BEING HER with Margarita Nazarenko - 81: No Holds Barred: The Bare Minimum To Obtain Pretty Privilege.

Episode Date: October 6, 2024

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Okay, okay. Let's talk about beauty and beauty standards. I think you need to understand as a woman, one of the most important, and I know it's not fair. I know it's not fair. I know it's not fair. It's not fair. But one of the most important things that you can do for yourself and your progression in the future is invest in yourself. By investing in yourself, I mean many things. I mean your education, I mean your mind, I mean your manifestations, I mean all of it. And if you've watched me and you've watch my TikTok and you've watched my Instagram and you watch me, watch me, watch me, you know that I'm talking about all of the things. But one of the things, and I'm not going to sugarcoat it, and I'm not going to lie. One of the things you really need to invest in is yourself,

above him, above his rent, above his business, above his time, above his energy, is your beauty. Why? Because we as women are judged in this world on our beauty. And we can talk around and around until the cows come home about how it's not about our beauty, how it's not about this, how we're a person, you know, that is in our own right and we should be celebrated for who we are. And I love that. And that's great. And I will never stop developing my mind. The brain won't stop developing because that is after somebody falls in love with your looks, the asset that they will stay in love with an attracted to and that you can grow your children with and your businesses with. I use my brain for that, right? But let's not be around the bush. The beauty thing gets you through doors and it's an asset.

But we'll talk about the controversial parts of beauty in a minute, my baby, okay? The thing that you need to remember when you, with all your interior mentality and heart and best intentions want to spend money on him and his rent and his future and his, you know, endeavors, remember that you should be putting into your own beauty routine. You should be putting into your own good eating, into your own gym routine, into your own own own stuff, not sharing rent with him, who is not even your husband and is going to waste your time until you're in your mid-30s and you can't have the kids that you wanted to have and he might move on. You should be investing in you because if he does move on and he's not married you and he's not about that life, then you are looking like a snack, my love,

okay? Because we are judged by our beauty, but this is the first thing I want to debunk. Numero uno. Don't let brands, be smart, be smart woman. Don't let brands sell you with your insecurities. If you are a curvy girl, by nature, you're a J-Lo, don't let brands sell you that you should be looking like a Victoria's Secret model. If you are a girl who has not got boobies, don't let brands sell you push up bras. You should be amplifying the assets that you have. Me, all I ever wanted to do in my life is wear backless dresses. Me, I can't do that. I can't do that because my boobs are boobing too much. And if I am wearing a blackless dress, then the boobs are boobing and it's just we're not, you know, doing a show that is of the adult nature here, okay? So everyone

needs to amplify their assets. How branding works is they want to sell you on the things that you believe you do not have and they want to sell you more on those assets and sell to you on your insecurities. That's lovely. That's great for branding, but that's not great for you. Be a smart woman. Don't buy into that. But also understand that you should be amplifying your looks to the best of your ability. There is no excuse for you not to put your best foot forward, my love, okay? In conclusion, you don't need high-end beauty products. You don't need the most amazing things to be beautiful. Doesn't make you feel good. Do I love Victoria Beckham eyeliner. Yes, I do. Yes, I do. Because I love the ritual of beauty and it makes me feel good. But the most beautiful thing you can be is natural and happy in your own entity and in your own

body and in your own state. Number two, you can get enhancements, but you don't need them. Embrace the things that you cannot change about yourself. And if you cannot embrace them, change them. I'm not going to advocate for arsic surgery because it is a surgery and it could go wrong. This is life and death. This is not a joke. But if you cannot live with it, move forward with doing something about it. There are also micro things you can do. There is needling. There is lasers. There is facials. If a laser or a facial is really going to work, do your research and it's going to cost you a certain amount of money. Invest that money in your face. Your face is your face card, as we call it these days. It's your face card. Invest in it. Your hair, everything,

needs some investment in it. And don't think that if you've got a nose, I've posted my nose sideways, on Instagram before. It is not a perfect ski slope nose, okay? I'm an Eastern European woman with a nose nose, okay? And that's okay. It's like a Greek nose. You know what I mean? It's a nose. It gives vibes. And learn to fall in love with it. Learn to be charismatic. Learn to be a divine goddess with a nose. Learn to be a divine goddess with a butt with, I don't know, whatever it is you have that you don't like learn it. And if you really, really can't, that's where surgery comes in. But again, Don't be sold on surgeries and a certain look. They're selling you a certain look.

Please don't be so gullible and be a customer of industry. Back in the day, it was the Kate Moskinny look, now it's the Kim Kardashian look. Next, it's another look. It's those emperic look, schmenzik look, menzik look. Don't always be a gullible customer. Be a goddess in your own right. A goddess knows the temple that people are worshipping at and that is your own temple. Number three, effortless beauty is a myth.

