Brooke and Jeffrey: Second Date Update - 2nd Date Update PODCAST: Nervous Guy

Episode Date: February 20, 2019

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Ugh, we're so done with New Year, New You. This year, it's more you on Bumble. More of you shamelessly sending playlists, especially that one filled with show tunes. More of you finding Gemini's because you know you always like them. More of you dating with intention because you know what you want. And you know what? We love that for you. Someone else will too. Be more you this year and find them on Bumble.

Joel, the holidays are a blast, but the financial hangover, that can be a huge bummer. If you are out there and you're dreading the new statement email that reveals the massive balance that you may have racked up, well, you could use our help. That's right. I'm Joel. And I am Matt. And we're from the How To Money podcast. Our show is all about helping you make sense of your personal finances so you can ditch your pesky credit card debt once and for all, make real progress on other crucial financial goals that you've got, and just feel more in control of your money in general. You know it. For money advice without the judgment and jargon, Listen to How to Money on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts.

Hi, I'm Ed Zitron, host of the Better Offline podcast. And this January, we're going to go on the road to beautiful Las Vegas, Nevada, to cover the Consumer Electronics Show, tech's biggest conference. Better Offline CES coverage won't be the usual rundown of the hottest gadgets or biggest trends, but an unvarnished look at what the tech industry plans to sell or do to you in 2025.

I'll be joined by David Roth of Defector and the writer Edward Ongueso Jr. With guest appearances from Behind the Bastards' Robert Evans, It Could Happen Here's Gare Davis, and a few surprise guests throughout the show. Listen to Better Offline on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever else you get your podcasts from. The guy on the phone for a second date update today feels like he was the victim of a pity date. You know what that is? Where somebody goes out with you just because they know that you like them a lot, so they throw you a bone and then never call you again.

That's what he's worried about. His name is Dave. Dave, I've been out on a lot of pity dates in my day. A lot of them. Yeah, it's usually me taking pity on the girl. Yeah, right. You know, sure, fine. All right. If you keep asking, I guess I'll go out with you. So I've never been in your shoes, Dave. But first of all, tell us a little bit about the girl that you went out with. What's her name? So her name is Emma. Okay. And we worked together for three years, and I always liked her. You know, she's got freckles and red hair.

She's just so cute. So the whole time, we got along great. Yeah, did you guys flirt at work? I thought we did. You feel like she likes you? Well, she's like she's no longer here so i mean oh she doesn't work with you so after your date she quit well she had put yeah i guess i mean she put in what do you okay i'm very confused now dave all right your email said that she was a co-worker.

You guys work together. Yeah, but, I mean, she found another job. She said she was looking for another better job. Okay. And this is before your date or after your date? She found a job before our date, but she left, like, right after our date. Okay. All right.

That was just the confusing part. So did you feel like you guys were flirty at work when she was there? I did, yes. You did? Okay. Why did it take you three years to work up enough courage to ask her out? Well, I don't know because she's not the, like, one-night-stand kind of girl. You know, she's somebody that I really liked and thought it could go, I don't know, progress more. Let me ask you a question, Dave.

I sound nervous. Yeah. You've got a lot of one-night-stand girls in your life, because I can't picture you really hooking up a lot of one-night-stands, man. I'm not trying to be mean. No. You know, that's not, that's just not me. Okay.

All right. So what did you guys do on your date? Well, first of all, how did you finally get up the courage to ask her out then? Well, it was her last day, and she was in the break room. So I just, it's now or never. So I approached her, and I told her that I know we've been friends for this long, but I've liked you since the moment I saw you, and I'd hate to have you leave without me doing this. So, you know, I know I would regret it if I didn't do it.

