Brooke and Jeffrey: Second Date Update - Say Yes To The Ex: You Remind Me

Episode Date: September 11, 2025

There’s one particular night that one of our listeners wishes he could DO-OVER… and it ended with his girlfriend running out of the bar and out of his LIFE. He’s on the phone with us now for one more shot in an all new SAY YES TO THE EX!See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Yeah, we do. Yeah, we don't do these too often, so I hope you enjoy the segment. Maybe a reason why we don't do them too often. I guess yesterday's second date really resonated with a lot of people. That's the one where the girl had all the videos of the fall. Yeah. She thought that was really funny. That was her humor.

Yeah, that was it. So what were people saying about it? We got, we can't judge her if you're listening to this show. You like people falling too. Yeah, yeah, we are. Hey, women need to be more direct. Why don't you just go up and ask for a guy's number? Okay.

Yeah. Maybe if there was a video of her falling, she could have added it to her collection. Oh, yeah. That would be hilarious. I'd love to have that in the chamber. Yeah. Share with people like, oh, by the way, here's me too. Yeah, but most everyone's on her side.

Okay. it was funny after we finished the second date with her yesterday, Jose and I spent about 10 minutes watching videos of kids falling. It's so good. Literally, there's an Instagram page. It's easy to find. There's over 7 million people. You're not the only one.

Yeah, for sure. For sure. Well, hey, thanks for your comments. Always. We love the discussions about these segments. And keep them coming because we've got your brand new say yes to the X starting right now. When you look back on any failed relationship, there's always going to be things you wish

you had done differently. Well, yeah. Like, listened better or taking them on more dates or stopped calling them mommy. Trust me. We get it. But for one of our listeners, there's one particular night that he wishes he could do over. Because it ended with his girlfriend running out of the bar and out of his life for good. Whoa.

He didn't cheat or anything like that, but he does fully regret his choices from that night. Which is why he's asking for our help to get one more shot with the love of his life. It's a brand new say yes to the X, and we're going to do it next. It's Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning, and it's time for another heart-throttling edition of Say Yes to the X. Oh, yeah. Well, we'll help one of our listeners reach out to an old fling to find out if maybe there's any residual flang left to be flung. Because you never know. And it's okay to wonder about your exes sometimes.

Brooke certainly does. The question is, will they want to reconcile with you or just runaway screaming? If you use that residual word, then it's going to be runaway screaming. And flinging flinging. Everybody likes to be flung every once in a while. And today, we've got Evan on the phone hoping to get in touch with an old past relationship. Evan, you got some flang you want to try reflinging? Hey, yes, yes, I do.

Good. Okay. I mean, wrong answer. I like that answer. So tell us, who is this ex? And just tell us about her and your relationship together. Well, it's my ex, Abby. Abby.

Are you really sad when you said her? I know, I was going to say, are you sad or are you low energy right now? Maybe just nervous, you know, sometimes that can be? I'm sad, actually. Oh, bud. What happened with you and Abby? Tell us about your dynamic together. Well, I really miss her.

I thought she was the love of my life. Whoa. Wow. Yikes. Yeah. Like, you feel helpless. How long did you date for? We did it by a year and a half.

It was great, honestly. It's quite a while, yeah. I mean, I get it. Like, it can feel that way, but then when you meet somebody else that feels the same as you, then you really know that's the one you should be with. Oh, Brooke's talking about her exes again. No, just saying, like, it sucks. I get what you're going through.

I've definitely felt like I was totally in love with someone and they didn't love me back, you know? Brooke, you know, I'm in the room right now, so this is kind of embarrassing for you. I did not see that coming. It was definitely not you. We have a lot of downer vibes going on right now. Why don't you tell us about some highlights

from your relationship with Abby? What were the good times like? Well, we met a couple years ago at a dive bar. It was trivia night. You know, we bonded over not knowing any of the answers. We bonded. Like, I felt so connected to her. It's good.

I'm a big personality guy. I like doing loud jokes and goofy stunts. Okay. And honestly, I think she liked that in the beginning. Oh. What changed? Why didn't she like it in the end? I don't know.

