BEING HER with Margarita Nazarenko - 59: 10 Non Negotiable Habits of Feminine Energy Women

Episode Date: May 6, 2024

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The following podcast is a dear media production. Hello, today we're going to talk about secrets to success as a feminine energy woman, and they are not things like receive gifts and accept things and, you know, all of that jargon that we are used to listening to. These are 10 habits, one might say. These are 10 non-negotiables, one might add. And if you are watching this, you will see that I'm untangling my necklaces, which love to tangle. Why must you cause more drama than you are worth? Anyway, we leave them, we move on.

Guys, my book is so close to launching. Please do pre-order. It's in the description boxes everywhere, everywhere, everywhere. I am so excited. And a lot of the points I'm going to touch on this are some of them are in the book, some of them are not. But trust me, the stuff you will see in the book is new, delicious and incredible. I am 100% sure you will enjoy it.

Let's move on to the 10 success principles of women who are successful. Number one, early to bed and early to rise makes you healthy, wealthy and wise. Okay, let's set aside the fact that everyone's mom and their dog and their granny to tell them to get up early and go to bed early. If you want to be a woman who is in your success and in your element, and living with your circadian rhythm, there is no wonder that everyone on their podcast, and as I said, your grandma, talks about going to bed early and waking up early.

Why, you might say? Because if you adhere to the natural rhythms of your body, especially as a woman, what does that mean? That means your natural cycle. That means times in your life. That means the winters of the year as well, and the foods and the foods that are in season. and if you want me to go into that, I can.

But I'm going to tell you something. It's really, really important to adhere to natural elements if you want to be a feminine woman who is in your element and is successful. Since I used to listen to me, I used to go to bed at 1 a.m. and wake up at God knows what hour and wonder why I felt a bit off or sluggish or this one or that one or the other one. Let me tell you, if you go to bed as the sun sets, and I don't mean as the sunsets, you fall into bed. but as it gets dark, your body unwinds, you turn off all the blue light, you use the red light, and you wake up as the sun rises. And the most important part is you repeat it in the same way

every year, not year every day. You repeat it in the same way every day. That will create a rhythm in your body where your body is ready for the day. It's excited for the day. It's honed, primed, and it's good to go. It definitely changed my success. Do you wonder why I wear a whoop and an aura ring. I'm showing them to you if you're watching this on YouTube, not because I'm a psycho, actually has become a psycho, but because I am so religious about my sleep and getting up on time and all of that good stuff. And let me tell you, I have a four-month-old. If you are a parent and you've gone through the four-month sleep progression, are you okay? Because I'm not okay. I've done it twice. I've got two children and I am not okay.

But even with that, I am tracking my sleep and making sure that there is a rhythm and I might not always hit it. But I go to bed early and I get up early and I don't know how, but I get more done now than I did before this habit and before having children. How was it that I could not record one YouTube video a week before having children and not having any responsibilities? Tell me how. Pray tell me. I don't know how. And now I can record a podcast, a couple of YouTube videos, write a book and all that stuff. Why?

Because I go to bed. and get up early. Let me tell you it changed something. Number two, habit of feminine women who creates success in their life is a positive mindset. The art of reframing is key. I'm going to tell you it as an anecdote because I can tell you all the art of reframing, see things positively when they're not, yada yada, until the cows come home. This is probably the busiest season of my life. I was talking to somebody, a therapist. This is not my therapist. This is somebody I know who is a therapist. And I was saying that I have had something come up, which I've always wanted to do, but I'm not sure I can fit it into my life work-wise because I've got such a young child and I've

got so much work going on. And I've got so many things on my plate currently that I don't feel I can do it and it would not, it would not fit in because I would not, not because time-wise wouldn't fit in, but because I couldn't put my best foot forward essentially. And she said to me, what if you reframe it as the fact that this thing that you want to do, you're not sure in what capacity you can do it, but perhaps the fact that you have children and so much on your plate means that you could just dip your toe into it. Let's say it's weightlifting, this thing that I want to do.

Let's say it's weightlifting, just a comparison, because I don't want to talk about it until it happens or if it happens or if I decide to do it. So let's say I want to become professional weightlifter, right? And because I don't know if I can dedicate the time, I don't know if I even like weightlifting, she said to me, listen, maybe you, because you have the children and because you have so many projects in the book and all this, maybe they're actually a protective thing for you that you wouldn't launch it to weightlifting and completely do something that you don't want to do, but you just get to dip your foot in. And the fact that you have children and so many other projects in your life right now means that you can kind of try it, but not fully commit. And it's kind of protective. So I reframed in that moment seeing my children and my busyness and my motherhood and my podcast and my work and everything as something that I think of because of this. I can't do that

my weightlifting career, let's just say. And she said, listen, maybe it is a protective thing. And in that moment, my mind completely changed. I had this mindset about, and I talk about it in my book and several podcasts already, but when I was cheated on in the past, I reframed it to the fact that I would have never left that person had they not cheated because I'm a committed person. you know, I keep pushing, I keep trying. So had he not cheated, I would have never left. And I would have been with someone who doesn't truly like me or love me, right? Tragic. Trag. Absolute trudge. And having talked to her, I realized, wow, me being a mom right now of a young child and kids who need me isn't a hindrance, but they are protecting me from maybe going into something that I have never done before. You know, weightlifting is a big commitment, you know, do I really want to be a bodybuilder?

by the way, it's not bodybuilding, but you know what I mean. So women who are in their feminine and create success, learn to reframe and have a positive mindset. You need to take anything that happened to you and reframe it to see the positive in it because that is the true power of feminine energy. Number three, despite as a woman being able to multitask, you need to be able to prioritize. Do not diversify your focus more than you need to. have goals and a target that you're working towards in certain seasons of your life. I've talked to you about bullet journaling. I've talked to you about mindset.

