Aware & Aggravated - 107. My Most Unpopular Opinions

Episode Date: December 17, 2023

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Hi friends, this week I'm on one. I've been seeing a lot of videos recently about a lot of things I don't agree with. So I'm just gonna make a full episode about my unpopular opinions and the reason I'm so like let's do this right now is because if you watch my last episode you saw that I got very Back to myself and my opinions and I got very solid on my values And you guys love when I hold very strong opinions because you know I've thought them through and I speak so confidently and harsh because I've thought it through. And I'm able to stand on what I think and what I say

because I've analyzed it from every angle and you guys like to see how I do it. So that's what I'm gonna do in this episode. It's just give me some of my God-dave opinions because there's so many things I'm sick of seeing right now. And people really need like a reality check. And the first thing I wanna talk about is these videos going around of these parents

talking about their children and people are like asking them, like, oh, you have a child, like would you kill for your child? And these parents are saying no. Don't have a kid if you're not willing to defend it with your entire life. That's my opinion and I'm gonna stand on it till the day I die. This episode is literally just gonna be like, Hills all die on. Like I 100% will.

If you have a child and you're not willing to do absolutely anything in this world to protect it and defend it, like this little part of you that is so innocent and pure, like if something hurts it, you wouldn't kill for it or like, if something was on the line, it was like someone else or your kid, you better take them out immediately. I get so riled up about this because I feel like this is something so lacking in parenthood now. It's like people being willing to actually take care of

their kids. And it pisses me off, it genuinely pisses me off. And I was raised with parents that were very big on protection. And like you do anything for your child, like you will literally sacrifice yourself at any moment for your kid. And there was a lot of like other shit that wasn't great about like the things I was raised with but that is a belief I fully 100% stand on and I'm the same way in regards to even other people's kids like a child is to be protected at all costs and if you can't see that innocence and that value in a child let alone your own child if you don't see the innocence in that thing and want to protect it with your life,

don't have a kid! I am aggravated, seeing those videos. Those are, in my opinion, the most unfit people to be parents and to bring a spawn or like anything into this world. Don't even bother. Literally, what the fuck is that? I know all of you are as confused as I am. And I don't even want to say like, oh, if you have a good perspective on it, leave it in the comments, I want to understand it. No, fuck it. I'm not trying to understand that. I don't believe that, and that's one thing I'll die on is,

if you have a kid, you better be willing to do anything for it. And if that means kill, so be it. Like, I just can't imagine, like, if someone hurts your child, then you're just gonna let them get away What? Oh my god, like I Like it flares me up like it flares me up like a pimple like I just get so aggravated it shit like this like what Like how are you gonna love something and care about it and have something heard it and not lose your absolute mind

Like how is protection not like a big thing for you? How is protecting the things you care about not a thing? That goes kind of into like my jealousy thing. Like how I don't think jealousy is bad and like being protected over like people you date or your friends and all that, like that's good. I like that. It's not toxic. It can get toxic, but we're not going to go on that road because that's one that y'all can't handle. But seeing these videos made me think about something else that's very common and it's people making their partner more important than their child. That's another situation where you are an unfit parent.

You are unfit person to be a parent and I'm not talking like a kid who's bad and awful and like a little shit and whatever, like they're grown. It's like I get it after a certain point, but when a child is still a child and they're developing and growing and they still need you to take care of them and help them, nobody comes over them.

I'm so sorry, wake up. Like your partner to come over your child and people will be like, yeah, I'd like pick my partner over my child, like even if it comes to death or not death, like, what do you mean? What do you mean you would pick your partner over a child who needs you and is part of you? That I do not understand and I used to have people like when I was in high school I had this teacher and she was very like Christian and very like I loved her she was cool. I don't judge people because of their religion, but that's one of her views

She had because of her religion was that her partnership and her partner came before her children. What the fuck are you having kids for then? That gripes my ass like Like I cannot handle that one. And I know there are exceptions to the rule. Like I said, with a kid that's like bad or a kid that's like insane. And it's like attacking you is awful for you. But like when a child is a child, like a little kid, oh my God, oh my God.

Like your partner comes before your kid. Don't have one. Again, I'm back on that. Don't have one. Again, I'm back on that. Don't have one. And I don't want to talk about like the A word, like, reversion. I don't want to talk about all that because I don't want to get involved in all that. But I saw this video of H.R.H. collection, as she was talking about, like, let these dumb shits have them. Here's a perfect example.

