Ask Dr. Drew - Nikki Glaser: First Kiss Tips, Pandemic Anxiety and More - Ask Dr. Drew - Episode 27

Episode Date: November 25, 2020

Nikki Glaser joins Dr. Drew to answer caller questions about relationships, anxiety, pandemic lockdowns, and more. How should a guy kiss a girl for the first time? What did Nikki learn from Allen Carr's Easyway books about quitting smoking? Plus more from callers around the world.  Nikki Glaser is an actress, comedian, and host of multiple podcasts, radio, and TV shows. Watch her latest comedy special Bangin’ on Netflix. MORE: https://nikkiglaser.com/ Nikki Glaser is one of the funniest female voices in comedy today. For over a decade at clubs across the country, and as the host of three hit podcasts, Glaser has been honing her shockingly- honest, no-holds barred style of comedy. In that time, Nikki has also executive produced and hosted two TV shows: Nikki & Sara Live for MTV (a female-driven pop culture sketch comedy show) and Not Safe with Nikki Glaser for Comedy Central. Get an alert when Dr. Drew is taking calls: http://drdrew.tv/  Ask Dr. Drew is produced by Kaleb Nation (@KalebNation) and Susan Pinsky (@FirstLadyOfLove). THE SHOW: For over 30 years, Dr. Drew Pinsky has taken calls from all corners of the globe, answering thousands of questions from teens and young adults. To millions, he is a beacon of truth, integrity, fairness, and common sense. Now, after decades of hosting Loveline and multiple hit TV shows – including Celebrity Rehab, Teen Mom OG, Lifechangers, and more – Dr. Drew is opening his phone lines to the world by streaming LIVE from his home studio in California. On Ask Dr. Drew, no question is too extreme or embarrassing because the Dr. has heard it all. Don’t hold in your deepest, darkest questions any longer. Ask Dr. Drew and get real answers today. This show is not a substitute for medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. All information exchanged during participation in this program, including interactions with DrDrew.com and any affiliated websites, are intended for educational and/or entertainment purposes only. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

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BetMGM operates pursuant to an operating agreement with iGaming Ontario. Hi, all the mommies and newcomers. I'm going to bring our guest in here in just one quick second. There's a whole update I want to give you about COVID. We may weave it into what I discussed with my very special guest, who I'm bringing in right now, the one and only Nikki Glaser. Our laws as it pertained to substances are draconian and bizarre. The psychopaths start this way. He was an alcoholic because of social media and pornography, PTSD, love addiction, fentanyl and heroin. Ridiculous.

I'm a doctor for f**k's sake. Where the hell do you think I learned that? I'm just saying, you go to treatment before you kill people. I am a clinician. I observe things about these chemicals. Let's just deal with what's real. We used to get these calls on Loveline all the time. Educate adolescents and to prevent and to treat.

If you have trouble, you can't stop and you want help stopping, I can help. I got a lot to say. I got a lot more to say. Hey there. Hello. Hello. Look at you. So good to see you again. Look at me.

We miss you. We both had these. We had not shared this, but Susan was thinking about you. I had a dream about you. I just know I can't remember what happened, but you were definitely in a dream. I didn't dream about you, Ben. That means so much to me. It means so much to you?

Yeah. It really does. I mean, you don't know in what context, but the fact that we hung out in your dream means I mean something to you, and it means a lot. Oh, thank you. That's nice. Well, it, it, it usually means I'm, it usually means I'm worrying about somebody. That's what it usually means. So is everything okay? Is everything okay? Everything is actually really good. I am. I was like excited to talk to you today because I know you always worry about me and um and you uh yeah you you you tend like I get worried about myself through your eyes sometimes um you've actually made it into my set

uh I've been doing a joke about how um how I told you that I don't mind if my like if I'm in a relationship if like my boyfriend like hooks up with someone else like I kind of am turned on by that I told you that before and I you know it's just how i feel and you were like you made me look you in the eyes and say and repeat after you i am enough i am enough i am enough and so i was talking about that on stage i'm like this isn't me being like a cool girl dr drew thinks i'm very damaged and he made me look at him and say i am enough over and over. And I finally do think I am enough, Dr. Drew. Like I'm excited to report that I'm actually doing better than than ever. Good. I mean, you look pretty good. You seem happy. I watch you on Instagram.

I've got lots of questions about your dad because he's he's my new best friend. I see him on Instagram with you all the time. Oh, my God. He will love that. Yeah. I have some pretty amazing parents and i think that that's uh part of why i'm doing so well i've just kind of i live at my parents house for the time being and um i think i'm finally over the fact that it it sounds bad you know and it sounds like pathetic i'm kind of like wait a second i i chose this like i could be anywhere and i'm uh i'm choosing to be here and i'm actually really enjoying it for the time being. It's like I don't want to be alone right now,

and I'm not married or anything, so it's like I'm just living with two people who love me, and they're a great time and a great hang, and they have a big house, so it's actually really nice. And your dad plays the guitar. My dad plays the guitar, and I've picked up the guitar since living at home and started playing and so we're playing together now and it's like it's really it's really been fun

yeah that's pretty have you picked up any new hobbies during this time of uh you know less work no i actually you're probably working more no i'm not working more. I got kind of depressed. And when I get depressed, I get sort of things kind of constrict for me. And I knew, and I don't necessarily get sad. I don't really, I'm not even aware of it sometimes, but I noticed I wasn't reading and reading is something I, when I have free time, I'll read a lot and I've picked up reading again. And I thought, oh, I'm feeling better. I could tell I'm feeling better. And I don't know, just things seem better. And so I'm all of a sudden reading a ton. And then I pissed. That's interesting. I didn't read when I had free time before.

Yeah, that's a sign to yourself that you're probably struggling with depression because you're not reading. You wouldn't notice it maybe otherwise. When I'm in it, I'm so in it. It's hard for me to tell. That's kind of the way depression affects me. It's constitutional, right? So it's, it's, it's hard to be objective about it. It just, I just noticed things I'm, I'm not doing that I would normally do.

And I think, oh, that's a sign or I'm not sleeping right. Or just, just, I don't feel sad. I don't feel bad. I just, I feel constricted. It's kind of a weird thing. That's kind of my version of depression. And what do you do to treat it? For a while there, I was running outside.

The sunlight and the exercise really helped. Just socializing and engaging in something like normal. So we went to New York at one point. We're just back from... Las Vegas? Yeah, we went to Las Vegas for like two days. We did it very safely. We did what we're supposed to do. But just having social engagement that sort of was approximately normal made a huge difference, huge difference. I know. We were in Mexico last week and we were with a group of people.

We were in a COVID bubble. But again, that's something I brought a bunch of things to read. I didn't read a word because I was so talking, talking, talking the whole time. It was so crazy just to be normally engaged with people and not worrying about things. Yeah. We're just all like not as social anymore and it makes you depressed and it's, uh, good. It's not good. So what's going on in St. Louis? I should look up, uh, Missouri and see what's going on. Yeah. We're spiking big time, you know? Um, uh, apparently it's like a

two hour wait to get an ambulance to come and get you. Beds are full, like things are not good here. So they just closed everything down. They stopped indoor dining and all that stuff just on Tuesday. But the mandate came out, I guess, last Friday. And they were like, by Tuesday, everything's going back to shut down. So I'm looking at the Missouri graphs here. And you had previously not had anything. I mean, it was really like nothing. And I mean, it was a low simmer and it's gone up. The graph is very, very, very positive. It doesn't look like you're done. It looks like it's continuing positive. I get skeptical. If you hear in the news that hospitals are full, you actually have to go look at that data. Nine times out of 10, they're distorting it. It's usually that they're having trouble staffing the hospitals, but it's not impossible to staff them.

So that'll be interesting. But what the good news in all of this is though your death rate is kind of spiking around a little bit, it's really not trended up. It's not really going up, which is kind of what we're seeing everywhere, which is that although we're bringing people into the hospital, we're bringing them in early, we're giving them good treatments and they're getting better. So that's the good news in the data I see here. But you don't want to get sick if you don't have to, that's for sure. No, I'm just acting like I have it all the time, right? That's what we're supposed to be doing. So just walk around like you have it all the time, right? That's what we're supposed to be doing. So just walk around like you have it and like be like, yeah, I mean, what would the worst thing in the world be? But that you walk around spreading it to other people, right? When that feel terrible, right? That's the

worst thing I can imagine. It's like, I keep saying, I don't mind getting it as much as giving it. It's like oral sex. And I definitely don't want to give it to my parents, you know, oral sex. Yes. I understand. I understand. I think, yeah, yeah, of course. I mean, but then that is the nightmare is that you could be responsible for, for giving it to someone. I mean, that's it. Yeah. I actually got, I do, uh, I do, uh, I've been doing a local, one of the things that's kept me kind of on focus, I've been doing a Fox 11 show here, local news. We have the Fox affiliate here in Los Angeles that has like Family Guys and Simpsons. Well, they have a news broadcast too. And I've been doing news on that outlet every night. And they asked me to stay home after Mexico

for a week. I was like, yeah, I know probably the worst thing in the world would be if I'm walking around here pre-symptomatic or asymptomatic. And I didn't, I gave it to somebody. I know I got out of, um, a barbecue that I was supposed to go to on Sunday, like an outdoor thing. And a friend of a friend has a friend that got it. And so I was like, I could have it. So I can't go. And it's like, I kind of love that. There's, there is a good stuff about this of like oh i can't let a man get close to me right now oh i can't go to the gym oh no please let me

speaking of man getting close to you what happened to uh what's his name the comedian that you used as your lifeline when we did millionaire what's his name yeah that uh i don't even want to say. It doesn't matter. I used to... That was... Yeah, I went on a date with him, I think, in January. No, that's not happening. Anyone I was pursuing at any point in my past was a bad idea.

