BEING HER with Margarita Nazarenko - 65: The 6 RANKS of High Value Women. How to Become HER.

Episode Date: June 17, 2024

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The following podcast is a dear media production. Hello, hello, hello, hello, my love. Today I'm going to share something that's been a long time coming. The six ranks of women in relationships and in life in general. This video or this podcast depends on where you're listening to it, is very spicy. It is very much in line with what I talk about. And for those who get it, will get it, and for those who don't, won't. But for those who get it, you are going to have an experience today because I have put women in six categories.

I know we're not supposed to categorize people. It's very un-PC, but I have, yeah, I'm naughty like that, because I love categories, I love metaphors, I love comparing humans to animals. in my theory of deer, cow, and horse for women when it comes to work and relationships, I just do that, okay? I'm bad like that. I'm Jojo Siwa. I'm a bird girl. I did some bad things.

But jokes aside, these are the six ranks of high value down to low value women and relationships. It's not always ideal to see women this way, but it really helped me move through life. And within these six ranks, one being what I aim to be, I'm going to break it to you right now. Number one is her being her, become her. That's her, her, she is her. Okay. She's the queen, the princess, her, you know, whatever you want to name her. I will name the rest accordingly. And this is the key, okay? Women can move through these ranks. It's not like what we have with men like alpha male, beta male, whatever, where they don't interchangeably change, okay? Women go through these according to, we are all born as her, is what I'm trying to say. And you fall down the ranks in life

according to what happens. Yeah? We're all born as her. We're all born. It's just magnetic, majestic, amazing creature, number one. And where you go down the ranks is just dependent on life and you'll get it as I talk about it. And I will tell you what her is. But before I do, I want to share something very, very special with you.

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If it isn't, I'm sorry, but anyway, it's not about that. This is the video, okay? Number six. Woman number six is called the grouch or stick in the mud or the nag. I've got my magical book of secrets out, okay, where I've noted everything. The grouch, there's a key that I'm going to tell you about these numbers as well. Women who often see, because we all judge as women, that's what we do. The biggest questions asked me is about female friendship outside of men, okay? So a lot of times we judge. We just, we judge. We're just, the woman who is the rank above us. That is how we can tell that we're the rank below her. You might identify yourself number six, number five, number four, but the point is to climb through the ranks until you get to number one. I will tell you which one I am. And no, I am not number one. I am becoming her. I am trying. I have been her sometimes. I have those moments, but I'll tell you which one I am. Okay. So it's not about judgment. It's just about reality.

Okay. So the grouch. She is that grandma, you know, that mother-in-law, that teacher, that Karen, who knows she's right, she's always right. She has never seen anyone else's opinion as anything other than bullshit. It's not interesting. She doesn't care about it. She doesn't like it. She is not happy. She wants you to change because you don't do it right. She does it right. She might not be married because nobody wants to put up with her. But if she is, she married her high school sweetheart. And once she became like this, he is now so powerless. to fight her, that he has just succumbed to lying on the couch, playing video games or drinking. She's always going around, talking to people about how they should be.

If she is in her 50s, 60, 70s, she's cut her hair short and she storms around telling everyone how they're an idiot. If she's young, because the grouch can be young as well, the killjoy, the stick in the mud, can be young as well. You tell me which name you prefer and we'll name her that, okay? She can be young. She goes around saying that she knows best. She doesn't trust professionals. She will never listen to her friends. She won't ever understand that she might be wrong about anything. She is always right. She's hard to be around. She is grumbling about everything. She has no feminine energy in terms of bending because feminine energy is flow. Feminine energy is understanding that you can move with the times. Feminine energy is playful. If she has no playful energy, there is no playful energy. How does someone become number six, the grouch, which is the least pleasant type of woman to be with? She is so not feminine.