If you're going to treat your child like this, like an option, like a second, like not the biggest priority in your life, do not have one. And I will say that with my whole chest until the day that I die. That is not cool. I don't get along with these whole like modern beliefs. I'm very old-fashioned. I'm very old-school Albanian. Like, your kids come first over everything and everyone. What? I'm able to tap into any perspective. That is like possible. And that is one, like, I can tap into the perspective.

I can understand where people are coming from, but like it comes down to values and what you value. Like, I get the perspective of how people can argue that your partner should come first, but I do not agree with it. Like I fully understand the perspective. I just value something different. So I dismissed that perspective.

Like I will never go there with my head. No. And while we're on the topic of children and kids, and the reason I'm talking about all this is because I know you guys are the kids that have been like not picked and the kids who are like me who like we resonate with all this. People who have step children, your step children should never feel equal to your actual biological children if you have a mixed household. Like if you meet somebody and they have kids and then you have kids and you come into that

relationship and you have step kids and your actual like real kids from a different person or not, your stepchild should never be equal to your biological child. I don't give a flying fuck. What anybody has to say about that. Your actual child, like the kid that you gave birth to, should never question if this other kid is equally as important or more important than them. Absolutely not. It should be unfair. It should feel unfair. You can treat them the same and do things that don't make it seem so obvious,

but at the end of the day, your child should always know you love them more and you will stand on that and you have their back and they're always your priority. Like I understand it for the family dynamic to like work, but there needs to be a little bit of unfairness. There needs to be a little bit of things being off balance. Your child is not the same as your stepchild and your child, you owe them that loyalty in my opinion

to never let someone else that's not actually yours compete with that. It's different if you have two of your own kids and treating them equal. Duh, I'm talking about you have an actual biological child and then a step kid and you wanna make sure the other kid is comfortable and make them see themselves as like equal.

Absolutely the motherfuck not. That is the worst thing you can do to a kid. That is the worst thing you can do to your child. There should be unfairness, there should be, yeah, you love your kid more. Like, you're gonna be there for the other kid, you're not gonna neglect the other kid, you're not gonna neglect the step kid

and like, be mean to it and like, be bad to it. But what I'm saying is like, it should be very clear that your priority is your child. If there's ever a situation where there are two both hanging off a bridge and you got to pick one It should be very clear There should be no hesitation in your child. You would pick them over to step kid I'm getting very deep and like harsh with this shit right now. These are things I'll die on

They're about to get like more fun and like Lighthearted with the next two things but like these I just wanted to hit in the face because I'm so sick of seeing this shit online I'm so sick of seeing all these like new age beliefs and trying to take everybody into consideration and like living by like not loyalty. Like people do not understand loyalty and it like makes me want to explode. This is something that I will literally die on. Your stepchild should never feel equal to your biological child under any circumstance If your kid has the question if who you'd pick You're fucking up just to let you know and your kid your connection with your actual biological child is ruptured

probably beyond repair As of right now, so you don't have to work through that go to to therapy. And I am going to mention the adoptive child thing because people are going to try and they did it, they did it, they did it, they did it, they did it, they did it, they did it, they did it, they did it, they did it, they did it, they did it, they did it, they did it, they did it, they did it, they did it, they did it, they did it, they did it, they did it, they did it, they did it, they did it, they did it, they did it, they did it, they did it, they did it, they did it, they did it, they did it, they did it, they did it, they did it, they did it, they did it, they did it, they did it, they did it, they did it, they did it, they did it, they did it, they did it, they did it, they did it, they did it, they did it, they did it, they did it, they did it, they did it, they did it, they did it, they did it, they did it, they did it, they did it, they did it, they did it, they did it, they did it, they did it, they did it, they did it, they did it, they did it, they did it, they did it, they did it, they did it, they did it, they did it, they did it, they did it, they did it, they did it, they did it, they did it, they did it, they did it, they did it, they did it, they did, they did it, they did it, they did it, they did it, they did it, they did it, they did, they did it, they did it, they did, they did it, they did it, they did, they did it, they did it, they did it, they Make everybody seem equal. 100% I agree with that. Like, you make the adoptive kid feel like your actual kid. But, on the fucking back end, behind everybody's back, you be having conversations with your actual child that they are the most important. And that's who you love.

