BEING HER with Margarita Nazarenko - 112: What I’ve done to change how I look and feel

Episode Date: May 11, 2025

do my make up with me mixed with my habits that have changed my life… oh and a Q&A. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Hello, it's going to be an interesting one. I'm thinking of a different format for this podcast in terms of we are going to have our usual dynamic conversation, but also we are going to do a weekly Q&A segment, maybe, a more chatty one. And the reason I haven't done that in the past is because I've always felt like I want to deliver something for you that's going to really land on YouTube. That's like dynamic. It's out there. it's, you know, it lands as 10 points. You can't, you know, you can't get bored watching it.

But at the same time, you know what? I miss just having a conversation with human beings. And that's what I'm talking about. So at the moment, I am literally going to sit in my car and I've got a Q&A going on my Instagram. And I am going to do my makeup because I've got a meeting coming up right now. And I'm going to start this by saying a couple of habits that I've done to. change the game for myself recently. As you can see, my hair is blowdried. It is blowdried. If you're

watching this on YouTube, if you're listening, this is going to be like having a voice note from your best friend. What I have done recently, it's not revolutionary or anything. And by do my makeup, I am going to do it and I'm going to say what it is. So if you're listening, it doesn't matter. I am not some kind of makeup of aficionado. Also, I have burnt my lips off using a lip product, which I think it is. I'm not going to say who it is. yet in case I've got it wrong, but I have been using a lip balm by a certain brand, okay, and I didn't realize it was that. I've gone on to antibiotics because I thought of some kind of viral thing,

then I thought it was something else, and now I've realized it's a damn lip balm, barm. And anyway, ambery saffron perfume by dosia is the thing that I wear. That makes people go, oh my God, what do you smell of? What do you smell of? and it also doesn't set off my, ever since I've had babies, I've had this feeling of like, I don't want fragrance on me. I don't know if they've got fragrance in them. I don't know what's going on, but it is what it is. I've just put on some basic nivia balm. Also, I went into the store today and what I got was this combo, a little lip combo as it were, because I'm

obsessed with my lip combos. I said, I want it clean. I want it efficient. I want it amazing. And what they gave me was this combination of these two. They gave me Ilya for the lip liner. I've done some research. They don't have the ingredients that the brand that I think set me off has. And I've got a lip liner by Ilya. The color is genre, G-E-N-R-E.

And then West Minotilia is the most beautiful, beautiful brand. I have ever come across in my whole laugh, ladies and gentlemen. It's just using them feels like the most pleasurable experience and I've got the colour petal in a lip gloss which is called damn clean lip gloss or something. I am also going to have this conversation with you. Then I've got a brow appointment and then I might come back and finish having this conversation. So let's answer a question. How do you redeem yourself after being desperate after a breakup? Listen, the whole idea that you have to redeem yourself is the problem. Why would you, why on earth would you, in front of whom?

In front of yourself, I suppose, is the question, in front of yourself, you'd have to redeem yourself? The way you start to trust yourself again is by putting yourself first. I'm putting on some Mabody and fit me and concealer under my eyes briefly. And on a blemish or two, because I have recently got new N IUD, which has progester in it. I suppose it is making my skin freak out. Anyway, that was a whole conversation that happened on my channel that I regret putting on there because everyone had an opinion about female contraception

and it just like shit hit the fan. And I was not a fan. I was like, get out of my life, girl. Anyway, how do you redeem yourself? The person you've got to redeem yourself in front of is yourself for betraying yourself in those moments when you did. It's not in front of a man. it's like I think the way this question is phrased it is like how do you redeem yourself in front of him

the way you redeem yourself is by putting yourself first often in a breakup we really put ourselves on the back burner and we start to really we neglect ourselves you know I posted this on TikTok recently where I said a woman there's lots of it it happens so often I've just put on a foundation which is the hourglass foundation it's a stick foundation in the color five banish foundation of the color five anyway women put up these posts about how they look during a relationship and then how they look after a relationship and is like night and day i would never be one to like shame a woman for how she looks or anything like that it doesn't matter how you look to me you are a goddess no matter what you do to be honest like the fact that you're human and you're here and you're doing

your best is a miracle in itself but the point being is that these 10 out of 10s objectively speaking you know, with beauty standards. And you know what it is also? It's like you could just tell that they've looked after themselves. They've put their outfit together. Their hair looks lovely. And it's all just lovely. And then they're in a relationship with the wrong type of guy

and shit just hits the fan. It is not, not, not, not nice. And I constantly say that the person who you've got to redeem yourself in front of is yourself. It is not the damn guy. Forget about him. The most selfish women are the most loved women. Good girls never make history. Bad girls always do.

