Best Friends with Nicole Byer and Sasheer Zamata - Sasheer Snap Crackle Pops
Episode Date: September 2, 2026Nicole and Sasheer reunite and chat about what they’d ask world leaders, the concept of a Parents Day Out, Vin Diesel aging like fine vino, going to the water park and singing karaoke.Watch... this full video on YouTube and follow below!Follow Nicole: Twitter, Instagram, TikTokFollow Sasheer: Instagram, TikTokLike the show? Rate Best Friends 5 stars on Spotify and Apple Podcasts!Have a friendship question for Nicole and Sasheer to solve? Leave us a voicemail at (323) 238-6554 or write in at nicoleandsasheer@gmail.com.Best Friends is a production of Headgum Studios. Our producer is Allie Kahan. Our executive producer is Anya Kanevskaya. The show is edited, mixed, and engineered by Richelle Chen.This is a Headgum podcast. Follow Headgum on Twitter, Instagram, and Tiktok. Advertise on Best Friends via Gumball.fm.See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.
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Okay.
This Alani drink is so good.
It looks fun.
Right?
They're fun.
Yeah.
They're very maximalist can.
Yeah, you like that.
Yes.
A cheerleader died because she drank too many.
Is that true?
Uh-huh.
I guess I shouldn't have said that with a smile.
Well, it's not an ad, so it doesn't matter.
It's just the truth.
Yeah, I don't remember how many she was drinking a day,
and they have, like, 200 milligrams of caffeine.
Ooh.
But yeah, if I drink one.
That's smart, yeah.
My mom told me when I was in high school and I was like doing all the sports,
she was like, there was a girl who died and she was on the soccer team and she drank Coke every day after soccer practice.
I don't know if the timing mattered.
But I guess she was doing that to encourage me to not drink soda, which I really didn't for a long time.
And you still kind of don't.
Yeah, so kind of don't.
Like sometimes ginger ale.
Wow.
Yeah.
Your mom rocked your ass.
Oh, for many things.
Like coffee.
She was like, coffee stains your teeth.
It stunts your growth.
Maybe that was it.
And I was like, all right, I'm never drinking coffee.
And I really have not.
Wow.
That's so interesting because I feel like, I don't, I mean, I don't remember any specifics that my mother was like, don't do this.
But I was like, I'm going to.
I'm going to do it all the time.
No, I was a rule follower.
I loved breaking rule.
Yeah.
I loved it.
My two best friends from high school John and Nick were just here.
And before they left, we were looking at a photo album of like pictures I had taken.
We were high in all of them.
I broke all the rules.
Just like, just stony baloney.
Yeah. Not me.
Mm-mm.
Why do you think?
Um, hmm.
I really was afraid of my mom.
And I guess also afraid of sinning.
I grew up in the church.
Yeah.
And like, I don't know, being obedient was a really big thing.
I hit the microphone, sorry.
As you were like, being obedient.
Yeah.
Breaking rules again.
Yeah.
And I don't think I really had a strong desire to break any rules.
are like be a little baddie.
That was perfectly fine being good.
Interesting.
Yeah.
I wonder what that's like.
I really do, because anytime I walk into a store, I'm like,
I could take so much.
And then I do.
And then I feel so good when I'm leaving.
I just took mascara from CVS and I loved it.
That's really.
I was like, I'm going to take it.
It's a little treat for me.
Mm-hmm.
Mm-hmm.
I just, but I want to know why you want to be good.
Something I want to be good.
It's just I don't care to be bad.
Oh, interesting.
Yeah, I don't think I get a thrill.
Actually, I think I get anxiety for if I, like, do something sneaky or, I don't know, cheat or whatever.
Like, I, yeah, I'm getting punished by myself.
Ah, okay.
My own brain's punishing me.
I was playing Uno with the nice man.
Mm-hmm.
I tried cheating.
How do you cheat in Una?
So many ways.
Oh.
Well, people aren't like up to date with the rules.
You can just make up rules.
Oh, that's funny.
But I wasn't doing that.
He had put down a nine,
and I very quickly tried to put down a six to change the color.
And you know how it's got the little thing underneath,
so you know what the number is?
And he was like, hey, no, no, no, that was a nine.
I was like, it was.
Also, like, as if he can't slide the card over and be like,
It's there.
That's really funny.
Yeah.
I just, I kept losing.
Oh, sorry.
And then at one point I kept saying,
this is not how I wanted it to go.
Sometimes I'm a very sore loser.
Yeah.
And sometimes I don't give a fuck.
But in that moment,
because Uno's my game.
It was your game.
I fucking love Uno.
I have giant Uno cards.
You do really big Uno cards.
They're so big.
Yeah.
They're as big as my foot, I would say.
I think bigger, actually.
actually.
Maybe.
They looked pretty, they're pretty sizable.
Yeah.
And I love them.
And he was just killing me.
Oh.
At my game.
And then at one point I was like, can I please just win?
He was like, I'm not going to let you win.
Does that how that works?
But why?
And then he was like, because it's just like, that's not the fun of a game.
And I was like, but I'm asking for it.
That isn't fun.
Do you really want to like beg to win?
Well, then I won.
And then I was like, did you let me win?
Sounds like he can't win.
No, sometimes he can't.
And it sucks.
Because I don't know how to rewire my brain differently to not do things like that.
But you're aware that it's happening.
No, not as I'm doing it.
Oh, interesting.
It's only if he goes, you said, I want you to let me win.
And then you won.
And then you were mad because you thought, I let you win.
So then I go, oh, sorry.
I don't know.
I got to sit down for a second.
I got figure this out.
I like put myself in time out a lot.
Got to figure out why I did this.
Why did I do that?
Why am I being so insufferable right now?
But also, like, great that you're, like, open enough to accept the feedback.
Instead of being, like, I didn't do that.
Or, like, well, deal with it.
Well, it's one of those things where, like, I don't, sometimes I don't realize what's coming
on my mouth.
And then when someone repeats it back to me, I go, oh, that was crazy.
Or that didn't make any sense.
Yeah.
And then when he says it, I'm like, no, no, that is how it happened.
It didn't feel like it in my brain, but that is exactly what happened.
Okay, timeout.
Time out for me.
I think more adults should take timeouts.
Yeah.
I mean, I don't think we'd have road rage, people with baseball bats in their car.
Take a timeout before you put a baseball bat in your car.
That's a good point.
Just like stare at a corner.
Yeah.
Take a breather.
Yeah.
It really is like, I feel like time out was intended to be a punishment because I guess it separates you from your friends and family.
But also it is a little bit of like self-regulation where you have to be like, I have nothing to stimulate me at all.
I have to stare at a wall and just be with my thoughts.