Okay. But you need to make sure your biological child has that place of priority. They fucking came from you. They're a part of you. Don't ever let them question that bond with you and that connection. Please do not. Like, I'm speaking so harshly because I know how bad this hurts. Like just trust and believe. Like, with the adoptive kid, make everything seem equal. Make everything seem fine. But have your kid on the back end like,

A, Tommy Jean, whatever the hell you name me kid. Like Billy Joe, Billy. This is how we all actually want them to feel included, but you're my child. You get it. Like, are we on the same page here? This next one's gonna get me in trouble, but I don't give a shit.

Having sex on the first date is never gonna fly with me. Hooking up on the first date, anything like that, for my personal opinion, I'm not talking about any of you and attacking anybody. If that's something that you wanna do, go for it. The thing that I value and why I stand on this, not having sex on the first day and not having sex, until after you know somebody for a while

or even hooking up, is the piece of mind it's gonna give you if you date someone. So for me to go on a date with someone and they try and throw themselves at me or hook up with me, not even knowing me. I know all it takes for someone to get access to you sexually is meeting you once, like in your vibe, thinking you're attractive and they're down to jump in the bed.

There's no safety in that for me personally. I don't trust nobody, I don't trust nothing. It's on my hand. Trust no one. That's a value I stand on because say I go to date you after we've hooked up on the first date. I now know you require know anything more than someone being attractive to get access to your body.

So anytime you're out in life, you go out without me, you go to a party, you find someone on Instagram. If all it takes for someone to get your attention is being attractive and they can get access to you, where the hell am I supposed to feel safe? You think I'm ever going to trust you to go out of town and travel without me or go somewhere? No bitch, it's not happening. Because what stops you and what prevents you from meeting someone attractive and going for it. And my reason behind this, I used to think this is just like a character trait that I stand on

and I'm like, I do not want to be with someone who hooks up frequently and often like just doing random hookups, not my fucking thing. Someone like that will never get access to me. I will never get into anything serious with someone who does this because of what it does to me mentally. I'm never going to be able to trust you. I'm never going to feel safe because of how I see it. And the realization I had around this that made me double down on it and not like question anything is for my life and my experience being able to trust someone to not fuck me over has never worked. For me to look at a situation and be like, okay, this guy would not cheat on me because

he values me enough and he would never risk losing me. That's never been enough for someone to not fuck around. People always got to fuck around with me and find out. People have had a trend in my life with risking losing me and they always do. But I get no peace of mind and I get no safety by looking at a situation and saying, yes, I trust the person I'm dating's judgment enough to know that they value me enough to never risk losing me. I'm going to shortcut that and make it as absolutely safe as possible.

I'm not even going to risk you not seeing my value and not potentially risk losing me. I'm going to shortcut that and I'm not even going to go for someone who does hookups. There's no question of would you hook up with someone, even if it meant you risk losing me, you would lose me if you cheat on me, and you probably lose a limb. But that all goes away, because if you're someone that doesn't even allow people to access you physically

until they know you for a while, I ain't got to worry about shit. Go travel. You're not even into hooking up with people. You're not even into that. You understand how empty it is, and you respect yourself yourself and you're protective over who gets access to you. It's not just granted freely. That's safe to me. That makes me feel safe. Do you see how when I talked about like telling yourself people value me enough to not risk losing me?

They wouldn't go cheat on me. You see how that doesn't really like work and that's not the most like safe thing. It doesn't feel like solid. That's not actual reassurance because you're depending on someone else's judgment of like how much they care about you and testing how loyal they are. With this aspect of me not even entertaining someone who does hookups is,

I'm not testing your loyalty to me. I'm testing your loyalty to yourself. Are you the type to do this? And are you gonna stay loyal to being restrictive with who gets to access you? It's not about loyalty to me, it's loyalty to you. Because I've never been able to bank on fully people's loyalty to me.

I bank it on their loyalty to themselves now. Because if you're not loyal to you, who the fuck are you even loyal to? You know what I mean? Like I took me out of the question, and that is safe for me, and that's why I look for that. That's why I literally can give that and offer that to a situation,

because I wanna be able to give this person I'm with, peace of mind like that, and now I require it, and I'm never gonna bend on that. I'm never going to bend on that at all. And like I said, I'm not saying anyone's bad or wrong for not doing that. I value safety in relationships and I value the piece of mind that comes from character like this. Other people are able to not be concerned about their partner and to trust people. I'm not one who can trust people. And that's one thing I say all the time. You must have me fucking confused

with someone who trusts people. So the way I operate, one thing I say all the time you must have me fucking confused with someone who trusts people so the way I operate the things I value and the way I maneuver life and my opinions are gonna be very different people who are trusting and it had experiences where they can trust people and rely on people we're gonna have different views babe because you don't have the awareness that I have and I don't have the awareness that you have you have a full separate set of experiences I don't so people get mad at me all the time for these harsh opinions But when I lay it out like this and I can explain why I want this and that I'm not judging anybody else This is just what I want my relationship to look like if I'm gonna be in one

Then it makes sense and everybody gets it. It's not an attack if you feel attacked reflect on that but That's something I'll die on, and I'm willing to. And that whole point kind of leads me into the next thing I want to rant about, and it's people's pasts matter. I know everybody likes to say what I did before you didn't matter. It's the past is the past. No! Absolutely the fuck not.

