Best Friends with Nicole Byer and Sasheer Zamata - Nicole Loves This One Line in Titanic
Episode Date: September 24, 2025This week, Nicole and Sasheer walk through Nicole's joyful experience at The Sizzler, learn all about BieberGate 2025, and consider the implications of a monthly lasagna party.Watch this full... video on YouTube and follow below!Follow Nicole: Twitter, Instagram, TikTokFollow Sasheer: Instagram, TikTokLike the show? Rate Best Friends 5 stars on Spotify and Apple Podcasts!Have a friendship question for Nicole and Sasheer to solve? Leave us a voicemail at (323) 238-6554 or write in at nicoleandsasheer@gmail.com.Best Friends is a production of Headgum Studios. Our producer is Allie Kahan. Our executive producer is Anya Kanevskaya. The show is edited, mixed, and engineered by Casey Donahue.This is a Headgum podcast. Follow Headgum on Twitter, Instagram, and Tiktok. Advertise on Best Friends via Gumball.fm.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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Hello, Suhier.
Hello, Nicole.
I went to Sizzler last night.
Wow.
Tell me all about it.
I fucking love the Sizzler.
Okay.
The Sizzler?
I think it's called the Sizzler.
I think you're right.
Maybe it's just called Sizzler.
The Sizzler?
The Sizzler.
Hey, let's go to Sizzler.
Let's go to the Sizzler.
I feel like people say both, but I wonder what the company says.
Maybe it's the Sizzler.
Maybe.
I don't know.
But I went last night.
And I got a surf and turf, a steak, and a lobster.
That's where I made my mistake.
Oh, no.
We're not going to Red Lobster.
I should have left the lobster back there.
Right.
That's their specialty and Red Lobster.
but my Sizzler steak very nice
very good the server was like cut into it let me know if it's
how you want it cooked and I was like oh people don't know how to order
steaks so they'll say a medium and be like that's not cooked
yeah but so okay so I got the surf and turf and then I got the salad bar
for 899 extra anything you want at the salad bar oh my gosh
and you better believe their watermelon was so ripe so delicious that's great
The ranch, so good.
Wow.
Not watery.
It was the ranch, but not like super ranchy, but like ranchy enough.
And then I made a delectable salad.
They also have a taco bar.
Oh.
Not great.
Okay.
Didn't need it.
Right.
They also had a little chicken nibbles.
Chicken nibbles.
Is this like, this is for the salad?
This is for the salad bar.
Okay.
So there is salad and fruits and gelatin.
Okay.
And then they have a taco bar.
and also a spaghetti bar
Love that
with noodles, meatballs
and like alfredo sauce
but also red sauce
Nice
They had some potato wedges
I fucked with the salad bar
The most
Like the taco bar
Not for me
But you know
For other people
I'm not gonna yuck your yum
Yeah you know
And then they have soft serve ice cream
Finally
You're always on the hunt
For soft served ice cream
I know
And it was so good
And I got two cups of it.
Is it serve your own soft serve?
Yes.
Wow.
Yes.
And while I was up there getting my ice cream, there was a man who was putting ice cream in a cup and then headed on over to the soda machine and made himself afloat.
And I said, what a good idea.
And he turned and looked at me and went, it's so refreshing.
And I said, these are my people.
Everyone's having a great time there.
Everyone is having a great time at the Sizzler.
Yeah.
I can't recommend.
The Sizzler enough.
I can't wait to go back.
I'm counting my days.
This year, we have to go to the Sizzler.
I will gladly go to Sizzler.
I don't think I've been to a Sizzler before.
You've never been to a Sizzler?
No.
I mean, I've been, I'm assuming I've been to things like it.
Like, is it Ruby Tuesdays like a Sizzler?
No.
Okay.
A TG.
Friday's?
No.
I do believe a Ruby Tuesdays might have once had a salad bar, but you don't, okay, so with the
sizzler, you go up to the man.
You tell him what you want for your main meal, and whether or not you would like to add
the salad bar to it, and you pay for it up front with tip included, and then they give
you money for the tip for your server, and then they give you a tray, and then you sit down
with your tray, and then you have a good time.
Ruby Tuesday, they just seat you.
You're right.
And at Ruby Tuesday, you could choose to do the salad bar once you're seated.
You don't have to come in with the choice made.
Okay.
So really the difference is the order of things.
And I don't think there's a dessert bar at Ruby Tuesday.
You're not making your own soft-served treats.
I don't think so.
Yeah, I think you're right.
And the nicest part about the ice cream last night.
So I got my first cup and I think they hadn't changed the milk in it.
So it was less creamy, but I loved it.
It was still a solid, a solid flover.
And then when I went back for seconds, they had changed, I think, the milk or something in it.
And it was creamier.
And I said, I got a chew for one.
And I said to my friend I was with, before I got my second cup, I said, you don't think I'm going to top this off and take this with me?
She was like, no, I think you will.
And you can?
You're like asking her to dare you?
Yeah, I was like, yeah, do you dare me?
She's like, no, just do whatever you want.
It was really outstanding.
I'm really glad.
The service was great.
The server kept being like, you want anything?
What do you want? What do you want?
I think they only have one server.
Oh, so a little.
So he was a little overwhelmed.
Yeah. And there was a tall man who was, he had a thermometer and all the food at the salad bar to make sure that it was at the temperature that was good for human consumption.
Oh, that's great.
And I love seeing that.
Some people want that in the back.
But his height had nothing to do with the job.
No.
Okay.
He was just tall.
Just a separate.
Separately, he was tall.
Yes.
And if he was listening or watching this, I'm.
I want him to know that I saw him.
You recognize.
I recognize what he was doing.
That's nice.
And also I was dancing at the ice cream machine, and he was just watching me.
And then I was like, oh, no.
Because you're having such a good time.
I was having such a good time.
This is great.
I don't think I had any expectations about Sizzler at all.
But it's good to know that they are killing it over there.
Crushing it.
Crushing it.
I think fast, casual dining is going to make a hard comeback.
Because I recently was out of the chilis, where it was a half hour wait.
It was filled to the brim with people.
Oh, wow.
And the food was not bad.
It was good.
Okay.
My sizzling fajitas were delicious.
I'm so glad.
Oh, fresh, fresh, fresh.
