Aware & Aggravated - 47. Wanting To Change Yourself & How To Actually Do It

Episode Date: October 23, 2022

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I just hit that so pussy. I'm not gonna show my ass out there. Hi friends, so I'm real stressed right now. I don't know fucking know why, but I'm like real anxious. I'm giving anxiety. But I want to talk about wanting to change yourself in this week's episode because there's such a stigma around wanting to change yourself and like the self-development community. And everybody's like you need to accept yourself and love yourself the way that you are. No bitch, I don't wanna fucking accept myself how I am. So I wanna break some shit down and then give you my advice on how to actually change yourself.

And then a lot of people have trouble with trusting their own judgment if they should change something or not. Like, oh my God, regret it, am I not? So I'm gonna tell you all the ways that I go about knowing if I actually need to change something or if I'm like bugging. So how much e-codes are coming. Just keep listening to this episode. But I do want to start off with that fucking stigma and I'm gonna shove a stick up its ass

because I'm sick of everybody saying that shit. I'm like you have to accept yourself. Like stop trying to change yourself. Girl, human beings are meant to change. We're meant to evolve. We're meant to constantly be changing Like I said in my hookups episode human beings like progression We're never gonna feel comfortable staying the same. It goes back to like the whole desires thing as soon as you have a new desire You're gonna have to start changing shit. It's like once you reach a certain goal Oh, new one is always gonna arise So you meet a desire, you're always gonna have

another one. It's an ever-ending cycle. You can't get rid of it. To even want to not have desires is a desire, babe. So you're stuck with that. And the whole self-love journey shit, you're allowed to want to change yourself. I give you permission. You're fully allowed to want to change shit. That's totally fine. It's not self-hating for you to want to change. Not at all. So I've said this before, I'm someone that changes nonstop. Like I feel like a whole brand new person every three months. Every three months is a new Leo. Every fucking three months. It's exhausting, it's draining, I get sick of it. All I want is to just like have some stability and be consistent. But like I said in the beginning of this, that's not how human beings work.

It's not how we are. So as bad as I want to just like be the same, I can't. When you have like a heightened level of awareness, good luck bitch. If you're not going to be able to say the same, but with going on a self development journey and starting to grow, you're going to make a lot of mindset shifts. And that's one of the biggest things that my podcast provides to people is new perspectives, new lenses for life, and really big mindset shifts. So, the biggest thing that I've noticed is like whenever I make an internal mindset shift, like I drop a limiting belief or I want to start

something new or I just see things completely different. When you make a mindset shift, you're gonna feel like you've leveled up inside internally. And when you're operating from a whole new mindset, being in the same body, doing the same shit, having the same external is gonna start to get, like, uncomfortable and feel weird. Like, your life's gonna feel like a gaslight because internally you're so much different,

but your external is the fucking same. And that's where I'm saying you have to make changes. It's totally fine to do that, because you're not changing yourself. You're helping your external match your new internal. So that's my biggest thing is, with the new mindset shift, changes are gonna come that are physical.

And if you don't make changes, it will drive you fucking insane. Just try it, just try it, bitch. Just try and have all the mindset shifts that you can make, level yourself up mentally so much, and then see how comfortable you feel staying the same way that you are, you're not. It's gonna feel like a contradiction.

It's gonna feel like something's just off. So the way that I like to look at making changes in my external, whether it's my body or my environment, is making it a match to my new mindset and who I am inside. I like these things to match or else I feel very uncomfortable, very fucking weird. I don't have my pinky ring on. Hang on, let me get it. Oh my god, I knew I felt naked. Okay, we're back. So getting back on track, the more you shift internally, the more of a disconnect you're gonna feel from your external. So wanting to change

shit is normal babe. It's not self hate, it's not mean, it's not fucked up, it's not weird. You're gonna naturally just want to change shit as you level up inside. And that's something I carried a lot of guilt for, for so long. Because like everybody preaches the same fucking shit. Like when I was going through it and I was trying to like learn from people online, everybody's on about, you have to accept yourself, you're perfect the way that you are. No bitch, because when I was fat, I felt fat, I felt ugly, I felt not cute, and I felt ugly, for more reasons than just being overweight.

I just didn't look good. So for someone to say you're perfect the way that you are, I could not accept those words because I did not feel it. Like I couldn't accept accepting myself. I couldn't fucking do it because I didn't like how I looked. I didn't like how I felt.

I didn't like any of that shit. So I wanted to change it. So in order for me to feel like I could truly be happy with how I was and who I was, I needed to change some shit because what I felt internally was not what reflected. I didn't feel like a fat piece of shit inside. I didn't feel ugly inside.

