BEING HER with Margarita Nazarenko - 84: Black Cat Energy (dark feminine) VS White Cat Energy (light feminine) when & how to use both.

Episode Date: October 27, 2024

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So today we're diving into something super powerful that I've been getting tons of questions about white cat energy versus black cat energy. I know you've heard me talk about black cat energy and how to make him chase you. But how does it compare to white cat energy? And importantly, how do you use both to attract what you want in your life and get what you want from him and life in general? Let's break this down. I'm going to explain what these energies are. they work and give you some tips on how to switch between them depending on the situation girl, okay? First things first, what is feminine energy? Because white cat is light feminine, black cat is dark

feminine. Feminine energy isn't just about looking pretty, being girly, it's how you move through the world, how you feel inside, and how you attract people and opportunities without having to chase them down. Feminine energy is magnetic, it's soft, nurturing, receptive, you're not forcing anything, you're allowing things to come to you. And here's the thing, babe. Feminine energy can take on different forms, which is where white cat and black cat energy come in, okay? So if you felt you haven't fit into the black cat energy, white cat energy enters the chat. Let's talk about it. Let's talk about white cat energy, okay?

Because I feel like it's the one that gets overlooked sometimes. White cat energy is soft, approachable and playful. It's like that sweet feminine vibe that makes people want to come close. Think of a white kitten. Super cute, easy to love. Everyone wants to pick it up and color. like that one in Aristocats with the pink bow. Now, white cat energy is about being open. It's warm. You're expressive. You're the kind of person that people feel safe around. When you're in your

white cat energy, you're inviting people in. You're making them feel comfortable and you're creating a connection through your lightness. And some of the characteristics of white cat energy. It's number one approachability. You make others feel comfortable in your presence. You're the kind of person people feel safe to talk to. You're open, you're kind and you radiate warmth. Number two, playfulness, very key in feminine energy. White cat energy is fun. You're not taking yourself too seriously. You're playful in your conversation. You laugh easily and you're lighthearted. This energy is really attractive to people because it makes people feel good around you. Number three, expressiveness. When you're in your white cat energy, you're more open about your feelings and

thoughts, which is key to feminine energy. You let people in, but not in a way that makes you feel vulnerable and needy. You're just sharing your natural and true emotion. When do you want to use white cat energy? It's great for building connections, okay, babe. Whether you're dating someone new or deepening a friendship, white cat energy is the kind of vibe that helps you create trust and intimacy and makes him want to look after you. It's that girl next door charm, the approachable energy that makes people feel drawn to you because you are easy to be around. but hard to get. Let me give you a real life example of white cat energy, okay? Think Marilyn Monroe, playful, sweet. She let people in. She made people feel like they want to look after her. She's not

competing with the guy. She's not trying to do too much. That's white cat energy in action, where she's not trying to make him feel like she's an adversary. Now, Black Cat Energy, let's switch gears about Black Cat Energy. We've talked about it a lot because I know you're all dying to hear the difference, yeah? Black Cat Energy is mysterious. it's dark feminine, it's confident, it's independent. When you're in your black cat energy, you're not chasing anyone or anything, baby. You know you're worth, you're not afraid to let people work for your attention. Black cat energy is all about mystery and independence. Those are the key factors. Think about a black cat slinking around doing its own thing. It comes to you when it

wants. It's not following anyone and it's definitely doesn't care if you're following it or not. It's got its own vibe and that's what makes it so irresistible. of black cat energy number one mystery when you embody black cat energy you don't reveal anything about yourself right away you let people wonder give them just enough to keep them intrigued but you're not an open book you are reserved you give people bits by bits it's about a little mystery in the air which I talk about a lot on my sub stack number two independence you're doing you babe you're not waiting for someone else to validate your worth you're confident in your own skin and you know that your happiness comes first from within and not