So I'm cleaning... I'm not going back to anyone before then. I'm a different person now. I feel like I'm okay being alone, to be honest with you. Someone's going to be pretty special to get in. Wow. I don't really need anyone. It's almost

scaring me how much I don't need anyone, except my parents. Well, that's good. That's good. No, he was insane that I liked him so much. But you can't help what you're trying to say. Does your sister live in the vicinity there too?

She does. She lives in the city of St. Louis and I'm in like the suburbs. But yeah, she has a family, two kids. I don't see her that often, but enough. She's great. I was going to say, you have your nieces. So do you get to see them very much or is that? I have a niece and nephew.

Yeah, I see them a lot. And, um, they, I was really disheartened the other day because I have a cutout that was, um, of like a cardboard cutout of me that was at the Cardinals games over the summer. You know how they put in the stands like celebrity. So I was like sitting next to John ham and it is the closest I could ever get to him. And, um, and they gave me my cutout and I gave it to my niece and nephew as like a gift to like put in their bedroom. So like when I eventually moved back to New York or LA, they can like remember me.

And my nephew was so frightened by it. Um, they had to like, they had to move it to the trunk of the car, um, in the car because he hated it so much. And I was thinking he was going to like love it. car in the car because he hated it so much and i was thinking he was gonna like love it and he was like mom it's scary like he thought it was it's just me being like and he hated it so i don't know i um i'm trying to make a good impact on them and trying to um while i'm here but they don't seem to be really no i thought i saw your niece on instagram or something i thought she's really cute.

Yeah. She's amazing. I'm really trying to learn a lot from her because babies are just, I mean, she does, doesn't just, it's such a great time when you know that she doesn't care about her looks or her body and she's not self-aware.

It's I'm just like, hold on to that. It's so fleeting. You'll be robbed of it soon enough. Little one, just what's it like to just like not even know you have a body and like just like it's i just try to glean some of that from her nice i'm just thinking about other st louis folks that that i've known over the years uh and we used to hang out with them when they were a couple, was Jenna Fisher and James Gunn.

Oh, yeah. They were from St. Louis. Yep. We've got a good roster of actors and celebrities. Carly Kloss, John Hamm, Sterling K. Brown, John Goodman. Oh, Goodman. Yeah, we do okay. Bob Costas.

We've got some good people. Joe Buck. Yeah, I like our We do. Okay. Bob Costas. We got some, uh, we got some good people. Joe Buck. Yeah. I like our, our, like our, uh, and now I'm on it. I think I'm on one of the notable St. Louis celebs. I love that. I made it. It's well done. But, but the other thing about St. Louis, people are like much like that whole corridor. If you just go South or North of St. Louis, people are just so nice. Like, like really nice to your face. Yeah. your face yeah yeah oh i see is there a little behind the scenes action oh yeah there's a lot of shit talking in st louis and a lot of putting on like a yeah i am a really nice person people say that a lot but i feel like um i'm finally getting to a place where i am as nice here as I am there. I want it to be all congruent and I don't like that fakeness that I see so much of. Trying not to gossip

anymore, trying not to... And just trying to not be fake and not just people please, which is a lot of what St. Louis is. Oh, interesting. People are like, what's in the water there? are so nice i'm like alcohol everyone's drunk all the time and interesting uh pushing down their feelings and wanting people to like them but oh that's it is a great place to grow up i love it but it's yeah it's a lot of just like well it's it's it's pleasant to be around

transiently you know what i mean for for a visitor, it's very, very pleasant. So nice. I've got a bunch of calls I want to get to here too. Now, before we jump on. Andrew Ashken-Bue is going off. Oh, about why? About a lot of stuff. I've got a participant.

And he's in St. Louis. Andrew's in St. Louis, right? Oh. I think, I believe he is. And he's in St. Louis. Andrew's in St. Louis, right? Oh. I think, I believe he is. And he's, oh, I think he's worrying about, okay, Andrew. News on lasting immunity, maybe years. New vaccine news, new mask news, finally new some eating. I know, Andrew, I got a bunch of stuff.

I'll get to it. I will get to the COVID news. I prefer to spend a little time with my friend, Nikki Glaser. She's very kindly. Wait, can I ask you something dr drew yeah when you traveled recently how do you um if i have to go on a plane which i might have to pretty soon here um what how do you suggest i prepare to go on an airplane yeah um i have a send her a wand we have these uv wands yeah we're gonna send you a uv We have these UV wands. I already have one of those. Yeah, we're going to send you a UV wand.

I was thinking about a Hibachi. Okay. Yeah, it's not that kind of wand. Well, you can bring that wand too. I will. Yeah, it's in my bathroom. But she said she has her Hibachi wand. Will that do? No.

Susan missed that joke. I got to bring it around. You need the Theragun for that. It works as both. Oh, interesting. That's what you call a reveal. See, she says stuff and I'm just like, okay, we got it. You don't say things around me that it doesn't go in. I know what you mean. Oh, Andrew's in Texas. Andrew, why did I think you were in St. Louis? But the UV wands I use routinely when I travel on a plane because it gets into the, you know,

when you pull up the tray table and all that stuff and the computer surfaces. So I'm a big fan of that. Bring Clorox wipes. Make sure you have a mask. I actually haveorox wipes. Make sure you have a mask. I actually have some meaningful techniques. Make sure you have a mask that is comfortable, right? Like an N95 to me is too uncomfortable.

I can't do five hours and play with an N95. I use a thick cloth mask that doesn't cut into my ears too much. So, and there's a lot of concern about not just the droplets but about aerosols so the surgical masks have spaces in the sides not uh-uh you want something that really kind of seals on your face okay you still with me yeah because you're gonna be there for five yeah i am what about a double mask because i wear an n95 and then i wear like a fun flirty cotton one that's fine if you can if you can over the n95 if you get a fun flurry uh if you can tolerate if you can tolerate the n95 that that's that's fine that's ideal right i just i just can't

tolerate it the other thing is okay this is a this is a uv wand uh this is called an eye wand it's the one i think but but um i i was i see it i see it uh this one fits in my pocket that's why it doesn't break or anything and it's charged lasts a long time um but the um the other thing is eating on a plane they brawl out food and everybody takes their masks off and eats at the same time right well i hold my breath as i eat you can still go over and then i all i would say is don't do that but don't eat when everybody else eats ah yes okay because then it's all exactly so just eat when everyone else puts their mask back on again and and i deal with that by eating before i get on the plane and then i just bring a snack

with me that's my that's my deal with that the eating before I get on the plane. And then I just bring a snack with me. That's my, that's my way of dealing with that. The problem I'm telling you, the problem with travel is not the planes. It's the airports. The airports are difficult. It's hard to distance. It's they, they cramp every once in a while. They'll, they'll feed you into a small sort of line or a stack or something is, is not right distance wise. So that's the only thing to watch out for is keep your, keep your wits about you in the airport. And people are really lackadaisical about the mass at the gate. People are doing that over the nose. People that don't want to wear the mask are really like just being lazy about

it. A lot of below the nose stuff, which is upsetting because you might as well not wear it. And, but, but wear your mask and keep your distance and you should be fine. It's about managing risk. My general note on this whole thing is we can navigate with this thing. We don't have to sit and hide in our houses. We

can navigate with it and manage our risk. I mean, yes, sitting in your, locking yourself in the bathroom, zero risk, but you can, you know, it's not that much higher risk to do the things you're supposed to do and, and, uh, and navigate. Where are you going? Um, I'm going to LA actually to, to shoot some stuff. Great. Congratulations. Good. Yeah. You'll be shocked what a set is like you'll be shocked it's weird i hear it's pretty depressing it's just weird and and they'll make you get tested 30 times too right yeah yeah yeah so uh looking forward to it but yeah it's glad to work though i mean i'm glad they're able to even do it right here comes a call this is david david go ahead nikki glazer hey dr drew uh first off just want to say totally can you hear me yep

okay yeah totally support the radical revolution rational 100 rational evolution oh all right it's all right support it i get it it's good 100% rational evolution. Oh, right. All right. All right. Support it. I get it. It's good. Um, so with the me too movement and all this, do you like it more if a guy asked before kissing you or do you like it more?