So I had to put my ass into it and like make my external cute. But a big thing that also played into the way that I look and like wanting to change my appearance was the way that I was eating and the way that I was living by not exercising and like eating my shit. I had new awareness in my mind about how I wanted to present and how I felt about the way I had been living.

And I made a really big mindset shift that allowed me to truly change the way that I looked because I had changed the way that I looked before, but it was never consistent. So until I like truly shifted myself mentally, it just stayed the same. But I had a lot of realizations, a lot of awareness and a lot of things that went into me finally changing the way that I look and looking the way that I look now, which I'm very proud of. But the whole thing with acceptance, let me just hit it real quick with trying to accept yourself when you don't like yourself. A lot of people try and push, you have to love yourself where you are.

No, you can love yourself as you progress and as you level up and as you make your external a match to your internal. You will start to naturally be able to accept yourself as soon as you start making changes. Just sit still in a place and in a body that you don't like and try to force yourself to appreciate it and love yourself. Good luck, bitch, I tried it.

It's literally like trapping yourself in a cage and being like, be happy with being in the cage. Motherfucker, I could just get out. So my thing with acceptance is You do have to accept where you're currently at. You do not have to accept yourself and like just take that and be like Ah, it's good enough. Don't try to make where you're at good enough My whole thing with acceptance is you have to accept where you are in order to be able to move forward or make a change Now you can't just like cover your eyes except where you are in order to be able to move forward or make a change.

But you can't just like cover your eyes. You're like, no, I'm perfect, I'm great where I am. When internally you feel like you don't fucking like it, you have to face where you're truly at. And it's going to reveal all of the shit that you want to change. So that's where my next step comes in is stop like comforting yourself when you don't like where you are. Stop doing it. Stop trying

to force yourself to love yourself where you are. Use your discomfort with where you are and what you look like to put a fire under your fucking ass to change it. Because a lot of people talk about motivation, they struggle with motivation, but the true fucking motivation, you're not going to need it because once you face the reality of where you are and you stop telling yourself I'm perfect how I am when you do not feel it You're naturally just gonna get a boost and like a desire to go change shit because you're no longer comforting yourself With being uncomfortable you're allowing yourself to be uncomfortable and using not to motivate you But like I said as soon as you stop comforting yourself and like trying to convince yourself, you're perfect how you are and you

should love yourself the way you are, it's going to reveal all the things you aren't happy with. So when I did this, I was not happy with my body. I was not happy with what I was doing for a living. I was not happy with my financial situation. I was not happy with where I lived. The city or the house bitch, like I had to shift everything. But the whole thing with comfort, like when you're comforting yourself, when you're unhappy, as soon as you stop comforting yourself, it's gonna be a lot harder to not make changes.

So it's gonna feel bad to not change things because you're now extremely uncomfortable. So this is my whole little spiel about like here's a little motivation for you. But now let's jump into trusting yourself to make changes and trusting yourself to make the right decision about what you want to do and what you want to shift. Because it's very overwhelming. It's very very scary to be like, okay I'm uncomfortable and I'm happy with all this shit. But what now? Like a lot of people are too scared to

make the changes. So I get why everybody's stuck and the whole like comfort yourself and like try to accept where you are, but I'm gonna teach you the opposite because trying to comfort yourself when you're stuck where you are is gonna limit you. But the first thing you're gonna do is evaluate what you want to change.

Like get clear on all the things you wanna change. And then you're gonna look at Why do you want to change them? Like get very clear with your why because a lot of people get stuck in Trying to change shit so other people will approve of them and it's like a subconscious thing So like you're scared to change something because you're like is it actually what I want? Or am I doing it for other people or like people don't know why they want certain things So that's why I'm saying you have to look at the why when you find out what you want to change. But I have a couple things listed for the what for like what you want to change. So I got physical

appearance which also includes your style. So your body and your style you want to change that totally fine your hair. I'm gonna talk about why I shaved my fucking head in a minute and how I got the balls to do it. Second is like mannerisms the way you walk the way you move like shit like that your personality the way you talk The way you interact with other people the way you communicate that's something a lot of people need to fucking change You're intellect like how much you know because you can always learn more But you need to know what you want to learn more of so that's something you can change is like your more, but you need to know what you want to learn more of. So that's something you can change is like your mental capacity and also like your intelligence. You can also want to change your job or what you do and your environment, like where you live, where you

spend your time, your house, you know. There's a lot of things that you can want to change. So like I just want to throw some examples of like the what? Because I've changed everything about myself. I've changed the way that I walk, the way that I talk, the way that I move, like my hands, my mannerisms, I've put tattoos on myself, I've cut my hair, I've changed my style, I've moved to a new city, I've moved to a different place, like I've moved to plenty places. But I have changed everything you can possibly change.