from anyone else. Black cats make themselves happy. Number three, selectiveness. Not everyone gets to know you and that's what makes you so intriguing. You're not easily available and that creates a sense of a lure. People want what they can't have. Black cat energy taps right into that human psychology. Black cat energy is perfect for the early stages of dating. You're letting them chase you. You're not texting back right away. You're making sure that he's working to earn your time and attention. But here's a thing about black cat energy. It doesn't mean being cold or distant or playing games. It's about knowing your worth and not giving everything a way up front. It's also good for when, like a marriage that's gone stagnant. It's really good for that as well. When to use each energy? You're probably

wondering, Margarita, when should I be a white cat, when I should be a black cat, when I should do this? When should I tap into what? Like, it's too much, babe. The answer is balance. It's not about choosing one all the other. It's about knowing when each one is going to serve you best, and that's the key to femininity. Here's an example. In the beginning stages of dating, black cat energy is gold. Chef's kiss. You're being selective, you're not too available, and you're letting him chase you. You're holding back just enough to keep him intrigued, but once you start getting deeper and deeper into our relationships, that's when you can switch up and bring in more of that white cat energy because men love to take care of a woman. Let him feel that you need him. Let him see your warmth,

your openness, your playful side. It's about creating that push and pull that is so alluring to a human brain, too much black cat, and you come across as distant and boring, too much white cat, and you come across as clingy and needy and too available. So find this sweet spot where you can be mysterious and approachable at the same time, and he will be crazy for you. Let's say you're already in a relationship. You might be thinking, okay, cool, I'm married, I'm in a long-term relationship. How can I keep that black cat energy alive? Yeah. It's easy to fall into comfort, but never stop being the black cats, even in a long-term relationship. Keep that mystery alive, okay? Don't feel like you need to share every single detail of your life. Don't send long text messages.

Keep him wondering. Let him chase you. Stop closing the gap. Let him come to you, even after years of being together. Okay. So when do you deploy each one? Let's talk about it. When, who, how should you use these energies that you possess as a woman, depending on what you're trying to attract. whether it's a romantic relationship or a friendship or a work opportunity or even family dynamics, because you guys always talk about work and black cat energy. Okay, so here's the difference. White cat energy, light feminine. This is the energy you want to bring when you're trying to create a connection, trust and warmth. You'll use this with people who you want to bring closer to you into your life.

Whether you're nurturing an existing relationship, think of it like your welcoming energy, you're light, playful, magnetic. I'm harmless. I'm just a kitty cat energy. Here is how you use it. Number one, place to use it. New friendships and social circles. When you're meeting new people and you want to create bonds, white cat energy is the way to go. You're open, approachable, you make people feel comfortable. You'll notice that people gravitate towards you because you're giving them all that playful, easygoing vibes. And that makes human beings very, very happy in a friendship scenario. Number two, building networks in a relationships at work. In professional settings, when you want to build rapport with colleagues and even network with your new people that are around you, white cat energy helps break the ice. You're showing

that your friendly, cooperative, easy to get along with people will want to help you out. And that is key to collaborate with you, because if you're slinking around like a black cat, everyone's like, all right, well, get on and do it by yourself then, okay? Number three, nurturing your romantic relationship. If you are already in a relationship where you trust him and you see things are going well and you want him to invest in you, white cat energy can deepen that bond. You can use it to show your soft side. It brings out in men their caring, nurturing, provide a role and makes them connect to you because they are not competing with you. It's about letting your guard down a little bit and allowing your partner to feel that he can wrap you up in his arms and look after you.

Four, family dynamics. Sometimes family relationships can be complicated, but white cat energy can help smooth things over, resolve conflict and bring warmth. back with humor, interaction, playfulness, that kind of energy. It shows that you're willing to engage in positive, lighthearted conversation and break tension. Okay. Now, black cat energy, how do you use this, when do you use this? And when do you need it? It's when you need to create boundaries, maintain independence or let people know what you want. It's your dark, feminine energy. It's about confidence, mystery, making people work for your time and attention, okay? So it's got a definite place in your life and not giving everything away straight away. People need to feel

like they need to work for your time and effort sometimes. That's when the black cat comes out. Here is how to use it. Number one. Dating and romantic pursuits. Black care energy is perfect chef's gifts for dating and especially in the beginning stages. When you're all too keen, okay, you're keeping things a little mysterious. You're not texting back right away. You're not always available. You're letting them come to you. This energy makes you irresistible because people, namely men, love the chase. You're confident, you know, you're worth, you're not rushing into anything, and I don't want you to end up with anyone. I want you to end up with the guy who really wants you, and this really helps suss them out. Number two, negotiations in the workplace.

