Best Friends with Nicole Byer and Sasheer Zamata - Nicole’s Gonna Walk Into Traffic She Misses Sasheer So Much!

Episode Date: March 29, 2023

Nicole and Sasheer miss each other… genuinely! They start things off talking about what they can do when they see each other, like Christmas hot dogs! They discuss Nicole deciding to wear loud outfits at the airport, getting a beloved suitcase fixed, their shared love of fun weird stuff, cows having four stomachs, where do flamingos even live, and why there should be elderly skate hours. They take a quiz to see what unique pairing their friendship is, and answer listener questions about sharing your friend with other people as well as managing expectations with friends. Plus, tears for a beautiful lasagna!  Here is the quiz they took: https://www.buzzfeed.com/joannaborns/your-best-friendHere is the Lasagna wig! https://www.instagram.com/p/ChfecURJMs8/?img_index=1 Email or call Nicole & Sasheer with your friendship questions at:[e-mail] Get access to all the podcasts you love, music channels and radio shows with the SiriusXM App! Get 3 months free using this show link https://siriusxm.com/friends and code FRIENDS.

🎵 🎵Sashir🎵 🎵Nako🎵 🎵My friend is so far from me🎵 🎵She's all the way across the country from me🎵 🎵I miss my friend. I miss my friend. I miss my friend. I'm gonna walk into traffic. I miss my

friend. No! No, no, no! Get out of there! Oh, that was scary! Oh, how are you? Good. Well, hopefully I'll see you soon. Also, I'm trying to sneak away back to la

this coming weekend oh wow oh wow that didn't sound genuine and it was so genuine wow for how many days uh four or i guess wow arriving thursday leaving sunday oh boy oh boy i feel like you're gonna sleep a lot in your own bed do you have anything planned i have zero things planned but i do want to like book a massage do you want to see you but yeah i just want to like be in my house for a minute this is going to be a real treat I can't wait to drive up to your home park in that red zone that I don't think is legal

to the city and walk into your home and go oh my god you can have hot dogs the hot dogs I got you for Christmas yes we can have March we can have Christmas hot dogs i got you for christmas yes it is march we can have christmas hot dogs we can have christmas dogs christmas and spring oh that's so exciting so sheer can i tell you something i showed you a picture but while i was waiting for my flight that was supposed to leave so let's

leave at seven it was delayed till 12, and then eventually canceled at 5 p.m. So I did a lot of online shopping because I was so bored at the airport. I came home to no less than 15 boxes and bags of stuff that was just stacked in my house. And I was like, oh my God, I bought a sweatsuit from Nike

in every color way you could imagine. Three different purples, a yellow. I don't wear yellow. A beautiful green. I don't wear green. So I went through it all and I just got to return it. Is it like you just wanted to see what looked best and then you'll return the rest?

You know how sometimes when you go to a restaurant and you're really hungry and you order like three entrees and you're like simply couldn't this was i need more sweatsuits for the airport i'm at the airport all the time just sitting i want to look cute. So I bought a hundred of them. But I, yeah, I don't. Hello. What was I thinking? I'm not, I'm not a highlighter. I'm not highlighting things. Yeah.

Especially because I think your goal at some, at one point was to be less noticeable at the airport. Yes. But then, oh boy, they're an an influencer i believe they're non-binary i think their name is avok or olk do you guys know who i'm talking about um i don't know how to pronounce their name and i don't even know if i'm spelling it right whatever they did a video where they were like i was dressed up walking down the street and people kept asking me where I was going or what I was coming from. And they were like, nothing. I dressed up for me. I am the main character. Life is a party. And I was like, life is a party. Who cares if people talk to me

at the airport when I don't want them to? They're just jealous that they don't have my style. So I wore the loudest outfit to the airport when I was going to new york and no one talked to me that's really funny nary a person talked to me except for one tsa person each way was like damn i like that outfit i was like and then nobody else talked to me and i was devastated. Because I was like, I'm doing it. That's really funny. I mean, yeah. I guess in general, well, I don't know. I was gonna say in general, people don't really talk to each other that much.

But people talk to you particularly a lot. But it's nice to know that sometimes you can just wear something loud and people won't say anything. I was so mad. Because I wore it because I was like, I'm fat. I have bright pink nails. And I sent you the picture of what I was wearing because I was devastated about my suitcase. My leopard print suitcase that I got from Ross 10 years ago, the handle no longer works. And if she photographs well, she's stunning.