So I know how to be sure and how to figure out what to change or what not to change and why I truly want to change it. So that's what I'm going to try and teach you with these next couple of steps. But if you want help sorting this out and you want help with this one-on-one with me, you can schedule the call to work with me, add the link in the description of this episode.

It's going to take you to the link on my website, which is where you could put in an application to work with me one-on-one and we'll do Zoom calls because I need to be able to see you. I like that. But my biggest thing with making changes is you have to look at the why behind it. And I'm going to give you an example of like why I want to change certain things. And when my desire to change things kind of comes about. So when I decided to start doing one-on-one coaching, I felt a desire to do a new thing, but who I was at the time, I did not feel confident to do it as how I was. So a lot of you guys have noticed that I used to wear a snapback and a lot of my videos,

like a hat, like a backwards hat. But when I decided I wanted to position myself to work with people one-on-one, I was like, I need to be taken more serious. I can't be over here looking like a fuck boy. So, me wanting to be taken more serious is why I decided to stop wearing my hat. Deciding to change that made me feel more confident to do what I decided to do. Deciding to stop wearing the hat made me feel more confident to do what I decided to do. Deciding to stop wearing the hat made me feel more confident with transitioning into working with people one-on-one and becoming a coach.

That's something that made me feel better. It made me feel boosted, it made me feel supported, it made me feel more confident. So that's just a small example of changing something about your physical appearance to better match and line up with how you want to be portrayed. Because for me to get on here with my snapback it's like cool it doesn't change what's coming out of my mouth right like I share good ass shit but when you have my backwards hat on it's like in the wife meter and on my

jury Lee and shit bitch I look like a fuck boy I look like what the fuck is he about to teach me he's about to talk about getting bitches and shit no like it doesn't negate what's coming out of my mouth because I share really good awareness And I know the skills that I have and the way that I'm able to help people and like completely change their fucking life But I needed the package to match the message if that makes sense So deciding to change my physical appearance to match that also getting in way better shape Allow me to feel more confident to step into working with people one on one. So I didn't look at it like I'm not wearing my hat because other people don't want me

to. I know people would be fine with me wearing my hat. Y'all have been fine with it since the fucking beginning, but in order for me to feel more confident, I did it for myself. I did it for the way that I felt to feel more presentable and to feel better about the package that I'm delivering my information from, if that makes sense. So the couple of changes that I made with stepping into becoming a one-on-one coach, all they were was to help me align with how I wanted to feel to do it. So that's

an example of making changes in support of yourself. But now I want to jump into a couple of questions that you can ask yourself for a sense of certainty if you want to make a change. Because a lot of people would be like, no Leo, you didn't have to stop wearing your hat to like, so fucking stupid. Oh my God. Like a lot of people would be like,

no Leo, you don't have to change yourself. You don't have to stop wearing your hat. We upset, we upset you, we support you, we love you. Like everybody would be supportive. They wouldn't want me to change myself for what I wanted to do, but I felt more confident by changing things. So I get that you guys would accept me,

and thank you, I appreciate that a lot, but in order for me to feel more confident doing what I wanted to do, I made the changes that allowed me to feel that, because looking like a fuckboy on TikTok and looking like a fuckboy in my videos Was like not cutting it like I just felt a little bit insecure about Trying to be taken seriously when I don't look like I take myself seriously that makes sense Okay, so for the questions my first one is

The why do you want to change something? What's the ultimate goal behind making a certain change? What's it gonna accomplish? So if you want a new body, if you want more money, if you want a new wardrobe, what are these things going to accomplish for you? Like what's the true motive and the true goal behind them? If it's in line with what you want, you know it's the right decision to make.

Do you feel like the new change will help you feel represented better? Do you feel like the change will represent what you feel inside and what you want inside? Do you feel like it's going to be an external representation? Do you feel like it will be more accurate? That's a go way to figure out if you should change something or not. The next thing is will it make you feel more comfortable? Like will changing whatever it is that you want to change make you feel more comfortable with who you are and what you want to do. If you realize that you want to change

something so that you can be more accepted, that's a tricky thing to navigate. It's like the acceptance thing you want people to like you. It's like that is where I'd say watch it. But if you see that making a change will make you feel like a better version of yourself make it. That's the change to fucking make. But you have to get very clear on your why. Why you want to change? Start and shoot. Like what what is the real motive behind why you want to change it? Is it going to make you feel more comfortable or not? Are you doing it for acceptance or are you doing it to help you turn into the most ultimate version of yourself that you want to become? Does it feel like the change you're going to make is more you or more of like a facade or a

