Brooke and Jeffrey: Second Date Update - 22nd Date Update- Suspicious Ex Text

Episode Date: August 28, 2025

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Go ahead and email Alexis your complaint. No, it's not a mistake this time. You didn't fall asleep and push two or two many times. We're doing something a little different today. We are doing something a little different. We hope you enjoy it. It's brand new. We like to try new things out.

So always let us know in the comments because, believe it or not, we read them all. We can't respond to every single one, but we read them all. What do you see, Alexis? Yeah, Rico and Midnight said, a new pickup line I heard about. Goes like this, ready? Okay. I watch you pee.

Yeah, on a scale of 1 to 10, urinate. Like, urinate. Oh, urinate. The delivery was poor. Sorry. Rico is going to be really disappointed in that. Urinate. Is that better?

That's better. Urinate. Who doesn't love a good urination? pick up line. Please use this on a guy this weekend, Alexis. The first time I met my husband, I told him a UTI joke.

Oh, wow. What's the UTI joke? It's about cranberry juice. You know, it was fine. Okay. We'll get this brand new. Sorry to get you hot and heavy if you're listening.

A little different. Second date update started right now. We like to shake things up every now and again on this show. Yeah. But no, Brooke, for the 400th time, We're not adding roadkill reviews on the tens. We better at nicknats.

People would like that. I wanted those. We know the mango chutney raccoon tail tastes amazing, especially if it's microwaved. I mean, how could you even say that without not wanting to talk more about it? No, we get it. But this time we're shaking things up by doing an alternate version of our infamous second date update. You're going to have to hear it to believe it.

Is there a raccoon chutney? No spoilers. Oh, maybe. It's coming up. Next. Second date update. When you go on a date with someone and they suddenly break off all communication, no reasons given, that's called being ghosted. And that's what our second date updates are all about.

Yeah, it happens a lot. If you're just learning the term now, you're a little behind. Or I guess we'd also accept the terms breadcrumming, orbiting, semi-orbiting. Okay, now you're getting... And getting semi-trucked. What is that? That's what happened to me off Exit 16 last. Friday. Got 18 wheeled within an inch of my life. Wait, it's a good thing. You weren't disappointed

though. No, I was the happiest I've been in years. But what about the people that are past the first or second date, but not quite into an exclusive relationship yet? Oh, you're like in the situation. It's still ghosting, though, isn't it? It's just like worse. Right. The thing is we didn't really have an outlet, a segment on this show to help them with that until today. Oh, really? Because we're about to do our first. first ever 20 second date update for people who've been seeing someone for like a month or so and now suddenly it's not going well and they need our help. And that's why our listener, Brittany, emailed saying the guy that she's been hanging out

with has been acting a little distant, she can't figure it out. So Brittany, welcome to the show. I know this is a little bit different than our second date update. So let's just start with what's the name of the guy? Are you two, like, in contact with each other now or not in contact? Like, what's the situation? So, his name is Mark. Okay.

We've been dating for about a month and a half now. We're not living with each other. Oh, my God. Wait, what? Yeah. What the heck? No, I assume that. After a month and a half, you're going to move in.

I'm just letting you know that's kind of where we are. We're not at the stage to move in at all. Are you boyfriend, girlfriend then? Like officially? I think so. Oh, that means no. No, you're not. Just going to tell you.

haven't had the official talk yet then yeah right like i've deleted my dating apps and he says that he was not going to be on the dating app either here's here's how we're going right now starting off awesome of course as most new relationships do but lately we haven't been hanging out as much at night like before we'd like go on night dates or maybe i'd have a little stay over or something like that And now it's not as much at night. Well, I mean, doesn't that happen? Like, after like a month or so, it's like, all right. Now we see each other maybe twice a week instead of five days a week.

No, I think usually it goes the opposite. Usually if you're really into something or someone, sorry, or something. Yeah. You stay longer, then you start eating stuff, then you leave extra clothes. You end up spending more time at their place than you do at your own place if it's progressing well. Brittany would have been moved in by now if they had gone to her well. Sounds like it. But that's not happening.