So I said, will you go out to dinner with me tonight? Did you say it exactly like that? Will you go out to dinner with me tonight? Or was it a little smoother than that, Dave? I guess it was a little like that. But that's okay. I mean, if you gave her all that other information about how you wanted to ask her out since day one, what was her reaction? I mean,

did she seem taken aback or was she kind of like, aw? Uh, I guess a little of both. That's why, uh, I don't know if it was pity or if it was like she was swept off her feet sort of thing. She probably thought it was endearing. If you're nervous, it shows you're being genuine. But you can't tell if she was really interested or if she was like, oh, that's sweet.

I'll go out with him. Yeah, because now, I mean, the reason I thought now that it was a pity date is because, you know, we had a great time. We all had a drink or two. But then after, you know, she went to hang out with her friends. She was meeting up with some friends. And then, like, every time I try to talk to her, she says she's too busy at work. Okay. So at the end of the date she didn't invite

you along to go meet her friends she just left yeah did you get a kiss or anything like that on the cheek she's texted you back though that's nice because normally people just ignore someone if they don't want to see him again oh yeah okay and what and you said that she what did she said to you well she said she's too busy right now. Okay. That's a pretty standard blow-off statement right there. Dave, you've been blown off, basically. What exactly are you hoping to get out of the second date update?

This is a girl that I've liked her for three years. So first I want to know if it's a pretty date. And if not, I want to see where this can go. Okay, you think you can convince her to go out with you again? Yeah, I do. If she knows how much I like her. All right, well, we're going to play a song, come back, call her, and get your second date update, okay? Okay.

All right, man. Hang on. What are you doing over there, Dave? I just fall down. What are you doing over there, Dave? I just fall down. Yeah. What are you doing? Just a little nervous. Okay.

You're nervous, so what are you doing? Yeah, it sounds like you're shoveling papers. Sometimes I get a little lightheaded. I'm just breathing. All right. Hey, man. All right Alright So hang out, breathe for like 4 minutes And then we'll be back and do your second date update Okay? Alright cool thanks

Alright hang on You know normally At the beginning of these second date updates I try to say something funny to make everybody laugh. But today, I'm just hoping Dave is still alive. Dave, are you there? Yeah. All right.

If you missed the first part of the second date update, Dave is on the phone. He wants us to call this girl named Emma. She's a co-worker, or she was a co-worker. He asked her out the last couple days before she was leaving because he had a crush on her forever. They went out. She's been blowing him off ever since. But the interesting part was when we finished up talking to Dave about his date, you were all over the place, man.

Like, you sounded like you were about ready to pass out. Are you doing okay? Yeah, I'm just a little nervous. Is this normal for you? Uh, I guess. Is anything normal for you, Dave? Just to let you know, Dave, we do have paramedics standing by. I've already alerted them, so if you pass out, you'll be okay.

Okay. Thank you. Alright, man. Well, I'm going to dial the phone number right now and ask her about your date, okay? Dave. You good? Yeah, yeah, go.

No, no, he said go. I'm going right now because I don't want to lose Dave. Yeah. You good? Yeah, yeah, go. No, no, he said go. I'm going right now because I don't want to lose Dave. Oh, dude. Hello? Hi, I was looking for Emma. This is Emma. Emma, how are you? This is Jubal from Brick and Jubal in the Morning.

Okay. Okay. Okay. Have you ever heard a second date update before? No. I'm not really in the car at that time, so... Okay. No, that's cool. It's all good.

Well, you are about to be the star of a second date update, so that's exciting. What does that mean? That means that you recently went out on a date with one of our listeners, and he liked you a lot. So he wanted me to call you, see if I could get you on the phone, and ask why you've been blowing him off since you guys went out. Okay, who told you that? His name is Dave. Oh. You know Dave. You used to work with Dave.

We've talked to him, and he's a very nice guy. But he's just curious if he did something wrong on your date, and that's why you've been kind of blowing him off, giving him the busy excuse. He's a really nice guy, but I really didn't even know we were going out on a date. Oh, did you think it was a friendship thing? Well, yeah, because we worked together for many years.