fake representation so people like you? So the next question is kind of like the thing with my hat. Will making this certain change make me feel more confident? Whether it's in what I'm doing or how I am and who I am and how I present, just will it make me more confident? Yes or no? Because if it's yes, then that's the decision to make. But also look at that with the why? Why will it make you feel more confident? Is it the facade thing? Like I feel like people will like this better. So I'm more confident in the image that I'm putting up or am I going to be more confident in the actual image of who I am. Okay so my last question is what made me shave my fucking head. Alright so is the change you want to make gonna

make things more convenient for you? Because girl I can't tell you how much easier it is not a shave my fucking head but shaving my head let me take you to the decision making process that I went through. Okay? Because I was literally standing in my fucking bathroom with the shave room I hand and I was like, should I? But I literally decided within like 20 minutes. I had thought it through. I'm very strategic.

I'm very calculated. I don't make any rash decision. But my ability to make decisions has sped up a lot. So when I had the first thought I was like should I shave my fucking head? I was looking at the pros and cons. I had just moved to Houston and I was gonna have to start looking for a new barber. And I was like I really don't want to try and find a new barber because I'm very picky with who touches my mother fucking head. Alright, I'm very picky about haircuts because if you fuck my hair up, you fuck me up. It will ruin you to have a bad haircut. So I was like kind of having to look for a new barber and I was like shit.

And then I was like trying to save money. When I first moved here, I was like, tight on money, I was worried I was concerned. I was like, that's 50 bucks a week that I'd be saving if I just shaved my shit. So I also looked at, I'm doing one-on-one calls now, so I'm gonna have to make a break, like during one day for like two hours to go get my fucking haircut. So I was like, all right, it's gonna save me money

to shave my own head. It's gonna save me time, two hours once a week, cause I would get my haircut once a week. I'm very anal about it. Okay, shave my own shit once a week. And then I also looked at, it will make me look more clean cut, cause bitch, my hairline is fucking taken off running. So when I had my long hair, I was so insecure about my hairline and like the way that it looked in TikTok. And that's a big reason why I

wore hats all the time. It's because I don't like to hear people's little fucking rat mouths. You think I don't see my hairline bitch. You think I don't fucking see it You're dumb you're a fucking bozo. It's like telling me that my skin is white. No shit girl I fucking see it my eyes are brown Buh like what the fuck? Yeah, I don't understand when people like point shit out like I don't fucking notice it already girl I'm aware that my hairline's fucked up But what y'all aren't fucking aware of and y'all little rats running your fucking mouth is I Started losing my hair at 21 because of what I was going through.

A normal person does not start losing their hair at 21. What I was going through put my body under such an extreme amount of stress. It started to deteriorate. One of the things was my hair. There was a lot of things that were fucking up with me. When you are in an extreme level of stress, your body's gonna break the fuck down. It cannot withstand it.

So what I was going through, you all have no fucking clue and you would crumble under what the fuck I went through. So you wanna talk shit about my hairline? Go ahead. You couldn't handle what I went through, so I don't give a fuck. Like I literally don't give a shit about my hairline,

like whatever, I'd like to have full hair, but I'm like, I don't, really so I don't give a fuck like I literally don't give a shit about my hairline Like whatever I'd like to have full hair, but I'm like, I don't really I don't give a fuck like it's just like who gives a shit Like literally who cares who actually cares. It's not that big of a fucking deal. I'm 24. I got receiving hair Whatever bitch who cares like there's worse shit going on in the world. I'm six foot seven I have muscles. I'm kind of cute. I have nice teeth. What the fuck? Who cares about my hairline? Literally is fleece to my worries. But shaving my head solved the problem a little bit. Like it made me more confident to just shave my fucking head than to look like I'm trying to like hold on to my hair. You know? So that also went into my decision to shave it. Also it looks a lot more clean cut. It's very, very like fitting. Like, I love it.

I feel like it looks more like me. It has like that edge to it that I have to like my personality. I feel like this hair represents me more and feels like more accurate than my long-fucking hair. I feel like I just look very like immature and messy like because I would do my hair messy because I'm trying to hide my motherfucker forehead.

