Brooke and Jeffrey: Second Date Update - 2nd Date Update PODCAST: What Are You Hiding

Episode Date: February 1, 2019

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Second date update. You know, every once in a while we get a request in to do a second date update that really isn't so much about getting a second date, but they're just really angry and want to tell the person they're an a-hole. And I think that's what we've got today. It's from Samantha. She knows that she's not getting a call back, but now she's angry about it and wants to call the guy.

So I don't know if she actually wants another date or just to call this guy out on the air, but we'll find out. What's up, Samantha? How are you? Hi. I am mad, but I still do like him. Okay. Yeah, you don't sound mad at all. You sound like you can't stop laughing at the situation. No, I just think that's funny that people do that because they do. Oh, okay. So you do want to call this

guy to see if he'll go out with you again? Yeah, I want to give him another chance. Like, if he has a good reason, you know, like if something happened, you know, but... But when I read your email, it looked more like you just wanted to tell him he's an a-hole. Yeah, I mean, like, I am really mad at him, but I do want to go out with him again. Okay. This is a weird one. Well, before we get into it, why don't you tell us a little bit about him? What's his name? His name is Nick. Nick, okay. And where did you meet Nick?

We met online on a dating app. And we talked for like a week or so and decided to meet up. So we got drinks at a bar. And we got along really well. We were laughing and chatting and having a good time. And he disappeared for a little bit. I mean, he said he had to go to the restroom, but it took a little while.

Wait, but how long was a little while? It was like maybe 15 minutes. That's a while. Yeah. Yeah. But he came back and he said he had a surprise for me. Hopefully they didn't bring you back a souvenir from the bathroom. It was like a long trip.

Here, honey, here's a urinal cake. Yeah. I was definitely confused. I was like confused i was like okay all right what is it and he led me over to the bathroom and he showed me where he put his initials like in the wall like with a pocket knife and mine were under it oh romantic carved your initials in the wall by the bathroom that's sweet what did you think of that was that funny to you or i mean it was silly but i just thought it was really sweet you know like and romantic i don't know i'd never had anyone do something like that for me so oh it works yeah it did okay so when

did you get mad at him well we continued to have fun like i kissed him and kind of like you know started making out at the bar and you know things are going really well and he was like i kissed him and kind of like you know started making out at the bar and you know things are going really well and he was like i don't know about you but if i have a good date that i'm really interested in i don't really want to see anyone else after that so he was asking you to be exclusive right there on your first date wow yeah and you know i kind of felt the same way i was like yeah i really like this guy might as well see where it goes see it's only weird if people aren't on the same page. But it sounds like you were into it, like the initials and exclusivity.

Yeah, we had a really great time. And so he made a suggestion to take down our dating profiles. So I agreed to do it. And we did it, like, right then and there. Like, we both pulled our phones out and deleted it. Goodbye, Tinder. Yeah, exactly. All right. You know, we left in an Uber or whatever. there like we both pulled our phones out and deleted it goodbye tinder yeah exactly all right you know we left in an uber or whatever and he took me home and i didn't hear a phone for like

two days so i texted him was kind of like hey cutie how are you you know and then a week went by and i i still didn't hear from him did he get i mean technically he's your new boyfriend from the description of the date. Yeah, pretty much. I mean, basically you guys are like, let's get off the dating world. Let's get out of the dating world and just date each other. Exactly. Do you think he was just freaking out? Like, oh my God, I was drunk.

I shouldn't have done that. I went too fast. I don't think he was drunk. We only had like two drinks at that moment. Huh. Yeah. So I don't know. I'm just like, it's making me mad because like he's ditching me, obviously.