If he can tell by like body language or stuff like that, this is a Nikki question. You're a piss on me. Beat me. I love this question so much. What was his again david david great question i have a great answer for you okay listen up every guy who's wondering if you if you want to know when it's okay to kiss a girl first of all i do like to be asked i do i don't like like anyone to just assume, but here's a way to test it if you don't want to have to ask. Okay. So you're hanging out with a girl and you don't know if she likes you or not, or if

you should lean in for a kiss. This is the test to do. Sit next to her close enough. If you can get close enough to her that your arms are kind of touching, then that's a no-go, right? But if you're showing her something on your phone or you're both looking at something, get close enough that your arms are flush with each other. And I'm not talking about like really rubbing up against her where you could maybe put a piece of paper in between you, but you can both feel it, right? We all know that feeling. Now this, you're not going to feel totally rejected if she just slightly moves away to make that connection nothing, right? That means don't kiss her. If you just move a little bit away

and you're like, no. But if she keeps it flush, if she keeps it flush for over 20 seconds, you're good to go. Because everyone knows that feeling. This is something that men do not know. You understand this, right? Right.

They're not looking out for it. They just don't even like they have no idea what what if she leans into it then then absolutely but the the best most tacit way to let someone know that you're good to go to like take it maybe to the next level would be just leaving it and but this is a great way because it's a way for you as a guy to not feel super rejected because you can convince yourself that maybe she didn't feel your arm and then you can like keep hanging out with her and try and try again with the arm with this gentle arm thing but just close enough that it's just your your clothing is touching just barely touching and if she doesn't move away

which with if she does you can just be like oh i guess she just you can convince yourself it wasn't a rejection but if she does move away keep keep hanging out and take a step back. But if she keeps it, good to kiss. So to drill a little further, just so guys can understand what this is, what is happening to her in those moments? Is she actually thinking about something? Is that just a more of a natural? natural because if you because you know when if a guy friend of mine if if you and i were like doing that i would be like okay that's weird for dr drew to like have his arm flush with my we don't need to be like that that's not our vibe right a guy friend if you're someone that we you

just i would scoot just to make you more comfortable there would be a space between us now if but if i was hanging out with a guy that it was like on the fence about if i felt that way about him i would be so perceptive of the fact that our arm we're touching everyone knows that feel like the most exciting part of a relationship i think is the very beginning when your legs first touch your arms first touch so i think is there a leg is there a leg version of your arm description too? Sure. Yes. Any body part that's, even your penis, just put it flush with her. Just kidding. Don't do that. Please don't do that.

But just any, yeah, your foot, anything is just like barely. Because then it's like you're not overdoing it. She can convince herself that like maybe he didn't know, but she'll move if she's not into it. That is so funny. And men have no idea. If you didn't alert them, they'd miss it. Really?

Yeah. But this is a way for them to on purpose do something that is not going to push her boundaries and make her deeply uncomfortable, but you're going to get your answer. So it's very interesting. As you were describing that interaction,

about 10 people on my chat stream went, is Nikki seeing anybody? Who's she seeing? Who's who's who's she's saying who's in her life oh my god no one no one you're you're good without a man that's you just you just told us i really am wait here's a here's somebody says there's what about tom cigar is a regular with us says i do the knee test where somehow i make sure there's no... What is he talking about? The knee test. That's the leg test you're talking about, right, Nikki?

It's got to be the same thing, like knees touching. It's got to be the same thing. It's so good. They're so funny on this thing. All right, David, one little call and it got all that going on. This is Josh. Go ahead, Josh. Hello.

I always wondered what it was about people who go to gas stations regularly that think the clerk is a therapist. If you could help me out with that, I'd really appreciate it. Thank you. You're the clerk there and people

stop and unload their lives on you, yeah? That's a really good point. I do that appreciate it. Thank you. You're the clerk there and people stop and unload their lives on you, yeah? That's a really good point. I do that a lot. Is it small town? Urban? Where are you? This is West, by God, Virginia. Middle of nowhere. Who else are they going to talk to?

Right? Yeah. It's like a bartender. Um, you just, and you know, that person's seen some shit. They've had a long day.

I often strike up a conversation with the gas station attendant. Cause I just know that they're bored and, um, and they always just seem so friendly. And, and I want to just like spice up their day a little bit by sharing something revealing about my life. Maybe I guess that's it. So the Josh, the answer is they want to entertain you like Nikki does. They feel they need an audience and you're there.

And we're lonely. Everyone's lonely. And you guys are just, uh, yeah, we just, we just want to have a human interaction and you must have a very open, warm presence about you josh that's what i'm guessing if people just spill stuff because i don't think it happens all the time either that there's something appealing about that plexiglass barrier that between you and your customer so uh this is uh trey we've got some good calls for you, Nikki. Trey. Hey. Hey. So I'm calling from Idaho. Nice. First off, I want to say I'm a huge fan of Nikki's. And of course,

I will be coming up in May for sure. So my question is for Nikki. I'm a gay man who tends to come off somewhat straight. And so I get this. I get myself in a situation where I have a lot of female friends that end up trying to, like, come on to me and trying to flip me and saying, oh, well, you're not really gay. And so I'm just, I'm, I guess I'm asking you if, if, if you were doing that without realizing it, how would you want to be approached to say

like, Hey, I'm good, but we're still friends. So have you ever done that with a gay friend? Um, no, you know, I, I think I've been attracted to gay men before, but as soon as I find out they're gay, I'm like, oh, okay. And then you stop, um, you don't try to, yeah, I think that you need to, I mean, maybe put it from their point of view of like, how would you feel if a girlfriend of yours suddenly just tried to convince you to be attracted to something you're not um and also i think that it's just it's kind of a violation of your friendship and um i think that i don't know i would reconsider my friendship with these people probably if they kept trying it

and yeah i want to say at a certain point that becomes predatory. And I'm not saying your friends are necessarily predators, but if they persevere, I mean, it's really that's like really a couple of times. Yeah, that's not OK. And they'll probably think it's because they're drunk or something or they're like and just don't let them use that because that's how it happens. I'm sure this is happening when they're drunk. And then they go like, and just don't let them use that. Cause that's how it happens. I'm sure this is happening when they're drunk and then they go like, Oh my God, I was so drunk. And then it,

then it happens again the next time they're drunk. So yeah. All right. Sorry, Dr. Drew, what were you going to say? No,

I was going to say that if he could, once you mentioned the drunk, I thought, Oh yeah, that's probably right. But, but if they're not drunk, if there's some sort of to make fun of, you don't want to think you need to think you're a predator,

right. You know what I mean? To sort of bring up this issue of predation, but don't, don't do it full on like, Hey, you're a predator. Just sort of make fun of it to put that in the room that this is really inappropriate behavior, you know? Yeah. Yeah. Yes. Give Susan a mic. Here we go. This is off topic,

but the TV guy wants to come by in 10 minutes. Do you guys mind if the dogs bark? So, so you can have it. Do I not mind? So, so Nikki, here's the,

this is Netflix. This requires, this requires a full story for some reason, I did not. No, no, no. It's not porn. It's not porn. Sorry, Nikki. It's not.

So it's a night before last. I slept really, really poorly. So last night, I was exhausted. I said. Because you were dreaming about me. That's why I can't remember them. Because I was so out of it. And I go, Susan,

tonight we are going to watch the next two episode of the Queens gambit. And I'm going to sleep. I'm going to bed at eight o'clock, two episodes, Queens gambit. I'm going to sleep. And we were 15 minutes into the episode and everything froze and shut down and kicked out and couldn't be restarted.

It was devastating, devastating. So I, so I've been bugging Susan all day. When's the TV guy getting? Can we get a TV guy? Can we get somebody over here? So I got him.

I mean, I got him. He's going to come Saturday. And he just said, I said, if you can come sooner. And he said, can I stop by in 10 minutes? That was 10 minutes ago. So let's hope. If you hear the dogs barking.

That means the dogs are going to bark. I get that. This is very professional TV stuff here. So she's alerting us to what's about to happen. But it's worth it, right? Yeah. Mine will probably bark at some point too. So no worries.

Okay, good. Excellent. People find it endearing. It humanizes you. You have dogs. You like it. That's true. Here's Jason.