What do you, what's the order of your favorite fast, fast, casual restaurants?
Like, as far as, like, outbacked steakhouse, sizzler, red lobsters.
Chilies, TGI Fridays, Ruby Tuesdays.
What is, what do you love Ruby Tuesdays?
You got a steak in Ruby Tuesday?
Why keep mentioning Ruby Tuesdays?
It's part of the group.
Yeah, but it's like, I would say probably the least popular of them.
Really?
Yeah, nobody's screaming about Ruby Tuesdays.
Are you sure?
Yes.
I guess that's the one I went to the most out of all of them.
Really?
Yeah.
What are you getting at Ruby Tuesdays?
What are they known for?
What is Ruby, what is Ruby Tuesday?
say is known for.
I don't know what...
What are any of them known for?
Chili's is known for a triple dipper.
Oh, okay.
What's TGI Friday's known for?
They're in, uh, uh, referee costumes.
Okay.
I guess I don't, I don't know what Ruby Tuse is known for.
Exactly.
But I just figure they all kind of serve the same stuff.
Applebee's, you're eating good in the neighborhood.
But again, but like, what's their thing?
Eating good in the neighborhood.
Eating good, what?
Anything you want off the menu.
What do they have?
What is Applebee's at?
Well, I think Applebee's is probably known for their boneless buffalo wings.
Oh, okay.
They're pretty good.
Sounds good, yeah.
Yeah.
And then at Chili's, you get a triple dipper.
You get three things for, like, Southwest Egg rolls.
They have different mozzarella sticks, and then it's good.
Okay.
And then I think they have, like, little cassidias that you can get.
Great.
Those are pretty good.
All right.
We can take Ruby Tuesdays off the list because clearly you don't care about them.
I'm so sorry.
Can you just look up what people eat at Ruby Tuesdays?
I think up until like one Ruby Tuesdays.
And you didn't like it?
Underwhelmed.
Well, I love, okay, so I love Red Lobster for several reasons.
It's just delicious and delightful.
Yeah.
And I want to go get that crab broil.
Boil?
Broil.
Broil.
Broil?
Broil.
Boil?
Boil.
Crab boil.
I want to get me one.
Yeah.
It looks like they're known for their ribs and their burgers.
Yeah, okay.
No.
I simply don't think so.
No.
Why?
I just don't think so.
Ruby Tuesdays is known for their burgers and ribs.
Grow up.
Get real.
What?
No.
Where would you go for a burger?
For a burger?
I'm going to Applebee's because I'm eating good in
The neighborhood.
Where would you go for ribs?
Chili's.
I got my baby back, baby back, baby back, baby back, baby back.
That's true.
Chili's baby back ribs.
Yeah, you're right.
And Sizzler, I'm going for that soft serve.
Yeah.
And the salad bar.
Oh, boy, I had such a good time.
I can't wait.
And I was delighted.
Like, from start to finish, I was delighted.
Everyone there was delighted.
Everyone was having a great time.
It sounds like it.
In the parking lot, people were laughing.
Ha, ha, ha.
Yeah, I just
I can't wait to bring you
I can't wait to go
Have you ever been to a Ponderosa?
No
Have you heard of it?
I have heard of a Ponderosa
I don't
What do they serve there?
Is that a steakhouse?
It's a buffet situation
Oh
And I'm sure they have steak
But I mostly remember
They're fried chicken
But it was like a post church
Like gathering in Indianapolis
Oh
Living there
There's I
I know about golden corrals.
I like a golden corral or I did in my youth.
Yeah.
Hometown buffet.
I don't know a hometown buffet.
Hometown buffet was very, very nice.
I think it was old country buffet and then it got rebranded to old hometown buffet.
Oh.
Or maybe they're the same.
I remember old country.
So maybe they're two different ones.
Buffy's had a real heyday.
Yeah.
You know?
Mm-hmm.
And I think that thing that happened in 2020 slowed them down.
I think so.
But I think they should come back.
I make my own portion.
I'm the king here.
That is nice.
Yeah.
And all they have to do is like put out more trays of stuff.
Yes.
And have a tall man check the temperature.
Yeah, as long as they have the tall man.
I think even before COVID, I was wary of buffets because it just, yeah, how long has the food been sitting here?
How long, like, when do they rotate it?
And also just like, yeah, the even if they don't have COVID, the sneezing of it all.
We were in the Delta lounge
We were somewhere
Some man truly sneezed in the food
Sneezed right into the food
And I was like, yeah
It was disgusting
But I will say at Sizzler
The sneeze guard is low
So it's kind of hard for you to even like get your arm under
And I liked that
They take care of you at Sizzler
They really do
And I posted on my Instagram stories
That I was at the Sizzler
And Sisler thanked me
Oh
They said thanks for stopping by
That's so nice
I was so excited
Maybe they'll give you a free meal
Oh my God
Sashir
Yes, that's what I want
Treat me to a free meal
At the Sizzler
That'd be nice
Because I do want to go back
And redo my order
Because I did do it wrong
You didn't want the turf part
Or the surf part of the surf part
Yeah, I don't need the surf part
I just I think Sizzler is a land-based
restaurant
I get that
And I'm going to save my C
for Red Lobster
Great
Would you like to join me
on going to fast casual dining spots?
Yes.
Okay, great.
That was easy.
Well, the chili's in Encino.
That's great.
Oh, great.
And then the Applebee's, where was that one?
That one's, I think it's in Pasadena.
It's okay.
Okay.
So just okay.
Well, you can try it.
I guess.
Where's other fast casual dining?
Well, cheesecake factory.
Oh, yeah.
We've gone there.
We have gone there.
Do you remember when they tried to not give me my dessert
as my meal. Oh, yeah. That was confusing. That was so rude. It was rude. Because you ordered food and I said,
I would like the apple cobbler thingy. And she said, okay, but then you got your food. And I was like,
why do I have to wait? Oh, maybe she thought we were sharing the food and sharing the dessert.
Ah, we should have explained.
I wanted my dessert as my meal. Yeah. Mm-hmm. They had the best crunchums there.
What are the crunchums? Which crunches? What's, what's, what's, is it called a crunchum?
I don't know.
What is what are you talking about?
It's the little crunchums on top of the cobbler thing.
Oh, okay, got it.
