Best Friends with Nicole Byer and Sasheer Zamata - Nicole Loves Hot-For-You Nuts

Episode Date: April 19, 2023

Glug glug glug! We hope you feel hydrated and satiated by this week’s episode! This week we discuss things which are too cold to hold, what you can do with frozen quinoa, how many grams you are, why Nicole now wakes up glad she ate lasagna, frustrations with how clothing fits, and what’s going on with the food pyramid? They take a quiz where they describe their best friendship to see their perfect getaway destination,  and we answer a listener's question about struggling to have friends relate when one person is perpetually single and the others are in relationships. Plus, a listener creates cocktails for Nicole & Sasheer! Recipe below.  Nicole’s Purple Giraffe1oz of pineapple juice1oz of sodaFloat 2oz of Empress purple gin on topGarnish - orange peel, lemon peel, cinnamon-grilled pineapple Sasheer’s Cherry Chair2oz Bulleit bourbon1oz Amaro Averna2oz Angostura Bitters1/2oz brown sugar vanilla syrupGarnish - Amarena Cherry Skewer  Here is the quiz we took: https://www.buzzfeed.com/michelleno/best-friend-spring-getaway-vacation-trip-quiz Email or call Nicole & Sasheer with your friendship questions at:[e-mail] Get access to all the podcasts you love, music channels and radio shows with the SiriusXM App! Get 3 months free using this show link https://siriusxm.com/friends and code FRIENDS.

hi it's this year oh hi nicole what why would you take a drink when we start recording i don't know i thought i thought i could slip in a quick sip but then you said hi and i can't i can't wait take your sip please last this year that was a loud drink wait are you hydrated and satiated i do feel much more hydrated than i was before yes okay that's good i also have water oh that's a big cup and so much ice i love ice i think it's so wild that you don't love ice like i can't think of anything nicer and happier than like a yummy frosty beverage it's just so cold to me like it irritates my teeth it feels too cold in my body burn yeah i i run cold too so it's like any

like middle ground to warmth I could get the better. You know? Fair. Yeah, I get it. Have you ever been to someone's house and then they're like, do you want a drink? And you're like, yes, please. And then they take a mug out of the freezer and you're like, this is rich. This is opulence.

How do you have room in your freezer for cups? I actually have never seen that before. Really? I've never seen that. You've never gone to a friend's house in your youth, asked for a drink of water, been offered a drink of water, and they take out a mug from the freezer?

That's never happened? No. But also, wouldn't it be cold to hold? Cold to hold? Yeah, it is cold to hold. But it's usually a mug with a handle. And the handle warms up real quick with your hand. And then the cup cup stays cold.

I can't believe this has never happened to you. This has happened several times to me. I have seen those cups that have liquid inside the side of the cup. Have you seen that? Where it's like plastic and there's like a layer of water or something. Which also is like, is that disgusting? Like, you can't change the water in the cup. I don't know if

it's water or if it's like the goop that's in like a goop pack that you put on a boo-boo. Oh my god. An ice pack? Yes. Like, the soft gooey. The goop pack that you put on a boo-boo. I can't believe that's how it came out of my mouth.

That was wild. Yes, an ice pack that's soft. Okay, yeah. It might be that goop from that boo-boo ice pack. I've seen those where you put those in the fridge and the cup freezes and then you use it but i guess i guess yeah but i've never seen anyone just take a regular mug and put it in the freezer oh i wonder if that's like a new jersey thing or maybe my like my new jersey friend thing maybe i don't know i have no idea well i tried to do it for a little bit but guess what

i don't have room in my freezer like that what do you mean your freezer it's full it's a sheer i just threw out two big bags of blueberries from my freezer dang that it had expired yeah i don't eat blueberries i don't know who they i think they might have been from john millhiser. And he hasn't lived with me for years. Right, right, right, right, right. And then I also threw out, so, okay, I made overnight oats. Oh.

Two months ago. That's not overnight anymore. Long term. These are long term oats. But I ended up just throwing away the containers that they were in because they had how you say, furries in them. Like the yogurt had furried.

So I threw those away. That frees up some room in my refrigerator. Also, I have a lot of frozen vegetables that I never get to. But one day I will. Yeah. I think I will.

Maybe. I've got some frozen quinoa. Quinoa? Frozen quinoa. And I think I'm going to get to it soon. What would you put with the frozen quinoa? Well, I was doing a thing where I was trying to, like, meal prep, which is devastating.