Everyone you see who is effortlessly beautiful unless they're one of the lucky 0.1% aren't effortlessly beautiful. I'm going to tell you what to do for effortlessly beautiful. If your hair doesn't look right, put it in a bun like I'm wearing today. If you're not watching this and you're listening to this, go watch it on my YouTube as well. And if it's not out yet, it will be out in two days. Skin, if it doesn't look good, put a tan on it. Even people with melanin in their skin, they tan, they bronze, it looks better. It kind of covers up blemishes, etc, things like that. I saw that once from a girl who had more melanin in her skin. She said that works. I don't know. I have not tried it, but it certainly works for me. Get your

your skin looking glossy, perfect, beautiful, as much as you can. I know it's not always in your power, but try, try. Go see a dermatologist. You should be spending your money on that, not on his crusty bum, okay? Teeth, teeth, I've had a misline two times. Everything that is a sign of health, healthy whites in your eyes, that means enough, sleep, enough water, water, okay? Don't tell us about that Margarita, enough, okay? Clothes that fit you, not ill-fitting clothes, not two black colors, like a black t-shirt and black leggings, and they mismatch, they mismatch, because one's been washed a hundred times, and another one is new. Simple, classic, put together. You can be beautiful. Anyone can be beautiful. Okay. And don't let them tell you that effortless is just effortless like it just happens to people.

It doesn't just happen to people. People put money into their effortless beauty. It is good hair, good skin, good nails and all of these things. You need to find out the effort that you need to put in and put that effort in as opposed to wasting your money on another coffee, latte, macalate, chocolate, whatever latte, okay? And on the next trend, trends are not going to make you effortlessly beautiful. They're not going to make you goddess-like in the world. They're not going to make you stand out in the world. Your true natural effortless quotation marks, beauty will, but you need to find out how to cultivate that, how to make that happen for yourself. Number four, there's a difference between male beauty standards and female beauty standards. You need to hit a balance between being a cool girl

and also appealing to the male gaze if you want to appeal to the male gaze. Because there's a lot to be said for the fact that you can be a cool girl and women can find you attractive or men can find you attractive. You need to harness the power to do either or if you don't want it and if this part is making you be like, ew, I don't want him to like me. I just want the girlies to like me. The girlies and the gays, great, great. Then you know what to do. You know what the cool thing is and cool girls are also very admirable and amazing. But if you want the male gays to like you, I'll give you a very simple solution. It is effortless looking beauty. So it's like you rolled out of bed. Hair's got to be, you know, as if it's natural. Everything's going to be as if it's

natural, as if, as if. And may I add this remark, if your man is telling you that he doesn't like nails, he doesn't like hair, he doesn't like girls who put effort in themselves, money in themselves. He is lying. He is lying. Put him in the bin. Put that opinion in the bin. He's just trying to keep you happy, number one, in the fact that he is telling you you're beautiful as you are. And number two, he's trying to keep you the way that you are and not above him. I'm just trying to keep you. not going to say anything more about that. I know you're thinking right now, no, my man is telling me the truth. He doesn't like girls who do all that, all that, all that. Look who he follows on Instagram. Look who he follows on Instagram. Number five, shaming women who go all out. I'm not

here for it. If a woman is putting into her goddess energy, into her looks, into her vibes, and she is looking amazing. I am all for that. And I'm going to celebrate that woman. Why? Because I am here to celebrate women. People who are like, she's wearing too much makeup. She's going all out. Who she thinks she is in the bin. I don't like that opinion. I think women should be amplified and celebrate it. And I think if you've got the energy to go all out, if you've got the time to go all out, go all out. I'm always going to be here for it. We get this one life, one experience, one time around this earth on this globe. And it is a beautiful experience to be a girl. Enjoy girlhood. Enjoy dressing up. Enjoy heads turn when you walk into the room. Try and be not the most beautiful woman in the world.

Try and be the most beautiful girl in your environment. It's not going to be that hard. Go to your local cafe. People don't put in effort. Put in effort. It's not about natural beauty. It's about effortless beauty. That takes a lot of effort.

Okay? Do the research. Find out how to do it. Skin, hair, nails. Boom. Polar bears. Do it. Number six.

Pretty privilege. I know that we all like to talk about pretty privilege and how pretty people get what they want. Da-da-da-da-yad-da. I want you to try and be one of those pretty people. I want you to believe that you're one of those pretty people. I want you to garner that privilege. I don't want you to sit around and talk about how that's not you and you don't get that.