She's been with me through thick and thin. I love that suitcase. I think I i'm gonna take her to a suitcase repair person yes you should because here's what happened i got a light a lilac suitcase a lilac away and let's do away with away it was too expensive i was so mad it's hard to grab it out of the overhead bin i don't like a hard shell what are we doing what are we doing you can't shove things in a hard shell it It's hard to grab it out of the overhead bin. I don't like a hard shell. What are we doing? What are we doing? You can't shove things in a hard shell. It's like hard to keep you from like experiencing your maximum stuffage of a suitcase. And I don't want to be caged. Okay.

Let me free. So then I ordered, I found the brand. They have it on Amazon, but they only have like a five piece package. I don't need five pieces of luggage. Okay. I only want one, my carry on. So then Boscov's, remember that? No.

Boscov's was a department store that replaced, I think, ANS on the East Coast. But anyway, I found a leopard print suitcase from Boscov's and then I had it shipped to me. I opened the box. The whole front is different. Same pattern, same design, but different accoutrements. And it's not the same.

And I'm taking it back. I'm so mad. I'm so mad. But I believe you will find the right suitcase. Thank you. Or I believe that this one can get fixed because if it's just the handle that's easy it is it's just the handle she gets stuck and then i was like maybe i'll spray some wd-40 down the hole but then i'm like you can't just be spraying things down holes. That's what they say. You just can't be spraying things down holes. I just love that suitcase.

I know. I think I attach too much worth to stuff. But we have such good memories. Yeah. And she's beautiful. I like stuff. That's mainly why I'm going home. Because I want to be around my stuff.

Yeah. I just miss my things. God, I love stuff. It's nice to be around your things. You know what I mean? Yeah. Yeah. Like, I like being in other places.

But, yeah, being in your own bed is so nice. Oh, my God. I climbed in my bed the other night and I said, well, this is it. This is the ticket. And I slept so good. I've been sleeping with an eye mask. So like when I wake up in the middle of the night, it's dark. So I just go right back to sleep.

And now I'm having trouble sleeping without an eye mask. Interesting. Well, why did you stop sleeping without an eye mask. Interesting. Well, why did you stop sleeping without an eye mask? I started getting some acne, and I don't have enough eye masks to like, I guess I could just wash them more. But I'm like, who's trying to do laundry that often? And then I was like, well, how many days should I be wearing it? Maybe it's only two days. I don't know.

So I was like, maybe I just alternate days. Like if I'm having trouble sleeping, pop on the just alternate days like if it's if i'm having trouble sleeping pop on the eye mask but if i it's an early night and i could just do it just do it or you buy seven eye masks lord jesus what do you think i am a rockefeller these eye masks that i like are very expensive they're like fifty dollars a pop wait Wait, I'm sorry. What is going on with the eye masks? Are they cashmere?

What's going on? They're like satin. So like they're supposed to like not give you acne. And I think, I don't remember the brand, but they're at Sephora. And there's like a little divot for your eyeball. So your eyeball isn't pressed up against fabric. They're really nice.

Elegant, opulent, and luxurious. and yet they're still giving you acne hmm you know so maybe maybe they're not as maybe you don't have to spend 50 on it if it's not it's not doing the main thing a little bit of money that just makes it a little bit of money and see what happens yeah smart it's like the main draw was the no acne, and here we are. Still getting acne. Yeah. Thank you. No, no, yeah, no problem.

Yeah, okay. Yeah. Sometimes more expensive things aren't better. This is true. This is true. Yeah. I wanted to get a vintage Bronco, i they're too expensive for me right now um because you know my house is made out of cotton candy and it's leaking and it won't stop raining here and i don't know why i don't know why the good lord said bitch you love water i'll

bring it to you um so i'm gonna wait on that that. But then I was like, I could lease a new Bronco. That'll be like a fraction of the cost of the old Bronco. But I love the old Bronco so much. But then I was like, well, maybe, you know, it's more expensive. Maybe it's not even worth it. Maybe you should just get the new one. Unless it's this year. I don't know.

I don't know. But the lease on my Jeep is up in June. Oh. March, April, May, June. Three months march april may june three months gotta make a choice yeah make a choice that's exciting though i know my neighbors across the street have one and i have half a mind to knock on that door and say can i see the inside of that but also i can just go to a dealership yeah but also you'll get like a first-hand account when i was looking for when i was thinking about subarus uh i was still in new york and or i was visiting new york i don't know but i remember there was like a ton of subarus in brooklyn and anytime i saw someone

going in i was like hey do you like your subaru and they would talk to me for 15 minutes about how much they love their subaru they're like oh my god this is the one and only one i've had i've had it for 74 years it really lasts it can go up any terrain i love the super and when i get another car i'm getting another super i was like okay yeah so subaru owners love their supes I mean it's a great car it drives really well and it can handle a lot of stuff yeah I mean my jeep handles nothing well I was driving in the rain I was like oh my god which is really surprising I know someone else who had a jeep that like they brought it from New York to LA and they couldn't handle hills. And I was like, what?

