Brooke and Jeffrey: Second Date Update - Second Date Update: All In The Family

Episode Date: December 4, 2024

One of our listeners says he got an UNSOLICITED photo from a woman that left him speechless… in a bad way. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Hey, you found the Second Date Podcast. Thank you so much for being here. I found it too, finally. It's pretty easy, actually. Thanks for being here, Jose. You you so much for being here. I found it too, finally. It's pretty easy, actually. Thanks for being here, Jose. You're welcome. I love it. I love it.

And hey, just a reminder, if you want to endure or punish yourself for 45 more minutes, we've got a full show, a whole hour long. I dare you to try it. At the Brooke and Jeffrey feed. But for now, we'll get into some questionable relationship advice. Second Date Update. But for now, we'll get into some questionable relationship advice. We've done these second date calls for a long, long while. Oh, my God. I think half my lifetime. No joke.

Not exaggerating. 200 years. But most of the time, we really focus a lot on the date. Yeah. Well, that's kind of in the title. I'm not sure why we do that. That's the point, Jeff. What do you mean? We need to know. It's kind of pointless, title. I'm not sure why we do that. That's the point, Jeff. What do you mean?

We need to know. It's kind of pointless, actually. What do you want to focus on instead? Not very successful. Are we talking about their childhood? Well, one of our listeners, Thomas, wants us to hone in not on the date so much. He's more focused on the text messages that were sent between them afterwards. The juicy stuff.

Oh, we're dissecting the after text. Yeah, yeah. So, okay, Thomasomas first of all welcome to the show hey thank you guys i appreciate your help okay well say that don't thank us until we actually follow through with that but we're going to talk about your date after we hear about these text messages first because your email definitely intrigued me what's the name of this girl, first of all? So, this girl, her name is Amanda. Okay, Amanda. And, I mean, it's always a positive if you have text messages after a date. It means that you're both still interested, right?

You would think if she's communicating with you. Unless they're like, don't text me anymore. Stop. Then it would be easy. You just read stop over and over again. What were you and Amanda saying to each other yeah uh she might as well have said unsubscribe but uh what did you say i reached out and i said hey how are you that's it okay like the next day after the date or something yeah the next day and her response was a picture of her with another guy and she says, we are good, thanks. We are good. Wow.

That's a pretty clear message, bro. How are you? We are good. What's the photo? Does it look like a dad, a brother? But even then, would it be a joke at that point? Who's in the picture? Did you ask? No, it's just some dude. I didn't ask because I maybe naively thought

that must be a message for somebody else. Oh. Oh, wow. That's forgiving. You don't think that was a clear message to you that I'm in a relationship,

leave me alone? You know, it looked like they could have been friends. Okay. Wasn't too obvious. The date went well enough. I thought,

there's no way she wouldn't have told me that she, you know. Has a boyfriend. Right. Right, because it's't too obvious. The date went well enough. I thought there's no way she wouldn't have told me that she, you know, has a boyfriend. Right. Right. Because it's the next morning. It's like not even enough time for her to go out with somebody and

establish a relationship. Like she may have been a cheater. What else was said? Well, then I texted her back and I said, Hey, when am I going to see you again? Oh,

you just ignored the photo. Okay. Is anyone worried that the boyfriend has her phone and is the one being like, we're good? Well, what did she say to that? She said, the next time I post a picture on Instagram, you'll see me. Oh. Okay. So she wants you to follow her.

Goodness. Good point. Is anyone else feeling she's being kind of harsh? Clearly something happened that made her upset. Why are we calling her then like do you like her because she doesn't sound she either sounds like she's in a relationship or she's not nice i feel like she's mad at you and it's like not a boyfriend it's like she's just pretending yeah i don't get why that's it's killing me it's not even it's almost not even about

i i just gotta know what happened because it seemed like it went really well. Okay, well, take us to the date now. Let's figure out if something did happen. How did you guys meet? What did you guys do? Yeah, we met on the bus. Started talking to her. I rizzed her up. I got her number. Wow, bus rizzing.

I mean, that makes sense. I mean, people do the same routes every day. Yeah. And what did you do for your date? So, I took her to Red Lobster. Oh. Okay. You can do a lot for a little there, and they have that shrimp your way 30 for 20 deal. So we got some garlic shrimp.