Yeah.
And maybe eventually my thoughts will slow down a bit and I can breathe.
Yeah.
That happens.
Sometimes I go take a shower to just like stop time a little bit.
Yeah.
And I can like think and kind of.
and then like self-regulate?
Yeah, we should all be doing that.
Back to baseball bats in the car.
Yeah.
That's so crazy to me.
It sucks.
Because before you go for a drive, you're like, better suit up.
What if somebody makes me mad?
Yeah.
Yeah, you're going out with the intention of maybe using it.
Yes.
That's crazy.
Isn't that wild as hell?
I don't like that.
I don't like it either.
I mean, we shouldn't be like more surveilled,
but you should be a sensor in the car.
that's like, hey, is this for baseball practice?
Or do you...
Where's your mitt?
You don't seem to have a mitt.
What's the intention of this?
What are you going to be doing?
Yeah, I don't think we should be surveillance, but, like, I don't think people should be able to, like, drive around baseball bats.
No.
That's wild.
Okay, I just heard about flock cameras.
Do you know what those are?
Mm-mm.
They're cameras.
I think I got that part.
They're big cameras.
Yeah.
And they look at the people.
They're like surveillance cameras.
Yeah.
And they're powered by the sun.
We've got to take the sun out.
Stop it.
I'm dying.
Instead of like removing the cameras, you're like, all right, so how do we wrap up this sunship?
I don't want to be watched.
I don't want to be watched.
I mean, we're already watched everywhere.
Why?
I don't actually know.
Like, I'm deeply, no.
I'm having fun all the time.
But like, is my FBI agent parisotcially having fun with me?
Like, who's watching me?
I mean, I think it's like, I mean, I don't actually know.
I feel like in movies they use like security cameras and stuff to like find criminals and stuff like that.
But then I feel like that can be dangerous because then like who's defining who's the criminal.
Like you might just be looking for certain types of people to round them up.
and then that's dangerous.
Yeah.
Yeah.
I'm like, okay, here's the thing.
I want to host 60 minutes.
And I want to sit down with world leaders and be like, why you do this?
Why?
Why?
Why?
Why are you watching the people?
Why is E. coli and all the food?
What's the end go?
But they're not going to answer.
Why not?
Because that's like, they're, they're,
job is dodging answers or touching questions. Well, but I'm good. I'll be like word salad. I didn't
get it. Answer my questions. You think that's going to work, just pointing harder at them?
Why? Because I was just like, you're not like the first person to ask these questions.
It's not like, you know what, no one's ever asked. Thank you so much for asking. Here's why.
But like, I'm adorable. Yeah. So maybe Jeff Baker.
says, well, look at me and be like, I'm trying to kill the world because.
Oh, you little cutie.
All right.
Okay.
You got me.
I guess you're right.
But I just like, I just like want to know.
Yeah, they don't want us to know.
I just don't want Terminator to happen.
I don't think I saw that.
What happened in Terminator?
So in the future, there's a war between AI, like the machines, and
humans, and then a human gets sent back in time to find Sarah Connor before a Terminator
who also gets sent back in time kills her.
So Arnold Schwarzenegger is...
I think I said it bad again.
It was better than last time.
Arnold goes back in time.
He's a Terminator, and he's sent to kill Sarah Conner.
So he literally just goes in the phone book and looks up Sarah Connors.
Which is a really common name.
Yeah.
And he's just killing.
No, he's just killing Sarah Connors.
Oh my God.
But why is she so special, do we know?
Because she's leading the revolution.
Ooh.
And she's a badass.
That's fun.
Yeah, it is fun.
I'll watch it.
And then the guy who goes back, I think they fuck?
Like, through all this turmoil, I think they were like, let's take a timeout.
We need a time out.
And let's fuck.
And then she becomes who she is.
Wow.
after defeating the Terminator.
And then I think in Terminator 2,
Arnold is back, but I don't think he's bad.
I think he becomes good?
Am I a liar?
I don't know.
Let me look.
I guess I assumed that Arnold was a good guy,
but I didn't know who's a bad guy in the first movie.
In the first one, he's super fucking bad.
Oh, no.
And he's, like, driving around with half his face fucking blown off at one point.
Yeah.
And there's a close-up shot of his toes.
No pedicure.
I said James Cameron, what are we doing?
Isn't he a robot?
Yeah, but he's a humanoid robot.
So, like, he looks human.
So, like, he's got a human skin over the metal.
We could have done something with dogs.
It was a tough close-up for me.
Yes, in Terminator 2, he is reprogrammed, so he's good now.
And that's nice.
That's nice.
That's nice.
Bad girl gone good.
But yeah, I don't want to have a revolution.
I don't want to be in a war.
I don't want to be in a war.
And that's another question I have for these leaders.
You start wars that you don't have to fight in.
And then you're like making shit bad for other people.
Why?
Yeah.
I think maybe we've talked about this on the show.
I do think like all the leaders of the nations that want to go to war, they should fight.
Yes.
You guys get in a ring or on a field or whatever.
Pick whatever weapon you want.
You guys have it out.
You guys have it out.
fight. I don't want
I don't want my tax dollars going to a war. You know where I
want them to go to health care
and potholes and that's it.
There are a lot of potholes. There are so many fucking potholes.
My God. Karen Bass is fixing
some of them. No, she's not. Did you see the video?
No, I didn't. Is she her?
I saw the videos that said she was fixing it. No.
This bitch. Well, I
Karen, well, I don't think you're doing a good job.
Anyway, so she made this video where she was like, I heard you.
There's a pothole.
We came to fix it, but there's a car there.
So we put up signs to say don't park here.
And we're going to come back tomorrow and fix that pothole.
Unless there's a car there.
I'm going to go support our local business and get a milkshake.
It's not exactly what we wanted.
No.
You made a video going, I'm incompetent.
Should I have a milkshake?
I could have done that.
What should she have done?
Go back tomorrow when there's no car
and then go watch us fill this fucking pot hole.
Or put a cone in a sinus like,
tomorrow don't park here.
We're going to fill the pole.
Well, that's what she did.
Oh, okay.
But she made a video of that.
Yeah, don't make a video of that.
That's not very interesting.
It's like me going,
get ready with me to maybe leave my house.
I mean, people are always like,
I have a fun announcement.
Come back tomorrow.
That's basically what she did.
That is what she did.
But guess what?
There was no tomorrow.
I don't think there was a follow-up video.
Oh, no.
I really don't think.
Can you look up if there was?
I really don't think there was.
Oh.
But she at least filled one pothole.
We don't know if she did.
No, I saw a different video where she did.
Oh, you did?
Yeah.
Okay.