I don't know why I made that so hard for you.
Yeah, I'm really sorry.
Say more words.
Mm-hmm.
I forget oftentimes that I have made up words that sometimes people don't know.
You're like, obviously, crunchums, hello.
Yeah, like mimpmops.
That's what I call flip-flops for no good reason.
They're just mip-mops to me, and that's what I say.
Nice.
Have you eaten anything good recently?
Hmm
Hmm
Not that like
Sparks my memory
Hmm
Hmm
I uh
I ordered
groceries
To come to my house
And you know how they're like
Sometimes just like free ball in it
And they're like
We don't have that but we'll just give you some people
So I order some Kiwis
Some golden Kiwis
And I only wanted like a small pack
But it was like a huge
big daddy
but I'm so happy because
I'm eating Kiwi like every day and it's so nice
Oh that is nice
Yeah
Yeah and I saw
I think they have anti-oxidants or something like that
Like some videos like Kiwis are good for you for these reasons
And I was like well good thing I'm eating them every day
That's funny that you're like
You're eating healthy and I'm like
I'm having cups and cups of soft serve
Also I had
A delicious lasagna
two weeks ago.
And it has re-ignited my fervor for lasagna.
I didn't know it had gone away.
Well, it dips in and out.
Well, do you remember when I ate lasagna every Friday for a year?
Yes, yeah.
And then I said, well, we got to let that rest.
Well, of the horse.
But it's back, baby.
It's back.
Okay, good.
John Milheiser made me a lasagna.
That was so fucking delicious.
Oh, nice.
And I got some to go home with.
Yeah.
And then I ate lasagna for two days after.
And then I still liked it.
I still liked it.
And then he took Kara Clyde when I went to Miami for shows.
And I got back and I was like, you guys still have lasagna?
And his partner was like, no.
It's been days.
That lasagna, it's a wrap on that.
But now I have like, I need a hunger for it.
I want lasagna.
Maybe you should like ask if they want to do like a monthly lasagna party.
You know, like the last, last Saturday.
day of every month, we're making lasagna.
It's too much.
Too much?
Are you excited about this idea?
Are you upset?
I'm so excited.
It's such a good idea.
Right?
But I feel like it's too much to ask for someone to make me a lasagna once a month because
I'm not participating.
But you're like, you're adding levity to the night.
You could bring wine or something.
Okay.
And I feel like monthly is good because it's not like too much.
You know, it's like, and it's a thing to look forward to, too.
Like, I know at the end of this month, we're going to have a little hang out, you know.
This is so nice.
This is this year, this is an excellent idea.
I'm so glad.
That will be a thing for me to live for.
It will get me through the month.
Times are tough.
It's like, but I know that at the end of this month I'm getting a lasagna, so I just have to persevere.
she persisted she got to the end of the month she got her lasagna yeah oh my god this is an excellent
idea well i had to come now because it's my idea he said you're invited that's rude you can come
you can come you can come this is me inviting myself you can come okay great you're invited
i guess i'll have to do it at my house because one extra person can't fit in his place
i'm just one person i guess we'll have to move the whole operation out of john's house
I'm going to rent a whole studio for this.
God.
Yeah, I guess I'll have to, I'll rent a hotel room.
No, I guess we can still do it at his place.
I'll ask.
Okay.
I'll put us all on like a group chat.
Great.
I'm trying to think of other delicious things I've eaten.
I went to, where was I?
I was in North Carolina.
I didn't really eat any good things in North Carolina.
I did eat a Southwestern Egg Roll from the club that made me so,
sick.
Oh, no.
Sometimes fried food will do that to me.
And I don't know when or how or where it's going to happen.
Yeah.
Because sometimes fried food is fine.
And then sometimes, oh, baby.
Yeah.
I'm sorry.
Thank you.
Thank you for your, thank you for your condolences.
Oh, you know, I did have, I had some good soup dumplings.
From where?
This is when I was in Montreal.
Oh.
But also has some good ones.
At the Glendale Galleria.
At the Galleria?
Yeah.
Not even at the Americana?
No, because it was.
like this like a Chinese spot right outside of the entrance and Al and I were like
killing time before a movie. I think I want to go to there. Yeah, we should go there. I think I saw
that on somewhere. Probably Instagram. It's really cute. It's also huge. But yeah, it was like
very tasty and then they have like one of those menus that you like check off what you want.
And I love homework. I love filling out some paperwork for my meal. Honestly, I'm into that
because I hate the QR codes. Yeah. I love opening up.
but that's why I like Cheesecake Factory.
It's like I feel like I've read a book.
It's just so much.
It's so dense.
A lot of literature.
But I love checking it.
Like when you go to like a skewer place, a lot of times you get to like check it off.
Yeah.
And then I'm like, there's no mistakes.
You saw what I did.
You brought what I did.
Yeah.
And that's so nice.
It's nice.
Oh my goodness.
Mm-hmm.
You know what I have a hankering for?
Is that?
Okay.
I want like a chocolate mul.
You're like rubbing it in your fingers.
I want a chocolate molten lava cake.
Do you remember when they were all the rage?
They were on every menu you could find.
And then suddenly they went away.
Yeah, do you know why?
I don't know why.
I guess maybe they're like not hip.
I don't know what the hip dessert is right now.
I feel like tarts are always on menus.
Maybe, yeah.
Like a lemon tart.
Yeah.
But I want a chocolate molten lava cake.
and I had one in Mexico that was so delicious
that I went on a hunt for one.
So then we went to Fleming's to get one
and it wasn't cakey enough.
It was like too, it was too lava-e,
not cakey enough, and it was kind of a disappointment.
So I'm back on the hunt for another one.
Maybe that's why people aren't doing it
because it's kind of a hard dessert to make.
Chili's does it?
Well, it sounds like they do a lot of things well.
Chili's does so many things well.
Oh, my God.
Well, okay, here's the thing.
There's is like a little too cakey, but it is, it's good.
Yeah.
But what I'm looking for is dense.
I want dense cake around with the goo in the middle.
And I want it to be like working together for taste.
What?
We need a collaboration here.
Yes, that's what I want.
I want a collaboration.
And that's what I'm looking for.
Okay.
I hope you find it.
Hey, thank you.
Did you hear there was a man impersonating Justin Bieber in Vegas.
and performed a whole concert for people?