Meal prep just means you're going to eat this chicken for the next fucking five days. And then you get to day five, and you're like, this is old-ass fucking chicken, but this is what I signed up for. So I did some quinoa with um broccoli and then chicken and i had them in these like little compartmentalized glass containers or whatever i did it for a week and that's something hey thank you i'm trying to get back into it

apparently protein's like good for you or something? I don't know. Instagram keeps telling me that. Keep being like, are you getting your protein? And Instagram's always right. Instagram is always right. Are you a protein hound? I do eat protein. I honestly don't keep track of anything. So I don't know. I eat protein every day, I think. know i i eat protein every day i think but you eat a lot of salmon and i think that's protein i just had some salmon surprise surprise of course you did what kind of salmon did you have it's actually really good i went to brunch at this middle eastern place and it was like a cuckoo. K-O-O-K-O-O. And it was like... Couscous? No. Just K-O-O-K-O-O.

Yes. There was no S. No S. Or a U. Correct. Or a C. It was just not spelled the way couscous is spelled. It was like a...

Kind of like a frittata. And so it was like salmon, egg, some onions, and potatoes. It was really tasty i like really don't understand the way you like live with food because you like when you're full you go that's it for me and then like you don't keep eating and that i don't understand it's wild to me and you'll like bring leftovers home and you'll put them in the refrigerator and you won't pick at them because you're like, whoa, it's crazy.

And then like, I don't know. You like, you know when you're hungry and stuff. It's so crazy. Oh my God, a piece of salmon is 40 grams of protein. I think you're supposed to eat your weight and protein every day. My whole body weight? Listen, I might be dumb.

I think you're weight in grams or something. Like if you weigh 300 grams. No, if you weigh 300 pounds, I think you're supposed to eat 300 grams of protein. Oh, so if you're eating pounds to grams, but how actually how many grams i am i have no idea how many grams i am i don't know how many grams you are either jordan do you know how many grams sashira is oh okay according to the dietary reference intake report for macronutrients a sedentary a sedentary adult should consume 0.8 grams of protein per kilogram of body weight or 0.36 grams per pound so that means the average man should eat 56 grams of protein and the average woman should eat 46 grams oh my goodness that's

some math this whole average male average woman i don't think that's an accurate number for how much grams of protein they should have i know for myself it's definitely like well over 100 grams of protein a day so what did i eat today eight grams no you ate 40 grams a piece of salmon 40 grams of protein oh great okay and then eggs i think that's even more protein i love that thank goodness but honestly i don't know proteins it's so elusive i was i've been thinking about the food pyramid lately oh and how come big bread had a chokehold on the food pyramid where i really did eight servings of bread every day like what the fuck that was really crazy it's a scam oh it's totally wild it's no joining can you bring up the food pyramid real quick have we talked about the food pyramid

on this show like in the 90s the food yeah the old food yeah the old food is there a new food pyramid there's a new pyramid like every year i don't know what it looks like i didn't know that yeah let me let me find the 90s one that we grew up on and then we'll go to today because I remember the bottom was just like eat your bread bitches did you eat your six loaves of bread today and then it was like

eat all the meat red meat yeah that's so not necessary it's not at all yeah bread was at the they wanted you to eat more bread than fruits and, that's so not necessary. It's not at all. Yeah, bread was at the... They wanted you to eat more bread than fruits and vegetables. That's nuts. Six to 11 servings of bread.

That's wild. I don't think I've ever had six to 11 servings of bread. Who's just eating bread like that? I probably have. Because if you include pasta and rice, yeah. Oh, I'm never eating rice. But I you include pasta and rice, yeah. Oh, I'm never eating rice. But I just did buy a rice cooker because I'm going to be even though you're never even though you just said I'm never eating rice. You're like, but I sure did buy a rice cooker.

I didn't know how to cook rice without a rice cooker. Oh, OK. Which might sound really stupid. Which one? It's hard to, like, figure out what to eat when we've been lied to by big bread and big milk. Yeah, that Got Milk campaign was such a, like, it's so crazy how they made milk cool. And it's like, most of us are lactose intolerant.

