Brooke and Jeffrey: Second Date Update - Awkward Tuesday: Ruin A Birthday

Episode Date: March 11, 2025

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Yes! And today's is pretty special because there is, I don't know if you saw it, but like a viral TikTok issue with a kid's birthday party where they all ended in tears. One of the parents is actually on the phone with us to deal with it. So it's gonna be fun, but before we get to it,

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and it all started with a weird disagreement at a Build-A-Bear workshop. We're all big disagreements happening. Of course, you know, the fights I've gotten in. Oh, yeah. Children were in tears. Their parents were upset and even went viral on TikTok. And now one father's decided it's time to get justice and confront the person who started the drama.

You're gonna hear what went down at Build-A-Bear in your brand new Awkward Tuesday. Big T's, I know. Yeah, I mean, can't write that stuff better. In the most awkward Tuesday phone call coming up right after this. It's Awkward. It's Tuesday. It's Awkward Tuesday phone call coming up right after this Different radio shows excel at different types of content

Some shows are really good with health and wellness tips Other ones don't judge the other Yeah, yeah other ones focus more on true crime stories. But today we're honing in on our wheelhouse, Children's Birthday Party Drama. Ooh. Yeah, we like that. It's where we thrive. Yeah.

And I bring it up because there's a story that's actually been going viral on TikTok lately. I'm not sure if you guys have heard about it yet, but one of the people who was directly involved reached out to us saying, hey could really really use your help interesting that children's birthdays aren't in my algorithm Jeffrey let's talk to him though his name is Richard Richard welcome to the show how you doing apparently better than you if you're viral yeah talk for an issue

well okay I'm not the one viral but my daughter was a part of it. Oh, so Brooklyn's not as good as your daughter. Yeah. Or not as bad as your daughter. Yeah. But it's not a good slam. Let's just, yeah. We shouldn't be slamming our listeners as soon as they ask us for help.

Sorry about that, Richard. Tell us what's going on. You were involved with this birthday drama. How? Well, my daughter's seven years old and she was invited to this birthday party. So basically, I had to drop her off at the mall, like in the food court. And what I understood the plan was

they were gonna go have lunch and do party activities. And then the group was gonna head over to Build-A-Bear. Just a bunch of seven-year-olds freely roaming the mall, figuring it out. Oh, it's like a build-a-bear party The birthday girl's mom was taking care of That age when your kids finally get to the drop-off parties Yeah, it was a great I'll be back in a few hours is perfect. Yeah

Sounds like a good plan. Yeah, yeah, so I go home and I come back in a few hours And there's my daughter just in tears when I see her. She's crying. Oh. No. Pretty standard for a post-seven-year-old birthday party, though. There's always one kid at the party.

Yeah. No, but they're like, why? I mean, it sucks that it's yours. I get it. Well, it was more than my kid. It was other kids, too. They were all upset. Oh, God.

They're all crying and stuff. Wow. What the heck happened? Did Jeff show up and do a parody song in the middle of the party? Probably. Oh, they'd all gone. Oh no stuff Wow why heck happened did Jeff show up into a parody song in the middle of party? What happened so I got her in the car that's what happened she said that the mom Forced all the girls to give their build-a-bears to the birthday girl No way wait Like they went to a party and they made their own Build-A-Bear without knowing it was for the birthday girl and they...

That's so rude! I'm not even involved in the bear world or children's world and I want to fight everyone right now. Why would the little birthday girl need... It's a lot of bears. ...eleven stuffed animals? Like, why would the mom do that? That's what I was asking myself.

So I contacted another mom who was involved. Yeah. And she she couldn't believe it either. She was really upset. Wow. See, OK, so this is like the normal reaction. Everyone's agreeing. It's a little messed up.

It blindsided all of the parents. Yeah. The children there, obviously. I mean, what was the reason? Did you ever get to the bottom of that? Well, what she said was that the mom wanted each girl to build a bear so that, like, her daughter would remember each one of them by the bear that they built. They built for her.