No.
And then got paid from the hotel.
Did they think that was Justin Bieber?
Or do they know they're hiring a person here?
No.
I believe he walked in.
Allie, do you mind looking this up to Karababai?
But I do believe he like went to this like hotel and was like, I am Justin Bieber and then sang.
Interesting.
Which I love.
I mean, good for him.
Scam.
Yeah.
Scam people.
Make sure you cash that check before they can go.
Stop, stop. No, that's not Justin Bieber.
Was he singing or lip singing?
No, I think he was singing.
Oh.
I think he was like, I am Justin Bieber.
Baby, baby, baby.
Sounds right to me.
I think that's what happened.
Yeah, they're calling it Beavergate 2025.
I love that.
And he went on stage at a Las Vegas nightclub.
And it was for a surprise performance alongside a popular DJ.
and the crowd went wild.
And, oh, yeah, the DJ recalled that the faux Bieber team
apparently told the DJ that he wanted to perform sorry
after showing up at the nightclub and that the dark venue
and loud music made it difficult to determine what was legitimate.
Oh, wow.
That's great.
An icon.
I love when people do that kind of scamming
because there's also a, like, I think he's like 18.
or 21 who impersonated a doctor, a lawyer.
He was just impersonating, like, different people.
And he was having a nice time, and I love that.
I like, yeah, pretend to be the person you want to be until you become them.
Yeah, it's truly fake until you make it.
Right?
That's funny.
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there was I think this was this one's not as fun
but there was someone who was impersonating an OBGYN
and like multiple times
like someone to find out and then then they'd be
like get out of here and then you go to a different office that's gross that's really gross
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before they hire you, why are you trying to look up in there?
And if you have to, like, think
really hard, I think that's like a red flag.
I think if you're like, oh, women's health is something
that is like really near and dear to my heart
and, you know, my mom passed away from like cervical cancer.
Like, that's a good answer.
But someone who's like, boom, someone's got to look up there.
No, I'm not hiring you.
Yeah.
Mm-mm.
That'd be nice.
Mm-hmm.
Wait, what is the other people?
Oh, have you seen the lady who was,
is an interpreter who...
Oh, the sign language interpreter?
Yes.
Actually, there's no silent language.
She's one of my favorites.
Yeah.
Because she asked if she could do it.
That's really...
And they're like, sure.
I think it's so funny to be like, I'm going to do this.
I'm going to do this on television.
Why?
Yeah, what's the goal here?
I simply don't know.
I think it's truly so funny.
It's really funny.
I love it.
Yeah, just pretend to be things.
Why not?
Why not?
I feel like the receptionist,
I usually encounter at hospitals or doctor's office are so, like, tired of being there.
Yes.
They're not asking questions.
They're like, maybe someone brought their kid, like, whatever.
Yeah, it's take your kid to school.
School?
Take your kid to work day.
Yeah.
That was like when we went to the hospital in Queens where there was a sign that was like,
no eating.
And then there was muffins everywhere?
Yes.
Just half-eaten muffins?
Rappers on stretcher beds.
Like, it was such a dirty hospital.
And, yeah, the fact they had to tell the nurses.
Do not eat here.
I did not care.
Oh, my God.
So, sheer, on my flight back from North Carolina, there was a man farting so hard next to me.
Like hard, like loud?
No, I couldn't hear them, but I could definitely smell them.
And, you know, like seeing a teen walk around your workspace and not saying anything, I, like, I guess,
I guess I could see how you wouldn't say anything. How do you say to somebody, are you, are you sick? You have got to stop farting. And he was next to you? He was right next to me.
Maybe I would first ask a flight attendant. Like I'd get up and go to where the flight attendants are and be like, are there any other seats? This man is farting so much. And if that wasn't an option, then where were you sitting?
The first row.
oh man yeah um yeah um yeah yeah it was terrible and anytime i fell asleep i would like wake up to like
this awful smell oh my god it was just so gross and then i got not into a fight but when i was
like because you know i don't get there on time everyone had gotten on and i like opened the bin and this man was
like it's full so then I opened the other bin on the other side he was like that's full too
and then is the passengers yeah this is the farting man oh no and then when we were getting off
it was not full oh no he lied to me so I was like not only are you stinky but you're a liar
maybe he's stinky because he's full of shit that's why he's farting so much he's full of lies
wow that was very quick of you thanks I've done improv for a really long time
Yeah, I'm not quick sometimes.
Remember we were coming back from Canada and that man was like, what do you have to declare?
And you turn around and you're like, her.
And then he said something to me and I went, um, oh.
Well, yeah, it was like, my joke was like nothing.
It was, you know, like, I'm declaring her.
Ha, ha, ha, ha.
And he loved it.
And you're like, and you're like, huh.
I get nervous at the border.
Well, you should.
I've been detained.
Yeah, you have been detained.
That was so wild.
And that's why I don't stop.
I keep going.
I don't, because I've worked in Canada before and they were like, make sure you get your working papers.
I'm not stopping to do that.
I'm not going to let them detain me again.
I'm not doing any of that shit.
I see.
Yeah.
Well, I mean, we talked about this in an old episode, but if you're a new listener, I was detained
because I hadn't traveled in a really long time.
My passport was stolen.
I got a new one two weeks before traveling.
And I didn't have a suitcase.
case, my friend gave me her duffel bag that had dry rotted. So during the flight, the bag had
fallen apart. So then I was just holding my clothes and all my belongings. And at the border,
they were like, why are you here? And I was like, did you improv? And they're like, are you getting
paid? And I was like, no, I get paid to do improv. And they're like, sometimes they do in Canada.
Where are you staying? And I was like, at a hotel. And they're like, where is the hotel? And I was
like in Vancouver
but also if I was a terrorist
I'm a bad terrorist
it's true you would have planned better
yes you would have made it look
less obvious for some things afoot
yeah I was de-sheveled
and then they were like you have to come with us
and I was like ugh
and then they were like have you ever been arrested and I was like
yes
and they're like for what I was like
shoplifting whatever
but it was expunged for my record
so that's that was fine
and I don't need to tell people
that I was arrested for shoplifting
but they kept me for so long
it was a really long time
it was me and this man who was like a surfer
who had like a surfboard and he was like
ha'nay wall you're keeping me here
and I was like I don't go either
keeping me here either
but I'd be rumbling at the airport
there was a lady
this is when I got to North Carolina
I was walking with my suitcase
and she was walking with her two suitcases
and she didn't even like
pretend to get out of my way.