He seems to be distancing himself. Right. Like, I'm just getting these red flags. Like, we're not at the point where I have his phone password. So I can't really look at what these texts are about. But I do notice that he is texting with a girl who has the same name as his ex. Oh. Okay.

That's a little shady. Have you, like, brought that fact up to him that you've seen the messages coming from someone with his ex's name? Well, I haven't said anything because I don't want to rock the boat and cause problems because it's so fresh and so early in this relationship. I just have been getting a feeling that he's like hiding something. Man, I mean, how is all of this affecting you, like, emotionally? Because if it was me and I was seeing ex-text coming in, I would have air-tagged all of his

stuff by now. What? Why are you not just asking him? I don't understand. You'd be paranoid without getting an answer? Okay. Well, yeah. I mean, why aren't you doing that?

I mean, I'm not because I just don't want to lose him because I really like him. And so I don't want to create this confrontation in case. It's like, oh, my gosh, my sister's name is the same as my accent. Okay. I don't think that's probably going to be the sister's names after. Yeah. And like, we're at that point where we're like, oh, my gosh, you want a dog? I want a dog.

Let's get a dog together. Not right now, but like. Sounds like we're getting a little. little quick into this relationship. You guys are moving through stages. Even when you guys both stop going on dating sites, that's another stage towards. But you can't ask about question. But you want to live together and get a dog.

But I see what she's doing. She's like considering how he would take the conversation. He might feel attacked if she's like, why am I getting these texts? Why aren't we living together yet? Where's our dog? Wait, wait, wait, though. I mean, that feels a lot more simple than having us intervene. What do you want us to do about it?

I don't know. I just, I don't like confrontation. And I don't want to make things worse and really need your help to just figure it out where I don't say something stupid to his face. Yeah. Okay. I mean, you all that are the professionals. I know. The professional confrontational people.

I'm a professional comedian lady. I'm not here for dating. Okay. You may end up getting hurt here. He just sounds like he may not be as interested as he was. Or he thought you guys were like. And I don't say that to like be mean. But by.

I mean, that might. It'd be hard for me to hear, but if he's feeling that way, then I would like to hear it. Yeah. That's fair. Okay. So, I mean, normally when we would do second date updates, we're asking about the date when we're talking to the person on the other line. This is going to be different with a 22nd date update.

We're going to call him and confront him about the relationship issues that he doesn't know that his girlfriend has with him. Confident such a strong word. Okay. Put it as politely ask. We'll politely poke his brain and try and get some answers for why he's suddenly becoming more distant in your new relationship when we come back and give you your first ever 22nd date update. What folder do we put this in on the podcast? People are just good they get to typo.

Oh, that's it. Okay, make a good thing. It's all Alexis's fault when we come back right after this. Second date update. If you're just joining us, we're doing our first ever 22nd date update with our listeners. or Brittany, who's been seeing a guy named Mark for the last six weeks or so. Even though they're not officially

labeled as boyfriend and girlfriend, they have agreed to get off the apps and try to focus more on each other. Brittany doesn't really feel like he's been doing that, though. Especially not lately. He seems to be going out more at nights, acting more distant from her.

And the really big red flag that stood out to her is he's been getting text messages from a woman with the same name as his ex-girlfriend. It does not feel like a coincidence, Jeff. Yeah, I would say everything else. Can we give her the benefit? At least she's not like, it's his ex.

She's like trying to be optimistic. Because she can't read the text messages because he hasn't shared his past. But bottom line, a lot of concerns on her side and she personally hates confrontation, doesn't want to risk the relationship in that way. So she's asked us to step in and try to investigate for her. Because the one thing we love is confrontation. I know. We're trying to keep it light here with you, Brittany.

but I know you must be going through a lot emotionally right now before we make the call. Oh, yeah. I'm a little stress, but, I mean, I got to find out before we keep going, you know? Just remember, you're like eight weeks into this thing. Yeah. You know, it feels a lot, but it does feel like a lot. But you're going to look back and be like, oh, that guy? I forgot about it.