So think about how you look in your own mind's eye, not how you look in front of him, because honestly, it doesn't matter. It doesn't matter. The more you dissent to him, the more happy you will be. Biggest green flag when seeing a man, my biggest green flag on seeing a man is that he's sure about me. I do not like to convince men to be sure about me because if a man feels that he has won with you, he is going to give you a life of unprecedented goodness and amazingness. I'm using the color biscuit in West Minatilia for my, not contour, but just like a little bit of bronzer. Where I'm going and what I'm doing, I do not have to be hugely made up or anything, so

don't you worry, don't you worry? Like the fact that he's sure about you, you see average men move mountains for women that they are into, and I love that because we love men for things that they can do. like we fall in love for their actions. This is the thing that women get wrong a lot is that they try and perform actions because that's how we love. We love because we see how much someone loved us

for the actions that they've done, okay? So he moves mountains, moves to earth for us, and we fall in love with him. We try and do that for a guy, they don't like us anymore, because that's natural. Men love women for being who they are and in their feminine energy

and not performing. As soon as you start performing, that's the action of doing, that's the masculine. How to get dates in real life. life, like how to get approached when to accept. The secret to that, that a lot of people get wrong, is that the woman has to do the choosing. You have to drop the handkerchief, as Matt Hussie says, or somebody else said, I can't remember who it was. You have to let the man know you're interested.

I have never in my life dated a man who first approached me because I don't want the approaches. I don't want the hunters. I don't want those ones who are out there in the club looking for chicks to approach. I want the one who wouldn't do that. You know what I mean? I want the one. I want the one who I chosen and I've looked at him or I've said, excuse me, can you just hold my jacket? I've just got to carry my drinks to the table. Make an excuse for him to help you. Make an excuse for him to help you. In the gym, you don't know how the equipment works.

In the bar, you can't carry all the drinks back. So you need him to help you carry them or to hold your jacket for a minute or to ask a direction. The only way to get a man to meet you is, you see the way I said that, to get a man to meet you. It's like you have to reverse play it, right? The only way to get a man to meet you is through giving him a problem to solve. Nars Deep Throat blush I've just put on. And again, West Minotilla, this kind of like beautiful.

It's almost like, you know, when girls have those wet cheeks? And it looks like just so dewy. Listen, that is the look we're trying to go for. Now we're just going to curl our eyelashes and we're going to call it a day. I'm going to try that lip combo that I have just bought because my lips are so bad and so painful. But I am going outside to meet real humans, you know, and they're going to look at me in my lips and think, what zombie is this? What breed of zombie is this? Yeah.

How do you meet men in the wild? Tired of apps. I would never date on an app. Yuck. Sorry. I'd also brush up my yucky brows. Do you know what? Never say never. I sometimes wish. Oh, the car turned on. I don't wish.

I'm so happy that I don't have to send a man because I have children and a husband. But I'm like, what are you all doing on there? I've got a nanny who tells me about her dating experiences on, and also I've got hundreds of women on my DMs telling me how it is to date. What is going on? what is going on with these like feminine men that you're all dating it is wild i could not do you know why because it really apps really negate a really important aspect of dating and that is the fact that who you would choose for yourself isn't necessarily who is good for you you know what i mean like you're choosing

your twin you're choosing your mirror you're choosing like i like dogs he likes dogs i'm out going we go out together that is not how relationships work sometimes it's this polar i'm opposite entity that enters your world. I just used the Chiatay Wonderland Mascara. And this person enters your world and is completely different to the type of person that you thought would ever enter your orbit, if you know what I mean. And they are just something you have never seen or been around and you know what? They annoy you. My husband annoys me so much or annoyed me in the past. Now we've kind of grown more together.