And I was like, well, if you're not going to pretend to, like, move, I'm not pretending to move.
Because usually, you just, you, everyone kind of skutes.
So we came to a head.
And I said, what now?
This is really funny.
And she went, well, I mean, and I went, you mean what?
And then we both scooted around each other because I guess neither one of us wanted to give up and let the other person pass.
So you just, like, circled each other?
That's really funny.
And she was with a friend who, and the friend just kept glaring at me.
So I was glaring at both of them because I was like, I could do that.
I can split my, my glare between the two of you.
Yeah.
I've been having a time at the airport.
It does seem that way.
It's been wild, y'all.
Yeah.
Well, I'm glad you got around her.
And I have a grievance.
Okay.
Against American Airlines.
Well, I hate American Airlines.
I'll say that right here right now.
They have fucked me over so many times.
But when you get on, you have to have your extended part of your carry-on closed.
I've actually been asked that on many airlines where I'm like, but you know it can get smaller.
So it's like, why do I have to prove this to you?
Yeah, why do I have to prove it to you?
Also, it's not like you can put a whole extra suitcase in the overhead bin if all of our expanded bits are closed.
No.
So you want to know what I'm in?
do? Oh, I'll close it for you. I'll close it right up for you. And the minute I cross that
threshold, I'm opening it back up because what are you going to do? What are you going to do? Pull me
off? And my question for you is, what does that do? What is re-extending it do? Oh, because I don't
want the zipper to break because I have packed too many things. Oh, okay. I see. I can close it
because I, you know, stepped on it. I pushed it down. But I don't want it to get in the air and change
air pressure and stuff and then like the zipper breaks wait but what's going to expand in the in your
bag that makes it break it's not about expanding it's i have compacted it so much that like you know
if you if you wear a corset and you pull it really really tight are you comfortable no no my clothes
aren't comfortable like that and it's going to bust against the zipper to try to break free so i got
I let them be a little free by doing the extendable.
I see.
Well, yes, we do want your clothes to be comfortable.
Well, I just don't want the zipper to be stressed.
And then it breaks, and then I have to get a new away.
I can't.
It's a limited edition, purple one.
That's true.
I use my away backpack.
It's like just very large and kind of like a suitcase on your back.
And it has an A on it, and it looks like you're an Avenger.
it does off to go fight crime um and so uh i sat down on on a plane like put my back up in the
overhead bend sat down and the person next to me was like your backpack's really big and i'll be
like why are you even looking at it what's none of your business so sure i cannot tell you
how many times i've gotten that because i have a cal pack backpack also purple everything's lilac
Of course.
And the flight attendants love being like, you love lilac.
And I'm like, I do love Lylac.
Anyway, so it is huge.
It is the size of a carry-on.
I admit it.
I do have two carry-ons.
I know I do.
But people love saying to me, oh, wow, you were let on with that.
And I always go, yeah.
And what do you have to say?
Here's how I'm tricking.
They're looking at me from here.
They only see straps.
And by the time I've crossed the threshold,
there's too much work to say, ma'am, you have two carry-ons.
Yeah.
Except for American.
American will come get you.
They are so rude.
I don't like them.
And sometimes they're sneaking and they'll have a gate agent on either side.
So I can't just keep moving that way so you can't see the backpack.
That's funny.
But listen, I have things.
I have to bring them and I'm not checking a bag.
You need to bring all your things.
I need my things and y'all lose shit.
Yeah.
So I'm not checking the bag.
Yeah.
I also don't understand how at airports that there's no one to check the tag on the bag before you take a suitcase.
Like anyone can just pick up a suitcase and go.
There's no regulation there.
No, but it is like a, I guess a social thing where it's like, don't take someone else's.
Which like I'm amazed by because, I mean, I've also never heard of anyone having their suitcase stolen like that.
But it's just like...
It's so, it's such an easy thing to do.
It really is.
You don't even have to be coming off a flight.
You could walk in.
No, you could just walk in.
And just take any suitcase and leave.
But I will say, that is such a gamble.
You don't know what's in those suitcases.
It could be trash.
Yeah, but then it's like a numbers game.
Yeah, I didn't get anything today, but I can come back next time and maybe get a better one.
Or look for the expensive looking suitcase.
Oh, yeah, I guess I'll look for those Louis Vuitton suitcases.
In the movie House Guest, Sinbad,
character takes a suitcase right off the conveyor belt but then luckily there's a suit in there
that fits him perfectly and it fits thin bad he's so tall he's so tall so tall so like that is
luck have you seen house guests yeah you we watched it together you made me watch it where we both
had COVID in Kenya yes where we were just sniffling and I was like it do you like it do you like
it I did like it it it's such a fun movie hmm oh boy I wish they'd remake that
Oh, pitch it
Listen, I have
And nobody has
Nobody has been like, yes
I don't know
Let's remake fun movies that like people haven't seen
Yeah, be nice
You know?
Yeah
Stop remaking the shit everyone's already seen
I think that's the thing that people are like
Studios are scared
So they're like well people liked this before
So maybe they'll like it again
But it's so wild
The two biggest movies I think of this year
were original movies, sinners
and weapons.
That's true.
Isn't that nuts?
And then they're like, that's an anomaly.
People don't want that.
I know.
It's like, no, no, they seem like they do.
Yes.
I think you'll like weapons.
I just don't like scary.
I know.
I know.
And I did spend a lot of the movie going, uh-uh, no.
Well, see, if you do that, I'm going to scream.
Yeah.
And jump out of my seat.
Maybe in a home.
Okay.
Yeah, if it's like streaming, maybe I can do it with all the lights on.
And then maybe during the,
day.
Yeah.
But I really, it's, I had such a nice time.
Okay.
I've been having such a nice time at the movie.
I talk about movies so much on this podcast.
We love the movies.
And I want people to go out and fellowship at the movies.
Yeah.
We need to.
We all need fellowship.
Keep it alive.
We got to keep the movies alive so we can keep seeing that video with the Cole Kidman.