I was going up a hill today in the rain. I was like. But they make it seem like it's like an outdoorsy kind of thing. It is. I think you just have to get like the all terrain tires and all that other bullshit that is like optional that I was like, simply couldn't be bothered. I'm driving this for looks.

I'm talking about function, I'm trying to be cute. Yeah, and the only off-roading I do is curbs. I run over so many curbs for fun. I run over so many curbs for fun. I started watching Swarm. Oh, I didn't know it was out yet. It is. It looks good.

It's wild. I gotta say, I think it's good. I think I'm having fun. I also think I'm scared. It seems scary. It seems really scary. It's pretty scary. And the lighting?

Oof, pretty dark. It's made by the same people who made Atlanta, right? I think so. Yeah. It's Donald Glover. His brother directed an episode, I think. Oh, nice. Malia Obama was in the room.

Oh. Isn't that funny that that's the show? Do you remember years ago they were like, Malia Obama's a staff writer on a show? It's this one. Oh, that's so funny. I do remember this. Mm-hmm.

Mm-hmm. And I wonder if she's staffed on anything else. I wonder. I wonder. What is she up to? Hey, Malia, if you're listening right now can you send us an email to sashira nicole at gmail.com or nicole and sashira gmail.com don't remember which one it is um and let us know if you're currently staffed or looking to get staffed i can't help you with

the latter just curious right you made that sound like you were gonna give her a job but you didn't have one no i don't have a job to give. Just want to know where you are in life. Oh, do you see all these boxes behind me? These are all my returns. Oh, yeah, I bought rugs, too. Are you returning the rugs? Well, one rug is great.

It's got flamingos on it, and I love it. And I put that in the kitchen to stand on when I wash dishes occasionally. And I bought this other one to go upstairs and it's just so boring. Dang. I don't know why I bought this boring rug, but it's going back to ruggable.com. I do like ruggable. They have some good looking rugs. They do, but I don't like the little pad underneath that they're like, this pad is revolutionary. Your rug will never move. The rug moves all the time.

The rug moves all the time. So I don't know what the fuck ruggable is talking about. But if we ever do ads for them, I love ruggable and I have two ruggable rugs. I don't want a ruggable heads to come after me um what else did i buy i bought a long denim skirt that a friend of mine said looks like a school teacher so i'm taking it back um i bought four pairs of boots i barely wear boots but one are thigh high patent leather block heeled boots that i cannot wait to wear they're ugly as sin i can't wait they're nasty as fuck i can't wait to wear some tights and a little short skirt and be like do you like it i'm sure you don't i forgot what store i was in but i was with a friend and we saw something that was like kind of wild and they were like

oh nicole would love that and and then they were like she's probably the only person that will wear something as a joke but like unironically. Like, you'll get it because it's funny, but you will really wear it. Uh-huh. I went to dinner and I wore these giant purple Palazzo pants that I think are really dumb and I love them. And then I wore this purple sweater that has a giant cowl neck that comes over your shoulders,

and then gold drippy beads and then my coach bag with eyeballs and i like went to dinner and everyone stared at me because i went to the soho house where everyone has like many and not fun style and like i sat down everyone just stared at me and finally gracie was like, this sweater! I was like, I know, it's fabulous! I do love ugly things. I just love unique, weird, ugly shit. Yeah.

I love that. Thank you. It brings me such joy. Yeah. I do miss thrifting and finding weird stuff. We did thrift last time you were here, but it wasn't, like, fun stuff. The thrifting out finding weird stuff we did thrift last night you're here but it wasn't like fun stuff the thrifting out by you is no bueno no bueno no no but i did when i was in atlanta proper go to the clothing warehouse oh that's i think i might have talked about it on here

you found like a bunch of sweatshirts so many and then i was on d-pop and d-bop d-pop do we know what that's called d-pop d-bop i think d-bop d-bop d-bop d-bop let's say it a hundred more times. This episode is sponsored by Bebop Bebop Bebop. But I went on there and I started looking at sweatshirts. And now the algorithm is like, oh, you like dumb sweatshirts. So I bought a bunch of dumb sweatshirts with ducks on them. Oh, good.

And this sweatshirt, it's like a lilac, one of my favorite colors, except not in suitcase, but in shirt. Yay. And it's got cows on it and ducks. And it says heifer farms or something or heifer parade or something. I love it. A fat woman wearing the word heifer. I'm reclaiming my time. I'm reclaiming my time.

