BEING HER with Margarita Nazarenko - 131: The Ultimate Guide to Confidence

Episode Date: September 21, 2025

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How to keep the human, human, um, can you guys see well? Or just, um, can hear that noise? So, today I'm going to,

today I'm going to talk, today I'm going to do a video about confidence and how to be, how to look, how to be confident. Um, sorry, should we try, should we try again? Hi, today I'm going to do a video about confidence

I'm going to do a video about confidence and how to come across confident. Today I'm going to do a video about to look confident. How to actually look confident. And that before was the opposite of being confident, obviously. But the reason I wanted to make that is because I was doing all the attributes of what makes you not confident. I'm going to tell you what they are now. And I'm going to first preface it with this. On my last video, I did four steps on how to actually be confident,

because the internal process of what you do is the most important thing. How you look was a video offer that I suggested to you. I said we can make a video about how to actually look confident because there's the bodily confidence and then there's their internal. Everybody said, yes, I want to see how to look confident. What should I wear? How should I be? But baby, baby love, it's not about what you wear.

That's a third video if you want to see that because that's a third layer. There is power clothes, there is cute clothes. There is all kinds of things. But this is the point of this video. How you act in your body and how you carry yourself is way more important that any makeup, any clothes, anything you've got going on, my love. It's all about self-presentation. And I'm going to tell you the few things as I grab my phone that you need to keep in mind. And the reason I've got it on my phone is because it helps it stay in the head, okay?

That's tip number one, by the way, that you need to be comfortable in saying that you don't have it altogether. Confidence is being okay with that. Confidence is having that together. That's first of all confidence. Okay, so first thing, number one is if you noticed when I first sat down, the first thing that denotes confidence in a human being is the ability to hold eye contact. It shows that I'm not trying to hide anything. I see you.

see each other and I can hold your gaze. If you struggle with that, I completely understand. It's not always easy, but that is the number one thing that will denote confidence in how you look at somebody. Because as soon as I start to turn away, even if I'm speaking in the same way, I guess it looks like a side shop to you know. But if I just glance down and glance away when I'm talking to you and I'm trying to tell you something, there isn't an ease of movement in there. There's something accepting in a person's eyes. You don't need to stare at them and really drill them down, but have an easy gaze that you make eye contact with someone and it denotes to them that you're present, you're aware, you're looking at them and you can tell instantly

in someone's eyes that they're a confident person. If they're standing in a line at the shop, they're trying to buy a coffee and you ask them a question and they just turn to you and they look straight at your face and they say, oh sorry, how can I help you? And they're looking at you, you can denote that that person's confidence. So that's number one thing you need to work on. Number two is you need to have a posture of not straightness like you're a teacher with a ruler and that's how you stand and the rulers down your back. But you see in the first one I was rounding my shoulders.

That's a protective stance. That's a don't look at me stance. You have to have an ease and fluid movement if you're a confident person. You have to be able to take up space. If you're confident you can take up space with your body. you're not afraid to take space up in the room. Confidence generally means that you are okay with being you and you are here and you're in your moment and you can take up space.

I talk with my hands. That's how I take up space. I'm happy to sit back and relax. I am confident in the presence that I'm having and that is how you can denote that. So if you're closed off and you're looking away straight away, look, I'm talking the same. I'm looking away. My shoulders are pressed in versus I'm looking at you and my body posture is open. I haven't changed my voice.

I'm not doing this. It's like, oh, guys, welcome to YouTube videos. It's just about having an ease and a grace to you. You know, if you want to go back to my video before this on how to be confident, those are the actual keys of self-acceptance, of knowing who you are, being okay with it,

knowing you're going somewhere, and knowing to be vulnerable. But watch that video because it's actually quite intricate in how you do it. But the ability to just be open in your posture and make eye contact is something that is vital for comfort. Next is, with the use of your hands and your body, people don't like when you hide your hands. It's a human, animal, biological thing. If you hide your hands, do it in front of somebody that will straight away get more edgy towards you.

I don't know if it's a biology that you could be holding something that could be dangerous like a weapon and people don't like it. Look, I doubt it, but it is genuinely biological in us that when the best thing to do, I talk with my hands a lot. but if you want to look confident is don't fidget and don't move around much. Just hold your hands in a place where they will sit like this. If you're a gesticular person like me, you can use your hands to move. But notice how I move them when I talk. I'm not there like this. Fidgeting.