He's always so sweet to me. He'd always like bring me coffee from the break room. And when I told him I was leaving, he looked really upset. And so I thought we'd like, you know, hang out as coworkers. And so I was leaving, you know, how people do that when people leave a job. Yeah, for sure. And I thought that's what he meant. And I thought that's what we were doing until like the day of and he was insisting on picking me up which was like a red flag where I was like oh no I think he thinks this is a date let me ask you a question Emma when we talked to Dave he said he had a crush on you the whole time he was working with you did you know that he had a crush on you or was that when

it became obvious I mean I could tell you know but I still thought it was just like a friendly, like we don't have that kind of romantic vibe at all as far as I could see, even though he had a crush on me. Didn't he tell you though, when he asked you out, I've been wanting to do this since the day I saw you? He was kind of like mumbling. I really wasn't sure. Sometimes it's hard to understand what he's talking about.

But like, I really thought it was a hangout until like he insisted on picking me up at my house and then he showed up with like a dozen red roses and so I was like, oh no he definitely thought it was a date. Still could have been a work hangout at that point. I give all of my co-workers roses

all the time. Jose loves it. So at that point you knew it was more than just a co-worker hangout. 100% knew. Like, again, he is a really sweet person and he was always,

he was like actually the nicest to me at my job out of anyone for the whole time I worked there. He sounds like a really nice guy.

Yeah, he does. We've talked to him a little bit about your date that you don't think it should have been a date, but did you enjoy it? It was so awkward you guys it was like he had the waitress put his plate on the same side of me so instead of

standing across like two regular people he sat right next to me all right some people do that though i know him from being a co-worker and he's always kind of like mumbly and nervous and awkward but i wanted to let him down easy kind of thing, you know, without hurting his feelings. But, like, I've never seen him so nervous. Probably because he likes you. Yeah. I guess so.

I guess so. I mean, like, if you were to step back and try to see him in a romantic light, could you? He's not the kind of guy I am attracted to generally. I bet you he's a stallion in the bedroom, Emma. You ever think about that? No. No, I don't think so.

Well, would you be willing to at least tell him the reason why you've been kind of blowing him off instead of just saying that you're busy, just let him know, hey, you're not really my type? I think that would be really awkward because... I do too, Emma, and that's why I want to make it happen because Dave is actually on the phone listening right now. No, are you serious?

Yep. Dave, you there? Hey. Hey, man. How you feeling? Good, I guess. Why don't you say hi to Emma? Hey, Emma Hey Emma Hi Dave

Did you hear that Yeah I'm really sorry And I just know that there is a girl out there For you cause you are a really nice guy And um I just Am not that girl for you

You know but you are I really liked working with you all that time, and I don't want you to get your feelings hurt, you know? I know I am a little nervous at first, but I mean, I could become the man you want me to be. Yeah, I don't think so, Dave. I mean, there's a lot of girls out there you know and i think you should keep trying you know to maybe find someone that's a better fit for you dave are you okay man

yeah do you feel like she's making the wrong decision here well yeah you know i wouldn't i wouldn't do this if i didn't really like like her and emma i go out on one more date with me i will i promised you i won't be awkward like you said dave i did have a nice time on our date and i think we really do get along it's just that you're so nervous and you just seem to have so many anxieties that I'm not sure. Yeah, I know. I'm nervous, but this is just because I care about something so much that, you know, this comes up. But, you know, we always got along great didn't we i mean we did get along really well and you are really i mean you are a good looking guy really you think i'm really good looking well yeah i mean you are you're just you know a little nervous but you are good looking you You have a really handsome face.

See, Dave, you hear that? You're sexy. Yeah. That's the way I feel when a girl calls me good looking too, man. Dave, what do you keep doing? I'm just breathing. Emma, what do you think? I don't know. I mean...

Hold on a second. Dave. Dave. Yeah. What are you doing, dude? You're making so much noise. I'll stop. I'll stop.