Your past matters. And I'm not saying everything you've done in the past needs to be held against you or used against you or you have to pay for what you've done your entire life. But people's pasts matter. And a lot of people get mad at me that I wanna know everything about them. I want that closeness and understanding with

someone, but understanding someone's past, the way that they talk about it, their ability to own up to and confess what they've done is a big reflection of character and their honesty and they don't operate off of shame and hiding things. Now, if someone's done something in the past, we all have. I've done some fucked up shit, but I can go back and explain to you why I see it different, what I would have done different, the growth that came out of it, and I can show you a track record of changed behavior for years. Talking about your past is not bad. It's bad when you haven't made peace with it and when you haven't made peace with it

and when you haven't learned from it. People who don't wanna talk about their past got shit to fucking hide and shit that they're embarrassed about that they haven't grown from. So your past does matter. But what matters more is the way you talk about it, the way you've handled it.

And if you can explain how you've grown and you can explain your deeper understanding of everything and why you no longer do certain things that you did at one point in your life. But people's past 100% Matter and I'm never gonna stop being a nosy fuck who asks every question like I just want to genuinely understand someone and everything about them. Like one, I'm assessing if you're safe to bring close to me and two, I want you to ask about things with me too. Like, don't want everybody to get to know each other. I like that depth. I like that connection. I like that just understanding and knowing things about people that other people don't get to know. And I ask those type of questions because I value that

connection. But everybody likes to run around and say, your past doesn't matter. Yes, the fuck it does. Yes, it does. And it will reveal a lot about a person based on how they talk about it. Like I said, things you did in the past aren't meant to be held against you forever. But it's a part of you. And if you're embarrassed about anything in your past, you need to look at the way you're looking at it and truly sink into it, understand it and like really face it and pull out what you can learn from it and then use that to go forward. Don't let experiences that you're embarrassed of in the past and things that you've done in the past define who you are now. Don't let them control you like that.

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Now my next little tip bit I wanna get into is the whole talk about like money changes people. No, it doesn't. Money does not change people. It amplifies who's already there. It just amplifies who someone already is. And a lot of people get so mad about when someone around them starts making more money

and they leave them behind or they start to discard them. They're like, oh, they act like they're better than me now or like they don't help me or like people that make a lot of money then leave their family like in the shitter. It's not that the money changed them. You just realized you were never a priority. That's what's really going on there. Like when someone gets money and acts different toward you and they don't prioritize you as much, I'm sure that they care as much. They never cared about you and they don't prioritize you as much, are sure that they care as much.

They never cared about you. They never prioritized you. You were never as much of a priority as you thought. When someone cares about something and prioritizes something, when they have a boost in money or wealth or anything, what they care about, they're going to try to help and ease the pain off of things they care about. If they're not giving you anything or they're not helping you or they stop hanging out with you.

You were never a priority to begin with. This is just an amplifier of who they already are. That's what money is. And I've seen a lot of people get money. I've seen a lot of people lose money. I've gotten money. Last money got money again. And this is the dynamic that happens.

It's not that money changes people. It gives them options. And if they no longer feel obligated to you because now they have money and you can't control them or anything like that. Like they have a more free approach to being authentic and being who they want to be and acting how they want to act.

Like money gives you freedom and money gives you choice. So what they choose to do like money gives you freedom and money gives you choice. So what they choose to do with that choice is them. It's not that money change them. It's like saying gun shoot people. Girl, if I lay one on a table, it'll just get up and pop somebody's ass. Somebody's got to be behind it. Money sitting on a table don't change nobody. What they do when they have it in their possession and what they do with it, that's their story. Money has to be spent. So that's my two cents on that.