Was that laid out in, like, the invitation that all the kids were going to be building a bear for the birthday girl? No. No, my daughter thought she was getting the bear to bring home. I mean, we already gave a gift. That is so weird. OK, hold on. I mean, you didn't pay for it, right? Like, the bear to bring home. I mean, okay, we already gave a gift. That is so weird

Okay, I mean you didn't pay for it, right? Like the mom paid for it Those are expensive the birthday mom paid for everybody to make these. Yeah, she did pay for the build a bear Yeah, well, the birthday mom paid for the cake too. I'm assuming she gave some of that away So at least she's kind of generous. Okay. Look, let me play advocate really quick. Think about it from the birthday girl Every night she goes to bed. It's like this is Sarah's bear. This is Brooks bear. This is Friends and the mom paid for it. So that's just wanting to throw that out there But how is a mother could you see all these children crying? Choice this is the choice I'm making

I'm just saying I see where maybe I think exactly what Brooke thinks all these girls had a stand in line they had to make each bear and then they were all the bears were ripped away from them at the end aww imagine like a crying line of kids like here you go

it's so ridiculous so I have the ladies number I want to contact her It's not worth it. Okay, are gonna call you want to call the mom of the birthday girl who set this up? Yeah, I want to contact her and say it's not right. It's not okay Okay Is that what you're gonna ask for the bear bag that would be a cherry on top I don't expect it, but I just need her to know what she did was wrong, okay So I don't know how to say it. I want you guys to tell me what to say gotcha

So you want advice on how to call the mother of the birthday girl after the birthday's over to tell her it's not cool That she made all of the children at the party build build the bears and then gift them all to her daughter at the very end She's a build she's a build a bear thief. I wanted to Okay Not sure if the name-calling will work, but we'll have some ideas for you when we come back. I'm calling you I can't be trusted Call when we come back for your awkward Tuesday phone call build a bear edition Just let's try and calm down a little bit. We're gonna play a song and do it right after this

I'm not sure I can but hurry up I know Brooke has said many times she loves it when other parents call and tell her she's doing a bad job of mothering. Text, emails, direct messages, all of us. We do a whole segment on it. Tell Brooke she's a bad mom. But the thing is not everybody is as receptive to parental criticism as Brooke is. That's why our listener Richard needs our help today because he was upset after dropping his seven-year-old daughter off at a build-a-bear birthday party And when he picked her up his daughter was crying because the host mom made all of the children give their build-a-bears to the birthday girl As like a big happy gift to remember everybody bad, but there was some type of logic

I mean we talk about core memories. This is definitely But there was some type of logic. I mean we talk about core memories. This is definitely But Richard's not the only parent who was upset by hearing this He does want to be the one though who calls up the mom and lets her know that he thinks what she did Wasn't really right. Yeah, so how does he politely deliver that message so the mom gets it? Let's go to our child's rearing expert Jose What's your advice? Well, I would play vague here and just ask hey Have you heard from any other parents about the party cuz likely she's gonna say yeah

I have and if not, you can just be like I hear some of them are upset Group thing everyone's I get what he's saying that way Richard doesn't have to own all Of the anger for he can share some of the blame with the parents Richard. What do you think about that bully her? Yeah, I yeah, I mean what if she says I haven't heard anything yeah, well just then you can break the news I heard from one other Good luck beating that advice No, honestly like I know you heard from another parent what this mom's intentions were But I if you want her to like understand what she did is wrong. I think that you need to have her explain why?

Like you haven't just asked her. I think you need to come in with an open mind Nobody ever changes their mind if they're attacked, right? If you're on the defense, you are never going to see somebody else's opinion I feel like I see why she did it. She wanted this special moment strictly for her daughter. Okay Maybe if you just ask her to say that she'll realize how dumb it is coming out of her own mouth I do that all the time I'm starting to talk I'm making a point and I'm like wow that is really stupid So you can choose either one of those pieces of advice or none Richard either one

We're gonna be here waiting to jump in if we feel like you need a little bit of help I think you got it. Okay. As long as you're calm, you were pretty heated like five minutes ago. Yeah. Don't get so upset. I mean, in the end, it's just a teddy bear. Those are nice, expensive bears. Those are very nice.

I think you can put custom sound in them. And it's not a teddy bear, it's 12 teddy bears. It's so much more than it's, yeah. Okay. It's making all these girls feel bad. Well, don't ride about, Chad. Sorry, yeah. We don't want to get you all excited again. Remember to stay calm. We're gonna dial this mom for you. Let you talk to her. Here we go

I'm gonna try to keep it under control Hello Hi Just Megan Yeah, is this Megan? Yeah. Who's this? Hi, this is Richard. I'm Vanessa's dad. Uh,

Oh yeah. Okay. Hi. How are you? Hi. Good. Um, first off, I just wanted to thank you for inviting my daughter to the birthday party and no problem.

That's refreshing. Well, I will say she had a really good time, but there was one little issue. And I'm just kind of wondering if you had feedback from other parents? Yeah, I've already had some other whiny parents call about this issue. So whatever you're about to say, just save it. So I'm assuming what you're talking about is the build a bear situation. Yeah, so I don't think any of you really understand that it was my child's birthday party,

so I get to make the rules. Right, you get to make the rules. Yeah. And with no regard to the other children's feelings. Was that one of the rules? You know I paid for all the bears, right? I didn't see your credit card plop down on the desk at Build-A-Bear, it was mine.