I like that. Reclaim the term. Thank you. Thank you. I'm excited to wear it. I called that. Reclaim the term. Thank you. Thank you. I'm excited to wear it. I called it, I was maybe in elementary school, and I watched Rocco's Modern Life.

Do you remember that show? I wasn't allowed to watch it. You didn't have cable. Yeah. Yeah, that's what it was. Was it on cable? Yeah, it was on Nickelodeon. Yeah, okay. Then I was excluded.

Okay. Well, there was a show called Back Goes Modern Life. And he had a friend who was a steer cow. And his name was Heifer. And I remember, I don't know why,

but I called some fellow student did something that reminded me of Heifer. And I said, like, you're such a Heifer. And then the teacher was like, you can't call people that. And I was like, uh, I was, I didn't know how to explain. It's like, it's like the character. And she's like, that is rude. And I was like, I, uh, what do you think is happening, lady? I don don't i'm just calling her the character from the during the nickelodeon show oh no what a what a funny misunderstanding that is so funny and then it's funny that the teacher wasn't like a heifer is a cow

so when you call someone a cow that's insinuating something maybe unkind. Which I guess maybe is what she was trying to explain. Like we were calling this person a cow. Which I was still like, why is that bad? Because I wasn't thinking like cow equals like fat or anything. I was like, I love that character. Cows are great. We're not those friends with a cow. Cows are great. Cows are great. We're not just friends with a cow.

Cows are great. Cows are great. That's the animal. Anytime people were like, what animal would you want to be? I would want to be a cow because they just stand there and eat all day. They do just stand there and eat all day. They have multiple stomachs, just keep feeding themselves and they just, they're just chilling.

I didn't know they had multiple stomachs. Come on, queen. I'm pretty sure. Yeah, I'm pretty sure they have multiple stomachs and they kind of like regurgitate their food back into their mouths. Quite nasty, but. And they're like, yum, yum, yum, let me get it a second time.

Yeah, I mean, it's pretty you, it's pretty you. I don't have to go nowhere to eat. Great. I wonder how the cows feel. Oh, ruminant stomachs? They have ruminant stomachs. Ruminant stomachs have four compartments. The rumen, the reticulum, the omassum, and the abomasum.

Wow. Imagine being a cow with such complicated body parts. It's such an easy name for the animal. Then they're like, everything in it is going to be very difficult for you to sound out. Like, oh, my rubomasum is acting up. What's going on, Daisy? Daisy the cow? My Ruba Mata buff.

Ooh, a cow. Well, I mean, I want to be a flamingo. I would love to be, like, colorful. Like, pink. But I don't think we could be friends if I'm a flamingo. So I guess I'll just be a mallard duck because they're pretty colorful. Yeah. Like pink. But I don't think we could be friends if I'm a flamingo. So I guess I'll just be a mallard duck, because they're pretty colorful. Yeah.

Yeah, we wouldn't be in the same geographical location if we were a cow and a flamingo. No, and I don't really want to live in Florida. Seems nasty. No offense if you live in Florida, but Trey's not for me. Is that the only place that flamingos live? I don't know. What do you think, they live in Montana?

They definitely don't live in Montana. But I was thinking about, like, different countries. Yeah, they probably do live in tropical places. Like an island of sorts. Okay. Ooh, the Caribbean. Okay. The coast of South America.

They like salt or brackish water. What is brackish water? Sounds dirty. Brackish. I don't know yeah some brack water water occurring in the natural environment that has more salinity than freshwater but not as much as seawater so it's like a little salty okay okay so they like a little salt and a lot of salt. Mm-hmm. All right, maybe I'll just be a flamingo.

Wait, cows live everywhere. You could be a Caribbean cow. I could be a Caribbean cow. Wow, and then we'll be friends. Thank goodness. I'm glad we figured that out. Let's see. Oh, Jordan found a bunch of pictures of cows and flamingos being friends.

I like that. That's nice. I think my next tattoo I want it to be of a cow. I guess, yeah. That's fun. Right? To add to my little menagerie of animals on my back. Yeah. Or you can get like cow print. I like when people have

animal print on their body as a tattoo. Like leopard print or tiger stripes. Oh. But I guess if you got cow print, that might be hard because it might be like,

is it a... Is it blobs? Yeah, is it blobs? Is it a Rorschach test? Is it... What am I looking at here? What is this? What's going on?

What's happening here? Ooh, maybe I'll get leopard print. Oh, my God. I thought about getting a Clyde tattoo, and I was like, that's too crazy. That's too crazy to tattoo my living dog onto me. People love their dogs dogs i do love him oh that's i was like a stripper heel jordan pulled up um pictures of cow print tattoos

those are fun they are fun yeah um you could like would if would you If you did get a tattoo of Clyde, would it be the name or the face or the whole body? I think it would be his whole little body to go with my menagerie of animals. Yes. Well, I think that'd be appropriate. Clyde is an actual animal that you love. I do love him so much. His breath is so bad. I can't state this enough.