It's big as it is. And then the hairirlines are receiving Ah, but also waking up in the morning and having to do like one-on-one calls Having to do my fucking hair and make sure it looked okay. It's very inconvenient Now I can literally wake up out of fucking bed and my hair looks fine. It looks totally normal I might have a piece of land but I'll get it out and then I'm ready to go like it's just very convenient for me to shave my head So you just heard all of the reasons why I shaved my head So I decided to fucking do it and also it grows back girl like I'll be just fine

Like if I hated it I would have just grown it back out and been like whatever But there was so many upsides to me shaving my head that I was like Fuck it, we're doing it. And I just fucking buzzed it at home and I buzzed every week So that's where I say ask yourself if the change that you want to make is going to make things more convenient. Like it's so much more convenient for me to just buzz my damn head. To try and like go through all the hassle, like fuck it, you heard it all, I'm really okay bitch. I'm not trying to go through all that. I'm fucking busy. I have too much shit to do to be worried about some fucking hair. Alright.

Okay, now I want to hit on style for a second, because a lot of people are confused about their style and a lot of y'all are like what the fuck when it comes to mind, because I only wear black and y'all know that black and gold. I've tried to change my style so many times. I have dressed in all black since 12th grade senior year of high school, like I was like 17 when I started wearing black because it just felt more comfortable it felt more me it felt more like I don't know how to explain it I just feel like myself when I have my little black Timberlands on and my black clothes and my gold Julie

I just feel bleep okay, but also my family wears all black like all the cars we have are all black It's like black is just our fucking thing. We're all bayonin too So it's like it's just fitting. It just looks good. It just feels the most me But I know how I've always wanted to dress. Okay I One didn't feel confident in my body a long time ago like I would wear t-shirts instead of like wife-beaters But I knew how I wanted to look and I tried so many times to wear color I've had so many people try and force me to wear color. And I've tried it.

And every time I put on anything other than black, I feel uncomfortable. Like, it might look good, but it does not feel right. Like, something just feels off. One, I can't fucking spill anything. I have to like watch what I do. It's like, girl, fuck that.

It's too much of a headache. It's convenient to wear black. One, two, it just feels like more of me. And three, like trying to go change my whole fucking wardrobe to incorporate color, like I like when people wear color. I can appreciate it on other people, but black is just it bitch. It's just me. Like I can't describe it. Like I just feel so off, uncomfortable. I don't feel confident when I'm wearing anything other than black. Like it's just, I'm really okay. I'll just do my own goddamn thing.

But my point of bringing this up is I tried so many times to dress to appeal to others. Like I see other people with cute outfits. So I'd buy colored shit and I never fucking wear it because it just feels weird. And anytime I would wear it, I just didn't like it. I've tried so hard to appeal to other people and I just, I'm no longer

willing to appeal to others by making myself uncomfortable. Like if you don't like the way that I dress, I don't give a fuck. I feel more comfortable. I know I look cool. I know I look good. Fuck you. But go ahead with your little fucking colored shit. I don't mind. I don't give a fuck that you wear color. So you shouldn't give a fuck that I wear black. Mind your goddamn business. But my whole point is you know what you feel most confident in. So wear it. Stop trying to look a certain way. I don't dress like with the trends or I don't buy shit because it's trendy. I buy shit because I like it.

And I keep in mind, what am I gonna feel comfortable in? Because I'll be fucked if I spend any more money in this life. On some fucking clothes, I spend any more money in this life on some fucking clothes I don't feel confident in like I've wasted so much money and so much time trying to change my style Literally just fucking wear what you know you like not because other people like it But because it feels like an accurate representation of yourself What do you feel most confident in and then wear that? And if it feels more confident to change your style into something that's more like representative

of what you feel like inside, do it. And don't feel sorry for it, but that's the whole thing is dress the way that feels accurate to you and makes you feel confident. Don't dress to what other people like. Cause I don't wear a lot of shit that normal people wear. I just don't like it. One more thing I wanna bring up about like changing things,

especially with style, is there is a difference between something being uncomfortable because it's something new and something being uncomfortable because it's just fucking uncomfortable and it feels wrong. So anytime you switch your style, you're gonna feel uncomfortable. It's gonna be new. Like you're gonna feel uncomfortable. It's gonna be new Like you're gonna feel confident in it, but it's gonna feel a little off because it's different to what you're used to

So just pay attention to does it feel weird because it's new or does it feel weird because it feels wrong and it makes you less confident There's two different feeling states, but pay attention to that and if you wear something for a certain period of time And you still feel really uncomfortable It's probably not because it's just new anymore. So you know what's like a good idea to change it to what would make you feel more confident, you know. So now let's jump into what would Leo do. That's where you guys write in and ask for advice and I give you like what I would do in your situation and I also give you kind of advice on like how to handle it. But these are all gonna be about wanting to change yourself. Like it's fitting for the episode. But I do wanna let you guys know,

if you want to be featured in what would Leo do, I'm gonna leave a link in the description of where you can go and fill out like your submission. It's gonna be completely anonymous, but I was having you guys DM me on Instagram, but like the shit's just too overwhelming. I needed all in one place. So I'm gonna put a link in the description

and where you can submit your situation if what would Leo do. So our first situation is a girl who wants to get plastic surgery. She wants to get her boobs done. So I love plastic surgery. I'm all for like changing and altering shit, but be careful, God damn it.