So lactose intolerant. In a way, we're like, it's explosive. And my tummy will hurt for like days after having milk. Yeah. I started taking lactate, but I don't, I often forget to do that. Yeah. It's hard to remember to take a pill before you indulge and enjoy. You introduced me to pepidacy. Pepsidacy. Oh, pepsidacy. Boy, oh boy. Game changer for my

lasagna. Oh, good. I'm so glad. Yeah, it's been really nice. Yeah, because you don't want that freaking heartburn. I sure don't. you don't want that freaking heartburn. I sure don't. I don't want to wake up in the middle of the night going, why did I eat lasagna? I want to wake up the next morning and go, I'm glad I ate lasagna. So is this the new food pyramid? I think this is the closest we're going to get. So it does talk about exercise and then six ounces of grains. They put stairs on the side of the pyramid for someone to walk up i see yeah in case you didn't want to start at the bottom you

start at the top and slide down and get your food okay so six ounces yes six ounces of grains two and a half cups. Why ounces and then cups? Whatever. Of vegetables. Two cups of fruit. Three cups of milk. Three cups of milk? I don't know about that. I don't know about this. And also six ounces of grains. So grains are still the largest portion.

I think this is a lie. It's in the Washington Post. I think big grain and big milk still has a chokehold on the food pyramid i mean they're they are the major money maker hmm so i mean they're putting money towards this pyramid so damn course they're going to be told to have more but again remember eight ounces is a cup eight ounces is a cup yeah so it's like so it Yeah, so it's like... Oh, so it's less than a cup. Oh, okay. Well, then why is weird on the pyramid?

Yeah, the section on the pyramid makes it look bigger than everything else. They're trying to trick you because you don't know your ounces in your cups. And they're right. I don't. The food pyramid is the original pyramid scheme. You heard it here first.

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will walk outside and there'll be a layer of yellow film on my sunglasses. Oh no. Because there's so much pollen out here. Yeah. Yep.

That seems insane. Yeah. But I was warned. When I first got here, people were like, you're gonna be here for the pollen season so get ready it's like nothing you've ever seen and did you get ready you know i didn't know how to get ready and i still don't know how to get ready

i don't think i did get ready maybe getting ready ready is having like a lint brush or a lint roller or something at all times to like lint the pollen off of you. That's smart. Hey, listen. I'm here to solve problems. That's it. Yeah.

But it's nice. It's starting to warm up, which is really great. But also, there was a huge thunderstorm the other day. So, who knows what's happening? You know, global warming. She's wild. She's wild. It's sunny again in LA.

And I can't be happier. I can't be. I could be. I couldn't be happier. Listen, this is tough. It's tough speaking today. That's okay. That's okay.

Thank you. But it's been, today that's okay that's okay thank you but it's been like nice sunny warmish oh it's been lovely wait maybe it's only been two days of that i don't know it rains so much yeah well two days is still great i think so what is this shirt you're wearing what is this blue thing is it a jumpsuit or is it a shirt it's a shirt that i haven't really i'm like revisiting it it's from urban outfitters it's just like uh i don't i don't know how to describe it it's cropped but it's a cropped ribbed baseball t-esque washed acidy washed look to it yeah i think i should get more baseball style shirts because I think they look good on me. I think they look nice on you. You have broad shoulders?

Yeah, pretty broad. Hmm. I mean, I guess like I guess maybe what is broad? Like wide? Like I guess if your shoulders are like What is broad? Like, wide? Like, is it from sticking out from my body?

Wider than your waist, maybe they're broad? So yeah, they're broad. I have little shoulders. Itty bitty shoulders. They're really small. A lot of times, seams on shirts where they're supposed to sit on your shoulder are off of my shoulder. And then people have to raise them to put them on my shoulder. Because my shoulders are so small and dainty in comparison to the rest of my booty.

Interesting. Yeah, my body is not fit for this world. That's not nice. Clothes just don't one pair of jeans that I've ever had that didn't need to be altered in the back or something that like, there's always like a gap in the back for me. Cause like, like, or like they fit my waist, but not my thighs. It's just like the proportions are all over the place. I don't know who, sometimes I'm like, who is this for? since they're all over the place. I don't know who, sometimes I'm like,

who is this for? What body is this for? I think that a lot. What body? What body? What body? I tried to get into Fashion Nova. Okay. I don't know what bodies

they're doing these fits on, but it's not a fat woman who's naturally fat. I feel like it's like a mid-sized woman who like had alterations done to her butt and hips. Sure, sure, sure.

Because there's, like, enough room in the back for my butt, but not enough room in the front for my frump. For your frump? My frump! Mm-hmm. Yeah. How strange. It is strange.

Should we do a quiz? Unless there's something you want to tell me. What? Don't look at... Should we do a quiz? Unless there's something you want to tell me. Did you do something last night that maybe you want to tell me about? It was Saturday night. You sure? There's not something you want to tell me? I know. This is just a question, but it's so accusatory.