Why can't I call to mind? Hang on a second, Jason. I can't call to mind what your dog is has your dog not been on your Instagram or what kind of dog is it I have two I well I had two dogs that I got when I lived in LA and then I moved to New York and it was really like hard to have them there so

I gave them to my mom and my sister respectively and then I moved back here and I got them back so they both live with me now and yeah we just like share these dogs as them back. So they both live with me now. And, um, yeah, we just like share these dogs as a family. And so, yeah,

they live with me, but I am like a deadbeat mom to them. Like my dog, Luigi, who used to love me so much is just like, yeah, right. You're he's,

he doesn't, he doesn't like me anymore. He's very suspicious. He knows I'm going to leave at some point. Um, but yeah, it's, I kind of have them back.

It's pretty nice, but yeah, classic, classic, uh, abandonment syndrome. Uh, Jason, go ahead there. Hey now. Hey, uh, you guys are both awesome and I am a dog lover. So bark away and, uh, Hey Nikki, um, listening to you on Joe Rogan, I, I've, I've been promoting the book to stop drinking, uh, smoking for a long time. And I never knew there was one for drinking. And 13 months ago, listening to you, I haven't had a drink since. And you've probably

changed a lot of lives because of your little ambassador to having a great life and not drinking. So I just wanted to thank you. Oh, wow. Thank you, Jason. That's awesome. I have heard a lot of feedback from my appearances on Rogan talking about how I quit drinking using Alan Carr's easy way method, which is also what I use to quit smoking. And it's not for everyone it's not like uh it's but if if you're ready to do it it definitely can help you get there just by reading a book it's it's really as simple as that dr drew you're familiar with this technique right tell me why i got a little bit lost what he does is he pretty much just he just um he's got he's dead now alan carr but he wrote a book about the easy way to stop uh smoking and the easy way to stop drinking he has like the he's got he's dead now alan carr but he wrote a book about the easy way to stop uh smoking and

the easy way to stop drinking he has like the he's an easy way for pretty much any addiction and you read this book and by the end of it you just like are free of the addiction and it pretty much um leaves you with no reason to do it anymore it like it argues against any reason you have to continue doing it when you strip away any reason or any benefit that you supposedly are getting from it. And he dispels all those for you. You kind of, um,

how he puts it, I think is like, you get unbrainwashed into thinking that you need it. And like, um, for example, to quit smoking people, it's part of the propaganda of the cigarette companies to have people think

that it's hard to quit smoking when really it's not that severe of an addiction if you really uh think if you compared to other ones like the withdrawal is like as uncomfortable as being a little bit hungry is what he compares it to so once you realize that the the tobacco companies are trying to make you think it's hard to quit smoking because you'll keep doing it. If you think something's hard, you'll give up and keep doing it. You realize it's not that hard and you can do it. And it's miraculous how it works. My mom had tried everything to quit smoking for 35 years. I read this book, I quit smoking and I gave it to her and she hasn't smoked since either. And she really tried everything. So I give it to everyone who wants to quit.

I'm looking at Amazon right now. What is it? What is the name of the book? It's called Alan Carr, C-A-R-R, Easy Way. The Easy Way to Stop Smoking, I believe it is, or Quit Smoking. But it looks like he has a different book for every behavior. Is that true? Literally every behavior, yeah. I mean, if you want to get over your fear of flying, if you want to quit vaping, if you want to, um, uh, quit emotional eating, if, uh, he really,

I I've read the emotional eating one. That one is a little bit more tricky for me, but it, um, it, it, it definitely helped. And, um, it's, it's the quitting drinking book. I never thought I would be able to stop drinking. It was something I did every single night of my life. I was, it was all my friends were, it was, it was everything to me. Like it was,

I never thought I'd quit. And, um, it truly was quote unquote easy. And I, and I, um, I,

again, it doesn't work for everyone. I don't want to make it seem like it's, um, it's sort of a cognitive behavioral therapy technique or something? Is that... Kind of. I mean, I guess so.

It's just by the end of it, he goes... By the end of the smoking book, he's... And by the way, you can smoke and you can drink while you read the book. So it doesn't require you to quit on reading. So he encourages you at the end of a chapter, now go have a cigarette. And then at the very end of the smoking book, he goes go have your last cigarette see if you want it and you just don't want it it's weird i don't know how it works but i mean it does easy way to quit emotional learning eating easy way to lose weight oh well yeah i should know something about what's going

on there i will look and i thousands of people have written to me thanking me for, and even the Alan Carr like society wrote to me and I'm like quoted in one of their books now. And I've been a big, uh, I spread the word. I found out about it from, uh, Ashton Kutcher and Ellen DeGeneres talking about it on Jay Leno back in, you know, the, the early two thousands. That's how I heard about Alan Carr. And what were they using it for? Do you remember? Smoking.

Smoking. Yeah. And yeah. And so I picked it up. And the thing is, I just had the drinking one on my shelf because the smoking one worked so well and so miraculously that when I knew that I wanted to quit drinking, it was starting to become a problem. I wasn't really ready. You gotta be honestly, you gotta be ready to do this and want to quit. Of course. But that's not all, that's all it takes is just a little bit of a desire to want. I bought the drinking book and just kept it on my bookshelf until I was ready. And I had a really bad hangover one, um, one day in Cleveland and I flew back home to new york and i picked up the book and and read it in a week and then i was done so did you say you were i just i just think were you a smoker too yeah did you smoke yeah i smoked for a while yeah wow pack a day pack and a half a day

yeah and i mean it's been 10 years but it was yeah i was I'm a very, I love, I get addicted to a lot of stuff. Interesting. I jumped from one to the next right now. It's like nothing. I don't know what's going on. You're, you're, you're regulated. I think I'm feeling my feelings. Yeah. You're having your feelings, but you're regulating them. You're regulating them. You, you know, back when we, I think we talked in March, you said you were getting a sort of zoom therapy or something. Is that still happening? Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. I still go to therapy, uh, once a week and then I have, um, uh, I, uh, do a recovery program and I also am like a medicated now for my depression and ADD, which I did not know I had. And I do.

Well, all, all of that. I remember last time I was on your radio show, that was all sort of starting. Is that about right? Yeah. Yeah. And I could see the difference. You were the one that helped me find my therapist. I mean, you were saying like, you don't feel your feelings and you need an emotionally focused therapist. So I found one and um she just listens to me talk and goes that's it that's all she's got to do that's the magic of therapy make spaces that are supposed to be how i'm supposed to feel about my story. And it's still hard for me. I don't cry. And so I think I do feel my feelings.

I journal a lot. I meditate. But I still am not a big crier. And I'm looking into how I can kind of get into that. I'm really jealous of these people who are like, I cry every day. Yeah, I would argue too much is made of that. I'm not sure that's an important

thing. And what will start to happen with your therapist is every little movement, micro movement of her facial musculature, you will start to zero in on as reflections of your feelings. It's hard to do it through Zoom. It's hard, but that's where this goes and what's more important let me tell you what's more important is to feel feelings of emptiness like to really drop into the emptiness did you have much of those kinds of feelings uh yeah i mean yes because sometimes you go and you try to feel what you're feeling and there's just like nothing there. And yeah, I've really, that was like, that was the problem. I was getting so just wildly depressed over the summer and I didn't know what to do.

I was really at a loss. And I finally, someone, I was talking about it enough. Someone was like, you might have ADD because this is kind of a way that it manifests in women. And I read the symptoms of women with add and i was like i think i might have this so i went and got like a two-hour test and i've got it and so now i'm um treated for it and i have not had a like a suicidal ideation which was my like number one symptom of being depressed obviously but it was just like i would have these unwanted thoughts

of like kill yourself like i wasn't ever doing anything or, but it was just like, I would have these unwanted thoughts of like, kill yourself. Like I wasn't ever doing anything or planning, but it was like, just this, like this constant thought, not like a hearing voice either. It was just so bizarre. And I would just be like, Oh God, this again, like, like how you're saying when you notice you're not reading, you're like, Oh fuck, I'm depressed. Then it would just, it would just, that's when I could fucking cry. And, um, but ever since I started, um, treating my ADD, I haven't had any of those thoughts. It's been amazing. When you were younger, did you like a weed a lot?

Was that a go-to drug? I love weed now. Like I'm obsessed. I was obsessed with weed and it was like, I, I felt so bad about it. Cause it, it didn't seem like something I was doing recreationally. And I was like, I, I needed in the morning, I wasn't even smoking it at night. Like it wasn't a calm down for me. It would make me focused. It would make me interested, make me feel love. And just, it would make me happy and instantly. And, um, even still recently I was struggling with it, but now I'm on, um, uh, uh, anti-anxiety for that.