But she wants to get her boobs done, but she's hesitating. And she wants like help kind of like weeding out how to stop hesitating and how to know if she only wants her boobs done because Guys like big boobs or because she wants big boobs So what I would do in your situation is ask myself first do I want bigger boobs is getting bigger boobs Gonna make you feel more confident in your own body like if you sit there and you visualize like having bigger tits Like are you gonna feel more confident? Like yeah, are you gonna feel better

about being in your own body? Just if no one's around. If no one is around you, are you just gonna feel more confident with bigger boobs? Cause that's gonna weed out like, yeah, I'll feel more confident because guys will look at me. Pretend no one's around.

Would you still feel more confident in your body if your brisket is with bigger? I do wanna reassure you that it's okay to have small boobs. It's totally fine to have like normal boobs. I want to make sure you know that's not weird. Like I want to give you that reassurance. But you're allowed to want to change them. If you're allowed to want smaller boobs or bigger boobs, like you're totally allowed to want either. And like the trends are going to come and go. So like big boobs in a BBL was like the thing to have in like 2016. Now it's to look like fucking Bella Hadid with like a tiny waist, a decent ass and like little tits. Like the trends are going to come and go. So I want you to make a decision based off of what's going to make you feel more confident

in your own body and not what would make you more appealing to others. Like having bigger tits is going to make you more appealing to certain men Like having bigger tits is gonna make you more appealing to certain men, which is like a plus, but that's not the reason that you get them, unless they're paying for them. The next thing I would look at is why you want them. Like is there any personal reason that you want bigger boobs?

That I hope you kinda like make the decision, but also you can always get them smaller. Like if you get your boobs done and you don't like it, you can always reverse it. You can always get smaller boobs. Like I mean, you're gonna have to go back into surgery, which sucks and it's always a risk going under anesthesia. But it's not like a life or death fucking thing.

Okay, like you can get them smaller, you can get them bigger. Like you can flip it back and forth, but just base your decision off of what you want and what would make you feel you want and what would make you feel more confident and what would make you feel more comfortable. But the biggest point I want to make with plastic surgery to anyone who's considering anything. Plastic surgery is the number one place you do not take a chance with your fucking body.

Do not try and find a fucking deal. Do not try and coupon. Bitch, cough it up, pay the fucking money for the good surgeon, for the good doctor, for the good shit. Alright, that's the one thing that I never skimp on. Is food and plastic surgery or anything like you're gonna alter your body. Do not buy the cheap shit. Do not try and find no fucking coupon. Suck it up, save the extra money, and go fucking get it done right. One, so you don't fuck your body up, and two, for your own safety. Because there's a lot of fucking horror stories

about people getting infections and having shit fucked up or having booze be crooked. Like, you don't want to fuck anything up with your body because something might be irreparable. So just remember me saying your body is the number one place you do not take a fucking chance trying to save money. Now coupon as much as you want with other shit. Clothes, wanting to get alcohol cheaper, like drinking in the car before you go to the bar, fine. I do that. But do not skimp when it comes to plastic surgery.

Do your fucking research, find the good doctors, and go to them. Trust me. It's for your own peace of mind, and also increasing your chances of better results. And also your safety, like it's the biggest thing So the next person asked How can I be more decisive when I'm shopping for clothes? You mentioned your style and your confident with it and what you wear even if it's not trendy

How do I find my style? I'm gonna take you through my decision making process for when I'm buying shit Because I told you I've made a lot of mistakes and I've wasted a lot of fucking money. But like I said before, you wanna buy shit? That makes you feel more confident and that makes you feel more you. But a couple of the questions that I wrote for like what I go through mentally when I'm trying to decide to buy something or not buy it

is will it take effort for me to wear it? Like if I'm looking at a certain shirt or like a bag or some shoes, will it take effort for me to wear it. Like if I'm looking at a certain shirt or like a bag or some shoes, will it take effort for me to have to style this thing or wear this thing? I'm someone that operates kind of like a uniform. I got wife meters, I got black tees, I got black jeans, black sweatpants, and black shoes. I do have a pair of white shoes