Mother politicians are doing so much more.
I know.
In New York, they had like a parent's day out where there was like free child care.
Like people's kids are being watching the parents.
I don't know. I didn't read it.
Well, the parents' day out. Where are they going?
They got to go on dates and stuff. I don't know. I didn't read.
Parents day out. Aren't they already out?
It was the sequel to Baby's Day Out.
The parents get to go wherever they want.
And the babies have to look for them.
That's really funny to be.
I'm not seeing a follow-up video.
That's very funny.
Yeah, they're having a great time in New York.
Right?
It's really nice.
Also, can you look at the parents' day out thing?
Did I make that up?
Because I'm like, what is that?
Like, every, what?
In one day, everyone has childcare?
Who?
Who's caring for the children?
It's like that movie where sex is legal for one day.
Do you know that movie?
No.
Okay, you got to look that up too.
Wait, sorry, what movie?
There's a movie where sex is illegal, but then it's legal for one day.
Yes, yes, one night only.
Oh, okay.
One Night Only, except for child care.
Oh, is that come...
The movie is coming out?
Did it come out?
It just came out.
Oh.
Okay.
I guess I didn't know that's what that was.
Yeah, parents stay out.
It's the same vibe.
They all get to fuck.
One night only, you gotta get out of the house to fuck.
This is very chaotic.
Allie, look this out.
Let it up.
Look this up.
Is parents stay out a lost...
What is it?
It's a New York thing.
New York, New York.
Okay, so it's held at Parks and Rec Centers.
It doesn't say what to do with your kids.
That's really funny.
They didn't figure it out all the way.
Come on, parents.
The kids, I don't know.
But you guys are free to be out.
You're free to be at the Parks and Rec Center.
Oh, my God.
You know what I'm really excited about?
What's that?
Wednesday night.
Tomorrow.
Oh my God, yeah.
Because we're seeing Fast and the Furious.
Yes.
In theaters.
In theaters!
Which, you make it sound like they never are in theaters?
Can you believe Fast and the Furious is going to be in a theater?
Well, it's the original Fast and Furious movie.
25th anniversary.
Yes.
That's wild.
Isn't it?
We're getting so old.
I know.
Vin Diesel's getting so old.
Yeah.
Ugh.
But he is getting finer and finer way.
Oh, Lord.
I love him.
We're like, no.
No, go for it.
No, go for it.
I support you.
And I'll laugh.
No.
No.
I don't fully have it developed in my brain.
Oh, do you want a spitball?
I was trying to think of like, like, aging, like, fine wine.
Mm-hmm.
So I was like, then Veno.
but then I was going to say more like
then Vino but it's
it's not working
You know, hey, it's okay
Hey, no, you're okay
You're okay?
Do you need a time out?
I need a time out.
Okay, I feel better.
Oh my goodness, we gotta take a break.
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And we're back. That really killed me. You turning, twisting your whole body around.
I had to look at a wall. You're really flexible in the waist.
Thank you.
You're welcome.
I like you.
Thank you.
I would go to this chiropractor and he'd like move my legs to one side so that he could like crack my spine, I guess.
And he's like, huh, your legs keep going because it is so flexible.
And he's like, I usually don't have to go this far off the table with somebody.
Yeah.
Wow, look at you.
She's bendy.
You're a stretch armstrong over there.
Uh-huh.
I wish I was more flexible.
I wish I had the...
What's it called?
Elasticity?
No.
Because I am rather flexible, but if I...
The consistency with stretching.
Because then I could just fall into a split whenever.
Mm-hmm.
But I don't have the consistency.
Yeah.
Yeah.
The chiropractor scares me.
It scares me now.
Like, when I was doing it,
because I would go kind of frequent.
But then after a while I was like, wait, that's crazy.
Because I don't think they're medical doctors.
No, they are.
Well, they have some sort of degree.
I don't know if it's like a, I don't know what kind of school they go to.
Ellie, we need more help.
More help.
What kind of degree does a chiropractor,
uh-oh.
Yes, a chiropractor have.
Oh, so you can get a doctor of chiropractor.
And that's a real professional doctorate.
But they're not medical doctors.
No.
It's a specialized four-year chiropractic program, and then you have to pass national board exams and get a state license.
Oh.
Wait, why is that not a medical?
Like they couldn't go to a hospital and get a job?
I guess.
But there's medical things that happen outside of a hospital.
Yes.
Like, would you say a plastic surgeon is a medical doctor?
Yes.
But you don't have to go to a hospital to see them.
You go to their clinic.
Yes, but they have an operating room there.
Uh-huh.
But, like, kind of like how...
Like, a dermatologist isn't a medical doctor, but they have a doctorate.
Mm-hmm.
I think a medical doctor is somebody who...
goes to medical school. And I don't think a chiropractor goes to medical school. They go to chiropractory school.
A medical doctor needs to do a residency for a couple of years.
Okay. But a chiropractic doctor does not need to.
I see. Ah. Okay. I love that you let me explain it for so long. Wrong.
No, I don't think I was wrong. Oh, okay. No, you're good. Oh, okay.
This is additional information.
Yes. Women supporting women.
Go on, queen.
Oh my goodness.
But yeah, after like a few snap crackle pops, I always, I mean, I was safe, but I was like, it's just too much risk.
Why am I doing this?
Yeah.
Yeah.
It scares me when I watch those videos and they like press down on a person and it's like,
Babo!
And I'm like, you snap that lady in half.
Mm-hmm.
Oh.
And honestly, there are stretches I can do.
that will crack my spine itself.
Oh.
Like what?
Honestly, kind of just twisting around.
Like, doing some trunk twists.
Trunk twists?
Is that the legal name for that?
The legal name.
Yes.
Doing my trunk twist.
By law.
Ooh, I should do that more.
That feels good.
Right?
Stretching feels good.
You heard it here first
Stretching feels good
I just never do it
You know
I'll do it sometimes like
Before a workout or after a workout
When I do pull I definitely do it
But on my own
Yeah
I kind of do a little bit of stretching
Every morning
Because I wake up sore
Oh
So I'm like
What are you doing in your sleep?
Fighting
Demons
Mortal combat
Do do do do do
Yeah, I don't know.
Just, you know, getting older.
And then I wake up and, like, I'm like, oh, I'm tense and, like, feel stiff.
So in order, like, just to feel like I'm not bringing that energy out into the world, do a little bit of stretching.
That's nice.
A dream morning for me.
Waking up two to three hours before I have to be somewhere.
Drinking some coffee, reading a little bit of a book.
Light stretches.
getting in the shower,
trying on multiple outfits to see which one looks the best.
Instead of what I do now,
which is waking up a half hour before I'm supposed to be somewhere
when I do need a full hour to get ready.