And I checked to see if his profile was there and he put it back up. Oh, wow. Okay. So no discussion about it. But he did put his dating profile back online. Yeah. So obviously, that's why I'm mad. And I'm pissed he's a liar. And I want to know what his deal is. That's why you're mad. Was he trying to like sleep with you that night and you turned him down or something i'm just no no i mean he was like you know i'll take you home because we realized we were kind of along the same way and i didn't want to sleep with him right off the bat like that yeah and he respected it he was like no i agree let's let's wait a little bit and i was like okay i just don't understand all the like all the talk on his part of wanting to be exclusive and take down your profiles.

What was his motive, do you think? I don't know. I need your help to figure that out because at this point, I feel like he's like a two-faced jerk. So I don't know what's going on. Okay, so first you want to call him and tell him he's a two-faced jerk, and then you want to ask if he'll go out with you again. Yes, exactly. All right, perfect. Okay, we'll play a song and then come back

and you can call your boyfriend and ask him why he's on dating sites and then maybe ask him for a second date, okay? Okay, cool. All right, we'll do it right after this. Hang on.

Moving 92.5. Brooke and Jubal in the Mornings. Second date update. This might be the first second date update we've ever done with a boyfriend and a girlfriend. Seriously?

This could either end up in a breakup or marriage. Who knows how it could go. Either way, I can't wait to hear. If you're just joining us, Samantha is on the phone, and she wants to call a dude named Nick. They did go out on a first date to a bar. They met online. They had a great time, and even on that date decided to take down their dating profile so they could not have to date anybody else and just date each other.

To me, that sounds like they decided to be boyfriend and girlfriend. She says it wasn't that serious yet. Not official official. But they did take down their dating profile. Fast forward to a few days later after the date and she noticed his profile was back online and he's not responding to her. So now she's very angry at her boyfriend and wants to find out why. Boyfriend. So we're about to call him.

All right, Samantha, are you ready? Yes, I am ready. I didn't ask. Is your dating profile back up? Yeah, I put mine back up after I saw his was up. Oh, so he can see. Yeah, take that. Match with me again, okay?

So are you wanting to first yell at him and then ask him out? I mean, I just want to know why somebody would literally pretend like they wanted to be exclusive and then ignore somebody. It's just rude. Hopefully, you know, there's something to happen. I don't have to tell him how rude he is. Okay. I'll dial his phone number right now and see if we can figure it out, okay? Yeah.

All right, here we go. Hello? Hi, may I speak to Nick, please? Yeah, this is Nick. Hey, what's up, man? How are you? This is Jubal from Brook and Jubal in the Morning. Hi. Hi.

Good, Nick. Thank you. I appreciate it. You're from where? Brook and Jubal in the Morning. It's a radio show. Okay. Cool. So now that we got that out of the way, do you want to know why I'm calling? Yeah.

Perfect. Because I'd like to tell you. Good conversation, guys. Calling you today because we do a segment on our show called The Second Date Update. That's where if you go out on a date with somebody and then end up not calling them back after, they can email us to get you on the phone and figure out what happened. And we recently got an email about you from your girlfriend. I don't have a girlfriend.

That's what I said. Yeah, that's – I don't think so. I think you might have a girlfriend. I might not know it. Kind of. Who is this regarding? Her name is Samantha. Oh, okay.

Yeah, I think I understand who you're talking about. Okay, yeah. So Samantha told us about how you guys went on a date and had a good time at the bar, even took down your dating profiles, and then she tried to get a hold of you after and nothing. Yeah, well, that's because she's a liar, so. She's a liar? Yeah, she's a liar that can't be trusted.

Wow. What? Why? That feels like you came a long ways from what she described on your date to be awesome. Well, I don't know how much you know about our date, but I'll tell you. I'll tell you what I know. She said you guys went to the bar. You had a good time. You even carved your initials near the bathroom. Very sweet of you. Also, that's property damage. You could be in trouble. And then she said that you guys decided to take down your profile so you weren't dating anybody else. And you made out a little bit, and that's kind of the last year from you.