I brushed his teeth yesterday, and then he climbed into bed, and then he, like, plopped down right next to me and looked at me. It was like, ugh. And I was like, ugh. So gross. Ugh. But I do love him. He's a cutie. He's behind me. He's hiding behind the chair, and you can I do love him. He's a cutie.

He's behind me. He's hiding behind the chair and you can't even see him. It was supposed to be a cute little reveal. I saw a little bit. I saw a little bit. I truly can't believe it. I'm so embarrassed. Oh, my God.

Oh, my God. I went roller skating yesterday. That's nice. Yeah. Where? At a rink or like outside? Outside. And I haven't roller skated in a while. And there's like these, I'm in like a golf cart community.

So there's all these little paths and they're very smooth but there are like big old like seeds from trees on the ground so that's not great and i was going down a hill and it was i was going too fast and i couldn't stop myself. So I veered into the mud and then fell on my knees. Oh, no. It wasn't like it didn't hurt at all. And I didn't get that messy, but it was embarrassing. I was like, and then a golf cart passed by. I mean, this old woman was like, you can do it.

And I was like, shut up, lady. Leave me alone you don't say that after someone falls down because what do you want them to do fall again yeah leave me alone just ignore it that is very funny and i'm so sorry that happened to you i was like i wish no one saw it at all why were you on a hill because there just were hills but then later then like i was just haven't been on skates in a while so once i started getting it back into my muscle memory then i was like oh i know how to slow down and i started like carving going like side to side hills, and that was slowing me down. But, you know, first time down,

I was like, how do I stop? Oh, no. I haven't been on roller skates in forever. I think I want to, like, go to a rink. But I don't want to go on, like, a busy night where, like, everyone's there and they're scary and like going backwards and like doing tricks and zooming past you and don't care about you i wonder when this window rings open i wonder if there's like a morning elderly

like time to elderly you know how like at elderly i think i'm younger than you i think well i'm not calling you elderly i'm just saying you were no i'm saying like that's the safe time to go like okay you know during the pandemic when it was like from these hours it you know only elderly people can go grocery shopping yes like that for the roller rink young whippersnappers can't get in your way although i have seen videos of older people tearing up on roller skates killing it i wonder yeah maybe i'll look that up to see if there's old old time skate time um also why didn't we keep that for the old people to let them shop in peace? Yeah, that should also just stay. Right? They get 6am to 9am or whatever.

Yeah. I was reading somewhere, maybe Sweden, they have like an Alzheimer community full of like old people where like... Oh, I think I saw that too. They have like a shopping, like you go shopping, but, the people who work there talk to them because they can't remember, they think they might know them or something. I don't know. I read some, you know, reading comprehension is not my strong suit. I really haven't explained anything from the article except for Alzheimer's, grocery store, talking.

And that's all I got from it. Do you know what I'm talking about? I think I do. And I feel like they also maybe painted their door, like, of their home to match whatever door they grew up with or something like that. That's really nice. Yeah. So it's like it feels actually familiar to them. That feels so compassionate.

I wish we did more shit like that here. I wish we had more compassion. That'd be nice. wouldn't that be nice jordan's raising her hand i call on you jordan oh thank you very much i was wanted to share so the moonlight rollerway in glendale on saturday they have like beginner classes i think it's like for 16 under 9 15 on morning skate 10 a.m to noon and then all level classes 12 45 to 1 30 so like they do have some earlier times yeah you could do a morning skate yeah okay yeah this is one place though ever wake up to do a morning i almost missed brunch today because I was sleeping. Right.

Right, right, right. I love sleeping. Mm-hmm. I really wish there was an option to live at night and sleep during the day. I mean, it's an option as in, like, you can just do that if you want to. Yeah, but, like, I have to work, you know, and answer emails and shit. And people call you during the day. You got to answer that shit.

Yeah, this is true it's upsetting give me your emails you could schedule your emails to go off during the day but write them at night yeah i'd have to figure out how to do that there's so much to figure out in this world. In this world of ours. It's crazy. It's crazy. Should we do a quiz? That's exactly what I was going to say. Oh, my God. We're on the same page.

I'm in a real singy mood, and I think it's because I watched the Sex and the City movie on the plane ride back here, and Jennifer Hudson is in it and she sings like the closing song, the finale. I don't know the song at the end. It's just like been in my head. I have no idea how it goes, but like I've just been singing.