For real.
I love it.
It lights me up every time I see it.
Right?
Mm-hmm.
I like that pinstripe suit.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Whoever styled her was eaten.
They were eaten so hard.
Feels like that's the first time you ever said that.
No crumbs left.
Her style.
Her was eaten.
They had a full lasagna dinner.
Sometimes you try to be hip and it doesn't come out okay.
I mean, I get it.
Do you ever say that earnestly?
Wow, you were eaten.
No.
No, me either.
I don't think I try to say any slang because I'm just like,
I know it's not going to sound right.
Or I'm going to say it wrong.
I'm trying to think of slang that I say in earnest.
All that in a bag of chips?
Yeah.
I haven't really been using it
But I need to start using it
Girl, you all that in a bag of chips
It's so good
I do say, hell yeah, dude
Yeah
I don't think of slang though
I don't know if that slang
Yeah
Just appropriation of surf culture
That's true
Have you seen the end of
And just like that
Oh I'm finishing it now
I took a long break
And then now that they announced
This ending I'm like
Okay I should probably finish this up
But I think I have three more episodes ago
I can't wait until you get to the end
Me too
You know it's sad
I mean
I still haven't gotten to those last few episodes
So I don't know but I'm like this show's getting better
Well
They finally got to what we liked about sex in the city
Which is the three of the core characters
Hanging out
Yeah
And talking to each other
And Carrie like trying to see other
Listen, I forever, I need to know they killed Big in the first episode. Spoiler. I don't mind. She never really had Big. I love seeing her without Big. But why in that first season wasn't she dating? Why didn't we go back to like season one, two, three of sex in the city where it was like a different dude every couple episodes and like, this is wrong with him, this weirdo. Because what are the weirdos like in your 50s?
That was really interesting.
Also, like, we had, like, a moment where she was trying to date, like, you know, post-big while she's mourning and she was, like, dating another grieving person.
But show more of that.
What was it like to grieve and date?
Like, that's such an interesting storyline.
But then they decided, season two, she was never married and she don't care one bit about that man.
At one point, she was like, was marrying big, a big mistake?
I was like, ma'am, he's dead.
Yeah, too soon.
He did.
So, and also, you got to buy a townhouse.
It's pretty nice.
That's nice.
That's not a big mistake.
That was a big investment of your time and energy and to that man.
But also, I don't know, like, well, you're not there yet, but, like, I have questions about Brady.
I have questions about Steve.
I just have so many questions.
Yeah.
And then, it is a shame that, you know, Kim Kirtra.
all didn't come back for this final season.
Yeah.
But also, like, did they know it was going to be the final season when they started?
It feels like they made a decision because they were like, it just seems like no one likes
this.
Well, I think the creator and Sarah Jessica Parker have said that they felt like the series
had run its course.
But when you watch that last episode, you might think otherwise.
Because I had other thoughts.
I said, huh.
This won't ruin it.
It's a Thanksgiving episode in August.
That to me, I don't know if someone in the room was like, you know what's a poignant way to end on Thanksgiving in August?
That just felt a little off for me.
Things that happen in the episode will feel a little off for you.
Mr. Andrews is back in the last episode.
Victor Garber.
He plays Mr. Andrews in Titanic.
Okay.
But was he in this show before?
No.
Yeah, he's been like peppered in throughout.
Okay, great.
I just want you know that Mr. Andrews is back.
Mr. Andrews is back.
I have no idea what his name is on the show.
Okay.
I will always know him as Mr. Andrews.
Because Rose is always like, Mr. Andrews.
I'll just show it to you.
And you'll be right on board.
Okay, got it.
After our break.
We're back.
Okay, Halley, can you just look up the clip of Rose saying, Mr. Andrews?
Because it's like imprinted on me.
In the same way as the little girl in All Dogs Go to Heaven says the name Charlie.
She goes, Charlie.
Yeah.
Yeah, there she goes.
Mr. Andrews. Mr. Andrews. Mr. Andrews.
Mr. Andrews.
That small little part is now how I identify that man.
really funny.
I would have never guessed.
No, there are so many little parts of movies that you would never guess that have stuck with me.
Well, there's a part in the Matrix you always bring up as like, not like this.
Not like this.
Yeah, and very few people get it.
I had to watch it again to be like, where is that part?
And then I came up and I was like, that?
Such a small part of the whole movie.
Not like this.
not like this
I was
oh it was grand crew
Echo and I had a scene together
and we kept going
not like this
not like this
and then I can't remember
who the director was
but they were like
hey so that's not gonna make it in
so you guys could just stop saying that
and I was like okay
got it's really funny
that's funny for you
but nobody here thinks it's funny
no one in Village
really likes it at all
so you could just stop saying that
that's funny really no parts of movies stick with you like that
uh uh uh uh
maybe like songs in movies or like big moments but i can think of like little phrases that
no one would remember
that stick with me like that okay fair fair fair
but also you have a like really good memory for movies that you like
I like movies
and we'll be like
That was great
But then I can't remember
Every thing that happens in the movie
Or all of the lines in the movie
But you like
Know certain
Like every line or like every plot point
That's the only movies I've seen 100 times
I've seen Titanic so many times
Yeah
We would have just viewings at home
And then we would have intermission
Because it was two VHSs
They should do that more
They should
That's fun
They don't make VHSs anymore
I just start sobbing
let's see
Christopher Nolan told the world
told everybody to buy physical media
he did yeah he was like
it's really important for us to buy physical media
because we can't trust networks or streamers
or whatever to maintain
the integrity of this art
I mean he's not wrong
you sent a clip from the Golden Girls
where they were doing face masks
where they were in brown face or black face
and then there was black people in the room with them
And it's very funny to me
But it was on the little clip
It was like this has been removed from like streaming
Which is crazy
I know
Because the golden girl's dealt with like a lot of
Hard hitting topics
Yeah and really well
It still holds up
But yeah it's really sad that it's like
Someone thought
Ooh audiences are gonna think this is offensive
Because they are mentioning blackface
And so we're just gonna cut it completely
And the joke is so funny
When Rose is like
Oh we're not black
No, we're wearing masks.
Don't worry.
We're not actually black.
This is so funny.
The Golden Girl's so funny.
It's really funny.
So ahead of its time.