And so now the weed, I haven't smoked weed in weeks. Good. Cause it's, it's a, the thing about ADD is certain, certain ADD profiles. We really works for a while, but it draws you in because it works for the ADD and people feel a lot better on it, but then it goes the other way. Eventually it doesn't work long-term. So good. Yes. Well done. Thanks. How about that? Thanks. We got lots of other questions here. Let me see. I haven't even put the number out yet. It's a 984-237-3739-984.4 okay Susan says stop it's fine let's do a little anxiety talk

this is more of an acute stress reaction so let's talk to Dana here Danny we're on with Nikki Glaser hi huge fan of you both can you hear me? we gotcha I have to say Nikki Glaser I cannot shave my ass without thinking about you and the

nest full of daddy long legs. Yes. Thank you. Yeah. Dr. Rue, just to catch you up. Sometimes when you shave your backside, it's longer than you anticipate. And sometimes you go go what is this and did i sit on a nest of daddy long legs that was a line from one of my specials thank you

oh is should we be should we still be is that from banging or should we still be promoting that yeah i mean i have i don't think that was in bang i think that was in um perfect my uh commie central one but um yeah banging is available on netflix i also have a half hour on netflix um two different half hours on the netflix uh the stand-ups and the degenerates so that was good yep yeah all right dana what's up thanks uh so i went to the hospital i called a friend of mine called 9-1-1. I was having a severe asthma attack. And, um, I've, I've been one of those people that's been avoiding the doctors, um, since COVID, but it's kind of hard for me because I was also declared no evidence of disease from stage three B breast cancer recently. Um, so I do have to, yeah, I've, I've been going through treatment through this whole thing, which has been very interesting. I, um, I just finished up radiation and all my tests and everything came back clear. Um, but I still deal with pretty

severe asthma. So I was admitted to the hospital on Monday and also I had every test in the book, including CAT scans to check for embolisms. But it came back as just an asthma attack and an upper respiratory infection that I'm on prednisone, CPAC, new albuterol, and Montelukast to control that. But the issue now is that I've had paralyzing anxiety since. And so I've always been prone to anxiety, but it's more situational, like claustrophobia, traveling, that I've been able to handle mentally of bed and I don't know if it's because of all the new medication that I'm on or the trauma of going to the hospital during COVID and that was a whole nightmare. Yeah. Yeah. So I don't know. What do you think? So this is rough. I mean, you're really talking

about panic, right? You're in a panic all the time. Yeah. And panic is particularly distressing. It paralyzes you. Literally, you can't do anything when panic sets in. But panic responds to pharmacology. And I would urge you, I had panic when I was 19, and I lived with it for six months, and then it converted into severe chronic anxiety. You don't want to leave it untreated because it turns into more anxiety and you can go through a

lot of misery while you wait for it to get better. So I would urge you to see a psychiatrist and get some treatment. It may be some of the meds drawn for the asthma. It may be. And I mean, there's a piece here of post-traumatic stress disorder right oh absolutely I've been dealing with PTSD ever since I was diagnosed with cancer right and and one of the crazy things about cancer and this happens just about everybody happened to me too which is you you keep waiting for the next shoe to drop right it's like oh here here it is this is it it. Yeah. Go ahead. Just because of the hormone blocking medications that I'm on.

Oh, it makes it worse. I gave my list of cancer meds to the nurse in the hospital. And then everybody started kind of panicking that it might be an embolism, which raised my panic detector even more. Right. And I actually started not having a seizure, but doing that like panic, anxiety, shaking, and just tremors, tremors, tremors. Horrible. And why didn't they treat you? Why didn't they treat the anxiety, or are they treating it?

They gave me an Ativan right before my ct scan no um you need real initially but you need real treatment in fact yeah in fact there are experimental treatments for stuff like this like people uh ucla are doing studies on i'm not advocating this for you but it just show you that this area is, people pay attention to it, which is dread. The dread and the PTSD associated with cancer and terminal diagnosis. I'm not saying you're terminal, but that whole zone is looked at very carefully. And they're even using hallucinogens to try to help people with that. I'm not advocating that.

I self-medicated with that. Did it work? I've been microdosing mushrooms in safe environments since I've had cancer, which has been life-altering. Because I think it's an important part of what got me through treatment of not being so concerned with the outcome. Right. part of what got me through treatment of not being so concerned with the outcome. Right. Which is, which is great, which is great, but it's why you don't treat yourself and you need careful monitoring because it can also cause panic on the other side. So you, you really need somebody to look at all these medicines, look at what you've been

doing and try to get your chemistry right here because it's, it's off. There should be a way to help you with this. Okay? Yeah. Nikki, you want to say anything to her? Okay. Well, I just want to say you're really brave and what you're going through is normal. And it sounds like it's normal.

Like from Dr. Drew, just nodding along like you're not alone with what you're going through. And, um, just like, I think it's really cool that you shared it with us. I think that's all I have to say. I'm just like in awe of you. And I'm like, this woman is having panic. Uh, she's just like talking to us cheerfully and she sounds fine. And I know that that's all on the outside, but it's the fact that you called up means you want help for it. And, uh, yeah, just go, go, go get that help for it. I actually, I actually, I listen, I really, my, uh, my non doctor self, I'm going to take off my doctor hat for a second. I kind of admire what she did with the mushrooms and stuff. She took matters into her own hands and I kind of admired, I won't

recommend it. And I'm not, I'm not recommending, I'm not advocating. I'm not recommend it. I've been an experimenter for years. Yeah, I'm not recommending. I'm not advocating. I'm not saying it's okay. I just kind of, as a person, just admire that she's really taking care of herself and is very serious about it. Medical marijuana was a lifesaver as well. I live in Burbank. It sounds like you've read the literature and stuff too, though, so you kind of know what you're doing. But just don't do it yourself. That's the problem. You can never be your own doctor.

That's how you get into trouble. All right. All of my doctors back urged me to go to Edibles. Well, get a psychiatrist. Get somebody who really knows, is an expert in this stuff and really can assess what's going on here. That's what psychiatrists do. Thanks, Dana. I was talking to a psychiatrist about a very challenging case just this weekend. And he thought of things that I don't think of. There are the dogs barking.

Here we go. TV guys. He's going to get fixed. I'm very excited. But, but he thought of things and some subtleties that I did not think of. And I thought, that's why I talked to a psychiatrist because they can really nail it down. Much the way you got a proper diagnosis with the ADD. If you don't have the proper diagnosis, you don't have the proper treatment. You can't even know what the proper treatment is. So it's no diagnosis, no treatment. Hey, Kayla, do I need to take a break? I've never heard of um wait ptsd from a diagnosis i mean i as soon as she said i'm like oh yeah duh that seems like that would obviously happen but that that must be a very common thing it's a very common thing and and it's and it's sort of typically you you have an acute stress reaction you kind of get over it and then something else challenges you

like in this case she was couldn't breathe. I mean, think how challenging that is. And then she ends up with PTSD. And then again, she was very smart what she was saying. I'm on hormone blockers. That screws my mood up and my panic up. I took mushrooms at work for a while. Maybe that added to my panic. I know they gave me Ativan, but nothing.

There's a lot going on here. It needs to be kind of sorted out. The great Nikki Glaser. Where else should people find you, Nikki? Twitter, Instagram, Nikki Glazer. You get it. We're going to take a little break. While the dogs are barking, we'll be right back.

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Are you ready for a better life? Go to abetterliferecovery.com or call 866-581-4401 now. Back with Nikki Glaser. I'm going to let you go in just a couple of minutes. I'm going to do a whole bunch of COVID stuff that gets a little boring. And Andrew Ashkosvili, I see you there. Stay with me because I want to talk about this new home test for COVID. I want to know what you think about that. Or tell me here on the stream what you think about it. My question is how is it going to be monitored are you going to be registering something somewhere i just don't know uh all right uh we've got more calls i just want to i'm not unfortunately as always i feel guilty because i don't get to everybody uh oh. We got some difficult questions.

Let's try this. Let's try. Chris? Yes. Hi, Chris. What's going on? Well, I just want to know if PTSD hyperarousal can be confused with bipolar mania diagnosis. And if the treatments are different, I missed what you were saying about PTSD treatments earlier because I was calling in.

Yeah. Oh, and sorry. First of all, I want to say thank you so much for taking my call and I appreciate you so much. You don't even know. You are amazing. It's just awesome to talk to somebody who is so grounded in earth's reality. Well, you're very sweet. I don't know that I'm as grounded as I want to be, but I do feel that that's our job to strive to take reality on reality's terms and to stay with it, whatever that means. Bipolar and PTSD are... I don't want to talk about reality.