Which was your idea. Like you asked her not to date anyone else, that you guys should just date each other. Yeah. Things went so well, I really thought that we should focus on each other? Yeah, things went so well. I really thought that we should focus on each other and not really spend all our energy trying to make this thing work as opposed to trying to seek out other people. Okay. So why is she a liar now? Well, after our date, my roommate matched with her on another dating site. Oh, really? So she's just on multiple dating sites and that's why she's a liar?

Well, yeah. My roommate matched with her and then she messaged my roommate. Oh, so they actually started talking. Yeah, she messaged him first. What did she say, though? I don't want to get into it, but she's clearly trying to meet other guys online. And you're one of those weird guys that doesn't want

your girlfriend dating other people. Oh my gosh. I take it. trying to meet other guys online. And you're one of those weird guys that doesn't want your girlfriend dating other people. I take it. Yeah, if that makes me weird, then yeah. You've got to understand, I mean, like, despite you guys taking down the dating profile where you two met on, you only had one date together.

It's not like she was cheating on you. Right, but we made a I thought we were on the same page. You know, like we made a commitment to each other, and that included taking down our profiles, which she didn't do, and so she's a liar. Well, she didn't lie. She took away the one you asked.

Why not ask her about it? I didn't mean to. You know, she messaged my roommate. She's trying to meet other dudes, and I don't have time for someone like that. I'd like to ask her about it, and it's really convenient because she's actually on the other line listening and wants to talk to you. What? So, yeah, can we ask her about it? Wait, what?

She's here? Yes. Yeah, I think so. Samantha, are you still there? Yeah. Hi, Nick. Hi. Hi.

He does say it like that every time. Are you serious? That's what this is all about, why you're crying me? Are you serious? You messaged my freaking roommate. What do you want me to do? I'm not a liar. First off, I'm on multiple sites.

I deleted the one we were on, and I didn't even use those sites for dating. I used them for networking and meeting friends. Okay, that sounds a little fishy. The message you sent to my roommate was not networking. You were trying to meet up with him. You said, hey, smiley face. What business are you trying to discuss with my roommate? Okay, fine.

You only told me to take down the one profile that we met on, so I didn't take down the other one. I didn't know you were on so many. Congrats. But if you, like, were committed to me, you would take all of them down if you really felt strongly about what was going on between us. We went on one date. Like, you need to get over that.

Well, it went really well, and I was excited about it. Clearly, you were still window shopping for other dudes so okay well that just makes you sound really insecure so on one date with a girl and then you make your take on all of her profiles like you sound like a guy that would cry and like slash tires if you see a girl talking to another guy wow i didn't make you take down all your profiles obviously because you clearly used the ones you still had to network your way into my roommates' messages. Oh, my God. But, Nick, don't you think, I mean, that's just kind of like how modern dating works right now.

You don't go on one date and then just completely pull out of the dating game. Yeah. I didn't realize I was dating a modern dating expert. Why wouldn't you text me and say, why are you on another profile or something? Well, you showed your true colors. So that's it. I don't have time for someone like that. Wow.

I mean, it just sounds really weird that we went on one really great date and then talking to one other person on another profile for networking and stuff. You're going to get mad about that? You're not being honest, Samantha. All right? You need to be straightforward and honest right now. You're trying to network into my roommate's pants, okay? Okay, first of all, I told you I wanted to take things slow. I don't immediately do that.

I want to meet somebody first and get to know them. Yeah, I just didn't. You want to meet a lot of people. I got it, all right? I'm not interested in that. I just wanted to hang out with you, okay? I like you. Okay, well, what if I took down all the other stuff? I have two other ones.

The damage is done, okay? I mean, you can take down whatever you want, but that's your life. I'm not a part of that. Come on, Nick. Even if she takes down... Nick, would you go out on a second date with Samantha? We'll pay for it. If she takes down her other dating sites. No. Samantha, you're dumped, okay second date with Samantha? We'll pay for it. If she takes down her other dating sites. No. Samantha, you're dumped, okay? You're dumped?