Actually, she's six weeks into it. Let's not like rush ahead into the relationship. Oh, yeah. Your friends aren't even going to remember this guy's name. Jumping straight to marriage, basically. They haven't signed the lease yet, Brooke. I mean, it's not as serious as it feels. Yeah, that's the.

best way to say it. Yeah, for sure. I just really like him and I'm hoping that it's something silly. Totally. And we hope that too for you. Yes, we do. But not for the, not for the show drama. So let's just see what happens for our very first 22nd date update. We're still really doing this. We're branding

here. Here we go. Hello? Hey, is this Mark? This is Mark. Hey, man. Thanks for picking up the phone. We're actually a radio show. We're called Broken Jeffrey in the morning.

Hey, Mark. Hi. What's up, Mark? Good morning. Sorry, I'm laughing because I'm curious how Jeff is going to explain why we're calling you. Oh, yeah. I'm sorry. What is this?

So this is a segment we do for the very first time. It's called a 20-second date update. Oh, it just doesn't tell me. Roll right off the tongue. Wait, I'm sorry. What is how about? I feel like I'm, do you guys mean to call me? Yes.

Yes. We've been asked to call you by the woman that you're seeing lately, a woman named Brittany. Okay, so Brittany called you guys? Yes. Yes. Yes. Because she really likes you. Yeah. But bottom line is she's noticed some differences. She feels like you've been a little bit more distant going out more at nights than you used to. Uh-huh. Uh-huh.

okay yeah maybe not as interested in her yeah and judging from that response I can't see why she would think that but uh there's also a big problem that she's noticed with your text messages she's not reading them oh god don't say it like

she's saying it like so bad she freaked out because she saw a name pop up on your phone but in a non-confrontational type of way yeah when you say the word confrontational it doesn't take it away okay just tell him tell him the name

Well, I don't know the name, but... Why doesn't she just talk to me about it? We asked her the exact same question. You would think that would be the first step. Yes. She is very scared of rocking the boat. Because she really values this relationship, this blossoming potential relationship that you two have

and doesn't want to create an issue if there isn't one. So is there one? I mean, look, there's a couple of things she doesn't know, but I don't think it's a big deal. Okay, wait. She did say that you guys both deleted your dating naps. Right.

Does that mean that you're only seeing her, or are you still seeing other people? No, no, no. I'm only seeing her, but I am technically seeing an ex-girlfriend. What? Seeing. Wait, that's not I'm only seeing her. No, no, no. Is that dating?

You need to explain, dude. It's not romantic. It's just I don't have a choice. How are you somehow a victim in this? You don't have a choice? Hold on, no, no, no. it's just I split custody of our French bulldog

so I have to like coordinate with her for like the drop-offs every other week that's why I see Is that all though? No, that's all. How would she not know

that you have a dog every other week? Yeah. That's what I'm wondering. Well, the thing is I don't have actual custody I just have visitation rights. What?

Wait, what? That's so lame. Oh, hold on a second. Let me clarify Oh, wait. So hold on. Wait, sorry. Brittany. Yeah. Yeah, that's Brittany. She's on the other line listening to this phone call.

Suddenly, she's really good at confrontation. It sounds like. Wait a minute. No, I just need a little bit of clarification. So what you're saying is that you're ditching me to hang out with the dog and your old doggy mama. I mean, why wouldn't you tell me this? Why have you been hiding this? Yeah. Well, I mean, I was going to tell you. I just, I didn't. know how to and I didn't know if it was like weird or if you think it was like normal or weird

I just didn't know how to tell you do you only have visitation rights at night because it's the nights that you're not hanging out with brittany yeah it's visitation on wednesday nights oh so you're like tucking the dog in you're not going and seeing other girls are you no no I'm not and your ex isn't inviting you to stay the night on Wednesday nights is she no no it's like, I don't even go inside if I can avoid it. I just go in the backyard with the dog and, like, play for a few hours. Oh, my God.