I didn't. I had nothing to tell you. Today, Sunday, yesterday was Saturday. You didn't get wild. I did not get wild you. Today, Sunday, yesterday was Saturday. You didn't get wild. I did not get wild. Saturday night? No, not at all. Not even the slightest.

Okay. Then I guess we could take a quiz if you have nothing left to say to me. Oh, my God. Describe your best friend and we'll give you an ideal getaway destination. Oh, I like that. Ooh. For half a second, I was like, oh my God, are we going to get to go somewhere?

And then I was like, oh yeah, it's a BuzzFeed quiz. They're just going to tell us a place. Yeah, they're going to send us someplace. But imagine if BuzzFeed at the end of a quiz was like, and you get to go to Madagascar. Oprah now runs BuzzFeed. You get a free car. What kind of car does she give those people?

I actually don't know. I wonder if it was like a sensible Nissan Sentra or like something flashy like an Audi TT. Whatever it was, it was probably like the most like, like like it's not fancy but it's not like shit it's probably like yeah sensible is a good word a pontiac g6 sedan ew is it really ew i don't i didn't like them i thought they were very nasty looking oh they are nasty looking yeah yeah i not for me i did not like the g6 um but i do miss pontiac the firebird was a beautiful car i used to babysit for a man who had a turquoise one i think his wife allowed him to buy it because he was having a midlife crisis

anyway how does your best friend cheer you up when you're down? Bakes me my favorite dessert. She would never. Buys me a bottle of wine. Most likely. Parties the night away with me. Maybe 10 years ago.

Offers thoughtful and practical advice. Yeah. Sends me hilarious memes. Shows up to my place as soon as possible to keep me company. Honestly, unless I asked for it,

I'd be like, get off my porch. You came unannounced. What are you doing here? Oh my God. This quiz is making me feel really old because I feel like 10 years ago, if I was like having a bad time,

he'd be like, great, let's hit up the bar. I know. But in this time of 2023, in the year of our Lord, that would, no. I'd be like, are you kidding? And we see hilarious memes regardless of how we feel, our emotional state. I would say offers thoughtful and practical advice.

I would say the same thing. That's really the most meaningful one. I think, yes, I think so. And it has nothing to do with us getting old. And not wanting to leave our house. I love my house. Yesterday I was out for far too long and all I could think about was getting back to my home. I was like, I need to get there. There's a dog there that loves me and a couch. All good reasons to go home. Yes. Oh, what's your best friend's top quality? They're extremely generous with their time, energy, and money. They're always down for an adventure or casual hang. They're super chill. They love all the same music, movies, and places as you.

They've known you since you were a child and understand every part of your life to be honest they're just really freaking good looking that's truly wild what a what i i would be so upset if my best friend was like i just hang out with you because you're hot well there are perks to that you probably like get into bars or like there's like a line for free drinks but but that's not a reason to have a friend no no also i guess i'd be like offended but also like wildly like just like i'd be like what a treat Thank you for saying that, like, I'm beautiful. How dare you, but also thank you. How dare you!

But thank you. I would say they're always down for an adventure, a casual hang. That's what I was going to say. Oh, my God! This is going to send us to the same dustin option. I know. And I don't mind. Because we're going together. We're going to the same, we want to us to the same dustin option and i don't mind that because we're going together so we're going to the same we want to go to the same place you know okay what's your favorite thing to do with your best friend cook an elaborate meal we've tried yeah right

oh man i think about that that one time we tried to cook a meal from Instagram a lot because I've tried to cook meals and I keep forgetting that all I have to do is click the link in the bio. But then I once did click the link in the universe and people travel to gorgeous destinations go to a music festival and strategize strategy strategies strategize oh no strategize the best instacryption stay in and watch a movie. Oh my God. Gossip about all the people you know. Strategize had a chokehold on me. That was so hard to say. Strategize. What was the question?

Oh yeah, what was the question? What's your favorite thing to do with your best friend? Hmm. I really do love traveling to gorgeous dust and oceans but I also love watching movies and just watching you sleep because you'll never stay awake for a whole movie I know have we even watched a movie together because I fall asleep so quickly I think in theaters yes I won't sleep in a theater but on a couch it's lights out bye bye yeah yeah because we saw

all of avatar together and i don't think you fell asleep once no i watched it i watched all of avatar um did i actually watch all of yellow jackets or did i fall asleep through parts of it you fell asleep through parts of it okay so i had to go back and watch it yeah i didn't want to wake you up i was like i better let her sleep because I think you had just gotten off a plane that day. Yeah. I was happy for the sleep, but... I just let you sleep. It seems rude to wake you up.

