Brooke and Jeffrey: Second Date Update - Awkward Tuesday: Change Him Back

Episode Date: December 2, 2025

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it's Brooke and Jeffrey and you have found the second date podcast today's really a lesson and the grass is not always greener my friends you know on the other side she wanted something before she fully thought it out yeah and it might be the first woman to ever change a man successfully well that's a very good point Alexis

all right what do we got in the comments Jazzaloo baby said I finally learned how to leave a rating and comment after listening for years I listened to y'all every day and one time I hugged Jose outside in the parking lot of a casino All right sounds fun

I love it I think I hugged Jose in a parking lot outside a casino before too like you do with Jose I love it Thanks for leaving your comments and figuring them out Yeah You know really yeah you're barely than never Yeah, your brand new awkward Tuesday starts right now. One of our listeners came on the show to complain about her boyfriend.

Oh, no. Saying he is super hot, super successful. Oh, wait a minute. And super put together. Okay, what? And I know what you're all thinking, but no, she's not dating me. You're all thinking it. The thing is, her boyfriend, it's kind of too perfect.

Oh. And she says it's all her. her fault. This sounds awful, Jeff. Because it's causing actual problems in their relationship. You're going to understand why she had no choice but to reach out and ask for help. Why do I want these problems suddenly? You'll hear it in your brand new Awkward Tuesday phone call.

Next. It's awkward. It's Tuesday. It's awkward Tuesday phone call. It's Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning. And I just want to ask my co-host, Brooke, real quick. Is it ever okay for a week? woman to try and change

a man. Uh-oh. I mean, I don't know if it's okay or not. It doesn't work. That's for sure. It's wasted energy. Oh, well, what if I told you one of our listeners tried it and it did work?

Brooke immediately wrong? Would she be on the phone with us? Well, if it worked. That's a fair question. I'm a firm believer in that women always know what's best for a guy. Yes, you do, Jeff. Okay.

You're a good guy. to all of life. And our listener, Alexandra, did the impossible. She changed her man and regrets it. Uh-oh. And she's coming to us for help. Alexandra, luckily you've come to the right place. Welcome to the show.

Thank you. He built him up. He's too good now. He's doing too many dishes and pulling too much laundry. Too productive. It's a hard life, I'm sure. But we don't know the details of your situation. Tell us what's going on with you and your guy.

So I've been dating my boyfriend. for like two years now. What's his name? Ted. Ted. Good old Ted. Okay. And I realized six months ago that he was getting like too comfortable in the

relationship like he wasn't working out anymore. He was dressing kind of sloppy and I was like, I have to do something here. That's not, you don't want a man to be comfortable ever. I always like to fatten my men up a little bit because I don't want them to be hotter than me. Same with me. I was both get fat and no one will always try to sneak some butter into my husband's meal. Yeah.

All right. And, I mean, it's not like you, I'm not saying like you weren't attracted to him anymore, but it's like he was becoming a different type of boyfriend than you wanted. Yeah, exactly. So I told him I had a special birthday planned for him, like a birthday gift, and I gave him a full makeover. So he used to cut his own hair. Oh, he did his own. That's resourceful, I would say. Yeah.

So you took him to like a nice barber? I got him like a real actual barber. I got him a spa treatment. I got him new clothes. I even got him like four sessions with a personal trainer. Oh, my God. This is actually very cool. It would be one thing if you said, hey, honey, you got to hit the gym.

But if you were like, here's a plethora of gifts to improve your life, I would love that. Wouldn't you feel, I mean, you would make you feel really taken care of. I would probably go to the gym. I don't know. It'd be a little bit insulted if I'm like, by the way, I set you up with a personal trainer. You're welcome. Jeff, have you ever watched a makeover show? Nobody's insulted ever.

Everybody's always excited about him. we should ask, how did Ted take it when you were basically showing him how to be a different person? I mean, he was fine. He was like, yeah, I'll do it. He was excited. He did it. And it was the worst possible thing that I could have ever done. Oh, no. Oh, no. Is he hooking up with a trainer? Well, he just, like, he looks really good. He's getting a lot of attention from a lot of people. He kind of just ran with it. So he's, like, buying himself more new clothes. He's working out on his own. Oh, God. What a track. I don't get it.

That was your whole goal, though. Yeah. He's independent. It sounds like he's confident. Like, isn't that the type of man you want to be with? Yeah, I just, I kind of need him to, like, tone it back and go back to being, like, sloppy. Like, maybe he can just do, like, sloppy weekends or, like, I don't know, he's even just being really nice on the weekends and going for runs at 6 a.m. on Saturdays. Like, we used to go to the bakery and get scones and coffee, and I miss that, and we can't do that anymore.

Oh, wow. Is he getting you up, too, to go on runs with him? Are you being forced to do? You're not like a fit couple now. No. No, God, no, absolutely not. Okay. He goes back and takes a shower.

No, I'm trying to get stoned. Yeah. Okay. Have you talked to him about this at all to this point? No. No, I don't even know how to tell him because it's like, it's so awkward that I accidentally created this. Like, how do I reverse what I just did?