She's so not playful. She is so counter like, bleh. She's just grouchy stick in the mud, tries to ruin everyone's day, okay? How do you become her? You don't just manifest into her. You are somebody who thought that in society she could get things by doing. She thought she would do the right thing. She would get the right degree. She would do all the good things. Society would like her. She followed all the rulebooks. And then she found out, bang, slap in her face. That is not how life works. Men do not like you for doing the most. They just disregard you. And her useless. husband who is bolding and sad and would rather not even be there is just stuck with her because he's so terrified of her. She rules through fear and she once wanted to be loved and that is what she won't admit but never got it and now she's like this. If you are number six, the grouch, there's one question you need to ask yourself. Are you sure you are always right? And is it humanly possible to always be right? How is it humanly possible to always be right? How have you you got all the systems, all the right ways, all the efficient ways. A lot of women get like this through times of doing, doing, doing, overworking for their family, overdoing. She is the workhorse

in my archetypes. She could be working, working, overworking, and she found out that nobody cares. Often she is a woman who worked and forewent having a family or friends or anything that she ever liked. And now she is just angry. And I might be dramatizing it, but it's a really hard place to be in, So it's a really hard place to be in to rule by the feeling of wanting to nag everyone into submission and tell everyone that they're wrong as opposed to genuinely be loved. Because as much as we might revoke the idea, women and men all genuinely want to be appreciated and loved. And she has just decided that she is not worthy of that. You guys know I've been going on about fatty 15, which is a C-15 essential fatty acid, the first one to be discovered in around 90 years.

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by going to Fatty15.com being her and using code being her and check out. Number five, is why should I? It's the why should I? It's the miss whatever you want to do. It's the misconvenient. It's the why should I?

She is one rank above number six, the grouch. She is, why should I do what people want? Why should I have a relationship? Why should I want a man? Why should I get married? I don't want to get married. I don't care. Whatever.

I don't care. She's somebody who's not willing to even admit to her wants and her own needs or her own need for fun. She probably grew up with adults. around her who taught her how to be the good girl and these women are often single and they often go on the parade about yea single girls galantines. Not that we should all have partners, but like I say in my book, the new rules, it's okay to want and need a man that is one of the rules. That is not to say that we need him in terms of like we will die without him, but we have this one life experience, okay?

It's okay to admit that you want a life partner or a woman. It doesn't have to be a man, but to admit that you want a life partner is a very natural objective to have. But this number five, why should I? She is so far away from her sensual needs, from her wants, from her ideas of what she wants. She goes around saying, why should I do anything? Why should I not be 50-50? Why should I just, it's whatever with her. If you ever ask her, she wants a relationship, I don't mind, I'm happy single. I don't mind. She's the I don't mind. She's so out of touch with her needs. She doesn't want to get married. She's happy single. She doesn't need anyone to help her. If you find yourself there in this kind of, do you know what it is? equivalent of in psychology. It's indifference. She's indifferent, but it's hiding the fact that she has desperate wants and needs. She's so out of touch with her wants and needs. The grouch is the next step.

She might grow into the grouch because number five, the whatever I don't want it anyway, the I don't want it anyway girl, she's feeling like she can't get it. She's feeling like she can't have a happy life. So she'd rather admit that, she'd rather pretend that it's not even something she wants as opposed to admit it and have growth. Okay. If you are there, you need to start working on your authenticity. And if you sign up to the eight course masterclass on Become Her, we're going to work on that, okay? Developing authenticity means developing your own wants and needs,

developing your own desires in your life, developing who you want to be. If you don't know that, you're going to be the I Don't Mind Girl. You're going to be the number five, I Don't Mind Girl, and the wind will take you wherever it is, and you're going to be not fulfilling your desires before you know it. You need to get in touch with what you want, and you need to understand that it's,

okay to have wants in your life and desires for a relationship and togetherness and maybe even gasp when I get married. It's bloody okay to want a relationship. Okay, ladies? Number three, we all know this one. She's the pick me. It's a disappointing one because she's the next one. She is the I don't want it anyway girl. Number five, one rank up, the pick me. She's decided actually she does want a relationship, but she does want human beings in her life. She's active. She's energetic. She's bright. She's the golden child. She probably maybe had a slightly difficult. upbringing, maybe her dad wasn't around. For me, I started at a number two. I was like, I don't want a relationship, who cares, yuck. Then I went to a pick me. I tried to do everything in relationships to make

