Being there for your kids - It's Okay to Be Messy

Episode Date: October 23, 2025

Are you messy? Does being messy keep you from staying focused? Getting things done? If so, what can you do about it? News flash!! It's okay to be messy. Messy is a descriptor, not a definer. If you use messy as an excuse for not accomplishing your goals, then messy has a hold of you. Rather, you want to get a hold of it. Mentalligent psychotherapy helps you use positive psychology, mindfulness, and cognitive behavioral strategies to be okay with who you are and move forward on your healing journey. Blessings, Dr. Jon

Hi, I'm Dr. John Robinson, and this is Teachable Moments. Did you know it's okay to be messy? Messy gets a bad rap, you know? If you like everything in its place, own it. If you live in a world of mess, own that. It's not how you are, it's who you are. Messy is just a descriptor, not a definer. Messy is both okay and also interesting and informative. When you are messy, you place your unique signature on the world. You enhance your capacity, to learn, unlearn, and relearn what's important to you. Often, messy is the starting point of your healing journey. Someone comes to you and as introduction tells you that they want to, quote, clean up my act, end quote. He may be denying his identity and putting on what he thinks others want to see. Here's an old Chinese proverb, which do you want to be? Tension is who you think you should be.

Relaxation is who you are. So, being messy conveys a sense of physical, spatial, and emotional relaxation. A little-known neuromuscular fact is that it takes nine facial muscles to smile, but 41 facial muscles to frown. So the body actually has to work harder being tense and stressed than it does being relaxed. Now, messy does not necessarily convey a lack of order or organization to your life. Rather, being messy challenges you to ask, who's in charge of my life? Do I make a concerted effort to present a good front to make a good impression? If so, then order and organization is in charge of my life. It's hard to fake mess, but it's okay to be messy. Simply let things be, adapt, adjust, and move

through your life. Order and organization will not be in charge, but may be a byproduct of your life. I'm sorry I'm late. It wasn't traffic. I set my alarm in time to be here. I just lost track. Amber frequently started her sessions with an excuse for being five to ten minutes late. You know what? I'm really glad you're here. I responded as Amber settled in. I'm impressed with how much effort you are making in your therapy. I get it. Life can be messy, but it's what you do with the mess that matters. When you get here, you are all in, and that's what counts. Now, what's been on your mind? This excerpt from my new book, The Healing Journey, overcoming adversity on the path of the good life, is an example of how

mental intelligence psychotherapy helps our patients accept who they are and use the tools of mindfulness, positive psychology, and cognitive behavioral strategies to embrace their healing journey to who they want to be.

Your copy is available at AmazonBooks.com. Blessings, Dr. John. Teachable Moments, building blocks of Christian parenting is available online at AmazonBooks.com and in local and national bookstores. More on Dr. Robinson and,

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