Brooke and Jeffrey: Second Date Update - Awkward Tuesday: Kids Party Problem

Episode Date: July 8, 2025

After something went awry at a kid’s birthday party ONE YEAR AGO something is STILL causing a rift… and we’re being asked to settle it with a brand new Awkward Tuesday Phone Call!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Hey, today is proof that we're not always about just relationship drama. Oh, we have other drama. Yeah, brother-sister drama. Yay! Fiddly drama. That's right. Welcome to the podcast. Of course, it's Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning,

and you have found the Second Date podcast. Yeah. But today, it's Tuesday, which means we've got your awkward Tuesday phone call coming up. It's brand new. We think you're going to love it. But we'd love to start. How's your voice, by the way, today? Better, right?

Oh, that sounds pretty good. I'd say you sound 95% Alexis. Yay! That's what I thought, too. We think you're gonna love it, but we'd love to start. How's your voice by the way today better, right? Pretty good. I'd say you sound 95% Alexis. Yeah Like a 70 year old man like a 20 year old I saw one from Isaac who said why do I feel like Jeffrey wears a suit whenever he's talking. He does give that air, doesn't he? Yeah, I can see that. Which is funny because he talks like he wears a suit. But he dresses the opposite of a suit. I think he has four shirts.

I think that's all he owns and one hat. There's always a hole in him too. Yes, always. Yeah, very fancy, that man. We're just lucky he knows how to dress himself. That's true, that's true. All right, we're gonna get your brand new Aqua Tuesday phone call started right now.

It's Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning and we've dealt with family drama on this show before. Yeah, we have. Just last month I volunteered to give Alexis' younger brother the birds and the bees talk. I love that, dude. And now- He's in high school now. He probably already knows, Jeff.

Well, now he just calls me dad what? We really got close after that conversation We understand awkward family dynamics clearly and we're dealing with one today After something didn't go so right at a children's birthday party a year ago It was so bad that it's still causing a rift in the family that we're being asked to settle today. Oh, I get what you're- I'm probably gonna have to get ready to explain how certain things work, but you'll find out what happened in your brand new awkward Tuesday phone call right after this.

It's awkward. It's Tuesday. It's awkward Tuesday phone call. Few months ago, you all might remember we did an awkward call for one of our listeners who needed help asking the best man at her wedding to politely back out. Because they used to date and her fiance wasn't aware of that past relationship. Yes.

That's right. She just didn't want to be distracted. She wanted to tell us. Right. So we called the guy. Eventually they worked it out. But now fast forward to today and guess who's emailed the show asking for our assistance. Yay!

Does that mean we get an update on the wedding? Did the wedding happen? No, we're not going back. He has a new problem that he wants to deal with. Oh wait, he has a new problem that he wants to deal with The best man Brad has called in for help with a different situation in an awkward call Brad. Welcome back to the show, man Hey, thank you. Yeah, you guys kind of surprised me on that last one. So I figured you know what? It could probably be helpful on this situation Yeah, you were kind of the victim of the last awkward Tuesday and now you're more of the protagonist here

I hope so. I don't really know what's going on. I'm super confused He's not sure what protagonist means brook. So you gotta yeah, you're the person who's calling needing help. Thank you Yeah, character energy. That's what I'm saying You're the main character of this awkward Tuesday phone call. So what's the situation that you're dealing with? character of this awkward Tuesday phone call. So what's the situation that you're dealing with? So this is a little more tame than last time for sure, but I'm just having an issue with my sister Jenna right now. Quick backstory, I guess. I'm divorced. I have two kids, two boys, four and six. I love them. They're awesome. Hang out with them all the time. They're my buddies. Oh, that's awesome.

Yeah. You have to say that though. Pretty much. That must be so great being a dad. I believe it. Just in case the courts listen to you. Yeah. I love him still. I swear. I'm kidding.

It also has to do with the situation. So like, I found out my sister's having a birthday party for her daughter at her house. But like, my mom's the one that told me about it. She's just like mentioning it, like obviously, like I was going, but I didn't get any invitation about it. I didn that told me about it. She's just like mentioning it, like obviously like I was going, but I didn't get any invitation about it. I didn't hear anything about it.