Okay. Okay. Okay, so that's the advice that you're looking to get from us here is how do you get him to backtrack on the progress that he's made? Yes, and just be normal again. Yikes. That feels like it's going to backfire. I mean, if you're putting all this energy into making yourself what you think is a better person, and then your partner comes and says, ugh, don't like.

Well, maybe to take Brooks tactic and go a little sneaky with it, put some butter into his food and he's not looking. Cook with lard It's not that I don't like the new version of him I just need him to like Take his foot off the gas a little bit Okay It's like it's like if you renovated the kitchen of your house And it looks great

And then your husband's like Oh well let's also redo the living room And let's add in a pool And let's like Buy a whole other second house All good things though Well I know But it's like he's taking the project too far now

Like I want a pool I mean sure Maybe it was a bad metaphor But I'm saying he's gone farther than what she wanted But in the other, do we need to talk, like, are you maybe just like a little insecure at this point? No, I just want to get my coffee and my scones on the weekend. Okay, good. I just had to ask.

I understand. That was like, it sounds like one of the precious moments of your guys' relationship or those, like, lazy Sunday morning. Yeah. And they just aren't happening anymore. And we're going to try to bring those back for you when we give you solid advice. Yay, scones. Sorry, I got excited. Is that what we're going to get?

Yeah. We'll figure out a way to get your boy. friend Ted to go back to his old ways. Just a little bit. Just a little bit. Yes. We made ten steps forward. We need to take two steps back. There it is. Sure. When we do your awkward Tuesday phone call right after this. It's awkward. It's Tuesday.

It's awkward Tuesday phone call. They say you can't change a man. Well, they were wrong. And our listener, Alexandra, is living proof. Because after a couple years together, she wanted to help her boyfriend, Ted, just lock it up a little bit. Yeah, that's a good way to say it. You know, get in a better shape, take care of himself a little more. So she set him up with a haircut, spa treatments, a few sessions with a personal trainer.

Yep. And now she regrets it. Oh, no. Sort of, sort of. Because she's happy that he's making positive changes, but her feeling is maybe he's taken this to the extreme. To the point he's jogging at 6 a.m. every Saturday. Who likes a person like that, right?

I like running and even I don't like that. So that's why Alexandra wants our help on how to convince her boyfriend to just balance out his new persona a little bit with the old sloppy one she fell in love with. So just needs a little balance. Is it possible?

We don't know, but we're going to try to give her a little bit of advice. Brooke, what do you think? Okay, I think you need to make him a little jealous of what you're doing. What do you mean? Well, I mean, I think that you tell him that the guys at work have started this brunch boys club, and you are finally invited. And since he's busy on a run every Saturday morning and can't get scones with you, you might as well join the hotties from work for their bottomless mimosas. Oh, okay.

Then he'll want to stay home and snuggle you and get you scones again. I was kind of sold on brunch boys. I know I'm interested in that. I want to join the group. I don't know. But what do you think, Alexandra? You know what? I'm desperate. I'll go with anything at this point. I'm going to take that as a compliment for my advice. Right. Boys, it is.

I love a little desperation on the show, Jose. Any advice for her? Well, if you think about it, six months ago when you asked him to change, he was open to it. And that's really rare with guys. So that's why you just have to feel positive in this conversation. Because you're asking him to just slightly change. You know what I mean? Which is a way easier to convo than the first one. So you just wanted to openly ask.

ask. Yeah, be confident. If he received the first one, well, he'll receive this one, great. Okay, maybe if you bring up the first change. Yeah. And the first one came with like hundreds dollars worth of stuff. So maybe, do that you go. Okay. Just like do a little less and that's it. Yeah. So, Alexandra, this advice comes with a little bit more scones, maybe. Do you think, maybe you could toss that in there? Uh, yeah, just asking him to change. Yeah. Well, and bringing up how much he has changed the first time you asked and how proud you are of him. Did she openly ask? I know she kind of sneakily got up to.

You forced him, but that's okay. Yeah, I mean, I can definitely bring up his change because it is dramatic, but I am proud of him. Okay. Yeah. She just buy him tickets to like an anti-fitness camp. You know what I mean? You need to put it on weight.

Yeah, they'll force you to eat cakes for every meal. All right. That'll be our backup plan, plan C. I want to go to that camp. Yeah. It's not for you. Cake camp. Yeah.

That sounds so fun. It's right after the brunch boys meet. Oh, my gosh. Oh, this is great. We gave you all the advice that we have. You can choose to use as much of it as you want or none of it. It's up to you, but I'm going to dial your boyfriend's number, let you make your awkward call here. Good luck.

Thank you. All right. Here we go. Hello? Hey, babe. Sorry. It's who is? What?

It's me. Hi. Oh, sorry, your phone cut out. And I don't know, you're not calling from your number. What's going on? Oh, that's weird. I don't know. What do you have to?

I am at the moment making lunch and getting ready for my afternoon jog. You're going for a run again? Didn't you go this morning? So I've been reading something online that says you can kind of do shorter runs more often. to kind of boost your endurance on experimenting with that this week. Oh, no. Wow, okay.