And, you know, moving and scratching and pulling at my clothes. As soon as you start all this one, this one, this one, this one, your confidence goes out the window. things like that, like that. So either keep your hands still, have stillness in your movements, or use your hands gracefully when you're talking. But if that's not you, don't use your hands. There's so much beauty and stillness

if you can just sit and have a conversation with a person and not fidget, because essentially you are showing that discomfort and it's annoying. Secondly, slow down your speech. If you want to be a person of confidence and presence, slow down your speech concentrate on what you're talking about and don't be worried to take a pause

it's okay to take a pause if you're having a thought instead of going um and like thing just take a pause learn to talk with a pause in your language as opposed to a filler word you know like you know like a thing uh thing oh

that's not a confident vocabulary if you don't know the word pause Have a think. It's okay to take up space with your language and with your body. That's confidence. And there's so many different spectrums of confident people.

There's that businessman who's walking. There's their relaxed mum playing with her child at the playground. There's that surfer dude who's just so confident in his skills. But it's just a person who's comfortable and confident in their body. That's what it is. Some of them are fast-paced. Some of them are slower-paced. But these are the things that will make you come across confident

even though you're not. I think there's a level of confidence too where when you're talking to a person and you know them well, you can reach your event and touch them. Confident people often can touch people on the shoulder or they can look at something or look at a bag. Like, I mean, be discerning. If you're a guy watching this, don't touch random people. But what I mean is, like, they have kind of an ease with their body and they're like,

thanks, friend, you know, they can touch someone on the shoulder. They don't shy away from human contact. And I think that's another way you can show your confidence. Also, in your posture, keep your chin up. None of this one. Don't do all this. Keep your chin up. Have a calm, quiet confidence. And you know what's most beautiful in confidence in people?

Is that they're not trying to be someone else. I, for example, I think I have quite a monotone voice. And for me to show confidence, I just sit in that voice. And if you look at my comments on all my recent posts, they go, wow, your voice is so calming. I love it. Now, if I was to self-diagnose and analyze myself and be like, you know what, I need to change that. And I really need to be so entertaining. And I need to talk up and down with my voice.

I'm showing lack of confidence because it's so unnatural for me. It's obviously unnatural for me. You can see it's unnatural for me. And people will think, oh, what's going on here? To really sit in who you are is how you act confident. Stop apologizing. You saw in the first shot when I came in. I was saying, oh, can you guys see me? Is it right? A lot of people on camera. And this is a really

good example in life. Say hi, guys. Oh, is the camera right? Is it a bit crooked? Does the lighting keep changing? And then they go on to like, oh, I'm sure you can see this blemish on my face. Why are you talking about that? Number one, the person probably didn't even notice it. But number two, a number most important is that nobody cares. Nobody cares about you as much as you think that they care? You need to have some kind of knowledge of the fact that to other people, you are a side character, as harsh as that sounds, but you are. You need to stop apologising. Oh, I'm so sorry. Oh, sorry, you're creating an awkward situation. Just be. And if you've done something genuinely worth apologising for, then apologize. Because if you're apologising all the time,

you're creating a dynamic whereby your apology means nothing. Also, Don't be afraid to smile at people. Confident people can hold a gaze and they can smile. When it's like a smiling conversation, kind of. You almost hold your palate up so that you have a tone of happiness in your voice. If you're ever recording a voicemail or if you're calling someone, smile while you're doing it, and that's a voice technique because people can hear a smile in your voice even on the phone. Last one thing, as much as I said, how you wear and what you wear doesn't matter.

You need to wear what you feel confident in. I used to work in a place when I was much younger in London where a lot of famous people, rich people or celebrities used to come in. I used to work at the reception in this hotel bar. And my friend, you can tell when somebody is a celebrity or somebody, even when they're in a track suit. And I'm not saying all celebrities are confident, but I could be a business person or somebody. People think you've got to wear some kind of special clothes, some kind of specific clothes,

some kind of look in order to come across confident. No, it's just like this ease of being, walking up straight, sitting down, taking up space. When they used to come to the reception, they'd look me straight in the eye. That is what confidence means. So this video is on the back of the first one about how to be confident. I hope this helps. And the next one, if you want, I can tell you how to dress to make people think you're confident. Or more so how to dress to make people think you're powerful.