If you haven't seen that, go on to my podcast or go on to YouTube and look it up. There are success principles, eight success principles, I believe it's called. You need to understand what's important and don't try and spread yourself thin like butter on crusty toast. You need to be thick butter with caviar on top, babe. And if you've never had crusty white baguette with a thick butter slab and caviar that is black, I don't know. You need to try it. You just need to try it. Even if the caviar's fake, just try that because a combination has got me obsessed. There is the Eisenhower principle. Things are either important and urgent, those things you do right now. Things that are important and not urgent, you write down to do for tomorrow. Things that are urgent but not important. You write down to do for tomorrow. Things that are urgent but not important. you delegate and things that are not urgent and not important, you don't do. So you need to write down all the things you need to do and put them into one of those four Eisenhower categories.

He was the president of America, wasn't he, I believe? And that's the Eisenhower principle of important and urgent. You cannot diversify and do everything, everything, everything. This morning, I had a massive go at my husband because he was telling me to find all his stuff. I'm sure he wouldn't appreciate me sharing this. Actually, he doesn't care. He doesn't even listen. I'm going to tell you. He loses everything and I have to find everything to the point where my son is like,

I don't know when this is constantly. And I'm like, well, find it, Leo. And he goes, no, you find it because you find everything. I am not Scooby-Doo. I am not solved the mystery over here, you know. And I said to the men in my family, I said, listen, I appreciate what you're doing, right? But I will lose my living mind because I cannot be spread thin like margarine on crusty toast. I am butter with caviar. Do not come for me because I did not ask for you. Okay, back away. Have priorities. We learn as women to be everything for everyone and so thinly spread and so highly strong. And I have seen many productive, successful, amazing, beautiful women, but I've never seen relaxed women. And it's time for the season of relaxed happy women. Number four, find time for yourself on the back of number three. If you have time to yourself,

not only are you putting yourself first in the whole premise of my book, the rules, which is the 13 rules to feminine energy, embetment, every, every, you know, aspect of femininity and all of that stuff. The point I want to make here, though, is not just put yourself first so others will, like, gravitate towards you. The point I want to make here is if you don't have time to yourself, you do not have time for silence. And that means put your phone down for 10 minutes. Those moments when you're standing in line at the shop, I want to pull my phone out, babe. I'm human. I'm addicted to scroll, scroll, scroll, I get it. But if you don't have time for yourself, you don't know how to make choices. You don't know how to listen to your feminine wisdom. You don't know how to listen to your body. Do you know how your body speaks to you through pain? Hip pain, back pain, leg pain, finger pain, eyebrow pain, whatever, right? It speaks to you through pain. The body holds the score, read that book back. Okay, it's on my book list on Amazon. Margaret and Azarenko, Amazon, I've got my book list on there. do not endlessly self-sacrifice your time and deprioritize yourself for the sake of everything else and not listen to your body. You need to have moments of silence. You don't always

need to be producing content, producing something, producing food, producing, producing, producing, because you're not going to listen to your feminine wisdom. Your body hurts for a reason. Things hurt for a reason. Listen, acute with your ear. Okay. Number five, discipline. Would you rather feel the pain of discipline or the pain of regret. I decided a while ago I would rather feel the pain of discipline. I really did not enjoy the pain of regret on not actioning some things, you know, and I would rather feel the pain of discipline. You have your zones of responsibility.

You have your zones of what you can do. You show up for yourself. The idea of having confidence for me is based and predicated, not on feeling grandiose, big and larger than life, but it is more so predicated on. on the fact that I will show up for myself. When I don't show up for myself, when I don't put the food into my body that I want to put into my body, when I don't feel myself, my mind, my body,

myself in every way, I lose confidence. Why? Because I am not confident in myself showing up for me. If I'm confident in a friend, I'm confident that she will be there for me. Same with yourself. If you don't show up with yourself, you do not have confidence in yourself.

That way you will develop it. If you have discipline that is number five, number six, willingness to admit fault for me slash vulnerability because I can admit fault. But for me, vulnerability was harder to admit. I remember being at drama school and my drama school teacher, Clive, said to me, Clive. What was his surname? Owens?