You're really going for it with this health kick, huh? Yeah, yeah. I mean, you got me started on something that has really, it's changed my life, you know, in the best way. Oh. And you have worked so hard, and I am so proud of you, and you are doing so good. but

what if you just did like the same but like less I don't get it like instead of two runs a day maybe like two runs a week or like two runs a month you know stuff like that maybe what's what's going on

what is this what you're just always so busy with this health thing like Do you even remember that we used to have scones? Like, do you know what that tastes like still? Did you forget? Like, they were so buttery and they had, like, blueberries and chocolate chips. And, like, they were warm and you put jam on them. Like, do you know that?

Like, did you forget? I haven't forgotten, but, I mean, the way you just described, that sounds kind of awful at this point. Yeah, the blueberries are organic. Like, get over it. Oh. Oh, I feel like I've kind of hit a stride in this. So a new, less butter, more vegetables part of my life.

You know, they say, like, look, good, feel good. And, man, I feel real good. I mean, I'm, like, giving compliments from people, you know, like even your sister said I look really cute. Oh. Wait, what? When we were at your cousins with a baby shower, and we texted me afterwards and said,

it was like nice to meet me, and I looked really cute. No, she did not. Oh, she did, yeah. No, she, no, she did not. She never said that to anyone. What are you talking about here? She never says anybody's attractive, nobody? No, nobody.

Like, she is up to something. Are you serious? What's going on? You don't know her like I know her, okay? In high school, they called her the Medusa of Men. Like, you looked at her once, and you're done. Done how? What?

What is going on? What was that? That's a sound effect that we played because you're on the radio right now, Ted. Why? We're trying to save you from the Medusa of men, apparently. I guess. That wasn't the plan, though.

That's a real thing. She wants you, Ted. Slow down. Yeah, you're jumping to a lot of conclusions here, Alexandra. First, we need to tell Ted that this is a segment we do. It's called an awkward Tuesday phone call. That doesn't matter, okay? It matters that he's gotten too hot

and he knows it and she knows it. Wait, do you really think your sister's trying to steal your man? Why would she text him and not have me on the thread and then tell him that he's cute? I have a question. Why are we on the radio?

You kind of set yourself up for it. Do you want me to explain it, Alexandra, or do you want to tell him? You can tell him. It's fun. It's like a big group chat. Yeah. So, Alexandra reached out to us because, first of all, she is so proud of you on the progress that you've made in the last six months in the lifestyle changes. Like, obviously, you're looking good and everybody's noticing. Thank you.

She does, though, miss a little bit of your relationship before when you used to, like she said, go get scones together and... The relaxed part of your relationship is missing. You may have over indexed just like a touch. For her. But, I mean, isn't it better to have... avoid the processed carbs and all that crap. You know, but it's like everything in moderation, right? Like a little bit here, a little bit there.

Yeah. So, I don't know what I said. You want me to go back to the way I was? I mean, a little bit because I'm getting asked out by these people called, like, the brunch boys, and I don't think you want me to go out with them. You're doing it now. Brunch boys, Medusa. Are these real things?

She just wants you to hang out. on a Saturday morning and be lazy with her for a little bit. She won't you not be so serious about the working out all the time. Apparently she also doesn't want you to text her sister. Yeah. I'm not trying to be like the Poseid and a do anything over here. Whoa.

Greek mythology went too far on that one. Oh, she can make up words and he can't. Yeah, what the hell, man? Well, what on the radio is all? Yeah. Have we accomplished anything here? Like, where are we at? I just want to hang out and have a scone without veggies

on the side. And without her sister present, anywhere nearby. Yes. I will come home. We will block your sister on all of the social media. Oh, we will. I will eat pastry with you and enjoy the heck out of it. Okay.

Oh, wow. Well, we set out trying to find the healthy balance in the life that you were going towards and the life that you had. Alexandra, do you feel like we found it? I think we're good, yeah. But other problems may have arisen. Can I just say, you have a really awesome boyfriend. Yeah, you sound like a great dude, bro.

Oh, no. Brooke's trying to slide in. Hurry, hang up. Hang up. She better not. Uh-oh. I'm trying to make you realize. Medusa of Men Part 2.

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Don't you think? Yeah. I think we need to start it if it doesn't exist. Can I be invited to? Absolutely not. No. Only the hot guys of the studio get in. Brooke, you gave the best advice you've given in years.

I did? What? Yeah. The brunch boys. Oh. Okay. That was amazing. It didn't help them at all, but it sounds like they didn't need it anyway.

They're one of those couples that actually listens to each other and can compromise. Plus, they're getting scones together. I mean, it's pretty much perfect. I think they just called to be on the phone and brag about themselves too. How good they are. He seemed humble though. That was the gross thing, too. Yeah.

Although I do picture him at the bakery secretly spitting out his chocolate scone into his napkin underneath the table. He's not going to actually like eating it. No, he's not. Oh, man. But you know what actually makes every relationship better? Is hitting subscribe wherever you listen to this podcast. Wow, that's how you get a perfect relationship. Yep, happy 20 years with whoever you're dating as soon as you hit that button.

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