And then I do my striped shirt because I don't have to think.
But it's like I could put a beautiful outfit together.
A beautiful outfit.
Sometimes this like rarely happens,
but sometimes I will like take it back to like,
school days and
and lay out an outfit?
The night before.
I love that.
Right?
Oh my God.
Because I slept on a queen-sized bed growing up.
Bragg.
My sister had a twin.
And she was older.
Isn't that fucked up?
A little bit, yeah.
It's because I was in accident
and I took the guest room.
And they were like, we're not going to, whatever.
Rearrange.
Yeah.
But I would lay it on one side of the bed.
Like it was your companion.
Uh-huh.
And then I'd...
Me and my future self.
Yes.
And then I'd like dream about wearing it.
Yeah.
The worst was when you put it on and you were like, this is it.
This is not it.
I look like a fool.
Now I'd find something else.
I got to find something else and I was dreaming about this one.
Oh my God.
Yeah.
Ugh, I used to love these brown...
I wanted them in black.
They didn't have them.
These brown...
Steve Madden platforms that were, I don't know, six inches tall.
Whoa.
I could barely walk in them.
I was towering over students.
And then, like, the bell would ring to be in class,
and I would still be walking so slowly to class because I couldn't fucking walk in them.
Do you ever roll your ankle?
No.
Thank God.
That's good.
No.
I had some, like, thick, chunky platform shoes as an adult in my 20s.
And someone gifted them to me.
And I was like, these are so cute.
And I really tried to wear them.
And I rolled my ankles so many times.
Oh, no.
Had to give them away.
And that's why you like a sturdy shoe?
That's why I need a sturdy shoe.
Strap in.
Be around all of my foot.
Strap in.
We went to a water park on Saturday.
We did.
And I wore my adventure tivas, but then I also wore my adventure shoes.
You actually were really prepared.
You had multiple hats.
You brought everyone towels.
you're ready to go. So many sunscreens. So many sunscreens. Al-low, in case somebody got burned. And would you believe I was hung over? Wow. I was so hungover. And you did all that. We did it. We were late because I woke up very late. Well, I could tell. I think you responded at 1 p.m. or something. And the night before you were like, we're going to leave at like 10 a.m.
As I'm eating watermelon that a drag queen broke on stage, that doesn't make sense.
I don't know how to make it make more sense.
That doesn't not make sense.
Okay.
Rockam sockha?
Rockam sock.
Uh-oh.
A drag queen, rock'em.
Squeezed a watermelon in between our legs.
And then a piece flew right in front of me.
And I was like, a snack.
Immediately picked it up and was having the time of my life.
It was such a good ripe watermelon.
Ooh, it looked really.
It was so good.
Oh, my God.
And then the next morning I woke up and I was like, oh, my God.
And John was like, are we going?
And I was like, I don't know.
And then Mano was like, I'm there.
And I was like, so we're going.
But I was really proud of myself that I packed enough for everybody.
Yes, you really did.
Yeah.
Ugh.
The sly that I liked the best, you didn't get on.
Yeah.
Because you're not a thrill hound.
No.
And that's great.
Not in that aspect.
I don't want to feel like I'm in danger.
Yes.
This slide, at two times I was like, I'm in danger.
Because you have to stand with your arms crossed and then you have to cross your legs.
And then I will say the right operator looked at me and was like, the weight limits 300 pounds.
And I was like, not too much.
Not too much.
Not too much.
Not now.
I'm having a nice time.
I'm all over and I don't want to deal with you.
I don't want to deal with you.
And I was like, okay, but whatever.
Also, were you already on?
No, she was talking to everybody as we like got to the top.
But landed on you?
Yes.
And I was like, this is, whatever.
But so the floor drops out from under you and then you just like fall.
And then it's an enclosed thing where you're doing like loop-de-loose.
have no idea what my body did in there. But at one point my feet came uncrossed and I was like,
oh, I'm going to die. And then it spit you out. And I kept going, oh, because my hair was like
in front of my face and I couldn't see. And then I was trying to like save my contacts.
Oh my God, that's a lot. It was a lot. You would have hated it. I would have hated it.
Yeah, I'm glad I didn't go. And then we went on this one. It was like Dr. Van Dark's Dark Hole.
There was a lot of interesting names there.
But it was...
So we had to carry the little thing we slid down on up to heaven.
We had to go so high up.
Like upstairs?
No, it was up an incline.
Okay.
And then upstairs.
Oh, gosh.
And then you sit in it.
And then she said to Mano, she was like, all right, you got to hold on.
Take off your shoes and hold on.
As he's taking off his shoes, she like pushes the steps.
Like, these people don't care about safety at all.
And then it was fully dark.
and I couldn't explain to you what was happening in there, but it was terrifying.
And then it like spit us out.
Again, my hair is like in front of my face.
I'm trying to save my contacts.
And Nick was like, you made, you sounded like a turkey.
He was like, people online were talking and then they heard you.
And everyone just looked.
He was like, it sounded like you were going, oh, blah, whoa.
It was like, I don't know how you were making that noise.
And he was right, because when I got spat out,
everyone was too happy.
Like, did they sound of a turkey down?
He was like, is it Thanksgiving?
What's happening?
There was one ride we all did.
I forgot what it was called, but we were all in a inner tube.
And we looked at the board that had all the restrictions and it said the weight restriction.
And we added up all five of our weights and we were like, that's too heavy.
But let's see if they'll just let us on.
And then we get up there and we like start climbing in and we're like, it's okay for all five of us to be on, right?
And the kid's like, sure.
Sure.
Whatever.
And then we slide down and pretty quickly, I'm like, I see why there was a weak restriction.
I was like, we felt like we were going to like tops or whatever.
I thought we were going to flip or like flip out of the thing.
Like our velocity was so fast.
I was like, oh no.
This is actually terrified.
It was pretty scary.
It was funny.
Wait, what did I say to you?
I was like, oh, no, Sashir, the weight limits 900 pounds.
You're going to have to ride alone.
I was like, what the hell?
I don't even think you ask everyone for their weight.
You're just like, oh, too much.
You have to wait by yourself.
After you left one, I was like, remember how fat this year was?
It was really funny.
What if I really was by myself?
And then you wouldn't have gone down because you don't weigh enough.
You just keep getting stuck.
Oh, my God.
I really love a water park.
I'm ready to go back in two years.
I want to find a different one because I don't know many water parks,
but I feel like there has to be one where you can put cash on a wristband or something like that.
Because I feel like most of our time spent walking back to the locker to get a wallet, to go back to the hut, to buy a thing, to go back to the locker, put our wallet in there.
Like, it was a lot of that.
