BEING HER with Margarita Nazarenko - 85: 13 Powerful Ways to Radiate a Magnetic Aura.

Episode Date: November 3, 2024

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Hi baby, welcome back to the podcast. Today we're going to be talking about aura magnetism, how to cultivate a magnetic aura, how to be that woman. You know that woman. You've seen that woman. You want to be that woman because you are that woman who, no matter what, no matter what the situation is, she just exudes an incredible magnetic aura. And I've noticed this episode I wrote a couple of months ago and now the word aura has been everywhere, everywhere online. Aura is the new thing. We all want aura. I think it comes from the fact that we have understood and we're getting a little bit bored of maximizing our looks, always trying to look our best, be our best, feel our best, always trying to, you know, get thinner, build our butt,

eat better and it's just exhausting. And I think there's so much to be said about the process of aging, but not only that, also the process of growing up, the process of understanding that there's something internal about you that also makes you extremely magnetic and juicy and yummy and beautiful. I've got a list of how many margarita, how many? 13 things that are going to maximize your aura and who you are. The whole essence of femininity, womanhood, and becoming that well from which people delve inspiration from is becoming extremely beautiful and maximized in your aura. Number one thing that you must understand about having a magnetic aura that everyone is going to be

obsessed with is that aura is a reflection of your inner world. That is literally what it means, what you radiate externally from your inner world. How can you denote the fact that you have a valuable inner world? My mom is the queen of this. I will, you've probably seen her on my Instagram. She is the literal queen of this because why she is obsessed with her inner world. She literally does not care what you're doing, what you're not doing. And that is the thing that women have in common who make people go crazy about them

is that they are so interested in their inner world. It makes you want to just delve into like, how is it that you are loving your life so much? How is it that you are enjoying your life so much? Because we're all struggling. We all struggle with life, mental health, things again. getting away from us. Life can be difficult. And when we see a person truly enjoying the experience of life, we want to delve into it. This is what women get wrong often. They make their life about the man in their life by not making their life about themselves, but making their life about

him. And we know the rule, the more you focus on him, the more he focuses on himself. The more you focus on yourself, the more he focuses on you. That's right, ladies. So if that is what you want, if you want to magnetize people with your aura, you need to cultivate a really interesting and amazing inner world. And the first way you do that is you start nurturing yourself. What does that mean? When you're going to think about what does he want to eat, first think about what you want to eat. When you think about what he wants to do, first think about what you want to do. When you're thinking about how everyone else is happy, first think about how you are happy. You need to start to think about you first to create an interesting. It's almost like architecture. You're creating something

interesting out of yourself by cultivating who you are. There's going to be no aura if there's nothing interesting about you. If you want to feel luxurious, you need to have a luxurious internal experience. Have you treated yourself to something? Have you bought yourself something new? And it's not about buying things, but luxurious experiences can be formed from bathing. Whatever it is that you want to do, me, I don't like a bath, but you might. Reading your favorite book, what makes you feel good inside? Is it those novels that you read? it what makes you feel warm, fuzzy and queen like? What is the experience that you want to have? You need to cultivate that by cultivating it in you. If your inner world is hazardous, self-loathing,

erratic and wild, you are going to radiate that. It's not going to be in your aura. You know it's extremely addictive and this is a side quest, but I'm going to go on it. What is extremely addictive about a human being, a woman especially because we have feminine energy, is a woman who is obsessed with her inner world and doesn't really care about other people's ideas about what she's doing. That confidence to follow yourself through in life is very, very, very engaging. It's almost addictive. When a man sees that he can bend you to his whim and the world is the same, the world is the same, it's masculine, the world and how it's built, when it sees that you can be bent to any whim, any any time, any place, you become disposable. When you stand for something, you become very, very

valuable in the world. Number two, the power of authenticity. Magnetism is rooted in authenticity. We are like small animals. We can see when somebody is operating from an area of authenticity. Now, authenticity, and I've talked about it before on the podcast, does not mean oversharing. That's the cult of authenticity. I'm just going to be who I am. I'm going to be who I am. You should appreciate who I am. If you don't appreciate it, then jog on.