Like, we have so many things. We had fun road trips, late night taco bell runs, matching Halloween costumes. Oh, yeah. Oh, a lot of history there. And if you're just joining us, we're in the middle of a segment called Say Yes to the X. Our listener, Evan is on the phone with us. He got broken up with, it sounds like. I want to hear about the breakup.

Yeah. Yeah, it was a woman named Abby. So far, we've heard about what the relationship was like before the breakup, but let's get to, was there a specific thing that ended your relationship? Like, tell us how that went down. I mean, it's so embarrassing. I went to karaoke and I was proposing, so, and, you know what? Wait, hold on.

You were going to do a marriage proposal? Yeah. I mean, I was like a year and a half was time. Did she, I mean, had you guys talked about marriage? Did she see this coming? I was like, we danced around it at times. See, that's the issue, you know. Okay.

So this was going to be a real surprise. Yeah. Right. And I tried to sing Nickelbacks how you remind me. Well, that's where you went wrong. Well, is that a special song between you two? Is there some history to that? No, but I changed the lyrics to make it sound like a proposal.

Oh. Can you sing it? I'm trying to figure out how that would go. This is why you should marry me? Did she let you finish the whole song or did she cut you off and say no? Sorry, we don't mean to laugh about it, but I think we need help understanding how that scene went down. I thought it would be fun. She walked out mortified.

Oh, no, you embarrassed her. You know, some people are really anti-public proposals. Like, it feels like too much pressure to a lot of people. Oh, man. Were you able to chase after her? What happened? Watch I'd call her and she sent a voicemail And the next day she texts me

Breaking up Oh She sent this long text saying I was always on I did pranks the wrong time She felt like she was dating a stand-up act Oh Okay

But would you change that Has it changed in the past six months Since you guys broke up Absolutely the past six months I've done the work I can balance it now Okay So you back away

But you still are you Maybe better timing. Yeah. Right, I'm not over the top anymore. Okay. Okay. I could see if that was something already bothering her, and then you used a parody song to propose that it, like, just tipped it all over the end.

Oh my gosh. What if we do a parody song to get her back? Jeff, you can help. Well, Jose, I'm glad you're listening to what she was. Maybe she has grown over the past six months to enjoy more of a sense of humor, and you're going to meet right in the middle. Oh, no. What if he's not funny enough?

Maybe. I don't think it's a little. lack of humor. It's just the lack of sincerity, maybe it sounds like that she was missing. He sounds really sincere on the phone right now. For sure. And has there been any effort on your part, Evan, lately to try and get a hold of her?

Well, it seemed like she blocked me after a while. Oh, that's not good. You guys really are my last hope. Are you just a little mad? Like, you're that far into a relationship you're proposing, and then she only gives you a text and not even anything else. Like, you know, I felt that way

in the beginning, but then thinking back to it, there was probably signs that she was trying to tell me, and I just wasn't listening. Okay. Okay. We love a self-aware man. Yes, for sure. That is a very mature statement, almost too mature to be aired on our show. But we're going to keep it.

And Evan, you know how this works. Our producer was able to get your ex-girlfriend, Abby, on the phone. She is there right now. We told her someone is waiting on the other line, wanting to talk to her. She just doesn't know that it's you yet. And she doesn't know the name of the segment either. Yeah. She hasn't heard any of this.

When we come back, we are going to bring her on and tell her that it's you and find out if she is willing to maybe give you another chance and say yes to the X. Oh, I hope she doesn't hang up. Not a proposal this time, though, right? I mean, it's not my choice. I'm not going to propose, FYI, just so you know. Yeah, we know. Well, never say never. I didn't know.

We're going to find out when we do. Say yes to the X right after this. We're in the middle of a very special say yes to the X. It's Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning. Don't laugh. Dude, you can't play this song. I sure can because we're trying to help out our listener, Evan. Get in touch with his ex-girlfriend, Abby.