Like, I literally found a chewed-up tennis ball in your jacket. Yeah. And I was like, what is that? I got a nervous tick. I chew tennis balls. Oh, so it's legit. Like, he's, okay.

I mean, I'd put my pet before a girl I met for six weeks. I mean. Well, I mean, Brittany, now that you've heard that, how does that make you feel? Does that make you feel better about the situation? I mean, I feel weird, because you you lied to me and secretly sharing custody

of a dog with your ex. I'm sorry I lied, but I mean, it's just, you know, it's hard to be a good single dog parent and do with the interest of my dog son. Oh. I think, Brittany, I think you've got to let this one slide a little bit. Yeah.

It sounds really sweet. Yeah. Well, I do have to say, I mean, in the interest of full disclosure, I actually don't share custody of just one. I actually share custody of two dogs. Two different women. Oh, geez, what's the head? He's a real...

Wait, now I'm confused. Do you remember Brittany told us that they were talking about getting a dog? Oh, yeah. I was going to say, like, if we got a dog and we broke up, you're going to have three doggy mommies? And why? You're way better with dogs than women, that's for sure. I don't know, because he's not getting full custody of any of these dogs.

Yeah, the only visitation rights. Are you just trying to be a part-time dog owner? No, no, I'm just trying to do it. right by my children. I mean, my dog's children. Like, is my life supposed to be doggy stepmom now? Cute. I mean, it's a Frenchie. It's kind of cute. That is cute. I mean, I would love for you to meet at least one of them at some point soon. At some point, you don't want to rush introducing your children to a new relationship. Exactly. It's going to last. Yeah. That makes sense. Don't traumatize those dogs for the rest of their lives. I mean, they will end up loving me better than their original

Oh, I'm never going to get into a custody battle. Like, I don't know. This is getting kind of messy now. Man, this isn't good. Okay. I would just suggest if you guys are going to stay in this relationship, let's hold off on getting another dog for a while. That's for sure.

Or decide it's one person's forever. Yes, yes. But Brittany, now that the whole situation is laid out, you know, he's not cheating on you. Do you feel better about the situation? Like, where's your head at? Yeah, it's kind of sweet. Do you ask him to go out or do you have to? I mean, no.

It's not a second date update. We're not offering to send them out again. So you guys are going to agree to continue dating. Why can't we send them on a date? Yeah, why can't you send us on a date? I can have to do a joke for the dog and then the doggy's mom. And, like, there's too many moving parts in this. You two can just go to a free dog park together and talk things out there.

Perfect. Maybe the dog mom will let you take the dog to a dog park. Oh, wow. Meeting the X? I have to put in a request two months ahead of time, so it's going to be a while. Whoa. Okay. Well, what did you do in that relationship? I know. How are we allowed to see the dogs? Well, at least we have some clarification. That's what we came here to do.

So best of luck to the two of you and your developing situation. Thanks so much. Thanks for helping with confrontation. Yeah. Wow, this is a lot. Still for a couple that's not official. Yeah. This is a lot of drama going on. And we'll come back in a few weeks to get our 40-second date update with you and figure out where you are. with your dogs it's brook and jeffrey in the morning brook and jeffrey in the morning

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Now, for me and for I think everybody in the room, that was weirdly kind of sweet to hear that. But some people might say, though, it's a red flag that the person you're dating has multiple doggy mama drama and has already suggested adopting a third. Yeah, I was at Sweet with one. And then when we got to two, I'm like, dude, what are you doing? Right. I mean, eventually her nights are going to be fully booked up visiting all these baby doggies, not to mention having to go over for their birthdays and their piano recitals. And I really think that he has kind of an inflated idea of how important he is to the dog.

Yeah, with his visitations once a week. Yeah, he'd play once a week with it. So if she decides to stick with it, it's going to be quite a commitment from her. I'm not sure if she really realizes. what she's signing up for you. I guarantee you they're going to email us back in three months and they're going to have a dog together and then another six months and then they're going to be broken up. It's a cycle. This man's in a cycle. And we didn't even ask him about cats. Yeah. We know if he has other animals. Or grand baby dogs that he has to deal with too.

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