BEING HER with Margarita Nazarenko - 106: The Art of Being Chosen: 20 Feminine Secrets That Make Men Step Up.

Episode Date: March 30, 2025

There’s a reason some women are unforgettable. In this video, I’m sharing 19 feminine habits that instantly shift how men see you—from “just a girl” to the one they admire, cherish, and deeply value.These aren’t surface-level tips. They’re rooted in confidence, self-worth, and the kind of energy that makes you stand out without trying too hard. Whether you’re navigating modern dating or deepening a relationship, these habits will elevate the way men treat you.Inside, you’ll learn how to:– Carry yourself with quiet power– Communicate in a way that inspires effort– Embody the energy of a high-value woman, without saying a word✨ Want to dive deeper into your feminine energy? Explore my courses & community here: www.margaritanazarenko.comLove you lots like jelly tots,XX MargaritaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

How do I keep the human. Good afternoon, good morning, and good night. I am here in the car, and today is going to be a little bit of a whispering podcast. Because my son is asleep in the back. Today he had an Easter show, and he's fallen asleep. And the reason I'm risking him waking up is not because I'm a deviant person, but it is because, and an evil person, but it's because, as you know, if you're a mum, if they sleep all day, they won't sleep all night, and he'd not sleep all night.

Anyway, we move. Today is 20 practical things. to create respect, desire, prioritization from that man in your life, and all those good things. Okay, so 20 feminine habits that make him value you deeply. Okay, so let us begin. And this is going to be a quake fire one, so buckle in, buckle in. Number one, remain calm when he pushes for an emotional reaction. What you don't understand is a lot of femininity is to do with emotionality, flow, and feminine energy.

A lot of men do things, whether or the... those things be bad or good or whatever is to get an emotional reaction. That's why I say have an amazingly emotional reaction when he does amazing things and a very non-reaction when he does things that you don't like. Why? Because you're going to get more of the things that cause an emotional reaction. You want jewelry or react emotionally when he gives you some. You don't want him to always go out and, you know, prioritize the boys. Don't react emotionally because sometimes men feel important to you when what ladies when what when they feel that you reacted emotionally that is what matters men often subconsciously test boundaries and push buttons to gouge an emotional reaction from

you that is how they feel important to you calmness and self value and emotional independence is rooted in what makes you valuable to him because he knows you are valuable to yourself okay number two say no to last minute plans this is another practical thing all last minute plans say no husband, no husband, boyfriend, whatever. Why it works? Scarcity increases value in you, in a handbag, in a car. Anytime people want to make something valuable, they have to have scarcity. If there's lots of it on the shelf, people don't want it. Whether it be an apple, whatever it might be, scarcity increases value. This teaches him that you have a full life and he needs to slot into your life when he can. Waiting around for you and when you are good already creates a scarcity effect.

If you're always there and ready to go, my love, no matter how much he loves you, you are going to become boring. Number three, respond and don't react. By the way, I'm looking down here because I've got them all noted on my phone. I didn't come unprepared. Number three, respond, don't react. This, you need to get it through a beautiful brain. Responding and reacting. Reacting is just willy-nilly.

It's all over the place. You're just reactive. You're reactionary. whilst responding is thought through and careful. Emotional regulation is sexy. Feminine energy can be warm without being chaotic. This helps a man trust you in deeper intimacy. When you are not chaotic and always reactionary to everything he does,

this is when a man properly bonds to you. It's backed by science that he can bond with vasopressin when he can see that you are, and I hate this, teammate, a teammate. Like, you are not just going to love. lose your shit at him at every turn. Okay. So you respond as in like you don't turn a blind eye to what he does, but you don't react and fly and throw out the baby with the bathwater. Number four, this is golden. Golden. Mirror his effort, not his words. People can say anything, okay? And because

you're listening with your female ears, you're not understanding that that doesn't mean anything in the world of man, okay? Match his effort, helps create a connection and avoids anxious over functioning on your half. You as a woman, us all as women, we over function with anxiety. We do a lot for him because he said he loves us. We do a lot for him because he said he's the one or whatever. No, no, no, no, no. Match what he does with your actions. He's there for you, you're there for him. He prioritizes you, you prioritize him, not what he says. Number five, keep your life full and nourishing without him. Autonomy increases attraction from him when he can see you as another entity that is incredible in itself and its entirety, he is more likely to want to be a part of that.

Self-expansion theory shows people are attracted to those who have their own growth and stimulation of their own desires and life. You cannot be wanting to enter the world of someone who has known life. You know that from your own self. Six, don't sleep with him until there's emotional safety. Men will try their best until they get what they want. They will only meet the standard of what it is that is required until they get what they want and that is the standard that they'll stay in. What do most men want? Yes, ladies, to sleep with you. And I don't mean that in a bad way. That is just the objective. Okay, let's be realistic. You're attractive. He wants to sleep with you. Then he builds emotional bonds with you perhaps. So he will do whatever is required for him to get to that

goal. And once he gets there, that is the plateau that he will meet. Why would he go above and beyond that if he's already met his intention? Okay. Delaying gratification increases value. And Men bond through investment, so make him work for it. The more he invests, the better it is for you. I know it sounds harsh, but it's better. Invest time, effort, energy, whatever it is you want. Seven, praise him when he shows up as a man. Positive reinforcement is more powerful than criticism.