I didn't even know that was going on. Bro, we gotta go. Do you guys want to go to lunch? Yeah. I mean, honestly, those cheddar bay biscuits. Yo, they're so good. But what was her reaction about Red Lobster? What if she's allergic to shellfish? You need to check with her before you do something like this. That's a good point.

Yes, it's very sexy to exchange food allergies before a date. Or someone like me who will only eat the biscuits later. No one should laugh. That's one of the first things you ask a girl before you take her out. Do you have any allergies? Do you like or hate anything? Did you get her medical rundown before you took her out on a date? I did not check with her doctor,

but she did fine. I mean, she was trying everything. Okay. Okay, and the conversation sounds good. What'd you connect on? We laughed a lot. We talked about places we've gone on vacation. And I mean, I guess there was one awkward moment where I had to take a phone

call and I did have to tell her to be quiet. Yikes. Oh, I hate being told to be quiet. Me too. How did you tell her? It was almost half joking, but I was like, be quiet, you know? No, you need to cup your hand over her mouth and say, shh, shh, shh, shh, shh, shh. Oh my God, that's not scary at all.

That's the polite way. Why would you take a phone call at the table? That's... Yeah. You didn't step away? It was important, and I needed to handle some business. I mean... Okay.

I know that some people have a pretty hard line on that type of, you know, phone calls at the table. Maybe that's her whole thing. That could be something that made you look bad that it would explain her angry reaction to your texts. Have you thought of that? Maybe. But I mean, I paid for everything. She didn't seem put off at the end. And I did everything else. Right. Did you pay for it with money from your wallet or did you take money out of her wallet and pay? Ah, that was it. No. And after that, what happened after the dinner date?

Well, after the date, then I walked her to a car and we hugged it out, you know? Hugged it out, yeah. And then you sent the text and that's where we are now, right? Yeah, yeah, that's it. Hmm. I'm still not picking up anything specifically that would justify those like really angry, straightforward, rude texts. I picked up one thing. Be quiet, Jeff.

Oh, you need to cut my mouth when you do that. Jeff, be quiet. I mean, that's the one thing that we have to go off of is the telling her to be quiet while taking a phone call. We're going to find out when we reach out to Amanda for you and get you your second date update right after this. Thank you, guys. Yes. Manners, they're important. Okay, hold on. Second date update. If you're just joining us, quick

recap. Thomas met a girl named Amanda on the bus, rizzed her, and swung that into a dinner date at a Red Lobster. Oh, yeah, he did. Where they shared 30 pieces of garlic butter shrimp. And he thinks his one potential downfall may have been when he took a phone call mid-meal and Amanda kept talking.

So he said, hey, be quiet. Yeah. Which Brooke tells Jose to do that all the time. So I don't really think it's that disrespectful. And the tension between Brooke and I is still real hot. And it's true. You know what I'm saying? But maybe she took it in a disrespectful way.

We really don't know. We're just answering the phone at the table, you know? Yeah, Brooke, what is your take? God, I don't know, man. That text she sent you afterwards with a picture of her and a random guy is just jarring. Yeah. I don't know if anyone else caught it, but in the beginning he mentioned, like, I was laying it on pretty thick.

So I was thinking maybe he did one compliment that was too far or didn't hit right. I don't know. But that still shouldn't be a deal breaker. He spent the whole night making shrimp puns, which would have really turned someone like Alexis off. That would have been me too. I would send a photo with five guys if I needed to get out.

Yeah. I would send over and over. Thomas, is any of that possible? I guess, but it still feels like bringing a gun to a knife fight. I mean, it was so harsh. You weren't making shrimp puns, were you?

No, I mean... He says I mean. Who doesn't? I'm with him. I made some jokes, but no pun jokes. Yeah, you were being shellfish at the table. Hey, I'm such a good look. Before Alexis leaves, we have to reach out to Amanda.

Here we go. Alexis is crying. I'm going to dial her number right now. Hello? Hey, is this amanda yeah who's speaking hey i mean um jeff is the name of the person speaking and there's a whole room of people hey amanda welcome to the show good morning she asked who was speaking yeah jeff don't be weird man it's cool okay okay what's this regarding this is regarding a radio show segment that you're currently on called the second date update you may have seen them on tiktok they're going wildly viral right now oh really what i mean like wait how i don't know how some random people keep posting them and stealing our audio.