That's a good one. All right. See you on the next one. Bye. Guys, a quick thing, 77% of you who watch this channel are not subscribed. That's very, very naughty. That's very, very naughty. So please subscribe. Love you. Are you excited and ready to embark on your hotness journey? Because I'm certainly ready

to teach you. I may have a back spasm, which means I cannot get up from this position after this. I may have been looking after my child with the flu all week. But yes, I am here to let you know how to be hot. The first thing, that I want to address on a serious note is the concept of trend versus actually being seductive and a hot person that people are seduced by and want. Let us sip some tea because we're going to spill the tea. You need to understand first and foremost in the paradigm of what beauty is and what hotness is because I'm not in this video we're going to talk about seductiveness, attraction and hotness, but not going to talk about beauty because beauty is something that you can be

looking at but not attracted to a tree is beautiful the views beautiful some women are extremely beautiful but they're not attractive or that hot right we're going to be talking about hotness okay sexiness you need to understand that if you buy into trends and if you buy into the current concepts of what is sexy and attractive currently it might be curvy Kardashian figure that's overset and overdone but that's just a really basic example of what hotness can be seen as right In the 90s, it was the small hips and the Pamela Anderson boobs. If you look at women's boobs at the moment in media or press or whatever, that kind of 90s silicone chest is considered matronly. That's the word right now, matronly.

Everyone wants small and perky boobs. But back in the 90s, everyone wanted that matronly look because that's not what it was considered to be. Everything ebbs and flows. Everyone wanted the Barbie legs, the skinny legs in the 2000s. now they want some meat on the legs. It all changes through times. Now, if you are going to hang the value of your attractiveness on current trends, you will never truly, truly feel hot and sexy.

You need to understand that if I take you on an airplane right now to five different countries, your value and merit's going to go up and down and all of them. Cultures have different sexy limits and variations. Areas have different sexiness and variations. Some cultures like long nails, some cultures like short, some cultures like big brown eyes, some cultures like smaller eyes. Some cultures like big lips. And in some cultures, big lips is a no-no.

You've got to have them small. What is this to tell you? That is not for you to get on the plane and travel to a country where you're going to be appreciated. No, it's to understand that if you are quintessentially that Pamela Anderson girl with a big chest and small hips, you would have been trendy in the 90s and you wouldn't be so trendy now. But that does not take away from your hotness because you know why?

Ready for this? Ready for the groundbreaking thing that I'm going to tell you that you probably know. but I'm going to remind you of. Just because something is trendy doesn't mean that the lover of that thing is not seeing it. What do I mean by that? If this is a percentage of men or whoever you're attracted to women, men, whatever, this is all of them, right? In the 90s, there was a certain look. But still, the same amount of people like that look, this amount of people.

And now, still the same amount of people like that look. It doesn't matter that the times have changed. Not everybody looks into trends and goes, oh, yeah, now. it's big bums, I'm going to like big bums. It's just that now those people have a voice. You still have your market. It's just not what's trendy. So that means you've got to come into this world and you've got to come correct having a certain confidence and Juna Secois and Jouge knowing that your percentage of people who like your type, whatever you may look like, are still out there. If you're a Latina hottie or if you're this girl with Scandinavian features,

those men who would have liked you have not just gone in the bin and been thrown away just because the trend for your type isn't there. They're still around. It's just that your type isn't in the magazines at the moment. And to be honest, who cares about the magazines? The media is just trying to sell you something, trying to sell you a look and idea. What you need to do is step away from that and have some value into your actual self and who you are and know that there's a market out there for you.

And in that knowledge, you're going to transform from this like half-assed, shy, like apologetic version of yourself into a powerhouse of personal hotness. So now, if you're a girl who's not in trend, if you've got a certain type of physique, I don't know what it is anymore, because to be honest, I don't care and I don't follow it, but let's say you don't have that curvy butt. The amount of men that don't like curvy butts are still out there. So you, with your tiny little tushy, need to carry yourself with a tiny little tushy energy and be out there. For example, big boobs aren't trendy anymore. If I still walk you. around, being proud of the fact that I have a certain body type, those men who like boobs are

still going to look at me that way. And again, it's not just men, it's whoever you're attracted to, right? But it comes from being the utmost and best version of yourself. That's what hotness is. That's what confidence is and not being apologetic and trying to shift yourself and dumb yourself down into something. The second part of sensuality or sexuality or hotness is not to do with sexual activity. And it's not to do with exemplifying assets. You've got to understand that sexuality, sexiness and seductiveness is got to do with inner knowledge and competence in the self and connectiveness to your body. So if you're somebody who plays sport, does yoga, does what it is you need to do for your body, eats the right foods for your body, is connected to your body.