myself feel like I deserve one. You want to do that? Sure. You want to eat that? Sure. You want to do that? No problem. The problem with being a pick me is, number one, men find you unattractive. Men don't want the moose that's going to be standing at their door. They want to go hunting, okay? They don't want someone who's always going to agree because then they're not seeing a woman they admire. They're seeing a non-entity, a mirror of themselves. And the worst thing about being a pick-me is you will burn yourself out living. So she has admitted that she wants a relationship or somebody in her life or even friends, but she's doing everything to placate what they want the pick-me like with friends,

with relationships. You can burn yourself out and easily these women turn to drinking or they can turn to, you know, soothing themselves in other ways, like workaholic. or always doing the right thing. She's the good girl. She's the pick me. She just wants to do the right thing. I do what they want, but they don't know what I want is the theme for this girl. I'm just going to do what they want. And she falls for any man. This is the type of girl who will do anything a man wants. She will date some guy who's for landering doesn't work, doesn't care about her, doesn't do anything, but she will do anything for him because she cannot believe that she landed

a guy. The step to move forward for you is to think not what do they want, but what do I want. You've got to know what they want. But what do you want? You need to work on becoming that girl who knows what she wants and starts to set boundaries. If you say no to things and it makes you viscerally and physically uncomfortable, which is how I worked through this pick me stage of number four forwardness. I physically used to say no to things and it used to make me feel sick because I used to feel like if I say no, then I will become useless to that person. They won't like me anymore. It's insane. the more you can feel uncomfortable with saying no and just sit in it, the more you know that you are killing the pick me girl inside of you, okay? Number three, the hot girl. That's the next graduation.

I got to that one too, okay? She does what she wants. On her own time, she's not fixated on relationships. She has transactional relationships. And the hot girl is not transactional in terms of she is like, you know, a stripper or some kind of, you know, worker. But that's the equivalent of in terms of she is happy to be around other people. She's happy to be around men and it's transactional for her. She's not looking for a relationship. Often mistresses fall in this category. They know exactly what men want, but now they have gone up from the pick me and now they know what they want. This woman now knows what she wants. And I want that dog to be quiet, but it's not going to. So I'm not going to let it derail me, okay? Dog. This girl knows what she wants. That's the next level. You see how we're climbing levels. She now knows what she wants and she does things.

So if he's going to be around her, she's not thinking about him as a unit. She's not thinking about him as as an entity or a unit. She's thinking about them both having a good time together and maybe growing in some kind of way. She's self-sufficient. She doesn't need others. She is good looking. She's a hot girl. She puts herself first. She does her self-care. She is busy. She is booked. She is amazing. This is usually the woman that men are like Gaga for, right? They then can't build relationships. And this is the next reason because you need to grow to number two, rank number two. Women below her ranks, the grouch, the I don't want it anyway, and the pick me, envy her. They're like, oh my God, she just wants to be like a girlfriend.

She's just a mistress. She doesn't want to get married anyway. She's just hot. She's just this. She's just that. She's just yuck. She's not smart. No.

Men actually respect this type of woman. They understand the transactional relationship. She's very clear. She goes, no, I don't want that Brad. Yes, I do want that Brad. The transactional nature of her and the fact that she's not over-emotional and crying and all these things all the time, it makes her very easy to understand for men. Men understand these women.

But the problem with these women, is that sometimes they don't end up getting what they want in terms of, in the end, they don't get the family they want. In the end, they might also get exhausted by, there are things deeper than making yourself just happy on the surface, okay? And that is where number two comes in. And these two ranks, I am stuck at number two. I sometimes get to number one. I sometimes do become her. I'm getting notes.