It was a lot.
Yeah.
Everything was all the cart.
It was wild.
Okay, the cabana was, I said this there.
I was like, how do people have families?
You have to spend so much money on your family.
So it's like you got to fucking get there.
That's, you're probably, you know, using more gas.
Your car's heavy.
Filled with them fucking kids.
The cabana, if you want a cabana, I think the lowest one,
was $200.
Yeah.
Which also, Cabana was a loose term for what we were sitting in.
It was a bunch of, it was like a woodhut, a woodhut not looking at any water.
We were just sitting on asphalt in front of asphalt behind a dip and dots.
The ice cream of the future.
The ice cream in the future.
That's $200.
The tickets to get into the park were $50.
And then I thought the fast pass included the admission.
It doesn't.
The fast pass was a hundred dollars.
And it truly was not worth it because you couldn't use the fast pass on every ride.
Yeah.
And then parking is another $50.
It's a racket.
It's crazy.
And then to rent a tube, she gave us two for one.
Thank goodness.
That was $18.
Imagine if I had kids.
I could not Venmo request them.
They don't have jobs.
You just pay for all of them.
I just have to pay for them.
I just have to fucking eat it?
Yeah.
And then they had to eat too.
Oh, my.
By the funnel cake and stuff.
And that shit's expensive.
My ice cream cone was $8.
For a coat?
And that's why I said put more sprinkles on that bitch.
What are we doing?
Truly.
Ugh.
Then I asked for a couple ice.
You put water in it.
Is that true?
Dumb motherfucker.
What?
Wait.
Oh, put ice and water?
Yeah.
But still, you only ask for ice.
I just wanted ice because I already had water.
Yeah.
But now I had more.
I was mad.
I was like, this kid's already.
He doesn't know how to put sprinkles on a cone.
They're probably also overheated.
Oh, yeah.
Oh, yeah.
Also, okay, I think we as a society need to take more ownership over public spaces.
Okay.
Clean up after yourself.
There was like a bag of chips in the room where I was trying to change.
Yeah.
Like just wet, soggy chips.
Take those with you.
Throw them away.
Yeah.
I threw them away because I was like, I'm taking ownership of this space.
I wiped a little bit of hair away because I was like, I don't want to get changed in this gross little thing.
I feel like that's a very American thing to just leave your trash in places.
Like you go to other countries and they like take pride in their spaces.
So they're like, I'm going to take my trash with me and throw it away.
Yes.
Yeah.
And it's like it's not my water park, but like I want to leave the space nicer for the other person.
Yeah.
On planes, it has that little thing in the bathroom that's like, wipe the things.
sink down for the next customer. If I splish splash making a mess, I wipe it down for the next
customer because I'm like, why should they have to deal with my splish splash? Yeah. No, I never see it.
I always see a very wet counter when I get to the bathroom. Why? It takes two seconds.
Mm-hmm. We need to take ownership of our spaces. Yeah. Nick went to the bathroom and he said
somebody's shit in the urinal. That's crazy. Yeah, because I think a urinal's out in the open. I'm not
well versed with male restrooms, but I think a urinal is just like there.
So someone had to like turn around and wave at people?
Like the people are here.
I mean, it's probably a child.
It's probably a kid who's like, I don't know where the toilets are, so.
I'll just do it here.
I don't really understand this.
I'm going to hop up and take a shit.
Which sometimes I'll see a parent, a mother or a father, send a really young kid into a
bathroom by themselves and be like, go get it, kid.
And they're like, I'll be waiting outside.
And I'm like, why are you waiting outside?
Yeah, go in with them.
Why don't, why are you just sending them on this adventure by themselves?
Yeah.
Yeah, I don't know.
Like I was at the airport and there were two little girls having a time.
They were like, like pumping all the soaps and like splashing out water.
They were like using all the amenities.
And I was like, where's their adult?
And then I leave the bathroom.
And she's just standing outside.
But it's not even like, it wasn't a crowded bathroom.
I was like, why won't you just go inside and check on your kids?
Right?
I would be scared that somebody would come in through the window and take my child.
There's always a sign that's like, look out for trafficking.
Literally, yes.
I guess they're like, I'm at the exit, so I would see if someone was taking my child.
But you're right, what if there's a window?
What if there's a window?
Also, that lady was probably on her phone.
Yeah, definitely.
I bet you she would not have noticed if someone had taken her kids.
What if they just, like, stuff the kid in a backpack?
Or in a rolly suitcase.
A big carry-on.
Big carry-on.
And they're just like, do-to-do-do.
It doesn't look like they have a kid, but they do.
But they do.
I don't know.
I think that's wild to just let your kid in a bathroom alone.
It's, yeah, I just don't understand what the reason is.
Just go in there with them.
No, you're probably sick of them.
Kids are a lot.
Like, this is my time out.
This is my time.
Oh.
I took our friend's kid to the bathroom once, and I think she's three, four.
but it was when we were in Missouri
and I looked at her and I was like
do I have to go in with you?
And she was like, okay.
We're in the bathroom.
I was like, so like, do you need help?
She was like, and then I did look at the toilet
and look at her and I was like, oh yeah, she can't get up there.
So I was like, can you pull him down?
She was like, and then I lift her up
and I was like, all right.
And then I like kind of turned
away because I was like, I don't want to give you privacy?
Like, I know you, but like, we're not, we're not tight.
We're not family.
We're not tight.
Not at that level yet.
Yeah, I don't know you like that.
And then when she was done, I was like, okay, so like, you take care of that, the back end of that?
She was like, and then I was like, but you can't reach the toilet paper.
And she's like, all right.
And then she was like, after she was done, I was like, oh, do you need help to get off?
She was like, yes.
I hope someone heard you in the other stall.
I was like, what is happening?
Did they not know each other?
It really did.
Yeah, it definitely was like, we didn't know.
I think she was like, this adult should know how to help me.
She's bigger.
She's been telling me what to do.
And now I'm in charge.
And I like took her off and I was like, okay, so like you got that, you got your pants?
She was like, yeah.
And then when we went to wash our hands, I was like, this I know.
Lift you up, turn it on.
She's like, you're doing it wrong.
I did do it wrong because I stuck my little knee out so she could sit on my knee.
Yeah.
And she was like, I don't think no one had ever done that to her before.
She's like, what's this?
She was like, I just sit and wash my hands.
And it's funny because I babysat.
Yeah.
But I would do that when I babysat.
Mm-hmm.
So the boys I babysat for when I was 16, I, nobody explained to me.
I was like, I don't know, these aren't my kids.
I don't know.
So I'd be like, you wash yourself and he'd be like, so then I'd be like, okay.
Just do what I'm doing.