that I've been wearing recently. But they're very easy to style. So look at with something that you're considering buying. Is it easy to style? Is it something that you already wear? Like, will it replace something that you already used daily? Will it take like a lot of effort for you to fucking like incorporate it into what you're wearing? Don't buy it. Because if it takes effort to wear it, yangel fucking wear it. It's gonna sit in a goddamn closet. Trust me. I have so much shit in my closet that I do not fucking wear

because it's too hard to style. I need things I can just throw and go and just know that they're gonna look good. That's another benefit of only wearing black is it fucking matches. I can put on anything in my closet and if I can match it, it works. And I'm gonna give you an example

of trying to replace something that you already wear. Let me go grab these fucking bags because I'm gonna tell you the mistake that I made and how you can avoid it. If you're listening to the audio version of this and you're not watching it on YouTube, bitch come to YouTube. But you're not going to understand but I'm going to try and describe it. So I'm holding up a black bag, a black messenger bag with a golden madoosa head on it. It's a low Versace bag. This fucking bag is my favorite bag. I wear it

constantly. I love it the best. I had an itch to get a new bag for whatever fucking reason. I have a fetish for bags, I just wanted to buy a new bag. So I was trying to go through my decision to make your process of like Leo, what can it replace? Like I wear this non-stop, so I wanna get something that I can grab as easily as I grab this cause it goes at fucking everything, it's cute, if it's my gun, like it's the perfect fucking bag.

So I was like, all right, if I'm gonna buy a bag It's gonna be something that I can use to like alternate this out with like as effortlessly as I could just grab this and go I want my other bag to be like that Now I'm gonna show you the bag that I bought and when I show it to you shut the fuck up. Don't fucking be mean For those of you on the audio version, I'm holding up a white Versace bag. It's like the same shape, it's a little bit bigger than the black one, but it's the same fucking thing as the black one.

But it's just white leather instead of black. Like it's a white messenger bag. Okay? Now, the shape, everything, fine. If this bag was black, I would wear it all the fucking time. But I decided I wanted to try something new and like go out of my style a little bit I wore this bag one fucking time. I don't wear this because it's not me like Don't waste your fucking time trying to be different because what do I use now bitch?

This still I don't fucking use this. I'm gonna list this for sale soon Like it's literally like basically brand fucking. I used it one time I didn't set it down nowhere like it was just on my body this is the prime example of how you can still fuck up and don't do it like just listen to me trust me if you know you have something that you like just fucking stick with it unless you have something that is like you love it and you can't leave the fucking store without it, do not buy it. Because like I said, this is something like

that I thought I could alternate with that, but when the fuck do I wear white? This was a lapse in judgment for me. Okay. And like I said, I've worn it once. So it was a fucking like, waste. Like I did teach me how to be more decisive and like solidify that I need to be fucking picky with like,

what I wear and like, what I know I won't wear. But like, in the moment, I was so excited about this, I loved it so much. But then I'm like, trying to style it and it's taking a lot of effort to style it. And when I put on an outfit, when I put on the black one, it just feels more me. It just like fits, it looks better.

Like, but when I put this on I have not found an outfit where this looks better than the black one. So It just pisses me the fuck off that I even bought it. I'm upset about it and I'm gonna fucking sell it All right, but just learn from me and my mistake and buy shit that's easy for you to style something that already goes into your wardrobe Now if I wore a lot of white, I'm sure it would be cute. I don't wear white. My desk is white and that's it. So our next situation is someone wrote in and asked basically they put like a long description, but I'm just going to sum it up. They basically asked, how do I get people to think that I'm cool? And I kind of went through this. Like

I told you guys, I've changed everything about myself as many times you could think of to get people to like me. But if you want to look more cool, what I would do is switch my focus from trying to look cool and put my effort into trying to be cool. Like don't waste your time trying to look cool because you're going to feel in posture syndrome. You're going to feel like a fucking wacko. You're going to feel like fake and people will be able to feel it. people can tell when you're trying and when you're like faking it But don't try to look cool, try to be cool And the way that you can be cool is by doing cool shit Like do interesting things, spend time doing interesting things, do fun things, do fun shit