Let's say you're negotiating a raise or a promotion at work. Blacker energy is a secret power here. You're calm, confident, you're not snapping back, you're not jabber, jabber talking all the time. you're not pleading, you're not begging, you're simply stating your value and expectations, which are men are very good at. The standards you expect to be met, this energy shows that you're in control, that you won't settle for less than what you deserve, and it's very, very powerful feminine energy. Number three, setting boundaries and friendships. If you have a friend or a partner who's like taking too much from you, whether it's

your time, energy, emotional support, they just are using you, this is where the black cat needs to pop up. You need to create some space and remind them that your energy is. valuable by being a little less available and setting those boundaries, you're showing them that your time and attention needs to be earned. This energy helps you reclaim your independence and make others respect your space, not by talking, not by saying, oh, respect me, respect me, respect me, but by pulling back where attention goes, energy flows. Number four, attraction and attention. Sometimes you want to stand out without having to say, hello, here I am, whether you're walking

into a party, networking event, or a family gathering, or just being your badass black cat self, make people curious about you. You're not chasing anyone's approval. You're simply existing in your own power. People will naturally be drawn to you because they want to know what's behind your mystery and your confidence. It's the best thing to do at a dinner party is be the quietest person there. It's very mysterious, very sexy. Now, how to use the energies to get what you want. The real magic happens when you learn to balance these energies together. Depending on your goals, you can switch between the white cat energy and the black cat energy to maximize results. For example, if you're dating someone new and you say want to create an emotional

connection while still keeping things intriguing, you can start with black cat, dark, feminine energy, let them chase you, but then mix in some white cat energy when he does what you want or as things progress, let them see your playfulness, your warm side when he does what you like. That balance is what keeps people coming back for more like the slot machine because you're getting the best of both worlds. Intrigue and connection, love and desire. If you're in a long-term relationship, you can use white cat energy to create that loving, nurturing vibe that people love to come home to and strengthen that bond by sprinking a little black cat in just because you're married or whatever. Does it mean you stop being the woman he chases? Keep a little mystery alive.

Stop asking him where he is all the time. Have your own life and let him keep working to win you over. At work, you can use white cat energy to build friendly relationships with people, especially the girlies, with your colleagues and all that stuff. but when it comes to negotiating with your boss and men, that's when the black cat comes out, okay? Because that's what they respond to. You're approachable, kind when you need to be, but firm and confident when it's time to stand up for your values

and, you know, set the limits, stand your ground, okay? The final thoughts are, at the end of the day, babe, it's all about knowing when to bring out the white cat feminine energy and the black cat feminine energy, the light and the dark. You have the God-given talent for both. both are powerful, both have their time and place. And when you master the balance of femininity or womanhood, you can truly get what you want in any relationship or situation,

whether it's love, career, success, your daily relationships, whatever it is that you want. Who are you channeling right now? Who are you going to channel today? I want to set you the challenge of channeling both and seeing where life takes you and where it can lead. If you need more guidance, hop into my website. I'll leave it in the description box below.

You can look up Feminine Energy. or polarity, that is a very, very interesting one about how to get men to react to you in the way that you want. And if it's before the 1st of November, you're watching this, then please join the Become Her eight-week program. And if it's after that, then there's other courses available on my website and my book, the new rules where the rules for dating, confidence, and relationships are all detailed there. I hope you enjoy them. And I hope this video was useful. But the white cat energy is for the girlies who've been watching the black cat energy content thinking, but I'm not mysterious.

I don't know what to do. This is not me. Remember, white cat energy is very powerful. If you want him to love you, nurture you, cuddle you and give you everything you want and not compete with you. Love you lots like jelly tots and I'll see you on the next one. Bye.