Now, the next thing I wanna say is people's opinions of you were like reveal a lot sometimes. So if someone ever says that I'm mean, I am gonna tell you, pay the fuck attention. If someone says that I'm mean, there's a reason that they met that side of me. There's a reason I was mean to them. So if someone ever says, oh Leo's mean, Leo's mean, your fucking ears better perk up like a German shepherd. What the fuck did they do to him?

Because Leo's not just mean for no reason. Leo's mean when there's a reason to be. So, if someone ever says I'm mean, let your alarm bells go off to look at who's in front of you. Because I'm very understanding, I'm very caring, I'm very sweet, I'm the nicest person you'll ever, ever meet. And I always start out with kindness and consideration.

If you had to meet the side of me that's a raging motherfucker you earned it. So if someone ever says I'm mean, understand there's more to it. What did they do? What contributed to that? Because Leo, yeah he's very harsh, he's very like tough, but he's very sweet and gentle. On one side, if you had to meet the other side, you did something. So when someone says I mean, believe them, and stay the fuck away from them, there's a reason they think that I mean, and they're right. I literally am one of those cut throat people there is.

Like, when you do something to me, or something happens, and it's your turn to like lay in the bed that you made, I'm gonna make you lay in it. I'm not giving you no mercy. I don't believe in mercy and forgiveness. I don't believe in none of that shit You're gonna get what you dished out. I'm probably gonna give it to you like three times worse But it's someone makes their bed lay in it. I'm not saving you from it Who saved me who wanted to help me when you were fucking me over?

Nobody I stood there and I stayed strong and I handled it and that's what people don't like about me And that's when I'm mean is when people can't handle what they dish out when they dish something out to me And I handle it and then I dish it right back out to them and I tell them stay strong like they tried to tell me Oh, now I'm a NASA now. I'm heartless. Yep sure am. I'm one of the most Switch it off people like as much as I love you and much like care about you. I'm dangerous I'm very dangerous to care about because I can switch it off people. Like, as much as I love you and much like care about you, I'm dangerous. I'm very dangerous to care about because I can switch it off. When I feel hurt enough, betrayed enough, or disrespected enough,

and like you do something to me that's unforgivable, I literally will switch it off and dish out that consequence. I don't care. I have that ability. It's very scary, but if someone experiences that, they earned it. So, someone says, I mean, I am to them. But with that, like you guys know how I am

and you know how much I see and how aware I am, and I don't make misjudgments often. Like you're never gonna see me like doing or saying something that's like a misjudgment. Like I don't really do that because I give so much thought to things and I have so much awareness on it, understand so many things like I see things that are not there with everything. So a lot of people trust my judgment and I know the weight that comes with that. Like, I understand that in my

friend group, if I cut someone off, every other person is most likely gonna cut them off too because they know I'm seeing shit that they don't see. And if they ask me about it, I'll explain it. But when I don't like someone, everybody trusts my opinion on it because you guys know how I am. And I love that I have that, but I'm also very aware of that power. Like if I say someone or something is bad, a lot of people are going to believe it. And a lot of people are going to see all the points I'm going to make about it and be like, yes, like that's something that people do all the time online. And now like wreck somebody off of like miscalculated anger

or like you misread a situation you're like trying to destroy somebody or cancel them. Like so many people just blindly follow the train. I'm never a train you blindly follow. Like you're gonna be like that train makes sense. I'm gonna leave it. But I don't ever want people to like just blindly ever follow things that I say. Question it for your God damn self. If something I say seems off or seems wrong,

question it. You're allowed to disagree. Like I don't ever want anyone to blindly follow me. I don't ever want someone to like rely on me for their own judgment and their own decisions. Like fully take what I'm saying into consideration, but like run it through your own filter. If it doesn't make sense to you, don't blindly follow it.

I mean, I'm never gonna to you don't blindly follow it. I mean I'm never gonna steer you wrong you know that but test out everything people say before you just believe it. Like sit with it for a little bit before you just jump you know I'll save you from a lot of heart break because like that's one thing I do with people online I don't trust though God damn body I don't trust nothing I'll test everything out for myself but that's kind of where I stand so strongly on everything, is like I've tried so many things, and now I have my own thoughts and beliefs around it,

like videos like this and all the advice that I give, and all the ways that I kinda like nitpicked the advice that's out there, it's like girl, I tried it, it was shit. And then I share what worked for me, and that's why it's well received, cause I'm not bullshitting, like I'm not fake about it. Like these people just talk, cause they to feel like they have something to say.