And the biggest thing with being cool is don't go with the flow Just because it's what everybody else does Don't do shit that everybody else is doing do things that you want to do if it happens to be things that other people do Do it but don't only do things just because other people do them like check in with yourself with what you like and what you Want to do and then do that also because this is what we'll draw people to you It will make them want to be around you, spend time with them, they'll look at you like,

oh my god, the coolest fucking person ever, they're doing all this shit. Like people don't have the balls usually to go outside the box and do what they wanna do. So for you to go do what you wanna do and be confident in it and fucking do it because you enjoy it, people are gonna be envious and they're gonna like it and it's gonna make you seem a lot more cool

because you are gonna be cool. You're doing what you fucking like, even if other it and it's gonna make you seem a lot more cool because you are gonna be cool You're doing what you fucking like even if other people think it's fucking weird But doing what everybody else does is like not cool the only people who are gonna think that you're cool If you're doing normal shit is other people who do normal shit like actual cool people Don't think that normal Joe Shmo asked people are. The only people that are gonna think you're cool if you do Joe Shmoa shit are Joe Shmoa's like that's not actually being cool. That's looking cool to people but it's not actually being cool. Is this making sense? And the other way I kind of look at this is like if I think something is lame I'm not gonna do it but I don't look

at things like oh that's what people think is lame so I'm not gonna do it. I don't not do things that I want that's what people think is lame. So I'm not gonna do it I don't not do things that I want to do because other people will think that they're lame if I want to do something I'll fucking do it like I roller skate like I grew up roller skating like with little quads like little like look What's the skate with the four? That's quads like the four wheels like one two three four and like you just like skate around I grew up skating and I fucking always loved it But I thought it was weird for like my big ass to go around skating and then I met a friend who also likes to skate So like me and her used to go skate around town and shit and it's like it's just so much fun It's all exercise fine good time put on a little music But other people would look at that and be like oh that's fucking lame

But I don't give shit like I think it's fun. I like it so I do it But if you think skating is lame or you're just not interested in it, then don't do it. But don't do things just because you're scared they might look lame to other people. Do it regardless if you want to do it. Like I want to go to a trampoline park. So bad! Like the indoor buildings with like all the trampolines, it's like for kids and shit. I love shit like that. Like I want to go play on a fucking trampoline so bad. Like I'm trying to like yell at my friends like, hey can we go?

Like I'm not gonna go alone. Like I'm gonna make them go with me. Cause I'm gonna eat them up with the flips and shit. Cause I can do flips, the fuck. So like I'm so excited to go do that. But other people will look at that and be like, that's fucking lame. And I look at it like, no it's fun.

Like I get why it would be perceived as lame. It's a little weird, but I wanna fucking do it. And the biggest thing with looking cool and like being cool is doing shit regardless of what other people think like having a different opinion is Cool Having something that you like and then doing it regardless is cool as fuck people wish that they could do that People are so driven by society and being accepted and all that shit It's like they're gonna look at you like

You're over here fucking skating you fucking loser It's like, they're gonna look at you like, you're over here fucking skating, you fucking loser, but like inside they're gonna be like, oh, I wish I had the balls to like, go do something that I wanted to do. You see? Also, if there's a conversation going on or you're in a conversation and it's lame as fuck or you're bored, like walk away,

like just literally leave it. And I'm not saying like if it's a one-on-one conversation, like switch the conversation to something more like enjoyable. But if you're in a conversation with multiple people and it's boring, fucking walk out of it, like walk away from it. Don't just sit there and like, be bored as shit in a conversation just to look like you're in conversation. Like, go find something more important to do. Go have fun. What the hell? Like, if I'm at a party or something and people are boring, I'll walk away.

Like, I'm gonna go find some fun. I'll go be the fun if I have to go be the fun. But I don't play around with like lame shit. Like, if I'm in away. Like I'm gonna go find some fun. I'll go be the fun if I have to go be the fun. But I don't play around with like lame shit. Like if I'm in a conversation and I'm like bored, I'm not gonna hang out in it. And like if it's a one on one thing, I'm just gonna like change the topic. Like very sly and very like slick to be something that I actually like to talk about

or like I'm interested by. And this will give you the allure of like you care about your time and people will respect that. It's like when you go to a party or an after party or some shit and you know into call it a fucking night or like you go out and it gets like boring you know into call it a fucking night and leave. People are gonna know you don't like doing shit just for the like fact of doing it. Like you have to be stimulated you have to have fun it has to be enjoyable or you're not doing it. That is cool. That's cool as fuck. It's people who know what to call it a night because I hate going out with people

who are like parting and someone's kitchen at like 5 a.m. No, I don't do that no more. When I was going to fuck through it, that was me. No more bitch. If it's not fun, I'm leaving. If it's boring, I'm not there. I'm gonna go be the fun. But the biggest thing with that is like people are gonna respect you and respect your time because they know you're not going to hang out with something that's not like fun for you that you don't like. That is going to make people think you're cool as fuck and that's what's actually going to make you cool. If you like this podcast episode leave this video a thumbs up. Leave me a comment too on this video about anything that you learned from it or anything you liked

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