for scheduling this and i love that it's gone from just partnered sex

to self-care well just some little research here so nearly one in five women say they never commit any time to their own self-pleasure and a huge study found that women in general set a time just 30 minutes a week for me time which includes mental self-care sexual self-care physical self-care wellness 30 minutes a week gosh in general i mean that's a general topic i know i know that there's more conversation around it now, so people are trying to be better. But in that time, I mean, there's just how do you make it a priority? How do you keep sexual self-care at the

top of your mind? Yeah, well, so for me, what I recommend is putting aside 15 to 20 minutes per week for your sexual self-care. And it doesn't mean that you actually have to be touching your genitals or have to be having an orgasm or that's what you're going for but you're actually setting aside this time to

bring on the sexual essence in your body so is that about putting on some sexy music and dancing is that about getting out of the shower and getting your massage or like just body oil and actually massaging your body with like presence and looking and touching and all what feels good and Vaughn you tickling your arm and like going all that actually feels so good you know tickled in a slant seeing what you can actually wake up in your body and something that we're not good at is holding sexual energy we often think okay well I'm horny now I need to go and masturbate or I need to discharge this feeling. Well, if you've listened to sex.life, this was a huge learning curve for me.

The whole time I screamed at you, when's the P going in the B? Yeah. Because you're very good at holding sexual energy. And every night you'd have these huge sort of things and maybe they wouldn't lead to an orgasm. And to me, I was like, I would just need to go and bloody rub one out. But for you, that's not essential. No, no. You like a little bit of a bubbling sexual energy. Absolutely. But for you that's not essential. No. You like a little bit of a bubbling sexual energy.

Absolutely. I'm all about the simmering. So putting aside time and it's hard for women I think especially and men I think they'd be happy to have sex wherever or jerk off anywhere. Jerk off anywhere? Let the woman speak! Are they wrong though Vaughn no no no no

like if the bedroom's messy if it's like there's a list of chores to do it's so much harder for women to get in the mind we've talked about the female load on our show before about just the mental load of just being a woman that can just absorb that time away. Yeah, exactly. So it's about doing what you need to do to make like almost a sacred space to be able to go into the sexual realm. So if that's about lighting a candle, that's always a really good moment for the brain to go, oh, okay, I'm transitioning from dishes and house duties

to actually something kind of pleasurable here. I think markers like that are good for the brain. So there's a lot of sort of talk around scheduling, both sex with partners and sex with yourself. And you're pro this, even though, as Vaughan mentioned, it can feel a bit like rigid and a bit non-sexy to be like Mondays, masturbation Mondays. We've got Taco Tuesdays, masturbation Mondays.

Wanky Wednesdays. Wanky Wednesdays. You know. Tongue Thursdays. You're in. Okay, well, here's a few ideas for you. Fiddle with yourself Friday. Sit on my face Saturday.

And Fun Day Sunday. Yeah, but I mean, yes, to Vaughan's point, it can be a bit rigid and stuff. But unless you're actually doing it, and like I said, getting it top of mind, it's bit rigid and stuff, but unless you're actually doing it, and like I said, getting it top of mind, it's not going to happen. But the more you are doing it, the more you're thinking about it, the more that the spontaneous sex will also happen,

especially if you've scheduled in that time, but there's no pressure on it. There's no pressure to orgasm. There's no pressure to actually do anything full-on sexy when you've got a full spectrum of sexual things that you can do that does not mean it's about penetrative or like orgasm type sex wise words once again yeah yeah i like that so you've got to set aside the time let it be rigid before you can let it be messy that's the one i like that get that new bumper sticker printed

you can now binge the season one of sex.life the podcast um morgan penn thank you so much he's back for round two new year 2024 yeah what's uh and you know people are like here's our fashion trend projections what do you think it's gonna be a sex trend in 2024 oh yeah, yeah. Okay, this is interesting. I think, you know, we're in the age of robots, so I think there's going to be a lot more AI sort of like chat body stuff, which I think is really good for inciting the mind, and the mind is our biggest sexual organ. So actually there's going to be apps that are going to be created

where you can just chat, dirty chat. Yeah. Is that safe though though what if that was ever leaked well these are all the questions oh my god i never even thought if i was online chatting with a human being and i knew it was a human being there's a risk there's an element there where i go i know that i am actually sharing this with a human and i'm choosing to do so so therefore perhaps i'm filtering it slightly with a robot robot, you're just going, this isn't a real person. I can tell them the wildest steps of my mind.

True. Is it safe? I mean, it's so fresh. AI is so fresh. I'd just be terrified. But also, like, you know how porn is doing a lot of damage. Would this be the same kind of thing? Yes.

Yeah, it's not a human connection. It's an agreeable robot just saying it'll do everything and anything and then you think humans are going to be the same. Exactly. So, yeah, it's not like the conversations you'd have out in the pub on a Saturday night. If that was normalised, that you could just get online and talk to somebody about, like,

I just wish you would absolutely go to town on my insert here. Yeah, totally. You know, you can't just then Go and do that in a pub Like you'll get kicked out Also you're skipping the chat You're just going You're not going like Hi how are you

Who are you Do you consent to this You're just being like Hey Yeah Lick my bits Yes And virtual reality

You know that kind of Parts and parcels with that Like it's And a lot of sex toys That have been designed For penis owners You know they've got these Sort of fleshlight

Type vibes When you put in And like the technology That's happening in there So I'm told that have been designed for penis owners. You know, they've got these sort of fleshlight-type vibes when you put in and, like, the technology that's happening in there. I'm sorry, I'm told. Yeah, yeah. Would you worry that would mangle your dick off? Like, if it malfunctions? You know, like, you chuck it in and it's like... Why would it mangle your dick off?

And it starts smoking. Jesus, get out of here. Don't ride the lightning. Don't ride the lightning. What if you short it out? What if you short it out with your... I don't know. Just get.... Don't ride the lightning. Don't ride the lightning. Get out of there. What if you short it out? What if you short it out with your, you know. I don't know. Just get.

I don't know. Your little rabbit humping and it starts smoking and catches on fire. It melts your dick off. You're humping down onto it. I just, I don't know. Are you humping down onto it? I don't know. You're thrusting down.

I thought you were going in. I don't know how you're doing it with the. Fleshlight. Yeah, with the AI fleshlight. Any other predictions for 2024 Morgan? Fletcher's cock's gonna go to mangle And he puts it in some weird machine And does some weird shit to it

I didn't put the record on I'm not putting my dick anywhere near any of these new toys Yeah well we'll believe it when we don't see it I guess my hope for it right Is that we have less women faking orgasms And they're asking for what they really want. Actually, these could be Morgan's hopes and dreams for sex in 2024.

Yeah, I hope that we learn how to have these conversations. So radical honesty is my hope. And like when we are radical honest, like bring that into the space, magic happens. And like people always said to me, what's the hottest new sex move? And I'm like, communication. Yeah.

That's kind of been the, all the podcasts that we've talked to you over summer that's the thread through the malls how do i talk who are you before you screw me yeah there's another bumper sticker exactly um morgan penn thank you so much for uh coming in over summer and sharing these amazing uh insights with us thank you for giving space for this so we can all learn and upgrade together. And we look forward to Sex.Life Season 2 sometime 2024!