What was that? Positive reinforcement. Kara is more powerful than the stick. Men crave respect and appreciation. Men crave respect and appreciation. The more you can give that to him, he cannot get that in the outside well. It's very rare and far between in the outside world right now, okay? if you can give that to him, you can be the master of his heart. How cheesy is that?

Number eight, keep a little mystery, why it works. Dopamine loves anticipation. If he knows everything at once, there's no intrigue left. Feminine energy is alluring and not oversharing. Stop talking about your toilet habits. Stop talking about what happened to you and why it happened and how you feel. And when you were looking at the moon, you thought it was a bit angular, but also it was kind of hanging at an angle and it was kind of like under the cloud. And you thought about your mom when you stop it. Have a little mystery. Things you don't say are way more intriguing. Number nine, don't chase, let him come to you, why it works. Polarity is a principle.

You cannot be going towards him and him be going towards you. You would crash. There needs to be a minus pull and a forward pull. The masculine wants to be the plus, the pursuer, the son, the chaser, and the feminine wants to be the chaste. How do you do that? You need to back up. Keep it backing up, okay?

Number 10. Detach from outcomes and focus on how you feel around him. Stop thinking about, is he going to be my husband, is he going to be this one? going to be that one and plotting and planning and plotting and planning because that's what we do as women instead keep yourself grounded in the now does he make you feel happy in the moment if yes pursue that if not move on and men are very very good at seeing if a woman is like plotting all these things about him and they honestly kind of detach your women like that because they see it's not actually about him 11 hold boundaries with kindness clear boundaries signal signal self-respect research shows

people admire and trust those in her force their values calmly if you are screaming at people if you're going ballistic if you have to hit him with the baseball bat over the head with your boundaries those are not boundaries those are forced and not something that can be sustainable the calmer the kinder you are the more appealing you will be 12 if he goes cold don't try to re-ignite the flame go colder he turns down the temperature you turn it lower okay He turns up the temperature. You meet him where the temperature is. It disrupts the dynamic if you keep trying to turn up the heat when heat keeps turning it down. Chasing after emotional unavailability reinforces that unavailability.

What, Margarita? Chasing after he's emotionally unavailable reinforces and says, yes, well done, do that again, to emotional unavailability. Pulling back mirrors his behavior and forces him to reassess. He pulls back, you pull back. What does he get for pulling back? You pulling back. No rewards here, sir.

No, not today. 13. Don't over-explain yourself excessively. Overexpaining stems from anxiety and desire to be understood. A confident woman doesn't need to be gotten by everyone. She doesn't need to be loved by everyone. She doesn't need to be liked by everyone. She doesn't need to be everyone's best friend.

That is not what she needs. No sir, no, ma'am. Don't over-explain excessively. That adds to your mystery. 14. Value yourself first. Even in micro moments, this was hard for me to do, baby. This was hard for me to do because I don't like.

to do it. It makes me feel uncomfortable. Micro self abandonments add up. Showing a man you value yourself. Even the tone and posture sets a precedent of how you're going to act. Always going for the meal he wants, always doing the thing he wants to do, always staying up an hour later, always putting it first in micro micro moments adds up. You were going to get your nails done. He said he can meet you now, you met him, micro moment. He can see it, he can smell it. It's not good for you or for him. 15 speak in desires, not in demands. Saying, I love, I love. when you triggers for him to do it again. Feminine requests appeals to his protector and provider instinct as opposed to a demand, you never, no, no, no, no, like a mum. Don't be his mom.

16. Say, I'll think about it when unsure, not yes, to be liked. I think about it. I know someone who always says this, and it used to drive me insane because it's such a high value state's this thing to say and I'm like, excuse me, who do you think you are? But when someone offers something, don't always jump to a yes. Say, yeah, I think about it. I'll consider it. That means you consider your time as really, really valuable. And you might see if you can slot them in. 17. Be warm and not eager. Warm is feminine. Eagerness is a little anxious attachment, subtle over-enthusiasm. A subtle warmth is way better than, oh my God, I'm so excited. You're not a doggy. You're a catty. You're a soft, amazing.

catty. Feline energy, okay? 18, give him space for him to miss you. If you're always in his George Foreman, he cannot miss you. Absence increases emotional presence. What? Absence increases for men? Emotional presence, opposite than it is for us. Men process emotions slower and often feel the impact after you pull back. In that moment, when you're having that conversation with him, he's not feeling emotion. He'll feel emotion after you exit your fine self out of there. 19. Stay in feminine even when triggered. Feminine isn't weakness. It's power under control. Maintaining grace. Even when stress arise. Yes, you can cry. Yes, you can do whatever you want.

Express your emotion. But again, you are not reactive. Okay. 20. Walk away. If you're being, if you're not being treated, walk away. If he's being abusive, walk away. If you don't like it, walk away, walk away. nothing signals value more than removing yourself, aka you, the prize, from the situation, if you do not like it. Those are 20 golden rules of practical principles, mouthful, of how you're going to be in your feminine energy and be the most high-value thing to yourself, most importantly, because I see when you say, well, we talk about men, don't we want to decenter them? This is exactly what this is for. We're decentering those men. I'm going to get my son I'm going to take him upstairs

I'm going to give him dinner I'll see you on the next one love you lots like joie tots bye