I had a friend who kept falling asleep at my house. And the way I'd wake them up is like, you gotta go home. And then finally they're like, why do you scream at me to wake me up? And I was like, oh, because that's how I woke my sister up as a kid but it's so jarring it hurts I didn't know it until they said something to me because my sister never said anything to me she was never like can you not do that yeah so I did that for all of our adolescence sometimes I shake her to me oh my gosh well you wake up usually on your own yeah even if you tried to wake me up i have to leave before i fall into a REM sleep

even if you tried to wake me up though i would go back it's like there's it's like a switch goes off as soon as i'm tired i can't like be awake again like my body's like okay we can be awake for two minutes and then we'll fall right back to sleep this is what i mean about how your body i think works the way bodies are supposed to work i go i'm sleepy and then i lay down in my bed and then i cannot sleep and then when i'm not hungry anymore, I go, but I better keep eating this because what if somebody else eats it or if it goes in the trash, which is insane. It's just like insane thoughts. But yeah, like last night, I tried to go to sleep and my body said, surely, surely you got to Google the address of somebody, you know, and find out how much they paid for their house, which is what I did the night before. gotta google the address of somebody you don't find out how much they paid for their house which is what i did the night before

and i don't know what i'm doing with this knowledge you just gotta know before you go to sleep i guess um but the answer to this question which was i think i really love traveling yeah what do you like to do with your best friend i like traveling to gorgeous destinations they don't even have to be gorgeous they just have to be a destination Yeah, what do you like to do with your best friend? I like traveling to gorgeous destinations. They don't even have to be gorgeous. They just have to be a destination. Yeah, same. I also love traveling with you.

You're really easy to travel with. You're really easy to travel with. Thank you! I remember there was a time where you'd be like, are you sure you don't want breakfast? And I was like, never! And then you stopped asking. Oh my God, I can't talk.

You stopped asking. And then now you'll wake up and you'll go get your breakfast and then I'll wake up and then I'll do something. Okay, how old is your best friend? My age. We were born on the same day. Just one or two years younger than me.

A few years older than me. Drastically younger or older than me. 21 in human years. Okay. Okay. I believe you are my age and just a couple months older. Yeah, just a couple months older. So yeah, my age.

We're currently the same age. We are, but then on 5'6", you'll leap ahead of me. I'll leap, jump light years ahead of you. You'll leave me behind and I'll say, please don't.

But then you catch right up in August. Mm-hmm. Just a couple months later. What's your favorite food to split with them? In order, chips and guacamole. A rack of ribs. We have never shared a rack of ribs and that is a crime.

Why is it a crime? Because we should be sharing some ribs. They're easy to share. You pull them apart. I don't. I guess you're right. I don't often. You just tear them right apart.

I don't often eat ribs. It's one of those messy foods I don't want to eat in public because I'm just like licking my fingers and I feel sticky and i'm like i don't want to be around people for this it's a private moment ribs are yeah private but it's funny because it's like when are you ever eating ribs in private never you never turn on the smoker to make your ribs no we don't have smokers i did i sure don't um mac and cheese an overstuffed sandwich how the fuck are you gonna share an overstuffed sandwich you're gonna shit falling out of the sandwich exactly crazy i'd be so mad if you asked me to share an overstuffed sandwich i say so sure you should order one yourself yeah what are you gonna break it in half and have all the stuff and fall out on the plate? That's not how it goes.

You can break bread, not a sandwich. Break bread, not a sandwich. A warm soft pretzel. A plate of street noodles. See, you eat street shit.

I'm not a street eater. Wow. Wow, that really... It sounded harsher than it was meant to be. It sounded really harsh. I'm sorry. I'm a street eater? This fucking street eater.

This fucking street eating bitch. Okay. I don't eat street meat and stuff like that because my mother talked so poorly about street meat and street food that the only thing I can have is nuts. Those hot for you nuts? I love those hot for you nuts. Uh-huh, uh-huh. Oh, they're so good. Okay, I like sharing mac and cheese with you. I also like sharing mac and cheese with you i also like sharing mac and cheese

with you the boy oh boy same i don't know this has ever happened before i don't think so but also this is like i don't we should have the same answers this is true this is true right because it'd be wild if i was like i love love sharing overstepped sandwiches with you. And you'd be like, wait, what? Yeah, we've never done that. No, never in our lives. What's your favorite place to hang out? A low-key neighborhood pub. Our favorite brunch spot.