No, baby, no. It's true, genuine self-acceptance. That's where confidence come from. Self-acceptance at the same time as growth and inner development. Okay? It's rooted in embracing who you truly are in that moment and realizing that you don't need to please anybody. You don't need to.

icons like for example marina monroe or audrey hepburn have a unique essence because they were uniquely themselves how they saw the world they communicated it to the world you need to lean into who you naturally are if you like to discover that more there is different authentic vibes that you can emulate for example read seduction by robert green that book details about 12 different archetypes that you can lean into this whole conversation about being mysterious and like black cat energy is not going to be for everybody some people are a natural that is the the type of person that you could be which is like a person who is naturally jovial naturally happy naturally laughs and smiles and is like at one with the world there is one called the star this person is kind of elusive and difficult to get a hold of

and they are extremely beautiful you've got to find out who you are there's the size of who all women try and emulate, that is the Marion Monroe type, the siren, overtly sexual and fantasy-like, but that might not be you. So authenticity is the key to having that aura. So now we've layered it. We have an interesting, luxurious, opulent in a world that you're obsessed with, added with authenticity to who you truly are. If you're a short, curvy girl, stop trying to be Jezelle, okay? If you're Jezell, stop trying to be J-Lo, authentic to who you truly are. Three, make others feel special. If I would impart any knowledge on you, any wisdom on you,

if you're feeling a lack of confidence, if you're feeling, and you know what, I went to an event yesterday. It was a shark tank premiere. A shark tank is Dragon's Den in England or I can't remember what it's called in other countries, but it's where everybody comes and, you know, pitches their business and sees which other sharks are going to invest into it or dragons. and and lion's dead i think that's the other one and the thing that people i was at this event and i'm talking to other people i'm talking to random people i'm just getting to know people i wasn't there

long it was a great event the thing that i realized in that moment because i hadn't been out talking to new people for a long time because i just keep my head down i work and i just look after my kids but that's my vibe at the moment but i realized that the way you make people like you is by making them feel special. We aren't really heard, we aren't really seen in the world. People can't really see each other. They don't really hear each other. And to have a magnetic aura, you must really practice active listening, maintenance of eye contact, really hearing to that person. I am opening a new format on the podcast whereby I'm going to be interviewing women and I really want to have genuine conversations and as opposed to writing lists of questions,

How did you start your business? How many children do you have? It's about active listening and engaging in a genuine conversation and where it flows. It enriches your connection and it truly makes you magnetic because this world is so fast-paced, baby. It's a TikTok world. Swipe, swipe, swipe, swipe, say the right thing. Do the right thing. Yada, yada, yada.

And when somebody takes the time to truly make eye contact with you and see you for who you are, you will become so magnetic. So there you are. You're interested and therefore you are interesting. You are authentic. And you have this opulent in a world that you invest in. The more you invest in you, the more you investable in by people. It even applies to looks.

You know, if you're in your 20s, you won't realize this. But as you hit 30, you realize that looks are not. about natural beauty, as they are in your teens and 20s. They are about how you treat yourself. That's what becomes good looking as you get to 30s and 40s. But I digress. Number four, the cultivation of mystery and intrigue. Mystery is a powerful tool in building a magnetic aura. Why? Because mystery, unlike what we're taught, it is, is not about playing games, but it is about that fine art of etiquette and intrigue. making yourself fascinating, by not blurting everything out, by not talking about your bodily

function, I've told you, stop talking about that stuff. Stop talking about things that make you so deeply mundane and boring. Stop oversharing about tiny details. There is these memes about boomers who like tell you unnecessary details of their day and everybody laughs at it and it's funny, but that's you as well, you know that? Oh yes, I went and I got a pizza, but it was kind of barbecue, but it wasn't barbecue. And then it's adorable, but it's not going to make you magnetic and it's not going to make your aura magnetic? No. It's going to make you deeply pedestrian. That's the word for you. Pedestrian and the same as everybody else. Don't reveal all that wants everything that you've got going on up here. Don't reveal the mundane detail. If you've got nothing to say, don't say anything

because it's going to make you magnetic and interesting. Learn the art of conversation, learn the art of mystery and intrigue. There are so many books written on it. There's like, knowledge upon knowledge upon knowledge of information that one can cultivate and utilize to make yourself magnetic and interesting through the art of mystery. Being selectively available, chef's kiss. Don't go to the opening of an envelope. Be selectively available. Keep your private life private and create an aura of intrigue by doing that.