And this one's a little different than ones we've done before because their breakup didn't happen over a petty fight or from cheating allegations. It happened while Evan was trying to propose to her via Nicky. back parody song. Oh, man. Which didn't go the way Evan wanted. Instead, she stormed out of that karaoke bar and straight out of their relationship all together. The next morning broke up with it.

A long text. It's been six months since that night, and Evan has been desperately trying to fix it. We are his last resort, which always feels good when people tell us that. Oh, we should play Papa Roach last resort next. Yes. And even though you got basically. rejected for your proposal, Evan. I want you to know there is hope because, Brooke, how many times did you say no to your husband,

Michael's terrible proposals, before you finally gave in and said yes? He only asked once. I only said once. Oh, it was a pity yes. But, but, but listen. Just trying to set you up to actually say something helpful. Listen, what I think that we need to concentrate on is Evan, you sound like you heard what her problems were in the relationship and that you have tried to fix them.

Yeah. And that's big. Yes. That's what relationships are all about. Totally, but they're not actually in a relationship right now. Oh, that's the part we're going to fix. He's trying to change himself into the man he thinks Abby wants him to be. No, just a better man.

That's what I said. So, like you already know, Evan, your ex-Aby is already on the line, hasn't heard any of this. She does not know the reason that she has been brought on to the show yet. Okay. Okay, so if she has a bad reaction, don't feel hopeless. I think we can come back from that. All right.

We get a lot of bad. bad reactions when people find out they're on our show. So let us talk to her a little bit first and then we'll let you come in and re-swoop her off her feet all over again. I guess so. All right. Try to keep your breathing a little bit quieter while we talk to her at the beginning. So here we go. Yeah, don't interrupt us. Abby, you there? Yeah, hi. I'm here. Hey, Abby. Thanks for being on with us. Welcome to Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning. Yeah, so glad you decided to come on the show. Thanks for having me. But I'm a little confused, like, why I'm here.

Did I win something or? Not exactly. Well, we're going to find out in just a second, because this is a segment that we do where we try to reconnect you with somebody important from your past. Okay. And you have 400 guesses to try and figure out who that is. We just say hotter or colder every time. Are you saying like a long-lost friend?

I guess in a way, in some ways they may have been your best friend at some point. Yeah. We're talking about your recent past, only like six months ago. Because this is a segment, the name of it is called Say Yes to the X. Oh. So that might give you a little hint of who I'm talking about? He didn't lead with the title because the O is what we were worried about. Wow, this is awkward.

Okay, so did Evan talk to you? Yeah. You do remember him. They dated a year and a half. But that's a good sign that you haven't forgot about it. Usually don't forget the worst ones. Well, we don't know that. I will tell you that we spoke to Evan a little bit.

He seemed like a really nice guy. Yeah. Yeah, I mean, he was a really good guy. Okay. And equally bad at trivia as you are. That's actually funny. He would tell you that. We kind of went down memory lane a little bit with him on some of the highlights and most love memories.

So do you guys think that's healthy, like to have him blurt out on the radio, like all the stuff that happened before our breakup? Healthy's probably not the word. We're not therapists, so we're not in any place to determine what is healthy or not healthy. But we do feel like there's a lot of feelings on Evan's side that are unresolved. And the reason that he reached out to us is he was wondering if maybe. you might be feeling any of those same feelings. And before you even answer that, I should probably let you know that Evan is actually here himself on the phone

wanting to talk to you directly. Surprise. I mean, so I really have a choice, but okay. Hi, Evan. Hey, hey. How you doing? I don't know, to be honest with you. I'm just confused and a little shocked.

Listen, I've been thinking about you. I miss you. I'm honestly, I'm sorry it had to be in the radio. Yeah, that kind of sucks. I'm not going to lie. Wow, we suck. No offense taken on our side, just so you know, that's totally cool. I didn't mean to offend anybody.

It's okay. It's okay. We're joking. It's okay. We'll cry later. Yeah. Evan could get a hold of you. He said that maybe you had blocked him.