You're going to be that much hotter than the girl who is not in touch with her body, does a know what she's doing, doesn't know what's right for her, but she's wearing a low cut top and a tiny skirt. I promise you. And what we're talking about here is not instant, oh my God, look, she's naked, I'm going to look at her, but real seductive qualities over time when someone can look at you and be like, oh my God, she's so alluring. What is going on? It's breaking my brain, you know? She's just so seductive. That kind of hotness and that kind of allure and seductiveness comes from a self-knowledge. So put self-knowledge before skimpy clothes. If you want to wear skinny and that's your confidence level and that's your comfortability, then by all means

you can do that. But that's not what sexuality is entitled, is involved in, enrapped in, enamed in. It's to do with your knowledge of your own body. Because when that person looks at you, they know that you've got some kind of power over your own body, over your own space, over your own likes and dislikes. And what people love to do when they see someone sexy and especially men is to bring you happiness, is to bring you pleasure, is to make you smile, and is to make you feel a type of way. That's what makes people enamored with you. And when they see that that is possible to do that with you because you have a knowledge of your own and herself, that's what makes someone sexy. because you can see in their eyes that they have that allure already.

They have that connection with their body already. It's not about being sexually active either. Just because you are somebody who is not quick on the uptake and sleeping with everybody, it doesn't mean you're not sexy. In fact, having power in your own space and the ability to say yes or no and boundaries is way more sexy than being like, yes, I'm super sexually active. Everyone come at me. That's not sexuality.

That's just a level of openness that I'm not sure. one should even strive for, to be honest. But if that's you, you do you, but that is not what sexuality is wrapped in. It's about knowing your body, looking after your body, and especially if you're a woman, understanding your boundaries and understanding what it is you need to do for your body, putting yourself first is a major one. Hot people put themselves first so they've got something to give to other people. They've got some replenishment to give because they're pouring from a cup that's already full.

Another thing that hot people do is not put them. themselves out for other people and then get resentment and rat-like and angry. They don't put themselves out. They do what they need to do for themselves first without trying to control other people. They're quiet and their confidence. They're replenishing themselves. They're on their own journey. They're not stalking you on their Instagram. They're not trying to find out what you're doing. You're not their main focus. They are their main focus. You are their secondary focus. And you know, because I know you know.

When you've met a person like that, you are like, damn, they're so attractive because they're just in their own lane. Hot people are in their own lane. Hot people do things that are inadvertently hot. Like, they won't always reply to you at the same time. They're unpredictable. You know why?

It's not because they're trying to reply to you at different times. One day, it's five minutes. One day, it's five hours. It's because they actually have a life. So on a Tuesday, they might be with their friends and going to Pilates and doing this important work deal, but on a Monday, they might have been by their phone and answered. They're not playing games.

They just have a lifestyle which facilitates them to sometimes reply to you and sometimes not. You, by being around that person, know that you're not the center of their attention and nor should you be because who are you? You just met them. Hot people put themselves first.

They know to put themselves first. And last but not least, hot people can take up their space, can take up their time, can talk slowly. They speak in a way to take up space. They don't feel the need to rush. They don't break high contact.

I'm looking at you right now. They can take up their space and they feel that people will be there for them. They're not there stuttering over themselves, looking down on all this stuff. Hot people can take up space and they don't have weird voice intonations. Weird voice intonations come from a childhood where you either really had to stand out. You really, really wanted to stand out and no one noticed you. Or you were really like trying to just hide and you were really. Really just trying to...

Everything in a voice that's a little bit unnatural is you trying to hide something in your childhood when your voice developed. Try and listen to your voice, objectively, from an outside point of view, and see if there's any inflections in there or any tones in there, which are not pleasant to listen to.

It's not judgmental. It's just self-development. So if you're irky and ah-ah, ah, all the time like that in your voice, maybe you wouldn't get seen enough. Relax. Take up your space. Make eye contact.

Don't try and jump into people's conversations. Take it slowly. It's way more seductive than squeaking into everyone's ear. Oh, subscribe. Nauty. Subscribe right now. I just want to park here on the street because my camera is with me and I want to talk to you about confidence. Okay.