So you bought every one of their tiers, is what you're saying. Tiers, oh my gosh, give me a break. You purchased each, was it Build-A-Tier? It was a birthday party, not a charity event to give bears to the left- Charity event? No.

Oh, man. It was a, it was a labor camp. A labor camp? A labor camp? What are you talking about? You put all these girls to work, where you're going? I'm not the only one who thinks this.

All the parents are talking and they all kind of think you're a jerk Okay, great bill get together and report me to the build-a-bear police Or you should have them make a build-a-bear police bear and then just take that away Who burn thank you? Ow that hurt you know what the truth is you know who else thinks you're a jerk? Everybody listening on the radio right now, because you were on Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning.

Oh! What are you talking about? What the hell is going on? Yeah, you just got outed for being a first-class jerk to the entire country. Oh! Oh! Entire country.

What the hell is that? What the point of this was? Was it to outer for being an a-hole? No, color of labor camp worker. Yo, that was the funniest back and forth I've ever heard. Excuse me, can anyone tell me what's going on? Yeah. Hi, sorry.

So, Megan, he wasn't lying. You actually are on the radio right now on Brooke and Jeffrey in the Morning. That's our show. But it was for advice. We were trying to help the situation, not make it worse. What is this even for? I don't... What's going on?

Sorry, it's a healing segment that we do about bringing parents together and kindly talking to each other. A healing segment. No, Richard. Did he get that memo? Yeah, no, well, it's actually called an awkward Tuesday phone call

because we knew that this conversation wasn't gonna be flawless. I don't think anybody expected it to nosedive like it did. No, that was wild. What happened, Richard? We told you to open my call. Flawless, I don't think anybody expected it to nose dive like it did She was an a-hole from the very beginning she called everyone whiny You got to practice being the bigger man in that situation Richard But I think it's too late for that now So listen Megan, maybe the message didn't come across quite the way we wanted it to but do you understand the sentiment behind it? That there's a lot of parents that were upset by what happened because their children were crying at the end of the party

You must have noticed Yeah, I'm sorry that they didn't teach their kids how to grasp the concept of party etiquette. It wasn't their birthdays Their kids had a graph the concept of party etiquette. It wasn't their birthdays You didn't tell the kids at the beginning of the party that they were building a bear for the birthday girl They're seven years old. They would have ruined the damn surprise She does have a point a little bit there, but it's still it's not fair These people also already brought gifts like they brought gifts already and that was something they put thought into of what your daughter would like God you sound like one of the damn whiny parents that call

Even if you still think you're right, which is fine, like you're gonna ruin your daughter's social life if you keep down this line. That's a good point. She's not gonna get invited to birthday parties because of this. Good, she doesn't want those kind of friends anyway. And where did you guys get off? I hope you're proud of yourself for trying to drag a good mom down on live radio for trying to make her daughter happy. Okay, Brooke, let's not do the Brooke app- I'm just trying to drag a good mom down on live radio for trying to make her daughter happy.

Okay, Brooke, let's not do the Brooke. Brooke, tell her what a good mom she is. It all gets thrown on Brooke, I love it. I just don't know that that's true. Well, it doesn't matter if you believe it, you should say it. I mean, I think that you're trying to make your daughter happy, which is what we all-

You should try harder with this apology. That's what we all want for our children. I just think that maybe the lesson of looking at others and putting others first is a good one, too. Oh, thank you. Thank you so much for all of the tips of how to be a good mother. How about I give you guys some advice? Get real jobs. My mother gives me that same advice. Who the hell works on radio anymore? Nobody. I'm trying, I'm on high rule! My mother gives me that same advice, you really are a good mom. Who the hell works on radio anymore? Nobody. Yeah.

I mean honestly, there's not very many people. You keep laying down truth bombs on us Megan, and I'm coming around on you. How does she make everyone else feel bad? I want to work in your labor camp, the next one that you set up, so give us a call. Jeff makes a mean bear. Yeah, I really do. I want to build a tier. And I will cry. You know what?

I don't care. She's a jerk. Everyone heard how much of a jerk she is. I kind of wish the girls could have given all the food back to and vomit it all over. Oh my god. Richard, you really got to work on your slams. Yeah, that's not.

Because they keep getting worse as the call goes on. You're a little too creative. I wouldn't call that a bad. That's also a bad parrot move. Broken Jeffrey in the morning. Love at first swipe? I highly doubt it. Reality TV and social media have love all wrong.

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