I'm like, you sound like a fucking air purifier to me. Nothing coming out, just noise. Just shut up. Now I want to talk about the number one thing that people always get mad about, and it's going through your partner's phone It's not toxic. It's not bad and it is not an invasion of privacy at all Going through your partner's phone is not a fucking invasion of privacy I don't care who says what. If you're like a CIA agent

and you're holding documents from like the fucking government and you'll get popped over like having it spill out, I get it. Have a work phone then. But your personal phone is fair game bitch. Like don't be talking about your fucking letter. FBI documents, like on your personal phone. Like have that on your work phone, okay? But like a personal phone, like what you use, like personally, I do not understand why people say it's an evasion of privacy. Like when you get with someone, like do I think people should freely just be able

to go through your phone whenever they want? I mean, if you want, but like, I don't really do that. If there's a reason or something that's making me question or hesitate about something, and proof is in your phone, hand it over or show me. I won't even take the phone. Just show it to me. I'm very big on that because I will do the same thing. If my partner comes to me and they're upset about something or they ask me something and all that's left is for them to take my word on it, that's never gonna fly with me. That's never gonna be enough. I will never require someone or ask someone just to take my word on something. I will do anything

I can to prove it to you. And if that means showing you something in my fucking phone, go ahead. Go through it. Look through it. I don't give a shit. Like, if something is causing you headache and like heartbreak or like confusion and hesitation and you're scared or you're worried about something and something is like come up where you question something, if I can give you solid proof in my phone about messages, dates, pictures, anything I can have to like give you that solid piece of mind of like, here's proof, I will gladly give it to you. And people who don't operate with that same mindset, you want to sit over here and you know something's bothering me. And you make me take your word for it. Well, I don't want to show my phone it's an invasion of privacy. That'll do a fuck thing for me. You

just telling me this is the way it is. That don't go with someone like me. You have me confused with someone who trusts people. For you to go and be like, okay, I value making sure Leo has peace of mind over this situation and not looking like a fucking liar. So I'm gonna show him this thing in my phone. That's healthy. That's normal. That's like a valid thing to ask for. I genuinely do not think I will ever see this different. Like I said, I don't like the whole like go through people's phones whenever you feel like it. Go honestly go for it. But like you're gonna find things that hurt your own feelings. Been there, done that. Don't go through the phone like freely because unless there's something

that you're already worried about or a situation or something. If you need proof or if something fact checked, then the phone is a resource for that proof. I don't look at the phone as a resource to like go through it whenever you want. It's like that's annoying, but anything that you want to see is fair game. If it's a fucking concern or a worry for you, I don't look at it like I have to have privacy in my phone. Like you can literally see whatever you want. I would gladly give up this privacy everybody talks about.

If it's going to give my partner peace of mind and make them feel safe and actually trust me. Like if I can give you this proof that will give you this peace of mind, I will gladly give it to you any time of day, I don't care. And I require someone like that with me. I'm not gonna deal with somebody who looks at their phone as an invasion of brevity. Shut the fuck up, you immature and emotionally stunted rat. I'm not dealing with that and I never fucking will.

It's Loki like so immature when you think about it. Like that's very unfair to do is like tell someone you should just trust me because I said this what oh my god like what the fuck That literally gets the biggest reaction out of me like grow up grow up For you to look at someone and think that does anything for them of saying take my word on it People aren't good for their fucking word nowadays people are so Coward people are so pussy people are so hide everything nowadays If you trust anyone's word just for their word without having any trust built before that that's naive

But there does come a time where you've established this trust over and over and over again and you've had something come up, you've checked it in their phone or like you've checked it in some other way and you've gotten the reassurance and the confirmation and the proof. And it's like, as you get that proof more and more, you establish this trust and safety of what this person says is true. I can trust their word. Then going forward, you're not going to want to check their phone, you're not going to care too. Like, you're not going to really give a shit and be so hung up on the phone. People really just need to see that going through someone's phone is a

fact check and people can't own that. People say, oh, you're just insecure, but you try and throw that at somebody like me, and I'm clearly just gonna say to your face, I don't trust anyone's fucking word on anything, until proven otherwise. Like, if you claim something to me, okay, now I wanna see proof. Like, I'll take people's word to a certain extent,

but if it's something that's make or break to me, not prove it, because I'm not just walking forward into this just because you told me something and you think I'm gonna trust your word. Nope. That's not safe. I'm not doing it. I'm someone who is to god damn aware to play these little childish games It's not insecure. It's a fact check and a trust builder So saw that how you need to I know it's a horse bill for some of you. I feel like I've ranted enough I hope this video video made you feel seen

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