Because I'm like, I'm not touching you.
I don't know you.
You're not my kids.
I don't know the rules.
Yeah.
Yeah, and I carried on to adulthood.
I'm like, I don't.
I think that's smart.
Let's take a break.
Oh, boy.
Then we're back.
I babysat very little.
But there was a producer I had worked with in New York that I would babysit
his kids like a couple times.
And his son, and I don't remember how old he was.
Let's say three.
Maybe younger.
I don't know.
But he was trying to drink out of a,
bottle and like had his mouth open so that his whole mouth was around the whole the opening.
So he would drink it and then put it down and everything that was in his mouth would come right into the bottle.
And so I was like, oh, and I got a separate bottle.
And I was like, let's put your top lip in the hole.
And so I showed him how to like drink out of a bottle.
And he's like, whoa, this is working.
And then years later, the producer was like, you taught my son how to drink out of a bottle.
And it was really helpful.
That's really cute.
Yeah.
I think parents just spend an insane amount of time with their children.
So it's hard for them to go.
They're just like, so you just don't, you can't drink.
You're not a bottle drinker.
I don't know.
I don't ever give me a bottle.
You're stupid when it comes to a bottle as opposed to like, oh, I see.
what's happening.
Yeah, I don't see them all the time, so I'm like,
I can help you with this.
That's really funny.
I don't know if I was that influential to any children.
I'm sure they're like, you taught me how to shower,
because you would not touch me, so I had to do it myself.
You stood on the other side of the bathroom and just went,
raise your arm.
One of the kids I nannied,
he got like points with his friends because he was like,
You guys want to know who my babysitter was, the lady who hosts nailed it.
And then his friends were like, we don't believe you.
So I made a little video.
And I was like, I was his babysitter.
That's really cute.
That's cute.
Isn't that cool?
That's very cool.
Right?
For him.
I'll give a shit.
I don't get a kid.
Oh my God.
At the water park, I had to yell at a child.
Why?
Because he was spitting over the edge.
Ew.
And I was like, were you raised a baby?
a barn? What's wrong with you? Like into the water? No, like over the edge. Of what? Like,
so there was a staircase going up and we were waiting on the staircase. Oh, so you're spit on people?
Yeah. Oh. And I was like, you're disgusting. Was he not with an adult? Again, I don't think his
adult was looking at him. Yeah. Adults don't want to be with these children. And I was just like,
you're disgusting. And he did it a second time. And I was like, what's wrong with you?
Oh. And then there was a kid walking around. His pants had fallen down.
His mom was just dragging him. And I said to Nick, I was like, I wonder when these parents are going to notice.
And then when she finally noticed, she just laughed.
Aww.
And then she was like, pull him up. And I was like, you pull him up.
This baby's out in the sun. This baby's delirious.
Yeah, and you were dragging him.
Yes, you were dragging him. This baby is chlorinated.
My skin was so dry.
Yeah, same.
My God.
So dry.
I put oil.
I have oils and shit.
Ooh, Lord.
Oh, Lord.
Then we went out to dinner after.
I was absolutely out of my mind.
I can't believe you did.
Oh, Lord.
And then you did karaoke.
I was like, what's wrong with you guys?
I'm so tired.
We did do karaoke because I have a karaoke machine in my home now.
And that's convenient.
It is the best money I have ever spent.
Because sometimes me and the nice man on like 3 p.m. on a Saturday will be like,
should we do a song?
I love that.
That's really fun.
It's really fun.
I love it.
We've been doing a whole new world from Aladdin.
That's really sweet.
It's a good duet.
Yeah.
What was, oh, I asked you if you knew a system of a down.
Oh, yeah.
This is a nice man.
I was like, oh, so she will know.
that. She likes new metal.
That's true. This is true. I don't know them that well. I know that one song that...
Chop suey. Yeah.
Which I don't think I've ever heard before.
Really?
No.
Huh. All right.
It was wild to watch three whites just bopping their head to it. And I was like, this feels crazy.
Yeah. It's a popular song.
Oh, okay.
Pretty much everyone knows it.
Oh, okay.
Everyone who knows anyone knows it.
Everyone who knows anyone knows this.
This is really funny.
Thing to say about that song.
About that song in particular.
But it's wild.
There's like so many songs that happen that I have never heard of one time.
I had never heard, don't stop believing until I had gone to, like, college and we were at a bar.
And it came on and everyone started singing it.
And I was like,
Oh, I felt like an alien.
I was like, is everyone, is this a prank?
Is this a prank?
On me?
And every time I hear it, it like throws me back to that moment where I'm like, it, because I felt insane when everybody knows the thing and I don't know it.
Yeah.
But I think that's okay.
I think that's okay at that age.
Because if your household didn't grow up with that music, you don't know it.
And then you go to college and you meet people who have other tastes.
And you're like, oh, I guess that's something.
I didn't listen to the Beatles until I got to college.
I think I had heard of the Beatles, but then was listening and I was like, some bops in here.
Wait, these guys might be onto something.
I mean, that bar could have played Kirk Franklin, and nobody would probably know it.
It's true.
I would know it.
Would you have been singing along?
Make me clap my hands.
Make me want to dance.
And I'm like, what's happening?
What's happening?
She does the whole day.
I think I've said this to you
but Tina Turner covered the Beatles
I think two Beatles songs and like come together
right and I heard the Beatles version
I was like these white men stealing from a black woman
and I also didn't understand samples at the time
or covers
and then someone was like
this is a Beatles song and I was like
no it's not the Tina Turner song they're like
no she covered I was like oh okay
that was me and Vogue's cover of yesterday
Because I knew that version
And then heard a Beatles one
And I was like, that's so weird
Is this the same song?
Covers are interesting.
Yeah.
Yeah, because you would just do a cover
And then that can be your hit.
Like that can be popular?
Yes, like I'll always love you.
I think it's more popular than Dolly Parton's version.
Yeah.
Which is, but then she gets the royalties off of it.
Nice.
So it's like, and I, she's like a quote where she's like,
yeah, I want her to keep singing it
because I keep getting money.
Yeah.
Did you hear she passed away?
I do. So sad. It's really sad. It's so sad. She's, she was a living legend.
Literally. I got to meet her one time. I didn't know this.
Oh, I didn't tell. I think I, I had to have. So she came to, so when I was on a UCB, the U.C.B, the U.S. Citizens Brigade, when I was on a sketch team, we were paired with another team. I can't remember their name. But one of the writers, their father was Dolly Parton's dentist, I believe, or doctor.
I don't remember, but she, Dolly kept saying she wanted to see one of the sketch shows.
So she came to like, I felt like an afternoon sketch show.
