Being there for your kids - Are You Clueless?

Episode Date: July 11, 2026

If you are living your life, not knowing that there is a problem, and you don't know that you don't know, then you are clueless. If they haven't already, hopefully a good friend, spouse, co-worker will let you know how your words and actions impact them. Then, with good motivation, you can begin your healing journey in therapy. Being clueless is the starting point of getting well. In this podcast, I share with you the 4 stages of any healing journey. Your therapist is your guide and helping you get there is your therapist's goal. Check out my new book, The Healing Journey: Overcoming Adversity on the Path to the Good Life. Buy your copy on amazonbooks.com. Follow this link: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CY9PQXMZ Blessings,  Dr. Jon

I'm Dr. John Robinson, and this is Teachable Moments. Let me ask you a question. Are you clueless? I hope not. Most of us in life just keep on, keep it on. We do and act how we want to without concern for how our words and actions may impact others. That's the definition of clueless, just living life without a care in the world. Being clueless, you don't know the impact of your words and actions on others until others tell you.

Literally, you don't know that you don't know. This is stage one of your healing journey, that of unconscious ignorance. In my work as a licensed clinical psychologist, people make their first appointment with me after they become aware of a problem. Few come in of their own accord. A confidant, a spouse, a boss, someone who wants the best for you, gives you a nudge, and you follow through. After your first appointment, your healing journey enters stage two, that of conscious ignorance. Here, you know there's a problem, but you don't know how to fix it. As your therapist, I hear what you say, focusing on their feelings called active listening.

We gather relevant data to help in the healing process, and then I offer a roadmap on your healing journey. With mental and psychotherapy, which we refer to as MPT, I help you embrace mindfulness where being present in the moment helps you clear your perspective from past emotional debris. With what's wrong confirmed as a historical perspective, I help you use positive psychology to focus on what's right in your life and in interpersonal relationships. We then established cognitive behavioral strategies, including behavioral prescriptions, cognitive reframing, and journaling to extend the healing process beyond the therapy appointment, helping you live positive change in real time.

As you make use of these resources, you are developing new neuropathways in your brain where your former conscious ignorance becomes stage three, conscious awareness. You are making substantial changes in yourself, your relationships, and your life experiences. They feel different at first, maybe even forced, like it's not really you. As you persist, of course, with positive input from friends and family, what's happening in your brain is that previously unhealthy neuropathways are dying out as new healthy neuropathways are formed, called neurogenesis. Persistence over time is your new friend. With confidence and conviction, you find yourself moving from stage three to stage four,

that of unconscious awareness. In this final stage of your healing journey, you are getting so used to the new you that your efforts come naturally. You are overcoming daily adversity, soaring and living on your path to your good life. With encouragement, you discontinue your therapy, perhaps with occasional check-ins as needed, and you're on your way. In my new book, The Healing Journey, overcoming adversity on the path to the good life, you will find ample examples of the stages of healing using mental and psychotherapy. Buy your copy at Amazonbooks.com. If my comments stir questions of your own,

contact me through my website at www.org, thereformykids.com, or email me at John Robinson 0.0.0.com. I'm Dr. Jonathan C. Robinson, licensed clinical psychologist, and author of Teachable Moments, Building Blocks of Christian Parenting, and my new book, The Healing, The Healing, Overcoming Adversity on a Path of the Good Life. Blessings, Dr. John. Teachable Moments, Building Blocks of Christian Parenting, is available online at AmazonBooks.com and in local and national bookstores.

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