Are you sure? Because my husband's always like, I didn't see that birthday invite. I'm like, yes, that's what I'm saying. So I figured she's my sister. She sucks at communicating anyway. So like I texted her. I didn't like out, like, say it, but I was hinting at it. I was dropping some huge hints and she didn't say anything, which made it even more obvious.

What? She's like, you feel like you weren't invited to the party on purpose. I feel like I know the reason. And that's what's so upsetting about it. Really? There's a reason. So like, she's probably upset because last time there was like any like birthday event in our family like I brought my kids and they were rowdy I want to say. Oh couple of boys. I mean yeah they were loud yes they were knocking everything over yes they have to scratch their trucks on everything and whatever they is they do. Like my six year old I I don't get it. He acts like the four year old.

He's throwing tantrums because he didn't win a game. He's like screaming how he wants to be the rotten egg. Like it doesn't even make sense. And then my four year old is just pouring candy on the floor and then eating it off the floor. Your kid is doing that? Both of my kids are doing both of those. Well candy does taste better when you eat it off the floor.

Brooke's been there. So you're saying you think your sister isn't inviting your kids to the birthday party because they're so misbehaved? Yeah. And I mean, like, maybe I'm making it sound like it's not like they were like lighting things on fire or anything. Like, God forbid. That's your boundary. They weren't old enough.

No, obviously, I know they're misbehaving and like, I know I've had to talk to them and stuff about that. It's hard to corral to boys when they're running around by yourself, believe me. But they're kids and they're family. Really, you're gonna exclude them because they were bad ones. What do you think she'd tell you that,

sibling to sibling? But I think that's why. I don't have kids, but when you see bad kids, you tend to blame the parents. Yeah, but if it's your family, you just have to accept. No matter what the behavior is. So wait, because this is their cousin's birthday, right?

That they're not getting invited to. That's what I'm saying. I want them to see their cousin. I want them to be able to hang out. I just need help convincing changing your mind, I think. Okay. You're not going to do the thing where you just show up uninvited and crash the party like a lot of family members would do? I kind of like that. That's such a little brotherly move, isn't it? I want to. They have a pool. Like, it'd be really nice.

Yeah. Okay. You want to do the polite thing and actually, it sounds like call your sister and ask permission to bring your children. Yes. I would like to squash the beef, as we would say. Okay. I feel like that's a mature move. Like actually talk about it in a family instead of just everybody talking behind each other's backs. You tell your mom, you tell your mom.

You got like four other group chats that don't include each other in it. Okay, but you feel like you're going to get pushback from your sister and that's what you're looking for advice on? Uh, yeah, my sister can be terrifying a little bit. Yeah So what's the like mission? I guess put it all out there So it's not awkward and then like I guess like I would assume then it would just be business as usual There's a little touchy too because you don't want to start more drama from a phone call like this There's already enough. Yeah like in your family. Yeah, I don't want to be like, I'm sorry.

And then just assume I'm invited either. Oh, you, you actually want to apologize for your kids behavior last time? I mean, if you guys think I need to do that, like, that's what I'll do. But like, I'll take your advice. But I've tried that route and she's pretty stuck in her ways. Okay. I mean, it sounds delightful. It is her party, her house, her rules. So her pool, her pool, we're looking for her blessing to get them over and if she says no Then we'll unleash your children on her house to finish the job that they started

Yes Get out when you gotta go to the bathroom in that pool The kids are gonna pee in the pool. Oh, okay. Didn't get that, but... Anyway, what was some advice for you? And let you make your Awkward Tuesday phone call to your sister to get your children invited to her daughter's party with your Awkward Tuesday phone call coming up right after this. Thank you.

Alright man, hold on. It's Awkward. It's Tuesday. It's Awkward Tuesday phone call. It's awkward Tuesday phone call. Scientists once claimed it was impossible. Mythbusters refuse to even test it. Wow. The question, could candy infused children

spend three hours at a birthday party and be somewhat well behaved? Yeah. It's scary. No, we know the answer. We do, because it happened a year ago for Brad when he brought his children four and six years old over to their cousin's birthday party.