That's fun. I think so. I just love song. I wish I could sing. You were taking lessons for a minute. I was, and then I got too busy. All right. What two things are you and your best friend? Find out what you and your bestie are.

Which food combo best represents you and your best friend? Bacon and eggs. Wine and cheese. Chips and guac. Peanut butter and jelly. Wine and cheese. Chips and guac. Peanut butter and jelly. Oh, wow. I think I'm going to say chips and guac. Who's who?

I'm guac, you're chips. I think. Yeah, yeah. I mean, that's great. I don't think there's any wrong answers. Are you sure? There might be. There's nowhere to check this.

I would say peanut butter and jelly. Okay. Because those two things are very different, but they complement each other really well. Oh, I love that. Who's peanut butter and who's jelly? You're jelly, I'm peanut butter. Yeah, I think that. Who's peanut butter and who's jelly? You're jelly, I'm peanut butter. Yeah, I think so. Which color combo best represents you and your best friend?

Black and white. Seafoam green and periwinkle. Red and blue. Banana and mango. I'm going to say red and blue. I'm going to say banana and mango. Ooh. If you're in trouble, can you count on your best friend yes depends oh my god no no that's too wild I'm gonna say yes I'm gonna say yes okay which animal friends are like you and your best friend?

A little chicken and a little bunny. A cat and a meerkat. A cat and a puppy. A horse and a dog. I'm going to say the meerkat and the cat. I'm also going to agree. Which one's which? I think you're the cat and I'm the going to agree. Which one's which? I think you're the cat and I'm the meerkat.

That's also what I was thinking. Like I'm 100% a cat and you're just like poking around. See what's going on. What's going on? Which of the following would your best friend want most chocolate pizza wine a puppy um i think you would want pizza the most 100 um i think you would want ooh if it's i'm gonna say wine yes that was good because i don't think you want a random puppy no i sure don't i don't want a puppy at all because you have to like train them on how to shit outside mine already knows how to shit outside

perfect which duo is most like you and your best friend uh two old ladies old-time ladies with like riding crops yeah two this is wild what is this um two people in a ski mask one is in camo and one is in a bikini and they have a semi-automatic yes i forgot about that i don't know how you forget about that yeah and they have a fucking rifle and they're aiming it they're both aiming it and then this one is a picture of two school girls playing music and one has a saxophone in the air the other one's playing a guitar behind her which one do you think i i actually think we're the band and you're the one with the saxophone in the air not even playing the saxophone just like presenting presenting look what i have and i'm back, like, actually trying to play the song.

I would say that, too, but I'm going to say the eggs. I like the eggs. Yeah, because I'm the egg with the lashes, because I love fake lashes, and you're the one without lashes. That makes sense. This is Nicole. Okay, so we're a sea otter and a block of cheese. BuzzFeed, your days are numbered.

You and your best friend are a sea otter and a block of cheese. People are jealous of your friendship because it's so awesome. A huge percentage of people love cheese and also sea otters. You two are just so likable. Numbered. How random. Okay, and what's mine a baby kangaroo and a beer can you and your best friend are a baby kangaroo and a beer can you two clearly know how to have fun when people see you they know good times are guaranteed okay okay sure sure we can be that yeah buzzfeed

go ahead with your bad self buzzfeed is wild that was such a random quiz Well, let's answer the queries of the world. Who are we gonna help today? Will it be a fun friend or an enemy? When I was in New York, I was outside this restaurant and there was a couple people outside and they were like, oh my God, you look so familiar. And I was trying to take a picture with Christy and I was going to tell them who I was

right after we took the picture. And then one of them was like, you know who you are? You're Michelle Buteau. And I was like, oh my God. And one of them was like, like oh is that a bad thing and i was like no she's just a thousand shades lighter than me um and his big curly hair and big old honking titties it's very confusing yeah i don't me personally i don't think we resemble each other but i've been mistaken for her often, and she, me.

That's so strange. Yeah, it's not even like, definitely not an insult. It's just, is a different person. Yeah. Completely. Yeah. It's like mistaking Selena Gomez for Demi Lovato. Yeah, but even, I don't know.

Okay. yeah but even i don't know okay uh mistakening um uh beyonce and grace jones okay there we go yeah i got there i did it i did it okay let's help this person hi nicole and this year my is a name. I'm a huge fan of your podcast. I listened to all the episodes in the span of two weeks. Oh, my goodness. I have a friend that I've known for a while. Let's call him John. We would always hang out whenever we could.

But now we got into a new high school. Go Knights. And we would be together for every class for like two weeks. But he found another friend. And don't get me wrong two weeks. But he found another friend. And don't get me wrong. I am happy he has another friend. But he isn't really putting the effort into hanging out with me anymore. And I don't want to lose my other friend because he is amazing.