But oh my God, who even is he? How dare he? Okay, trying out the lip combo. Ilya. Please do not hurt my lips. Okay. Okay, it's nice. Okay.

Okay. We're surviving. It's such a nice color. I actually bought it in the store right now. Not the color that I would usually go for in genre. I got another. lighter color but I already ordered that online last night in my frantic, frantic attempt to get something that is not going to ruin my lips. Okay, look at this lip gloss. Look at this lip gloss in petal

by West Minutilia. Listen, West Minutilia, if you want to be my exclusive makeup sponsor for the rest of my life, I would happily do it because you guys are bum. I'm a high achieving single and I'm often told by men that they're intimidated by me. What they mean when they say intimidated by you is that they feel like they cannot add to your life. Men have this quintessential need. It's why they play video games. It's why they do a lot of the things that they do

in order to somehow feel that they are winning at life, right? Soccer, why are they kicking a ball around and kicking it into a net? We don't understand that. I mean, listen, I'm not straight-tapping a lot of women play sport, but they have this quintessential need to feel like they're winning at something and when he says he's intimidated, it just means I can't offer you anything.

And all that means for you is that you have a lesser dating pool, but it's amazing men that you've got in there, okay? Feminine energy and boundaries and friendships, male and female. Don't believe in male and female friendships. One of you is waiting for the other one to become single. And in female friendships, it's got nothing to do with feminine energy. It's just about friendships, so boundaries are boundaries. Don't do things that are going to make you resentful of the people later. What's my favorite hack to look my best? Oh yes, we digressed my recent things. I have been getting a blow dry

when I need my hair washed and I hardly ever wash it outside of that. So I get about two days of hair that is bouncy and beautiful. I then get hair that is dry shampooed and out. Then I get a day of updo with bits hanging out and then I get a sleek ponytail day. And that is the only way I've grown my hair. Also, I have been going to FU. see H.S. Fuchs hair in here in Senior Australia. He's the only man I trust to do my blonde and his sister but she's recently left. Another hack is laser genesis. I get at all saints in double bay. It's like a laser for rejuvenating your skin. Recently I've stopped breastfeeding so I got some Botox in my forehead. If you're listening to this and you want to see it, then go on my YouTube and check it out because now

She's wrinkle-free. If you want the comparison of how it used to be watched like three videos ago, I didn't have it. I love a bit of baby Botox for prevention. I like to call it Baby Botox just to be cute, you know? What are my other habits? Oh yes, keto diet focusing on fats, so my skin is plump. I am not 20 years old, okay? I need all the fat I can get, okay?

So I don't play around with that. High protein, high-fat diet for breakfast I had. two fried eggs, half an avocado and crispy bacon. I was out. I dropped my son off. That's what I had. That's what we're eating. We don't play around with protein, okay? I need my skin to look plump. I need to look dewy. I need to look beautiful. Next, what else? Intermittent fasting, I don't eat. It's like almost like gentle fasting. I don't eat unless I'm hungry. What are you eating for? Are you growing?

Where are you growing except for sideways? What else have I done? Yeah, that's it. There's some habits. I need to iron out. I need to take magnesium. I need to get my vitamins and check. But those are the things. How to balance showing appreciation not being overly golden retriever energy. Listen, from the theory of golden retriever and black cat is the person who chases and the person who doesn't. Showing appreciation and chasing are not mutually exclusive. You could be somebody who is very much appreciative and still an elusive, chaste, gorgeous, dream girl, black cat, energy vibe, okay?

Showing a man appreciation is the right thing to do because then they feel like they can win at the algorithm that is you, okay? Asking him how he is, checking up on him, following him all the time, doing what he wants, at the demise of you and always crying about it is the golden retriever. What do you thoughts are married men? Currently have one interested in me. I love married men when they're my husband. Or I love a married man for the woman he's married too. So, yeah. How do I stay in my feminine energy when co-parenting with my ex-husband?