Now, I, as I was driving, decided to make this video because it's such a mysterious thing to like it's so untangible because there's a lot of videos about how to act confident, how to act confident, how to appear confident, how to do all those things, but there isn't much about how to actually feel it. And I have definitely been on the journey of trying to feel it my whole life because I think I was partly blessed in terms of innate confidence for a reason I'm about to tell you and also in aiding not being confident for another reason I'm about to tell you, but I've come up with four things that you need to do, so I will tell you about them.

I hope these people on the street do not think I am, you know, trying to film them with this camera, but even if they do, it is what it is, you know, we've got to talk. The reason I feel that I have an innate advantage is because I moved to England when I was seven years old and I spoke no English. It created this thing in me where, I almost disassociated and disidentified from people who I could speak to.

I went to school but could not speak the language, right? So it's almost like I got removed from peer pressure at the same time as being completely different. It also made me really robust because for about two years, I did not have a grasp on the language. It's not even in my memory of how it happened, but it's like I've forgotten it. but I think there is a part of me, a huge one, where I feel no peer pressure in my life. I don't care what someone else is doing. They can do themselves.

I will do me. If people tell me, oh, but someone else is doing something else, don't give a tiny rat's ass. Just don't care. So that's an advantage I have, almost from having to be a little bit isolated. My struggle with confidence comes from the fact that I guess growing up without my family around in a different country, not having a relationship with my father, you start to question your value, how you appear, your confidence, all those things. But this video is not about me. This video is about you and how that can change for you. I'm going to sit up a little bit and get in your face so we can talk about all the

qualities. Number one is growth. In order to cultivate confidence, you have to have an element of growth that you are constantly working on. I don't care if you're a man or a woman or a tree or a plant. which is the same thing or an animal. You have to have a mission and a goal that you're striving towards and working on. And you have to have a sense of letting go of the ego whereby you don't think you're the be all and end all as you are. But you have a sense of consistent growth and consistent striving towards betterment. When things happen, you should ask, what is this lesson trying to teach me?

When things happen, you should say, what is the universe giving me in order to cultivate something else because it doesn't happen for no reason. If somebody's treating you badly, they're treating you badly so that you've set a boundary and you say, no, my friend, enough, I am not going to put up with it. This is not for me. You have chosen the wrong person. You need to take experiences in your life with that kind of grasp and tenacity whereby you go, okay, I'm at level this and I'm going to get to level that because all of this idea of like you find the way you are,

It's fantastic. Oh my God, why are you so aggressive? It's fantastic the way you are. That's not where confidence comes from. Confidence comes from knowing that you started somewhere and you got to somewhere else with your sheer tenacity and spirit and idea of where you want to go.

We'll circle back around to it, but I want to tell you about concept number two and that is self-acceptance. Now, those two things, it's so difficult, like how do they go together, self-acceptance, but growth. they go together thusly. In order for you to know that you can grow, you've got to have radical self-acceptance.

You have to say, I am bloody amazing the way I am, just by the sheer gratitude and luck that you have for the fact that you were born. For the idea that all the things lined up, all the things lined up in the world, for you to be born, all your ancestors had to survive through plagues and mammoths and what not happened, they had to survive for your beautiful,

being to be here, right? That sheer gratitude and just like, oh my God, this is crazy that this got to happen that I'm here. And self-acceptance in terms of like, yeah, maybe my face is not ideal. Maybe my body's not ideal, but it's my body. And it's here getting me through life. And not only is it doing that, but it is the face of all those ancestors who came before me. And you're there, oh, my, I don't like my nose. You can not like your stuff.

You can not like your stuff. Go and get surgery. All learn to accept it. Because this is who you are. Your face shows your heritage. Your face shows the incredible people that came before you in order for you to look the way you do. So it's radical self-acceptance. And knowing that, man, I'm so lucky to just experience this.

I get to be a part of this movie that is life. I get to be a part of this. Man, how cool. And at the same time, I'm just this little human being who manages the best they can every day. and even if I do nothing in life, that's okay. Because at the end of the day, we're all going to be gone. So even if you do the craziest things, it won't matter because we will all be gone. But it matters so much because you just get a blink of an eye, right?

And it matters so much. But it doesn't matter at all. So that's the self-acceptance piece that, you know, it really doesn't matter. You're just a human being. You're making your best effort. But lay a growth on top of that. if you're not growing and you're standing still you are like a bog that's declining and if there's no movement there's no growth there is no no life that's the rule of nature right

so you're there you decided you want to be confident so you've layered self-acceptance and forgiveness with growth you're not growing you're striving what's next let me ask your question if you're confident in a friend of yours you're confident in your friend What does that mean? You're confident that they're going to show up for you. That's what that really means. Confidence in a person means that you're confident that they're going to show up for you and be there for you and be a solid person for you.