I think if they ever reboot it, do not write new episodes.
Just cast different actors to do the exact same things.
See how they interpret it.
I think that's really fun.
Hey, put me in charge of something.
Freaking pitch it, girl.
Hey, hey, hey, maybe I will.
Should we answer questions?
Or is it too early for that?
No, I think we're right on time.
Okay.
Okay.
I thought a sneeze was going to happen.
It didn't.
Okay.
I'm a real struggle with us right here.
Hi, Nicole and Sashir.
My name is Ari.
I'm 27 years old.
I've been with my boyfriend for three years now.
And recently, I've been having extra special dreams
about my boyfriend's sister's man.
When we all go out and have drinks,
sometimes him and I end up talking about our sex lives.
Our last conversation was about the Netflix show Sex Life,
which I highly recommend, L.O.L.
No, I've seen it. I love it.
Anyway, we brought up one of the orgy scenes
and both said we'd be into it.
My man and his sister don't mind the conversation,
but now I'm having dreams about him.
Is this wrong? What do I do?
Or is this my dirty little secret?
Thank you so much and love you guys.
I think
I think you know
I think you know that it's a little inappropriate
you're writing to a podcast asking
is it okay that I have
sexual overtly sexual conversations
with my boyfriend sister's boyfriend
I don't think that's super appropriate
I think but then again
if nobody seems to mind
yeah it sounds like they don't mind
and it I guess I don't
know the setup of the hangs, but it kind of sounds like they're all talking it. Or are they all
in my mind, I think it gives me the impression that they're all together. Having a
Chili's high top. Yeah, exactly. Having a nice time over a triple dipper. Maybe the sister and her
boyfriend went to the buffet or something. It's not at a Chili's. The salad bar.
Not at Chili's. They have a salad bar at Chili's? No. Oh my God. We have to go to either
a Ruby Tuesdays or the Sizzler. I see. Okay. So if they're at Chili
They're all at the table together.
And, yeah, maybe one of them introduces the sex conversation.
But yeah, as long as, like, they, the partners don't have a problem with it, it's fine.
I think it can be a dirty little secret.
Like, I don't think, I think once you start making it, like, explicit, like, I'd like to have an orgy with you, that for sure is inappropriate.
But I, you know, if your partner hasn't brought it up and is like, hey,
I feel a little uncomfortable with what's happening here.
I think it's okay to flirt.
Like, flirting is, like, just fun.
Flirting is fun.
But I, I think if there's, if you're doing something that might make your partner uncomfortable,
why wait for your partner to be like, hey, I'm uncomfortable about that?
It's just like, maybe you just don't do it?
That's also an option for sure.
Yeah, but then also on the other side, I'm like, if nobody cares, then, like, who cares?
But if you're having like wild sex dreams about someone who's not your partner who you hang out with a lot, that might be putting it in your brain and then maybe you'll act on it.
I don't know.
Why put that in your brain to have a thing where you're like, maybe I'll have an affair with my boyfriend's sister's boyfriend.
I guess I don't see a problem with sex dreams either.
It's like you can have a sex dream about anybody.
It doesn't necessarily mean you're going to act on it.
Like dreams are just fun dreams.
But I think if it's like stressing you out and you're like, I don't know what to do.
do about it. There's actually nothing to do about it. Nothing actually has to change. You can have
as many sex dreams as you want. You can have as many flirty conversations as you want. It's until you
actually act on something. Now it's inappropriate. Now it's wrong. But if your partner's like,
I don't feel comfortable with this or if you yourself don't feel comfortable with it and you're
like, I feel like I'm crossing a line, then yeah, for sure, stop what you're doing. But there's actually,
you're not actually harming anybody with thoughts or dreams. Yeah. I think you're right.
I'm just the type of person that, like, if I dream about something enough, I'm going to try to do it.
Oh.
If I have, like, four dreams about nachos in a row, I got to go make nachos.
Or, like, if I have a dream about, like, a road trip long enough, I'll be like, well, I think I got to go somewhere.
Yeah.
That's just me, though.
I'm different.
And that's okay.
I mean, also, like, sometimes dreams represent something else, too, just because you have a sex dream about a person.
doesn't mean you want to have sex with that person.
Could be I want to have more sex or like in general.
In general.
Or like you have a desire for something and it's coming out sexually in your dream, but it's not actually about sex.
Like dreams mean a lot of things.
So like also Google's helpful too.
You can type in the exact dream that you had and it could be like, oh, well this represents like you're actually feeling frustrated at work and you know like whatever.
But it doesn't literally mean you're so horny for this.
person.
So maybe that's good advice.
Yeah.
It's your dirty little secret.
And remember, you're not actually horny for that person.
It's a dream.
Don't cheat on your boyfriend with your boyfriend's sister's boyfriend.
Yes.
Yeah, whatever you do, don't do that.
Yeah, don't do that.
Another one.
Solved.
Okay, this comes from Ashley.
I have a fun little query for you're both.
My friend lives in Idaho and I live in Washington State.
I loved your idea.
from episodes ago of sending
some care packages to long-distance
friends to make her day brighter or to get
her to giggle, what are some funny items
or gag gift ideas to send if you
have any? Nothing rude or messy
but maybe like a miniature figure
of a toilet? Help!
Thank you for the laughs and sorry this was long.
Nothing rude or messy, like a miniature
figure of a toilet. It's so specific.
It is very, very specific.
I mean,
I mean? Oh, my God.
I mean.
Let's see.
What do I mean?
What did your friend like?
Yeah, I think it's like if it's an inside joke or something you guys have talked about, that would make the most sense.
I don't know if you could just send like a random funny thing.
I think it has to be like, oh, I know my friend will laugh when she sees this or we've talked about this or we've laughed about this thing.
That makes us both laugh.
Yeah.
I'll send something like that.
Like if you both like Labuboos and Lady Gaga get...
A Lady Gaga Lubbibu.
Yeah.
Or like if you like hot dogs, you can find some hot dog salt and pepper shakers.
Or if your friend loves The Matrix, you can make a shirt that says, not like this.
Not like this.
It has to happen twice, not like this.
Oh, not like this.
Not like this, not like this.
Yeah, I think it's like something that is specific to.
your friend, I think, is the nicest.
And then you could get, like, one specific thing and then, like, candy.