At the library. In a bustling plaza. On a cozy sofa on a hike huh we've never been on a hike before we sure haven't we've never been to a library together either i don't know if we've been to a bustling plaza before no maybe we have what's a bustling plaza like grand central station What's a bustling plaza? Like Grand Central Station? Yes.

Oh, ew. We've been to bustling plazas. Yeah. Times Square is an abomination. Ugh. Also, I have a side question. Have the two of you ever had the urge to go on a hike? I'm wrestling with my best friends. They are coming out to visit and they're like,

we want to go on hikes. And I'm like, no, i don't want to do that um i have been on a total of two hikes since i moved to california 10 years ago and um i'll never go on another one anything i can see from up there i can drive and see up there i I'm not trying to fucking walk. Get my shoes dusty. For what? To huff and puff and not be able to hold a conversation because I'm trying to mask how much I'm huffing and puffing. I have gone on hikes and enjoyed myself. What?

I didn't know this. This is nuts. I am. This is nuts. I am. This is nuts. I even have hiking boots. What? I didn't know you had hiking. What brand are they?

Columbia. Wow. Those are real hiking boots. I bought them on the way to Yosemite because I had a friend getting married there. And there's hiking boots. I went, I bought them on the way to Yosemite because I had a friend getting married there and there's, you know, there's hiking there. That's the thing to do. So I was like, I should get some hiking boots so I don't cut up my feet. And yeah, I have had fun hiking. I will say I've never suggested hiking. I've never been like, you know what we should do today? I will say I've never suggested hiking. I've never been like, you know what we should do today?

Hike. But if I'm in the right mood and it's nice outside and I'm with people I enjoy, I might do a hike. Wow. To be able to just do a hike, it takes a whole bunch of mental gymnastics to be like, you're not going to die. It's okay if you get out of breath. You can take breaks. Physical activity with people honestly seems like a nightmare. It does.

It's not. Yeah. I don't want to see. I don't want people to see how winded I'm going to get. It's never fun. Yeah. I did see, I do want to take more walks because I saw something on Instagram

about like the benefits of walking other than physical. But like mental. Yeah. See, I'm down with a walking trail. I think, I'm the same as you, Nicole.

It's like, I haven't had really great experiences with hiking. That's why I was asking you guys if there was ever like any urge to go but like i remember my first hike in la and i'm not even kidding it was like a 45 degree angle walking up this hill and i'm like i'm gonna fall so but like a walking trail i'm totally cool with it it's just like little hills and like you're just walking through some nice like scenery that's great but a hike maybe that would be nice yeah i don't know i don't for whatever reason like i really hate

walking um but apparently it's like very good for your body like your body's like yes take a nice little walk it's good for you but like maybe if i listen to music, I should do it. My dog deserves longer walks than I give him. He should, I don't know. I don't know, like a half a mile walk is like a good walk. But for the most part, we don't do that. We don't do that at all. Something about like looking around at your surroundings. It's supposed to be helpful for decreasing your fear responses.

Because you're like more, you're like working out your senses. Like you're like more you're like working out your senses like like you're hearing you're seeing like you're just more attuned to what's your surroundings in general so ideally your anxiety around things that could potentially attack you decreases oh because you're just more aware i think that sounds nice yeah i should take more walks i just like i'm trying to be like healthy because like i really had the like i've i always say it life is long but i really had the like realization i was like it's so long and i'm gonna be alive for so much longer which is really really upsetting. So, like, I have to, like, either get healthy or, like, I don't know, deal with things that are going to happen with old age when you're not healthy. Do you know what I mean?

Mm-hmm. Yeah, I don't want to deal with that. Lord. My knee is, like, sticky right now. It's, like, it's either it hurts when i bend it all the way or extend it all the way and the only thing i can attribute to is the flight i took from atlanta to la and i was like sitting in front of a wall and my legs were at a 90 degree angle for like four or five hours and then they were they've been sticky since then

and i was like really that's it that's like getting old yes i wonder if um because they tell you to wear what are those socks compression socks i wonder if that would have helped maybe like being at a 90 degree angle and then just like the blood circulation a little bit more. I don't know. But I agree with you. I take flights and then I'm like, oh, like, I don't know how people our age are touring as much as they are because I'm like, my body, my body. I know. Oh, I wonder if you like roll.