It was like 3 p.m. I think.
She sat right in the middle, full Dolly, like titty's out, the blonde hair.
She looked like Dolly Parton.
And I remember the show started and everyone was like, Dolly Parton's in the audience.
And it was like, what? Oh, my God.
And then when I got out there to do my sketch, I could see fucking Dolly Parton.
And I did a sketch called Rhonda the Condom.
keeper where Rhonda was just in your business about why you needed the condoms. And I'd be like,
well, I open the case, but you got to tell me, what's you doing tonight? What's you getting into?
And then afterward, Dolly wanted to meet us all because she liked the show so much. And I very rarely
get starstruck, but she was like, it was like, it was so crazy to see this lady who had just,
you know, been in my life in and out. Like,
I love her quote that's like,
it takes a lot of money to look this cheap.
Like I just love that her aesthetic
was she saw like a dancer or something
and she was like, that's what I want to look like
and that's what she looked like.
But she like came up to me.
We were all like, hello.
And then she was like, honey, you were funny.
And then quoted the sketch and I went, okay.
And then the picture I have with her,
I look like I'm in pain
because I'm smiling so hard.
Aw, I love that.
Yeah, that's wild.
Yeah, it was nuts.
I love that she came to UCB.
Yeah, came to UCB.
Gave us all compliments.
Like, she was so nice.
That's so nice.
Yeah.
That's very sweet.
Uh-huh.
So I'll have that memory in my heart.
I like that.
Should we answer a question?
Oh, yeah, shit.
I didn't even look at the time.
Oh, shit, man.
Oh, fuck, dude.
Just yapping.
This one is called letting people in.
Ooh.
Hello, Nicole and Sashire.
Love the podcast. I'll get right into it. A few years ago, my husband and I had a family friend that we took under our wing because she was going through a really rough time, drugs, suicidal thoughts, etc. She was younger and we were very close with her family. She'd come and have dinner with us and we talked to her through her stuff and support her. At one point, she was engaged and I was her matron of honor, throwing her a shower and a bachelorette party. She didn't go through with the wedding. We'd hang and watch movies. She loved playing with our kids. We thought of her, like,
a sister to us and an aunt to our children. Two years ago, my husband sat me down and told me that
they thought they had feelings for each other. They had spent two days talking through their feelings
and how to handle them behind my back. In the meantime, she was still coming over and having dinner
in my home with my kids, all while having these conversations. Of course I lost my mind.
I was furious with my husband and didn't want to talk to her. Long story short, she's out of our
lives and my husband and I ultimately decided to work things out. My question is, how do I begin to
put myself out there in friendships again? I'm very guarded and scared to open myself up to people.
This friendship I had with this young woman was the closest friendship I ever had. I felt
completely myself around her. I knew I could call her if I needed anything any time. I let her
into my home and into my family. After the betrayal, I simply don't trust anyone to like me for me
or to not have any ulterior motives.
I'm 37 with three small children and work full-time.
I have acquaintances, but I struggle with letting anyone in on a deeper level.
I hate to say this.
This has nothing to do with trusting yourself.
It has nothing to do with making friends.
Your husband is the problem.
this like, oh, I think people will have ulterior motives.
I'm afraid to let people in.
You're afraid your husband's going to try to fuck your next friend.
And I think that is a conversation you have to have with your husband.
It's like, how do we have bound?
Like, it's tough.
You, like, you've decided to reconcile with this person.
But now you're scared to, like, have a friend because you're scared of what's going to happen with your partner.
That's tough for me.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Yeah.
It's not a...
You were betrayed.
Yes.
And so it absolutely makes sense that you have fear around new people in your life or letting people in, period.
But part of the problem is still there.
Yes.
Yeah, he's still there.
Uh-huh.
And then it's like, I mean, no offense.
Like, if you're going to be a child and not be able to like,
like you're having conversations with this girl about how to hide your feelings from your wife
while your wife's cooking dinner.
That's childish.
So you might have to have a childish conversation.
It's like, so if I bring a friend home, you can't come into the living room.
Or I'm going to go hang out with this person outside of the house.
Like, maybe there's boundaries that you have with your partner because your partner is not trustworthy.
Also, like, what were, I mean, we don't know because they don't tell us, but like, I'm like, what conversations did the friend and the husband present to the person who wrote?
Like, when they come forward saying, like, we want to be together or just we have feelings for each other?
What are your thoughts?
Like, what was that?
Yeah, what was that conversation?
I don't, like, what's the point?
Like, because if you, you have a conversation like that, if you're like, it's because
we're going to get together.
Mm-hmm.
Which, if, like, if that's the case, that's not your man.
Like, then, like.
Yeah.
But, but it sounds like the husband and wife talked it out and they're going to stick it out.
I'm like.
Yeah.
Maybe, maybe it was like.
I mean, we can only speculate at this point, but maybe it was like, he was like, we've been talking, we have feelings, but I want to be with you. I don't want that. But then it's just like, I hate that. Yeah. I hate that her partner betrayed her like that. And now she's afraid to make her friend. I know. Because that's like, if you have a crush or like sometimes that happens, you're with, you're in love with someone, you have a partnership with someone, and someone else is exciting to you.
Yes. That's not a crime. But you don't have to involve your partner in this. You could also just have like cute little like fresh feelings in your brain and be like, but actually that's inappropriate for us to do. So no, nothing's going to happen. Yeah. But like what I'm like what? Why do the conversations have to happen? What happened? Why is this out in the open? I'm just like, yeah. You know, I don't want our friend to be.
limited in who their friends are.
Yeah.
But I'm like, maybe you only make friends with other married couples.
But again, the problem's in your house.
Yeah, honestly, I'm kind of like, I don't think finding new friends should even be a
priority right now.
I think it should be figuring out what's happening in your partnership.
Yeah.
Yeah.
I think that you don't need new people or, I don't think you need to put like brain energy
on other people or relationships.
until you figure out what is happening.
What's going on at home?
At home.
Yeah.
Yeah.
I'm sorry.
I'm sorry.
It's tough.
It's really shitty.
Yeah.
And like I also like applaud people who are like willing to try to like figure out their relationship.
And so hopefully you figure out in a way where it's like, well hopefully you figure out in the way that is supposed to happen.
Like either that means your relationship is better, it changes for the better.
Or it means it changes and you guys are not together.
Maybe it changes without each other.
I hope it is whatever's best for you.
Yes.
And your piece.
But yeah, I don't think finding friends is the thing that needs to be addressed right now.
Working on what's going on at home.
Solved?
Also, if you want to write back and give us more information as to how this was presented to you, we would like to know.
I want to know.
We're greedy.
For ingredients?
No, for...
Give me those ingredients!