We have no idea. We don't think they're even very funny. We're just trying to help people. And that's what we're doing with a guy named Thomas that you went on a date with recently. Oh, my gosh. Uh-oh. Are you serious? Yeah.

Are you excited? Or scared? Yeah, wait a minute. Hell no. I'm trying to avoid him. What? Oh, no. Why?

Is he just, like, is he pestering you or something? Dude, he is not a good guy. Like, seriously. Uh-oh. Okay. He put on a front for us. Well, hold on. Do we believe her immediately?

Here's the deal, Amanda. We heard about your guys' date. Yeah. We also learned that there were some text messages exchanged between the two of you. He was a little bit uncertain if they were meant to be hostile towards him or not.

Yeah, they were definitely freaking meant to be hostile. We read them that way. The one with the pic with another dude saying, we're good, and the next time you'll see me is when i post on insta absolutely he needs to know that he is not the only one on my radar after that night what okay so that was i'm gonna tell you he is totally in the dark yeah he has no idea what he did wrong

is he just that clueless is it that obvious there is no way he can be that freaking clueless really okay us guys can be very clueless. That is true. I am so curious. The one thing that he brought up that he mentions may have been a bad move was when he took a business call during the meal and told you to be quiet. He thinks that's probably a turnoff. The turnoff? The turnoff.

Oh, yes. Tell us. Was that he had kids. Kids? Wait, he's a dad and he didn't tell you? He didn't mention it to us. Oh no, honey. Let me tell you, okay?

How do you go out with a woman and not even mention that you have kids? And on top of that, oh, they're going to be there at the restaurant where we're having dinner. Wait, what? Did, oh, they're going to be there at the restaurant where we're having dinner. Wait, what? Did you say he brought

his kids to dinner with him? No way. On a date? No, he didn't bring them. There was four of them. Like, he had four kids. One was our busboy, a teenager,

and then one was our hostess. Wait, his kids work at Red Lobster? What? Oh, my God. He's getting daddy discounts at Red Lobster because his kids work there? I don't know what was going on, but seriously, like, I am not trying to get with anyone who has like a bunch of secret kids. Okay.

Wait, but they weren't secret if you knew who they were. He never mentioned anything about having kids. And all of a sudden we're at the, and they're all around us at dinner. Okay. All right, now. How awkward for this. Do you tip your own kid? I have questions.

No, you don't. Yeah, you do. Absolutely do not. My mom is always coming to my restaurant. We did not know about the kid aspect of this. We just heard about the date part. Wow. Although, on some level, it is flattering that he wanted you to meet the family so soon.

So I would keep that in mind when I tell you that Thomas is on the other line right now listening, possibly with all of his children, too. So be careful with what you say. Are you serious? No, seriously. Thomas, are you there? Do not have kids. Those aren't my kids. Wait, what? Are you lying now are you lying now no why would she think

you said literally those are my kids like you have said that to me i i said they're my kids but i didn't mean like my kids they're my students i i teach him at a high school. Oh! Hey, my kids, now I get it. How does one family have four kids that all work at Red Lobster together? And that's such a perfect high school job, too, right? Dude. Really? I don't know any of those. Really?

I find that funny. They look just like you. How is it? They must be young. You don't believe them? No, they're in my class. What do you mean they look like me? Tom, simply, the freaking busboy looked like you 25 years ago.

What are you talking about? I don't know what to tell you. That's the answer. I'm a teacher. Sorry, I wouldn't just casually introduce my son, the busboy, and not tell you ahead of time. Really? Really? What teacher goes around just claiming kids?

Like, seriously. Why are you thinking that's so weird? That makes total sense. I mean, he should have chose a restaurant they don't all work at, you'd think. That's true. I don't know. They're scattered throughout the city, either.

But he gets a discount. Come on, you met the man on a bus. He's taking you to Red Lobster. He obviously has a teacher's salary. I don't care. I was telling the truth. And honestly, now that you know, the fact that you still don't believe me

and you're accusing me of something that isn't true, I mean, it's bonkers. Yeah. I'm with Thomas on this one. I wasn't telling the truth because that wasn't a business call I was on the phone with. That was somebody else that I'm setting up a date with for tomorrow. Wait, what?

The business call? How would you say that? So wait, Thomas, you were telling the truth about the kids at the restaurant just being your students, but you weren't telling the truth about the phone call from your, quote, business partner? That's why he had to answer it. Makes sense. There's not a lot of gym teachers that are taking after-hour calls for emergencies. What's that?