Do you have your Theragun with you? Yeah. oh i wonder if you like roll do you have your um theragun with you yeah maybe if you do your it band which is like the outside of your huh i've been there giving my whole leg but i will my it band or whatever and i've been icing it i've been doing everything oh icing i hear is not great oh yeah i think it's heat that you want to put on stuff but also i'm not a doctor i am not nicole byer md i heard because my dad mom and my sister both had knee surgeries like years ago and a lot of doctors will say like do 20 minutes um with an ice pack and do 20 minutes with heat and go back and forth for like an hour okay yeah boy oh boy bodies am i right

okay where are we hanging out i'm gonna say a cozy sofa that's what i was gonna say oh boy we love being inside yeah and finally which of these colorful images reminds you most of your best friend the first colorful image is like a shiplap a vertical shiplap that's like a dusty blue it's not bright i don't know if i know what a shiplap is oh it's like wood boards okay like a fence no it's like wood boards in your home um that are vertical or horizontal and it's like a feature wall in your house made very very very trendy by chip and joanna gaines who now have the magnolia network that spent their time refurbishing homes in waco texas speaking of home restoration i'm obsessed with this show on Magnolia Network called Restored. There's this man named Brett Waterhouse or Waterman or something.

And I feel like he's like, I don't know. He like he's not married. He has a very, very fun way of speaking. He calls people bucko and he doesn't do renovations. He does restorations. So like you'll bring him to like a 1930s spanish colonial and he'll tell you all of the stuff that has been like covered and he'll be like i'm sure they put this over your um your fireplace let's see if they did he's like oh yes the original

stuff is under it and he gets so excited he gets everyone who works with him so excited no this is a different person that's clint harp i I'm talking about Brett Waterhouse or Waterman. And it's just called Restored. Yes, he wears a cowboy hat. He calls people bucko. He smiles too hard at you. And I love him. And he'll be like, look.

And he takes you to like an already done house. And then you can like look at it be like oh i like this i like that and no one's ever as excited as he is about it he looks like a skinny mr incredible he does yeah oh my god and the way he laughs is so angelic it's like i love him so much it'll be like come on bucko but he says in like a loving way and um i love him so much. And he'll be like, come on, bucko. But he says it in like a loving way. And I love him. I love that. All right.

The next colorful image is red glitter. The next one is leaves. Next one's like, looks like an aura photo. And it's like dark purple, looks like an aura photo. And it's like dark purple going into like orange and yellow. Mm. And then this is a yellow wall. And then like,

it looks like glass. It looks like a reflection of glass or something. It's like clear and white. I'm going to say the leaves okay i see that i'm gonna say the red glitter oh no this is nicole I cannot believe how badly we need to defund BuzzFeed. We need to get rid of BuzzFeed because this is our ideal getaway trip to Nassau, Bahamas.

Made up of 700 islands, Nassau is the ultimate tropical destination that will answer your need for tasty cocktails by the sea and too many afternoon naps to count who needs a clock when you have a a trashy new uh novel to enjoy i can't and it's a picture of atlantis our arch nemesis i cannot believe that is so crazy of all the places is that mine too do we both get the bahamas that's insane truly wild i can't believe i can't believe that buzzfeed clearly doesn't listen to this podcast sure doesn't they said go back to the bahamas after you had a terrible experience and then talked about said terrible experience and then every one of the bahamas got mad at you for having a bad

time there oh buzzfeed get out i think that's wild that's's really funny. It's very, very funny. Well, should we answer some questions? We should. We should. Some nice little queries. Hi, Nicole. Hi. Hi, Nicole. Hi. Oh, wow.

Oh, my God. I almost said sit here. I just listened to your little mini cherry fuck. And so I thought, hi, sit here. Oh, my God. And the rest of the team. I am in my 30s. And, oh, I use all pronouns. I'm non rest of the team. I am in my 30s and, oh, I use all pronouns.

