Being there for your kids - Lighten the Load

Episode Date: March 15, 2019

       With busy families, there is always too much to do and not enough time within which to do it all. Getting and staying organized will reduce the stress of getting everything done and also build family relationships. Three rules come to mind. First, plan upcoming events with at least 3-days' notice. Second, delegate, delegate, and, oh yeah, delegate. As your kids get older, they can help out. You may have to show them and teach them at first, but doing for themselves will lighten your load. Finally, use weekly family meetings to look at how the past week went and to plan events coming up in the next week. Keep a large, dry erase calendar where everybody can post things as they come up. No surprises equals better planning. Lighten your load by staying organized.

I'd like to talk about keeping you and your family organized. Does it feel sometimes that you are running around like a chicken with your head cut off? Do you wish that you were an eight-armed octopus just so you could keep up with the many and varied demands on your time and help? You know what? Me too. Sometimes. There are, however, ways to keep yourself and your family more organized. Mommy, pleaded 10-year-old Allison. Can I please, please, please have Sarah spend the night tonight? Yo, mom, called the 16-year-old buck from his bedroom. Is my green shirt washed yet? I'm taking Chloe to dinner tonight. Sweetheart, called Nick as he left for work. Don't forget we're meeting my boss and his wife for dinner tonight. Phew, what a whirlwind of activity in the Lawson household.

Mom, Mary Lawson, has her hands full if she lets her brood get away with it. She wouldn't have all those demands on her if she were more organized, if she delegated, and if she revised house rules. First, a good rule for families with young and teen children is that every request for entertainment requires at least three days' notice. Sleepovers, going to the movies, car keys for dates all fall into the entertainment category. This not only gives you planning time, but also teaches your child responsibility and consideration as to how their requests affects others around them. Second, as soon as your kids can do for themselves, teach them and let them. Bucks green

shirt, his job, his responsibility, not yours. If he complains and cajoles, active listen to his frustration, and encourage a plan B that he can undertake, perhaps another clean shirt. Third, a habit of weekly family meetings and a family calendar placed in the common area of the home, say the kitchen or the family room or hallway, covers a multitude of logistical problems. Mary can and should be ready for the work dinner with the boss if it's been on the family calendar. Of course, there are exceptions to every rule, but being all things to all people at every moment is not an option. There are ways to keep yourself and your family organized. I'm Dr. Jonathan C. Robinson, licensed clinical psychologist and Christian author, and this has been Teachable Moments.

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