Yeah, I don't want to drag you through that necessarily, but PTSD and bipolar are very different. I mean, if you look at the DSM-5, they have specific criteria. There's ways doctors, they sort of go through a little checklist of what your symptoms are to decide whether you fit in one category or the other. They can also do testing like Nikki had testing for ADD and the testing sort of really tells you where you are. If you, something called neuropsychiatric testing is a very accurate way to get a diagnosis and the PTSD, and you can have both bipolar and PTSD. I mean, the bipolar disorders. Yeah. And I, and then there's, there's, if things get even

more complicated, Chris, because the medications we use to treat the PTSD can bring out a hypomania in someone who might not have had it. But once that happens, they will give you a diagnosis of bipolar disorder. And I guess reasonably so, because you're likely to be on those other medications and they have to do something to keep the mood down so you don't flip back into a full manic episode. But you might just look online for the criteria. If you're worrying about what you may or may not have, look online for criteria and see if you meet those criteria. We're going to take one more call. This looks like a heavy one, I think.

Justin, go ahead. Hey, Dr. Drew. Wow, I'm really excited to talk to you. Well, we're actually, I was just thinking when I read your call, I'm thinking people want me and Nikki to do a Loveline-esque show that has shown up on the stream here repeatedly. And I thought, well, this question will really get at that. So let's go do it. Here we go. Okay.

So I was hot and heavy with this girl. And my question is about numbness. Yeah. She cheated on me with another guy. And I got blue balls really, really bad. It's like I shut my energy down after I found out that she cheated on me. And so I'm at military school and I'm standing at parade rest. Now my arms are falling asleep. And when I sit on the toilet, my legs fall asleep. And so I lay in bed and, you know, if I was laying funny on my arm, my arm would start going pins and needles.

So it was freaking me out. But I got kind of mad at that since she cheated on me. I decided I was going to see how much pain I could take. So I decided to lay on my arm on purpose in my bunk. And so I decided I'd go 30 minutes laying on my arm and my arm started with pins and needles for about 10 minutes. And then it went super numb and it felt like a real heavy magnet. And then, uh, it was very, very painful, the being completely numb, but it started really feeling like just a heavy magnet. Justin, hold on.

After a little while, it started dissipating. Are you on any medication? No, no. No medication. Do you have any other medical or psychiatric problems? No. Were you evaluated for all this stuff, all these numb neuropathic symptoms? No. Were you evaluated for all this stuff, all these num, num, neuropathic symptoms? No.

So, uh, I saw the movie Nymphomaniac with, uh, what's his name? Keep going. We're, we're intrigued. Nick is like, where are you going with this? Where are we going? Try to distill this down to a question. What's the question? Well, the numbness that I experienced was very painful, but it's like it shifted in energy and it changed into like a creamy blissfulness.

Yeah. So it's like I went through three stages of like a heart attack. The first stage was pins and needles. The second stage was complete numbness or like a really heavy magnetism. When was this? How long ago was this? It went blissful. How long ago was this?

When you sit on his arm? Yeah. How long ago was it when you sit on his arm yeah how long ago was this yeah i was laying on my arm trying taking as much pain as i could take justin i wanted to see how much pain i could take yeah i mean how long ago was it to put us through the same process about 30 minutes no no how long ago did this happen that's so funny How long ago did this happen? That's so funny. How long ago did this episode happen? I was high school and I'm now a little bit older. Please answer my question. How long

ago was this? How long ago? I'd have to say 20 years. Okay. And you've been functioning okay since you're doing okay you're working yeah the the it went away the pins and needles and i understand hold just yeah just you got to stay with me you're functioning normally you have relationships and you're going to work and that kind of thing now is Is that accurate? Yes or no? Yes. Yes. Yes. Okay, good. Okay. So, so we're going to talk about you. Um, uh, I don't know what this was, uh, but I liked that he's building a case that his chi had built up so much that it was choking off his nerves. Uh, men do feel that way. Um, exactly what that was. I am worried that

he was already in some sort of state. People get very, very depressed in high school, or maybe he was falling into a mania or something where he was making a lot of nothing, essentially. Not to say that he shouldn't get a medical evaluation, because he should, but he's been 20 years fine, so unlikely to have really been anything medically important but i but i think he was in a different state than he realized when all that was going on you know what i'm saying that makes sense yeah i mean i was very confused by all of it but it just sounded like he wanted us to blame that girl for everything he wanted to blame the girl and he wanted us to say he's a nymphomaniac

and he nymphomaniac that made everything sexual which is not the case and nor did he build up so much semen that it was choking off the blood supply to his arms and legs which is the other case i'm sorry but he was definitely touching himself while he was talking to us it was like that was like trying to talk to a guy that's like horny and like reason with a horny like that was like trying to talk to a guy that's like horny and like reason with a horny like that was that was so horny maybe he is well that's what case he's making that was he's saying i'm maybe i'm an infomaniac but but he says he functions normally i didn't want to get too deep in it but he functions normally at work and he has relationships so i i think he's i think i hope he got out of that what he wanted we're going to say he needs to

calmness whatever he called it be careful talk to a doctor about this stuff this is not medical treatment things are complicated and more complicated in your case than we can get into in the very short time we have here talking to everybody let me try to see if there's

one more I can cleanse your palate with Nikki before that was impressive that you could follow that. I was lost, but you were there with it. I think I heard it. Is the TV fixed, Susan? Are we done? Am I back? Did you get a mic?

She wants a mic. I have to beg for a mic in this show. Yes. Yes, well. So there's a ghost in our bedroom because he he said that the hdmi was unplugged and i said well how did that happen he goes i don't know sometimes they just pop out do you remember the part when you were leaning on the counter and dropping cords and i was giving you shit about that yes uh that's the best view you've had all week yes and uh and that's how the

cord popped out i got news for you of course he didn't jump out of bed to fix it he made me do it no i know but it was pretty funny and i and i was really really really tired last night so he was so tired he ignored the fact that i had no underwear on didn't ignore it i just didn't take action. The ghost liked it. He plugged in an HDMI and poof, it works. So I didn't unplug anything. It was all right. You kept your back there pulling it. Oh, it's not plugged in.

It's plugged in. You were pulling cables all over the place. It was pretty funny. You guys are cute. My arms aren't as long as yours. You do it next time. God. You should have just had me troubleshoot it.

I know. We could have called you and brought you in here last night. Trust me. Anyways, you can watch the rest of the second episode. Okay, Nikki, before I let you go, do you have any questions? It was right when she was going to the part where she was going to. She was about to win the state championship or the tournament or whatever. Have you watched Queen's Gambit yet?

I haven't yet. I just got into Ted Lasso, and my parents and I are just obsessed with that. Have you seen that yet? No, that's not that. And I want to see Ratchet. That just got into Ted Lasso and my parents and I are just obsessed with that. Have you seen that yet? No, that's not that. And I want to see Ratchet. That's going to be next. Yes. Gambit's next for me.

Yeah. Okay. It's amazing. Yeah, it's amazing. It's really so well done. It's period piece. It takes you right back to the fifties and it's very well done. The actress is sort of uncannily good.

She's really, yeah. Like, like scares me for her. You know what I mean? Whenever actors are too good, I were like, i hope that person's okay the actual person the fact that they were able to conjure that kind of mental illness you're like oh she's been there before almost just yeah it was it was she's too odd in this in this piece where i'm and she might be perfectly she may be perfect right but she's so odd in this thing. Also, adolescent. She captures adolescence so well

that I thought, I hope she's all right. A lot of Ted Lasso love here. Is that on Netflix? No, it's on Apple TV. It's so good. It's so lighthearted. it's so funny it's so it's just great it's just an it really makes you forget about covid well speaking of which before

i let you go do you have any questions or anything because i'm going to launch into a big discussion about that in just a second here anything i think do you think that there is a possibility i mean this is this must be a thing but it that people are so people are projecting a lot of their own fears that would normally like their own anxieties about their life just like things that would normally be there and there's finally a place to put it all 100 this is why people are freaking out because it's like, yes, finally, I have something to put it. This has been pathological in many, many ways. And we're only going to sort of gain an understanding of it looking back at it. We're still too close to it.

But whenever things are excessive, right, the reaction was excessive. That's when exactly what you're talking about is happening there's some sort of psychological dynamic and it's they used to call it neuroticism but it's excessive this reaction and my hunch it is has something to with the trump derangement like the trump presidency people are already so spun about that that then it just went to this uh and it sort of sort of like went together in some way um i just see that my friends that are normally the most um nervous and the most anxious are doing the worst with it and the friends that are not are doing better with it and it's it's just it yeah it's it that seems to correlate pretty perfectly.

And I feel guilty that I'm not enough sometimes or that I'm too much. It's like every day you read one headline and suddenly you're like, oh, I got to be more freaked out. I'm not a good citizen. And it's just constantly up a roller coaster of how I should be feeling and being shamed about not being worried. Or, you know, it's hard to know how to feel. As I said, we went to Mexico last week and I knew we would take crap for that. And we did. But we were very, very careful.

And, you know, it was a really important thing for me to be social with a group of friends that I haven't seen in a long time. And it was therapeutic. My mood is better. I mean, we have to take care of our mental health and our physical health and navigate the risk, not go all the excesses. Again, the excesses are the problem.