Clive, Duncan? Clive? Clive Duncan. Yeah, I think that was his name. Clive Duncan. And he said to me, you know, you don't show your vulnerability. You're always trying to hide your vulnerability. And I literally did not know what that meant.

that was how far away it was from me. I was like, what do you want me to do cry? Like, I cry in scenes all the time. You know, when we're acting, I'll cry. I don't care. I guess it was about admitting vulnerability to myself that I'm not able to do everything, that I'm not good at everything and that. I'm not always okay.

And I still don't really know how to do that because I have learned to be okay, you know, in every life situation. I have learned to analyze it and be okay and walk through it with my head high, which I guess is a superpower too. But vulnerability means, you know, I don't always feel like, the best thing since sliced bread and sometimes, you know, I feel down or sometimes I feel this, that or the other are overwhelmed. Right now is a season of overwhelm for me. I find it hard to turn off my brain, you know, with work and young kids and, you know, life in general. But it's the

willingness to say you were wrong, say you're sorry or say you are vulnerable and especially a big question that I get from women is, if I've made mistakes, how do I forgive myself? well, therein lies the willingness to admit fault and move forward accordingly. Seven, always wanting to grow and learn. The willingness to always grow and learn. This piece sits firmly in the whole notion that if you don't work, then people will find you boring if you're a stay-at-home mom. And I am not a stay-at-home mom, despite me having my childful time, I also work,

which I don't know why, but it's my passion. I guess that's why. The point being, this sits firmly in the fact that when women go to work because they are afraid that they are somehow boring to society because they're a mother, despite doing literally the most important job a woman can do, and that's raised the next generation. I do believe that or a man can do. What purpose, what higher purpose could you possibly serve than the betterment of humanity? and if that is the cure of a disease, that is also in that category of the betterment of society and the greater good, right?

So mothers fit into that category and the sacrificial part of it and fathers who do that, right? So the willingness to always grow and learn means that even if you are a stay-at-home parent or a mom, if you're watching this, I guess, always being doing classes, watching development videos,

always bettering yourself. And if this is not your jam, like self-development. I love it. But is it skiing or ice skating? That's what you've always done, always improving so that you never feel that you're out of the loop or out of society so that you never feel you're on the back burner in any kind of way. And if it means having a sourdough starter, whatever that means, I hear Americans say it all the time in the fridge and make a sourdough and cooking is your thing, then that's your thing. But you're always having some way to grow and develop yourself. Number eight, you're a soft starter. You're a soft motivator. You're a

nobody else needs to kick you up the ass. This is something that all divine feminine women have in common. They have an inner internal energy that they know how to switch on. This, I would have to really sit down and deduce how to teach you if you want me to. Let me know because it will really take me some time to really understand how to teach it. I know how to feel it, but I don't really know how to teach it yet. But the ability to see your future, manifest your future, and reward yourself and motivate yourself because you are the powerhouse of your relationship. and your husband and your children. You are the one who elevates and creates, okay? So you need to be a self-starter. If people have to drag you through life, you are not in your divine, feminine energy. Number nine, self-determination. This is a tricky one. I was listening to somebody saying on a podcast that the idea of manifestation is a poisonous and a bad idea because

if you believe in manifestation and everything is your fault and everything is determined by you, then it's really bad for people who have suffered from something they do not cause illnesses, etc. And, you know, and I fully agree. But I think the peace that is, I cannot deny that there's so many things that I feel I've manifested in my life, from bad to good. It's just this undeniable force and energy of like attracting like now. I don't know what that means globally and I don't know what that means for every person.

But I can't deny that I think there is some energy that exists in that. level, right? However, the self-determination factors of everything being your responsibility and your fault is useful as a mindset because despite it being your fault and despite it being your responsibility and despite it being up to you to solve, it is a place of power that has gotten me through a lot of things in my life from my childhood to now where I feel that if I can get through something or I have in some way caused it, I feel like I can get better. It allows me to get through life in a smoother way. I found that a lot of successful feminine energy women, instead of being a victim, say they take it on the chin and they say this is me and I'm going to get through this and they have a life that is incredible.

And maybe even people who have had terrible circumstances, you know, have gotten through things. They have found that people in dire straits that make it through are the ones who have undeniable life force and that way of saying that it's on me and I can do it and take without what you will. But I prefer to think that I cause my life and I manifest it because I guess it gives me comfort and power and you should try it. Number 10, they have an I can do it mindset. Often I bump into people who say to me like, you know, be vulnerable.

show that you can't do it. You can't always do everything by yourself. And I can't. I love help. Help me. Pay for me. Do my things. Do it for me. Let's hire all the people and all the help. Great, fantastic. But if I need to, I can't do it. I can do it. Like, do you think that before I wrote a book, I felt like I could write a book? No. Do you think I felt like I could show up on camera? No. Do you think I felt like I could make it through things I've never shared, obviously, on platforms? but I did, and I think that the thing that these women who are very much in their power have in common is that I can do it attitude. They just can do it.

There is no, I can't do it. I just can because I'm here and I have to. I hope that helped you. I hope you adopt some of these beliefs, and I'll see you on the next one. Love you lots like jelly tots. Or you'll hear me on the next one. Ciao. Please note that this episode may contain paid endorsements and advertisements for products and services.

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