Is your diet right? Do you go to the gym? Are you looking after yourself? Are you into yourself? Have you decided on what colors suit you? Have you looked at your ethnicity profile and what you think works for you? What you think works for your head shape? Look at my heart shaped head, okay?

When I was younger, I used to believe I am the ugliest thing in the world, okay? But you need to turn that around and get obsessed with your look, your individual look. follow people who are around your own age, follow people who have your ethnic profiling, who look like you, who act like you, not act like you, because no one acts like you, you're a unique baby, you know, but people who you can emulate and who you can really move into being like them and looking like them. Of course, you can follow everyone else, and of course I do, but for that purpose of your beauty and how you want to look, it's those people. So on to the next part of the video, no holds bad what you must do to have pretty privilege

and to look your best and be goddess energy and be a high value woman. Number one, skin. What's your skin doing? That means from hormones to your diet. I like a paleo-keto diet. That works for me. It might not work for you. I would say the rule is generally more vegetables, more fruit, if that fruit works for you, more natural, unprocessed food, basically unprocessed foods, lots of water. It will show in your skin. If your hormones are off, go get a hormone panel. Oh, but I can't, I can't go to the doctor. I don't care. I don't. I don't. I don't. don't care because you are being sold to by cosmetic companies to put more makeup on when you should be really taking a lot of it off, pairing back and sorting out your hormones. What are you taking

into your body? Are your hormones, right? Maybe it's just one hormone that you need to fix. Go to your doctor. Make sure your skin is beautiful. Make sure it's as good as you can get it. And I know when are all lucky to have that. I have a breakout on my neck for some bloody reason. I never usually get that, but it's some kind of allergic reaction to something cool. Okay. but I cover it up. We move on. That's the first thing. Second thing, as I said before, your hair, nutrition works amazingly for hair, nails, manicured. Your hair should be full and amazing and bouncy and full of life, okay? Whether that's straight, whether that's curly, it doesn't matter. And if it's having an off day, boom, sleek pony, okay? If it suits you, have the wisps around your

face like 90s Pamela Anderson, but the hair should be hearing. When I see women with tragic hair and amazing faces. It just ruins it because people see you as not even disheveled, but that you, I fall into this a lot, you know, I wear it in a clip and look like a disheveled baboon, but it doesn't matter, okay? I'm just telling you what I notice impacts people. Your hair needs to be on point. Brows and lashes, okay? Experiment. I used to dye my eyebrows. It makes me look like a frowline, like a very grumpy old woman. I like them light now. I like them manicured and light and I like long lashes. I love to have eyelash extensions, but it ruins my natural lashes, but it's worth it for me. I sometimes get eyelash extensions. Work out what looks good on the face.

So hair, skin, eyelashes, nails, yeah? That's the pretty privileged card. That's the effortless beauty card. Next, good posture and body language. I like to sit like a prawn as much as the next guy, but if you want to have pretty privilege, and this is a no-holds-barred advice, sit up straight. Sit up straight. Hold your back up straight. You're a girly feminine goddess. Hold it up. stop it. Sit up. I told you about the clothing. Throw out your clothing. Stop buying so much. Buy quality. Buy what suits you. Stop buying into trends. Just because oversized blazer is in. And you're shaped like a brick like I tend to be if I put on more weight. Brick shaped. And then I'm wearing a brick box blazer. It's just brick city. Just stop.

Don't buy into trends that are not going to suit your body. Okay. I am top heavy and bottom small. if I wear those big boxy things, I look like a frown line. So do not do it. Okay. And lastly, your attitude. The way I'm talking to you, I'm talking to my girlies. I don't go in storming to places and talking like this, especially not to my husband or a man I'm interested in. Not that I'm interested in a man whilst having a husband, but you know what I mean. You need to know how to present yourself. Have a little coyness, have a little playfulness to your attitude. The top ain't The thing that men want is a feminine woman, not a beautiful woman. They think it's beautiful, but it's actually feminine.

They want to feel masculine around you. That is the whole principle. That is the whole thing. If you can make him feel like a hero, this is why in long-term relationships, men kind of get disheartened because she's just telling him what to do because, let's face it, they can be a little bit useless, right? But if you just like wave him to the wayside, tell him what to do constantly, make him emasculated, he's going to search for ways to feel masculine.

And that might not be by having an affair. He might be a good guy, right? But he's going to go and try and conquer a mountain, climb into one of those caves. You know those caves that people go caving or whatever and try and prove his masculinity? Just stroke his ego, make him feel like a man. Oh my God, you're amazing. You're amazing. All that stuff.

They love it. Anyway, guys, you're beautiful. I see you. And I'll see you on the next one. Oh, join Become Her. If you want to know more, Join Become Her by 1st of November. It is coaching by me exclusively. Community, everything.

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