We got a new tether ball in? I got to take this. A rope climbing accident? Oh, goodness. You know what? She can send pics of other guys to whoever she wants. That's fine. I'm just saying, I've got options, you know?

There's a lot of other girls on the bus. You tell a lot of other girls on the bus. You tell a lot of other girls on the bus. That's right. That's right. Does that make you want him more? Because if it does, we will offer to send you guys out on another date that we would pay for.

Hell to the no. I don't want to be 10 feet within the same space as you guys. That is such a dramatic response. You're going to have to get a new bus to a gym teacher. Both you and Jeff not allowed within 10 feet of a school. Yeah, my God.

You honestly sound more alike than not alike. You guys are literally responding and clapping back the same way at each other. I am nothing like him. I am not a liar. And yeah. No big loss to me. I'm going to go back to Red Lobster with my 28 kids. Wait, wait, now they are your kids?

No. Jeff, he's being sarcastic. Oh, he's better at that than me. And don't forget, one of those teenagers has to have a single mom. You know, I'm just saying. And you think I'm not working that angle? Of course I am. Red Lobster daddy back in the house.

Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning. Oh, you know, I'm really disappointed that those two didn't go out. Really? Are you, Jeff? Yeah. Not for, like, any romantic reasons, but if they loved Red Lobster, they would have been all about our restaurant gift card options. Oh, that's a good point.

That's a good point. These are made for these people. We got all the best chain restaurants from mall parking lots. We got Chili's. We got Olive Garden. And I've even got one to an abandoned Outback Steakhouse. Oh, but it's just not running anymore. There are guys still in there, and they are making steak. It's just not technically for the company.

I don't think we should get that one out. You have to bring your own steak first. Pretty much. Again, I'm disappointed. I just can't believe she didn't believe that those weren't his actual children. That was so weird. Like, are we that jaded in life that we can't even get over that? She saw them.

Like, they must have looked exactly alike. There's no way. She was adamant. There's no way. I don't know. It just wasn't meant to be today. But I guess we'll find out tomorrow who gets the next chance at a Chili's to go gift card with your second date update. And if you want to get a second date update for yourself in your own love life, email the show.

We can call that person who's not calling you back. Make sure you go check out all of our second day podcasts, wherever you get yours at Brooke and Jeffrey. Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning. We're so done with new year, new you. This year, it's more you on Bumble. More of you shamelessly sending playlists, especially that one filled with show tunes.

More of you finding Gemini's because you know you always like them. More of you dating with intention because you know what you want. And you know what? We love that for you. Someone else will too. Be more you this year and find them on Bumble. and more. Joined by the sharp voices of the show's correspondents and contributors. And with extended interviews and exclusive weekly headline roundups, this podcast

gives you content you won't find anywhere else. Ready to laugh and stay informed? Listen on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts. When I smoke weed, I get lost in the music. I like to isolate each instrument. The rhythmic bass, the harmonies on the piano, the sticky melody.

Hey, hey, hey, hey, hey. Careful, babe. There's someone crossing the street. Sorry, I didn't see him there. If you feel different, you, babe. There's someone crossing the street. Sorry, I didn't see him there. If you feel different, you drive different. Don't drive high. It's dangerous and illegal everywhere. A message from NHTSA and the Ad Council. Hey, you guys. I'm Catherine Legg. I'm a racing driver who's literally driven everything with four wheels across the planet.

And I've got a new podcast. It's called Throttle Therapy. This season, I'm competing in some of the world's most notorious racing events. Tune into my new podcast, Throttle Therapy, with Catherine Legg, an iHeart women's sports production in partnership with Deep Blue Sports and Entertainment. You can find us on the iHeart Radio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts.

Presented by Elf Beauty, founding partner of iHeart Women's Sports. I'm Dr. Laurie Santos, and to welcome the new year, my podcast, The Happiness Lab, is releasing a series of happiness how-to guides to help you in 2025. I'll distill the wisdom of world-class experts into easy-to-digest, actionable tips. Struggling with tough emotions? We have a how-to guide. Worried that you're not enough? We got you. Self-obsessed and want to get over yourself? There's a guide for that too. The Happiness Labs How-To Season starts January 1st.

Listen on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts, or wherever you get your podcasts.