I have a runny nose. Uh-oh, she's got it. I'm going to die. Okay, so somebody wants to know about gargling. Does that help? When I got my teeth, my teeth to get to all that as soon as i let you go and they had me gargle peroxide and water it it's an it's a it's a non-starter i'm going to say it's just to protect himself i'll tell you what about putting a hand sanitizer on

your nostrils around your nostrils so that if you do breathe it in it would die someone told me there's a there's a betadine solution that somebody sent me to read about that they claim they're having some results with. I know that there's research underway that within the next year or two, they're going to actually have something you can spray your nose that blocks the spike protein. That will be insane. That will prevent colds.

It may be that we end up curing many of the common colds because of our understanding of this new Corona virus. But I don't know that anything else really works just yet, but I'll, I'm going to look at this beta dine solution to see if that does something. But listen,

honey, stay well, good to talk to you. I'll look when you go live. When you look live on Instagram, I'm going to try to drop in on you. You haven't been doing so many Instagram Lives lately, right? Is that true or have I just missed them?

I haven't. I just don't need it as much. I think it's just feeling more secure. Well, but your fans miss it. They want to connect with you and style. Yeah, I know. I need to. I need to be better about it.

But yes, I will be doing that. And I will see you in your dreams. You'll be in my dreams. Don't out. So don't pull out the HDMI. Be there tonight. Don't pull out the HDMI. Well, don't.

Yeah, that's your job. All right, Nikki. Thanks so much. We'll talk soon. Love you, Nikki. Bye-bye. Love you guys. Bye, Susan.

You can come on my show next. Don't. It'll manifest. Okay. So let me talk about this gargle thing. So there was a piece of research that suggested, and it was decent research. It's actually not been peer reviewed yet, but it was on mouthwashes killing the virus in the mouth and it works.

So if you're going to spit on somebody and you are producing the virus, you're probably not going to transmit it through the spit. But your mouth is not your respiratory tract. Your mouth is sort of your GI tract, right? It's where you eat. Your respiratory tract is your nose back to your trachea, and the virus will still get in there. That's its primary means of getting in. So killing it in the mouth, not really doing that much. Now, if you have COVID and you're going to the dentist and you don't want to spread it to your dentist, that makes sense to me. And that's why the dentist is doing that. He gave me peroxide and water to gargle for 60 seconds, two times. I think that's

why they're doing that, but it's not going to really do, it's not going to really do anything for preventing COVID really. I mean, out in the world or anything like that. So, so're doing that. But it's not going to really do anything for preventing COVID, really. I mean, out in the world or anything like that. So there's that. Now, people were asking at the outset of the show. Well, that was Andrew. He wanted to know about Governor Newsom's behavior. Well, Governor Newsom went to the French Laundry with 12 other people.

So there were 14 people. And sat inside. They were sitting in a nearly outdoor thing that maybe was supposed to be outdoor, but they locked them in it because they were yelling and talking and laughing so much was the main way to transmit the virus. And 14 people in a room. Exactly what he has been pounding on Californians not to do is a hypocrisy that is beyond expression. And you add that to Nancy Pelosi going to get her hair gun without a mask. It's insanity. They should either, they have really two things they can do. Shut up and say, we'd like you to do these things. This is important and do health messaging and encourage the populace to do the

right thing or they need to do the right thing it's literally like telling a 15 year old to stop smoking way of a cigarette hang out of your mouth how's that going to work you're going to tell somebody to stop smoking while you're smoking yeah that'll work it's horrible horrible and he apologized for it and then went see we're done here i apologize that's it we're done right yeah i'm only human that's not how it works well i mean we we went to mexico and people were like our son was like well you know you you went to mexico i'm not telling people to tell people not to go to mexico i tell people to, I encourage things and to encourage them to navigate, to,

to judge their own risk and to navigate, to be autonomous on this and to do the right thing for what they think considered to, they consider to be the right thing. So now, so wait, now Andrew asked all kinds of other things too. What else did he ask about?

Andrew, are you still in the list here? I don't see you. I'm going to go. I will tell you a home test has been developed. A publication just came out a few moments ago that they sent out to physicians. Let me pull this up. There it is.

FDA clears first rapid at-home COVID test. It's a test you do yourself at home. It's a molecular swab. Let me read about it a little bit. Detects SARS-2, a self-collected nasal swab, ages 14 and older who are suspected. So we should be getting this thing.

It has a little plastic mechanism that you push the swab into. Let's see. The new testing option is important. Includes a device, sample, swab, simple instructions. After you've done your swab, the user opens the test packet, rotates the swab, obviously,

and then you put the sample in the unit and you push start test. The ready light then blinks. Within 30 minutes, a positive or negative green light is illuminated. It is that simple. This is Lucira Health. They're going to scale up manufacturing in this. The test cost is probably going to be around $50, which is half the price of going for a rapid antigen test at an urgent care center, and a tenth of the price or less of going to the emergency room for a rapid PCR. So this is a major, major and significant advance.

So I think, personally, I think we ought to get some of those. We ought to have that on hand in case there's any exposure or anything. Let's see. What else was Andrew asking me about? There we go. At-home test, you order it, it's delivered. Lots of officials worried. Will people not do it correctly and get incorrect results?

Andrew, that is the risk of an at-home test. That's why they made it so simple. And look, are we going to trust people to do anything? I mean, are we going to say that you can't test, you can't rub your nose? I mean, is that better than nothing? Is that not better than nothing? People that worry that it's not going to be perfectly accurate it's something it's something and it's something we can get people to do i mean come on all right so that's the at-home test to know about your advisor job with um uh with optech uh that's this this device that i've been uh standing by works. I'll take a picture. Is it on?

There we go. Give me a light. Oh, I'm blind. 10 seconds. We'll sterilize surfaces. It's very, very good. Yes. Again, not a treatment for medical condition, not 100% certain,

but it is something that is, it's something I use, something I use on planes. Find it, drdrew.com slash I wand. Let's see. So, so I uh hang on here i i've got to think about what i was talking about the fda test um okay so let's talk a little bit about the data which is um we talked a little bit about missouri when nikki got here we are as i've said repeatedly

we're in the middle of this big surge, but it is primarily driven by younger people. The death rate, let me go to the, this is the overall U.S. data. And we're up, you know, people are predicting we may get up around 200,000 cases before this thing levels off, 200,000 a day. There is some leveling going on right now already, which is a good sign. There is also a suggestion that the hospitalization is leveling. It's gone above the 60,000 level, which is our previous high.

It'll probably get to around 80,000. But of course, we are at three times the level of cases that we were when we were at 60,000 before. The death rate has gone up a little bit. It's around, it's still jumping around 1300 or so it's low is around 900 so it's not dramatically different than before but it is definitely going in the wrong direction and the scary part is we don't know where it's going to stop it looks like it's sort of getting into a good zone it's beginning to plateau but it will continue to stay at that very high pitch, which will should

create a delay uptick in the death rate that will be kind of nasty, I suspect. California, interestingly, although we're going into these new lockdowns, which I don't know if you've heard, we have a curfew here. California death rate goes down every day, and it has since uh mid uh late july late july is when it maybe early week of first week of august it peaked and it has gone down every day since the trend is down in spite of our again we're spiking just like every other state is our hospitalization rate is staying relatively low so let me join you guys back on the restream here. Whoops. Hold on.

Again, I want to thank people who told, introduced me to John McDonald. I think that's great. I listen to his stuff in the morning. All right. What's the curfew here? I didn't hear it's Ashley. It from 10pm to 6am so no overnight restaurants

and that kind of thing yeah right passing it closes down anyway let's talk about let's see what else you guys are interested in is Christmas cancelled this year? Somebody's saying you see people ignoring the new rules, Casey. That's interesting.

You know, when you have a leader who is so hypocritical, it's hard to get people to comply. They have messed up the health messaging all the way along. It's really uncanny to me how we've spent the last 20 years since the HIV. Well, longer than that. 30, 40 years since the HIV epidemic. Studying how health messaging works and how you can change behavior, and they've just abandoned it completely in this particular outbreak. It's really something to behold for me.

I don't know why. Oh, the vaccine. When the vaccine comes out and you get COVID, will you be able to get the vaccine? No, no. You won't need the vaccine if you've had COVID. But I will be running for the vaccine as soon as it is available if I'm part of the population that is going to get the vaccine. No, no, you won't need the vaccine if you've had COVID. But I will be running for the vaccine as soon as it is available, if I'm part of the population that is going to get the vaccine. We are hearing that the hospitals will be distributing it in the next couple of weeks.