I'm non-binary. I'm out to my friends I'm talking about. That's not an issue at all. But I'm in my 30s and I have also been single my entire life. I haven't gotten a lot of attention or interest. I have a lot of issues around that. But I have been sort of putting myself out there and really like working towards maybe finding somebody

or even just doing some casual stuff with people. And it's been great. And my friends, my two friends in particular, who've kind of been supporting me through like figuring all of this shit out, have been absolutely great. But they're both in long-term relationships. And so what I'm curious about is sort of how the two of you navigate

or if you have any sort of tips for when your main support people just don't really... They can sort of empathize, but they probably don't really empathize because they just don't know. I feel bad because I feel like they feel bad when they want to talk about the things they love about their relationship. Because the thing that's really bringing me down all the time is my loneliness. And they both live in a different uh part of the world just like they've moved away um and they do come back and we're like we talk almost every other day like i have great relationships lots of like good connections with friends and family i have hobbies i enjoy but like i mean nicole you you probably get it like you could love yourself

uh as much as you possibly can and you can fill your time with all the things you love the people you love but at the end of the day loving yourself sometimes isn't enough and it and it was really nice to have someone else and so how do you how do you navigate sort of like talking about that and and dealing with those feelings um when your main support people are okay i don't know i mean i just ask my friends about their relationships and then i just talk about my lack of a relationship i don't really like put too much on it like my friends are my friends so i don't think they're gonna get like tired of hearing about my problems even though they might be the same as like last week or whatever um

yeah and i mean i get like wanting someone at the end of the day and that's like that's hard it's you can't force someone to love you. And love is harder than, than, than it is for some people than it is for other people. And that's just life. I don't know. It's hard. It's I just, I don't know, I get sad. And then I let myself be sad. And then I'm happy. And I let myself be happy. I just let myself feel all of the emotions. I don't know if I have an answer answer or i guess it wasn't really for me yeah i i don't i feel like the patron saint of single people sometimes and i don't have any real answers other than like it sucks but then also not every relationship you see is as nice as it seems um this is very true my mother used to say that she's like okay you want to be in a relationship but like do you want to be in a relationship with that person that they're in a relationship with and it's like no usually i don't i'm never looking at someone's partner being like oh i wish they would date me

i'm like oh i can't believe my friend's dating that person. But then it's just like, whatever. They're dating that person. It is what it is. I don't know. It is shitty just to be like, yeah, love yourself. Concentrate on yourself. Because it's like, yeah, I've been doing that. I don't know. I've done a podcast for like six years about it.

And I still don't know why I'm single. It is what it is. It's just the way the world works and it's not fair. Yeah. I wonder if this caller was also like, I guess we didn't get specifics, but I wonder maybe are, are their friends not giving like helpful advice because they're not single or like, are they not able to empathize because they're not single? Or are they not able to empathize because they're not single?

I feel like our caller is putting that on their friends that they can't empathize because they're not single. But, you know, people... I can empathize with someone who's in a relationship even though I'm not in one. I think you gotta give your like a little bit more credit. Like go ahead and ask them about their relationships. Go ahead and tell them about your issues, being a lonely lady and understand that they might come back with like, when you're not looking is when it happens.

come back with like when you're not looking is when it happens or like it'll happen when you love yourself or you're you're you know whatever like they might have shitty things to say but that's just what all people in relationships tend to say because they don't know how they got into a relationship nobody does love is a very is it el Can I say it an elusive thing that doesn't quite make sense? Mm hmm. Yeah. And if you are dating, I think your friends would probably love to hear those stories because they get to live vicariously through you a little bit. Mm hmm. Like, oh, I want to hear anything new, anything at all. You have new information? Wonderful. I've been staring at the same person for years. Yeah. Solved.

Let's get another. Hi, Nicole and Sashir. To celebrate your 200th episode, I created a cocktail for both of you from stories on the podcast nicole's purple giraffe and sashir's cherry chair unfortunately i know podcasting is an audio medium but photos are attached and i listen to your podcast every week and so often relate to your friendship thanks for all the laughs over the episodes and hope to see you do a live show one day. All the love to the four of you.

Okay, this is a Nicole's Purple Giraffe. One ounce of pineapple juice, one ounce of soda, float two ounces of Empress Purple Gin on top, garnish orange peel, lemon peel, cinnamon grilled pineapple. Oh, whoa. Oh, that, cinnamon grilled pineapple. Oh. Whoa. Oh, that looks beautiful. Mm-hmm.

That sounds tasty. So here's Cherry Chair. Two ounces of bullet bourbon. This person knows me. One ounce of Amaro Averna. Averna? Averna? Two dashes of Agostara bitters. Half ounce of brown sugar vanilla syrup garnish.

Amarina cherry skewer. Ooh. That looks like something I would drink. Mm-hmm. Yeah, those look yummy. Thank you so much. Thank you. We should just take this to a bar and be like make this for us

do you have these ingredients we should and we will one day we will but until then you can email us at nicole and sashir at gmail.com

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