And the two of them ended up causing chaos and mischief. It's all the stuff little boys tend to do. So little kids. Right. And I need to ask you, Brad, did your children break anything while they were over at their aunt's house I? mean There was a broken lamp when we were leaving, but I didn't see what happened to it You're just like the boys

Thousand dollar lamp and she's like yeah And his children did leave with a light bulb that day, but you can't connect the two of them Okay, yeah, that's fine now Maybe Brooke has some advice for you before we call your sister and try to convince her to let your children attend this year's party Hopefully what do you think I mean I think when it comes to an older sister what you need to do is butter her up And this is getting really gross. I'm saying make her feel good, make her feel wanted, needed. That's what all older sisters want.

That type of sister. You need to take the angle of you need parenting advice. Okay? From her, the expert. Yeah, they like to know that they're smarter too. Have you been doing things to help correct your boys behavior? Yeah, I mean I've been trying to do like some stuff here and there like really trying to They like to know that they're smarter too. Have you been doing things to help correct your boys behavior? Yeah, I mean, I've been trying to do like some stuff here and there, like really trying to like get them to hone in and stuff, but. OK, that might be worth bringing up to your sister if we can get her on the phone.

But Jose, what do you think? Do you have advice? Well, kind of the same. Anytime I want something from my sister, I buy her a present. Oh, that's not really the same. So if you're in trouble during the call just tell her you have a bunch of chocolate covered strawberries for anytime she wants and immediately she'll be like oh yeah come on over. Chocolate covered strawberries to your sister. Yeah

every Mother's Day I send her a birthday. It's kind of a sexy gift. Is that my mom too? Yeah. With the edible underwear. Okay so maybe yes bribe your sister with some sexy chocolates. What do you think? Yeah, I think I want to leave the sexy chocolate out of it Chocolates and normal for I'm gonna take combo platter from each of y'all. It's like she's smarter than me She loves to rub that in my face. Yeah, let's just put that angle We're getting an invite at the end of this in my face, so let's just put that angle. Okay, okay. We're getting an invite at the end of this.

Room for the boys, you know? Brooke wants to see if her kids can be invited too, so we'll work on that afterwards. It sounds like though his sister has some good goody bags. I'm not gonna lie, she sounds very type A. Okay, we'll get your invite after we do this call with Brad. So I'm gonna dial your sister's number, you can use whatever advice you want to,

but we'll back away and let you do this. You ready, man? All right, fingers crossed. Okay, want to, but we'll back away and let you do this. You ready, man? All right, fingers crossed. Okay, good luck. Here we go. Hello? Hey, Jen, what's up? Hi, Brad?

Yeah, it's Brad. What number are you calling from? Did you get a new phone or something? No, no, that's not important right now. Look, do you have a second real quick? I was wondering if I could just talk to you real quick. Yeah, sure, go ahead. What's up?

Okay, cool. Yeah, it's only gonna take a few minutes. So I heard from mom, you're having a party. Oh, she told you. Yeah, she did. Because like, I was just talking to her about that. And then like, it kind of just came up and she was asking what time I was going to get there. Well, yeah, yeah, we are having a party.

Okay. So like long pause again. I, uh, did my invite get like lost or something? Well, no, no, not exactly. Come on, Brad. You remember what happened last year when you and the kids were over? Dude, I know but like listen, that's not gonna happen again. Come on. Oh, can I trust that? The kids are older now. They're all a whole year older. They're four and six now a lot has changed in the past year Come on, Brad. I

Dude, I know it wasn't good. I'm telling you that. They literally attacked our room, but with a tennis racket. But like that was actually funny. Come on. How is that funny? Because they hit it a bunch and it was making weird noises and stuff. I thought you were laughing. What are you talking about? Brad? No, that's not okay.

So like, look, that's not the point. The point is we are family. Like we should have talked about this a long time ago and not let it fester like this. I want our kids to hang out. Like they're literally cousins. Like what are we doing here being petty? I mean, I want that too, but it's just your voice, Brad. No offense, but they're like walking little nightmares. I want to say you're wrong, but they are. And like, I've done some stuff about it and they've made a lot of progress.

Like I was looking on YouTube a lot and I found these awesome like dog training videos that they actually love. So I've just been using that and it works like a charm. Brad, you cannot train your kids like dogs. They act like dogs sometimes so why wouldn't I just watch these videos honestly? It's all dogs! I can't imagine them licking themselves like in a corner. What?