Details.
Give me the ingredients.
I'm greedy for ingredients.
How is it made?
Give us another one.
This is called being hashtag very brave mentally.
Hi, sis'hear and Nicole.
A few years ago, I moved to South America to live with my spouse and I'm still working on making new friends.
I'm close to my partner's family, but they all live.
love karaoke, especially my partner and music in general. I want to join in the fun with them and
add to the collective good time, but I always get too aware of myself and how stiff and awkward I feel.
As a result, I always end up chickening out of queuing up for any songs. I don't think I'm afraid of
sounding bad, but more so being a focus of attention. I'm 32 years old in a couple weeks and don't
want to keep letting fear limit me. Nicole, I read your book and I've been internalizing the positive
messages about bodies, but how can I be more brave in this area? Also, I'm a trans man and among other
sources of inspiration, the two of you have made me want to try pole, but I don't want to make
anyone uncomfortable by entering a space where women are feeling comfortable and empowered.
Do you have any tips for finding a studio where I want to be throwing off the vibe?
Thanks so much for your time and for the podcast.
With pull, I honestly think it's vibes. Like, if you're giving off bad vibes,
that's bad.
But like if you're giving positive vibes,
I think Pol is really inclusive.
Because I feel like we've taken classes with me.
Yeah.
Yeah.
And honestly, I think just ask.
Like, ask the studio, is it okay?
Is there a dress code that would make everyone feel comfortable?
Because it is, you know, a female space.
But yeah, I think it's just ask.
Ask questions.
I think people don't want to ask questions.
And I love asking a question.
That's true.
Well, that's a lie.
A lot of times I go in dark.
But as it's happening, I go,
it's happening.
I got to know what's going on.
I should have information.
I should have some information.
Where are the ingredients?
I'm greedy for them ingredients.
Yeah, I think just ass.
Yeah.
What I would like to take this class.
I don't want to make anyone feel uncomfortable
because I know this is a space for women.
Oh, also look for a studio that, like, maybe says.
we do gender-inclusive classes
where it's like a mix of people.
Yeah.
But yeah, just ask.
Like the studio I go to is, yeah,
we've had men in classes and it's great.
Yeah.
But feeling more brave.
I think you just gotta do it.
Yeah.
There's no, like, easing into it.
You just have to like...
And also, like, karaoke, thankfully,
no one has to be good.
No.
Like, it's just, like, a fun, silly thing.
I mean, I don't know if your partner's family
is like a bunch of banging singers.
That would be unfortunate.
But, like, I think everyone's, like, has the baseline understanding that, like, this is fun.
Yes.
We're just here to have fun and be silly.
Mm-hmm.
So maybe you can start with a duet with your partner.
Yeah, that might be nice.
Yeah.
I have had my struggles with singing.
Mm-hmm.
Because I do feel like it's an intimate thing.
And it's pretty, like, what, like, art is subject.
but, like, singing is, like, pretty like,
this person could hit notes, this person cannot.
Yeah.
This person has a weird tone.
This person has a great tone.
And I would be so scared to sing,
and I remember I was singing Believe by Cher at a karaoke bar,
and a man screamed, painful during a lull.
And I was like, oh.
But then my friend Evan was in the audience laughing.
And I was like, that is silly.
I am not doing a good job.
But then I, like, really, like, finish the song strong.
Then I started doing like the Pokemon theme song where it like everyone starts singing.
So maybe doing like things where everyone can join in.
So then you don't feel like you're alone up there and being judged.
Like don't start.
Don't stop believing.
Yes.
Everyone but me will be like.
Everyone will be like and I'll be like where did the song come from?
Yeah.
I think like crowd pleasers where everyone can like sing along.
But yeah, also bring your purpose.
partner up there. So, I think that's a, that's a really nice suggestion. Hey, thanks.
Yeah, you're welcome. Solved. Solved. Well, if you have any questions or queries.
What's your go-to karaoke song? Oh, okay.
I need to know before you give the call to action. Is that what a CTA stands for?
Yeah, yeah.
Allie said it earlier and I was like, CTA. But then I said it and I was like,
Nice.
Putting it together.
This a lot.
He's sending me to the moon.
I like Valerie, the Amy White House song.
I like bad romance, Lady Gaga.
I like shallow.
Lady Gaga, Bradley Cooper.
Honestly, I like a lot of Lady Gaga songs.
You like tough shit.
I do like tough shit.
It's fun.
I like the Pokemon theme song.
I like Creed.
Yes.
And then what did I sing the other day?
When I did karaoke at my house, did shallow.
I think we did a whole new world.
A lot of duets. I'm doing duets.
Nice.
Yeah. Okay, now you can do the CTA.
If you have any questions or queries, you can email us at Nicole
and Sashirat.com or
call us or text this or leave a voice message at 323-23-8-6-554.
All right.
Gotta catch them all.
Bye.
That was a hate gum podcast.
I don't know.
There's still some time left.
Oh, just in time for my favorite season.
Fall?
No.
Best Friends Tour season.
Oh, yes.
I always forget about Best Friends Tour season.
It's the most wonderful time of the year.
And it starts on October 7th at the Aladdin Theater in Portland, Oregon.
And then you have to have the traditional October 8th show at the Neptune Theater in Seattle, Washington.
And then everyone gathers around Cobbs Comedy Club in San Francisco for a show on October 9th.
One of my favorite parts of Best Friends tour season is the November 3rd show at Talia Hall of Chicago.
I broke a toilet fair.
I love the November 4th show at the Wilbur.
Boston. Oh, that's a really good part.
Oh, what about the November 6th show
at City Winery in Philadelphia?
Love that.
And of course, there's the November 7th show
at the Howard Theater in D.C.
And as we all know, the season ends
on November 8th
at the Gramercy Theater in New York.
Oh, it really is.
Oh, it really is the most magical
time of the year. People can start
getting ready early this year
by getting their tickets now.
Yeah! Hi, I'm Nicole Byer.
Hi, I'm Sashir Zameda.
And this is the podcast, Best Friends.
And we're here at HeadGum.
So this is just a podcast where we just talk.
Yeah.
We're best friends.
Yeah.
We talk.
And then we have a segment where we answer questions and queries.
Mm-hmm.
So audience members can ask questions about friendships and we can answer them to the best of our abilities.
Yes.
We are professional friends.
We are professional friends.
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That's the middle of a work week.
I was deeply unhelpful to you during that whole thing.
You were.
I'm really sorry.
I felt the support.
I was so, okay.
I was trying to be supportive.
Yeah.
But I was like, I don't know, reading seems pretty hard right now.
It's a lot.
I think you did good.
Thank you so much.
You're welcome.