And I have trouble making friends. And I also need him for my mental health. And I really need your help on what to do. High school. What a fun time where nothing goes wrong and everything's beautiful and everything's easy. I feel like in high school, friends do kind of come and go.

They kind of flow in and out. And I mean, me personally, I had like a core group of friends from like middle school and then in high school like i started doing the plays and stuff and track and field so then i just had a bunch of different friends in different places so maybe the answer to this is to join an activity because i just learned groups are for like-minded individuals who like the same thing so that's how you get friends yes i love that you just learned that i had no idea why there was groups in high school literally no idea up until this year i was like why is everyone going to spanish

society it's because they all want to learn spanish no clue yeah yeah you definitely don't want to rely so much on one person because things could happen even if that person finds a new friend their family could move they like many things could happen and you don't want to be like, oh, if this person leaves, I have no one. Also, it may not be good to like place your mental health on somebody else either. Because I said something like, you know, for my mental health, I need this person. If someone is helping you with your mental health because of their presence,

because they're good at counseling you, because they're good at advice, that's awesome. But it's kind of tricky territory to make your friend responsible for your mental health. That's what mental health professionals are for. If you are in a place where you feel like you need that so yeah i think if you want to have this friend as your friend that's awesome but don't i hope you don't feel like you need this person to be your friend because then that actually puts too much responsibility on your friend and then they may feel a lot of pressure in the relationship where it's not feeling like a fun friendship.

It's now feeling like a responsibility to take care of you. Does that make sense? I think so. Yeah. So, yeah, I would say, you know, appreciate that you have this friend and this friend is allowed to make other friends. And, you know, maybe that other friend that your friend may could be your friend, too. Mm hmm. this friend is allowed to make other friends and you know maybe that other friend that your friend may could be your friend too um but yeah in the meantime also make other friends too that have the same interest as you yeah and don't be afraid to ask to hang out with them yeah like there's nothing wrong with being like hey do you guys mind if i come

and then if you feel some vibes you know read, read the room. But if there's no bad vibes, skip on over, baby. Skip on over. Solved. Yeah. Let's do another one. Hi, Nicole and Sashir. I just want to start by saying that I love your podcast. Your friendship and giggles is so wholesome, and I love it and the both of you. You can give me a made-up name if you like, and my pronouns are she slash they. So, on to the best friend drama. My best friend and I have been besties since middle school, and at this point, she is practically family. As of lately, she has been struggling with her mental health and other personal issues, which has led her to missing my move into my first solo apartment, and she missed my birthday celebration. Although she didn't miss celebrating with me on my actual birthday,

she did miss the later celebration. I am a very understanding person, and I don't expect much from people, but these two events were very important to me, and I felt deeply hurt by her absence. still fully aware that she didn't do it on purpose we hung out lately and she broke down crying saying that she has let people down because of her mental health and in the moment I lied to her and said that she didn't I didn't have it in me nor did I feel did it feel appropriate of a time to be like yeah bitch you fucking up but I also don't like the fact that I lied. I have wanted to tell her that her not being there for these big events were hurtful,

but I've always struggled with finding it necessary to bring it up in the first place. I don't want to deny myself of expressing my feelings because she's in a delicate state, but it also seems like it wouldn't really solve anything. It certainly won't put her mental health in a better place. If anything, it can make it worse. I guess my two questions would be, have y'all been in a situation like this? And if so, how did you resolve it? Do you think I should still tell her about my feelings? What and how should I say it? Thanks for your help. I don't think I've been, I've been in that situation before where someone's mental health was like hindering things.

And I've talked to them about it. I've said, uh, you not showing up to things is kind of like hurtful. Um, and, uh, like, I just want to, I kind of like hurtful um and uh like i just want to i want to like have a better line of communication so like if you're not feeling the best i'd really appreciate it if you let me know

um so then i can just anticipate not seeing you at something um or if you're not feeling good and we're supposed to hang out, letting me know earlier than like last minute. And I think a good way with this is I don't think you should bring it up a pro of nothing. Is that a word? A pro? A pro? Apropos of nothing. Deep pop.