Okay, guys, I'm getting notes if you're watching me. Do not, do not, do not leave. I'm getting notes. Uh-huh, uh-huh. There you are. A lot of women that are really quality get stuck at. number two, which is the ride or die. Now the ride or die isn't a pick me. She doesn't just die for anyone. She doesn't just ride for anyone. She's the woman who intrinsically understands that she

needs to respect a man who she is going to, you know, bond with. She's a teammate, aka ride or a guy, okay? She won't support any random useless man. She isn't a picme. She doesn't work for free. A pick me will support a man because he's trying to start his garage band for six months and work two jobs. The ride or die, or the teammate doesn't do that. She doesn't always work in his business or in her business. She doesn't always do the 50-50, but she often does. She can also be the mother at home who does the majority of the childcare, like the elephant's share of the childcare, because our husband goes out and works. She is very smart. She knows how to delegate tasks. If she's a businesswoman, the husband could stay at home. If she's staying at home, he could, you know, go to work. She is

teammate. She is very smart. She is very astute. She is on it. And her end goal is to create a family and children that will be happy and she does everything for the unit. She is there for the unit. She knows that she needs to respect the man that she's with. So she doesn't pick willy-nilly, random Joe. Okay. She picks someone who she can respect, but it's not somebody who's bombastic and like some billionaire that she can't even invest in. She either looks after the children or takes huge load of like the childcare. She's not flitty. She's not flaky. She's not all about herself. She is the teammate. And I graduated too there with working and things like that. And sometimes these days, I am delving into level one. I'm delving into her, the princess, the queen, the queen who, you know,

the queen being I'm in my 30s, maybe you're in your 20s and you're the princess, okay? The thing about the right or die is she's very astute. She's very smart. She does everything. She has long-term relationships. She's secure. She is not insecure. If a man is using her, she will dump him quite quickly. You know, she is that woman. She's your best friend as well. She is the friend that we all want to have. She's amazing.

The problem with her is that she does get overworked. The problem with her is that she doesn't just live from her essence of feminine energy. She still believes that doing has results in, you know, people loving her. And then I was going to make notes on her. And if you're watching this, you see that my notes. is blank because this one, this one I'm just going to wax lyrical on, okay? Level number one, her, the queen. She is the girl who is free.

She does not fall into societal norms. She knows how to make herself happy. She's full of feminine energy. She is incredibly happy. She knows how to make herself happy. The essence of being her or a feminine energy woman is that you are taking all the juice and joy out of this world and you're loving it and you're feeding it back to those around you. You're feeding it back to the people around you and they want to be around you. You're enigmatic. You are incredible. You are that

black cat energy. People chase you. You don't chase them. You don't do. You be in your essence of being. People are pulled to you and you have incredible relationships and people around you because you're enigmatic and you don't put your shit on people. You do not try and ask them to pick you. You do not overwork. You are in your essence of freedom and you let others be themselves. And men love you because you're a combination of the hot girl because you put yourself first and the teammate because you are good at being a team. But you are not desperate for that relationship. You have ultimate freedom. You are her. You are a queen. You know how to make people do things for you. And in exchange, you give them energetic value because in your essence of joy, you're not that overworked mom who's snapping

at her kids. You understand that there's nothing you have to do. And ladies, we're all born as that. We all have that essence of joy in us. We're all born as that. But we lose it because we start to believe in societal ideas of you have to do this, that or the other to be who you are, to be valued, to be loved, to be anything. Okay. But you don't. Like I said, sign up to become her If you don't want to, this video is enough. The thing is become her. I'm going to delve into eight weeks of how it is that I think one should become her and you can come on that journey with me. But it's boundaries, putting yourself first, finding your joy because her, she is happy.

She is happy and the guy is just happy to come along for the ride. She is that girl. She comes in many different shapes and sizes. You see her in movies. People write things about her books. She is Helen of Troy. She is those women who just are magnificent. And if you can be that, then you can forget about all these societal things and people will

just fall at your feet. Trust me. If you can find and tap into the essence of your own personal joy and not nag like the grouch and teach people and not try and get people to pick you like the pick me and admit to your own wants unlike the it's not for me girl and understand that it's not just all about your body like the hot girl. and understand that you don't have to be equal with a man, like the ride or die, you can be on that goddess energy.

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