It's not about playing games. It's about prioritizing your mental health, your wealth, your journey. Don't always be, yeah, yeah, yeah, everywhere all the time, especially with men. if you lose the art of mystery with men, they see you as pedestrian and boring. Five, art of body language. If you're a twitchy little rodent-like person, it's adorable. I love that for you, but it's not magnetic in the aura. Your body language communicates how you value yourself and how magnetic you are.

To enhance your aura, practice confident, graceful movement. Not like this, not like this everywhere in everyone's face. slowly, slowly. If you want to have a queen-like aura, you maintain eye contact, and you don't let objects serve you. Now, I can show you this, but I can't communicate it over the podcast. So if you're watching this, don't be about objects, like drinking this coffee, or what's the coffee like?

Look out, drink the coffee. The object serves you. You don't serve objects. Same with clothing. I don't know if I made, about clothing in this, but you don't. serve the clothes, they serve you. Don't make things about what you're wearing. If you don't feel confident in something, you are serving that thing and please don't buy branded items. If you know me from way, way, way, way, way, way, way, way back, I went through a phase of fashion,

interest in fashion and blogging. I would never be into that now because I realize to have a magnetic aura, you can't have labels all over you. Because it's about you, it's not about the fashion. the art of body language, you need to sit down on a chair and stand up and realize just in that movement. It's called the Alexander technique. Look it up. How much of your movements are layers of ways that you've moved through the world, the slouch of your shoulders, the crook of your neck, the way you move through the world, the parts of you that hurt. You have to have a fluidity in your motion and a grace that makes you magnetic. If you're wearing heels that make you go chunker, chunker, chunker, with your knees bent,

like you see girls wearing. I used to do it in my teens. I used to go to a swimming pool in Turkey or somewhere with my mum or grease and wear like pool wedges because I thought, oh yeah, it's going to elongate my legs. You look ridiculous. Stop. You don't look graceful. You don't look like a gazelle.

You don't look like a deer, which is an archetype of feminine energy. If you want to learn more about feminine energy, go down. Feminine energy masterclass. It's less than $50. I talk there for two hours about the, like how to get anything you want with feminine energy. Soutle gestures, touch, softness, smoothness, all of it. Six. This one needs a whole.

video of its own, a whole podcast of its own. Develop self-validation. Why are you letting him, her, their mom and their dog validate you? You need to validate yourself. True magnetism comes from that super mysterious quality of being able to self-validate. Your opinion is important to you. You validate yourself. Practice decision like a muscle. I struggle with this. Baby girl, I'm not going to lie. I struggle. I struggle with making decisions. I've got decision fatigue because my babies are small and I'm running a business and houses and we're building and we're renovating and I can't. I'm like, someone decide for me. But you can.

You can do it. It comes from stopping, seeking of external validation and starting to understand that you are as important as the opinions you seek. Why are you not as important? Why is this experience of being you not as valid as the experience of being someone else? What does Gerald know that you don't? He doesn't know anything. He's just saying it from the top of his head. Learn to validate yourself.

Know who you are. It's undeniably attractive. The self-assurance sets your part from most people in the world. Most people don't possess that. If you want to be unique, don't get a BBL. Get self-assurance. self-validation. It's going to make you so magnetic. Seven. Elevate your environment. Your surroundings have a significant impact. Okay.

I am drowning in kids' toys. Okay? Not here. Not on this set, but usually. I cleared my dining table. I've got a marble dining table. cleared that shit of anything, okay? And I felt magnetic in my aura. I was like, yes, this is how I want to live, create beautiful environments. What do you think temples are, places of worship? What do you think they are? Why do you think they're beautiful? Why do you think when you come into a church or a chapel or a mosque or wherever you want to go or any temple? Why do you think that you can feel the presence of magnitude and aura in those places?

Even forget religious places. How about art galleries? You can feel that because there is an order to them. There isn't chaos. The aura is magnetic because it's beautiful. It's harmonious. You feel grounded. The idea of worship of something has to be done in an area that is cultivated for you to do so.

Okay? Eight. Engage in regular reflection. Regular self-reflection through journaling, through conversations with self, meditation, which I am still struggling to do, but journaling is my, my meditation. Setting aside of quiet time and cultivating your presence is what's going to do it. Running around like a headless chicken is not going to do it. Yesterday when I went to the event, the shark tank premiere, I went in a taxi and I put my phone away and I just sat because I don't have those moments.