Are you asking for your own sake, as in not to stay in a feminine energy so that you don't feel resentful and angry? Or are you asking in order to seduce him? Listen, I am not here to give you just sound advice. I'm here to give you a bit of toxic advice, too. If you want more from him or you want him to do more for the kids and stay in your feminine energy and don't try and fight him because if you fight him, then he'll fight harder and it would just be a disaster. Just use all the tricks I told you. Use everything that you can in order to get what you need. What laser did you use? Any peeling? No, laser genesis is a rejuvenation laser. No peeling, no harsh things.

Married. Was taking my power back and attaching and then got pregnant now. Great. Sorry. That's what happens. because you're so sexy now. How do I get wealthy? As a feminine energy woman you get wealthy by honing into a skill set that you have, completely perfecting it, not thinking long term about the money, going online, talking about it to women who want to learn it, being very generous with teaching them about it, and then creating an offer that they can't help but buy because you've already done so much for them. That's how.

Or you marry someone who's wealthy. Possible to be friends with your ex when you see a slight future with... No, I don't believe in being friends with, especially an ex. How do you de-centre men when you feel pressure to find someone in your late 20s? You decenter men when you feel pressure to find someone in your late 20s by understanding the more you center them, the more that they will run. And the more you become an asset and the more a baddie you are inside and outside, the more they'll come to you. My husband is upset. I'm not comfortable with him hiring an old co-worker I feel anxious about.

He's upset that you don't want him to hire. Just tell him tough tities. Tough tities. Tough tities. Let him be upset. People who are easily upset need to be upset more often. Say, baby, you will get over it. My comfort is more importance.

I'm the woman in the relationship. You can cry in your own time. How did you meet your husband? I met him in the club. in the club. I met him in a bar. Okay, I met him. My friend was working as a person at the event who was taking photos of everyone who was coming in. I saw my husband and he looked like he wasn't interested in the event. I was like, I want that one. I don't want the one who's coming up to the ladies. I want that one who looks uninterested, you know? It's the old female thing of like beauty and the beast. You want the one

who's antisocial. Okay. I was like, I'm going to walk past him and you swoop in with your camera and you be like, hey, can I get a photo of YouTube pretending like you think we're together or you know what I mean like the photographers who we'd ask for photos and um i was like okay sure and then he was like do you want to drink so i orchestrated it but he thinks he did can a marriage be fixed after seven years of nightmare yes depends on the nightmare my love depends on the nightmare how to act secure with a long distance relationship you can act secure long distance short distance close distance far away distance any kind of distance you just choose to act secure it's not about the longevity it's about how you choose to come across. Story behind the name Minky for my daughter, her name is Valentina,

but she gets called Minky. I am somebody who is very avid in random words. I'll be like, hello chicken soup to people for no reason. It's just when I find it adorable. I, so names evolve. Like, my son made up Minky and then it got to Rinky dinky, and then it's gone into all kinds of like derivatives of Minky but I can't remember how Minky started. I can't remember they just evolve you should hear what I call people I'm just yeah how can someone with an anxious attachment learn to feel secure with an avoidant boyfriend if you go into my YouTube channel you click popular content you will see every single way that you can do it but I will tell you this you need to know that you are the leader of this that it is in your hands that if you choose to be

secure. It is a choice. If you choose to act secure, he will follow and be secure. You can't avoid something that is not chasing you. You understand? How can he be avoidant if you are not chasing? You can't avoid something that is not pursuing you. I avoided you by what I'm standing there. I'm not even pursuing you. So that is how the avoidance stops avoiding. Okay? One of the reels you mentioned being less nice and more mean examples of mean. Examples of mean are the classic things that we get taught as women not to do. Say what you want. Say what your preference.

Say where you want to go. Say what you want to do. Tell him no. Be like, I don't like that. Don't do that again. Pound a bit. You know, all those classic things of what we are taught is mean. That's what I mean by mean.

Selfish. Be selfish. Men love a selfish woman. I'm gonna go get my brows done and if I don't see you, just know I love you and let me know if you like this form of content and if I see you.