Yeah.
Or, you know, some sort of fun treat.
Send them an ooey-gooey buttercake from Amazon.com.
Oh, my goodness.
I don't know.
I just bought those for myself.
That sounds good.
And I haven't opened them yet, but I think they're going to be good.
I can't wait for a review.
I also bought the Nuts for Nuts.
Oh, because you're talking about it.
Yeah, and I wanted to wait until I went back to New York, but I was like, I've got to get those nuts.
Yeah, have them come to you.
We have that ability now.
Yeah, if the mountain doesn't come to Muhammad,
Muhammad goes to the mountain.
Is that the...
Is that the phrase?
I don't know this.
You don't know that first?
I've never heard this.
The way you looked at me, I was like, oh, no.
I don't know it.
Does anyone else know it?
I think you're right.
I'm looking at it up, but I'm pretty sure you're right.
You've never heard that?
No.
If the mountain doesn't come to Muhammad,
Muhammad goes to the mountain.
Mountain. Okay. That sounds good.
I don't know what it's in reference to. Is it a biblical thing?
Yeah, you're right. You're right.
We should do one more query. Yeah. Because we solved that. Last one.
Solved. Okay. This is titled, Help. I'm living a lesbian version of the movie I love you, man.
And it says, Hi, Nicole and Sashir. My soon-to-be wife and I are in the middle of planning our upcoming wedding.
And occasionally, we will add a name or two to the guest list. The only problem is the majority of guests are either her family, her friends,
or mutual friends that were introduced to me by her.
And quite frankly, it's bumming me out.
All of my close friends live out of state,
and I'm not going to lie, those friendships are kind of fading.
I don't even have a homie of honor,
and I'm worried I've stumbled into a less charming real-life version
of the movie I love you, man, but make it lesbian.
How can a 30-year-old woman find meaningful and genuine friendships
without coming across as a lonely weirdo?
Because that's where I'm at right now.
Anyway, absolutely love the show,
and thank you so much for sharing your friendship with the world.
Every episode is always a delight.
Well, when's the wedding?
When do we have to get these friendship in by?
Oh.
So you're trying to like have this person either rekindle friendships or find new friendships to invite them to the wedding?
It sounded like that they were bummed about the guest list and they want meaningful friendships for the guest list or just in general.
I think I interpret it as like they're giving an example of how, I see, okay.
How few close relationships they have outside of their partner's life.
And I guess maybe a general, like, how do I find meaningful friendships?
Okay.
Maybe not for the wedding.
Because I haven't seen the movie.
I didn't know if there was like a time frame and like a wedding was involved and they were gathering friends for the wedding.
I mean, that sounds fun if that's the idea of the movie, but I actually don't know this.
It's Paul Rudd and Jason Siegel.
And Paul Rudd is getting married to Rashida Jones, but he doesn't have any friends to ask to be his best man.
And so then he goes on a whole journey to try to find a friend as fast as he can that could be his best man.
You're right.
Which ends up being wacky, wacky, wacky, wacky.
Okay.
So it sounds like they are looking for a friend in time for the wedding.
I think that's tough.
Yes, tough.
And, you know, movies are movies.
So I don't know if we can give you advice on that.
But maybe your out-of-state friendships, you, like the ones that matter the most,
you just be more intentional about reaching out.
Yeah.
And saying to these people, I know I've fallen off on communication, but I would like to do
better.
And if you would like to do better, I'm really open to, like, trying to, like, keep our friendship
flame aflaming um and then in the state you live in go do stuff get outside go do shit yeah talk to
people yeah i like that i also wonder like i know she said that the out-of-state friendships are
fizzling but like did they get an invite like are you even inviting them to the wedding yeah yeah yeah
it doesn't really matter how close you are to a friend people show up for weddings like even if it's like oh
they used to be close to me but
we haven't talked in a few years but they invite me
to their wedding I'll go like they might
show up like you might be surprised
and that might be a really nice way to
rekindle. See them in person and you're like
oh my god it's been so long look at this great time we had
I'm going to make it my point to like really reach out
to you more yeah and they'll probably be like me
too yeah I think that's nice yeah and also like
yeah weddings are fun because you can get tipsy
and probably talk it like two in the morning and be like I've missed you so much
You know, who knows.
But yeah, do invite those friends if you want to.
If there wasn't like an actual reason why you aren't going to do that, definitely do stuff in your town.
And I don't think it's a bad thing that your circle is people your partner brought into your life because that means your partner has a good taste.
And I think it's okay to like share friends.
It is nice to have separate worlds just like I guess for like, I don't want to say like just in case.
but like you don't want your whole world to be their world.
And not even just in case, I think you bring something extra to the relationship
by having a life outside of the relationship.
Yeah, I like that.
Yeah.
Yeah.
So, yeah, do stuff.
Yeah, like a pottery class, a pole dancing class.
Rock climbing.
Rock climbing.
Trampillines.
Arobis size.
Jazzercise?
Jazzor size?
Yeah, classes.
Classes, do classes.
Yeah, because also, like, I would bet that because you two are different humans,
there's probably something you want to do that your partner hasn't wanted to do.
Go do that.
Like, and vice versa.
Like, there's always, like, something that's like, oh, they don't want to go to that so I just won't go.
Do go.
Do go.
Go by yourself.
Yeah, you might meet somebody.
Yeah.
So next to someone, you never thought you would.
Smile at somebody you never thought you'd smile at.
shake a hand of someone
that you never thought you shake hands with
everyone's like this freak
smiling and shaking my hand
yeah do that
and then after you're done smiling
and shaking hands be like will you be my best
person at my wedding
yeah
at pottery class come up behind them
like the movie ghost and say
would you like to be my best person
but also I feel like
whoever says yes to that you don't actually want any of life
you don't want that at all you don't want that at all
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You know
sometimes you're like
I have an idea
of how something will go
and then it goes
and you're like
that's not what I thought it was sound like
I like force you to have less
fun
I force you to have to do like math in your head on how to
do that in a weird staccato-like way
and it didn't come natural
it didn't seem like you had fun
and for which I will just apologize.
I'm really sorry.
Well, thank you for noticing it.
Yeah, I'll hold space for that.
Thank you so much.
All right.
Well, we should get out of here.
All right.
Goodbye.
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