Now, we really know how to extend that to someone else. We really know if they let us down. We really know if they let us down like in an appointment or some kind of variety or like that, right? We know they're like, we're always reliable. We're always there. They're committed. The word is reliable and committed. Now, you've got to cultivate that onto yourself.

you've got to use the same deployment of energy onto yourself. If you cannot trust yourself to show up for you, how can you be confident? If you're confident in your friend, Elizabeth, that she's going to show up, but you're not confident in yourself that you'll show up for you, that's where you're lacking confidence. If you've set that appointment to go to the gym,

show up like it was for a friend. If you've set that thing to do, show up. If you said I'm going to take care of you, my body, my mind, my this, my that. Show up. Stop breaking promises to yourself. Become a person of character. Become a person of quality. Be on time for yourself.

Come on, man. Like stop with this behavior that you wouldn't accept if it was a friend doing it to you. Lastly, vulnerability. So you're there. You have accepted yourself. You've layered it with growth. You know where you're going. You've layered it with commitment.

because you don't want to let yourself down. And the last part is vulnerability. So when I show up in a space or I show up in a room or I'm working or I'm doing everything I'm doing, I have this humble knowledge that I don't know everything. And I'm the first to put up my hand and say, I don't know, teach me. I don't have to be the best at everything.

I don't want to be the best at everything. What the hell is being the best of everything? Who is that? Who is that the best of everything? That's a really bizarre person to be. be vulnerable say you don't know say that you love someone say that you need someone say all all those things that make you feel vulnerable and you get this vulnerability hangover just say them because that gives you confidence because you know why it means that you can't lose face it means that you have an

awareness of your own humanity and your own vulnerability and you're willing to voice it and face it in the world and not be the best and most bombastic person but you are just you and then And nothing can really be done to you because you're there. You've accepted yourself, you're growing on yourself, you're showing up for yourself because you're keeping that commitment. And at the end of the day, you're willing to say, I'm not the best and most incredible person, but that's me. You know? Because what is confidence when we get it taught online? It's like walking in a certain way, talking in a certain way, looking a certain way, looking a certain way, dressing a certain way.

and man can I make a video about that, about how to look confident. Me and how to look confident, that's my jam. So if you want that video, let me know. Because people won't know what hit them if you show up how I tell you to, okay? But how to feel it is keeping those promises, is growing, you know, having goals, is accepting yourself and is being vulnerable. That's the fault. I made some notes.

Let's see if I addressed them the thing. But number one, value is what you set as your own standard. The concept of being high value as a human being is not how you are valued by your external surroundings. It is how you value yourself and what you let yourself show up for and what you turn down and the boundaries you set. You need to turn up for you. Commitment equals excellence.

I've written this down as a note. Commitment to me equals excellence and I am confident when I am excellent. I don't. You know, you realize you'll never be the prettiest, strongest, cleverest person. Ever. Never. You can't. It's not possible. So why are you competing with that? Don't do it. Part of the commitment, um, tripe is honor your word. You will build confidence if you are not a jellyfish in life who is spineless and does not know where it's going. You will build confidence in life when you show up and you honor your word.

you also must understand and acknowledge that life is a series of trials and tribulations through which you overcome and you create your identity. You will create your identity by meeting those challenges and meeting those things, like say someone ghosted you, how you act once they've ghosted you, is what's going to set the standard of your confidence in your own head. Are you going to write on the phone of why they shouldn't have ghosted you and come down to that level of begging them? Are you going to move on? Are you going, what are you going to do? That's what sets your confidence. Not how it made you feel. Not anything.

It's about, bam, this happened. Now what? What are we going to do with it? Part of it is my little notes. Part of it is sticking to boundaries you've set. Boundaries are easy to make up, but they're not easy to stick to. So if you've said I won't be treated that way, you've got to stick to it. Those are my notes.

Guys. I think confidence is a powerful tool. I want you to move through the world in a way where life feels both exciting but easy. Because you know what will be, it will be, and you know that you can meet any challenge you're faced with. Thanks for watching. I'll see you on the next one. Please subscribe. It will mean the world to me.

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