I didn't block him. I just felt. like space was good. Okay. Well, Evans told us that you've had more than a few months of space during that time. And I'll let you know he did not feel sorry for himself at all. In fact, he told us that he's learned to take some situations more seriously. But, I mean, he could probably tell you better than me. Evan? Well, I really want you to know that I've done the work. I don't do armpit noises anymore. I still think I'm funny, but I can be serious, though. I think, you know, I know you deserve a better version of me.

Aw. Yeah, that's great. Now, that's really sweet. And I just wanted to let you know I might have taken a few things before this call to relax me. What? Oh. Oh.

Wait, is that a joke? No. No, it's not a joke. No wonder he's so even keel. What do you take? Do you have any recommendations? Gross out of Xanax. What do you got?

We are stressed in the studio most of the day. Okay. I appreciate you, Evan, being vulnerable. I really do. So I probably want to be vulnerable with you, Ben. Yeah, there's something you should know about that night that you proposed to me at karaoke. That doesn't sound ominous. What are you talking about?

Well, when you started singing that song, it just triggered something in me, And it's something I never brought up, to be honest with you, but I actually dated one of the guys from Nickelback a long time ago. And it was weird, but I couldn't have you propose with a song that obviously reminded me of my act. Oh, you'd be attached forever. The song is, this is how you remind me. It's actually funny. That's crazy.

Evan you and I have talked so many times I mean you believe in signs too and that that was a sign for me I don't think that's fair that's not fair to Evan I mean I know you think it's a sign but what if it's not what if it's just a coincidence and you know but it just all kind of flooded me at the same time you know and I had been going back and forth in my head like what should I do should I break this off I wasn't really expecting a proposal that night and then when it happens I just shut down like a clam And, yeah. Yeah. So you did it in a nickelback guy.

That's cool. Oh, you like that. Yeah. Now you do want to know the meds. He's on. Yeah. So real quick change in emotion there. We are running out of time, though, here.

And again, the reason that we do this segment called say yes to the X is to find out if you would be willing to, like, not even get back together with him, but just open up a future conversation and meet up to see if there. there's anything still left between you two? I really like that. I don't think our story is over. So I like to go out with you so you can get to know the new me. Oh, yes. Let me look how chill he is. I think it's a little weird for us to try again.

But I mean, I can do coffee. Oh. But you have to ask the coffee shop, please do not play nickel back. I just, I can't. What coffee? It's a weird request to go up to the barista and be like, by the way, no nickel back. That is not on their playlist ever. This guy looks too much like Chad Kroger.

We're going to another coffee show. The barista's like, yeah, we got you covered. But it sounds like she is saying maybe yes to the ex. Evan, how does that sound to you? Sounds great. Okay. All right. We got the door cracked open.

This is how you remind me. Oh, no. What was that? What was that? I had a joke with you a little. Oh, man, your backsliding. Okay, let's keep it to a minimum, please. No armp farting.

Yeah, change yourself, bro. I got to take more medication for that. Okay. We're condoning it, but you do it, bro. Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning. Hi, my name is Enya Emanzor. And I'm Drew Phillips. And we run a podcast called Emergency Intercom.

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from the Black Effect Podcast Network on the iHeartRadio at apple podcast or wherever you get your podcast well i don't know if we can call that a successful say yes to the ex he's got his little foot just inching that door open that's right at least she would agree to a coffee meet up with him and all it took was him drugging himself so he could completely change his personality and agree to never make jokes and never be with an earshot of a nickel back song ever again Just don't be him, and he's going to have the greatest life. You guys, she wasn't saying don't ever make jokes.

It's just better jokes. I mean, a balance. The Nickelback, though, there was no balance in that. That sounded like it was pretty smart. That was just bad luck, and he chose that, and she used to date one of them? Come on. I mean, but who hasn't dated somebody from Nickelback? We're all guilty of that, so.

April Levine's raising her hands somewhere. Multiple people from the band. That's right. So we give everybody grace. for that. But if you ever want help getting back in touch with an ex or somebody who's just dating you, you can always email the show will help you out. Yep. Just go to

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