Beep, beep, bop, bop, beep. Deep bop, bop, bop, bop. I think you have to wait for your friend to maybe say again, oh, I feel like I'm fucking it up. And being like, I don't think you're fucking it up, but it does sometimes hurt when you don't make it to things. So if you don't mind, maybe if you feel comfortable enough opening up to me more about what's going on,

maybe that would alleviate some of your things. But also you don't want to be like a person like a bucket that they're just trauma dumping into um so it is kind of like a delicate balance but i do think it's okay to tell someone who's struggling with mental illness that they are disappointing you because you're a person too you know yeah i think there's a way to phrase it that's like instead of like you hurt me or you did this it's like i would have really loved it if you were at my birthday celebration or like i i would love feeling your support for these things and i didn't get that during this time um maybe also including like i didn't get your support at this time is there anything i can do to help you out a little totally and just to be like i understand that it's not a malicious thing where it's like i'm not coming because fuck you it's like, I'm not coming because fuck you. It's like, I understand that you're having issues,

but what can we do to make this better for us? And if it is like a social anxiety thing where like there was a lot of people at your move-in or there was a lot of people at your birthday celebration, then maybe you do transition to doing things with fewer people and having a separate thing for your friend. I think that's a kind thing. Because social anxiety is like, it's a thing,

and it's getting, I think a lot of people who have it, it seems to be getting worse because we were around people, but not around people. Now we're back around people and life is wild right now. So yeah, I think talking is good. Yeah. I also have a really close friend who deals with depression and she'll go away for a while.

Like she'll just like go away for weeks. And maybe if we were like best friends, that would be like hard to navigate. But I do still feel the love. Like I do still know she loves me. And then when she comes back, she's like, sorry, I like went into a hole or she'll say as it's happening like i'm i just need some space to like be alone or like you know figure some stuff out and i'm like okay let me know if you need anything and then i and then she comes back if i was worried that she wasn't going to come back then i would have to like reach out and see what's going on yeah yeah i think the

biggest thing here is it's not personal and it's not actually about you even though it's something that is happening to you it's not about you and i think that is such a hard thing because like we're all our main characters in our story but she's the or your friend is also the main character of their story and they're dealing with shit um but yeah i think come on akash yeah and also you don't have to like feel bad for lying sometimes lies are helpful like not like huge lies or things that will like you know affect people's lives or livelihood but if it's like a little lie to be like, just to make sure this person doesn't feel even worse in the moment.

Yeah. Like you're out with your friend and they're wearing the most disgusting shirt you've ever seen with half a nipple sticking out and they go, does this shirt look good? You go, yes. Because what other shirt is your friend going to put on? They don't have a shirt.

You're already out. You're out of the house. They don't got it. There's no Target near. It's closed. You at the club. That's a lie that is okay. It's okay.

It's okay. We have to accept that this is the shirt and we like it. We love it. Girl, you've never looked better. I don't see it for me, but for you, this is it. you're gonna spend the whole night being like oh yeah oh my god hide in the bathroom with me no bitch we at the club

take that nipple out to the bar and get us a drink yeah solved solved and we have one more and hopefully it should be funny oh oh jordan if it's not funny i'm coming for you oh i need i just need me i'll read it so you can laugh I just need Nicole to see this lasagna day ensemble and the designer has some pretty cool chairs that she reupholstered too that's a shoe I'd like to see

okay wait a minute oh I'm gonna cry I like need this is this something I can buy? this is Nadia Indy Studio. Lasagna Day should be a national holiday, if you ask me.

Ask me too. There's like, it's kind of like a beret with a lasagna on top. And then a fork. And then sunglasses that are heart-shaped that say Lasagna Day with lasagnas on either side.

How do I get one? Do they have a shop? Can you go to their page? Okay, there's a dot com. Oh, there's head pieces. These are fun. These are very fun. These are fun.

Donuts! I do like the donuts, but you know I'm wanting that lasagna. And it's not there, which is kind of depressing. But you probably can reach out to them. We'll make sure you have everything. Okay, thank you. Because I would like to really wear that on my birthday and go get lasagna. 100%.

I remember John Milhiser one year made me a birthday lasagna and I screamed and I cried and there's a video of me going it's my lasagna and I've never been happier every Friday is lasagna Friday and I get to eat lasagna friday it is really nice oh boy okay

i'm like literally misty-eyed at the memory of this last friday's lasagna on you so good so good there was a i won't get into it listen we have an email so you can write stuff to us nicole gmail.com also if you want to leave a voicemail voicemail or text 424-645-7003 it was so good we also have merch at podswag.com slash best friends. Lastly, don't forget to rate, review, and subscribe. That is the easiest way to support this show. Maybe we can get lasagna when I'm back in town. Oh my god, I would love

that. I would love to go in person and get me some lasagna. Because it's so funny. Lindsay has to go get it and she has to sit at the bar and wait for them to serve it. And then she's like, can you pack it up? Because they just won't let. Lindsay has to go get it and she has to sit at the bar and wait for them to serve it and then she's like, can you pack it up? Because they just won't let her

order it to go. I don't know why they're gatekeeping my lasagna! Yeah, let's go have an in-person experience. Okay. See you later, Fred. See you later, Fred.