You have to have quiet in your head to have great ideas. You have to have quiet in your head to be magnetic. You have to have quiet in your head to present magnetically in the world. Number nine, protect and cleanse your energy on a regular basis. I'm going to teach you something, okay? The aura that you create around yourself, you can do mind techniques on how to do it, okay? I'm going to teach you mine. You can visualize a practice where you cleanse the aura, literally whatever appeals to you. I do this thing where when I'm feeling and energetically charged by someone else or endangered by someone else's energy. I imagine, let's say that's me or somebody I love, I imagine a light spiral going around them.

If you imagine it's like a shooting star that whizzes around and creates a cocoon around them. If you've ever seen a shark's egg, like that kind of spiral, and you can imagine any color, you can imagine it as an orb, you can imagine it as a sphere, you can imagine it as a spaceship. I don't care how you imagine it, as long as you feel that protective energy. you can imagine as a bath of water cleansing that bad aura off them, it ensures that you vibrate an untouchable energy and you release that negativity from yourself, okay? It's very important to do that.

To really, I envision like light, sparkle, yellow, pink, whatever I'm feeling, white light, encasing me or anyone I love when I feel that they are in a bad energy. Do it. It works amazingly. Because our mind is literally magic. Ten, practice subtle, a seduction. Magnetic energy is inherently seductive, but true seduction is subtle. It's the way you carry yourself, the way you smile and how you leave a bit of mystery. Being a sexually energetic, seductive person in the world gives you magnetic aura because the energy of sexuality is a very powerful one. you might be married, you might have a partner, but when you go around in the world and you're seductive in your energy to the world, imagine someone who's got an amazing aura.

And Angelina Jolie or somebody, you can just feel that aura like they're trying to seduce you, but they're not actually trying to seduce you. Like, develop your sexuality and your sensuality in the world. You're a magnetic, sensual animal. Develop that. Poise, elegance, all of that. 11. Infuse passion in your life. Passion is a key component of magnetic aura, engage in activities that inspire you. I hate the word hobbies, but let's go with hobbies because, I don't know, it just doesn't vibe with me. Hobbies. How about career pursuits, creative endeavors,

things that you want to do? I feel the most magnetic when I'm delving into this, what I'm doing right now. I started the podcast, rebranding the podcast, putting incredible women on the podcast, growing it and cultivating it, passion, passion, passion, my children, everything I do is through the eye of passion and I believe women's businesses grow from that feminine energy when you look at it through the eye of what you're passionate about. Going to make you magnetic. So if you can do that, do it. 12. Your feminine energy, if you're a woman, is at the core of your magnetism. The masculine energy is not. Masculine energy, simply put being doing. I do enough to be lovable.

I cooked the best meal. I did enough. I looked after my family. That is going to deplete your magnetism. I am this. I am that. The energy of beingness is feminine energy. And when you connect to it with true essence, that makes you magnetic. It's a very hard shift to make. If you've read my book, I go into it in pure, pure, pure detail, the new rules. You can buy it on Amazon and everywhere it's available now. You become magnetic and irreplaceable by cultivating feminine energy, which is the art of being instead of doing. We have been indoctrinated so much that to be the good girl is the essence of success as opposed to being a happy girl. The good girl being the girl who does enough, who cleans enough, does enough, is educated enough. But then we are shocked to

find that nobody values that. Sad. 13. And this is a whole video on itself, is cultivate your inner piece. Do not attach anyone's opinions, ideas to your piece. You have to have an inner piece outside of people's ideas, mindfulness, meditation and all that stuff, whatever you can do to cultivate your own inner piece and your own idea of who you truly are. It's the art of detachment. If you haven't heard my videos and that go on to YouTube, write my name and detachment. It's some of my most popular content. It's hard to grasp your mind. mind around, but you have to have a knowledge that no matter what happens in your life, you have the ability to be okay. He doesn't want you. That's okay. He's doing something crazy. That's okay.

Or what if he's cheating? That's okay. You'll be okay. What if that doesn't go right? You don't get the job. You'll be okay. You will be okay because you are you and you're always growing and you always developing and you will be fine because you have you. You are just as important as that person you are attached to. Attach to you, not to them. You're in the boat with you. I will leave all the resources and the links. Thank you for listening. Thank you for watching. I love you lots like jelly tots and I'll see you on the next one. Bye.