Today, the Pfizer people came out and said, lo and behold, their vaccine is also 95% effective. So both the vaccines, the messenger RNA vaccines that have the same technology, which is Moderna and Pfizer, are having the same outcome, which is 95% efficacy. Flu vaccine is 40% to 60% efficacious. We consider that pretty good. Dr. Fauci is on the record saying that if we got to 70% with coronavirus, he would be astonished and that would be great. We're at 95%. That's incredible. And we should be applauding that and we should go

after it we should go after that vaccine and be and i can't wait to um to take it are you going to take any more calls uh probably not because we're have about three minutes left i'm sorry that yeah uh Let me just look here. Here's somebody who's been a hold really the whole time, so I feel guilty. Let me just take her call. Rosalia. Hi. Hey there. Sorry about the delay.

Yes, I'm here. Oh, no, it's okay. Thank you so much. I'm shaking right now. Oh. My call. Anyway, I want okay. Thank you so much. I'm like shaking right now. Oh. It's my call. Anyway, I want to say thank you to you. You are an amazing man. You're very kind.

And I watched you on the rehab show for a really long time. And I want to say prayers for the woman that is dealing with cancer and worried about corona and all that i'm so nervous i can't even talk okay so um what's going on um lots i um been dealing with anxiety depression since i was really young, I was raped twice when I was 14 and 21. Now, raped at 14 sometimes means that there was trauma earlier. Something happened when you were a child? Yes. Verbally abused. Verbally abused by my family.

I had a cousin that molested me, actually a couple. I was born in Italy, Italy. So my whole family came to the United States in 1972. I was the Cinderella of the house. I had five brothers. Like I said, very verbally abused by my mom. I'm hit by several of my

brothers. But bringing up the date, because I could be on this phone call for a day, in order to get out of my house, I married somebody that was very abusive and almost killed me. I'm lucky to be alive.

I always ended up with the wrong guys. Of course, it's because of my brothers, my five brothers. I was beaten by a couple of them and what have you. So then I married again to uh, to my husband that was in the movie business and I was pursuing acting and he was a boom operator at the time, then became a sound mixer for Allie McBeal, um, Paul Lewis. He won three Emmys. I took care of his two sons. His wife was an alcoholic drug addict. So I took care of two boys that are 30 and 26 now, and they're doing great. The youngest one was in rehab for heroin, and he's been sober six years.

I have an 18-year-old daughter that I had with my husband. So she has two half-brothers. My husband had to have back surgery at some point and they went through his stomach. Diffusion's intake and he would go out and start working out again and get re-injured. Well, but here's the deal. So that's the story of opiate addiction.

So now he's strung out on opiates, right? Correct. Correct. Correct. And then he had two neck surgery, shoulder surgery. Yeah. A couple knee surgery. All drugs.

All drugs. Your pain gets completely distorted. So now he's way into it. So what's... 40 oxycodone a day. Right, right, right. That's what he was taking. So his life is in danger.

You should definitely have Narcan on hand. So how can I help? He passed away. He ended up getting leukemia. And I took care of him. I brought him back home and cared for him. And in the meantime, I was the only caregiver for him. There was no help.

And he was 6'4". I am 4'11". four eleven and i at the time weighed 110 pounds and he was 225 pounds in great shape and what have you all right so so now it's now it's your now it's your back and neck right correct okay so are you on all hang on, let's just cut, let's cut right to it. Are you on painkillers? Yes, but I don't take them. I don't abuse them. I will take one if I really need it. Which is how many times a day? Maybe not every day. A couple times a week. Okay. Are you on any other medication? They don't help.

Are you on any other medication? What I'm addicted to is my Ativan and my Ambien that I've been on for a good 15 years. Wow. And I take them as needed. But needed is taking them one or the other every night. Counseling doesn't help. I just moved from Thousand Oaks to Irvine to be closer to my family, and my family just, you know, they don't exist.

Right. So I'm all my daughter. Let's cut right through it. Do you have a question or? Yeah, the question is, so, um, I'm overweight and I, of course, tweak my neck and helping my husband in my back. Um, and they want to do a fusion in my low, my low back. So with what I've seen with my husband goes through, I'm dreading it. Yeah, I don't blame you.

Here's what you must do. Here's what you must do, and you're a perfect candidate for this. You must really get serious about physical therapy and some kind of whatever the exercise program you will do, whether it's Pilates or yoga. You've got to lose weight. You have everything in the world to gain by doing these physical things that will change the entire story. You can save yourself from all this. I know it's hard. I know you've got the Ativan.

I know you're in a lot of stress. I know there's a lot of stuff going on. And it's hard to do things like this when you're feeling like this, but if you really make it, take it seriously, you have everything to gain. You have everything to gain from weight loss and physical interventions like physical therapy and whatnot and get acupuncture, get anything other than pills or surgery for the time being. Okay. And I totally agree with you. I'm doing Jenny Craig, my third day. Great.

Congratulations. 60 to 70. Good. Thank you. 60 to 70 pounds to lose. Good. As far as my, I can't walk. My whole left leg was so bad.

I literally was holding onto the walls. They did a bilateral steroid injection that I had done before and it did help. But I know that that's probably a band-aid. No, it will not be a band-aid. It will help fix this thing if you do all these things you're on your way to doing. And they'll become its own self-perpetuating kind of thing as you start to feel better about yourself and better about your back. Is there any motor problem in that leg? Are you having loss of muscle mass or weakness that is not related to the pain?

Yes. Yes. I can't stand on that leg. Right now, I'm fine because I had the epidural, but there's instability in the S1-L5. Okay. Yes, I can't stand on that leg. Right now, I'm fine because I had the epidural, but there's instability in the S1-L5. There's a protruding bone. I understand.

I know, and that can get better. That can get better with all these physical interventions. It can get better. You can work on this. You can make it better. If you don't lose the weight and you don't do this work, it's not going to get better. And then, then you're sort of stuck, but you know, you don't do back surgeries for pain. You just don't do that because it doesn't really work. I mean, it works sometimes, but not, not usually. And, you know, and you've got a lot of stuff you got to do,

but then you're going to, you know, you need to also talk to a psychiatrist about the mood issues, about getting off the Ativan and the Ambien. You may need more formal treatment for addiction per se, though I don't get that feeling from you. I just feel like you're one of these people that the doctors have strung out on benzodiazepines, which they so often do. And if you can have somebody help you get off of that, you're going to be okay. So there's a lot of work to do. There's a lot of work to do, but you got to get serious about it. It sounds like you're on the road. You've started, you're going to Jenny Craig. I'm sure your neurosurgeons would happily refer you to a physical therapist, find an acupuncturist, find Pilates or yoga, whatever it is that you feel you will do. And then a good psychiatrist would be helpful.

You're there in Irvine. UC Irvine has a gigantic department of psychiatry and get some help getting the right medicines and getting off the wrong ones. My dear, I've got to go. The whole show's over Rosalia. Thank you for the call and the kind words. Susan, last words from you before I sign off.

Do you have a, did you have Mike? Yes. I have a mic. Oh good. I get to talk. No, you did a great job. You're going to be on fox 11 tonight and also um people maybe next time we can show some of the stream we were asked that but the way caleb did a fantastic job we didn't have any problems no

it was great even the dog barking we were in a commercial break or when the tv guy was okay so i was gonna say i hope you play the commercials, but we do have one more to go. If anybody wants to hang out and hear about our sponsor, Hydrolyte, we'd really appreciate it. Thanks to everybody who's out there who watched and share if you care. Andrew, you're talking about the mass study.

Yeah, the mass study was what it was. Lasting immunity, that was the other thing. Yes, there's some evidence that once you get COVID, you may have a decade or more of immunity. That's what it's starting to look like. The antibodies are not the whole story. And I keep telling you,

that's the thing I'm going to do with Adatex. I'm going to Richmond to have my blood measured to see if I've had previous coronavirus exposure and if that confers anything useful against this particular virus. So there's a lot of stuff. It's, it's, it's, it's a lot of stuff churning right now. A lot of stuff, good news coming. So, uh, thank you, Susan. Thank you. Uh, Caleb, um, thank you to your lovely wife. Did you put the, um, credits up there and everything?

Everybody got the credits. Uh, uh right. Can I leave anybody out? All right. We're going to have to take a little 24-hour break or so. Are we back in here tomorrow? We missed yesterday, and we apologize for that. Yeah, we'll be back tomorrow. I had my tooth drilled, and I had to work for Fox. Let's not be critical.

Okay, Christopher Lundgren. You got a nap. I have a great, they just made a suggestion for a great guest, which is Dr. McDonald, that guy, that British guy I listened to. If we can get him on the show, that'd be very, very interesting. I bet we can get him. I bet we can. And again, thank you all for your calls. Those of you I didn't get to, I apologize. And for those of you on the stream, we appreciate you being here and look for us at Locals. I'm trying to get over there and do some more stuff. We brought that Locals group in here on Monday.

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