What are you doing, though? Why are you making so much noise? It'll stop. I'll stop. What are you doing, though? Like, why are you making so much noise? It's a paper bag. You're breathing into a paper bag? Yeah. Okay.

But here, I'll put it down. Yeah, put the paper bag down for a second if you can, all right? Emma, would you like to go out on a second date with Dave? I will pay for it.

Give him one more shot. He sounds like a great guy. He'll leave the paper bag at home so he won't be making so much noise. I mean, I would say this about all the guys I've ever dated. Dave is definitely probably the sweetest and most caring and considerate and nicest. Like he may not be polished and he's a little bit rough around the edges

you know but I know he would go to the ends of the earth for me you know so. Well then why not go out with him again? The ends of the earth for you? Jesus. That sounds like somebody I'd want to spend some time with. Yeah I would. That sounds like somebody I'd want to spend some time with. Yeah, I would.

I really like you. Okay. I will go out on a date with you, Dave. There you go. Congratulations, Dave. Dave. Yeah.

Congratulations. You got a second date. Oof. You're a second date. Oof. You going to be okay? Oof. Oh, Dave. Dave, are you breathing into the bag again, Dave? Well, now it's from excitement, man.

Okay. All right, then keep breathing into the bag, then. Broken Jubal in the morning. Text in at 78592 says, this girl's going to kill Dave. Oh, poor Dave. Not on purpose, on accident, if you heard today's second date update. Dave wanted to call this girl named Emma. They worked together for a few years, and he finally got up the courage to ask her out.

And when we called Emma, she said she didn't even realize their date was an actual date. And you have to hear the second date update because Dave's a very nervous guy, hyperventilating the whole time. She thought he was really sweet but never really saw him in a romantic light. That's why she didn't realize it was a date. Poor guy. Everybody wants Dave to smoke some weed.

They're like, Dave, you need to chill out, man. Everybody's saying he should smoke a little weed, relax a little bit, because he's very high strung and very nervous. He admitted that he was shy, but he swore he could step up his game on a second date and impress her

and she said yes. She's going to give it a try and hopefully Dave doesn't pass out and die on his date. Wish him luck though. I just want to be in the restaurant where they have their next date

just so I can watch from afar. I want to see if he still has his paper bag on him. I want to be there so I can call the emergency people, the MTs, when he passes out. Safety reasons as well. Remember, if you want to do a second date has his paper bag on him. I want to be there so I can call the emergency people, the MTs. Oh, right. When he passes out.

Safety reasons as well. Remember, if you want to do a second date update, all you have to do is email the show, and we will call the person who didn't call you back. It's Brook and Jubal in the morning. Ugh, we're so done with New Year, New You. This year, it's more you on Bumble. More of you shamelessly sending playlists, especially that one filled with show tunes. More of you finding Gemini's because

you know you always like them. More of you dating with intention because you know what you want. And you know what? We love that for you. Someone else will too. Be more you this year and find them on Bumble. Joel, the holidays are a blast, but the financial hangover, that can be a huge bummer.

If you are out there and you're dreading the new statement email that reveals the massive balance that you may have racked up, well, you could use our help. That's right. I'm Joel. And I am Matt. And we're from the How To Money podcast. Our show is all about helping you make sense of your personal finances so you can ditch your pesky credit card debt once and for all, make real progress on other crucial financial goals that you've got, and just feel more in control of your money in general. You know it. For money advice without the judgment and jargon, listen to How to Money on the iHeart

Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Hi, I'm Ed Zitron, host of the Better Offline Podcast. And this January, we're going to go on the road to beautiful Las Vegas, Nevada to cover get your podcasts. sell or do to you in 2025. I'll be joined by David Roth at Defector and the writer Edward Ongueso Jr. With guest appearances from Behind the Bastards, Robert Evans, It Could Happen Here's Gare Davis, and a few surprise guests throughout the show. Listen to Better Offline on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever else you get your podcasts from.