Oh my god, you're so extreme, Nick. You can't dump me. You're not my boyfriend. I think that you dodged a bullet, Samantha. He does not sound like he's very good at compromising or forgiveness. Or communication. Yeah. Look, y'all can say whatever you want, but I was, at least I was honest.

Okay, I took down my one profile, I did what I said I would do, and Samantha was still slanking around, slouting in my roommate's DMs, trying to meet other people, so. Great, well, I don't want to date someone who f*** shames people. All of a sudden it's f*** shaming?

Yeah, he's mad that a girl is trying to date other people. All of a sudden it's shaming. Yeah, he's mad that a girl is trying to date other people. That's controlling. We made a commitment to each other and you betrayed that. So, like I said before, you're officially dumped. We're not together anymore.

I'm sorry, Samantha. You just got dumped. I know. I lost another boyfriend. Another one? Nick, you carved your initials at the bathroom at that bar. Are you going to go back and take those down? I already did, actually. What? Yeah.

I went back the night I found out. You went back to the bar the night you found out? The night you found out. I just replaced my initials with my roommate's because I figured, you know, he'll be with their next. Oh, my gosh. Case closed. Case closed.

Samantha's dumped. Nick, thank you for your time, and I'm sorry, no second date, Samantha. That's perfectly fine. You'll get through this, I think. Congratulations. For your information, Nick, all of my profiles are active, and for anyone who's hearing this, you can come find me because I'm actively looking. Oh, there you go. Not surprising. Brooke and Jubal in the morning. Got a text in at 78592

that says, I'm so sad I had to hear that breakup on the air. Brooke and Jubal in the morning. Talking about today's second date update, if you missed it, Samantha wanted to call this dude named Nick. They went out and had such a good date that they actually agreed to remove their dating profiles. And we got Nick on the phone and found out the reason that he wasn't calling her back was because Samantha only took down One of her dating profiles and actually started chatting with his roommate on another app She didn't take all of her stuff down and he thought she was a liar But she disagreed because he only specifically told her to take down one profile So she was like you didn't say take down all the dating profiles. Anyway, no second date for them.

They don't want to go out again. But maybe it'll work out with a roommate. Who knows? If you want to do a second date update, all you have to do is email the show and we will call the person who didn't call you back. Young Jeffrey's Song of the Week is coming up in just a few minutes at 810. It's Brooke and Jubal in the morning. Ugh, we're so done with new year, new you.

This year, it's more you on Bumble. More of you shamelessly sending playlists, especially that one filled with show tunes. More of you finding Gemini's because you know you always like them. More of you dating with intention because you know what you want. And you know what?

We love that for you. Someone else will too. Be more you this year and find them on Bumble. Joel, the holidays are a blast, but the financial hangover, that can be a huge bummer. If you are out there and you're dreading the new statement email that reveals the massive balance that you may have racked up,

well, you could use our help. That's right. I'm Joel. And I am Matt. And we're from the How To Money podcast. Our show is all about helping you make sense of your personal finances so you can ditch your pesky credit card debt once and for all, make real progress on other crucial financial goals that you've got, and just feel more in control of your money in general.

You know it. For money advice without the judgment and jargon, listen to How To Money on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. Hi, I'm Ed Zitron, host of the Better Offline podcast. And this January, we're going to go on the road to beautiful Las Vegas, Nevada to cover the Consumer Electronics Show, tech's biggest conference. Better Offline CES coverage won't be the usual rundown of the hottest gadgets or biggest trends, but an unvarnished look at what the tech industry plans to sell or do to you in 2025. I'll be joined by David Roth at Defector and the writer Edward Ongueso Jr.

With guest appearances from Behind the Bastards' Robert Evans, It Could Happen Here's Gare Davis, and a few surprise guests throughout the show. Listen to Better Offline on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever else you get your podcasts from.