Brad you're talking about your own children. Dog training videos. Brad what is going on? Who are these people? We're his other kids and we're bad! He's dropping. We don't respond to treats. videos. Brad, what is going on? Who are these people? I need to actually tell you, you're on the radio right now. We're a show called Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning. Yeah. Brad, he reached out to us for this segment. We do. It's called an awkward Tuesday phone call.

Okay. Yeah. He just didn't know how to handle this situation going on where his kids weren't invited to your daughter's birthday party. Well, if you saw what his kids did last year, you would understand. People literally left the party early because his kids were causing such a racket You are the aunt in this situation, I think it takes a village you have to take some responsibility, right? It's also your face. It's acting that way. I only have so much control over these kids. I'm trying to run a party I can't be babysitting. That's his job but I'm trying to run a party, I can't be babysitting, that's his job. I'm not asking you to co-parent or anything, but if you have any helpful hints, that would be super helpful.

Now he has Brooke. I told him to lead with that part, but... Well, let's start by not using YouTube dog training videos. Yeah, good point. There might be some merit in that, you tell your kid to sit and stay. No, Jeff. No. No? No. Okay, okay, fine. But Jenna, can you help out your brother here?

Because he's kind of heartbroken over the fact that your guys' kids aren't going to be able to hang out for a birthday party. It's important. They're family. And yeah, they're your nephews. Don't you want to help guide them in the right way? I mean I would love to but I also don't want to lose precious valuable furniture like the lamp Auntie gave us before she passed You can't prove that none of us heard it break. So how did it break? No, I didn't do it. You didn't do it Brad I see where they get it from. Really Brad, you talk to your sister. You really wanna have them be those strange cousins

that don't even know each other? Like these are the most- No, I wanna be the cousins that we meet at the park. Where they can't break stuff. Not your house. Okay. Right. Maybe baby steps, maybe like get a bounce house

or something and they can just kind of like run amok and that. You know how quickly they're gonna pop a bounce house? something and they can just kind of like run a muck in that Seriously, that's all I need then the tip over that bounce house with everybody else's kids inside Okay, okay Is there any time before the party where the four of you could get together and like party? I'll even bring chocolate covered strawberries if you want like anything. Oh You know how much I love chocolate covered strawberries if you want like anything oh you know how much I love chocolate covered strawberries oh my god okay look Brad you can bring

the kids but they cannot go in the house and that's your responsibility to make sure they do not go in my house no they can sing happy birthday through the window All right, well that's that's a nice compromise that she's offering for you Brad Oh my god, you're at least allowed on the premises I mean we'll take it for now. We'll figure out a way to get inside or something Kids know they're gonna do the opposite Mean those dog training videos don't work Brad, no! Don't go in! Kids know they're going to do the opposite. Yeah, okay. You mean those dog training videos don't work, Alexis? Alright, the important thing is we're reaching a compromise here and it sounds like Brad,

your kids are going to be allowed to attend their cousin's party. Yay! Perfect, and that was before I bought them a leash. Yeah. Hey, hey, bring the leashes, we might need to tie them up outside. Yeah, hand them out there. I was going to say, Jenna, you better be careful, it sounds like these kids are gonna try to mark their territory I'm already knowing

Brooklyn Jeffrey in the morning Getting a lot of text into 78592 Saying that compromise is even worse than where we started Having the kids stay outside the party and peek in through the windows Outside they have a pool. I still worry about the bathroom now peek in through the windows? Come on, most of the party will be outside. They have a pool. I still worry about the bathroom now, especially with the pool. Where are the kids gonna go?

I worry about who's giving these kids boundaries because I don't think it's the dad and it's definitely not the aunt. Yeah, where's the mother? I'm not invited to this clearly, but I have a feeling once they do get over to the aunt's house, they're gonna be okay. She'll either soften up and let them inside or she'll just be terrified that they're lifting up their leg and

peeing on the bushes from all those dog training videos. They learned it from their dad. Honestly if they have a bad day and they're not good kids are they ever gonna be invited back to their aunt's house? There's a lot of pressure on the party. We do need an update. Yeah well we'll stay in touch and we do wish Brad the best of luck raising his kids. Good luck for sure. At those parties. You can find all of our awkward Tuesday videos by the way up on our YouTube page if you want to go check them out. They're at Brooke and Jeffery.